#thank you autisming for the ID! :D

[moonbisexualsharktamerr]

Jing Yuan for the character game thingy please and thank you :D

General opinion/How much I care about them:

GOD. this guy.this little guy for real. love him and how silly he is and his 14 year old autism sword obsessed son. Jing yuan is one of my favorite characters for so many reasosn. I personally really enjoy his backstory, as well as his personality and character and the way he sees other people! its really fun to see how he copes with seeing other people he thought were long gone/dead and were an important part of his past come back to him.

A ship I love:

idk. i dont really have one for him if im being honest. jingren/jing yuan and yingxing is like.really fun though considering their shared past in the high cloud quintet ( or whatever its called.i forgor). p fun to explore their dynamic pre-canon and in canon.

A non-romantic relationship that I love:

JING YUAN AND YANGQING.GOD. those two are the autism dad and son duo. also jing yuan and his former master. have you seen how small he is when he was still a student.little guy.splorpable. funny to me how like jing yuan is yangqing's boss but also basically legally his dad

The NOTP:

again.not sure about this one. i guess jingheng? i get why people would ship them but dan heng doesnt equal his past self.jing yuans stated himself that he acknowledges this in game.

My biggest headcanon about them:

My biggest headcanon/s would have to be that i see him as an unlabeled queer person who feels as if no label really defines his sexuality entirely, and his gender is just whatever he feels like!( if that makes sense!) Also he's autistic and heavily neurodivergent.to me.

An idea for a fanfiction I would like to write/read about them:

i guess id read fanfiction exploring more about how he deals with himself emotionally considering everything he's gone through since he was a child! fun to see how he copes with the loss of people who were closest to him, and having a disciple of his own to take care of.

Something that makes me think of them: (a song, a character in another fandom, an animal, anything)

LIONS. just any kind of lion honestly. also swords/spears. that and sparrows/finches/tiny birds :). last but not least! anything gold!!

[weenhands]

10, 16, 25? also heyy i hope ur doing okay ♡

hey thank u so much for looking out! im doing fine right now :”) !!

10: want any piercings?

none that im planning rn!

16: i’ll love you if…

okay so this is something that will actually sort of get me obsessed with someone c: and it’s giving me attention. not really in small intervals, but just in general. that’s how my ex boyfriend managed to get past how stubborn i am in dating now that i think about it, and it started with them being pretty interactive with me online. i’ll love someone if they just shower me in affection, attention, flirting, anything i guess :3c that’s also the absolute quickest way to get me to love someone. other things are being very friendly and understanding. i know everyone is drawn to those traits but they stand out to me the most. i think if someone understood and felt neutral towards my autism for example, that would be wonderful.

25: my idea of a perfect date

i have a lot of ideal dates 0/////0 uhmmmmmmmmmm i think those would probably be walking/adventuring in the nighttime with someone. i wanna be surrounded in darkness and in the eeriness of the middle of the night with someone i trust and i feel like i can share darkness with…i think there’s also this element of knowing something bad could happen to the both of us, but id be fine so long as im with them???. we’d do whatever they want:} i also would like to visit a cemetery with someone as a date, and i also have fantasies of my love taking me into a forest late at night…..hehehe kinda weird ones But! if im sort of with someone who’s not really into that stuff, a perfect date would be a classic dinner date! take me to a fancy restaurant and all. im not that picky, just the fact that u thought about taking me out and planning everything for me means the world :D

nosy asks!!

[dapperrokyuu]

hello!! I just want to say i really enjoyed your sort of analysis on some of the stp princesses :D do you maybe know where I can find more? Because they are so fun to read, and I am very bad at seeing deeper meanings to things and always take them very face value (autism why….) but I really want to see more of the deeper meanings for this game bc I absolutely adore it

Hello!!! Thank you, I really appreciate it, haha. Even if Im wasnt exactly the most confident, Im glad an amount of people found it fun. But as for your question! Im ultimately fairly new and not deeply involved in the fandom, so I may not be the best person to direct you nor do I have any immediate recommendations, admittedly. However, if you did fine my layman analysis enjoyable, digging into the tag will ensure youll find others like me and even better–if theyre posting more frequently about the topic, theyre 1000% even more passionate and well-equipped to speak on the princesses and Slay the Princess than I am. Im aware the tag is full of stuff that are not analyses and would suggest adding on “meta” or “analysis,” to narrow down the search…but Im also aware that not everyone tags their posts that way even if they may fall in those categories (hell, I didnt do that, haha). But I think thats a worthwhile endeavor, just in case! And uh, sorry if thats advice you already knew, haha… But!

