#tumblr can have some tummy as a treat

[deankarolina]

Vanuary day 2! No funky shirt this time but I have many ideas

[catboygretzky]

Exyblr Dashboard Simulator based on what I personally see on sportsblr:

2/?

📜 realexyblog

haiku because exy is back:

GOD, why are my teams

SO fucking bad at exy?

FUCK this FUCKING sport.

#and i watch sports for why? entertainment? no way

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♛ queen-of-exy

I WAS RIGHT ALL ALONG! KEVIN DAY IS A QUEEN SHES LITERALLY A QUEEN ITS ON HER FACE

💃fox-me-up follow

queen on the court, pillow princess on the mattress amiright

♛ queen-of-exy

ive never felt more understood, I am kissing you w tongue

#marry me tumblr user fox me up

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🌞 blonde-jeremy-knox

i'm just gonna say it. i know we're all thinking it. jeremy knox eats ass like it's his JOB.

👁 jean-mor-uhoh

babe literally no one was thinking that but i'm proud of you for speaking your truth

#we're friends but what cost. when all u talk about is jeremy knox eating ass.

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🧚 goalie-stan

#dan wilds #psu

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🌄 softkevinday follow

He lived. He served cunt. He died. He was Resurrected. Served more cunt.

#kevin day

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👸🏻 kevindazed follow

absolutely busted a fucking nut watching kevin day switch hands like that oh my god my nut was so forceful it created a new dimension.

🏳️‍🌈 gay4stickball follow

hey can i join you in that dimension

👸🏻 kevindazed follow

Sure, just bring some snacks or something

🏳️‍🌈 gay4stickball follow

hell yeah!!!!!!

#thanks youre the best do you like doritos?

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😎 foxyknoxy

the best exy team in the nation is a LIBERAL ARTS COLLEGE how many of those students even go to the games when your school is full of artists and theater kids. your student section must be wACK

😎 foxyknoxy

*sorry, 2nd best exy team in the nation

#fuck you theater kids!!!!!!!! can't even appreciate a good sport !!!!! anyway go trojans

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🙈 ittybittyminny follow

Andrew Minyard should get a little bite and chew. As a reward. Maybe a small gnaw. nomnomnom Maaaaaybe as a treat he can rip a throat out, but only if he's really really good

#only if he's REALLY GOOD and maybe tests negative for rabies but whatever you can't win em all

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🏳️‍🌈 gay4stickball follow

favourite exy rarepair????

☀️ usctrojanny

ACTUALLY !!!!! was thinking about this earlier and while ive never seen anyone talk about it.......aaron minyard and neil josten would be 👀 kinda cute???

🏳️‍🌈 gay4stickball follow

omg wait why have I never thought about guys before!!!!!!!! noooo why did you say this, i can totally see it!!!!!! Neil would probably have to lean down to kiss aaron 🥺 do u think he has ever had to lean down to kiss someone 😭

☀️ usctrojanny

And obviously, u know me, im always here for a striker/backliner matchup

🏳️‍🌈 gay4stickball follow

this is all i'm going to think about for the rest of my life now, thanks, fuck you

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👅 nastyneiljosten

I want to put neil josten in a jar and shake the jar so violently he turns into sludge and then pour a drop of that sludge on to a petri dish so I can see what kind of bacteria he produces.

🦩 exyonmymind follow

what happens to the rest of the sludge?

👅 nastyneiljosten

*sluuuuuuurp* *swallowing sounds* *sluuuurp* *gargle gargle* *more swallowing sounds* yummy yummy in my tummy

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🐋 sexyexy

headcannon that neil josten is so feral bc andrew bit him and gave him rabies so now he's a literal rabid dog

👢exyinaphonebooth follow

You can't make headcannons about real people don't be freaks

🐋 sexyexy

exy players aren't real they're my little dolls that I can put into any situations I want and you can't stop me

#thanks anyway did u know andrew minyard gave neil josten rabies

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🧸 mreow-bearcats-mreow

ARE THOSE REFS FUCKING BLIND ????????!

#exy lb

👨🏻‍❤️‍💋‍👨🏻 talk-exy-to-me

Kiss cams are only acceptable during sporting events if they zoom in on two players

🗣️ jeremyknoxes follow

ok but what if they're wearing a face mask

👨🏻‍❤️‍💋‍👨🏻 talk-exy-to-me

smash your cages together obviously, don't be a pussy #love wins

🗣️ jeremyknoxes follow

fair enough

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🌸 softexy

Andrew and Aaron Minyard

#exy #andrew minyard #aaron minyard #palmetto foxes #psu #web weave #poetry

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[feybeasts]

Hey, like. Tumblr wellness check- y'know an average weight still means you got some fat on your body, right? That having some tummy is normal? That the existence of fat is like... just something the average human being has because that stuff serves a biological purpose? That anyone who has fat on their body isn't necessarily a Fat Person?

I know this is kinda like- wild coming from me of all people, a fat person in real life who also draws fat furries, but I am so so damn concerned about the perception here of what is and isn't like... normal things for most human beings to have. Fatness is okay, being on the skinny side is okay, but there's also just average, and having a bit of fat around your middle doesn't make you fat, it makes you a bog standard human being. We've demonized the notion of fat so hard that even treating it positively feels sometimes like people are putting fairly average people in a category they don't belong, and that's harmful to their self-image too.

