viscasi

[viscasi]

John Green may be a little "cringe" but credit where credit is due at least he's a YA author who made his special interest trying to expand tuberculosis care instead of trying to make a living hell for trans women and other LGBTQ+s

[viscasi]

Thank you for the boost!! It really does make all the difference!

What is with this "Virago" shit you keep reposting😭 bro wants us to know you're a top bro we get it

Here’s a definition for [Virago] (linked). Personally, I’m not virago 🤷 (also being a the dominant one doesn’t equate to being a top. You can be dominant and a bottom. You can be dominate and a switch.) Every so often I relate to a particular experience especially when discussing masculine-aligned women but that’s just about it. I mostly reblog because I want other people to know about what I think is a cool term + the experiences that are apart of it. Y’know, in case someone’s been looking for something like that —that’s how I found a lot of the labels I now use.

[viscasi]

“A man’s body is beautiful for its usefulness and function, not its aesthetic.”

FALSE FALSE FALSE FALSE FALSE

[viscasi]

I got my boyfriend flowers for Valentine’s Day this year!

I’ve never taken a floral class, and I am not much of a “flowers person” myself, nor do I have any sort of natural eye for arranging anything with a feminine feel. I felt just about as lost as a stereotypical mainstraight man who had never made a bouquet. I knew it was going to be a challenge for me, but I was SO excited!

I watched a few tutorials, asked the poor florist at my local store so many questions, and kept an eye out for inspiration. I’d been thinking about it nonstop for the whole week— what colors do I go with, what filler flowers do I use and how many, what round flowers do I use, what do I pair with his favorite flower… Then on Valentine’s Day, I picked up the bunches of flowers I’d been eyeing from a couple different floral shops.

Building a bouquet from scratch was a lot of work 😅 but also a bit easier than I anticipated! I was so happy with the final look, and SO excited to see my boyfriend’s reaction…

I brought him into the kitchen and let him open his eyes.

He seemed kind of confused.

Uh oh, I was thinking. Fuck, maybe this was a bad idea.

Rambling nervously, I told him that I had arranged it myself. Picked out the flowers individually and put them all together just now. And that I knew they weren’t the Exact shade of purple that’s his favorite, but it was the closest I could get…

His jaw dropped. “Oh, that’s for me???”

I blinked. “Yes, of course it’s for you!! Who else would it be for?”

“I don’t know! It’s so nice that I just thought it was a centerpiece on the table! I can’t believe you made that for me!”

I had a good laugh about that (and the biggest breath of relief ever 😅) while he stared at the flowers with big, wide eyes and spent the next 20 minutes fawning over them. He teared up a bit and said it was one of the sweetest things anyone had ever done for him.

Get your guy some flowers!!!!!!

I watched a lot of different tutorials but the most helpful I found were Jason Jin’s, @ floweracademia on TikTok. Start there! You’ll have a lot of fun and maybe even get addicted to making bouquets for him!

[viscasi]

butch rio omg i can take it butch rio

[viscasi]

My dear lgbt+ kids, 

Just a quick note for Pride month, since it invariably always wakes up the „But what about…“ crowd: 

Awareness months for other things already exist. 

„Why do gays and transgenders get a whole month and US veterans don’t get anything?“ They actually get two months. National Military Appreciation Month is May, while National Veterans and Military Families Month is November.

„I have nothing against the lgbt+ community but if they get a whole month, it’d only be fair if we’d have a month for disabled people too“. Good news, Disability Pride Month already exists: July! 

„Cis women are oppressed too and they don’t get a whole month“. What about Women’s Health Month in May or Women’s History Month in March, for example? 

„People are already aware that gay men exist. What about some awareness for smaller minorities?“ Good idea, what are you doing for Asexual Awareness Week (October), Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week (February), Nonbinary People’s Day (July 14), Intersex Awareness Day (October 26) or Bisexual Awareness Week (September)? (Plus, Pride has never been about gay men only. Saying this shows quite a lack in historical knowledge, actually.) 

