#understanding bpd

[pumpkin-the-girlie-girl-vixen]

The Positives & The Negatives Of Borderline Personality Disorders

_Please note that individuals with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) are complex and multifaceted, and not all individuals with BPD will exhibit all of the qualities listed below. Additionally, it's essential to approach this topic with empathy and understanding, rather than judgment or criticism._

_Positive qualities:_

1. _Emotional intensity_: Individuals with BPD often experience emotions intensely, which can lead to a deeper understanding and connection with others.

2. _Empathy_: People with BPD can be highly empathetic and compassionate, with a strong ability to understand and relate to others' emotions.

3. _Creativity_: Many individuals with BPD are highly creative and expressive, with a talent for art, music, or writing.

4. _Passion_: Individuals with BPD are often passionate and enthusiastic, with a strong desire to pursue their interests and goals.

5. _Loyalty_: People with BPD can be extremely loyal and dedicated to their loved ones, with a strong desire to maintain and nurture relationships.

6. _Introspection_: Individuals with BPD often have a strong ability to reflect on their thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, which can lead to personal growth and self-awareness.

7. _Resilience_: People with BPD can be highly resilient and able to cope with stress and adversity, despite the challenges they may face.

_Negative qualities:_

1. _Emotional dysregulation_: Individuals with BPD often struggle to regulate their emotions, leading to mood swings, intense emotional outbursts, and unstable relationships.

2. _Impulsivity_: People with BPD may act impulsively, without considering the consequences of their actions, which can lead to reckless and self-destructive behavior.

3. _Unstable relationships_: Individuals with BPD often struggle to maintain stable and healthy relationships, due to their fear of abandonment, emotional dysregulation, and impulsivity.

4. _Self-destructive behavior_: People with BPD may engage in self-destructive behaviors, such as substance abuse, self-injury, or suicidal ideation, as a way to cope with their emotional pain.

5. _Fear of abandonment_: Individuals with BPD often have a deep-seated fear of abandonment, which can lead to clingy or possessive behavior in relationships.

6. _Identity disturbance_: People with BPD may struggle with a sense of identity, with rapidly changing interests, values, and goals.

7. _Dissociation_: Individuals with BPD may experience dissociation, which can lead to feelings of detachment from themselves or their surroundings.

8. _Anger management_: People with BPD may struggle to manage their anger, leading to intense outbursts and conflict with others.

9. _Self-esteem issues_: Individuals with BPD often struggle with self-esteem issues, with a tendency to self-criticize and self-blame.

10. _Mental health comorbidities_: People with BPD are at a higher risk for developing other mental health conditions, such as depression, anxiety, or post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

_Additional characteristics:_

1. _Trauma_: Many individuals with BPD have experienced trauma, such as childhood abuse or neglect, which can contribute to their emotional dysregulation and self-destructive behavior.

2. _Neurobiological factors_: BPD has been linked to neurobiological factors, such as abnormalities in brain structure and function, which can affect emotional regulation and impulse control.

3. _Environmental factors_: People with BPD may be more susceptible to environmental stressors, such as relationship conflicts or work-related stress, which can trigger emotional dysregulation and self-destructive behavior.

4. _Treatment challenges_: Individuals with BPD often require specialized treatment, such as dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), which can be challenging to access and implement.

5. _Stigma_: BPD is often stigmatized, with many people holding negative stereotypes or misconceptions about the disorder, which can make it difficult for individuals with BPD to seek help and support.

Again, it's essential to remember that individuals with BPD are complex and multifaceted, and not all individuals with BPD will exhibit all of these qualities. Additionally, it's crucial to approach this topic with empathy and understanding, rather than judgment or criticism.

[recoveringwithstevie]

⚠️Trigger Warning: mention of suicide and self-harm ⚠️

"Only women have BPD...”

This is false. Men make up about 25% of

'DIAGNOSED' cases of BPD, more recent studies show it mav even be closer to 50%!

BPD in males can present differently than it does in females which can lead to misdiagnoses and mistreatment. There is also a large gender bias within the dianostic and assessment procedures, leading to under-recognise the disorder in men.

