#transtuff

[gonnaeatyourgirlfriend]

my friends randomly started talking about how non-binary and genderfluid is bullshit... friendly fire

[reckless-blossoms]

i was thinking of doing my name change after FWA so all that paperwork shit could be After my flight and such, but i may push it back further to like... September lol. because i turn 26 in july and will be swapping to new insurance. id rather that all be settled first, without the fear of any documents being in legal limbo for awhile. now, i officially am covered until august 1st. but my top surgery is on september 12th. so, out of paranoia, i'll just leave it til after that. but i mean, i can do some of the steps ahead of time, like the fingerprinting and shit

[w1lted-r0se]

Can we request a level 3 kurt/ram (heathers) splitroject/fictive? That would be wonderful

I hope this is up to your expectations anon!!

Names: Ram, Big Red, Coach, Zach, Isaac, Tony, Liam

Pronouns: He/him, they/them, bro/bros, bam/bams, red/reds, ball/balls, champ/champs, dude/dudes, flex/flexes, hype/hypes, win/wins, snap/snaps

Genders: Male, Varsitygender, Jockgender, Rambogender, Pepgender, Adrenalinegender, Buffgender, Confidencegender, Loudgender, Thrillgender

Age: Early 20s, though he often acts younger

Roles: Protector, morale booster, physical defender, comic relief

Likes: sports (especially football), junk food, loud music, physical activity, and making people laugh.

Dislikes: overthinking, being told to quiet down, emotional vulnerability, and being outsmarted.

Faceclaim:

How they fulfill their roles: Ram serves as a protector by stepping up in moments of confrontation, using physical confidence to shield others. As a morale booster, he keeps things lighthearted with humor, though sometimes unintentionally. He’s a dependable defender when action is needed.

Typing quirk: Frequently uses slang and emojis like “BRO!!!” or “YO 🏈🔥.” He’ll often type in all caps and occasionally misspell words for comedic effect.

Transids: Transnotscared, Transtuff

Cisids: Cisjock, Ciscoach, CisbigBrother

Sign-off: 🏈🔥, ⚽️🏟️, 🙏‼️

How they act inside the system: Inside, Ram is an energetic and playful presence, constantly hyping others up and suggesting activities that distract from stress. He might randomly challenge other alters to competitions, even if they don’t make sense (like “mental push-ups”).

How they act outside the system: Outside, he’s boisterous and friendly, often trying to make connections through jokes, high-fives, and a laid-back demeanor. His confidence sometimes borders on arrogance, but he means well.

How they would dress the body: Ram would go for casual, sporty outfits: varsity jackets, striped polos, jeans, and sneakers, basically anything comfortable and athletic-looking.

Silly little quirks: Ram has a habit of flexing even when no one’s watching and will occasionally narrate his own actions like, “Ram Sweeney enters the room! Crowd goes wild!” He also loves giving everyone nicknames, no matter how absurd.

[skylitterror]

I dont think ive ever felt so good about my appearance in my life, its amazing what eyeliner and lipstick can do!!! Not to mention the clothes i got now i just need some tops to wear with it all and to find something to do with my hair! Im so so excited, ive even made a small breakthrough with voice stuff like Tonight its so wild im so happy

[spraykit]

spamtongender

hey! i've never done anything like this before and posted about it, but-

a while ago i "coined" a label, and by coined i mean, i didn't post it anywhere at all except in a server with 2 people.

this was a xenogender called "spamtongender" which I made without knowing of any other labels associated with spamton (i checked this wiki, i think it's one of the biggest archives for xenogenders i've seen-)

It's basically just a gender connected to Spamton from Deltarune chapter 2. The whole aesthetic of the character, puppets, religious things and other fun stuff!

the flag is semi-inspired by the puppetic flag, as the two genders are similar. it is also completely colourpicked from the in-game sprite of spamton (both regular and his neo form)

The black represents emptiness/loneliness

the pink (picked from spamtons glasses), represents spam, and the infamous [Hot singles in your area] type of scam.

White represents pureness (as spamton has kiiiind of a deep connection with heaven?), and salt.

red is for capitalism (spamtons cheeks)

yellow simply represents selling things, money or Kromer. (also glasses)

the purple was borrowed from the puppetic flag (which doesn't have a meaning), but on this flag it's supposed to represent being/feeling like a puppet. (picked from spamton neos wings)

it has also come to my attention that on tumblr people actually have coined terms similar to this before. i've found spamtonial/spamtokayic coined by cheeryfairygender and suprrk, and spamtonique coined by neopronouns.

sorry for the long post!

[elfrightsactivist]

Hey. Im a beginning writer and I saw your post about trans characters. Im cis but i want to do it properly. What would you like to see? How do I make them come out? Sorry i just want this to be good yknow? Thanks

Hi there! Thank you for asking, and never apologise for wanting to be respectful about including people. I wish more people did that. 

I tried to make this short at first but it’s just impossible for me, so buckle up because I’m passionate about this. 