It's okay. We can accept things as normal without it being a crusade. And accepting that bodies come in all shapes and sizes, and that these categorizations existing- so long as there's not a false moralization attached to them- is okay too.

[professionalchaoticdumbass]

in the past week or so ive seen a lot of people posting about how there's this oversexualization of trans girls on the site, and I gotta agree, there are way too many people (including other trans women!) who act like we're all dtf 24/7 or always super kinky and horny. I've been tired of that stereotype for ages and i am saying this as a rather sexual trans girl myself...

...but I think people are overcorrecting a bit now, and are starting to veer into "trans women shouldnt be talked about sexually / need to be shielded from it" territory. and, to me, that's really dangerous, because outside of some queer spaces - and even within them- the sexuality of trans girls is heavily scrutinized, as is attraction to us. as much as I dislike certain aspects of the memes and jokes that kickstarted the stereotypes, I'm kinda grateful for them as well. girldick jokes helped with my bottom dysphoria, voice kink shit helped me like my voice, and the whole "tgirl tummy tuesday" thing gave me a lot of confidence in my body where I hated it before. I think this open appreciation of trans sexiness has done a lot for both me and others on tumblr.

again, obviously its got its problems - people end up assuming every trans girl is horny, or only spread positivity if its related to sex with us, and of course the people who do have dysphoria from the things that are being sexualized are left out (like those the "girls without dicks are like angels without wings" memes, ugh, feels icky every time). and on the note of comparing tgirls to angels, we also started getting treated like we're ethereal fertility goddesses and that t4t sex was some inherently sacred ritual. spoiler alert, trans girls are normal-ass people and t4t sex can be holy for the participants but its generally a pretty normal thing to do as well

coming back to the "don't sexualize trans girls" posts now, I think they were initially going in the right direction, but at this point I'm starting to raise an eyebrow at more than a few of them. I'm not gonna whip out the "youre a sex hating puritan if you post about it" accusation because that is obviously wrong but again, I think people are definitely overcorrecting and starting to turn this into a (false) dichotomy when it's not. its a complex topic and each individual trans woman will feel differently about it.

(I feel like the internet just erases any nuance in favor of a two-sided, highly polarized flamewar with unrealistic views on both sides. actually i wouldn't even say this is a super-nuanced discussion because its really not that hard to say "fetishization is bad, but so is suppression of sexuality". will this post just end up being a void scream and people will continue drawing lines between one side and the other? probably. but I am a stubborn bitch and I have hope that we can be reasonable.)

anyways I'll close this off by saying that I wrote this between around 1:30 and 2 AM on terrible sleep the night before, that I hope what I said is coherent enough, and that I will keep being a trans girl who is openly sexual, gets horny over other trans women, and is proud to be transsexy as fuck. I will keep being critical of jokes and trends and memes that stereotype us, even from our own community. I will keep being angry at how poorly us trans folks are treated with regards to our sex lives, bodies, and relationships between the two. I will keep loving and lusting over trans women without fetishizing them. And I will keep doing all of these til the day I die.

[smalltestaccount]

okay i think ive come to the conclusion that i dont really fit in with most other trans women, like personality wise, and thats okay. Like i think recently a lot of trans women, not just on tumblr, have been making me think i have to be kinky and bizarre or something, be blasé about transitioning or gender roles, or even just like be okay with some borderline harassing behavior. Its okay if that is you (except the harassing behavior some of yall need to work on that), but like thats not really me. Acting this way just makes me feel bad. Just ignoring that Im a total straightedge, that im like a 1 on the Kinsey scale now. Ever since i was like 11 my biggest desire is just like being a normal cis girl. I always am happiest embracing basic American femininity, and i only just re-realized this after after it helped me get out of a depressive episode (along with antidepressants and an increased estrogen dose). I don't care if im "enforcing gender roles", because i fucking love female gender roles (in modern American culture) cause they make me feel like not-a-piece-of-shit. Also i don't strictly adhere to many anyways. And i just don't think terfs would have any issues with cis girls who love the color pink, flowers, being boy crazy, and dreaming about being a mother. So like why should I feel like its wrong to like that stuff? I don't think there is anything wrong with it. And you know if you don't have that relationship with gender that is fine, you need to do what makes you happy, that's why feminism exists. I'm just saying I don't want to pretend like my personality is something that really just makes me uncomfortable.

I dont like when people here imply being a trans woman entails being sexual cause like i just want to be normal and that stereotype is harmful, especially to transgender children who are really likley to be targeted for some kind of sexual abuse because theyre trans and being trans is already sexualized more than it needs to be. Adults can navigate that to some extent, but not kids; I couldnt really navigate that when i started transitioning in middle school and im lucky it only stayed online. Trying to even somewhat fit in with tumblrs idea of trans women has made me encounter tranny porn on my dash and whenever i post images of myself I'm followed by gross accounts that just reblog that stuff . A lot of trans women don't hate it, because sex work is very much as part of the trans community. But honestly, seeing trans women be treated in those ways just makes me feel bad for the actresses and sick about myself and very dysphoric.

