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jenna and julien’s tips for self care

~ dink dink! it’s mental health month so i’ve gathered some jnj themed self care tips to help you remember to take care of yourself!

*jenna liked on twitter!

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I don't trust easily, so when I tell you I trust you, don't make me regret it.

Damon Salvatore, L.J. Smith’s The Vampire Diaries

Being hurt is the simplest thing in the world. It doesn’t take much to cause pain, and when that pain happens, it never really goes away. I don’t know if I’ll ever be okay with that pain, but I do know that I am okay. I don’t have to always be perfect, happy, or even positive (though this blog will point to facts saying otherwise); as long as I’m okay, that’s enough.

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It's cool to be different and just be who you are and shock people in a good way.

Brendon Urie

I learned the hard way that the best version of yourself is when you’re not trying to be yourself. Sometimes you just have to let go and be completely and unforgivingly bizarre! You’re being true to yourself when you’re no longer afraid of what people think of who you are.

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Guys, you are missing out on this! This happened, in a kids show, and everyone still accepted it. Nobody made a big deal out of it! This is great.

Thank you, PBS Kids. This is from the brand new episode of Arthur btw, Mr. Ratburn And The Special Someone.

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15 AMAZING LOW-CARB SALADS WITH AVOCADO

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Is this how you roll?

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you are doing amazing, you may not realise that but you are. just by being here you are amazing. you may not think you are worth enough, that you don’t deserve love and happiness, but you have never been more wrong. you are so so beautiful and awesome and kind and sweet and caring and you deserve all of the best in life. 💜💕💜💕

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Being a hero doesn't mean you're invincible; it just means that you're brave enough to stand up and do what's needed.

Piper Mclean, The Mark of Athena by Rick Riordan

From the ages of 6-16, my life was filled with practically nothing but the Percy Jackson fandom. I wrote fanfiction, I had a Tumblr blog dedicated to it, and I constantly reposted fanart. Piper Mclean was a huge influence on my character, and she taught me that it does not matter what other people think so long as I like who I am and who I continue to become

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How can you look into the mirror and see something other than breathtakingly beautiful? I don’t understand. You are the prettiest, most stunning being I’ve ever seen, please just take a moment to look at yourself, really look at yourself and appreciate the beauty. You are a masterpiece.

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Sometimes I wonder what it would be like if I didn’t have seasonal allergies. Would I like spring? Would I actually want to go outside and lie down in the grass? Would my friends bring me flowers to my performances? 

But, it’s okay. I like winter. I like lying down on my couch and binging Netflix. I like that my friends bringing me stuffed flamingos to my performances.

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Expressing is the poet's art. Just simply say what's in your heart.

Alice Beineke, The Addams Family

I started writing in second grade. There’s not much I remember from that time, except for my awful teacher, my boyfriend who sat behind me and would pass notes to me through a crack in my desk, and trading erasers with my classmates. I was going through my old assignments, and I found a page with a question and an answer. The question: What is one thing you know to be true? My answer: I may not know much, but one thing I know to be true is that words are the most important things in the world. I didn’t know it then, but words have also become the most important things to me. 

Oh God, I’m sorry. That was so cheesy. Actually, I’m not sorry. I will live in cheesy infamy. 

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No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

Eleanor Roosevelt

It took me a long time to learn this because I struggled with (and still do) self-esteem issues. High school was both a blessing and a curse for my path to self-love: a curse in that I hated myself for two years, and a blessing in that I learned to love myself over the last two. It sucks to hate yourself and constantly worry about what other people think, but at the end of the day, the only opinion that truly matters is your own.

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If you realize that dating someone was a mistake, it’s honestly okay. Besides, you’re probably the greatest thing that ever happened to them.

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realistic tips for uni students

i’ve seen many tips for university students fly around here and i’ve noticed that some of them are either unrealistic or not necessary at all (take it from someone who has been studying 3 years already) so here are some real tips to help you

BUY. A. BACKPACK. i’ve made the same mistake and my back is in s h a m b l e s. and honestly, you don’t need an expensive one, but be sure to check if your backpack has a laptop compartment in case you bring a  laptop a to class. i know it looks unflattering as hell but trust me your back will thank you for it.

You don’t need expensive stationary. any pen or notebook will do but make sure you bring enough pens to classes, exams, etc because you don’t want to sit there panicking because your pen gave out.

on the topic of stationary ALWAYS KEEP A NOTEBOOK IN YOUR BAG what if your laptop dies? what if you want to make a reminder to yourself that you will forget about 5 minutes later? just keep a small notebook in your backpack in case you need it.

Always bring food and water! i’m particularly bad at this, not gonna lie, but especially when it’s summer and hot as hell this tip is incredibly important or you will most likely feel awful. i’m not a big breakfast eater myself because i get stomach issues from it but i make sure to bring something for either on my way to class, just before class, or during the break you might have in class. 

For those of you who menstruate: keep tampons/pads in your bag. you’re friends will thank you for it as well!

Moving on from backpack arrangements: pro-tip you don’t have to be bff’s with you teachers, especially not in your first year. later when you’re writing your dissertation, it’s can be helpful, but honestly they most likely won’t remember you in your first year and they will also most likely not grade your papers/tests either so no need to suck up

on the topic of teacher: you don’t have to attend every single office hour. if you have a question, please go, but otherwise you’re wasting your damn time

wait until your first lecture/seminar before buying books your professor will most likely say please buy this or this is optional. don’t waste money!

read the damn syllabus not just so that you know what to do before class, but also so that you know what to do in case you fall ill and what the attendance expectancy is (some professors have a 80% attendance or you will fail and others don’t give a shit)

don’t sign up for 9 am classes you won’t go okay? it seems fun at the beginning but you’re gonna end up dreading that class even though it would’ve been interesting if you were awake enough to take it in

procrastination is normal everybody does it and guess what? YOU DON’T NEED TO GET ALL A’S!!!! strive for it? great! but work yourself until you’re crying from the stress and thinking about dropping out because you can’t handle it? not so great!

mental health is more important than that 4.0 GPA speaks for itself but also if there is something going on please talk to your student advisor or tutor! you can better warn them in advance than try to build a case after you flunked that assignment/exam

try to make friends honestly it will make your uni experience so much nicer. and i get social anxiety, but at least try to get on friendly terms with people so you have notes when you’re sick, a partner when there is group work to be done, and just a friendly face when it’s all too much!

wear comfortable clothes yes i get the need to look cute but honestly when you’re freezing in your lecture hall because you wanted to wear that one top, you’re gonna be mad at yourself. also bring a jacket/scarf to put over yourself when you know a lecture hall/classroom is cold as hell it helps, trust me.

have fun sounds cliche but sign up for that one class that has absolutely nothing to do with your major but it looks fun, go out partying with your new buddies and stay up later than you should, it’s okay. nobody is all study all the time and you get to enjoy yourself. just find something fun in everything you learn even if you f-ing despise that one course because it will help you get through these years!

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Quote of the Day #1

“No, there is no one else. But, there is the dream of someone else.” - Kathleen Kelly (Meg Ryan), You’ve Got Mail

I’ve never been the biggest fan of this movie, but it has always been one of my mom’s favorites. If she has to spend more than five minutes contemplating what to watch, my mother will look for this movie on television, and it is ALWAYS playing on some channel. I may not always enjoy You’ve Got Mail, but after paying serious attention to it for the first time in my life, I heard this quote. and was taken aback. There’s always someone else, no matter how happy you are. Huh. I’m not going to say anything inspirational here, but I will mention that you can’t control how the mind wanders; it will do its own thing, whether you like it or not. Never blame yourself for any thought in your head.