Since this would be a good opportunity, I like to tag the game and ask the fandom if they could reply and/or reblog with metas/analyses theyve enjoyed and/or written themselves! I think itd be a fun exercise to spread the love and ideas as well as gather some metas/analyses you, I, and everyone can enjoy! Thanks in advance, if anyone does! c:

Otherwise, another avenue Id suggest is video essays! Ive also admittedly havent watched any myself, but I do know they exist, theyve been in my recommendations, haha. Theyre an area Ive been wanting to delve into deeper, and Slay the Princess is such a hot topic with tons of depth and perspectives (hehe) that Im certain it flourishes there. I welcome any recs regarding this too!

Anyways, thank you for your patience and understanding since I know this probably isnt the ideal answer. But I hope other Slay the Princess fans can point us in the right direction! Regardless, I hope you and anyone else reading this have a wonderful day!

[ay-chuu]

hey there ! i hope you are all well and safe:(

for the shipping event, id like bsd ! (nver done 1 of these bf so im rlly excited :D)

4 my appearance; i hv short black dyed hair, ranpo style and brown/blue eyes (i hv sectoral heterochromia ^^), i have a septum piercing also and quite the array of scars.

im a scorpio ! and my mbti is infj.

i don’t rlly hv a lot of hobbies tbh, but i do enjoy painting and reading. i like to swim also when i can.

for things i hate, i despise sudden or repetitive noises (like chewing or fireworks, autism tingz), dogs and feet💀.

not rlly big on video games if im completely honest but i do sometimes play the sims4, it’s fun playing with these pixels lives😭 i always end up getting my children taken away<\3 my fav movie genre is psychological horror..💀

my fav artist is lana del rey ! but i do enjoy older stuff from like the 70s+

thankyou ! by the way, hope this is enough. take care of urself<33

-luci(she/her)

Hi love thanks for your cute wishes please take care of yurself too! (ɔ◔‿◔)ɔ ♥ <3

BTW I LOVE YOUR EYES AND HAIR UGH ＼(≧▽≦)／!

I match you with... (っ＾▿＾)💨

RANPO EDOGAWA!

The greatest harmony of INTP and INFJ is intelligence compatibility. CHANGE MY MIND. Not many people can handle the power these two carry as a couple lol. Together they often talk very philosophically, and they do so involuntarily.

I personally think that what Ranpo likes most about you is your comfort and understanding. He likes that you make him happy, be more mature and supportive. By the way, I think he loves your piercings and there are times when he looks into your eyes for a long time... What you love about him is the intelligent and insecure man who hides behind her childish and sweet personality. That's why you often praise him a lot and he's like a touch addicted cat who only cares for you KLSDGJSKLGFKL you talk a lot of philosophy together!

I think that the problem in your relationship is both vital and you. He can sometimes put himself in unnecessary danger and you naturally disapprove of it. He gets angry and can act a little bastard, which often leads to fights. However, after that work Ranpo, who came to you like a cat who spilled milk, things would get better with sweet apologies and a slap that comes with speech he got LOL SFGKSJ

Lastly, some of the moments I dream of for you two: a spoiled ranpo eating donuts lying on your thighs while you draw something with your sketchbook, philosophical conversations accompanied by warm hugs on a special night together, Ranpo who puts your ears lana del rey music's if there's a loud or any sound that you dont like -SLAY QUEEN I LOVE LANA TOO- and a ranpo thinking how happy he is to spend his life with you when you read a book together, watch a psychological horror movie or any simple activity you enjoy and the admiring glances with his beautiful eyes <3

