#so should using underweight models

[catkin-morgs-kookaburralover]

can I just. shriek. over the way smoothies are marketed so strongly as for weight loss and how oh no we should not put one (1) gram of sugar in it because we MiGhT gEt FaT because I'm just. I'm here looking this stuff up as a way to trick my silly little brain into eating more. I do not need this to be any harder than it already is

[rikeijo]

Today's translation #499

Go Yuri Go!!!, Yuri!!! on ICE official fanbook, Ito Noriko interview, Prop Design

Comments about designs ④

>Katsudon

The most difficult prop to design. "Very meaty dish that makes you put on weight" was the order, so I prepared a draft and when I showed it, I've got a "it should stick out of the bowl more, make it more like 'a fatso's favourite food'!" comment. So I did, and then the next order was: "I want it to be a more erotic katsudon", so I was like "???"... After that, I've read the storyboards for episode 3., and at last, I understood what she meant (laugh).

>Makkachin tissue case

The important points of the design are the round butt and the standing tail. I don't know if it was the Director's idea or Kubo-san's idea, but the tissue case was there in the storyboards, so my job was to draw the setting materials for that case. I've heard that the idea came from the Pooh tissue case that Hanyu Yuzuru uses. The way this Makkachin tissue case was drawn by animators in each scene was very unstable (laugh), so I remember doing a lot of corrections to this tissue case specifically, in the episodes that I worked on.

>Skates

I was responsible for designing Victor's and Yurio's skates. Yuuri's skates were designed by a different person. Skates needs to be drawn in scenes with a lot of movement, so I made sure to draw them from a lot of different angles [in the setting materials], so it's possible to see how they are constructed. I asked Hiramatsu-san for some advice in regards to how much the design can be simplified to make it easier for the animators to draw, without it looking too unnatural. By the way, a real-life model exists for each combination of shoes and blades, and during a staff meeting, I've got a table that shows which character wears which shoes.

[Notes: About the 'fatso' comment - sometimes you see people getting offended that YoI is fatphobic, but it's just a cultural difference. Unsolicited comments about somebody's appearance are prolly rude in every culture, but in Jp, where being underweight is more common and more of a social problem (eg. pregnant women eating less than they should to stay healthy) than being overweight, it's very uncommon to hear about something being "fatphobic". Because of that, I'm sure the creators didn't even think twice about calling Yuuri "fatso" or "big fatso" or making it a running joke, that he likes to eat and puts on weigh in the off-season. Some western fans do have this sense of entitlement that everything should be adapted to their liking and worldview, like "if I find it personally offensive then it means it should be immediately corrected, because it's making me uncomfortable, how dare they...", but very often, it's really not malicious, or "-phobic" in any way - it's simply a refection of how in other cultures people may have different common sense.]

[voidsquidd]

So like obviously skinny being considered attractive has never went away completely, but can we not bring back being really skinny and underweight pls

I've seen so many ppl talking about how "curvy is out and skinny is in" and I just find that stupid for so many reasons

So for ppl who don't know, for the past few yrs ppl were saying curvy was in, like 'thunder thighs' and bigger chests, curvy women with more fat on them. But now ppl are saying skinny is back, stuff like herione cheque.

Point 1. You can't control preferences

Not everyone is going to be more attracted to the super skinny body type, but the fashion industry, influences, celebrities, etc say it's in so everyone suddenly starts panicking wanting to match it as if now someone's said it everyone is suddenly gonna find things like leggings legs more attractive, even if they previously didn't have that preference. Ppl act like someone saying "this is attractive now" is gonna change what everyone finds attractive and that's not true.

Not everyone is now gonna suddenly find super skinny, underweight, anorexic looking ppl more attractive, ppl will still have their own personal preferences and will find whatever they find attractive attractive. Just like how ppl who preferred ppl with thin legs didn't suddenly find thick thighs attractive, ppl who preferred thick thighs aren't gonna magically find skinny legs more attractive, it's entirely preference and that persons own taste. So stop acting like everyone's preference changes to match what's 'in' at the moment

Point 2. It's dangerous

Eating disorders like anorexia and bulimia are still a thing, and they were a thing even while ppl we're starting to be more body positive, and they're gonna be worse now that being skinny is more attractive (apparently). Like I'm starting to see ppl saying those models who always pass out on the runway and who aren't actually eating enough are the ideal body again, and that's just gonna make eds worse again. Most those models are eating like they have and Ed and a lot probably do, that's the only way to really get that skinny, so now ppl with eds are gonna get pushed more to get worse, becuz skinny is becoming a thing again and they're gonna be seeing less body positivity.

And ppl are all gonna start tryna diet and cut cals in dangerous amounts becuz they want that body type. Ppl who don't currently have eds are probably gonna be more likely to develope them if we move backwards and start normalizing that shit again. Those ppl aren't healthy, they're literally passing out for gods sake, saying looking like them is becoming the ideal again is dangerous and stupid.

Point 3. It's easier to make a trend now

Wtf is leggings legs too. It didn't exist like a few yrs ago it's just a new name for something that was heavily pressured onto women last time being skinny was popular, they're just using a different name to try and make it a trend. By giving it a easy name to call "thin legs with a thigh gap and no calf" they can make it a trend on the internet and make ppl post stuff about it, comparing their legs and talking about how they wish they had 'leggings legs'

Same with headphone waist, which is where u have to try and fit headphones around ur waist. These are just glamorized names for body checking. "See how skinny u are by doing this, if u don't have headphone waist then that sucks for u, u should try get it", its like how ppl with eds usually take pics in several poses to try and see if they're thin enough. It's like the shit ppl in China are doing, and that place has even stricter beauty standards so yk it's bad if we're copying them.

All these new names for things, names that are quick and easy to remember, like headphone waist (really skinny waist) , leggings leg (really skinny legs), double lip line (I genuinely have no clue what ppl are insecure about when they say this), good features bad facial harmony (u have the ideal features that are considered attractive, but u still need to be insecure of ur face and hate it anyway)

All these names for stuff just makes it easier to make a trend and then slyly promote it

[cerisestore]

I've got a problem...

