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void-galaxy-shenanigans · 7 months ago

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the testosterone has made me extremely queer for a lot of people. like...¿tattoos or dyed hair on any gender? 1000/10. but also fictional men, & androgynous/trans people, & intersex people, & men who smile soft when you infodump, & women playing with my hair &... *vague gestures* I’m very queer. 🏳‍🌈

(I didn’t realize I was aspec until HRT changed that 😅 You don’t notice/struggle to define a lack of something until you have the contrast of having/experiencing it, ¿y’know? I’m still demiromantic (I’m the slow burn trope embodied), but not asexual anymore. I think I’m in a grey area between bi/pan and demisexual.)

literally playing video games like “oh, I wanna romance him👀” & then frustrated to find out the game doesn’t allow bisexual companions so my male character can’t romance the hot male companion 😭

(& this isn’t Stereotypical Hot Man™ either. like....¿Malavai Quinn from SWTOR, when you give him a gift & he says “I am overwhelmed, my lord”? very hot. it’s personality & the way they talk to me, & has very little to do with most aspects of physical appearance. the exception is witchy/fae/fantasy vibe outfits &/or dyed hair & tattoos, but people who decorate their mortal form that way tend to also be the personality I like 🤷‍♂️)

to simplify, I am experiencing ✨queerness✨ and honestly I’m not mad. people are hot. and I want kisses 🥺 (but why do my favourite people live far away 😭 or they’re fictional)

~Nico (he/they)

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canichangemyblogname · 7 months ago

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I actually think y’all are cruel and homophobic for making queer men fans feel like they need to apologize for or soften their attraction to men because they’ve been critical of the (queerphobic) rhetoric you 🫵 use to malign queer representation in media.

You’re so dedicated to positioning yourself on a moral high horse to paint your fanfic as descent, high-minded, and tasteful; not “fetishization,” that you’ve resorted shaming men for being SEXUALLY ATTRACTED to men. Your “really good best bros to couple who never had a single sexual thought or touched before marriage coffee stop bed ‘n breakfast AU” fanfic? Clean. Real-life faggotry? Base and obscene. Because queer men aren’t real people to you, we’re tropes and archetypes and entirely theoretical eroticized bodies that exist because of and for your fanfiction sandbox. And that’s it.

I really should not be seeing queer men in people’s inboxes and posting on here qualifying their attraction to men; “Yeah, I like kissing men and seeing men kiss, but it’s not like that—”

#fandom critical #fanfiction critical #fucking discourse #This isn’t even about 911 #this is a very general complaint that applies across fandom spaces

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imverystupidsorrydumb · 2 months ago

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Why discord is brutal.

I was in an SBG server and had a Bakudeku pfp because I liked it. Someone randomly goes, “Not the Bakudeku pfp,” and I was like, “Ohh yeah, I was in a My Hero phase and forgot to change it,” just trying to play it off. Then someone I actually thought was cool goes, “Don’t tell me you’re one of those freaks that ship Bakudeku,” and honestly?? I didn’t even know how to respond.

Me being me, I panicked and said, “One of my friends dared me to,” even though I literally just put it on because I liked it. And that moment just made me realize how toxic the MHA fandom can be sometimes. Like someone else jumped in and said, “Good,” then went on about how they ship Kiribaku and how it’s fine because they’ve watched three seasons.

Like… okay? I’ve watched every episode, multiple times. Why are we gatekeeping shipping based on how many episodes someone’s seen?? And let’s be real—none of the ships were confirmed, the series is over, and people are still fighting over which ship is “better” or more valid. Let people enjoy what they enjoy.

Also, I just wanna say the School Bus Graveyard fandom has been SO nice and chill. Y’all actually talk about the story, the art, the vibes—without getting weird or mean about it. So yeah, if you were in that convo... sorry, but these are my real thoughts.