[tasteofgummies]

ive been reading all of the relationship dynamic things and id just love to request one!! thanks so much in advance, love your stuff ^^ could i request bruno and/or jotaro, please? i go by he and they mostly (i'm trans masc!), a scorpio, an ENTP, and a 4w3. i'm also on the aro-ace spectrum (quoiromantic, cupiosexual!). pretty much my life's passion is anthropology and history, but a little more so anthropology - i'm totally enthralled by the science, but also totally in love with humanity as a whole. i also love art, and it's been a life long hobby of mine. i tend to draw things for the people i love as gifts - my love language could be considered a mixture of gifts and acts of service. some other interests of mine include collecting (mostly random things i find outside and plush toys), zoology, watching documentaries, TTRPGS, and videography. as for pretty much everything else you'd need to know about me -

i don’t talk to strangers very much, unless I feel very comfortable or at least safe in a situation. When I am comfortable, though, i can’t shut up. I have a hard time communicating my actual emotions through tone and body language (autism stuff), so i make up for it by being as animated as possible when trying to communicate. i’m naturally pretty polite and relatively mild-mannered, but i tend to make pretty crude jokes at times. i have a hard time taking things totally seriously, and I find humor in pretty much everything. I also have a bad habit of correcting everyone on anything, but not out of malice. i value knowledge and truth above all else, and so I feel the need to mend any faulty information I might hear. sharing information, to me, is a form of love. that also makes me a bad liar. notably, I am incredibly long-winded, and I tend to use what some people would consider to be “big words”. for the most part, I’m pretty chill - but I have what some would consider repressed anger issues, and I can be very verbally aggressive when provoked.

as if this wasn’t long enough (sorry by the way ^^), appearance wise - i’m very short, enough that it gets pointed out aggressively. i look pretty average and unremarkable, just brown hair and brown eyes. i’ve been told that i have a “resting thousand-yard stare”, and i have comedically thick glasses. i’m also a couple years on T, and i’m gonna be getting top surgery this summer!

thank you for reading this absolute brick of text! this was horrendously and obscenely long. :’D

Jotaro x you ✨

>I think Kakyoin talked to him about TTRPGs, so he isn't new to the concept, but I don't think he'd participate. He would listen to you telling him about your characters and adventures though

>He doesn't understand humanity, he appreciates things like music, but he'd definitely not be one to cry with anthropology

>(By crying with it, I mean getting emotional with things like that Margaret Mead quote about civilization starting with a healed femur bone)

>But he really loves life on earth, it's so wonderful how everything came aligned to form the incredible biodiversity in this planet

>When you hand him a drawing, he thanks you and pulls his hat down to hide his blush

>If you have a box with your findings, he'll tell you that you act like an octopus while subtly smiling (it may look like he's making fun of you, but he isn't, he thinks you're cute)

>Pretty much has the same issue with tone and body language, so he doesn't pressure you to act one way or the other, you can use your natural voice with him

>To others it looks like he's being really rude while you're laughing at him, but you're actually having a pleasant conversation

>He's been waiting forever to watch documentaries with someone else

>The first time you corrected him, he thought you were sort of challenging him in some way, (he's not used to people not being intimidated by him)

>But then he saw your expression, and noticed you were authentically trying to help him

>He's still a little prideful but he does appreciate it

>You're a "talks a lot x listens" couple<3

>I think Jotaro shows affection by parallel play and gift giving

>You are different in many things, but it still works perfectly

>Was probably taken aback the first time he saw you being aggressive

>But also quite proud?? Yes, that's his boyfriend right there, don't mess with them, he's a savage

>He wouldn't want to be in the receiving end tho, when he's overwhelmed he shuts down and does whatever it takes to get people to leave him alone, this manifests as insulting people so they'll be offended and leave

>To Jotaro everyone's short, so I don't see him making a big deal about your height, but (thanks to your bad influence /jk) he can make the most out of pocket jokes about it

>Since Jotaro's autistic too (Araki told me) he wouldn't even notice the thousand yard stare

>X: "Your partner looks like he's been through a war or something

Jotaro: "Yeah, they was looking at you, it left them traumatized"

>He's there for everything you need around the time of your surgery, and tells you he's proud of you for taking such a big step

>I think you would be such a wholesome couple tbh

[combeauferre]

hallo :D if you dont me asking, whats your dissertation about? im curious haha

great question that honestly right now i do not have much of an answer to (which is concerning when it's due in three weeks). the official title on my proposal is "manipulation and subjugation of the family unit and community in young adult dystopian literature" but honestly it has taken on a mind of its own.