💌 I've had a crush on this guy for a while and he used to be an absolute sweetheart. He moved overseas for a looooong time and recently moved back. We met again for the first time last weekend and idk what to think anymore. Here are a few things he did/ said:

🌷 he called me underweight because apparently I am too skinny (I am not according to my doctor I am a healthy weight)

🌷 he said that I would never make friends if I stayed the "little goth girl" (he has no idea what he is talking about because my style is acubi and goth is not just an fashion style + I fail to see the issue with being goth)

🌷 he said that there is nothing worse than kpop and that asians are weird (he said it was a joke afterwards but no it's just sugarcoated racism)

🌷 he called a random guy out for riding a "girl bike" and when I asked him what he meant by "girl bike" he said that his bike was too feminine. When I said that nothing rly has a gender attributed to it he went all "feminine guys are weird this and that" (btw the "girl bike" was just a bike with a basked smh 💀)

🌷 he doesn't want the same type of love as mine because he kept repeating that he couldn't wait to become an adult to have fun with girls in clubs

🌷he seems to only value girls by their beauty (himself being very unattractive)

🌷 and he said someone so utterly disgusting and concerning that it hurts me to realize these words came out of the mouth of my once role model: "it sucks to grow up because then you can't make love to children anymore" sir- WHAT??!

🌀plus he couldn't shut up about mf car engines like ain't that a red flag?? 💀

He wasn't rly mean or anything but his cocky personality, the smug look on his face, and his morals are so damn annoying like what happened to my childhood love?? 😭

It really sucks because when I first fell in love it was because of his rare and intriguing personality. (everyone who knows him would understand pretty quickly that I wasn't after his looks 💀) I just can't believe that the guy that made me so uncomfortable last sunday is the very same guy who made my eleven year old heart go boom shakalaka for the first time ever with his sweet words and kind personality.

🤨💭should I cut him off for good or should I give it some time? (I feel like cutting him off but you know how it's like...)

Or should I just wait for a respectful and kind guy who will not just be straight up aggressive like that? 😭🫶🏼

[fashionista-harper]

ORIGINAL CHARACTER         ⸻         WILLOW JADE HARPER !

 /   ❝   INTRODUCTION   ─    

NAME:         willow jade harper

⸻ WILLOW.         the name is of old english origin and means "willow tree". this name was picked cause her parents used to sit under a old willow tree on her father's farm as teenagers and talk about their future together. 

         • °. ─ PRONOUNCIATION /         wi-low

⸻ JADE.         the name is of english origin and means "precious stone". this name was picked because she was born in march. jade is the birthstone of march. 

        • °. ─ PRONOUNCIATION /         jayd

⸻ HARPER.         tthe name is of european origin and means "harp player. " this is her father's last name. 

        • °. ─ PRONOUNCIATION /         haa-puh

NICKNAMES:

⸻ WILLA.        a play off of her name. this is used by close friends and her love interest. 

⸻ WILLOW-TREE.        this nickname comes from her parents because of their love of the old willow tree they used to sit under talking about their future. 

DATE OF BIRTH:       march 30th ( twenty four )

STAR SIGN:       aires

GENDER:        female ( she / her ) 

SEXUALITY:         pansexual

BIRTHPLACE:         macon, georgia, united states of america

LANGUAGES:         english & italian

( while her parents are both american, she learned italian in school )

 /   ❝   PERSONA !   ─    

PERSONALITY:         

⸻ willow is a complex person that a lot of people struggle to understand. she has a gentle approach to life. she wants to be as kind and sweet as she can, someone that others can be comfortable around but she tends to be a bit too harsh about it at times. she is impatient, someone who has all these thoughts, wishes and ideals of how her life should go and when it doesn't happen, she freaks out. she's eager to get to the stage of her life where everything is perfect and hates that things like that take time. she has the mindset of "i need to get this done - and i dont care who i hurt to get there" which can come across as cold hearted. she gets easily bored, someone who leaves a hobby half done as she got bored. while she does that with her hobbies ( like knitting or painting ) the same cannot be said about her professional life. she is someone who is hardworking and will wear herself to the bone if it means getting what needs to be done, done. while she aims for a big city dream - she was raised in the country and so she's reluctant to not show her effort in things as she displays those good old southern values. she is very observant to the extent of noticing things that might end up being the reason she gets killed one day. 

MYERS BRIGGS:          isfj - the defender

⸻ STRENGTHS.        supportive, reliable, observant, enthusiastic, hardworking, good practical skills

⸻ WEAKNESSES.        overly humble, takes things personally, repressing their feelings, reluctant to change, too altruistic

LIKES:         fashion. horses. dancing. jewelry. flirting, pushing her limits, red flags in her men. 

DISLIKES:        therapy, when people order food for her, loud booming music, watching tv without the subtitles. 

HABITS:        biting the inside of her cheek when she's angry as a way to hold her tongue. fiddling with her jewelry. 

FEARS:        living a boring life. flying. 

ALLERGIES:        none

MENTAL HEALTH:        she suffers from an eating disorder that she's getting help to recover from. 

PHYSICAL HEALTH:        she is underweight. 

OCCUPATION/CAREER:        she works part time in a fashion boutique while majoring in fashion design. she hopes to one day be a designer and a model for her own personal clothing line - but she knows if all else fails she can just take over her daddy's farm. 

 /   ❝   VISAGE   ─    

APPEARANCE:         willow has medium brown hair that tends to fall down flat around her shoulders. she has green eyes that reflect off the sun beautifully. the woman has been blessed with a petite body and height that inspires her towards her dreams of being a designer and model one day. she just needs to work her way through college. she is considered very beautiful and she knows it. her skin is considered caucasian but she does tend to tan very easily. 

        • °. ─ FACECLAIM / taylor hill

        • °. ─ HEIGHT&WEIGHT / five foot eight inches & fifty-five kilos

MODE OF DRESS:         willow tends to stick to a rather sweet looking aesthetic going for the sweaters, jeans, sundresses, cut off shorts kind of look. she tends to look well put together. thought she does prefer sundresses over wearing jeans. 

BODY MODIFICATIONS:         she has her ears pierced but no tattoos. 

GENERAL SCENT:         willow tends to smell like roses, vanilla and honey.

/   ❝   RELATIONS   ─   

FAMILY:         

⸻ MICHAEL HARPER.        father; the relationship between willow and her father has always been a good one. while he was a bit disappointed that he never got a son to take over the farm when he passes, he always doted on willow and spoiled her with whatever she could want. she is a daddy's little princess, and this shows with how she's still spoiled. 

⸻ EDEN HARPER.        mother; the relationship between willow and her mother is good, her mother has always encouraged her to do whatever it was that she wanted to do in life. willow and her mother talk nearly every day even if it's just a quick phone call at the end of the night, she was very anxious about letting willow leave their hometown but trusts her to make the right choices. 

EXTENDED FAMILY:         

⸻ SARAH HARPER & ANDREW HARPER.     aunt & uncle; her uncle on her father's side and his wife. willow and her aunt got along amazingly though her uncle always thought she was a bit of a brat and constantly told his brother that he spoiled her far too much. 

⸻ SLOANE HARPER.     cousin; her oldest cousin and her dont really get along. 

⸻ AXEL HARPER.     cousin; axel and willow get along alright but dont go out of their way to hang out. 