Im not saying that you cant express kinkiness and hyper-sexuality, because I dont want to dictate how you act any more than i want you to be dictated on how I act. But I also want to encourage thoughfulness in what you say. Saying you, yourself, is kinky and weird, is not that same as saying trans *girls* are kinky and weird. In the same way I'm not going to reblog tradwife content, I don't think its productive to make an "all tgirls be kinky" post. You shouldn't try to paint that image of other trans women.

As its the first day of june I'll just tie it up by saying that not all trans people fit into one personality and if you want to show support its best not to suggest trans women all act a certain way, and please don't think talking about "gock" is a good way to show support. This isn't a "kink at pride" discourse post in the very slightest cause I don't, and never have, given any shits about that, cause I've never been to pride. This is just me talking about how I fit into the trans community.

Im Alexa and I'm going to reblog and post shit i like, not what other people like or expect. That Includes not doing tummy tuesday cause i really only briefly did it out of fomo and peer pressure. And please don't say things about me that you wouldnt say about other women

[starsurface]

hi.. did tumblr eat my request for general caregiver fujin headcanons? i could have sworn i requested that unless i'm just crazy?

Awh I've had that happen to me too!! Sometimes request don't fully send? Like, you need to get that small Tumblr notification that states that it was sent? It happens very rarely though, don't worry :]

Luckily you resent another request!! :D

<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3

CG Fujin Hcs

☁️ Such a good CG!!! <3

☁️ Really good with a lot of ages!!

☁️ Doesn't specialize with any age, but is incredibly good with clingy regressors

☁️ Adores cuddling and spending time with you, your his most important thing right now

☁️ Well, your his most important thing period, but when your small your his main priority

☁️ Has pushed some of his God responsibilities off just for you <3

☁️ Raiden lectured him later for it though >:(

☁️ Speaking about Raiden, Fujin would highly encourage little playdates between you two!!

☁️ Fujins really strong, and he really likes carrying you

☁️ So this works incredibly well if you regress smaller

☁️ Mortals very much amuse him very much

☁️ Which means you amuse him so, so much

☁️ Learnt that younger mortals need a nap and encourages you to take one, especially if you regress tiny

☁️ He'll dress you in soft jammies, brush your hair, you'll have a whole routine

☁️ He’ll also cuddle you!!! Loves to cuddle during naptime (even if he doesn't sleep)

☁️ Won't force you to take a nap if you don't wanna though

☁️ If your scared of naps (such as monsters under the bed or such) he'll cuddle you extra tight and get you a dream catcher

☁️ He'll also get magic Monster Go Away Spray!!! (a trick he learnt from a parent app, actually)

☁️ Thinks it's really funny when you get a burst of energy, and then crash asleep

☁️ Is very patient when you have tantrums or hissy fits

☁️ He'll let you scream and cry, especially if it's over big negative feelings, but stays by incredibly close so you don't hit or throw anything

☁️ If you do he'll gently grab your wrists or quickly catch whatever you throw

☁️ He'll scold you later for it, probably when your big again and can have a better conversation

☁️ But right now, he wants to make sure your okay

☁️ He'll gently rock you and say that everything's okay

☁️ Doesn't really do punishments, but will scold you if your being naughty on purpose

☁️ Believes outside time is very important!!!

☁️ Whether that's going outside and playing with his kite, or sitting on the grass with some toys and a blanket

☁️ Will encourage you to pull pranks on the Monks and his friends (and take any backlash so you don't get in trouble)

☁️ He'll make you ‘fly’ in the air with his powers (making a burst of wind beneath you)

☁️ Safely though!!! He'd never do it if you didn't want to either

☁️ Will sit you on a blanket and then put you in the air (like a magic carpet ride fr Aladdin!!)

☁️ If your a bigger kid, you'll still get treated like a toddler >:(

☁️ But don't worry!! Just tell him and he'll treat you more your age (or try, it's a process)

☁️ Thinks pet regressors are really cute and funny and will watch you roll along the ground

☁️ Gives the best head scratchies and tummy rubs!!!

☁️ If you're ever sick while your tiny, it takes everything out of him not to pick you up and hold you closely :(

☁️ It's just, your all tucked in bed looking like ‘🥺’ but he knows that if he holds you, he'll get sick too :(

☁️ Tries to get you yummy medicine, and will make you some nice warm milk

☁️ Very good with if you use diapers and will buy you ones with cute designs!!

☁️ His hair is very long and he'll let you brush it, and will redirect you if you pull on ks hair

☁️ Will brush your hair any time of the day, absolutely loves brushing and styling it!!

☁️ Favorite CG nicknames are Dada, Fuu Fuu, and Cloudy

☁️ Favorite little nicknames to call you are Sweetie, Sweetheart, Little One, Baby, Lovely, Bumble Bee

<3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3 <3

They're not the best, but I can always do more!! :D

[weebsinstash]

Honestly, I think it's fine if you write reader inserts with certain ethnicities or traits in mind. You can't please everyone, and that's fine. The only person you have to please is yourself. It's alright to be your own target audience.

