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The Quiet Room (1)

The couch of the teachers’ lounge was, all in all, very comfortable. Honestly, it beat most beds Toshinori had been forced to slot into, simply by virtue of being almost exactly as long as he was tall. He could lay his head on one armrest and prop his calves on the other and he would fit just right, his shoes sticking out just far enough not to soil the fabric. Perfection.

Unfortunately, that wasn’t enough to afford him the bliss of a short pre-afternoon-lessons snooze that day.

There was a mosquito in the room. Midoriya had once told him (among the many, many diverse things that Midoriya regularly told him) that only people up to 25 years of age could hear mosquitoes fly, due to age-related loss of hearing range. This particular mosquito must have been aware and spiteful of that fact, because it was trying its damnedest to make its presence known regardless, mostly by bodily shoving itself right into Toshinori’s ears and nostrils at close intervals. Not that it even needed to, since Toshinori’s eardrums must have missed the physiology memo and were still perfectly capable of picking up the annoying buzzing even when the dastardly creature was frolicking on the opposite side of the room, instead of actively trying to penetrate his skull.

“Might Ears”, Nighteye had called it, with that utterly straight-faced humor of his that Toshinori had taken at least a whole year to learn to parse correctly. It was incredibly useful to track down trouble nearby and sometimes even far off, a naturally keen sense of hearing bordering on a proper sixth sense that had alerted him of many subtle crimes and undetected victims over the years. On the other hand, it was incredibly detrimental to his ability to rest. Every little sound, every distant voice, every sudden variation of the noise level of the environment caught Toshinori’s attention completely, setting him on edge until he’d grasped the exact nature of the disturbance, and made sure it wasn’t a threat to anyone’s safety. Sometimes it was hard enough to fall asleep at night at the overall quiet altitude of his Tokyo penthouse; it was often impossible to catch some shut-eye in the middle of the day in the country’s top ranking, bustling high school in Musutafu. Steps echoing in the corridors, youthful shouts, a vast assortment of quirk-related blasts and booms and thuds and thwacks, and of course-

“HEY, GUYS! WHAT’S UP?”

From several rooms and corridors over, Present Mic’s voice rang with all the discretion of a fire alarm, loud enough to make Toshinori flinch with his whole body. He rubbed his hands over his face with a low groan as he finally gave in and sat up. It was a lost cause. He scratched his head with a sigh as his eyes fell on the yellow sleeping bag curled up on the floor on the opposite side of the room.

“How do you do it…?” Toshinori mumbled, mostly to himself.

“Habit.” Was the unexpected, gruff reply. Ah, he hadn’t managed to sleep through that either then.

Aizawa had such an odd relationship with sleep. He always seemed to rest way too little and way too much at the same time. He likely had extremely poor sleep quality, for whatever reason. Or, as Midnight had once put it with her peculiar flair, he relentlessly courted Morpheus like a fervent suitor, but he never quite managed to consummate the act.

Toshinori chuckled. “I applaud your experience then. Is there a trick to spending more than ten years in close quarters with Mic without going completely deaf?”

“Earplugs and earmuffs. Try those.”

“Ah, they don’t do the trick for me, I’m afraid.” There was something that disturbed Toshinori on a very visceral level about being unable to hear things happening right under his nose. He simply couldn’t relax enough to doze off with the knowledge that someone might be passing right beside him, tinkering, working, existing, and he’d be none the wiser. He wouldn’t go as far as to call it paranoia, just… a deep-seated appreciation for situational awareness.

“Chokeholds then.”

Toshinori smirked. “His speaker protects him quite well against chokeholds, doesn’t it?”

“You smash it first. He doesn’t mind, he has spares.”

“Anything that doesn’t involve egregious property damage or bodily harm?”

“Too many caveats.” The bean-shaped, padded mass shifted with what Toshinori assumed was a shrug. “Nothing you can do about it then.”

Toshinori still felt a tad guilty taking up the couch all for himself when his coworker was huddled on the cold, hard floor few meters away from him, but Aizawa seemed to harbor a certain disdain for sofas anyway. On his second day at UA, Toshinori had pointed out (politely, as far as he was aware) to a sleepy Aizawa on the ground that the couch nearby was unoccupied, only for the other man to reply with an icy and laconic “I know” and proceed to remain exactly where he was for the next two hours. Toshinori hadn’t brought up the matter again.

“Pity.” Toshinori fixed his loosened tie and donned his jacket again. “I could have really used some extra energy today. Rescue training is going to be taxing for us both, I bet.”

Aizawa finally deigned to roll on his side to face Toshinori, and graced him with his fifth unimpressed glare of the day. “Go to the quiet room if you need your beauty sleep that badly.”

“The quiet room?” Toshinori looked up curiously as he finished buttoning up his suit.

“Has no one shown you yet?”

Toshinori shook his head negatively, clueless as to what the other man might be referring to. With a long-suffering sigh, Aizawa pulled down the zipper of his sleeping bag and started shuffling out of it with blatant reluctance.

“Oh please, don’t inconvenience yourself.” Toshinori objected, raising and showing his palms to reinforce his words. “You can tell me about it another time. I have some marking to catch up with anyway, I may as well take care of it now…”

“Mh.” Aizawa hesitated, weighing his options carefully. No doubt the prospect of Toshinori actually keeping up with his intended duties for once was an enticing one. In the end though, he shrugged and stood up. “Never mind that. The sooner someone shows you, the better.”

“Oh?”

“Teach a man to fish…” Aizawa elaborated as he folded his sleeping bag haphazardly and deposited it on the nearest chair. “...And maybe he’ll stop adding his moaning and groaning to all the background noise you’re trying to block.”

“Ah.” Toshinori couldn’t help but grimace. “My apologies, I didn’t mean to-”

“Come.” Aizawa walked out of the lounge without further ado, and Toshinori was left with no choice but to trail after him.

The Eraser Hero still puzzled Toshinori to a considerable degree. Luckily, their relationship wasn’t nearly as belligerent as their first interactions had made Toshinori fear. As it turned out, putting their own lives on the line to protect a whole class from a villain attack not even a week into the new school year was quite the effective icebreaker. They had proved their utmost dedication to the kids’ well-being without a shadow of a doubt, and they had earned each other’s lasting respect in the process.

Still, Toshinori wasn’t sure whether that meant that Aizawa had properly warmed up to him yet. Granted, his baseline level of interpersonal warmth was pretty chilly to begin with, if his habitually brusque behavior with Midnight and Mic, who’d apparently known him since high school, was of any indication. Any attempts at small talk on Toshinori’s part systematically fell flat, and any offers to help or ease his troubled recovery were met with just as much ill-concealed dislike as Toshinori himself would have probably had in similar circumstances.

Of all the possible activities that could have made for some sort of peaceful common ground between Aizawa and him, Toshinori never expected catnapping to be the one they’d end up somewhat bonding over. Normally, Toshinori wouldn’t even conceive of sleeping in the workplace, not even during the free periods between lessons and planning, no matter how exhausting keeping almost two dozen adolescents at bay for hours on end might be. He would consider it disrespectful towards his hard-working colleagues, and a frankly demeaning display of feebleness on his part. However, when an ostensibly healthy thirty-year-old teacher regularly spent the better part of his free time snoozing in the office, and all the rest of the staff treated that fact as if it was just part of the natural order of the universe, you couldn’t help but question your beliefs, in some measure.

The USJ debacle had forced Toshinori to change his stance on the topic drastically. Stuck with barely one hour and a half of muscle form per day, he simply couldn’t handle his pre-established workload. Aizawa and the other teachers had to step in and cover for him almost on a daily basis, and… Toshinori hated that, plain and simple. And as much as he loathed to admit it, putting up his feet and resting even for a little while throughout the day did afford him the ability to keep up appearances for a few more minutes during his lessons. And if power naps allowed him to do what he was supposed to do for a little longer, and a little better… then by God, for the sake of his students, he would swallow his pride and crash on the communal sofa like the decaying wreck he was. He owed those bright youths that much, at least.

Being co-teachers of the same subject for the same class, Toshinori’s and Aizawa’s free periods tended to match, so it wasn’t long before they ended up heading to the lounge for the same purpose. Surprisingly, after an initial threat of violent repercussions in case Toshinori snored (which he did not, thankfully, despite the less than optimal state of his airways), Aizawa hadn’t put up any resistance, hence their current arrangement.

Unfortunately Toshinori would soon discover that deciding to allow himself to enjoy a refreshing nap at the faculty did not translate to actually managing to enjoy a refreshing nap at the faculty.

Toshinori followed Aizawa down the stairs into the underground floor, where he’d been only once or twice before to retrieve some stocked office supplies. They stopped in front of a large, heavy metal door, the kind that, in Toshinori’s imagination, might lead into a vault or a cold storage room. However, when Aizawa swung it open, it was immediately obvious it was something different.