⸻ COOPER HARPER.     cousin; cooper and willow are really close and constantly chat here and there. 

⸻ CALVIN HARPER.     cousin; the two of them were somewhat close, his death rocked her. 

⸻ SADIE HARPER.     cousin; sadie and willow have a complicated relationship cause they get along but they argue a lot as well. being the only two granddaughters, they always got compared to each other and it caused some issues. 

⸻ TALLULAH HARPER.     cousin; talulah and willow have never gotten along

⸻ MADISON & JAMES HARPER.     aunt & uncle; her uncle on her father's side and his wife. she doesn't really remember them all that much. 

PETS:         

⸻ DOTTIE.     lusitano ; dottie is willow's horse. they have a close bond and willow always makes sure to come home as often as she can to see her. 

 /   ❝   BIOGRAPHY   ─ trigger warnings : stalking, toxic relationships

HOW THEIR PARENTS MET AND THE LEAD UP TO THEIR BIRTH:         

⸻ michael and eden had met in middle school, just two country kids young and in love. the two of them married right out of high school and planned to head to college but before they could, eden fell pregnant with willow. nether of them planned to have a kid so quickly but they went with it. they hoped for a son and there was a bit of disappointment when she was a girl but they loved her anyway. 

THEIR LIFE SO FAR:         

⸻  willow was a only child as nether of her parents wanted more than one child. besides willow was always a bit of a handful to raise. which was partly their own fault as they spoiled her to a level where even her uncle disliked having her around. willow has always had a interest in makeup and fashion. though her parents were hoping that she might grow to love the farm and take it over one day, they always encouraged her to do whatever made her happy. when she was sixteen she would date a guy who was sweet at first but over time became more and more controlling. she would end up moving away as soon as she was eighteen in hopes of getting away from him for a fresh start but he would end up following her and stalking her. at first it scared her but she ended up enjoying the fact that someone wanted her so much that he was willing to go to such crazy lengths. though after awhile it did become too much and she moved around some more before settling down and focusing on her schooling. 

/   ❝   MISC   ─    

EXTRA INFORMATION:         

⸻ ONE.      she knows how to play the drums. 

⸻ TWO.       she is a stealer of hoodies. 

 ⸻ THREE.       she has modelled for some of her friends with their designs. 

PLAYLIST:         

⸻ "fly" by maddie and tae.  

 " running down her dreams in a dirty dress"

⸻ "maroon" by taylor swift.      

 " i wake with your memory over me, that's a real fucking lgacy" 

⸻ "she;s so mean" by matchbox twenty.     

 " every now and then she makes you just a little bit crazy"

[bryophytas]

gonna make my first real post a vent post.

my partner (not boyfriend- partners bc we're both bi and to us, "partner" signifies equality in the relationship) means well, i know he does, but it fucking frustrates me that he makes food in front of me and tries to get me to eat. he's one of the only two people i have EVER told i have an ED (the other being this trans guy i'll call T, who is coincidentally the only other person i've loved) and he's trying so so hard to help me recover and a part of me just dies inside because he's so earnest but like. i think i'm kinda a lost cause at this point? and this leads into problem #2

he doesn't think i'm that sick. he's partially right- i mean, i've never been healthy. even at my healthiest i had a BMI of around 18. i was still underweight. but because one of his exes (that he just started talking to again, btw!!) had a BMI of 14 he doesn't think i'm as serious. i don't want him to fix me. i don't even know if i want to fix myself.

all i ever wanted was to be beautiful. i'm the third generation in a modelling family, though my grandma eventually got too old for it and my mom ended up quitting to go to grad school. i modelled as a young child (~7 yrs) and while i know the industry is fucked, i miss it so much. i miss being a part of that world. i was really close to this former model last year, and the year before that i was dating one. i think i really let myself go because i lived in a big city where people really got scouted often. i may be on the shorter side, but my mom is my height and her mom was even shorter, and they both were pretty successful. guess i just didn't win the genetic lottery, but that's nothing that can't be fixed. this leads me to problem #4

he wants to fucking fix me. he fed me fajitas he cooked himself and made this face when i couldn't finish eating it because why the fuck would i want to do that, and i just wanted to die on the spot. i started shaking and he held me. i'm only 106lbs. i can be so much better than that.

i want to be good, but the only people i know in this city well enough are my best friend (recovered anorexic, which, good for her, but i can't exactly tell her about this stuff) and him. it's like i can't fucking breathe. everything is food food food, and i'm simultaneously too skinny for my partner to treat me as healthy, and too normal to be treated with the same concern he gave his ex. basically, until i lose more, i'm fucked.

does this motivate me? not exactly. but i do genuinely think i'm catching a cold a friend of a friend had, so that should give me an excuse not to eat tomorrow.

[risetomastery]

Embracing your body embracing health a new perspective

Introduction: The pressure to conform to ideal body weight Understanding insurance tables and their limitations The flaws in using BMI as a measure of health The importance of individualized health assessments A holistic approach to health beyond weight loss Debunking the myth of the "perfect" body weight The dangers of obsession with weight and body image Embracing body positivity and self-acceptance Promoting healthy habits and lifestyle choices Conclusion: Redefining health and focusing on overall well-being For years, people have been obsessed with the idea of the "ideal" body weight. Insurance companies use weight as a marker for health, but what if we told you that these tables are not an accurate reflection of individual health? The truth is, there is no one-size-fits-all approach to health, and no perfect weight that will guarantee good health. In fact, focusing too much on weight can lead to unhealthy behaviors and even eating disorders. In this blog post, we will explore the myth of the ideal body weight and instead focus on individual health. We'll provide you with tips on how to achieve a healthy lifestyle regardless of your weight, and why it's important to embrace your unique body and its needs. So, let's debunk the myth of the ideal body weight and start focusing on the bigger picture: individual health and wellness.

Introduction: The pressure to conform to ideal body weight

In today's society, there is an overwhelming pressure to conform to the "ideal" body weight as defined by insurance tables and societal norms. We are bombarded with images of airbrushed models with slim figures, and we are constantly reminded of the health risks associated with being overweight or underweight. As a result, many individuals feel an immense pressure to achieve and maintain a specific number on the scale, often at the expense of their mental and physical well-being. But here's the truth: the concept of the "ideal" body weight is a myth. It is a one-size-fits-all approach that fails to take into account the vast individual differences in body composition, genetics, and overall health. Each person's body is unique, and what may be considered a healthy weight for one individual may not be the same for another. Furthermore, placing too much emphasis on achieving a specific number on the scale can lead to unhealthy behaviors such as restrictive dieting, over-exercising, and the development of disordered eating patterns. These behaviors can have long-lasting detrimental effects on both physical and mental health. Instead of obsessing over the ideal body weight, we should shift our focus towards embracing individual health. This means adopting a holistic approach that takes into consideration factors such as overall body composition, muscle mass, bone density, and lifestyle habits. It means prioritizing nourishing our bodies with wholesome foods, engaging in regular physical activity that we enjoy, and cultivating a positive body image. It's time to debunk the myth of the ideal body weight and embrace the concept of individual health. Let go of the societal pressures and expectations, and instead, focus on nourishing and caring for your body in a way that feels right for you. Remember, you are more than just a number on the scale - you are a unique individual with inherent worth and value.