I still remember when someone I follow posted a fic once and they even included a disclaimer before the fic "hey just so you know I wrote this fic for me and the Reader is briefly described as having a certain body type" and people still crawled up her ass about it despite the post literally having a big ass "this is for me" sign on it

It's sort of like. I don't mind making X Reader content that is more generic in terms of who or what kind of person Reader is, and I take a level of pride in writing things people can connect to, but I've definitely noticed that when x Reader authors DO eventually write fics where their Readers have a more distinct identity in terms of shape or culture, some people just get very, almost personally offended by that? I understand feeling excluded but at the same time, where is the suspension of belief you know? I'm a big girl and a lot of these x reader smut fics will mention Reader being put into positions where my tummy used to get in the way, but was I leaving comments? Nah, my brain just mentally skipped over it and I enjoyed the rest of the fic

Honestly I also don't understand this reluctance of people to consume fics where the Reader ISN'T like them because one aspect of consuming media can be learning more about other experiences and cultures and types of people. For example I wish POC authors didn't feel pressured to sanitize their own Reader inserts because as an American from the midwest my ass sure doesn't have much of a culture so it's cool to learn about the different sorts of styles and foods and traditions of other places

Either way, idk. I'm tally getting into haircare sorta stuff though and as I mentioned in my last post there's definitely some history behind how I've been raised to treat my hair and how it's left me with some scars and, idk. It's kind of a newer development but I keep thinking of stuff with either Valentino or, oddly enough Valentino or Velvette with that "forced glow up" sorta deal, idk.

I just hope i can actually POST A FIC you know? I actually AM creating new drafts and stuff a lot of the times I mention them. I just sometimes bounce to a new idea or don't finish it or, it gets last in the endless vertical slog through my tumblr drafts, but either way, nice to see people are still entertained and sticking around even with just prompts and stuff. Your dedication will maybe pay off eventually 😅

[nannymcpee]

Hello nanny,

Glad to see you again on Tumblr.

First big hug 🫂 for the best nanny ever. How are you ?

Some questions:

How dress a little boy after bath and change his with Terry nappy? For inside and outside.

How deal with a little boy who doesn't eat his meal?

Do you prefer spank or corner time, when little boy do a tantrum?

Big kiss and cuddle

Hello you lovely boy 🥰🥰 ooh what good questions 🥰🥰🥰

Let’s start with going out and about shall we? I love tykables jeans, in fact any nappy and jeans combo is super cute 🥰🥰🥰 and we definitely need a onesie to stop those saggy little bottoms! Then a hoodie completes the look! I have an amazing Cookie Monster hoodie which is simply adorable!! 🥰🥰🥰 oh and definitely a pair of converse high tops 😍😍😍

In the absence of a willing model you’ll have to make do with me I’m afraid, but here’s the Cookie Monster hoodie…

To stay in it has to be either a cute footed sleeper or nothing but a nappy! Just wearing a nappy makes nappy checks so much easier and it’s more difficult to resist giving tummy tickles 🤭

Hmmm if little boys don’t want to eat their yummy dinners I’d start by trying to spoon feed them on my lap, cuddles usually helps the veggies go down. And there’s the aeroplane technique ✈️ niiiiioooooowwwwwmmmm 🤭 If he still won’t eat up that’s ok, he can fill up with milk but he won’t be allowed to have any treats 🥺

Awwww tantrums don’t deserve spanking 🥺 there’s always a reason for a tantrum and though I might have stern words to let him know he’s out of line the best way to stop a tantrum is with a cuddle. He is likely to have some big boy privileges taken away from him if he is such a baby he needs to have a tantrum. And if it’s because he’s tired (which is what I usually find is the problem) I’ll put him down for a nap.

I don’t mind giving a gentle tap on the bottom if he’s doing something he shouldn’t though 🤭 but corner time wouldn’t work for me because I couldn’t resist wanting to cuddle or play with him 🥰🥰🥰 I’m far too needy to leave him in a corner 🫣

Thank you for your kisses and cuddles little one, sending lots to you as well 🥰😘🤗

[beginning-to-be-happy]

A fair question for your SO if you're considering marriage or are already married:

How do you see me? What do you think my flaws and strengths are and what do you like about me? What do you think of when you look at me for an extended period?

If your spouse or future spouse struggles to answer these questions, is merely annoyed by these questions or focuses on only things you need to improve on or things about you that pisses them off, you need to realize that what they're asking you to do is to give your life and loyalty to someone who treats you like you're disposable, or like you don't matter, or like an annoyance they put up with. It's not fair for them to ask you to devote your one and only life to that kind of apathetic hatred.

Don't let some unspoken agreement of dull resignation become your life. You need someone who treats you as an equal and as someone who sees how you make their life better, or you need no one at all.

Please don't be afraid to be single and alone. Alone and lonely is 100x better than being stuck in a marriage and lonely. I'm not super old, but I was married for a long time, long enough to see the years stretching out ahead of me with nothing but struggle, being misunderstood and never appreciated no matter how hard I tried. He dutifully told me he loved me and called me Beautiful like it was my name, but his actions didn't match his words.