“Oh!” Toshinori gazed around the large area in awe as they stepped in. “I didn’t know we had an anechoic chamber!”

Toshinori had never been into one before, but he was familiar with the basic mechanics and rationale of its structure, courtesy of some passionate ramblings of Dave’s back in college. Hypnotic patterns of tridimensional geometry covered walls and ceiling, while the floor consisted of a metal grate suspended over an unassuming expanse of concrete. There were a small table, two plastic chairs, and a small recliner shoved all together next to one corner of the room.

“The hero course never really needs it, but we’ve had a couple of students over the years with sound-based quirks that found it useful.” Aizawa’s voice sounded very odd in that new environment, muffled and clear at the same time. It became harder to parse when Aizawa wasn’t facing him, so Toshinori stuck close to his side as the man walked to the sparse furniture.

“Was Mic one of these students?”

Aizawa shook his head. “It was built more recently. The support course requested it, they use it to run tests and try out new equipment. Still, it’s empty and available most of the time. It makes for a good napping spot on Mic’s high-energy days.”

“I see.” That definitely sounded like first-hand experience. Toshinori watched as Aizawa fetched the only item on the table, a little black remote, and held it in his palm for him to see.

“You can rearrange the layout of all surfaces as you see fit.” He tapped one of the buttons, and the wall to their left slowly started to recede deep into the earth, until it was far back enough for an entirely different wall, made of smooth concrete this time, to slide in its place from some unseen crevice. Aizawa proceeded to demonstrate the same process with the other walls and then the ceiling, until the entire room became basically one big box of concrete, and their voices echoed loudly in that wide emptiness if they raised them too much.

“This is pretty impressive.” Toshinori commented, feeling a little uneasy at the idea of taking advantage of such a refined technological asset for the sake of a short doze.

“This one turns the lights on and off.” Aizawa continued to illustrate each function by pointing at the respective buttons in a quick sequence. Toshinori had already decided he was going to fiddle with the controls as little as possible, to reduce the risk of accidentally damaging anything, but he paid close attention anyway. “These two control the room’s temperature. Air circulation. Emergency call-”

“Emergency call?”

“There have been malfunctions during equipment tests, and some people tend to find the full anechoic layout stressful. At any rate, it isn’t safe to leave potentially injured people trapped in a room where they have no hope of alerting outsiders unless they have a mobile on them.” Aizawa pointed at the entrance, unperturbed. “Same reason why there’s no lock on the door.”

“...Very good point.” Those were indeed wise precautions, Toshinori thought. A capable director could make one hell of a psychological thriller on such a striking premise.

“Hm, what else…?” Aizawa paused, scratching his chin thoughtfully. “Don’t touch the wedges. There’s fiberglass under the surface layer. It hurts.”

“I wouldn’t dream of it.” Toshinori tried not to bristle at the man’s condescending tone. Sure, it was good to know, but he wasn’t going to start poking and prodding at obviously delicate and probably costly gear like a nosy toddler sticking his fingers in a socket.

“Right. Have fun then.” Aizawa turned his back to him and moved to leave, having consumed more than his fair share of thoughtfulness for the day.

“Thank you for showing me around, I appreciate it.” Toshinori took care of adding, polite, ever polite, especially polite in the face of Aizawa’s perplexing brand of half-assed mockery. The day Toshinori would stoop down to respond in kind to win one battle would be the day he’d lose the war.

“Don’t hoard the place for yourself though.” Aizawa said as he closed the door behind him. “Lots of people use it.”

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Balancing Our Digital Life

Internet Addiction Disorder is defined as a behavioral addiction where a person suffers from a constant urge of using the internet. A widespread problem that we have at todays age.

The Importance of Avoiding Internet Addiction

In today's hyper-connected world, the allure of the internet is undeniable. It serves as a gateway to a wealth of information, entertainment, and social connectivity. However, beneath the surface of its immense benefits lies a potential pitfall—internet addiction.

The term 'addiction' often conjures images of substance abuse, but in the digital era, addiction to the internet is a real and pressing concern. Why should we actively work to avoid falling into its grasp?

1. Preserving Mental Health

Internet addiction can adversely affect mental health. Excessive screen time, constant notifications, and the pressure to stay digitally connected can contribute to heightened stress, anxiety, and even depression. It's essential to recognize when our online habits begin to impact our mental well-being negatively.

2. Fostering Genuine Connections

While the internet facilitates connections across vast distances, excessive reliance on it can erode real-life relationships. Engaging meaningfully with loved ones offline is crucial for nurturing genuine connections and emotional intimacy.

3. Reclaiming Time for Personal Growth

Countless hours spent scrolling through feeds or engaging in mindless browsing detract from investing time in personal growth. Avoiding internet addiction allows us to channel our energy into hobbies, learning new skills, or pursuing passions that enrich our lives.

4. Cultivating Mindfulness and Presence

Constant connectivity often hampers our ability to be present in the moment. By avoiding excessive internet usage, we can cultivate mindfulness, focusing on the experiences and interactions that unfold in our immediate surroundings.

5. Protecting Physical Health

Extended screen time can lead to sedentary lifestyles, contributing to various health issues such as eye strain, disrupted sleep patterns, and even musculoskeletal problems. Balancing screen time with physical activities is crucial for overall health.

6. Preserving Privacy and Security

An addiction to the internet might lead to oversharing personal information or falling victim to online scams and privacy breaches. Maintaining a balanced approach to online interactions helps safeguard personal privacy and digital security.

In conclusion, while the internet is an invaluable tool, it's essential to approach its usage mindfully. Avoiding internet addiction isn't about rejecting technology but about embracing a balanced digital lifestyle that prioritizes mental well-being, authentic connections, personal growth, and security. Join us on this journey to harness the internet's benefits while steering clear of its potential pitfalls.

Detrimental Impacts of Internet Addiction

Internet addiction, though often overlooked, can have profound and detrimental effects on various aspects of our lives. Here are some of the significant negative impacts:

1. Mental Health Challenges

Internet addiction can significantly impact mental health. Excessive screen time and constant online engagement have been linked to increased stress, anxiety, and depression. The pressure to stay connected and the fear of missing out (FOMO) can lead to heightened feelings of inadequacy and isolation.

2. Disrupted Sleep Patterns

The blue light emitted by screens can interfere with the body's natural sleep cycle. Late-night browsing or compulsive use of devices before bedtime can disrupt sleep patterns, leading to insomnia and poor quality of rest. This lack of adequate sleep further exacerbates mental health issues and negatively affects overall well-being.

3. Physical Health Concerns

Extended screen time often leads to a sedentary lifestyle, contributing to health problems like obesity, cardiovascular issues, and musculoskeletal disorders. The lack of physical activity coupled with prolonged periods of sitting in front of screens poses a significant risk to our physical health.

4. Strained Relationships

Internet addiction can strain personal relationships. Excessive time spent online can lead to neglect of family and friends, causing a disconnect in real-life interactions. It may lead to conflicts, misunderstandings, and a general erosion of the quality of personal connections.

5. Reduced Productivity

Constant distractions from notifications, emails, and social media updates can severely impact productivity. The inability to focus or sustain attention due to a constant need to check online platforms hampers work efficiency and effectiveness.

6. Risk of Addiction Transfer

Internet addiction can sometimes lead to the transfer of addictive behaviors. When one medium or platform loses its novelty, individuals might seek out other forms of addiction, such as excessive gaming or compulsive shopping, further impacting their lives negatively.

7. Privacy and Security Risks

An addiction to the internet might lead to oversharing personal information or falling victim to online scams and privacy breaches. Excessive reliance on online platforms without caution can compromise personal privacy and digital security.

While the internet offers unparalleled connectivity and information, excessive and uncontrolled usage can have severe consequences on mental and physical health, relationships, productivity, and overall well-being. Understanding these negative effects is crucial in recognizing the importance of a balanced and mindful approach to our online interactions.

"Knowing 'how much is too much' when it comes to online engagement involves a personalized assessment. It's recognizing when digital activities impede our mental health, physical well-being, relationships, and productivity. The limit is reached when our online presence overshadows the richness of offline experiences, hindering our ability to live authentically and be present in the moment. Achieving a balanced digital life entails setting boundaries that allow technology to enrich rather than dominate our lives, fostering a harmony between online and offline worlds."

Why Limit Chronic Online Activities?

Limiting chronic online activities is crucial for several reasons, and there are various strategies to achieve a healthier balance. Here's why and how you should consider restricting excessive online engagement:

Preserving Mental Well-being: Chronic online activities often lead to information overload, increased stress, and anxiety. Limiting screen time allows for mental rejuvenation and a break from the constant influx of information.