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heartcircus · 5 months ago

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every time someone says ros is like sneeg’s and/or clown’s daughter or sister i want to rip my hair out why does it always gotta be familial can’t they just be friends or found family or whatever without having to be parental/siblings omfg

#saph speaks #neg #discourse #<- whatever /neg tags idk i’m just pissed #i don’t understand where people get this idea from either what the hell makes u think they’re like father and daughter bro #how do u look at them and read Parental .#even siblings like i just don’t see them as siblings #but that’s a tired argument that happens in every fucking fandom space any time there’s a relationship between a man and a women that’s not #inherently romantic #like dear god #and to me found family isn’t necessarily like . ‘oh she’s the sibling; he’s the dad; they’re the mom.’ etc. like that’s just not it to me #but whatever

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kiwisandpearls · 9 months ago

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idk

#talk away ⌞🍵🍋 ⌝#i am manifesting that this post isn’t horribly misinterpreted #and that I wrote this in a coherent way for people to understand #because I feel like I maybe didn’t #ageism #ageism in fandoms #fandoms #fandom #fandom spaces #fandom discourse #fandom discussion #proship #anti harassment #fandom meme

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alejandravillarreal · 26 days ago

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#i hope this isn’t discourse-y #i just have thoughts™#one thing i worry about is that they’ll be no rainbows at louis’ shows anymore #the fandom is changing you know?#there are some good things but there’s also negative things #it’s inevitable when you have new people joining #that’s something i acknowledge #not to mention the sociopolitical climate of many countries affecting lgbtq+ communities #i know i’ll bring my flags because i want this to continue to be a safe space for queer fans #i don’t care if people will look bad at me #because i know at least one fan will find comfort in it #and that makes it worth it #however i also understand those who may not feel comfortable bringing in their flags #but honestly i don’t want the rainbow projects to die down #even if we have to fight for it tooth and nail #i invite discussion about this as long as it remains respectful #logan.txt #lt fandom

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whitmore · 2 years ago

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listen this may be a hot take that’s okay i’m fine with that i just feel that the @everyone main tag fandom vagueposts about sending admins hate and/or targeting ccs is . abyssal nonsense to post to tumblr. like you’re not wrong im not disagreeing with any of you— it just feels fruitless to post that on a website where none of us have direct contact with any admins or creators. if you see it in the main or side tags feel free to call it out, i think we should be doing that, but like the aimless vagueposting is not only reductive but directly adding to the negativity you’re trying to combat

#eleanor.txt #qsmp #i feel bad for even putting this in main tag but it’s like. at the same time i do want the tag to be a nice space #correct me if i’m wrong and there’s admins that are being targeted here but like. idk post ur post on twitter maybe #and this isn’t me trying to excuse qsmpblr we have issues of our own just. those aren’t our issues i don’t think #plus maybe my blocklist just works real well but i personally don’t see any excessive hate or negativity or anything #willing to be wrong on this one maybe we really need the callout or something idk. did we do something #this isn’t even discourse this is just blogging and it also feels like nobody knows the difference here. THATS one of our real issues

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daughtersofyesterday · 2 years ago

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#tour de france #tadej pogacar #jonas vingegaard #did tadej slap jonas's ass?#disheveled pogi #accidental thirst trap jonas #this is my safe space #away from the toxic cycling discourse #jonas is very aero isn’t he

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clearancecreedwatersurvival · 1 year ago

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Another reason ship warring in Dunmeshi is silly:

Every ship I have seen people suggest regularly for dunmeshi and even the rarepairs all have some level of interesting narrative appeal, because the source material does such a good job at character writing and all of the character dynamics are compelling. Even the ones I don’t really care about, I can still see what elements of the canon they’re drawing from and I buy the interpretation. They’re all pulling from something. I’m on my third watch of the first anime season and I continue to notice more excellent little character moments where I’m like ‘yeah I see it,’ and there are even more in the manga that didn’t make it into the anime.

#also if your only complaint with a ship is that people write the characters badly: let people make mid art man #if the execution isn’t the best that’s whatever #people are having fun with it and expressing themselves creatively #writing and other artforms are something we get better at with practice so let everyone play in the space.#you don’t have to read it if you don’t want to that’s fine but some people posting Art you think is bad isn’t a threat to you #dungeon meshi #shipping discourse #caitie speaks

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imverystupidsorrydumb · 2 months ago

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Why discord is BRUTAL.

I was in an SBG server and had a Bakudeku pfp because I liked it. Someone randomly goes, “Not the Bakudeku pfp,” and I was like, “Ohh yeah, I was in a My Hero phase and forgot to change it,” just trying to play it off. Then someone I actually thought was cool goes, “Don’t tell me you’re one of those freaks that ship Bakudeku,” and honestly?? I didn’t even know how to respond.