It almost killed me. I can't overstate that enough, and you can believe or not.

If I'd been less afraid of heights or already had a gun at the time, or if I'd been unable to conceive (and therefore didn't have my kids to give me a reason to stay) I would not be here. I wouldn't be living in the house I fought so hard to buy. I wouldn't be sitting here on my couch with a candle lit playing a video game, posting on Tumblr and watching interesting facts about space with spicy Ramen warming my tummy.

I wouldn't be feeding my cat wet food because she's breastfeeding 5 kittens and she's looking really thin lately. I wouldn't be gently stroking the kitten's heads anticipating when they'll be old enough to play and give away to some of my acquaintances that want a kitten. I wouldn't be cultivating a garden and getting an arm tattoo at 41 and planning out homesteading one day with chickens living in the silence and peace of rural America where I can stand in my back field and feel the wind on my skin and know I did this all by myself.

In my dark times, I think of all the good, calm things I've experienced since I left my ex husband and I try to remember that all these good things happened because of me. Because I trusted that tiny, tiny voice inside that said there might be something on the other side of all this pain. The pain and darkness were so much louder for so long, but the tiny voice is starting to gain strength.

It will get better, I know it will. All it takes is a shitload of patience.

[tlinrookie]

Hey. Just found your Tumblr and like your creek content. Don't know if this has been brought up anywhere yet, but I feel like Craig's love language is acts of service while Tweek's is probably gift-giving. Like, if you look back at all the episodes, Craig's the one who tries multiple times to come up with solutions to problems. In TFBW, he gave his laptop to Tweek after Tweek breaks his without being asked. In Splatty Tomato, Tweek suddenly has a blanket, a hot cup of coffee, and Craig at his side. Then in the Post-COVID special, he goes out of his way introducing them both to everyone. Tweek, meanwhile, bought Stripe in TFBW, and I don't doubt he bakes for Craig if older Craig's tummy is anything to go by. Both of them definitely give words of affirmation and quality time to one another, too. Surprisingly, Craig's more into initating physical affection. Never would have pinned him for that in the early seasons. They're so sweet. I can't. We've been so spoiled, I hope we get an innocent peck on the cheek at some point.

I love this so much! And ALL of these examples! I think that makes a lot of sense. I've thought more about Craig's way of showing love, but I haven't given Tweek's as much thought. You're SO right though, it seems to be gift giving! Love the idea of Tweek baking treats for Craig, fattening him up and making sure he has something tasty for dessert every night as they get older. 🥺 I definitely think Craig has the more obvious ways of showing his love (and I agree, I wouldn't have initially thought he'd be that way either). He can be aloof and reserved, but when he loves something/someone, he ADORES it and isn't afraid to let them know. I think Tweek is more quietly enamored with Craig, in that Craig has such a huge role in his life and has all of his heart, but he isn't as quick to show it. Craig knows though. ❤️ I always imagine Tweek is the one who has a little harder time saying "I love you", but he definitely does...maybe he just gets overwhelmed by his feelings sometimes. Urgh. I love talking about their love languages. Thanks for this message! Plz tell me more if you want! (And YES, they've gotta give us a lil Creek kiss at some point, or even a hug! We're starving!)

[amour-de-tous]

Just gonna put this on out and see where the universe takes me. I’m still desperately broke (still haven’t worked since May 2019; next SSI hearing is July 20th, hoping for approval but more than likely a denial and then I have to start the whole process from the START again).  The CBD I use daily to try and control my chronic pain AND my dental pain is having a 40% off sale. I’d love to buy a years worth at the sale but realistically I can’t afford to buy even a few months worth, right now. At the moment I’m using more than a bottle a month. I have a new dental situation; my front right top tooth starting hurting BAD out of the blue a few days ago. I see the dentist (AGAIN) on Monday where I am praying hard he says it’s something very easily and cheaply fixable and not that I have a broken tooth (I smacked that tooth hard a few days before it started hurting...). If that tooth situation gets resolved and I also get him to re-readjust the too tall crown on Monday, I am hopeful I can go back to using the CBD to treat acute stuff and just...try to ignore my chronic pain, and not use so much of it. But at the moment I can’t take any nSAIDS (took them too long over dental stuff and seemed to have messed up the tummy), so the CBD is my only line of defense against some outrageous pain.  If anyone can buy me a bottle or two I would be eternally grateful.  It’s Upstate Elevator Co (which is upstateelevator dot com but tumblr hates links) and I need the 30mg and 75mg full spectrum capsules. I don’t feel fully comfortable posting my actual address in the wild, but message me and I’ll send it to you.  Thanks. <3

[happyhealthycats]

If there's a cat in an environment that's wring for them, like a multi cat + dog household and one cat can't stand cats or dogs, do you feel that medication can help or is rehoming normally the best route? Is it right to use medication instead of rehoming, when it's clear that stress is caused by something unchangeable in the environment (kids, other pets ect)