Improving Physical Health: Excessive screen time contributes to a sedentary lifestyle, impacting physical health. Reducing chronic online activities creates space for physical activities, reducing the risk of health issues associated with prolonged sitting.

Enhancing Relationships: Chronic internet use can strain relationships by diverting attention away from meaningful interactions. Limiting online activities allows for more quality time spent with loved ones, fostering deeper connections.

Boosting Productivity: Chronic online engagement leads to distractions, reducing productivity. Setting limits helps in focusing on tasks without interruptions, leading to improved efficiency.

How to Limit Chronic Online Activities:

Set Clear Boundaries: Establish specific timeframes for internet use. Designate certain hours for browsing, social media, or work-related tasks, and strictly adhere to these boundaries.

Utilize Technology Tools: Use apps or features that help in managing screen time. Set timers, utilize app blockers, or enable "Do Not Disturb" modes to limit notifications during designated offline periods.

Create Tech-Free Zones: Designate certain areas (like bedrooms or dining spaces) as tech-free zones to disconnect and unwind without the temptation of screens.

Engage in Offline Activities: Cultivate hobbies or activities that don’t involve screens, such as reading physical books, exercising, gardening, or pursuing creative endeavors.

Practice Mindfulness: Be mindful of your online behaviors. Regularly assess your digital habits and their impact on your well-being. Mindfulness helps in recognizing when to disconnect and focus on the present moment.

Prioritize Sleep Hygiene: Set a digital curfew by avoiding screens an hour or more before bedtime to promote better sleep quality.

Communicate Your Limits: Inform friends, family, or colleagues about your intentions to limit online activities. Establish clear communication about when you're available and when you're offline.

Seek Support: If internet addiction feels overwhelming, seek support from mental health professionals or join support groups focused on managing digital habits.

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Stress Management: Nurturing a Calm and Balanced Life

Introduction

In our fast-paced and demanding modern world, stress has become an inevitable part of our lives. Whether it's due to work pressures, personal challenges, or the constant bombardment of information, stress can take a toll on our physical and mental well-being. However, by adopting effective stress management techniques, we can regain control, cultivate resilience, and lead a more balanced and fulfilling life. In this blog post, we will explore practical strategies to manage stress and nurture a calm and balanced state of being.

Understanding Stress

To effectively manage stress, it's important to understand its nature and impact on our lives. Stress is the body's natural response to perceived threats or challenges. While a certain level of stress can be beneficial, chronic stress can have detrimental effects on our health, relationships, and overall quality of life. It's crucial to recognize the signs of stress, which can manifest in physical symptoms such as headaches, fatigue, or muscle tension, as well as emotional symptoms like irritability, anxiety, or depression.

Mindfulness and Meditation

One powerful tool for stress management is mindfulness, the practice of being fully present and aware of the present moment without judgment. By cultivating mindfulness, we can enhance our ability to manage stress and reduce its impact on our lives. Meditation, a key component of mindfulness, helps us develop a sense of inner calm and resilience. Regular meditation practice can promote relaxation, improve focus, and create a sense of overall well-being. Even a few minutes of mindful breathing or guided meditation each day can make a significant difference in our stress levels.

Physical Exercise and Stress Relief

Engaging in regular physical exercise is not only beneficial for our physical health but also plays a vital role in managing stress. Exercise releases endorphins, the brain's feel-good chemicals, which can elevate our mood and reduce stress levels. Whether it's going for a brisk walk, practicing yoga, or participating in a team sport, finding an exercise routine that suits our preferences can be a great stress-reliever. Additionally, physical activity helps to improve sleep quality, boost self-confidence, and increase overall resilience to stress.

Effective Time Management

One common source of stress is feeling overwhelmed by an endless to-do list and a lack of time. Developing effective time management skills can help alleviate stress and create a greater sense of control over our lives. Start by prioritizing tasks, breaking them down into smaller, manageable steps, and creating a schedule or to-do list. Delegate tasks when possible and learn to say no to unnecessary commitments. By setting realistic goals and establishing healthy boundaries, we can reduce stress levels and improve our productivity.

Social Support and Connection

Maintaining strong social connections and seeking support from loved ones can be a significant buffer against stress. Share your thoughts and concerns with trusted friends or family members who can provide a listening ear and offer valuable advice. Engaging in meaningful conversations, participating in social activities, and fostering healthy relationships can boost our sense of belonging and resilience in the face of stress. Joining support groups or seeking professional help when needed can also provide invaluable assistance during challenging times.

Self-Care and Relaxation Techniques

Taking care of ourselves is essential for managing stress. Engaging in self-care activities can replenish our energy levels and promote relaxation. Experiment with different techniques such as deep breathing exercises, taking a warm bath, practicing journaling or creative activities, listening to calming music, or enjoying a hobby you love. Finding activities that bring you joy and help you unwind can significantly reduce stress levels and improve your overall well-being.

Cultivating a Positive Mindset

Our mindset plays a crucial role in how we perceive and manage stress. Adopting a positive and optimistic outlook can help us navigate challenging situations with resilience and creativity. Practice gratitude by regularly acknowledging and appreciating the positive aspects of your life. Replace negative self-talk with self-compassion and focus on your strengths and achievements. By reframing stressful situations as opportunities for growth and learning, we can reduce their impact on our well-being.

Conclusion

Stress is an inevitable part of life, but we have the power to manage it effectively and lead a more balanced existence. By incorporating mindfulness, engaging in regular physical exercise, practicing effective time management, seeking social support, and prioritizing self-care, we can create a strong foundation for stress management. Remember, it's essential to find what works best for you and make these practices a part of your daily routine. By nurturing a calm and balanced life, you can regain control, enhance your well-being, and face life's challenges with resilience and serenity.

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aussenskin · 1 year

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The Impact of Stress on Your Skin: Understanding and Managing the Effects

Stress and Its Effect on Sensitive Skin

Stress is an unavoidable part of life, and its impact on our overall health and well-being is well-documented. However, what many people don't realize is that stress can also wreak havoc on our skin, particularly for women aged 30 to 50 with sensitive skin or a history of skin issues like dermatitis or skin cancer. In this blog post, we will delve into the ways in which stress affects your skin and discuss effective strategies to manage and minimize its adverse effects.

Understanding the Relationship Between Stress and Skin

When we experience stress, whether it's due to work, relationships, or other factors, our bodies respond by releasing a hormone called cortisol. Elevated levels of cortisol can have detrimental effects on the skin, leading to a range of skin issues. Here are a few ways stress can manifest itself on your skin:

Acne Breakouts: Stress triggers the production of excess oil in your skin, which can clog pores and result in acne breakouts. Additionally, stress can worsen existing acne conditions, making it difficult for your skin to heal.

Sensitive Skin: Stress compromises the skin's natural barrier function, making it more susceptible to irritation, redness, and itching. For women with sensitive skin or a history of skin issues, this can exacerbate existing conditions and trigger flare-ups.

Premature Aging: Chronic stress accelerates the aging process by promoting the production of free radicals, which damage collagen and elastin fibers responsible for maintaining skin elasticity. This can lead to the appearance of fine lines, wrinkles, and dull-looking skin.

Skin Sensitization: Stress weakens the skin's immune system, making it more reactive to external factors such as allergens, pollutants, and UV radiation. This can heighten the risk of developing conditions like dermatitis and eczema or aggravate existing skin sensitivities.

Managing Stress and Nurturing Your Skin

While eliminating stress from our lives completely may be impossible, there are effective strategies to manage stress and protect your skin from its harmful effects. Here are some actionable steps you can take:

Practice Stress-Reduction Techniques: Engage in activities that promote relaxation and help reduce stress levels. Regular exercise, deep breathing exercises, meditation, and yoga are proven methods to manage stress and promote overall well-being.

Establish a Skincare Routine: Develop a skincare routine tailored to your skin type and concerns. Look for gentle, fragrance-free products formulated for sensitive skin. Opt for skincare products that contain soothing ingredients like aloe vera, chamomile, or oat extract, which can help calm and nourish your skin.

Prioritize Sleep and Rest: Getting enough quality sleep is crucial for your skin's health and overall rejuvenation. Establish a regular sleep schedule, create a comfortable sleep environment, and practice good sleep hygiene to ensure you're well-rested.

Healthy Lifestyle Choices: Maintain a well-balanced diet rich in antioxidants, vitamins, and minerals to support your skin's health. Stay hydrated, limit caffeine and alcohol intake, and avoid smoking, as these habits can exacerbate the negative effects of stress on your skin.

Seek Professional Help: If you're struggling with chronic stress or experiencing severe skin issues, it's essential to consult a dermatologist or a healthcare professional. They can provide personalized guidance, prescribe suitable skincare treatments, or recommend stress management techniques tailored to your needs.