currently im more looking at mental health - so im looking at the effect of eugenics and lack of autonomy in the giver, divergent as a neurodivergent bildungsroman and the ways it only caters to a small minority of neurodivergent readers, and trauma, particularly childhood and generational trauma, in the hunger games.

ill put some more rants under the cut

ive been working a lot on my divergent chapter today and building up the idea that it can be seen as a neurodivergent coming of age story, but tris really only contributes to the idea of neurodivergency as a "superpower" and the idea that people who are seen as "high functioning" are not in fact disabled - whereas the "low functioning" neurodivergent people in the story are the factionless and their status is so undesirable it's worse than death. it's difficult and im worried about going too far and ending up circling back to "autism bad" by accident but we shall see.

my hunger games chapter is talking a lot about the generational trauma of the games and the ways that katniss is already traumatised by the time we meet her. id also love to talk about the collective trauma of the objectification of children across the trilogy but i havent had the time to reread the other two books so that's on the back burner for now.

in terms of the giver im writing about how the application of real life can impact the way that ya readers interact with the issues in their own world - especially since the giver is aimed at a younger readership than the hunger games and divergent, it offers questions that children can start to consider at younger ages and build up to more critical thinking. i found a great (terrible) essay that claims that the giver is written as a commentary on nazism and communism and im very excited to rip that apart - because although it is clear that it takes a lot of its inspiration from 1984 and brave new world, saying that it writes on the same issues as those books takes away from the fact that eugenics and autonomy were still big issues in the 90s (and now), when the book was first written

i can rly go off about it for hours but getting it down into writing is very very difficult

but thank you for asking! i appreciate being able to go off about it

[fruitsilly]

10 people you want to know better (tagged ppl are under no obligation to do this <3!!)

thank you jude @pansyfem for tagging me! this looks like fun :3

relationship status: single, but heavily lushing/meshing (the sensual/alterous equivalents of crushing respectively) on this guy in my class at uni rn. and i really. Really want him to be my boyfriend holy fucking shit he's so cute. anyways. i also have a milder squish on a girl who's also in my class. i have two exes but i am aromantic and since they were romantic relationships which needed reciprocation they didn't work out. i am still friends with one of my exes (who's also arospec) tho so it's all good!! :•D

favourite colours: my top 5 fave colours are

green

purple

pink

yellow

blue

in that order :)

favourite foods: ough pasta. any kind of pasta really but i am especially partial to lasagne. i also love cheese and pizza. oh and how could i forget!!! millionaire's shortbread!!

song stuck in my head: TOXIC BY BRITNEY SPEARS!!!!!!!!!! although before this it was the borgia family horrible histories song :)

last thing you googled: i use firefox bc im swag so technically i duckduckgo'ed this Anyways. i searched for the tv show "you" bc i saw a gifset from that show featuring a lady i am incredibly bi for and i was like 👀 will i have to watch this now

time: 9.32PM (im gonna write the time of posting this bc i wrote this in my notes app)

dream trip: spain or scotland!! spain bc im learning spanish and scotland bc it's just such a lovely country <3

last thing you read: "the children" by lucy kirkwood! it's a play im reading for my course :)

last book you enjoyed reading: ugh i haven't had the capacity to actually sit down and read a physical book for... too long it's been ages. it's mostly to do with my disabilities and time :( i started reading good omens on my phone but i didn't finish it (i like it so much better than the show lmao). but the actual physical book i read last was "death sets sail" by robin stevens, the final book in her "murder most unladylike" series. ough. ive been with that book series from literally the very beginning. id highly recommend 👍

favourite thing to cook/bake: sadly i don't do enough cooking or baking to know but what i have made is fudge which was quite fun! ive also made a delicious cheesy pasta bake hehe

favourite craft to do in your free time: again. i haven't had the capacity or time to actually make any art since like... march, so, 7 months. yeesh. i miss making digital art. id like to pick it up again but idk when that'll be. id also like to try and get a badge maker bc i have loads of ideas but ugh time is a problem. im just so busy at uni.