I think there are a lot of moving parts that go into a decision to re-home versus attempting medication. There are a LOT of "unchangeable" variables that actually wind up being rather easy to work around, depending on what it is. It's important to weigh every aspect of the cat's life, too. What is the human realistically willing or even able to do? Medication is also absolutely not a fix-all. If there is a true reason that the cat can't be in that environment, you can medicate for everything under the sun but it's still not solving the root issue. Medication works best in tandem with problem-solving, but unfortunately a lot of folks simply see it to the first step of getting the medication. I'll use my own cats as an example. Heimdall is currently on Fluoxetine. This prescription was written while I had a foster cat in the house, and Heimdall was extra stressed because while in the past, he had dealt GREAT with fosters, but this one needed a little more attention than Heimdall was used to. Because of this, he started over-grooming himself and licked all the fur off of his tummy. He was tested for allergies and other illnesses that could have caused hair loss, but the veterinarian came to the conclusion that it was stress-grooming. Trying to keep him from grooming was an okay first step, but he would just lick around any shirt or onesie we put him in.

We were treating the symptoms and not the cause.

So we got him on Fluoxetine after some trial and error with some other medications. We knew the foster was a temporary thing, and once the foster went to their forever home, Heimdall stopped licking his tummy. We've decided to keep him on it because he's doing VERY well. At the end of the day we picked this boy up around 3-4 years of age and we don't know what his home life was like prior, so having the lower dose in his system helps him deal with stressful situations that cats like Seymour and Sif (that I had since they were kittens and were able to condition them myself) can easily shrug off.

But also this means we understand that fostering cats is stressful for Heimdall, and because of that we've since stopped fostering, at least for the time being. Once Heimdall himself crosses that rainbow bridge we'll revisit, but for his own mental and physical health, the old man needs familiarity.

ANYWAY all that is to say it's a tough situation, and at the end of the day pet experts can't give owners the answers, only the tools. I can tell someone that a cat isn't a good fit for their home until I'm blue in the face, but it's their cat and their home. If they're not actively harming the animal there's nothing I can do, so all I can do is offer alternative advice. And because "Oh you're having this problem with this cat? Get rid of the cat" would make me a pretty unpopular cat behaviorist, I usually wind up recommending meds, especially since it'll actually get folks to take a cat to their vet for the problem when all I know about the situation is what someone puts in the tumblr ask box.

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My Top Posts in 2022:

#5

@microficmay Day 7 - Irresistible

The Gryffindor party was in full swing, their win had everyone's spirits soaring. But Oliver seemed distracted.

"Looking for someone, Cap?" George clapped his shoulder.

Just then the portrait swung open and Oliver's jaw hit the ground.

"Look no further," Fred winked as Percy Weasley walked in, several books in hand, dressed in a Gryffindor jersey with WOOD emblazoned on the back.

"You… wore it," he stammered.

Percy's cheeks pinked but he replied haughtily, "Well, I promised I would if you won. And I always keep my prom-"

The rest of his righteous rant was cut off as Oliver pulled him in for a possessive kiss.

162 notes - Posted May 8, 2022

#4

@microficmay Day 15 - Fire and Ice

The man smiled at him from across the bar, glass raised in a toast. Dean smiled, taking a sip of his Firewhiskey on the rocks. The man walked over and took a seat next to him.

"You must be a broom because you just swept me off my feet."

That was so cheesy Dean couldn't help but snort. The man smiled, undeterred. "Can I buy you a drink?"

"Already have one." He tilted his tumbler.

"Another one, then. On me." He signalled to the bartender, who started preparing their drinks.

"So do you have a name or can I just call you mine?" The man said as the bartender slammed the drinks on the counter.

"Is this guy bothering you?" she asked, eyeing him suspiciously.

"No," Dean laughed, looking fondly at Seamus. "This dolt is my husband."

163 notes - Posted May 16, 2022

#3

For I can't help falling in love with you

Draco rarely played the piano in front of people. So to hear him playing today while Harry prepped dinner was quite a treat.

Harry smiled to himself, humming the lyrics of the latest song being played as he poured them both some wine.

Take my hand, take my whole life too

Harry's rich voice carried into the living room.

For I can't help falling in love with you

Draco smiled shyly and continued playing as Harry sat next to him on the bench, an arm around his waist and his head on Draco's shoulder.

For I can't help falling in love with you

@drarrymicrofic April Prompt #2 - Serenade

180 notes - Posted April 10, 2022

#2

@microficmay Day 5: Lost & Found

"Where did you find that?"

"Hmm?" Draco looks up from his Muggle novel to find Harry staring at him.

"The jumper? It's mine," Harry croaks as his tummy does a funny swooping thing.

"Not anymore. It was in my laundry pile." Draco buries his chin into the oversized collar and turns a page with his sweater paws. "Finders keepers."

183 notes - Posted May 6, 2022

My #1 post of 2022

It's a date

"Merlin, just go talk to him!"

"I don't know what you're on about, Pans."

"Fine!" Pansy grabs Draco's arm and marches across the room to where Harry Potter is sitting with Hermione and Ginny.

She greets the trio then asks, "Potter are you free this Friday at 6?

"I believe he is," Ginny cuts in. "What about Draco?"