Me being me, I panicked and said, “One of my friends dared me to,” even though I literally just put it on because I liked it. And that moment just made me realize how toxic the MHA fandom can be sometimes. Like someone else jumped in and said, “Good,” then went on about how they ship Kiribaku and how it’s fine because they’ve watched three seasons.

Like… okay? I’ve watched every episode, multiple times. Why are we gatekeeping shipping based on how many episodes someone’s seen?? And let’s be real—none of the ships were confirmed, the series is over, and people are still fighting over which ship is “better” or more valid. Let people enjoy what they enjoy.

Also, I just wanna say the School Bus Graveyard fandom has been SO nice and chill. Y’all actually talk about the story, the art, the vibes—without getting weird or mean about it. So yeah, if you were in that convo... sorry, but these are my real thoughts.

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onelonelystory · 4 months ago

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you need to stop thinking your anecdotal experience is a substantive generally applicable argument. you need to stop assuming that being directly impacted means you have a comprehensive understanding of things. and you need to stop feeling like people who say batshit things are correct because they’re speaking from experience and the broad strokes sentiment is something you agree with and support. please.

#and EYE need to stop getting mad that people are making imperfect arguments on the internet #repeating to myself over and over this is not a publication this is an unfiltered pace #people speaking on their experiences is how you find the general perspective of the collective. understandable and still valid.#I really wish that people who were attempting to go about legitimate productive discourse did so through different means #and that’s why this post is unrebloggable bc ultimately it is not a useful actionable complaint #like a social media platform is always going to be about the collective experience #more than objective discussion #and just because I am frustrated by that taking on an academic tone doesn’t mean it’s a less functional form of communication #also like people falling flat on their face to listen to any internally contradictory opinion from a marginalized voice is still like.#ten times better than the version of collective commentary that exists to exclude the dissent/minority #and I think a lot of people who make the complaint I’m making #about overly identity focused anecdotal perspectives online #forget the alternative isn’t perspectives with more academic rigor it’s town halls with tighter gates.#social media isn’t where organized dialectics happen #and so that’s not really the best lens through which to view the platform #demanding academic rigor from public space conversations is how you get debate bro ethos #listening to how individualized perspectives shape one’s perception of structures is how you form an understanding of positional politics #effective communication #and how demographics are systemically led towards certain belief structures #the public space is IMPORTANT #however I am also an individual. so I am allowed to express my frustration with the public space in the public space. that’s how this goes.

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loveinsomesacredplace · 5 months ago

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Taps the invisible neon sign - season 3 of the summer i turned fandom avoidant is going to be rough for people who love Belly, and want good things for her irrespective of which man she chooses at the end. I’ve made my preference for which man I want her to choose, obviously - but the heart of this tumblr is, and always will be team Show! Belly first.

She is my favorite, she will always be my favorite, I think shipping by moral purity is stupid, love triangles, even shoddily constructed ones are supposed to be messy, blaming the bulk of the issues the characters have on Belly, and tying her value only to the man without delving into anything else about her is a limited and sad way to build a romance heroine, and I can’t ship a ship if I don’t love both the characters, and the fans who don’t and loudly proclaim the man to be their fave by a far shot are not fans I understand.

Sorry I couldn’t be your writer, show Bells!

The thing is, joking aside - I don’t need Belly to be anyone’s fave because she’s mine, and the energy I bring to the function is an early 00s fan of deemed flawed/unlikable female characters that a lot of people don’t like.