most niche dislike: im sure there's Something since im autistic and autism is the Strong Opinions Disorder but nothing's coming to me atm [shrugs]

opinion on circuses: ive only been to one in my life and i really enjoyed it apart from the clowns who i found scary but i was like 8 i think. im less scared of clowns now. also the general aesthetics of them fuck severely

do you have any sense of direction: hardly lol! i have a great photographic memory so even going a certain route once with someone who knows the way i can remember it HOWEVER i am utter shit at finding my way with a map on my own. google maps is always open when im trying to find a place and even then i frequently go in the wrong direction or miss a turning. i just cannot translate distance on a digital map to irl distance. don't even get me started on using a traditional map bc g-d above. id end up more lost than i was before. im excellent at just confusing the hell out of myself <3

tagging: @sillyspooky @skylightz @bromantically @transgenderpolyhedrals @folderone @gir-posting @nvr-pass-spookier-version @heartslobbf @taikacohen @laymedowninsheetsoflinen (plus anyone who sees this and wants to do it just say i tagged you ^_^). again no obligation to do this !! :)

[solarishashernoseinabook]

thank you sm for the ID on the character bingo!!!! sending in halt from rangers apprentice if you'd like :)

!!! thank you!! sorry this took me a bit to get to slghslgh

gosh i was SO close to getting a bingo but i like the canon very much for him so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ (shrug emoji)

And halt is SO. AUTISTIC.

[Image ID: a bingo sheet titled “Character Bingo”.

The first row reads “my special little meow meow. my every waking thought. my dearest blorbo”; “i don’t have anything against them personally but they failed the vibe check”; “im the only one that knows anything about them, actually. everyone else is wrong sorry”; “if i met them irl i would beat them up (affectionate)”; and “i would unplug their life support to charge my phone”. “my special little meow meow. my every waking thought. my dearest blorbo” is marked with a red star.

The second row reads “i like the fanon better for this one”; “a pathetic wet cat of a man”; “my anti blorbo. i am constantly thinking of them and i hate it”; “knowing of their existence fills me with incredibly violent urges”; and “they could’ve been such a great character if they were handled differently”.

The third row reads “*gently holds*”; “don’t care about them tbh”; “free space”; “(keysmash)”; and “i sincerely do not understand the hype”. "*gently holds*", "free space", and "(keysmash)" are marked with red stars.

The fourth row reads “they have done nothing wrong, ever, in their life”; “i don’t even go here but i’d die for them”; “not to be homosexual but Jesus fucking Christ. oh. my go d. holy shjt”; “Autism™️”; and “genuinely. what the fuck”. “they have done nothing wrong, ever, in their life” and “Autism™️” are marked with red stars; in addition, "autism" has yellow lines around it as extra highlighting.

The fifth row reads “will somebody give them a fucking hug jesus christ”; “they could pour soup in my lap and i’d apologize to them”; “they are literally so based”; “there’s nothing going on behind those eyes <3”; and “i want to kiss their poor little head”. “will somebody give them a fucking hug jesus christ” and “they could pour soup in my lap and i’d apologize to them” are marked with red stars. /end]

Link to the ask game if you want to play!

[circuitofficial]

Idk where else to put this but friendo I'm kin assigning you pikmin. Which one? All of them.

They are. Little guys.

Some catchphrases they have are "moo!" And "yipee"

They love to drink juice (nectar). And they have flowers on their heads. They also sing! They love to sing and hum.

They are silly and I love them. Also they can carry high explosives 💥 They are loyal and cute little guys and have such Dusty energy. And now when I see them I go :) :D FRIEND

OHHH???? WEEPING AND WAILING?

tjey sing and hum.... theyre the real autism creatures in my heart

THANK YOU RED IM HONORED.. ID WANT TO BE A LITTLE BLUE PLANT CREATURE

[crimson-miz]

check out my spamcakes tag urself [ID: 9 images of different pancakes in a black pan, all of them portraying spamton in various styles. end ID] ID by @autisming

[hiraganasakura]

Happy Autism Acceptance Month! Where I am rn today is also World Autism Day! :D

To celebrate I made icons for some Ace Attorney characters that I hc to have autistic swag, since it's my current special interest. These aren't all of the characters I hc as autistic, there's too many to include in one post lol, but I picked some of my faves. Maybe I'll do more...

