I'm so tired of sites self-destructing, PLEASE I am begging there to be just ONE art site that isn't a flaming pile of shit that could go down at any moment
I'm not leaving until the ship goes down, but I would like to hear potential places where people are also posting art
Personally I'm most active on Kofi and Bluesky because these are the only sites that I'm sure won't come crashing down anytime soon but god it's so tiring to have to keep rebuilding because everything turns to shit over the dumbest, most lack-of-common-decency bullshit from people who should never be in power to begin with
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Okay, I HAD to go looking for this controversial Vi theory on twitter and it looks like the tweet itself also talked about Cait and Jinx. I actually thought they were bang on target when it came to Caitlyn.
"Vi is domestic abuser coded. Jinx is sexual harasser coded. Caitlyn is stalker/ incel coded."
I'm sorry-coded Anon, but this is stupid-coded.
There is plenty of evidence that Jinx has abuser traits. I made an entire fucking essay about her being a dickhead that had a whole section on all the physical boundaries she breaks.
Sexual though? How? Not like we see her do it, or see her in a relationship with someone she sleeps with. Brushing Sevika's cheek with her fingers isn't sexual assault.
Do the stupid-coded people on the bird think the only shade of abuser out there is the sexual kind?
As for Vi and Cait... What is their textual evidence? Ooh sorry, is there none? Is twitter not the best platform to share a long argument with proof to support it?
Incel-coded Caitlyn, though... LMAO. Touching grass isn't enough any more, these insane-coded people need to fucking eat it.
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Honestly all the stuff that keeps coming out about RT now is such a perfect illustration of toxic masculinity and the culture it creates and the way it takes normal, decent people who don't mean any harm and causes them to act in ways that hurt others. You don't mean to hurt anyone, you just don't think it all the way through. Because you didn't learn to. Because you grew up hearing "man up" and "get over it" and "it's just a joke", and you think that's the solution when someone's upset. They just need to toughen up and get over it.
It's just jokes and you're joking around with your friends, you want to belong, and as with any group, you encourage each other, you get a little thrill from being so daring or being cheered on and you feel edgy and cool and most importantly, accepted. You end up doing and saying things you wouldn't do or say if you were alone, or in a different group. This is how group dynamics work.
And then eventually it comes to a head and you find out that actual harm has been caused. Either by you, or by your co-worker who you thought was just joking, and you made the jokes yourself, and you never imagined how close to home you were hitting. And everyone ends up hurt and guilty and devastated because you were just joking. You never meant to hurt anyone.
It just... man, this is what happens, right? People end up doing shitty things, and yes, they are responsible because ultimately they made the choice. But the culture behind it is what needs to change. Because as long as that culture is there, it's going to keep happening. And people do bad stuff not because they're bad people, no, they just didn't think about it like that. And that's worse in a way, not in terms of individual blame, but overall. Because there aren't a lot of bad people in the world, but there are a lot of people who are perfectly decent but maybe don't always think everything all the way through and just follow the group and try to fit into the group, which is a very fundamentally human thing to do.
And by the way there's nothing wrong with "lad culture" when it's play-fighting or doing stupid challenges or running around or making fun of each other as long as the target of the joke is also having fun. That's not toxic masculinity. The problem is the "man up" stuff, the lack of consideration for your own feelings and other people's, the "joking around" that's really just bullying. And the thing about it is that it hurts everyone. Including the guys who do it, because they've been hurt themselves already, they're ignoring and dismissing their own feelings, they can't tell the difference between bullying and love, they end up guilty and remorseful once they realise what they've done. Obviously the biggest victims are the victims, but nobody actually wins with this except arguably the predators who know full well what they're doing and are enabled and supported by this system even though nobody means or wants to do so and is horrified once they find out about it. It just sucks.
(disclaimer, I'm not talking about the Ryan stuff here, he's excluded, he knew full well what he was doing)
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