"I'll make sure he is."

"Great," Hermione says. Leaky Cauldron, okay?"

"Perfect," Pansy smiles.

"What are you doing?" Draco hisses and Harry blushes.

"It's a date." Pansy nods to the trio. "I just got you a date with Potter," she drawls, winking at the women dealing with a dumbfounded Harry.

@drarrymicrofic January Prompt #5 - Teamwork

205 notes - Posted January 28, 2022

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So I Gender'd too close to the sun.

So lets go ahead and use Tumblr for what it's really for, being oddly sincere and relentlessly horny at the same time. So Gender is a performance right? That's 101 stuff and as a weird tranny it's especially a performance. Working out the right mannerisms, phrases, costumes, makeup, everything, to appropriately convey...something. See like anyone who thinks about gender too much I ran into the issue of the words not really meaning anything. None of this stuff is inherent or grounded, I can say that I like to look feminine and perform masculine gender roles but if I start thinking about for too long I get hung up on those words being semantically empty. Especially because I'm really non-binary, I haven't used something resembling a gendered pronoun in at least two years, I don't really have a name so much as a neutral designation, and till recently my fashion sense was best described as "The office worker who sells you weed." Except, what I also have is a really fantastic pair of tits, and just a killer ass, and an incredibly soft tummy and what was previously a low level cow kink, cause dehumanization is always hot. But it turns out when you have those things people tend to assume a lot of things, anything from slipping up and going real hard into she/her and breeding stuff, to just assuming the cow thing is like a core part of my identity.

But then it built up and I got a couple drinks in me and after some prodding sort of got stuck on the idea of how hot that was? Cause like, it's the eventual end of force-fem and misogyny kinks right, because of my body, because of fundamental things about me that I essentially cannot change, this is just a thing people will assume about me, and treat my accordingly, whether they say so or not. There is a very particular kind of incapability to it, and that is so incredibly hot. And if gender is a performance then it's only natural for that performance to be in conversation with the audience and their expectations, performing to or subverting, those expectations are still acknowledged and made a part of the performance.

Anyway this is a whole bunch of fancy writing to make it sound far more reasonable I got peer pressured into making cow a at least temporarily significant part of my identity despite how much I try to hold onto masculinity. Moo?

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I'm still getting Tumblr glitches, as in, the end-of-year post I saved in drafts is nowhere to be found in the browser version, which is where I wrote and saved it, but is there on the app. Ehh.

Well, this one did not feel like a year where anything significant happened. Which I suppose is a way of saying I've had a decent enough year? As in, the world continues to burn, but I don't recall anything officially bad happening to me, despite all the whining and strong language I did in my posts. Nobody died, I'm gainfully employed and mostly bamboozling people that I can keep up. Looking at what I wrote to summarize the previous year, this one's been a breeze. Even though when I re-read what I've been posting this year - and I don't actually remember half of it -, it seems at least in the winter and spring, I wasn't having a great time between sleep deprivation, money woes and raising a sweet, but messy and needy cat; and from the summer onwards have not updated much at all, always complaining about stress. Well, for one thing, it is obvious I should reduce time spent on Reddit so there's more of it for everything else...

In no particular order: this was surely a better year from the health perspective. The last time I was ill was an annoying cold in early-to-mid February, where I actually needed antibiotics again because I tested positive for lung chlamydia, and have been generally just fine ever since, a welcome break after all the ailments 2022 threw at me. The achy wrist is still there and annoying, but I'm hoping it is fixable with the new treatment plan. And the toe I stubbed really bad in early September is still not a pretty sight, but in early December I finally started seeing a healthy pink regrowth emerge from under the cuticle, so the purple bruised part might finally be gone by, idk, April?

Could have used more exercise, as always, but I kept up with massage therapy and tried to keep up with physio appointments at least (there were some unintended breaks). And I've made some improvements about keeping my cholesterol level in check, and feel good about the new GP.

The cat is indeed no longer a kitten, but has grown into a fine adult, he's 1,5 years old now, weighs close to 6 kilos and is a pretty, floofy, bright boy with a friendly, curious personality. It has been expensive (getting all.the.things from zero, plus medical costs, plus food), and takes up loads of time, he nearly always delays bedtime so I lose sleep, and I've had to wash all the rugs, even replacing one with one that's easier to clean, because he either puked on them (his tummy is a bit sensitive apparently), or used the texture to scoot dingleberries off his floofy butt. Ehh. I'm now a lot less squeamish about cat poop, and since we are trying to keep his butt hair at least somewhat trimmed (despite resistance), there are fewer accidents, and he's learned to tolerate the occasional butt showers without clawing.