Same as with writing any minority, including trans people in your story doesn’t mean you get to talk about the experience of belonging in said minority. While you might have some empathy, unless you’re basing your trans character’s story on a specific experience of a real person, you have an enormous chance of being misguided by pop culture and its obsession with turning us into tragic, suffering figures only there to be pitied or as a way to shock the audience or as a way for the writers to get diversity cookies. We’re just people, and even if we do have traumatic backstories, let us talk about them in our own terms. Make a character that just happens to be trans, but don’t focus on that part of their identity because that bit is not yours to tell.Example: Madeline is an actress. She likes sci-fi and is currently studying French literature while she follows her passion for theatre. She also sings and plays the ukulele and piano, she has a YouTube channel where she does operatic covers of video game themes and makes nerdy songs about popular fictional characters, and wants to play the main part in a West End musical one day. She knows it’s hard because she’s trans, but she trusts her abilities, and she’s grateful for the few fans she’s gotten from YouTube who are super supportive.

Don’t be misguided by stereotypes. 99% of trans women don’t dress like drag queens, trans men are not butch lesbians who just desperately want a dick, and not every trans person has a tragic past with their family because of their identity. Also, no need for your trans char to be 100% feminine or masculine to PROVE they really are trans, and there’s no need to be a short-haired, flannel-wearing, very non-gendered white thin model in order to be non-binary. Example: Madeline has a girlfriend and two dogs. She lives in a small flat and struggles to pay rent, but she’s happy. Every Sunday she visits her dad. She’s an only child, and he absolutely adores his daughter and her girlfriend and likes to cook for them. She’s got her differences with her mother because she wanted Madeline to be a doctor, not a starving artist, and thinks she’s irresponsible, but Madeline was tired of trying to live out her mother’s dream and has chosen to take some distance. 

How to make them come out? The same way you’d say anything about anyone’s past: respectfully. Don’t make someone find out against their will. Don’t have someone from their past misgender / deadname them and then put them in the awkward situation of having to explain themselves to both the people they once knew and the people they’ve chosen to surround themselves with in their current life. Everyone in my life knows I’m trans, and if they don’t yet, it’s because of circumstance, not a cunning plot of shame on my part.If you do want to have them be stealth, don’t treat the moment of coming out into a huge betrayal. No more hiding genitalia because they’re ashamed to tell their partner, no more telling their date and their date storming off because they trusted you, how could you not tell me, [deadname], if that’s even really your real name, WHAT ELSE ARE YOU HIDING, ARE YOU A MURDERER, and so on and so forth. Example: Madeline is accepted in a new acting group, and makes a new friend. They hang out, compliment each other’s Star Trek t-shirts, and have rehearsals together. They talk about parts they’d played in the past, and Madeline mentions that in high school she was given all the male parts even though she tried to get the female ones, but they wouldn’t give them to her because well, we all still thought I was a boy back then, but one teacher ever gave her the one she wanted, and she was her favourite, and hopes to invite her in the premiere of the play. “Aw, that’s so sweet,” her new friend says, who has met trans people before and realises that Madeline wants to focus on the affection for her teacher and not her own past at the moment, “I’m so glad you showed them who’s the boss, I hope your teacher makes it. If you ever wanna talk more about that time i’d be glad to listen.” They keep eating their ice cream. Here you can easily pull a Raymond Holt and make her openly trans but the people around her just don’t seem to get it because she’s way too casual about it. I know I’d love to do that at some point but I tend to write in fantasy universes where it’s not a big deal in the first place. If you can do that, even better. In sci-fi and fantasy, it’s always so refreshing to see people who actually imagined worlds without transphobia. 

Now, what I’d like to see. I kept this one for last, because I’m picky.I guess, no more transphobic violence. No more showing who the bad guy is by verbally / emotionally / physically attacking the trans character for shock value.No more trans character being there just to be trans. Make a Krem, who’s there to tell weird stories of past jobs and be the second in command; make a Rhett Hennesey, who’s there to be the protagonist and kill paranormal creatures and find his destiny; make a Nomi Marks, genius and very queer and an incredible hacker, kind, badass, there to be part of something bigger and share the love; make a Cheri Littlebottom, forensics expert extraordinaire, who makes friends and reinvents herself and claims her identity tooth and claw and earns people’s respect and will not get rid of her amazing dwarven beard or her lipstick and high heels; don’t make a Sophia Burset, who is forgotten after a few episodes and she’s only there to waste a talented actress’ abilities and remind people that hey, look, there’s a trans woman in here, look how tragic her life is, look how her identity is tearing her family apart and literally put her in prison. And in the end, because I’m picky, no, don’t make a Krem or a Rhett either, because they’re treated as cross-dressing women from their narratives, and they’re both awesome and deserve better than that.In the end, I’d like to see trans protagonists. Trans teachers, and lovers, and criminals, and superheroes, and space captains. Feminine and fat and black and Native and Mediterranean and alien and elven and muscled and disabled and ugly and hot and creative and famous and feared trans people. Two or even three trans people per story. Non-tragic trans people. Well-rounded, loved characters, whose motives are something else besides being trans, whose families value them, or if they don’t, it’s not because of their gender.

Write people. And if they talk to you and tell you that they’re transgender, hear them out, and make it happen. But make them people first. 