Stress can take a toll on your skin, particularly if you have sensitive skin or a history of skin issues. By understanding the relationship between stress and your skin, you can take proactive steps.

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hexagirl · 1 year

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uta hagen's nine questions (or, finding myself in a school assignment)

1. Who am I?

I am a young woman whose sense of identity is still forming, trying very hard to be open-minded about my own existence. I impose too restrictive expectations for myself.

2. What time is it?

It's about 8pm on January 17th, 2023. Everyone thinks the pandemic is over, but it's not. Trans rights are under seige in the south and midwest. Congress is on like, round eleven of trying to elect a Republican party leader. Outside my window, the air is bitter and chilled. I flew opposite the sun today, so there is no light when I land in Boston.

3. Where am I?

My south campus dorm at university. I'm sitting on my bed—all of the other seating in my room (the desk chair, the arm chair in the corner) is covered in strewn luggage. I left in a rush back in December. The mess remains. I can see the photonics center, the middle school, and the GSU through my window, all stacked against each other like a painting. A study in perspective, or depth. A light yellow glow washes the edges of the buildings' windows.

4. What surrounds me?

As I said, lots of luggage. My bed is stripped of sheets, and a dollar store foam pad sits astray, leaning off the side of the mattress. My rug is kicked up slightly, and a few of the magnets on my Microfridge are on the ground. My cassette radio sits on my window sill, and it sings out Fleetwood Mac through buzzing static.

5. What are the given circumstances?

I am back at college after a tumultuous winter break. I've been awake and travelling since 4am pacific standard time. I've left my mother and her recently diagnosed malignant tumor in the care of my grandfather. For the first time in weeks, I am alone with my thoughts.

6. What is my relationship?

To my mother: generally positive, as much as a relationship between a mother and daughter can be. She's a single mom, and this is the first time I've had to take care of her. I am still reeling a little bit from the role reversal.

To college: I am returning with my name tagged with "academic probation" after a semester of hardship. A few years ago this would've broken me, but now I do not define myself or my worth by my academic success. Maybe that is to my detriment.

7. What do I want?

For it to be easy. I want to do things without stipulation, accomplish tasks without a heavy weight around my neck dragging me back into the comfort of dissociation. I want to do something great, something that is better than everything else in its class.

(Main objective: to rest after a long day)

(Immediate objective: catch my breath after climbing up five flights of stairs with 60 pounds of luggage.)

8. What's in my way?

A distinct lack of specific neurotransmitters, and a crippling fear that whatever I make will not be good enough. My body is not as strong as I wish it was. My room is messy and when I look at it, I am only reminded of another failure. It triggers a constant loop: I will have work to do tomorrow. I will have work to do tomorrow. I will have work to do tomorrow.

9. What do I do to get what I want?

I close my eyes. I lose myself in Stevie Nicks' voice, and when the song ends, I lose myself in The Cure. In the darkness, I let myself forget that tomorrow will bring a laundry list of tasks. I tell myself that I am not doing the tasks tonight, and worrying about them will not make them go away. I run my fingers along the raw foam and think briefly that this is not how people are supposed to sleep. I let that be true.

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alusa12 · 2 months

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Exploring the Link Between Massage Therapy and Stress Reduction

Introduction:

Understanding Stress: The Silent Epidemic

The Therapeutic Power of Touch: How Massage Therapy Works

Scientific Evidence: What the Research Says

Practical Tips for Incorporating Massage Therapy into Your Wellness Routine

If you're interested in exploring the benefits of massage therapy for stress reduction, here are some practical tips to help you get started:

Find a qualified massage therapist: Look for a licensed massage therapist with experience in techniques that suit your needs and preferences.

Communicate your goals: Before your massage session, communicate your goals and any areas of concern with your therapist to ensure they can tailor the treatment to meet your needs.

Schedule regular sessions: Consistency is key when it comes to reaping the benefits of massage therapy for stress reduction. Aim to schedule regular sessions to maintain the effects over time.

Listen to your body: Pay attention to how your body responds to massage therapy and adjust your sessions accordingly. If you experience discomfort or pain during a session, communicate with your therapist to ensure they can adapt the treatment to your comfort level.

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brookmindfulpsychotherapy · 1 year

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Mindfulness & Psychotherapy! Interesting Science-Based Benefits of Psychotherapy

Psychotherapy is commonly recommended for the treatment of depression and/or anxiety; it can also help people with addictions, PTSD, existential issues, phobias, grief, life transitions, bipolar disorder, marriage or family issues, or even those who simply struggle to cope with everyday life. Psychotherapy can do much more than just treat debilitating or negative issues. Because psychotherapy centers largely around self-exploration, it can be highly useful for people seeking to improve themselves and know themselves better, those wanting help reaching their goals, and those who simply want to live a life free from harmful habits and past conditioning.

In a time when contemporary medicine seems overly eager to prescribe a pill for every ailment, the growing popularity of psychotherapy stands as an outstanding exception as a considerable mental health treatment. Psychotherapy (also called “talk therapy”) involves speaking with an intellectual health expert in a series of classes as an alternative, or in praise, to remedy. Even though a few have doubted its effectiveness, studies suggest that a minimum of 75 percent of those who go through psychotherapy record some benefit from it. Irrespective of what may spark you too to be searching for psychotherapy, allow’s to speak about a number of the maximum commonly suggested benefits of this treatment. Please go here to this link https://brooklynmindful.com/about/ and know more about Mindfulness And Psychotherapy.

Improves Your Overall Health: Everyone knows that stress and frustration can be a detriment to your mental health. But not many people realize the physical toll that it causes on your body as well. If your stress continues to build, it can lead to severe health conditions later in life. Studies have shown stress to be connected to issues such as heart disease, Alzheimer’s disease, asthma, gastrointestinal (digestive) disorders, and much more. Psychotherapy can help you find different ways to not only talk through your ongoing stress but find better practices for handling them in your everyday life.

You Find Help To Overcome Depression: Across the world, depression is the most common mental condition that people experience. In most cases, depression manifests as chronic misery that keeps a person from living a quality life. The main signs of depression are appetite changes, sleep problems, apathy, and guilt feelings. During treatment, a psychotherapist provides patients with a private and comfortable setting to heal. The therapist then works with individual patients to examine the cause of their concerns and explore potential solutions. The main benefit that depressed individuals get from seeing a psychotherapist is that they develop a new way of thinking and reacting to their situations.

Help Build Meaningful Relationships: Mental illness has a way of isolating us. Many people suffering even from mild forms of anxiety, depression or other disorders often report having difficulty maintaining healthy relationships with friends, family members and significant others. It makes sense because when we are dysfunctional internally, we struggle to relate to others externally. Psychotherapy can help identify and correct the areas of dysfunctionality in our inner life as well as our external relationships, opening up the opportunity to mend broken relationships or to begin to establish new, healthier ones.

You Learn More About Yourself: As you navigate through life, you naturally create stories. Seeing a psychotherapist can enhance your awareness of these stories as the therapist helps you explore your coping mechanisms. For instance, you may realize that you accommodate other people more than yourself. Often, this coping mechanism involves pleasing other people. Individuals who adopt this coping strategy tend to base their value on what other people think about them. As a result, they lose sight of their own needs and sacrifice themselves in the process.

You Get Treatment For Obsessions And Compulsions: Another benefit of seeing a psychotherapist is that you get treatment for obsessive and compulsive behaviors. In general terms, obsessions are unwanted thoughts that persist in an individual’s mind. Often, these thoughts get fixated on a specific goal or topic. On the other hand, compulsions are irrational behaviors that an individual repeats because they feel they must engage in them. In most instances, people engage in compulsions to relieve the stress caused by obsessions. In treating obsessions and compulsions, psychotherapists help patients to examine their behaviors objectively. They help unearth patients’ negative thought patterns, then provide them with productive alternatives to their behavior. With consistent help, patients can break their distress cycle.

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Leadership in the Zone – How to Fully Engage Mentally

Being a fully engaged leader takes focus on the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual aspects of our lives. As you saw in my last posts, I do well with the physical aspects. However, I’d give myself a B on the mental aspect; I can be easily distracted at times, especially when procrastinating on a project. When this happens, I have to consciously slow myself down to focus on the task at hand.

Mental energy is the energy of laser focus. It’s hallmark quality in humans is the capacity to be fully present. Not just physically present, but cognitively present as well. The Corporate Athlete® course by the Human Performance Institute teaches that full engagement requires complete presence, investing our full and best energy, right here, right now. The good news is that this ability can be acquired.

I’ve invited expert Tom Ward, founder, and principal of NextLevel, to help me explain the importance of mental energy and how to improve it.

