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Bona fide chronicles

So, I went on another walk today at a affluent area in the city centre, and guess what another observation I have to share.

Before I get into that, affluent people in my area loves to wear "quiet luxury", and I don't mean like what you hear on TikTok or Instagram. They have on designers most people don't know, and it is often local and tailored to literally fit into them. If you're a fashion nerd (something I would call myself) you would instantly recognize that the materials used on their clothes is not your typical polyester or cotton. I mean quality wool, vicuna, camel hair, silk organza, and the classic; cashmere. Also, believe it or not, they love a good pair of pearls. It is so discreet, and even though it is stereotypical, they just love pearls as I have seen many of them wear it. Another thing I noticed was how simple the clothes was. It was perfectly tailored, but not too much colour.

Another thing is smell. They all smell like Le Labo Lys 41! Maybe they really like the perfume, but it is way different than what I would expect they would smell. Maybe it would be Baccarat Rouge, but they like smells that are very light and with hints of floral. The perfume has to smell "fresh".

That's all and have a blessed day!

Sincerely, your bona fide socialite

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I was stumbling upon a Chinese blogger and she said “the most top-tier man is an average woman”, and it really sat with me.

What do you mean we praise and fawn over men that is literally the average expectation of our female friends. It just gives them the pass that they can stay mediocre because as long we praise them, women will always be expected to be godlike immortals and men can be the average woman.

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The minute you open your mouth about your goals, is the minute you let others influence you to stay in your comfort zone to comfort others. We humans are social beings and one word can be enough to literally make you question everything. Therefore when you choose to go out of a the social sanctuary that has been unconsciously made by your social circle, you will be deemed as a threat and they will, conscious or unconscious, keep you in there.

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A hard pill I had to swallow:

I can’t ever grow if I choose comfort every time.

Whatever I don’t like and don’t change, then the dislike becomes an active choice.

If I can’t commit to something that I want, I don’t want it bad enough I just like the idea of it.

And pay attention to how I used “I” instead of the usual “you” for posts like these. As you read this l, you will affirm and realise that these pills were not for only me to swallow, but also for you.

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✧ the person you’ll be in 5 years depends on:

The books you read

The food you eat

The habits you build

The friends you meet

The workouts you do

The money you invest

The sacrifices you make

xoxo, sally

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A habit I have to stop is thinking that I am not loveable, because I know that I am, but deep down my hurt is preventing me from fully believing that.

It is not that I don’t get hit on or courted, no, matter of fact I have been hit on many times (ironic isn’t). It is that I have struggled to genuinely believe that someone would look at me and think ��hey, I think she’s interesting or pretty”. It is mostly because I have been bullied my whole entire life that I was ugly. I know, cliche. However, it wasn’t before that I took off my braces, lost some weight and grown more into my face that I out of nowhere got many compliments. Someone went up to me and said that I am pretty. Boys (I won’t address them as men, because I won’t pursue them) started hitting and asking me out. It was so odd. I have to be honest, I don’t have the stereotypical “popular pretty” that gets most of the attention. If I have to be honest I have always felt that I have been “different”. That’s is also why have a rather small circle of friends that I truly feel belonging to. That logic has made me reject and belittle my worth of being pursued and loved.

It made me think and ponder, I don’t want to have this lurking feeling. I don’t want to reject the idea that people can pursue me. For gods sake what if my “future one” wants to pursue on me and I reject him because of my major imposter syndrome (that can’t happen). That is why I want to work with this and believe that “yes I am worthy of love and affection because they’re not shallow, but maybe genuine”.

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Bona fide socialite chronicles

Because I am on the socialite in the making journey, I have changed up my makeup to something more flattering, but also something commonly seen on affluent young women. As I have made myself a habit to wear it often whenever and whatever I am doing, I have seen a shift on myself, but also on how others perceive me.

I feel more confident in myself, and more comfortable in my skin as the makeup style is more glowy and focuses on having a healthy, natural looking complexion it made me appreciate more that my skin is not something to hide, but rather uplift. The goal is to achieve the “my skin enhanced”, I use lighter coverage makeup products and heavy skincare base. From where I live, young women of high status love a sun-kissed look and blush. By that, I have had more fun with blush and can go a bit heavy handed. Another win is that it is also less time consuming, and I use brushes that are easy to apply and clean.

I have also gotten many admirable looks and compliments with this type of makeup and it just makes me more confident. I have also gotten some positive comments from well-off older ladies. The only thing I got to work on is my lash game as I have noticed that the makeup of richer women is that they always have the best lashes (natural of course).

Have a blessed day ✨

Sincerely, you bona fide socialite

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This is unfortunately very much true, and that’s why I want to make a name for myself and build generational wealth not trauma.