Understanding insurance tables and their limitations

Insurance tables have long been used as a way to determine an individual's ideal body weight based on their height and age. These tables have been widely accepted as a standard for assessing health and determining insurance premiums. However, it is important to understand that these tables have their limitations and may not accurately reflect an individual's true health or overall well-being. One of the main limitations of insurance tables is that they solely rely on the measurement of body weight without taking into account other factors that contribute to an individual's health. Health is a complex concept that involves various aspects such as body composition, muscle mass, bone density, and overall fitness level. Merely focusing on weight can be misleading and fail to provide a comprehensive understanding of an individual's health status. Moreover, insurance tables often generalize the population into broad categories, disregarding the diverse nature of individuals. People come in different shapes and sizes, and what may be considered as an ideal body weight for one person may not necessarily be suitable or healthy for another. It is crucial to recognize and embrace the uniqueness of each individual's body and prioritize overall health rather than conforming to an arbitrary weight standard. Additionally, it is worth noting that these tables were developed based on outdated data and may not reflect current understanding of health and wellness. The medical field has evolved significantly, and the focus has shifted towards a more holistic approach that considers various health indicators and promotes overall well-being rather than solely relying on weight as a determinant of health. In conclusion, while insurance tables may provide a starting point for assessing health, it is important to understand their limitations and not solely rely on them as a measure of an individual's well-being. Embracing individual health means recognizing that health is multifaceted and cannot be reduced to a number on a scale. Instead, a comprehensive approach that considers various factors such as body composition, fitness level, and overall well-being should be embraced to promote a healthier and more inclusive understanding of what it means to be healthy.

The flaws in using BMI as a measure of health

Using BMI as a measure of health has long been the standard practice in insurance tables and healthcare settings. BMI, or Body Mass Index, is calculated by dividing a person's weight in kilograms by their height in meters squared. Based on this calculation, individuals are categorized into different weight ranges such as underweight, normal weight, overweight, or obese. However, relying solely on BMI to determine health can be misleading and flawed. One of the main issues with BMI is that it does not take into account factors such as muscle mass, bone density, and overall body composition. This means that individuals with a higher muscle mass, such as athletes or bodybuilders, may be classified as overweight or even obese according to BMI, despite having a low body fat percentage and being in excellent physical condition. Additionally, BMI fails to consider other important indicators of health, such as blood pressure, cholesterol levels, blood sugar levels, and overall fitness level. It is possible for someone with a "normal" BMI to have poor cardiovascular health or other underlying health issues. Furthermore, BMI does not account for the differences in body shapes and sizes among individuals. People come in all shapes and sizes, and what may be considered a healthy weight for one person may not be the same for another. It is essential to recognize that health is not solely determined by a number on a scale or a calculation based on height and weight. Instead of solely relying on BMI, it is crucial to shift our focus towards a more holistic approach to health. This includes considering factors such as overall fitness, body composition, and individual health markers. Embracing individual health means recognizing that each person's journey towards optimal well-being is unique and cannot be solely determined by a one-size-fits-all approach. In conclusion, the use of BMI as a measure of health has its flaws and limitations. It is important to debunk the myth of the ideal body weight and instead embrace a more comprehensive understanding of individual health. By shifting our focus towards holistic well-being and considering various factors beyond BMI, we can promote a more inclusive and accurate approach to assessing health.

The importance of individualized health assessments

When it comes to assessing health, there is a common misconception that the ideal body weight is a one-size-fits-all number. Many insurance companies and healthcare providers rely on standardized tables and formulas to determine what a person's weight should be based on their height. However, this approach fails to take into account the unique factors that contribute to an individual's overall health. Individualized health assessments are crucial in debunking the myth of the ideal body weight. These assessments consider various factors such as body composition, muscle mass, bone density, and overall physical fitness. They look beyond the number on the scale and focus on the holistic well-being of the individual. It is important to recognize that health is not solely determined by weight. A person may fall within the "ideal" weight range according to insurance tables, but still have poor cardiovascular health, low muscle mass, or other underlying health issues. Similarly, someone who may be considered "overweight" or "obese" by these standards could have excellent cardiovascular fitness and overall health. By embracing individualized health assessments, we shift the focus from a narrow definition of weight to a more comprehensive understanding of what it means to be healthy. These assessments allow healthcare professionals to tailor recommendations and interventions to each individual's unique needs, promoting overall well-being and reducing the risk of developing chronic diseases. Furthermore, individualized health assessments empower individuals to take ownership of their own health. Instead of striving to fit into a predetermined weight category, they can work towards achieving their personal health goals and improving their overall quality of life. This approach fosters a positive and inclusive mindset, promoting body positivity and self-acceptance. In conclusion, the importance of individualized health assessments cannot be overstated. By debunking the myth of the ideal body weight and embracing a holistic approach to health, we can shift towards a more inclusive and empowering perspective. Let us prioritize individual well-being over arbitrary standards, and promote a society that values and supports the diverse ways in which people can be healthy.

A holistic approach to health beyond weight loss

When it comes to assessing health, it's crucial to move beyond the traditional focus on weight alone. While weight can be an indicator of health, it is not the sole determining factor. A holistic approach to health takes into account various aspects of well-being, including mental, emotional, and physical factors. In recent years, there has been a growing understanding that health is not solely determined by the number on the scale. People come in all shapes and sizes, and what is considered "ideal" for one person may not be the same for another. Body diversity is something to be celebrated, as it reflects the uniqueness of each individual. Focusing solely on weight can lead to a narrow perspective on health and may contribute to body dissatisfaction and disordered eating patterns. It is important to shift the narrative towards promoting overall well-being and self-acceptance, irrespective of one's body size. A holistic approach to health involves looking at various factors, such as nutrition, physical activity, mental and emotional well-being, sleep patterns, and stress management. By considering these elements, we can develop a more comprehensive understanding of what it means to be healthy. Embracing individual health means recognizing that each person has different needs, preferences, and abilities. It encourages us to listen to our bodies and prioritize self-care practices that work for us personally. It's about finding a balance that promotes overall well-being and allows us to thrive in our own unique way. By shifting our focus from weight-centric measurements to a more holistic approach, we can empower individuals to make informed choices that support their well-being. Let's debunk the myth of the ideal body weight and embrace a more inclusive and compassionate understanding of health.