These icons are f2u btw!

Here you go, have fun y'all!

[I.D: Ten icons featuring Ace Attorney characters over the autistic pride flag. From left to right top to bottom, they are: Miles Edgeworth, Franziska Von Karma, Maya Fey, Apollo Justice, Athena Cykes, Ema Skye, Sebastian Debeste, Ryunosuke Naruhodo, Herlock Sholmes, and Iris Watson. End I.D]

(Huge thanks to @klavier-gavins-lesbian-boyfriend for the ID! [Lmk if you don't want to be tagged])

[actualsunflower]

I have a huge life update to share rn--- My top surgery consultation is scheduled for July 5th!!!! I’M SO EXCITEDDDDDDDDDDD!!!!!!! I’ve also been vaccinated!! :D ANNNDDD MY LEGAL NAME AND SEX HAVE BEEN CHANGEDD!!!!! :DDDD kind of a lot has happened since I’ve been actually active around here But now I guess is the much harder part, my official surgery date will be set at the consultation, but there’s a required $1,000 fee to set the official date for my surgery. The $1,000 covers a portion of the surgery as well, and the base price for the surgery is $8,500. I’ll get the exact price on July 5th, but that’s their base rate. I need to earn or raise at least $1,000 of the total cost before July 5th to secure my surgery date!! I’m going to take commissions when I can, I have 1 almost entirely complete right now and then I can take on more! I’m gonna have a more detailed explanation of everything under the cut so this isnt super super long so pls read under there if you want all the deets Pls consider commissioning me or donating so I can get top surgery!! read more for more info and me being sappy abt my emotions--

I’ve waited so long for this and I’m fricken excited, it’s the last step in transitioning for me! It really means everything for me, I feel like I’ve been waiting forever and I can’t believe it’s finally happening !?!!! I am forever in everyones debt here and everywhere because I never wouldve even been able to start hrt if it wasn’t for the help here. I’m just so. Overwhelmed with emotion and gratitude I cant even tell how many times Ive cried and just felt like... actual gender euphoria since starting t..

So abt the appointment, I’m getting surgery with Dr. Javad Sajan, and I’m getting button hole double incision. Im serious his before and after pictures make me so emotional I am so happy and emotional for those people and I cannot wait to feel that kind of happiness and relief. But a big problem about this for me, is that he is in Seattle, and I live in southern Oregon. I can’t drive, so I have to rely on someone else, or take the train from a nearby city (Eugene). My consultation is over skype (which is amazing and a huge relief), but my pre-op appointment is in person, and of course so is the actual surgery. We’re planning on taking the train from Eugene because it seems to be the most reliable way to get there and back each time. Aside from my surgery, I’ve got to cover the price of the trip there and back (twice, once there and back for pre-op, once there and back post op,) and the price of a place to stay during the pre-op appointment. Right now my goal cost wise, is just the booking and base appointment price ($8,500, that’s including the $1,000 appointment setting deposit, which is just a part of the surgery cost and the base covers everything, surgery, the stay at the hospital, nips, anesthesia, everything). The full price is due at the pre-op appointment, and that’s the final bill. My insurance doesn’t cover anything because it’s out of state and county, and because its informed consent model. (which Im choosing because Id have to battle insurance for 2 years minimum if I was getting the surgery in Oregon, but I am very set on my surgeon after considering everything and calling many offices and looking through many subreddits and talking to ppl who’ve gotten it here and there) A lot of this information is on their site as well. As soon as I have my consultation, I will be right here to update everything and set the exact price, which I’ll also be including the price of transportation and staying there. As for paying, I’ve been applying to so many jobs, and even when I get interviews I never hear back from them. People keep telling me to stop admitting I’m disabled but I just can’t do that. Lying about being disabled doesnt make me abled and they don’t get that. I’m still trying though, and I am not going to stop trying until I get a job. But until then commissions and donations are my only source of income. I’ve been struggling getting help psychologically, because I have schizophrenia, and because I was diagnosed with adhd as a child, but I think I’m actually autistic rather than having adhd, and it’s been really hard trying to get diagnosed because I keep getting pushed off or told I cant have autism because I have paranoid schizophrenia or because its “just adhd”, but the medications are just making everything worse, and Ive tried more than one already. My medications for schizophrenia have started not working right, and when my schizophrenia meds get under control, it makes my adhd (?) significantly worse. Genuinely, I really dont know what’s happening. I really dont know whats going on with me right now and it’s hard and confusing and I keep swinging back and forth and it’s making everything deteriorate so fast I cant keep up with it. It seriously effects my ability to do anything at all, even art, and its been like this for the last 6 months. I am trying though, still trying to work, still trying to get a job, still trying to get a real diagnosis and help and Im not going to stop any of that. But I think getting top surgery as soon as possible is going to help me too, because dysphoria has just gotten so much worse focusing on my chest since t has started helping me pass and look so much more masculine. It’s like all my attention went from everything DIRECTLY to my chest and its almost unbearable. Even now since my sex has been legally changed I keep having the horrible thoughts of ‘why, why I am a man Im not supposed to be this way’ and shit idk. I’m getting too serious right now I have an appointment with the dmv to get a new updated driver’s permit with my name and fixed legal sex, and when I do that I can set up a bank account (I cant yet bcs I dont have a valid id/ id at all because I actually lost the other one and have been carrying around that paper one you’re supposed to destroy that is literally from 2016) and when I do, I’m going to set up a proper gofundme for my surgery and the travel expenses, but for now all I have is my paypal and online banking savings account. I’ll get that up asap once I have my id, though (Ive already been to the bank with my notarized judge passed papers and they wont take those yeah I know it’s stupid its like the same thing) But uhhh yeah! Thank you for reading this far if you did lol and considering helping me bcs my god, it literally means everything to me. pls share hehe