He's also grown less bitey when playing, and is still positive and confident, not holding any grudges. His favourite treat is freshly boiled egg (quail or chicken will both do, and he likes his portion slightly warm). He does not enjoy getting brushed all that much, but we keep a Furminator handy for quick swipes, because otherwise every damn thing is covered with cat hair, and the floors develop hefty, dark grey dust bunnies. Beyond demanding before-bedtime treats and play, he mostly lets us sleep without interrupting, as he's not particularly food-motivated, just gets impatient waiting for his morning cuddles sometimes. He only slept in our bed for a few weeks as a baby, initially between our pillows, then moved towards the end of the bed, but then decided he needs more space, and now sleeps where he feels like - sometimes on a chair in our room, sometimes under the bed, sometimes in whichever comfy spot elsewhere he prefers that night. I sometimes wish he was more of a snuggler, tbh, since he's so nice and soft with big plushie vibes. He does come asking that I pick him up for a cuddle and purr session when I get out of bed, or come home from wherever I've been, or sometimes before bedtime as well, and occasionally he'll have a cuddly kind of mood all day long, but overall, he's not a lap cat. Still, I lift and carry him around often enough that it might be contributing to my wrist issues. (Typical De Quervain's syndrome sufferers are mothers with young children.)

Work-wise, I've been feeling like a failure all year, despite actually getting at least some things done by winging it, and I feel I've been growing and learning with the new tasks I've had. Even so though, there's loads of guilt and stress, and I've often struggled with an irrational urge to avoid looking at my emails. It's not even that the workload is that much, it all boils down to my inability to focus. And I still haven't gotten any professional help with that, because my ability to go looking is limited (because I'm busy either stressing about work or procrastinating). And I still haven't seen an optometrist either, despite it being on the to-do-list since spring.

Can't say I've kept up on the home front that great either. My cleaning standards are slipping, particularly when it comes to dusting. There are just way too many things. And the inability to focus bleeds over to chores, things take way too long to get done or are delayed endlessly. I wish I could fix this. OTL

I keep procrastinating by browsing second-hand stores a lot. Made a switch to Sellpy as the first choice this year, since Momox changed their pricing policy and now Sellpy has the better deals as well as cheaper and easier shipping/returns, despite never having discount codes like Momox does. As for the score of items purchased, there were wins and losses, I did manage to get a few stellar items I wear a lot, but also returned lots of complete duds, either things that unfortunately didn't fit, or things I should not have expected to work in the first place, I guess. And I certainly kept a few items I don't use as much... if ever, as remains to be seen.

I see it would be better to tone this habit down to save both time and money, but since the shopping urges are at least partly hormonal, I cannot count on consistently making rational decisions. At least I'm not experimenting much with skincare at this point, mostly sticking to repurchasing staples. It still gets a bit expensive even so, and it has to be said that I've had an annoying amount of acne and picking issues this year despite keeping up with an elaborate skincare routine. All of this to be filed under *shit I still don't know how to fix*.

The travelling I managed this year was pretty nice in hindsight, a week in France at the end of January, then another in mid-August, then a weekend trip to Brussels, and an overnight in Helsinki to see a great live. I wish I could do more of this without financial stress, and worrying about leaving the cat (he's not taking separation super-hard, but still). The trip to Japan with friends we could not afford to take was a bit of a shitshow, btw: scorching temperatures, then a typhoon and then return flight cancellation, so stuck at the airport for 2 days before eventually getting rerouted.

Socializing: I think I did better than last year in this respect, I finally was in the mood for, and had the opportunity to throw a proper birthday garden party for myself, which was lovely. Additional meet-ups happened too, even if it would have been fun to have more. And having the cool coworker back at the office has been good, as expected. Now if I'd manage to actually get work done in reasonable hours, and feel good enough about my work output to warrant taking the time for fun, including hanging out with people, it would be even better.

Family: things are good with the boyf and most of the family, but I am stressed about big brother, his wife, and mom's will. Idk how any of this will be resolved. Ideally, I'd just buy the things I want from mom before inheritance ever becomes an issue, thus preventing any dividing issues, but I'd need to win the lottery beforehand...

I managed to do more gardening at mom's over the summer, which was rather nice. The summer wasn't as stressful climate-wise as feared, it was very dry in June, but enough rain from there onwards, and not too hot (I didn't get round to buying a mobile air conditioner nor heat-reflecting blinds, nor Birkenstocks, so this was very welcome). Still sad about losing a major feature of the entire garden, the big maple tree. Hoping to plant a replacement in the spring.

My aims for the next year involve being more responsible about money. It would be ridiculous to end up short on funds again when I'll be earning more than ever. The plan is to put more into the index fund retirement scheme, and I've started an automatic saving scheme as well (it rounds up all the card payments to 1 € up + I've added a monthly lump payment). I do hope to finally calm down about wardrobe upgrades, since I already have so much fabulous, joy-sparking stuff, and instead improve fitness a bit, so things will look better on me. I should definitely get more exercise anyway, and get some sort of a cheapish sports watch might be good. And I need to eat less sugar, and it would be good to get back to 8/16.

It also looks like 2024 will be one of the hardest work years of my life, and I have to manage to pull it all off for things to be easier in the future. It would be good if I just read books in my downtime instead of procrastinating on social media. Work guilt has meant very little reading just for fun this year, and that's not the kind of person I want to be.

As for what to look forward to, I will travel to France again in a few weeks, and probably to New York in June.

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hopefully the skimpy crop top says ‘mutuals come grope me’ but the pink pepper spray on my keys said “old creepy men dni or die” 🥰