There are a lot of causes to support and there’s only twelve months. Our community doesn’t even have a monopoly on June - we share our month with Men’s Health Awareness, Infertility Awareness , PTSD Awareness and Caribbean‑American Heritage Month, for example. 

Let’s be honest here: this isn’t actually about other groups or causes not having their own months. If they genuinely cared about those causes so much, they’d be involved enough in them to be aware of their respective months and dates. Ideally, they’d even be involved enough to do something for those months. 

Because the truth is, Pride Month doesn’t just magically happen, either. It’s not like June rolls around and, boom, there’s Pride. People make it happen. People are involved in the cause. People organize and plan and pay for and promote Pride events. People show up. 

So, when they ask „But what about…“, the real question is: Are they actually doing something for that other cause - or do they only bring it up when it’s a convenient way to disparage Pride? 

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Dad 

[viscasi]

Oh and I'm doing okay mainly been working this week and slowly prepping for a camping trip at the beginning of next month.

~ 🐜

That sounds fun! I’ll be camping over the 4th too!(Come to think of it, I should note here for everyone that from July 3rd to the 6th my internet access will be sorta spotty.)

And that’s crazy we have the same name haha! 😆

[viscasi]

Haiii anon from earlier,

Sorry to hear that you've been so stressed, hopefully, you'll get a break soon!🙃

What kind of topics have you been reading about?

Also unironically we share the same name ☺️

~ 🐜

Me too haha, but at least the reading ended up being interesting! We’re reading Nietzsche’s Genealogy of Morals.

It’s basically about how the concepts of “good” vs “bad/evil” are defined differently between oppressor groups vs who they oppress (allegedly anyway, according to Nietzsche�� who was a philosopher, not a scientist). One of the things that caught my attention was his theory about “ressentiment” (French, meaning essentially: resentment), where oppressed groups essentially define “goodness” as whatever the opposite of their oppressors is. It talks about how nihilism is the result ressentiment, and about how rightful caution can swing to the far side of the pendulum into the unhelpful realm of losing hope in humanity.

Anyway, I’m actually considering making a post about it eventually, because while the book is about ressentiment regarding religion specifically, there are a lot of strong parallels with radical feminism that I found really interesting, for example:

“The deep and icy mistrust the German [Man?] still arouses today whenever he gets into a position of power is an echo of that inextinguishable horror with which Europe [Women?] observed for centuries…”

“Here is precisely what has become a fatality for Europe [Women?]— together with the fear of man we have also lost our love of him, our reverence for him, our hopes for him, even the will to him. The sight of man now makes us weary— what is nihilism today if it is not that?— We are weary of man.”

(Radical feminists often assert that romantic love doesn’t exist, that it was a lie made up by men to keep women enslaved and compliant…… obviously ignoring that gay love exists lmao which just makes the entire argument fall apart among other things)

“And if the lambs say among themselves: ‘these birds of prey are evil; and whoever is least like a bird of prey, but rather its opposite, a lamb— would he not be good?’ […] the birds of prey might view it a little ironically and say: “we don’t dislike them at all, these good little lambs; we even love them: nothing is more tasty than a tender lamb.’”

Anyway, I don’t really have time to develop my thoughts connecting his writing to radical feminism right now, but hopefully you get the jist from the quotes I pulled. Very interesting. I think it’s just on my mind because of the whole Flawed Villain controversy thing happening on TikTok (user Flawed Villain is getting rightfully dragged for her extremist “feminism,” and a lot of people who used to follow her are starting to realize that radical feminism often masks misogyny and racism, and is more of a trauma reaction than any sort of helpful movement that will get us anywhere.)

[viscasi]

I learned a lot today from Obviously Queer’s video essay “FEMME: Lesbian History, Identity, Politics and Invisibility” and femmebis’ “The “Lesbian-Only Term” Myth: A Comprehensive Historical Essay on ‘Butch’ and ‘Femme’ ”.

[viscasi]

How has your day been today Anthony?

Aww this is sweet! Hi anon!