[cozycreaturescorner]

Im sorry to hear you failed your driving test, sending good vibes and hugs your way I know how failing smthn you were stressed about can be so so demoralizing.

what's your favourite kind of bagel? also how do you take your coffee? (you seem like a sweetens black kinda person but that could just be the Library Enegry™)

my bday is in two days and apparently I'm turning 24 but I still haven't processed that I turned 23 so idk how accurate that is lmao

speaking of bagels if you're ever in Wyoming (Jackson specifically) you should check out pearl Street bagels they are superb (and will low key ruin other bagels for you but that neither here nor there lol)

I hope the rest of your day is softer and kinder too you and that you get to do smthn you love soon - 🌑

ahh thank you! it's also like. my permit expires soon and i don't want to have to renew it a second time, plus i need a state ID in order to even get a medical marijuana appointment (my paper permit doesn't count, and i dont have a passport cause ive never left the country), and the stupid DMV didn't send me my REALID (the new MA ID card) either time i got my permit, and despite making an appointment last week SPECIFICALLY to have them send me one, it hasn't come in the mail 🙄, and all three local DMV locations don't have any open dates which means i'll likely have to wait until november or december to retake the test. that was long i'm just >:(

i LOVE chedder and asiago bagels! interesting! despite my Library Energy i'm a cream and sugar in my coffee kinda person-and i usually get caramel syrup in mine when i go to Dunkin

idk if i'll ever feel the pull to visit Wyoming but if i do i'll make a special lil bagel stop

oh damn happy early birthday!!! :D and MAN i feel that, i've had 2 pandemic b-days and will likely have another another one for my 21st in April (RIP!!). i hope you have some nice things planned for yourself!!!

thank you 🥺, i finally emailed Emily to see if they know of anyone offering therapy at the clinic, or if they know any therapists with experience in autism and personality disorders and/or dbt therapy! so hopefully i can finalllyyyyy get back into therapy again soon

[a-spec-community-issues]

Being traumatized is different than being asexual.

As a traumatized ace? Nope. Trauma and sexual identities have historically gone hand in hand, with groups of women identifying as lesbians due to their sexual trauma.

In fact, the post didn’t say ace = trauma, it said you were valid if you chose to identify as ace from sexual trauma, or aro from past abuse. Why? Because it’s your own identity and labels and you’re free to do so.

In fact, newsflash buddy, as someone who is traumatized and Bi AroAce, my trauma does reflect into my identity. A lot of the time I actually feel like an imposter for being traumatized.