Does Multitasking Work?

Have you ever tried carrying on a meaningful conversation with your significant other, child, or best friend while watching TV? Were either of you distracted by the TV? Did either of you become annoyed by the other’s distraction by the TV? In this situation, what are you saying to the other person when you become distracted by the TV? That the TV program is more important than the conversation and/or the person you are conversing with?

One cardinal rule regarding multitasking is: don’t multitask when people, safety, or important matters are at hand. Relationships and outcomes both improve when we focus our attention on one thing at a time. Yet, as we all know, multitasking isn’t always detrimental. For example, folding laundry while watching TV seems just fine. The key is to train ourselves to know when it’s not okay.

How to Become More Focused

What are some effective techniques for cultivating greater presence and focus?

High on the list are meditation, journaling, visualization, and yoga. If you’ve never tried meditating, you might be surprised by its coincident ease and difficulty.

Using Meditation to Become More Focused

Let’s start with meditation. Here is what Tom Ward has to say about using meditation to become more focused:

Try the following. In a quiet room, sit comfortably in a straight-backed chair. Close by, set a kitchen or smartphone timer for three minutes. With your feet on the floor and hands in your lap, start the timer and gently close your eyes. Bring your attention to your breath. Observe your breath as you inhale and exhale. Don’t attempt to manage your breathing; simply observe it. When your attention wanders from concentrating on your breathing (and it will), simply acknowledge that it has wandered and gently return your attention to it once again. When the timer goes off, open your eyes, and answer these questions:

· What did it feel like to meditate?

· Was it easy or difficult?

· How many times did your attention wander from your breath?

· Was it easy to return your attention to your breath?

I’ve been meditating off and on for many years, and sometimes I find that my concentration just wanders more than normal. And, it’s not always easy for me to return my attention to the ebb and flow of my normal breathing. Darned monkey mind!

As challenging as meditation can be at times, I find it particularly helpful in calming my mind and body. I’m more focused, sleep better and feel more alert when I wake. Another bonus I’ve discovered is that my workouts tend to be better when I’ve meditated earlier in the day.

Using Journaling to Become More Focused

Journaling can also help you stay focused because it helps you release the chatter from your brain. While journaling can mean writing for 20 minutes at a time on a regular basis, that may be too much for busy leaders who are learning this skill. Here are some ideas to clear your mind if journaling is new for you:

· When you feel your mind getting full, grab paper and pen or pencil and just write down everything on your mind (research indicates writing with a pen/pencil tends to make the thoughts written more “real” by engaging multiple areas of the brain simultaneously). This brain dump then helps clear your mind so you can focus on the task at hand. Once the task is complete, then go back and sort the brain dump into your priority lists for the next week.

· If words are not your preferred choice of expression, doodle or draw pictures on paper or a tablet instead. This is known as a visual brain dump. If you find yourself enjoying this, then get some markers, sharpies, and other colorful tools to help you clear your brain regularly.

· If you’re a hands-on person, Tubers and Zots and Legos are fun ways to clear your head while physically engaging your hands. It is also a great way to engage others in the office kitchen or community room. People love to pick these things up and mindlessly play with them as a way to give their brain a break!

· Are you a musical person? Then use musical apps or tools to clear your mind.

Go ahead and try any and all of these tools at your own pace. The goal is not to become overwhelmed with focus exercises; that will only lead to more distraction, and an even longer to-do list. Instead, find the best tool for clearing your mind, and practice it regularly to build your skills at staying present and focused.

Remember, the key to being fully engaged mentally is learning to manage your mental energy. Doing one thing at a time is a great start. Cultivating a skill to calm the mind on a regular basis will help you engage your full leadership.

Next week, we will discuss managing spiritual energy, which is fed by our physical, emotional, and mental energy sources. Your spiritual energy will give you the force you need to live and lead the life you want.

In the meantime, have you had success with meditation, journaling, or yoga? Is there an activity you can point to that has made a drastic improvement in your ability to remain focused?

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Flower of Eden. Yan Albedo x Reader

Warnings: Yandere themes, kidnapping, isolation, and unhealthy relationships. Word count: 1.5k.

This piece is more stubborn than the others.

Maybe it’s fatigue finally settling in like fog on a humid summer morning, the brick hearth’s warm glow and faint crackling creating a comfortable atmosphere. You think you may have accidentally dozed off a handful of times which certainly didn’t help. Albedo once explained the detriments of oversleeping, not that you cared to listen attentively, but some information had found its way into your subconscious. Writing off your current circumstance as merely being tired is a theory with too many holes. The more you dwell on it, your hand lowering to put the troublesome puzzle piece down, the truth becomes louder and less fuzzy.

You’re bored.

The half-finished puzzle set atop the wooden coffee table mocks you with its incomplete appearance. What you once looked forward to finishing loses favor in your eyes, the longer you stare at the fragmented landscape, the more discontent you grow. Sighing, you lean back into the plush couch and stretch. What else was there to do? Albedo’s study had enough books to span multiple lifetimes, but the contents were filled to the brim with scientific jargon; reading it only gave you a severe headache. Dinner had been made so you wouldn’t be permitted to use the kitchen. That left going to bed, where ironically enough, sleep never came despite how tired you felt when crawling underneath the pristine sheets. There is one other option… your least favorite of them all.

Conversing with your notably quiet captor.

“Hey,” your voice is meek as a mouse, to which you clear your throat in hopes of fixing. Albedo’s otherworldly eyes shift from the text in his hands to you, though he gives no other indication that he heard your sudden declaration. You just knew from personal experience that this meant he was now paying attention to you.

His heavy gaze has your throat tightening, but words still manage to squeeze out. “Mind giving me a hint?”

Albedo shifts his focus from the jagged piece in your hand to the puzzle you’ve been working on for hours.

“I thought you preferred I didn’t lend my input,” is his matter-of-fact response. If such a statement came from anyone else, you’d think they were patronizing you, yet that’s not how Albedo is. This isn’t an ‘I told you so’ moment. Rather, he’s taking the utmost caution to avoid setting you off, which admittedly does not take a whole lot. How thoughtful of him, you sarcastically think.

“I’d normally agree with you, but I’ve been staring at this for…” you trail off, unable to guess the approximate time.

Albedo glances at a clock on the wall. “Thirty minutes.”

Ah, so he was keeping an eye on you, even if you thought he was too busy reading. Why are you not surprised?

“For thirty minutes,” you repeat, nudging the piece into his hand as further encouragement. “You don’t want me to get eye damage, do you? I just might if I stare any longer.”

His gloved fingers brush over your bare skin when he takes the piece, lingering for a second longer than truly necessary. “That wouldn’t be enough to severely damage your eyesight.”

“How reassuring.”

It doesn’t take but a brief glance for Albedo to put the piece in its proper place. Maybe this is why he gives you so many puzzles to fill your time with, it must be more enjoyable when you can immediately know where everything is supposed to go. You don’t allow him to return to his leatherback book by ushering another piece into his still outstretched hand.

Albedo blinks at your uncharacteristically involved behavior, searching for something in your body language that isn’t there. “This one as well?”

You nod, to which he wastes no time putting the piece where it needs to be, no longer having to stop and think now that he’s familiarized himself with the puzzle. Thus begins the repeating cycle that lasts a few minutes. You hand him the remaining pieces and he immediately connects them to the rest. It’s somewhat pleasing to see the intended picture growing closer to completion, you must admit.

“I’ve been thinking,” you start, all the while continuing the mindless task from before. “If I were to break down the door and run as fast as I could, how long do you think I’d make it?”

Albedo hums, a sound common for when he’s musing, but not in deep thought. “In your current outfit, it’d take no less than ten minutes for fatal hypothermia to set in.”

“Could I make it to the base of the mountain in less than that?”

You have no idea what spurred you on to explore potential escape ideas with the man keeping you here, but Albedo has never been a normal individual. If anything, you get the sense he finds your questions amusing, maybe thinking that answering honestly will deter any reckless attempts. As long as he doesn’t give you that look, you’re probably in the clear. He rarely shuts down any conversation you grace him with.

“Unless you possess abilities I’m unaware of,” he takes the next piece from your outstretched hand, “Then no, it would not be possible.”

He thinks for a moment, and adds, “Or advisable.”

And there’s the warning look. That came faster than you anticipated, best move on to a different conversation topic before you regret it.

“I’m talking in hypotheticals right now, don’t worry.”

Another bout of silence settles in the living room. This might be the most you’ve ever willingly spoken to Albedo, you realize. Is cabin fever starting to wear your resolve down? You dearly miss having others to talk to, no matter how annoying certain people used to be, anything would be preferable to this. The everlasting quiet does get eerie after a while. When you were first captured and brought here, you tried giving Albedo the silent treatment, until you realized it felt more like a punishment for yourself than for him. Nothing you did or said ever got under his skin. He was so in control of himself, you sometimes wondered if he was made of flesh and blood like you.