#been quiet because i am slowly chipping away at my fics #and also I want to avoid most discourse in general related to this dumbass show #because most of it is terrible and not well thought out and also repetitive #this tumblr is not an anti-belly safe space #people can have their opinions and i can have the opinion they’re wrong #it’a one thing to like a character and also admit her flaws #but the way some shippers treat belly like she committed war crimes and only tolerate her because of the man #which is a waste of shipping effort imo #just ship jere with cam tay ofc omc then instead of being in bellyjere spaces #but radical idea: the characters are more than the sum of their romantic ships #the truth is belly is jenny han’s most flawed first draft female lead #the books are a trash fire so the less said the better #but show belly is not written in the frame of her show as sympathetically #as jenny’s other fmcs #or the other characters really #there honestly is so much to explore with bells #and it makes me sad and annoyed that there isn’t #there is not as much traction there in fanfic for her in depth as there is for jere #it’s 2025 #and fandom and society continues to be male centered as default

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corvidfeathers · 6 months ago

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I’m not a girl but I do wish my gender could be like girl crossdresser narrative device do you feel me

#I want to occupy a masculine role and be acknowledged in that without feeling pressure to pass or something??#I think this is why I feel so good in spaces like heavy weapons fighting practice where I get treated like one of the guys even if people #slip up on my pronouns or w/e #I hate being called she and seen as a woman; I like being selectively feminine #anyway this was inspired by that rose of Versailles art and me watching rose of Versailles at a young age #and utena and like Rowan hood and etc etc etc #corvid rambles #anyway please do not discourse on this post this isn’t anything coherent it’s just my personal gender feelings

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lildoodlenoodle · 2 years ago

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Not the spiderverse art book restarting the dying down Hobie age discourse. With the Japanese version implying he’s a ‘young boy’(I think that’s what it was either way either way) and the book saying ‘he’s much older than miles..’(smth like that either way either way) and it’s like seriously? Again? AGAIN?

The directors said it’s up to interpretation. And the only reason(w/ the exclusion of the people thinking he’s like 30 cause that’s weird and gross, re-examine some racial biases)that people are so adamant he is or isn’t a minor is because of shipping! Whether it’s with one of the spider teens or with OCs or justifying self shipping it’s weird! It’s weird that that’s the reason people are going nuts over this shit and dying on their respective hills. And let people have their HCs holyshit.

And to reiterate: it’s not proshipping/pedoshit if someone HCs Hobie as a teen and ships them with one of the spider teens. It’s not necessarily fetishization and is not pedoshit if people HC him as a young adult and do self ships or whatever else goes on there.

It’s fandom let people fuck around. Something doesn’t have to be justified as morally wrong for you not to like it. Stop trying to force your own Head Canons, key word HEAD as in the canon in your head, onto other people.

Sorry for the rant I just cannot believe it’s still going.

#I’ll say it again #head canons #as in the canon IN YOUR HEAD #ik part of the problem is people are new to fandom spaces/culture and don’t entirely understand HCs #sorry I’m getting so heated but this is like the stupidest shit to see people get stuck on as someone who has been here for awhile #like actually dealing with ACTUALLY problematic ships and this is what y’all think is problematic now??? ITS IN YOUR HEAD BESTIE #like the ghostpunk. punkflower. and chaipunk ships aren’t for me but I do love and appreciate the art!#never rlly been into self inserts either. idk just not my thing tbh #didn’t even rlly know what proshipping was till the Hobie brown stuff #y’all are KILLING ME #it’s funny but it’s also annoying to see it all over my feed #so now we all have to suffer #there isn’t even really a tag for me to filter it out #I’m gonna put some triggers just cause I was less eloquent than I could’ve been lol #tw pedophila mention #age discourse ig

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skypiea · 1 year ago

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sometimes I really do feel like I’m getting too old for tumblr. Which is strange bc I’m only almost 24. And most of the kinds of posts that make me feel like that are made by people my age or older

#kite.txt #I think maturing past the discourse-brained stage of ur life immediately makes u feel alienated on tumblr #bc 80% of tumblr users just want to get in pointless fights abt what other ppl do in their own spaces #this isn’t me saying I’m gonna leave LOL. I’m just gonna keep making controversial posts until I’ve driven away ppl who would be mad at me #and I’m just left with a little circle of weirdos (affectionate)

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thedragonboi · 1 year ago

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Ship discourse is so stupid. It seeps into trying to enjoy a show/fandom like normal. Leave me alone I don’t care about the subtext or whatever neurotypical or allo behaviour I haven’t noticed. I want to sit here and squeeze my blorbos like a stress ball like a normal person

#blorbo #blorbo from my shows #blorbo from my books #shipping #ship discourse #ship discussion #fandom #fandom discourse #this isn’t about anything in particular #it’s just something that generally haunts fandom spaces that I wish was easier to avoid

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