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Bona fide socialite chronicles

Today I went hiking with my sisters under the pretense that I was really there to study the wealthy people who lives and surrounds themselves there.

They wore simple, yet clean outfits, with bright colours with light hues. It was made to fit them, and they wore mostly business casual as that hiking area have a known restaurant with strict standards like thorough dress codes paired with their costly and high-end menu. These affluent people walk around their mostly after or before their reservations at the restaurant as they have a strong belief of being active and the hiking trail have a lot of art available to them. These art there is very contemporary and modern, something I noticed they really enjoy.

I presume this from my perspective and knowledge based of the sightings, culture and environment of the country I live in. By that I feel like I have understood a little more of the people that I will soon infiltrate when I become a socialite.

Have a blessed day,

Sincerely from you bona fide socialite

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I was reading "The Old Money Book" by Byron Tully during breakfast and i stumbled upon some new knowledge that I wanted to share to you guys.

Individuals from high society - according to the book - hate the thought of multitasking. It is just a facade of looking like you are being productive, when in fact you are most likely not doing anything productive. It was a total eye-opener as, if I have to be honest, been the definition of a multitasker and have been conditioned to since childhood to multitask. It made me take a break and truly think and reflect if this statement was true at all, and it is. Every time I was multitasking it felt really good doing it as it made me feel super efficient and productive, and looking back I actually didn't get anything done. Multitasking is also very overwhelming and literally stressful. However, whenever I was doing something one thing at the time I felt slow and unproductive when I again looking back did more. It made me think that we live in a society where doing 100 things at the same time is efficient, when in reality humans are not machines, and our brains aren't meant to undergo that much stimulus. That is why whenever I encountered someone with roots from high society, they are so relaxed because they don't stress themselves and resolve to methods that are not only worse, but also extremely wasteful. So, to be a socialite and get myself into the scene of high society, I have to have the same relaxed and hard-working demeanor, and that starts with putting my bad multitasking habits to rest.

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bona fide socialite chronicles

Today, I woke up early and decided to do active recall for my Chinese learning. I am at a HSK 1 - HSK 2 level and with the new curriculum the vocabulary have increased signifcantly. With that change I have a bigger chance of speaking authentically and more like native Mandarin Chinese speakers, however on the not so bright side it will be more challenging and I really have to put on effort and my time to this. That is why I decided to learn 100 words a day, 50 HSK 1 words and 50 HSK 2 words. Fortunately I am quite familiar with most of the HSK 1 and HSK 2 words, so this challenge will become easy peasy.

Have a blessed day,

sincerely from your bona fide socialite

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stop revolving your life around a man when you could be leveling up, chasing your dreams, securing the bag, and building a name for yourself.

focus on your career, your goals, your network, join the spaces that put you in rooms with power players, not time wasters.

love is cute, but financial freedom? personal growth? a legacy? that's real security.

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I started to read the book “The Old Money Book” by Byron Tully. Even though I live in Europe and the book is written from the perspective of the American high society, it is a mighty fine book that gives you the insight of high society and their core values.

I have the digital version of the book, and only read 17% of it, I will give you my thoughts about the book after reading.

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A little introduction to who I am

Greetings, and my goal is to become a socialite.

It may be an insane way to introduce oneself, but if someone was able to do it, certainly I will too. How, you may ask, well with this blog I will share my journey to becoming a bona fide socialite. A trustworthy, chic, intelligent and a one of a kind socialite. In a world where the dying art of being a socialite, I want to restore it by making this documentary of becoming one.

At the end of this year I will work on establishing a “profile” of myself with a significant lifestyle change by reaching different goals. As it is summer, many of you guys may relate to wanting the idea of becoming this new person before going back to your classroom. As I will start my first year in university, I will also post about my preparations and my thoughts before beginning this new chapter of my life.

Introducing my goals

I have always had a dream of learning a new language on my own, and this year I chose to learn Mandarin Chinese.

As this will be my 4th language my goal at the end of this year is to…

reach HSK 5 fluency

To become a socialite you have to make people want to invest in you, and what is the best way to get people to do that? Having capital, meaning having a business that makes relatively good money.

At the end of this year I want to…

have enough revenue, capital, recourses, and recognition for future investors to want to invest in my business.

To be a socialite I certainly have to look, act and be the part. Therefore my goals will be…

that I go through a mindset change, changing how I think, feel and react on different situations with others and with myself

glowing up physically by improving my health by working out and being active, and doing intense skin, body and hair care.

having better etiquette and immersing in different table manners across different cultural and social categories.

being more knowledgeable in areas like art, politics, culture, finance, technology, and science.

reading more, where my reading goal is to read 5 nonfiction books, 5 classical novels, and 5 essays.

find myself a niche hobby that I genuinely enjoy.

I hope you got a fine impression of me,

Sincerely your bona fide socialite ✨