Albedo’s staring at you somewhat expectedly, and that’s when you realize you stopped handing him the scattered puzzle pieces. You resume the pace from before, but not without a comment somehow slipping through the cracks. “I used to admire you, y’know.”

It was brief — ever so brief that if you blinked you would have missed it — but the alchemist’s every muscle froze. That was a statement you had never uttered or hinted at before. He regains himself without problem, though you notice his gaze is now set entirely on you rather than the table. His silence means he’s urging you to continue, and you do, despite not knowing if you should.

The floodgates of truth come pouring out.

“No one in Mondstadt knew much about the mysterious knight’s Chief Alchemist,” you smile softly, heart twinging with melancholic recollections of the distant past. “Other than a few rumors here and there, that is. Some favorable, some not so much. I never believed the ones that weren’t.”

Your fingers twitch. “I thought… I thought it was a blessing that you decided to come and help Mondstadt, of all the nations in Teyvat. Surely, there could have been better places for a man with your intelligence, yet you lent your mind to my home.”

Those seemingly omnipotent eyes of his bore into you, holding no emotion that you could hope to recognize, only baring your forlorn expression in its reflection. Looking down, you realize your hand is trembling too much to properly grasp the remaining puzzle pieces. It feels like you’ve been doused with a bucket of icy cold water, submerging you in reality and pulling you back from mundane complacency. He reaches out — whether it was to comfort you or for something else — but hesitates when you flinch.

“Why did you have to do this to me?” You whisper, the question has haunted you for long enough.

His long eyelashes flutter shut. “What I want from you is more than admiration.”

The way he can respond to such a heart-wrenching display without missing a beat is commendable, you’ll give him that much. A sigh leaves your lips. You should’ve known better than to try and procure a reaction from him, such a thing simply isn’t possible, all you had managed to do was work yourself up. It feels humiliating to bear your soul only for the other party present to remain unmoved.

“Well, whatever it is that you want,” you wipe at the corner of your eyes with more force than necessary, “Know that I’ll never give it.”

To say you were surprised to see the infamously composed Albedo smile was an understatement. It was a sight you would never manage to scrub from your mind, so uncanny in its appearance that you wanted nothing more than to look away, but your body refused to heed your command to look away.

“You already have.”

#albedo x reader #yandere albedo x reader #albedo genshin impact #albedo #yandere #yandere x reader #genshin impact #genshin impact x reader #yandere genshin impact #genshin impact imagine

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misterfantastic · 2 years

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Reed Richards is autistic. This manifests in:

The way he understands and fails to understand those around him; Reed feels emotions extremely intensely and reacts to them, emotionally, on an extreme level. When someone else’s response doesn’t outwardly line up with what Reed feels, he misinterprets their reaction as failing to feel the same thing he did.

Incredibly focused attention on certain topics as they pique his interest - space travel, multiversal theoretics, mathematics, teleportation sciences, etc.

Impaired ability to regulate sleeping patterns. He doesn’t recognise well when he’s getting overtired or working too hard. He will continue working on his projects until he cannot muster the energy to even hold a pencil.

Stimming, frequently. He will constantly seek something to do with his hands.

Texture aversions. He has made the vast majority of his wardrobe with materials similar to or partially or entirely made of unstable molecule fabrics. The smooth, cool, non-itchy feel of that fabric he’s invented is soothing and comforting, versus wool or cotton which has textural irregularities that impair his ability to focus on anything but how his clothes are sitting on his body.

Extreme fondness for certain words and phrases - Fantastic is an excellent example of this. He uses it almost any chance he gets. Occasionally he will engage in vocal stimulations of similar words, but this is rarer for him than physical stimming.

A deficit in language comprehension. Despite his intense skill in noticing and reconstructing patterns in human behaviour, Reed has a horrid ability to pick up on differing phrases, be they in English or another language, unless he has a specific, preoccupying reason to be invested in such a phrase or language. See His ability to pick up Latverian vocabulary and idioms due mostly to his intense focus on Victor.

Poor impulse control- When presented with an interesting idea, he will drop everything he’s doing, often to the detriment of familial and platonic relationships to chase that idea and identify the maths and science behind it. On more than one occasion this has put stress on his marriage and friendships.

As a child, playing “make-believe” was simply not something he was capable of engaging in. If he could not have hands-on and visual input from an idea, he was not capable of processing it. He just so happens to have had the ability and resources to bring many of his ideas into reality.

Changes to his environment or routine devastate him immensely. He does not handle them well at all and is prone to shutting down or retreating into something familiar, such as his lab, in order to remove himself and process the change if not completely ignore it and hope it goes away.

When confronted with a problem, he fails to understand that others can be of potential assistance in its solution. He doesn’t always register that another person will see the problem in the same light that he does, and will go to great lengths to fix it himself before attempting to let anyone else know there ever was a problem in the first place. Occasionally, this is OK, but it very often leads to disaster. (See: The entire Hickman run/Council of Reeds/Solve Everything arc.)

If interrupted, either by intrusion to his workplace, sudden changes in light or sound, he can easily break out of his ability to focus. See: Do not Disturb signs over entrances to his lab, utter lack of windows and very few sources of sound. He keeps very tight control of his safe place in order to keep it an environment he can actually work in.

#for reference; mun is autistic #reed and i share many of these traits albeit to different levels

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krappykawa · 4 years

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ಌ i mildly like you more than like (p.1)

— in which an incessant fan girl, a kiss, and a little bit of denial makes oikawa tooru realize he might mildly like you more than like

description. you’ve been in love with oikawa tooru for longer than you can remember. having known him for the better part of nearly 11 years, you’ve come to accept that you’ll never be more than a best friend to him. but with the help of a few irritatingly persistent fangirls and a kiss that was only meant to drive them away, a tale of unrequited love might just prove to be something more.

warnings. language

word count. 4.2k

oikawa tooru x f!reader, childhood best friends to lovers, fluff, some angst

parts. 1 | 2 | 3 | 4 | 5 | 6

author’s note. i started writing this a few weeks ago and it was originally just going to be a one-shot but it got almost up to 10k words so i just decided to split it up HHSKFJ

Oikawa Tooru has perhaps one of the strongest drives when it comes to hard work.

His tenacity is a thing of nature, something that awes you time and time again, no matter how many times you’ve seen him pick himself up before. It might be one of the reasons you fell in love with him in the first place.

But despite how in-tune he is with his senses on a mental standpoint, his Achilles’ heel lies with his inability to pick up on the signs his body gives him when it's had enough. Well, he can, but he just chooses not to listen.

His first encounter with a crack in that heel came in his first-year, where you had to stand on the sidelines and watch as he fell to the ground during a game with a resounded sweep of gasps around the gym. That injury benched him for more than half the season.

It was from that point on that you and Iwaizumi decided that if Oikawa wasn’t going to take care of his own body, then it would be up to you two to make sure his head is still above water.

So it doesn’t surprise you when your phone flashes with a text message from Iwaizumi during one of your shifts at the bakery.

1 new message: iwa (´,,•ω•,,)♡

Received: can you come pick up shittykawa

“Tooru?”

A figure sits slumped against the benches in front of Aoba Johsai high, his eyes closed as he lays back. There’s something beautiful about the way that he looks almost ethereal in this relaxed state, the most relaxed you’d seen him in months. When he hears his name from your lips, he slowly blinks and sits up, the aura of relaxation falling from him.

You almost regret having said anything in the first place when he puts up his guard the moment he sees you.

“Y/N-chan!” An easy smile falls between his lips, one that could’ve easily fooled anyone else. He always was very good at portraying happiness and contentment, especially when he’d been followed everywhere by people that only really want to see Oikawa Tooru, popular ladies’ man with charm that could make your mother swoon.

But you’re one of the select few that knew him before he learned that his charm was a crucial asset in his arsenal. You knew him at his highs and his lows, so the convincing smile on his lips doesn’t convince you in the slightest. That’s because you notice the way his arms seem to sit limply in his lap and the way his eyes convey fatigue rather than joy. You also know that Iwaizumi called you here for one thing.

“Don’t Y/N-chan me. Iwa texted me.”

Oikawa’s facade seems to fall at that, replaced with a troubled expression. He brings his right hand up to wipe at his face in frustration. “Listen, I don’t know what he may have said, but he’s exaggerating. I’m fine.”

You raise an eyebrow at him. He can’t seem to meet your eyes. “Well, that’s a lie considering that you’re out here right now and not in that gym,” you say matter-of-factly.