Debunking the myth of the "perfect" body weight

In today's society, there seems to be an obsession with achieving the so-called "perfect" body weight. We are bombarded with images of models and celebrities who appear to have the ideal figure, leading many of us to believe that there is a one-size-fits-all standard for what constitutes a healthy body weight. However, the truth is that the concept of an ideal body weight is a myth. It is a construct created by insurance companies and popular culture that fails to take into account the complexities of individual health. The idea that there is a specific number on a scale that everyone should strive for is not only unrealistic, but it can also be harmful to our mental and physical well-being. Insurance tables, which often dictate what is considered a healthy weight, are based on outdated and generalized data. They fail to consider factors such as muscle mass, bone density, and overall body composition. Additionally, these tables do not take into account variations in genetics, metabolism, and lifestyle factors that can greatly influence a person's weight. Embracing the concept of individual health means shifting our focus away from arbitrary numbers on a scale and instead focusing on overall well-being. It means recognizing that health is not solely determined by body weight, but rather by factors such as blood pressure, cholesterol levels, blood sugar levels, and overall physical fitness. Instead of striving for an unattainable ideal, we should focus on adopting healthy habits that promote overall wellness. This includes engaging in regular physical activity, eating a balanced and nutritious diet, managing stress levels, and getting enough sleep. By prioritizing these aspects of our health, we can achieve a state of well-being that is unique to our individual bodies and needs. It is time to debunk the myth of the "perfect" body weight and embrace the concept of individual health. Let us shift our focus away from societal expectations and instead prioritize our own well-being. Remember, you are more than just a number on a scale – you are a complex and unique individual deserving of love, acceptance, and self-care.

The dangers of obsession with weight and body image

In a society where the media bombards us with images of what the "perfect" body should look like, it's no wonder that many individuals develop an unhealthy obsession with weight and body image. We are constantly reminded of the so-called ideal body weight through insurance tables, which categorize individuals based solely on their height and weight. However, it's important to debunk this myth and shift our focus towards embracing individual health instead. The dangers of obsessing over weight and body image are numerous and can have detrimental effects on both our physical and mental well-being. Constantly striving to achieve an unrealistic body weight can lead to extreme dieting, disordered eating patterns, and even eating disorders such as anorexia or bulimia. These conditions not only pose serious health risks but also take a toll on our self-esteem and overall happiness. Moreover, the concept of the ideal body weight fails to take into account the diversity of body types and genetic variations that exist among individuals. Each person is unique, with different bone structures, muscle mass, and body compositions. Therefore, relying solely on weight as a measure of health is flawed and can lead to misdiagnosis or an inaccurate assessment of one's overall well-being. Instead of fixating on a number on the scale, it's crucial to shift our focus towards adopting healthy habits and embracing a holistic approach to wellness. This means nourishing our bodies with nutritious foods, engaging in regular physical activity that we enjoy, and prioritizing self-care and mental well-being. True health should not be determined by a number but rather by how we feel in our bodies and the overall balance we achieve in our lives. Let's break free from the societal pressures and myths surrounding the ideal body weight. Let's celebrate our bodies for their strength, resilience, and uniqueness. By embracing individual health and prioritizing self-love and acceptance, we can create a positive and empowering relationship with our bodies that transcends societal norms and fosters a healthier and happier life.

Embracing body positivity and self-acceptance

In a world that constantly bombards us with images of the "ideal" body, it's important to take a step back and embrace body positivity and self-acceptance. The notion of an "ideal" body weight has long been perpetuated by insurance tables and societal norms, but it's time to debunk this myth and focus on individual health instead. Body positivity is about celebrating and accepting all body types, shapes, and sizes. It's about recognizing that every body is unique and beautiful in its own way. When we embrace body positivity, we let go of the unrealistic expectations and judgments that society places on us. We no longer strive for a specific number on the scale or a particular clothing size. Instead, we focus on nourishing our bodies, taking care of our overall well-being, and embracing the strength and beauty that comes with being ourselves. Self-acceptance is an essential aspect of body positivity. It involves acknowledging and loving our bodies as they are, regardless of societal standards or external influences. It's about embracing our flaws and imperfections, understanding that they do not define our worth or beauty. When we practice self-acceptance, we cultivate a positive relationship with our bodies, which can lead to improved mental and emotional well-being. Read the full article

[bilyana-bang]

Got rejected by the Vogue Open Casting. This is my last straw with Vogue and the modelling "industry". I swear all their articles are random gossiping about who's divorcing and why ( I can't tell you how unprofessional and trashy it is to comment on people's personal lives whilst acting like you are a high end magazine. ) or random blogs about chasing the next trend ( So you're telling me the Vogue community are trend and clout chasers, got it 👍🏻 ).

I could literally start a better magazine (@modemag) infact this was the last straw that pushed me into this idea of creating one that is more focused on actual beautiful models, great visuals and finding real supermodels ( no height, weight or face structure restrictions ). Unlike the current modelling "industry" of just using nepo babies, models that think having height and cheekbones make them enough to call themselves a supermodel, androgenous looking people and even ugly ones .... and daring to call them models. And they are shocked when the general public thinks models are dumb, when they themselves do not realise that what they do is unskilled labour. Oh and it makes SO much sense that there is no upper height restriction , so the 6'2 girls will be cast for a runway but the 5'4 girls won't be, when the average woman is 5'4. Once again, they don't realise how culturally irrelevant they are as an industry. Oh and they love to think that they are selling clothes on those Runway Girls, but all they are actually selling is Starvation, Infertility and Women who have Prepubescent Male Bodies. That is not what anyone normal stands for. Not only that ... but it is a very well known fact that no one would buy anything from those Runways, therefore it's a waste of time, because those Runways are so often, Creatives don't have enough time to think creatively, they just have to put anything out. And we can tell..... Therefore their version of this industry is OUT.

There is no reason an industry should be affecting peoples' personal lives this much. For example, this whole idea of having to be over 6'0 for a guy is insane to me. We don't get upset if we don't meet any other industry requirement, so why do we get upset if we don't meet the modelling one. No one in the general public cries if they are not a great poet, or a great mathematician, yet people cry if they aren't 6'0. The average heights for men are 5'7, 5'8, 5'9 and 5'10. These are the ideal standards of height for men. The most famous male sex symbol, the most famous masculine symbol ...

Marlon Brando. Guess how tall he was? 5'8.

You put him in a room with all the 6'2 men and guess who the women .. and men will flock to.... the 5'8 man.