There’s no cohesive ideal to being any sexuality. Because people feel things differently. If someone, who for the longest time, feels like their trauma might reflect heavily to their sexual orientation decides to be ace, aro or anywhere on the a-spectrum, I would just fucking support it.

If they decide later their allo, they got the support they needed from the community. Especially because we’re not saying it’s a one to one ratio, but that’s it’s okay to change your labels of your identity because that’s not set in stone.

Fuck, ask teenage me, I used to ID as a Bisexual Girl, now I’m a Bi AroAce Demiboy.

Could any of this be influenced by trauma? Definitely the sexuality portion because it fucked up my abilities to tell whether I’m too sex-repulsed/romance-favourable and not actually the identities I say I am. That post was written because some people’s sexualities are influenced by their trauma and they feel most comfortable IDing that way.

Like fuck. Someone’s identity and labels, are personal and to them. Not to mention it’s kinda a lot easier for someone to say, “I’m ace” or “I’m aro” or anything on the spectrum, than “I avoid this form of relationship or have issues deciding how I actually feel because of deeply cemented trauma and it impacts my ability to understand attraction, but because I cannot use asexual or aromantic I will instea give a fifty paragraph novel on why a QPR would benefit me because of my past experiences, wants and needs”.

Not to mention, someone in my DMs said they’re not sure but think their trauma might influence them as IDing as Ace and thanked us. We’ve had people come into our inbox asking if they could be ace because they’re traumatized.

It’s not trauma = ace, it’s “well if this makes you feel comfortable and you think it fits, maybe due to trauma, you’re welcome”. I’m not gonna kick people out, we’re not about kicking people out.

I don’t know how you can like, come onto a blog run by trauma survivors who are also a-spec and tell us “being traumatized is different than being asexual” but like, thanks I suppose. We, the trauma survivors, wouldn’t know the first thing about sexuality influenced by trauma. We never said trauma makes you asexual, it can influence how you identify though and as I’ve said, this is a community issue.

STOP POLICING PEOPLE AND STOP GETTING MAD AT HOW OR WHY PEOPLE IDENTIFY AS AN IDENTITY IT’S THEIR PERSONAL CHOICE AND THEIR PERSONAL LIFE STOP BUTTING IN!

You’re not helping by, acting like trauma can’t fucking influence your identity, you’re only making shit worse, and I don’t care if someone stops IDing as ace later on because they “misidentified”.

We need to stop fucking acting like past labels are misidentifying and harmful, because they’re your journey to figuring yourself out, and you can be fucking wrong. A label isn’t a definement of everything you once were, it is how you feel now and how you understand yourself now. This fucking ideology of crushing how people identify because of other aspects kills questioning.

I’ve seen plenty of aces come out and say, their sexual trauma helped them figure it out. I’ve seen others divorce their sexuality from their trauma. I’ve seen some say their trauma is such an influence they feel best IDing as ace. It’s a wonder what different experiences can do.

Just, stop the concern trolling, stop trying to misinterpret things. We’re not kids. This isn’t a, “wow you’re traumatized so you’re ace”, it’s a fucking positivity post supporting people who identify as ace because of trauma.

Y’all ain’t helping shit.

- Mod D, which is very disgruntled at being treated like this.

P.S. Anon messages like this, given the fact someone is going on anon, and leaving just one sentence, are not going to be given the benefit of the doubt. I don’t know who is on the other end of this. I don’t know if they misinterpreted the post because of neurodivergency or what, all I know, is that they’ve decided they know the intentions of the post, rewrote it and then decided to say this.

We’re not idiots. We know you can’t be “turned” any sexuality or gender. But that doesn’t mean you can’t be influenced by your past on how you choose to identify. We’re tired. Don’t do this. It helps no one, it makes the mods infuriated.

Got something to say or add, and you’re trying to contest or help, send multiple anons, lengthen what you want to say, or DM me at @drake-the-incubus and I’ll listen. I keep DMs private.

This ask reminds me of the same message someone told me about IDing as autigender, “autism is different than being trans”. And it sure is! By my autism impacts my gender identity so I choose to ID as it. It’s a personal choice and everyone can fuck off about it.

TLDR; don’t be that asshole who literally acts like they know exactly what someone else means. If you want to be that asshole, add more depth to what you’re saying because otherwise expect it not to be well received.