“He physically dragged me out here!” Oikawa whines, throwing his hands in the direction of your school’s gym.

A bemused chuckle leaves your lips as you move to sit beside him on the bench. Oikawa moves his bag to give you more room to sit, but you don’t move any closer. “And when has that ever stopped you?”

Oikawa getting kicked out of practice by Iwaizumi and even on select days, by their coach, is not an unusual occurrence. Iwaizumi has forcefully dragged Oikawa out of the gym before. Each and every time, Oikawa just marched right back in, despite Iwaizumi’s rage and his coach’s warnings. Even when his extra practice hours cause detrimental effects to his knee, Oikawa never seems to back down.

It was something both you and Iwaizumi had grown used to in your years of friendship with Oikawa -- his incredibly stubborn determination to somehow work himself to the point of bad health.

That’s how you know something different has happened today, because Oikawa is sitting out here on a bench rather than arguing with Iwa about how “a few more serves won’t hurt him!” (though they most definitely do, and Oikawa never seems to learn).

You turn your head to look at him. He’s quiet now, though he still doesn’t meet your eyes. His gaze is instead focused on a dog that’s running in the park opposite the school. You know that he’s avoiding confirming your accusation.

When it doesn’t seem like he’s going to talk anytime soon, you sigh. “All I’m saying is that if you really believed that you were fine, you would be using all your blood, sweat, tears in order to find a way back into the gym. Especially since the qualifiers are coming up.” You lean back against the bench as well, letting your eyes watch the dog happily run with its tongue lolling out of its mouth. “But instead you’re here, sitting on a bench in the afternoon. And from the looks of it, you had no intention of heading home.”

He still doesn’t turn to look at you, the only indication that he even heard you is the mild tick in his jaw. You try not to think about how perfectly sculpted his side profile is.

When he finally does speak, he still avoids your accusation of his fatigue and instead asks, “Why did Iwa-chan call you here anyway? Aren’t you supposed to be working at the bakery?”

You shrug. “Business was slow. Besides, my boss likes me enough to let me go early today. He said I’d have to work overtime this weekend though.”

At that, he finally turns to look at you. In the split second that you glance at him, you catch the guilt in his gaze before he looks away again. “You shouldn’t have come. You already overwork yourself being the only decent baker besides your boss that works there.”

A smile spreads on your face, your tone teasing. “Oikawa Tooru wants to talk to me about overworking myself?”

“I’m serious. You work too hard at that bakery for the measly amount that they pay you. Don’t think I don’t notice the way you try to cover your under eye circles with makeup.”

You feel your stomach jump, the familiar feeling causing your lips to tug upwards lightly. Tooru has been one of your best friends ever since you moved into the house across from his when you were seven years old. You hadn’t known when it happened, but you had come to school one day last year and just suddenly knew that your feelings were no longer limited to platonic when it came to the brown-haired volleyball captain. It’s in moments like these where you wonder how he hasn’t managed to figure your feelings out, considering how observant he is of everything else about you.

“Yes, well I’m sorry that we can’t all look like we spawn from a god like you do. It’s seriously unfair how you can still look like that when you get even less sleep than I do.”

There’s only a hint of teasing in his voice when he says, “You think I look that handsome?” He turns to face you again, and this time there’s a blink of surprise lurking in his chestnut eyes. Especially now, with the sun casting golden glows on his hair and skin, he looks beautiful to you.

Painfully, it reminds you about how unrequited your feelings are. Not that Oikawa has ever outright rejected you or even acknowledged knowing anything of your feelings, but him reciprocating your feelings didn’t even cross your mind as a possibility most days. Not with the group of girls that are always vying for his attention; not when his ex-girlfriend was what everyone thought was his perfect match; not when he hadn’t even attempted a committed relationship since Yua-san broke up with him all those months ago.

“Y/N?” His voice drags you out of your train of thought. You realize that you had been staring at him this entire time.

You play off your thoughts with a roll of your eyes and turn your head back towards the park. “No,” you lie. “I just hear comments like that from your fan club all the time.”

He nods lightly, his eyebrows creasing. “Right. Right, of course.” You’re about to ask about the odd tone in his voice when he speaks again. “You never did answer my question. Why did Iwa-chan send you here?”

“He wanted me to make sure that you actually went home instead of finding somewhere else to practice,” you say. A chuckle escapes your lips. You’re happy for the change in topic.

“I am not that hard-headed!” You raise a brow at him. He pouts. “Fine. Maybe a little.”

“A little?”

“Oh come on, Y/N. Now you’re just being mean!”

“Yeah well, it’s payback. You’re a real pain in the ass.”

“In your ass, I hope.”

You try to keep the blush from your cheeks as your mind takes you in a completely different direction. Suddenly, the space between you two seems too small. “You might want to rethink what you just said.” You try not to stare at his mouth as it falls open, your mind still invading your thoughts with images that you should not be fantasizing about when he’s sitting right beside you.

“Wait.” Oikawa’s eyes go so comically wide that you almost forget your own embarrassment. “Jeez, that did not come out in the right way. Not right at all.” For what seems like the millionth time, he looks away from you, though this time it seems to be out of his own mortification over what he just said. There seems to be a blush to his cheeks, but you very well might have just imagined it.

You let out a laugh, your arms coming up to clutch at your side. “I cannot believe that you’re supposed to be the big hotshot volleyball player that every girl has a crush on. There is not a charming bone in your body. I refuse to believe it.”

Oikawa lets out a small chuckle. “I don’t have to charm you when you already love even the uncharming parts of me. But if anyone asks, I am completely perfect. There are no uncharming parts to Oikawa Tooru. Don’t you dare spread false rumors, Y/N-chan!”

An amused snort leaves you at his last three sentences, but you decide to respond on the first part of his words. “Me? Loving you? Very unlikely.” You tease, trying your hardest to keep a straight face when Oikawa begins to pout.

“If you don’t love me after all these years I will actually start crying right now and then those girls that follow me everywhere will come for your blood for making me cry.”

You chuckle again, catching yourself before you roll your eyes again. Next to you, Oikawa has his arms crossed with a convincing pout sitting on his lips that makes him look like a child. You smile despite yourself. “Okay, okay keep the dramatics to a minimum.”

“Then say it.”

“Say what?

“Say that you love me.”

You feel a small pang as you plaster a smile on your face. “I mildly like you more than like,” you say, not really sure if you’d be able to say those three words to him at this point in time. Not when you know that they’re true.

Oikawa’s pout deepens, but you’re adamant on not saying more.

“That’s all you’re getting from me, Crappykawa.” Suddenly you find yourself amused at the way you managed to sound exactly like Iwaizumi. It hadn’t occurred to you that you’d spent so much time with him.

“Call me pretty and I’ll drop it.”

“You’re so needy sometimes, you know that?”

“Very much aware, Y/N-chan. As if you and Iwa-chan would ever let me forget.”

An eye roll comes easy to you and this time you don’t try to stop it. At this point, an eye roll is almost like a natural reaction to anything Oikawa says. “Fine. I’ll admit you’re not bad too look at.”

“Not great, but I’ll take it,” he concludes. “I can slowly feel the crack in my ego being restored.”

“If you want to be complimented please go seek out the never-ending stream of girls and guys that come your way hoping for even an ounce of your attention.” You hope that he doesn’t notice the mild bitterness in your voice. “I’m almost positive that they’ll be willing to tell you just how pretty you are and how everyone in the world should be in love with you.”

“They should be, shouldn’t they?” Oikawa bemuses.

A laugh leaves your lips despite your efforts. “You are insufferable sometimes. I don’t understand why I’ve kept you around for so long.”

“There you go with the insults again,” he tskes. “Have you and Iwa-chan been spending time together without me?”

“Iwa and I are friends you know?”

“Yeah but you’re supposed to be my best friend,” he pouts.

“You already said that line to Iwaizumi yesterday when he opted to carry me instead of you.”

“Yeah, well … I met you before he did!”

“Because you threw a volleyball at my head!”

“It was an accident!”

Laugher spills from both of your lips at the memory. It isn’t until Oikawa’s hair brushes upon your shoulder during his laughter that you realize that the space between you and Oikawa had increasingly gotten smaller. He’s so close that your thighs are only centimeters apart.

As your laughter dies down, Oikawa’s bubbly personality begins to slip once more and the fatigue on his face becomes more evident. Eventually, he rests his head on your shoulder. You feel your stomach flutter pleasantly at his proximity. Even now, you can smell the cologne he regularly wears, the one you helped pick out back in first-year that he’s worn ever since.

Once the silence lasts for a few moments, you finally attempt to ask him about practice once more. “Are you finally going to tell me why you didn’t fight back when Iwa threw you out of practice?”