Just like how 5'10 is abnormal for a girl to be, it's not normal for a guy to be 6'0. I propose that we introduce the idea of identifying as either Normal Heighted vs Not, instead of the silly idea of how many Feet and Inches you are as a guy, because the differences seem so large between them, when in reality we're taking about 5/10cm differences, which is the length of half your forefinger and the full length of your forefinger. That's too embarrassing to be comparing men based on such small differences. For this reason I think being regarded as Normal Height or Not is much simpler and easier.

Oh and I also love that the modelling "industry" uses people for a couple of years and bins them, and requires women to look like pre-pubescent boys by being underweight. I'm yet to see a model that has enough energy to talk, in those Vogue Model Videos on YouTube... Vogue's iconic for having bad covers, boring models with no personality and even repulsive personalities on their socials, terrible fashion styling, TERRIBLE photos with hilarious funky 2010s "posing" with bland facial expressions and clout chasing the current "celebrities" and actors ( that aren't even movie stars but think they are one 🤣🤣 ) to put on their cover like some social climber so they stay relevant, and write boring lonely woman blogs they like to disguise as "articles" .

Some of the recent blogs I've just come across on Vogue ...

" Looks like chipped nails are now trending."

" Why hydrating serums are the ultimate skincare."

" 5 trending hairstyles."

" I dry body brush everyday. "

" What are the best colognes for men. "

.....crickets...... this sounds like if AI had to come up with generic article titles 🤣 I love the enthusiam Vogue editors have about "Unconventional Weddings in the Belgian Countryside" and "4 alternatives to Aperol Spritz" but they're not the central cultural megahouse they think they are. Infact, I urge people to go on Vogue.com, and go on the left hand menu and click on all the topics and look at the titles of all the articles and pretend these aren't written for Vogue. Instantly you'll notice how much of a niche magazine this actually is. You might as well be reading an unknown magazine that can't get its feet on the ground, with 3 readers.

And then it dawns on you... Vogue really is the high-end-escort sister of TMZ. Somehow got themselves next to all the rich people, no substance and conversation or actual credibility of being next to them, constantly chasing where the next rich client will come from. At least TMZ knows it's trashy 🤣 but the high end escort disguises its trashiness well... by wearing expensive clothes, surrounding themselves with the rich and famous and using a fancy font.

Never in my life have I thought Vogue was worth buying nor culturally relevant, the name itself is so terribly cheap and dated.... and the craziest and most embarrassing part of it all. The most powerful person in the fashion industry, can't dress. Big, thick & ugly dark sunglasses 🕶 with every outfit, wearing them inside and whilst talking to people.... Groundbreaking.

I like Anna Wintour as a business person... but what does she know about fashion? 🤣

Huge unflatteringly-colour-combined necklaces that look like cheap plastic that always mismatch the print of the clothes. I can't. Guys. I can't. This can't be the person representing fashion.

Why is this BTEC production of a magazine acting all mighty? Vogue is a monthly magazine of articles that have the same value of TikToks you scroll past and models you wouldn't turn twice to look at.

I know a sinking ship when I see one.

It's time for you to go . . .

#VoguesGoneRogue #VogueIsOut

[stillfruit]

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[slavicafire]

You mentioned in your Silesian fashion post that 'fat meant being well taken care of' and it really made me think of how they see the opposite as true in the Western world, with thinness being seen as optimal health.

As someone who grew up rather malnourished and underweight I've had several people tell me that I should be a model because I was 'lovely and thin' as well as commenting on how I must be healthy and active due to my figure. This was at a time period in my life where I basically spent full on weeks dizzy and nauseous due to lack of food, as well as being near unable to do physical exercise due to that.

Now I actually have proper access to food and I've gained a lot of weight which has led to people calling me fat and saying it will give me health problems despite this being the healthiest and happiest I've ever been.

And now and then I look in the mirror, see the chub and think to myself how much better things are for me. Because, like you said, fat=being well taken care of.

Anyhoo, thank you for your brand of body positivity, it really means a lot to me <3

oh how true, how true! we think very much alike, you and I.

I'm the fattest I've ever been and I also have the best and healthiest relationship with my body and with food in general that I ever had - I'm healthier, happier, fitter, and a lot stronger. I feel good and I look good and I eat good.

and a hearty and honest fuck off to all those people who'd rather see me starved and dehydrated and caffeinated (or worse) just because these tired, unhealthy and unhappy bodies are their twisted and ridiculous idea of good.

my body is good and it makes me happy, and it's much healthier - both physically and mentally - than the fake conventional mould they'd like us to obsessively try to fit into.

thank you for your message and I'm sending so much love your way!

[caffeinated-chaos-bean]

So, we're heading back to the 90s. The good ol' days where we didn't seem to care how we dressed so long as it was comfortable, donning styles that truly depicted our personalities.

Her close up makes it seem like she's cosplaying as Matt from Death Note and that was totally unintentional, lol.

The  90s Aesthetic theme is what took the lead in my recent poll, so here we are! Now, the theme wasn't going to be 90s anime style. It's 90s fashion. Specifically the casual but still stylish fashion I saw growing up. I was born in '98, but I grew up dressing like this. I stayed in 90s fashion up until probably 2010, really. The nice baggy jeans (any jeans were baggy, I was underweight), the shirts with sewn-in long sleeves, the chunky sneakers... I really miss those days lmao.

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[whatifyoulivelikethat]

insightful notes about body insecurity from a reader :) another perspective is always nice to have

I just want to thank you for replying to messages about body insecurity and topics like that in such a nuanced and thoughtful manner.

I read them a lot of times to remind myself, and sometimes it's easier to engrave in my mind if the words are from someone else (I feel so tired of reminding myself). I remember an instance where I got sucked into comparing my bodies with models and idols, and it just leaves me feeling bad. My parents always compared me to my sister (she was 7 years older) and how different our bodies looked even when I was barely going through puberty at that age. I've always been told how pretty the hourglass figure is, and that's what my sister had, and I've always wanted to have that as well but I just... Don't. I've had times where I'm underweight and normal, and my body goes through a rapid back and forth, and I just feel so done with it. I don't care if I have flat ass, or little boobs, or if my waist hip ratio isn't good enough. When has my body became something to be measured and calculated only for it to end to be wrong just cause it doesn't fit the mold?

No one's beauty and confidence takes away my own, and if beautiful doesn't work, bodies can be just left to being bodies. Sometimes, it's okay to not feel super great and it's wonderful to feel confident but we can't always maintain that. The best thing, fo me at least, is too keep in a mindset that nothing takes away my responsibility to properly care for my body and that I owe it to myself to not hate it. This entity that I move and live in isn't meant to be used by companies to turn me against it, much more to make me think I'm any less worth. I love it when people are confident and much more when they're working towards that. I feel so much better when I reread some stuff here, and even though I'm still awed by how you've described you look (maybe envious) I'm happy that my body is strong enough. And in a pandemic! Plus, I've put it way more effort to get fit so I'll be stronger and it's quite fulfilling. It took a while but I'm glad I arrived.

