#this is why people don't seek care

[marmotsomsierost]

Today is trying my fuckin' patience with regards to queer patients and their concerns and how some of the staff is responding. Why are you so concerned and baffled that the trans man looks like a man? Who gives a shit if he doesn't change his name? He's still a dude. Why are you talking shit about a patient being twitchy- you didn't order labs, you don't know if that tic-y-ness is ghb or tardive dyskenisia or something else, and even if it is, why is that patient worth talking about over all the other, very frequent flyer, patients who self-medicate with their drug of choice? Because they look like they could be dressed in a gnc way? Why are you talking about how fascinating it would be to see a trans man pregnant? And not in a medical advancement/process/mechanical kind of way, but like a carnival sideshow kind of way. Like what the fuck.

And how do you work in an emergency department and you don't know what PEP or PrEP is? Especially an emergency department around here. How is it mindbogglingly difficult to think of how someone might get a particular minor injury during sex? I was like 'who cares what folks do on their own' and y'all were still harping on about it. I rattled off four different ways* and y'all went 'oh i mean huh but that's like...why would someone do that' and i just went *shrug* 'why do we even care' and five minutes later people were back talking about it. Bro. Who. Gives. A. Fuck. It has nothing to do with patient care. You cannot tell me you don't know or know of a single straight cis person who's ever fucked someone once and not cared about name or contact info. You are in a bigass fuckoff fishbowl in an open patient space why are you still on this.

People are just people. Be curious be what the fuck be mindboggled be whatever, that's natural, but be that in your head! That is a question for google later! (and some of y'all really need to turn safesearch on for that shit because you are not ready for those results).

And i know i have a significantly skewed meter for 'weird' when it comes to sex and gender and shit because i've volunteered for folsom street fair and dore alley as medical staff but i also know that my coworkers have the capacity for really good poker face because i have seen it. Why is it easy to be pleasant and unflappable in the face of weird body function or dysfunction or fuck, even maggots or being fused to car upholstery but god forbid someone wear a tshirt dress and binder. And yeah, i know we decompress and debrief all the time after Seeing Some Shit or thousand-yard-stare-ing after stupidly graphic examples of elder abuse and there is nothing wrong with that- when it happens in private, with people who understand and understand why it's important. Not in a fishbowl where you have no idea who can hear you. I know at least one of the patients heard, because they specifically told me one of the times i walked past "i'm glad i came when you were working."

My heart is heavy and i'm tired.

[shikai-the-storyteller]

Tumblr is way chiller than Twitter for sure but sometimes I see a post and I'm like. Y'all DO remember this is a block game, right? You're not gonna get legitimately pissy and passive-aggressive over characters doing things in a block game, RIGHT???

[icewindandboringhorror]

I know multiple of these are likely important to people, but I'm asking in terms of like - which of these do you tend to focus on the MOST, enjoy the most, that is most essential for you to actually care about the media, etc.?

(For example: someone finding "Relatability" most important would likely not enjoy a show much if they have trouble empathizing with the characters/relating to it, even if it were good otherwise. Or, someone might be able to overlook bad acting and ugly costumes, as long as the Character Dynamics are fun to them, because they value that more than Aesthetics- while for others, bad costumes would be a dealbreaker.)

Also feel free to reblog and explain your answer or more information in the tags- I've always been curious about people's relationships to media, how they conceptualize it/what they get out of it, how some people value some parts more than others, how that informs their overall taste and genres they may be more inclined towards, etc. :0c

[aeternalight]

The witchcraft community is literally so mean to people with OCD. I will not elaborate but I will say, there is no right way to be into witchcraft. You can do literally whatever practice with no consequence. And the people that act like others will be smited by some all-knowing god is fucking ludicrous.

I'm literally sick and tired of people acting like witchcraft and beliefs exist in a perfect bubble/vacuum, no you dumb bitch, you're affected by other beliefs, especially the world that you grew up with. There will be no such thing as a pure belief or thoughts on spirituality. Everything becomes affected by one another.

I'm also fucking tired of people assuming that we have to dredge up things or evaluate things to be a perfect little witch. Why don't you stop putting people up to insane standards and mind your damn business. How other people's practices go is no concern of yours, its not your place to judge it.

And as far as misinformation goes, just don't get yourself hurt. If its bad for you, don't do it. But most things are on the table. Just don't do something illegal.

The witch community has a severe purity problem and most are influenced by christian beliefs without realizing it. Maybe you need to evaluate your own beliefs before you judge others.

[thyandrawrites]

https://screenrant.com/jujutsu-kaisen-maki-my-hero-academia-dabi-manga/

Stumbled upon this. As much as I adore when people draw parallels between Dabi and Maki (because they're two of my faves and I wish somebody would write about their interactions in a crossover fic), I hate how one is deemed evil for choosing the "another" path and seeking vengeance. Like no??? Dabi wanting to take down Endeavor is the same as Maki slaughtering the entire clan (the Zenins had it coming) but why is Touya put down whereas Maki gets a free pass? They're both justified in their hurt and anger yet why is one a villain and the other a hero? And also wtf is this person talking about? Endeavor fell into depression after Touya's death?!