"People with BPD can't maintain good relationships...”

BPD brings out intense emotional fluctuations and impulsive behaviours which can be challenging for both partners. Individuals with BPD are also particular sensitive to rejection or have a fear of abandonment.

However, people with BPD are empathetic, compassionate, kind people wbo, with treatment and recognition of their disorder, can live a high-functioning, beautiful life.

With a strong foundation of patience and commitment, couples can work together to navigate these challenges and build a loving, long-lasting healthy relationship.

"BPD cannot be treated...”

This is incorrect. Although there is no overnight fix, BPD is definately treatable and manageable. The quicker you deal with it, the better.

There are many different therapies and treatments including:

  Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (BPD)

  Cognitive Bahavioural Therapy (CBT)

  Schema Therapy

  Psychotherapies

  Mentalization Theranies (MBT)

DBT is a go-to treatment method for many mental health professionals, and research shows its usefulness in significantly reducing negative behaviours and hospital admission rates in people with BPD.

Medication can be prescribes to help manage the symptoms of comorbid (simultaniously occurring) conditions, such as depression and anxiety.

A BPD diagnosis is NOT a life sentence!

"People with BPD are dangerous..”

One of the main diagnostic criteria for BPD is an intense level of anger.

This does not mean they are a threat to others.

Research shows individuals presenting with

BPD traits are unlikely to actually physically cause any harm to others.

People with BPD have a high suicide rate, so they pose the greatest danger to themselves, not others.

"Suicide threats by individuals with BPD aren't serious...”

All suicide threats should be taken seriously.

People may see suicide threats from someone with BPD as a way to create a reaction. This assumption is untrue and unfair.

People with BPD experience a high rate of suicide. As many as 10% of people with BPD with commit suicide while even more engage in suicide attempts and self-harm.

All suicide threats must be taken seriously.

The risk of ignoring the threats are too high.

If you or anyone you know are struggling, please reach out for help.

You deserve to be happy and live a beautiful life. It gets better.♥️

[cheesy-cheddar-sadness]

text could never portray the scream i wish i could let out

[g0thicf0xskulls]

why can’t you just… be as in love with me as i am with you…

[drowningbpdbodies]

“You’re so quiet, what’s on your mind?” My body is a prison and my soul is its prisoner

[voxset]

[frothingbeerbottles]

As a borderline, I love narcissists so much and cannot understand why some people are like “bpd is the result of narcissists/narcissistic abuse” when the term narcissistic abuse was coined by an israel defence solider, who yes, did have npd, but he also blamed his narcissistic tendencies for three counts of securities fraud. He also believes that narcissists “cannot be healed, because they do not exist as real persons, only as reflections” and exist as a false self instead of that just being them or having these be adaptions for survival in stressful situations, all of his takes on narcissists are self-cop outs to demonise other narcissists and make him unaccountable for his actions. And you guys fell for it hard because you didn’t even know that it was made by a narcissist or even the integral history behind it like you guys seem to do with EVERYOTHER thing.

I LOVE it when narcissists are high and low, i LOVE it when they devalue people because they’re being unreasonable or ableist assholes, or even just because they’re being grating and purposefully ignorant and no one wants to say anything. You guys who hate on narcs for being disordered, ESPECIALLY if you have bpd, are just assholes, point blanc. All you want to make a group of people who are already hated on and targeted specifically because they are not your idea of perfect victims which makes you look more victimised in comparison.

TL;DR: you guys fell hard for the term “narcissistic abuse”, clung to it like a baby sloth and didn’t even know the history behind it or that it was made by a narcissist, and you guys definitely don’t know or care what being a narcissist entails or how it forms in people so maybe think twice before you flap your lips and speak up on shit you’re clearly uneducated on. Don’t throw your narcissistic siblings under the bus to get validation from neurotypicals who wouldn’t spit on either of you if you were on fire.

[meandzoioftgetalongjustfine]

No you don't understand i really am not good enough and I fear I never will be no matter what I do

[rose-reveries]

I think it’s fine if you don’t like Akito for all the shit she did (I personally don’t like her), but if I see one more brain dead person online say she, “didn’t *deserve* her redemption arc,” personally, I will be crashing out.