Thank you.

I enjoyed reading this a lot. I'm glad you've come to a more balanced mindset of how you look at your body and recognize that it is something that needs to be maintained on a consistent basis rather than an "end goal" or "finish line". Maintaining it is hard. It's unrealistic to think that you can always be a positive, confident person, but it is important to know that the difficult times are not permanent.

You've worked hard. :)

I wouldn't say I'm strong... XD I should probably definitely work out (in a non-sexual manner). I do recognize that because I have a certain body type, I go through different things than people who have body types that are different to my own. But personally, to me, bodies are bodies. There is so much variation that it seems strange to compare. Not only that, but nature is complex and unpredictable in many ways. Gene expression is different for everyone because so many factors are involved. No, what I look for in people is who they are, who they have chosen to become, and who they want to be. Diversity should be appreciated. Why should everyone be the same? That would be very boring.

There was a time where I very much disliked by body. I looked very different due to the circumstances I was in and my mental state. I was in a state of constant emotional pain, and it showed. Even when I was a more healthy body weight, I wouldn't talk about my body in a positive light. I wasn't used to it. I had to learn that it was okay to like my body, to celebrate it, to praise it. I know I am not to everyone's taste. I like the way I look. I like saying I do. And I think everyone should be able to say that they do. It would be great if it could happen quickly and easily, but I know it is not so simple. I hope everyone who struggles with this can give themselves some grace.

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”Comparison is the thief of joy.” – Theodore Roosevelt

[csnews]

Museum exhibit showcases wonder, challenges facing orcas

Darron Kloster - March 28, 2021

He was known as Ruffles and numbered J1. The big male orca, named for his tall jagged dorsal fin, was one of the first southern resident killer whales identified by scientists in J-Pod in the 1970s. The nine-metre J1 lived a full life, fathering at least 16 calves in all three southern resident pods — J, K and L. Twelve of them are still alive and his legacy continues with 12 grandchildren and one great-grandchild.

Ruffles was estimated to be 60 when he disappeared in 2010 and was presumed dead. But the mighty orca lives on. He’s one of three life-size replicas going on display at the Royal British Columbia Museum’s feature exhibition Orcas: Our Shared Future, which opens April 16 and runs to January 2022.

The event was cancelled last year due to pandemic restrictions, but is back on track during a critical time for the beloved but struggling marine mammals. Southern resident orcas now number 75 after three births over the past six months, but their struggle for food, chiefly chinook salmon, continues.

Gavin Hanke, curator for vertebrate zoology at the Royal B.C. Museum and one of the chief scientists behind the exhibit, said people have developed a kinship with the resident orcas, as the various family groups navigate an increasingly complex world of food supply, pollution, toxins and marine traffic that interfere with communication in their traditional areas.

“People love wolves and grizzly bears, too, and the Biggs [transient] orcas, but they are not coded, named and recognized as individuals,” Hanke said. “The residents are like people. They have names, families, history and that’s what’s so great to see. These are highly intelligent animals and we should appreciate them.”

The three replica orcas also include Slick, or J16, at 49 the oldest female in J-Pod who is still swimming the Salish Sea, and her daughter, Scarlett, or J-50. Scarlett, who died in 2018, made international headlines when the three-year-old was discovered severely underweight. Scientists from Canada and the U.S. tried to feed her salmon and administered antibiotic darts, attempting a capture to provide medical assistance.

Hanke said the replica models were created using years of photographs and measurements taken from drone video. The exhibit also contains the skeletal remains of J-32, or Rhapsody, an 18-year-old pregnant juvenile found dead near Comox in 2014.

Necropsy results indicated Rhapsody died from an infection linked to her near-term fetus. Her body was filled with toxic contaminants often found stored in orcas’ and whales’ blubber, said Hanke.

“The organs, blubber and muscle had to be disposed of in the landfill, in the toxic-waste section, because of the contaminants in her body,” said Hanke.

Rhapsody’s story and skeletal remains — as well as those of her fetus — will be a centrepiece of the museum’s display and bring attention to the plight of the southern residents, said Hanke.

“Her story personally changed me,” said Hanke. “She was eating salmon for 18 years with toxic waste. I gave up fishing, try to grow most of my own food. We drive an electric car now.”

Fewer boats on the water during the pandemic have likely helped the orcas, improving echolocation techniques in finding food. For orcas, heavy boat and freighter traffic is like “being in a pub that’s super noisy. You almost have to yell to be heard,” said Hanke.

He said many whale-watching companies are being responsible and keeping their distance. There are also boaters who are converting to electric motors, and whale-watching land observation posts are being developed.

“A partner in the exhibition, Eagle Wing Tours, often takes people out to view the transient orcas, as opposed to the southern residents,” said Hanke.

The museum’s exhibition is taking a deep dive into the stories and science that surround the apex predator of the oceans. Visitors can explore ecological activism, popular culture and Indigenous beliefs to gain a deeper understanding of how orcas and humans are inextricably connected.

“This is a timely and challenging story — and one that we are uniquely qualified to tell,” said museum board chair and acting CEO Dr. Daniel Muzyka in a statement. “Our unique collections, curatorial expertise, and physical and emotional proximity to orcas and oceans combine in an edifying and ultimately hopeful experience that affirms we are all part of nature — not apart from nature.”

Among the artifacts on display are rare cultural objects by Indigenous artists, including an articulated dance mask by Richard Hunt (Kwaguilth), an intricately carved gold killer whale box by Bill Reid (Haida), and a commissioned painting by Haida manga artist Michael Nicoll Yahgulanaas.

The exhibition includes a companion publication that brings together the work of marine biologists, Indigenous knowledge keepers, poets, artists and storytellers. Spirits of the Coast: Orcas in Science, Art and History is edited by Hanke, Martha Black and Lorne Hammond and available at local bookshops, the Royal Museum Shop and online at rbcm.ca/books.

The exhibition has been designed to travel to other museums during the UNESCO Decade of Ocean Science for Sustainable Development (2021-2030). The museum is following pandemic safety protocols. To purchase timed tickets, visit rbcm.ca/orcas.

[foxyslide]

🦋DIARY🌸

TW intake mentioned, cw mentioned, narcissistic mother mentioned 🙄

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so what happened last weekend was this. I had this in my drafts but couldn’t finish it.