Well, I’m very close to the end of my semester so to be honest I’m pretty stressed 😅 I’ve been spending the day on reading assignments pretty much exclusively. I’m definitely looking forward to being freed from that! At least im reading Nietzsche today though, anything’s better than Kant 😂

How are you, anon?

[viscasi]

had someone explain to me the other day that gender expression doesn’t have to just be about moving away from what feels bad, it can also be about moving towards what feels good, and also that you don’t have to be trans to explore that, and it really clicked with me in a way that nothing gender related ever really has before tbh

[viscasi]

Reminder that being a silly goofball doesn’t make you any less masculine. Masculine people can goof around and be expressive

[viscasi]

by ''GNC under the trans umbrella'' i mean GNC being considered part of the trans community

(Previous ask)

Ohh, I see! Well, in that case:

Ultimately, if a person who is GNC also feels like the trans experience describes them, then I’d say that’s a case of “do whatever you want forever.” Long as they’re not hurting anybody, I think they should do what they feel makes the most sense for them-- they know more about their identity than I do!

I do think that most GNC people do not consider themselves trans, at least not solely on the account of their gender nonconformity. The experience of being transgender is generally understood to refer to one’s experience of their gender identity being different from what is assigned to them-- while being GNC refers to one’s experience of other aspects of their identity (such as preferred roles, dress, or allinity identity) being different from what is assigned to/assumed of them because of their gender identity. This goes without saying, but: Even though these terms are generally understood to refer to separate things, they're not mutually exclusive. Plenty of trans people are also GNC and vice versa.

I’m not sure about this, but my guess is that people who ID as “transmasculine girls” are probably using a different understanding of “transmasculine.” As I understand it, there is controversy around what the word means— on whether it means to 1. “go from feminine to masculine,” OR, 2. “go closer to the male end of the gender spectrum, whether that’s all the way or just closer.” Traditionally, I believe “transmasculine” was intended to refer to one’s gender having a proximity to man-ness, but this might have changed since I last engaged in the discussion.

If my understanding is correct, it seems like "transmasculine girl" is a term attempting (without the terminology tools they were probably looking for that we have since obtained, such as "allinity") to describe the feeling that some fundamental part of your identity clearly crosses the line of what was assigned to you based on your appearance, where that thing is your masculinity and not your gender as a woman. If you're someone who doesn't know that that part of you has a name (intramasculinity!) and that it can be independent from your gender, the closest other way to describe that experience is being transmasculine (using the first definition listed above)... but still a woman. So, I can totally see how people might reach that conclusion, but I am curious if anyone who uses that label would feel that "intramasculine" describes them better?

(This is, of course, assuming that the term "transmasculine woman" is trying to convey the same experience that "intramasculine woman" does, which I absolutely could be wrong about since my knowledge of transmasculine women is limited, haha.)

Anyway, I guess that was less of an answer and more of a list of guesses and possible avenues for further research/discussion. Anon, if you (or anyone else!) know more about this subject than I do, I'd love to hear your thoughts about it!

[viscasi]

"Femininity is rewarded!" "No, masculinity is rewarded!"

You're both wrong. It's perceived gender conformity that's actually rewarded.

[viscasi]

LOUDER!!!!!!!

Ik this is such a niche desire, but I desperately need more representation of m/f gnc relationships where both partners have the same gender expression.

For example, a masc man dating a masc woman. Not just a tomboy, but a woman who has cropped hair, wears men's suits, maybe even takes hormones and binds but still identifies as a woman.

This dynamic is completely overlooked. There is no rep for us anywhere. And as a gnc bisexual person, it sucks immensely that we are so invisible.

[viscasi]

Hell yeah!!!

[viscasi]

This is really interesting to me! I had kind of assumed that wanting a flatter chest would be more common among Viragos. I guess this is a small sample size and can’t be universalized, and I suppose it’s possible a more clear divide exists between intramasc/intrafem Viragos on this topic. But, still. Very interesting!

I want to see something. I tend to perfer my boobs because I feel a "woman like" attachment to them sort of seperate from fem/masc.

Virago/Gnc Women, would you like top surgery?