The story of Fruits Basket is about change. The mangaka basically TELLS you that you don’t have to forgive Akito, showcased that Rin herself says she could never forgive her for what she’s done to her.

Genuinely I do think the people who say she’s evil and didn’t deserve redemption and deserved to rot in the cat’s cell,

1.) hate any type of mental illness/trauma response that isn’t uwu cutesy

2.) lack critical thinking skills, and also empathy

3.) would probably call you disgusting for being so depressed that you haven’t showered in 2 weeks

A person’s trauma is never an excuse for their behavior, so I don’t think you can excuse her abusive behavior at all. She defenestrated and also stabbed someone, plus the loads of abusive she put on everyone from a young age.

That doesn’t mean that she can’t decide to change for herself. She didn’t change for you to like her. Bad people are allowed to change for the better, and you don’t have to forgive them for their past if you so choose.

Besides the fact that saying she deserved to rot goes against everything Fruits Basket is about, I think it also really feeds into this stale way of thinking. That “once you’re bad you’re always bad”, and when you push that narrative it actually will cause bad people to just never change because society is telling them they can’t, so why would they even put in the effort?

Anyway, never thought I’d defend Akito. I just need people to like experience empathy, critical thinking, and media literacy for 5 minutes because y’all piss me off.

[bpderanged]

I wish I were a hamster so I could die in the most absurd and fucked up way possible.

[a-healthy-dose-of-apathy]

the urge to go out and ruin my life bc i’m bored

[jirai-dirt-2009]

If you think BPD is cute or quirky

I am gonna rip your flesh off

I will curse your blood line

If you think bpd can be formed after childhood or without trauma

I am gonna feed your lungs to river spirits

I will personally tear your brain from your skull to see what’s wrong with it

If you demonize people with BPD

I will dig up your grandma corpse and put it in your soup

I will let my cat eat you alive

If you think people with bpd can do no wrong

I will feed you to the coyotes

I will throw you off an overpass

Pleasseeee pleaseeee pleaseee STOP romanticizing bpd, stop treated people with bpd as demons and stop treating us like permanent victims

Please DO take time and understand that we think VERY differently but also hold us accountable, we don’t need to be treated like babies.

(Side note bc I know ppl are gonna be confused. BPD cannot form in late adulthood at all. BUT bpd can form in childhood then not show up til adulthood. Also duh, bpd is a personality disorder, most cluster -b personality disorders are formed from trauma)

[narcissisticpdcultureis]

NPD & BPD with other Cluster B traits culture is fucking bombastic side eyeing another NPD confession blog I follow because the admin is posting and letting people stereotype pwBPD and publically "devalue" pwBPD because they don't like our attachment issues and call us weak.

And the blog owner responds basically "it's okay for you to feel that way. thought crime isn't a thing." It's not a fucking thought crime anymore if you're posting your fucking ableism for everyone else to see, holy shit.

Other Cluster Bs aren't fucking weak for showing mental health symptoms. You aren't better than pwBPD just because you don't get attached. You're worse for being an ableist fucking prick. You're not God's favorite. You're not a god. You are beneath me. You're not better than anyone else. Grow the fuck up.

Every day I'm reminded that I'm better than other people because I'm not a sack of fucking shit. Thanks for fueling my ego by being a scumbag I guess.

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[pumpkin-the-girlie-girl-vixen]

While these Hello Kitty & Friends memes bring a smile and some laughter, they also shine a light on the realities of living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). It's important to find humor in the quirks that can arise, even when the behaviors can feel intense or exaggerated. Laughter can be a way to connect and raise awareness about the complexities of BPD, reminding us that while the experiences can be serious, finding humor is part of the healing journey.

[bred-is-a-dumb-name]

I think my brain is rotting in places, I think my heart is ready to die...

[moonlit-dreamers]

im going to kill the next person who says i should "practice empathy" fuck you

anyway hi i love all of you people with low empathy/no empathy at all youre all great