“My mother came to visit us today, started out well, she brought me more of my old clothes, wore them to the park today. Regretted wearing a skirt, not great at all while cycling. Anyway, then my mother and I started talking about cycling and she hit me with “how many kilos are you? I’m 50. I gained two kilos but you can’t see the fat on me, because I’m just eating more fruits”💀💀💀💀💀💀💀Hubby interjected by saying it doesn’t matter how many kilos she is because while cycling She’ll be loosing fat but gaining muscle weight. And my mother said no kilos are still important 💀💀💀 like no pause for thought about what she’s saying. She’s much shorter than I am so 50kg for her is still a lot, she has a belly, whereas for me I would be close to being underweight at 50kg. but from her saying that shes defo in competition with me. im determined to ”win” 🤡 she’s very proud that her legs are wayyyyy slimmer than mine. I have my fathers legs.

At the park I was feeling self conscious nothing new, but managed to get some sun for my legs lol. Hubby had brought some food enough for me too and I thought fuck it I’ll eat today and since he’s working tm i can work off all the calories cycling for several hours, so I ate around 395kcal. Later hubby mentioned that all these good looking couples are so typical, I asked him aren’t we good looking? And he said no we’re not, these guys are all toned and we’re not, i don’t know what my expression was like he saw my face and said we’re cute. I said okay. Didn’t feel great to know he doesn’t think we’re good looking lol. And if he thought that I was wondering why he decided to eat more. But then it doesn’t show on him at all. I told him I wasn’t gonna eat more. That’s it for me for the day, there’s no way I can swallow more knowing my own husband doesn’t think im good looking. I guess when he says im beautiful it’s not in the literal sense, but in the sense that everyone is beautiful.”

I told him my feelings about this later and he said of course we’re good looking just not in the beauty standard way of being fit and toned, but we’re getting there he said! We just have to keep cycling. He said if I decided to try to look like the models and wear makeup and dress up I would fit in with them. I don’t deserve him lol.

“Wanted to fast the whole day today but ruined it. At least I didn’t have more than 500kcal. The last two evenings I ate and it felt like binging, and i couldnt bare to come on tumblr because of that, was too embarrassed. but today morning after my mother left I was curious about my weight and stepped on the scale, I was so surprised to see I am 53.6kg despite all the food. Still at the park now. Haven’t done much cycling so don’t think I’ll burn many cal today.. but as long as I can fast for the rest of the day and do some yoga and stretching i should be fine.  Hubby keeps asking if I’m okay, I’m not, there’s way too many ppl and im self conscious about everything, should have worn a hoodie, im not wearing these kinds of clothes again but I’m just lying here on my phone and I’m not making it his problem, so he should just enjoy his time out until he’s ready to go home. I can’t wait to go home, I feel like doing fuck all and lying in bed. Ill be craving all the food hubby makes for himself, I can anticipate how difficult it will be to fast, but I think remembering his words will do the trick 💀💀💀💀”

he was just being honest about us, we’re not the beauty standard YET. Yesterday he told me every time we go out he’s proud to have me beside him. I don’t understand why I don’t love myself when he tells me shit like this all the time. I really don’t deserve him.

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[barnesbabee]

something that has been on my mind for a very long time

tw// mentions of ED/weight

I used to be at a very healthy weight when I was around 16/17. I was doing really well and I was very confident in my body, I was in a nutritionist and I was 165cm around 65kg (143 pounds), practicing volleyball almost daily. This all changed when I went on an erasmus trip (for non-europeans, erasmus is basically a school/uni related exchange project) to Cyprus. Since it was a highschool thing it was only for a week, and not a year like in uni, but that week was destructive and it was, ultimately, where the downhill started. I love Greece and all its wonders but my God do I hate your food (except for souvlaki that shit SLAPS), and for those of you who don't know in cyprus they speak greek and are very influenced by greece I can't remember why don't kill me please. So during that week I was staying in someone's home, and every day we ate out, so it was basically pizza and mcdonalds every day. We took the bus every day, so barely any walking and it was basically one week without exercising, and when that one week was reaching its end, some of the pants I had brought along on the trip didn't even fit me anymore. It didn't help that my host family always left these BANGING chocolates on my bedroom. I gained a lot of weight, and when I came back the nutritionist I used to go to moved to a different city and I stopped being able to go there, so my eating habits also changed for the worst, since I was no longer being accompanied. From there it only went downhill, eventually the pandemic came, and I love cooking, so to make me less bored I would bake a lot: from cookies, to pies, to brownies, and because my parents felt bad about us spending so much time without being with our friends and doing the things we love, they let us eat many treats (also to bring down the tension of the panini going on). Now, after almost 3 years, I'm on a journey to finally bring my weight to a healthy place. It's not easy, it's one of the hardest things I've ever had to do: not drinking in parties and festivals, eating rice and vegetables while my friends eat delicious food at dinner parties, being hungry all the time, not being able to eat pork or cow, and just the overall limited food I can eat, it's horrible, because if there's something that we know how to do in my family, it is to cook. We know how to cook and we love to eat, so it's been incredibly hard. It's not the working out that I dislike, I don't care for it but it's not hard. But the bottom of this is: if I had paid more attention to it, I wouldn't be where I am now. If I had taken care of my health even before the pandemic I wouldn't be in this situation.

And this brings me to the point that I wanted to get to in this conversation: how did that happen, and why did I continue as if there was no issue? The answer is simple, because of the body positivity movement. I saw so many women, that despite their weight were confident and beautiful, and I was smaller than a lot of them so I was like, okay, this isn't bad. But it was, and it is. Because what I realize is that these kinds of people, wether their accounts are dedicated to body positivity or not, are being used as inspiration to other people, and are being used to justify unhealthy lifestyles. And what I'm saying isn't that there shouldn't be body positivity, OF COURSE NOT! It is super important for everyone to understand each body is unique and that everyone should be comfortable, but I think body positivity should be centered around stretch marks, hip dips, small boobs, droopy boobs, etc... not when it comes to weight, because being extremely overweight (or underweight, the problem is the same I just don't have experience in it so I won't talk about it) is something to be concerned about. I once saw this article that Tess Holiday (morbidly obese model) where she said she actually ate healthy meals and exercised, which was bullshit, of course, cause when you do those things you lose weight/mantain a certain weight. Ultimately I think that body positivity is, a lot of the times, distorted in a way that helps people justify unhealthy weights, and I want to be very clear here, the problem is NOT the number on the scale, but what happened until it got there. Wether it was bulimia, starvation, overeating, stress eating, or overall gluttony, that is where the problem is. I justified my 30 inch subway sandwich followed by 2 dunkin donuts with 'Im not even that big, and if those women look so beautiful in their bodies so do I' and I was killing myself while I did it.

This was just a little rant, I've had this in me for the longest time and I just wanted to share it