[justzoinks]

just got called “sir” and “baby girl” in the same interaction..........

[gonnaeatyourgirlfriend]

so i'm not out at all. the other day my brother and i were setting up a PS profile for me, and to my biggest surprise, when we get to the username, he typed, in his words, "that name that you use". which is my chosen name. my very transgenderly chosen name. i have it on some profiles (like insta) so he has seen it, but i never told him. so, basically he called me by that name for the very first time. which is so cool, even if he has no idea lol. a small trans win is still a win!

[wonderdrug69]

today i hit 4 months on T! i'm sooo happy hajshsjabajahsjaavjvsva

[cacneaz]

I’m looking into going to see a therapist. I need to manage my depression and jitters and being pissed off all the time, but i also want to find someone i could talk to regarding my gender identity feelings? cause tumblr probably aint the best place to do that on an intimate level. And at the same time i know im going to shake and studder a lot and i won’t be able to look at the therapist because i always have trouble looking people in the eye when talking and it only gets worse with stress. i almost never feel safe so i kinda want to bring a friend for support?.... do i have to pay extra for that? i don’t have much money. is it possible to only go monthly cause i aint got much money at all? fuck.

[minusninteyseven]

Transtuff

So I've lost 32.6 lbs since my surgery, and I'm walking at least 5 miles every day and feeling emotionally and physically fantastic. But that's not what this post is about. I'm trans. I'm a guy. I'm a super genderqueer guy, but that's who I feel like I've always been. And I'm about to come out as trans on FB. To, like, my family.

[skylitterror]

Jealous of several friends on hrt i want a more fem look already i want a decent rack an to round out my sizable ass if not embiggen it more along with some hips. I wanna buy more femme clothes but im tempted to wait tol i start hrt first i dunno

[nooneinparticular0]

Okay so I have a new blog to put transgender stuff on it's @transtuffs

[techtonicactivity]

If no pronouns fit you it's okay to use amateur nouns

[elfrightsactivist]

So I heard you want to write a trans character

I was going to add to this amazing post talking about how writing trans characters usually means their trans identity is revealed against their will and without their consent, but a) I want to take it one step forward and b) I’ve got so many things to say that it felt rude to add to it. Read it, though, it’s good. So, let me get started.

It’s not only the non-con “reveal” of someone’s trans history that’s horrible about the way trans people are written. Even in books that try to avoid that, there are other things that make it cringeworthy, and I swear to everything I hold dear, I haven’t read one book with a trans character that was treated in a way that didn’t make me cringe and wasn’t about being trans.

So, let me give you some advice, from a not so humble trans guy to you cis people reading this:

Do not reveal your trans character’s dead name. There’s literally no need for that. Most of us are trying to separate our dead name from our identity, because it reminds us of a time of hiding and possibly something given to us by a family that ended up hating us for who we are. When someone learns your dead name, it’s much easier for them to think about you the way you used to be and misgender you. Even if you have a dead name in mind for your trans character, it literally doesn’t need to be revealed to the audience. I’m pretty sure I don’t even know what the dead names of all my trans characters used to be, beause I don’t care. I won’t even name any examples here because the only media I’ve found where a trans person’s dead name wasn’t shown was Dragon Age: Inquisition with Krem, everything else I’ve consumed has given me a dead name I didn’t need or ask for.

I know you think transphobia cannot be separated from the trans experience, but for fuck’s sake, stop having your trans characters being the targets of transphobic attacks. That includes physical and verbal violence, fucking tearing of their clothes (like @lymantriidae, the OP of the post that inspired this, said), showing who the villain / antagonist is by having them being an asshole to your trans character (eg Every Heart a Doorway, Beauty Queens), just so that the people who are going to be their friend stand up for them, having a possible love interest freak out in the reveal of their trans status, etc etc, and you’re here in my list and my list will go on and on. Being represented doesn’t mean having to relive the trauma that possibly sent us to therapy or makes us having panic attacks at night, and if you don’t realise that, maybe you don’t have the knowledge and empathy to write trans characters.

Stop the misgendering within your own narrative. You’d think that shit would be obvious, but it really isn’t. I swear to hell, if I see one more book with a trans person POV repeatedly thinking how “they was really a (insert gender assigned at birth)” and the narrative agreeing, (eg Conspiracy of Ravens, Sandman, Pantomime), I will dig a tunnel to the writer’s house and make them eat their own drafts while forcing them to watch Laverne Cox speeches. If you don’t respect your trans character, nobody else will, and most importantly, WE won’t respect YOU, because you don’t deserve it.

Stop the stereotypes. I’m sure there are couples who are indeed destroyed by one of the two’s coming out as trans, but I’ve never met a trans woman who used to be a macho fire-fighter and became a hairdresser right after (eg. Orange is the New Black). All the people I know kept doing the same thing before and after their transition, just a little bit more comfortably.

Consult real-life trans people before you write something about them. Feeling shy? Watch YouTube videos made by trans people, or read articles written by us, or consume comics and books and music made by us. Listen to us talking about our experiences. Are you making a film or a show or a podcast or a game? Hire trans people to play your trans characters. 

[justzoinks]

my dad is. so supportive and im crying