He sighs. “I guess you can say that I’m a little bit tired. Plus my knee hurts like all hell has reigned down.” His voice is so much different from just moments before that it’s hard to believe that they come from the same person.

“You’re exhausted,” you say. It’s not a question, but more of a definite statement.

“More or less,” he responds quietly.

This time, it’s you that sighs. “Just … be careful. I get that you want to beat everyone and go to Nationals, but you’re no good to your team if you fuck your knee up so badly that you can’t play.”

“This year is our last chance,” he mumbles. “I just don’t want to look back later and wish that maybe I’d practiced just a little more.”

“You can’t beat anyone if you’re sitting on the bench from an injury that you got from overworking yourself.”

Oikawa winces at the tone in your voice. You almost feel guilty. Almost.

“You’re going to work yourself to death. Iwaizumi and I aren’t just going to stand by and watch you dig your own grave,” you say softly. “For his sake, at least. Don’t push yourself too hard.”

“I’ll try,” he says. For some reason, you believe him.

The two of you sit there in silence once more, the wind blowing lightly on your hair and the sounds of a busy town echoing around you. You wish that you could bottle this moment up and keep it with you forever, even if it’s only a testament to how much Oikawa values you as a best friend and nothing more.

The thought makes your stomach drop in the slightest bit. It’s usually easy to contain your depth of feelings for Oikawa when the air around you two is lively and joking, but you’ve found over the years that quiet moments like these are the ones that really tear at your heart.

He’ll never know the extent of your feelings for him, and you’re too afraid to wonder what would happen if he did know.

Oikawa turns his head only slightly to look up at you while still continuing to lean on your shoulder. “You okay?”

You give an almost imperceptible nod. “We should head home. I don’t know what Iwaizumi might do to you if he finds you out here after practice ends,” you say.

Oikawa nods and detaches his head from your shoulder.

The two of you have only walked a couple of meters when you hear a group of girls squeal from not too far away. Oikawa tenses from beside you.

“Your fanclub found you,” you say.

“I’m aware.”

He doesn’t make any move to look back at them or stop. Instead, his pace seems to speed up.

You furrow a brow. “You don’t want to talk to them? Thought you loved their attention?”

“Ouch. You really know how to wound a man, Y/N-chan,” he says with a small smile on his lips. You take notice of the weariness in his features. “But while I do enjoy them feeding my very justified ego, I am far too fatigued to deal with them.”

You nod and continue to walk beside him. The less interactions he has with his fan club, the better your mood will be. Besides, you weren’t going to fail Iwaizumi by not doing the one thing he asked you to do and not take Oikawa home.

A giggle reaches your ears once more, and you sneak a glance behind you. The girls are talking amongst themselves, but still obviously walking in the direction you’re headed in.

“Well, what do you wanna do? Cause they’re coming.”

Oikawa sighs and you notice a tick of irritation in his clenched jaw. You can see a million thoughts going through his mind, but before you can ask him about them, he reaches out to grab your hand.

“Is this okay? I’m just hoping that they’ll leave me alone if they think that you and I … uhm.”

Oikawa’s hands are long and calloused, but they feel nice as his fingers intertwine with your smaller ones. You try hard not to let the little gesture get to you. “Yeah … yeah of course.”

The two of you fall into silence again, mostly due to his fatigue and your inability to form coherent words that don’t have to do with his hand in yours. You’ve held hands with Oikawa before, but it was never with the intent to make you two look like a couple. You wish more than anything that he would break the silence before you blurt out something that you don’t want to.

Your wishes are answered when Oikawa asks, “They’re still following us, aren’t they?” Oikawa still doesn’t look back as he says it.

In your short reverie you had forgotten about the girls behind you. You sneak another glance at them and find that Oikawa’s assumption is correct.

“Yeah, they are.”

Oikawa makes an incoherent noise. “Y/N-chan, could you be a dear and describe what they look like? I have a feeling I know who exactly they are.”

You turn back again, and really take a good look at them. They’re pretty. Really pretty, you think. You wonder for a second what they could’ve done to make Oikawa so adamant on not speaking with them.

“There’s three girls. One with cropped red hair, one with long blonde hair, and one with brown hair in a high ponytail.”

“Oh, it’s them again. I don’t know what to do to get them to leave me alone at this point,” he sighs.

“Who are they? What’s going on?”

His grip on your hand tightens. “Ichika-san and her friends. She sent me a love letter about a month ago. I tried to let her down easily, but it seems that she has yet to give up.”

“This girl is your stalker?”

“Not quite. At least, I hope not.”

The noise from behind you two gets increasingly louder. A giggle echoes on the mildly empty street and you catch Oikawa’s name being whispered between their conversations. Now that you’ve found out about what they’ve been putting him through, your annoyance spikes.

“Not to sound paranoid or anything, but I’m not keen on these girls finding out where you live.”

Oikawa is quiet for a moment, his brows furrowed in indecision. It seems that he makes up his mind when he turns his head to look at you. “Kiss me.”

Your step momentarily falters.

“What?”

He shakes your intertwined hands. “We’re already holding hands. They might get the memo if we …”

“Oh.”

“I .. I mean only if you want to. You don’t have to. I just figured that .. nevermind. It’s a spotty plan. They might still not leave us alone and --”

“No, it’s fine. I’ll do it.” You weren’t going to pass up a chance at kissing him, even if it’s only for a diversion. This doesn’t seem like such a bad idea anyways — you’d long since given up on him reciprocating your feelings, and this way you can kiss him while saving yourself from the possible embarrassment of rejection.

“You will?”

“Where’s the harm? It’s just a kiss right?” You can barely hear yourself talking over the beating of your heart. “Besides, it could work.”

Oikawa shoots you a grateful smile. “Okay. Whenever you’re ready then.”

You try to shake out your nerves and instead focus your time in looking at your surroundings. The sound of giggling is still in close range when you spot a tree nearby. It’s still pretty out in the open, but not so much that you and Oikawa might draw stares, at least not from anyone that isn’t a part of the group of girls behind you.

Gathering enough courage to not insanely mess this up, you tug on Oikawa’s hand to drag him with you in the direction of the tree. You make sure that you’re still in the line of sight of the three girls when you snake your arms around Oikawa’s neck and pull him down.

His lips are softer than you imagined, and you’ve imagined kissing them more times than you’re willing to admit. Pleasantly, he tastes like oranges, which you don’t quite understand, considering that you can’t seem to remember him ever being fond of oranges. But then again, you can’t quite think of anything besides the feeling of his lips on yours.

Your lips move fluidly against his, soft but not entirely without passion. It takes everything in you to not kiss him with the force that you want to be kissing him with.

Hands come down to grip your waist as he pulls you closer to him, gently placing a hand on the small of your back. You run your hands through his hair and wonder to yourself why you hadn’t ever played with his hair before. If you ever make it out of this with your senses still intact, you’d make playing with his hair a part of your regular routine.

He makes a small noise against your lips when you make the mistake of pulling a little too hard on his hair. His grip on you tightens.

You don’t know how long you two stand there, lips locked with each other, but Oikawa doesn’t make any move to pull away. Instead he deepens the kiss by running his tongue against your bottom lip and pulling you even closer. You stifle a noise that threatens to come from deep in your throat. One of his hands comes up to cup your cheek and tips your head so that he can slip his tongue into your mouth. He has fantastic lips, you think.

It’s only until you feel the air in your lungs begin to dwindle that you force yourself to pull away. The kiss lasted for longer than you expected, and by the way you pant with every breath, it feels like a kiss that the rest of the world should not have been privy to.

You keep your eyes closed for a moment more, wanting to savor the moment for just a little longer. The moment you open your eyes, you’ll have to come back to the reality that this was just a one-time thing. You’ll have to come back to reality and remember that this kiss likely doesn’t mean anything to him.

Slowly you open your eyes, and find that Oikawa’s already staring at you intently. His breathing comes out staggered, and his eyes have turned a few shades darker. What used to be a soft chestnut brown looks almost close to black. In them, you notice a flicker of an odd emotion that looks too familiar, but you don’t want to hope for anything.

You slide your hands down to his chest. His hands are still planted on your back and face, touching you both gently and carefully. “Did it work?” Your voice comes out small.

He seems to wake up from his trance then, and turns to look in the direction that the girls were before. You look behind you to see one of the girls running away with her head in her hands. Her two friends follow after her in an attempt to console her.

“I think it did,” he says. And what he says after is so quiet you almost believe that you imagine hearing it. “In more ways than one.”

part two will most likely be up on thursday next week :)

#oikawa x reader #oikawa headcanons #oikawa x y/n #oikawa fluff #oikawa #oikawa tooru #oikawa tooru x reader #reader insert #haikyuu #haikyuu!!#haikyuu x reader

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