It's because the article sympathizes with Endvr, anon. The author seems to think Enji was a misguided but loving father who got torn up by grief. But aside from that, I can't take seriously the arguments of someone who can't even get their facts right:

He did not hope to coax ice out of Touya. He trained him because Touya's fire was stronger than his. He knew from the start that Touya had no ice powers.

It's implied he thought Touya could reach the goal of beating All Might by bulldozing past him in the ranks thanks to sheer power alone. That's what the bridge metaphor he always brings up was about. Touya had a bigger "plus ultra" factor than Enji, because Touya's fire power was simply higher, and thus could more easily breach the gap between number 1 and 2.

Also, framing it like Touya was only casted aside "upon the birth of Shouto" completely brushes off that Shouto was conceived with the express intention of punishing Touya:

And that Enji had already been neglecting him for years by that point. And Touya wasn't "essentially" tossed aside. He was deliberately replaced. With malice. Enji knew that Touya wouldn't give up and used the birth of two more kids to drill in that concept. It wasn't an oopsie. It was cruel on purpose. Meant to crush any remaining hopes out of his son.

But anyway.

This article really doesn't read like whoever wrote it was thinking about either series with much eye for nuance.

I'm not caught up with jjk (and I have no intention of catching up at the moment) so I can't comment on the maki part of this...

But tbh it seems to me like the author wanted to compare and contrast them on the basis of love/absence of love and how that made one of them a villain but not the other. But it doesn't seem to think through its own arguments. It's basically saying Dabi, and I quote, "stoops so low" to become a villain because he was loved and lost that affection, and his mind in the process. How tragic! If only he knew Endvr never gave a shit about him! That might've saved him! While Maki was never raised with love so she never ran the risk of soiling her hands for a sympathetic reason. But that makes her a good person somehow. A better one than Dabi, anyway, who is motivated by love.

Uhm.

Ghsjsjdk

... Okay?

[hopefulqueer]

I'm starting to think the reason I'm not as good of a writer as I want to be is because I like writing more than I like reading.

[problemsynth]

Tfw you accidentally open your text spam folder and you realize your ex has still been texting you despite having broken up with them over two years ago... (And blocked) And you get curious enough to check your call history and learn they've also been calling....

[shopcat]

liking mha to some extent even in the secluded Just thinking about it myself and occasionally talking about it with my friends and maybe now on here way that i do it builds up a world where i forget no one gives a FUCKKKK. about the characters that i do which is so funny. or at least not in the way that i do. like i don't care about todoroki's 16 year old love life i want to put him in a REALLY big puffy jacket and watch him walk around in it like snoopy. and so on and so forth

[specialagentartemis]

I would argue that to my recollection Murderbot in fact does not do a single on-page murder until Network Effect.  “These people are actively trying to kill me so I have to kill them back to protect myself/my clients/my friends” doesn’t count as “murder.”  Only in NE does it join its noble predecessors GLaDOS, Hera, and Breq in Actual Revenge Murder

[giantkillerjack]

It helps me to think about caring for myself like I think about caring for a child.

Like, 'yes, I know you feel fine, but I think you've watched enough scary things before bed. Let's watch something nice now, okay?'

[stinkbeck]

there’s something wrong with me. i keep going to people for advice when i know they just don’t have the capacity 2 help me. like what the fuck is wrong with me

[russeliarat]

I'm sorry for not posting good stuff, I just feel so useless at the moment. To keep it not so brief, one teacher is being an utter bitch and as a result, my entire life is crumbling around me. I was sick during an exam last week and only had 20 minutes to even attempt it. The English teacher rung home and told my parents that I'm not trying and I'm doing it on purpose because im arrogant and that I'm going to fail, which basically means that I won't be able to further my desired career and my entire life will be in shambles because later on in life, I won't be able to fund my own courses because im relying on my parents for financial aid at the moment. They're threatening to cut off that aid and not let me do the courses if i fail a single exam because they don't want me to end up like my sister (aka, they don't want me taking Foundation Studies to retake an exam). Keep I mind that these are practice exams and I still have about 2 months to improve.

I've had every thought under the Sun about it and I just don't know what to do. I'm thinking about reporting her to my academic mentor and asking her to tell my teacher to stop calling my parents because this feels like pure humiliation, but beyond that, I have no power. I feel like I'm gonna end up as a disowned failure and have all the opportunities I've built up just crumble away. School is one of the most traumatic experiences of my life but no one takes it seriously and it's genuinely one of the most harmful things thats happened to me. I can't drop out because of laws surrounding schooling and not a single adult around me has offered any support.

[bombusbombus]

Another day another friend gleefully seeking out conflict and then crying about it when there's conflict

[madness-of-void]

Bad news after bad news from creators I enjoy in this fandom. It breaks my heart. Almost makes me not want to finish what I've been writing...

Key word is almost.

I have been in fandoms that have torn themselves apart, and still see wonderful artists and fic writers churn out work despite it all. Because they love the fandom.

Hope that, despite it all, we still can keep doing that.

[pa-pa-plasma]

hey this is just another reminder that if you're going to make a post that is just you hating on a series, do not tag it. just don't. "but what if—" no. don't. shut the fuck up if you're incapable of not using the main tag. that is all.

[wickedhawtwexler]

i'm at the point in my job search where i'm applying for jobs i am definitely overqualified for lmao