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My tone gets misinterpreted as hostile a LOT, especially for some reason on tumblr where making a short nice request warrants a 500k word rant about ‘anon hate’. I could write a text with the kindest tone possible, smiley faces included, and still somehow slip and tumble into an argument I didn’t even start.

One of the horrors of being autistic on the internet I fear.

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I love promoting real artists any day of the week but dear god can we please not start every art video with some “hot take” on ai? Seriously, it ruins the experience of me enjoying this amazing thing you’ve made when there’s big blaring text over it that is just like “btw: if you use AI you’re a cuck and a beta”.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m anti-ai as much as the next person. It just shouldn’t be shoved down my throat as a way to promote your work. I just want to see the cool thing you drew, my guy.

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I get why people are comparing the current situation with AI to Detroit become human. Like, yeah sure, world where labour is replaced with robots. But it’s also very tone deaf considering that the entire game was an allegory for slavery and discrimination. Idk it’s probably just me.

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It’s “we love complex female characters” until I say Mary Cooper from the Sheldon tv show.

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Can someone genuinely tell me how I start enjoying media again?

I feel like everything I consume online now just leaves a weird pit in my stomach. I don’t enjoy watching or reading or listening to stuff anymore because it all leaves me with a sense of bleh. Even stuff I’ve loved for a long time just makes me feel dull.

Is this normal? How does one get rid of this feeling

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Every time someone responds to my “interact if you’re trans” post, I grab them between my two fingers and gently place them in a zip lock bag with all the other trans people I’ve collected.

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“Abortion is only okay if the pregnancy will kill the mother.” ALL pregnancies have the ability to kill the mother.

I think y’all forget just how dangerous giving birth is. My mother lost so much blood giving birth to my sister she physically turned blue. My cousin nearly DIED giving birth to her kids. My other cousin had to have an emergency C section and went into shock.

Any and all pregnancies have the capacity to end your life, and you most likely won’t know if it will until you’re on the table giving birth. So excuse me for believing that the average woman should have the medical right to opt out of that.

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Autism rant!

I sometimes wish I could produce my entire history as an autistic person before getting in to debates with people about my disability because I feel like the immediate assumption is that I'm either A, a self diagnosed child or B, an alistic who's just very passionate. and then they talk down to me like I don't know what I'm talking about.

Like, no, my guy. I didn't diagnose myself after watching three TikTok videos. I was officially diagnosed when I was around 5, in the early 2000s. I spent the rest of my life as an autistic woman. I went to speech therapy, I was in several disability groups and got to know so soooo many different types of autistic people, ranging from high to low support needs.

I've had to get support my entire life, and it hasn't stopped. I don't have a job, but I'm independent enough to go to school. I can't drive, but I've only recently gotten good at using the bus enough to get where I need to. I have experienced both free independence and the restrictions of my disability. I AM Autistic. I've met more autistic people in my life than you will ever meet in a day. Please stop talking to me like I don't know what I'm saying.

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He wouldn’t though and sometimes I’m low-key insecure about it and then I have to hit myself with the “he’s not real? Dafuq are you worried about his opinion for?” And then I’m even more insecure about BEING insecure.

🍎 ── .✦ “i think my f/o doesn’t like me or would not like me :(“ *LOUD INCORRECT BUZZER*

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My thought bubble on this is that it’s more about the fact that being a woman is something worth being and worth fighting for.

A lot of cis women (not just terfs, I find) identify their gender through their suffering. Through their shared experience of being in pain and being used and judged and treated like ass. Which is all true, and real. I even feel like sometimes my pain is a core part of my identity.

But trans women have proven that the act of just being a woman can be good. That there’s not just pain but joy and happiness that comes from existing as a woman.

I’ve seen videos and heard stories of trans women experience their version of gender euphoria by doing the things they love as a woman. By going about their lives as women. And it makes me so happy because it makes me think I can live like that too.

Saw a cis (I think) woman talking about how cis women need trans women because if trans women don’t exist then being a woman isn’t a choice and is instead just something you’re consigned to for life.

I’ve been thinking about it all day because I agree but I feel like there’s more to it than that.

Idk. Gotta think more.

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Idk sometimes I feel like any disagreement I have with a relatively or incredibly popular internet opinion it means that I’m secretly just a bad person who doesn’t actually have the moral values I thought I had.

And I gotta remind myself that I’m allowed to be multifaceted and not be behind every opinion I come across. Especially in this kinda website. I’m allowed to have parts of myself forged with my own history and perspective while also respecting others. Not every opinion is right, including mine, and making this stance on moral perfection is eventually going to ruin my self worth (not that there was a lot to begin with)

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Conversation I had with a terf today:

Terf: Statistically Trans women are more likely to injure women.

Me: citation please

Terf: you don’t know anything about biology or sports. I’m not transphobic for saying men are stronger than women.

Me: that’s not a citation.

Terf: here’s a story about a person getting injured during a sport with a trans person in it.

Me: that’s still not a citation.

Terf: you’re being obtuse.

Me: I want my citation, bob.

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To every single trans (and cis) person who reblogged this. I love you. Here are two cakes made out of clay. (Don’t eat them. They are clay)

I’ve been seeing too many terfs today so if ANY trans person can interact with this post that would be deeply appreciated.

Please save me from this hell.

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Okay, time for some house cleaning. If you disagree with any of these then get off my blog

Trans women are women

Trans men are men

Nonbinary people are nonbinary

Bisexuals, pansexuals, and omnisexuals are valid

Arospec and acespec people are valid

Trans women deserve to be included in women spaces

Trans lesbians deserve to be included in lesbian spaces

Trans men deserve to be included in men’s spaces

Gay trans men deserve to be included in gay spaces

Black lgbtq+ people deserve to be included in our community

Indigenous lgbtq+ people deserve to be included in our community

LGBTQ+ people of all races deserve to be included in our community

You’re never too old to transition or discover your sexuality

Respect is not given but earned

Polyamorous relationships are valid

Monogamous relationships are valid

And lastly, but sure not leastly,

IT IS NEVER OKAY TO DISCRIMINATE AGAINST SOMEONE FOR THINGS OUT OF THEIR CONTROL. RACE, SEXUALITY, GENDER IDENTITY, AGE, DISABILITY, ETC. AND THIS DOES INCLUDE DISCRIMINATION AGAINST PEOPLE SEEN AS THE STANDARDS

I pray this won’t lose me too many followers. Not because I care about followers but because I hope not many people disagree with this

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I’ve been seeing too many terfs today so if ANY trans person can interact with this post that would be deeply appreciated.

Please save me from this hell.

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you know what.

I am so fucking tired of rape fics. I am a sexual assault survivor and you sexulise rape. why. why do I work so hard to get better and it all get ruined by some horny asshole just like last time. THESE CHARATERS DONT WANT TO RAPE YOU. rape is horrible, its NOT sexy. its traumatizing. why do you keep talking about it and writing about it. STOP MINIMIZING MY PAIN WITH YOUR DERANGED FANTASIES.

Simon Riley isnt a rapist

Leon Kennedy isnt a rapist

and belive it or not Jonathan Crane ISNT A FUCKING RAPIST

dont tell me not to kink shame

do not tell me to skip it

you cannot tell me that my trauma doesn't matter

STOP WRITING RAPE FICS

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I’ve discovered that the funniest way to combat against christians leaving rude and disrespectful comments is to respond as a devout follower of Lolth.

“Lolth is the goddess of all Drow. May the light of the underdark guide you to her servitude. Allow her to save your soul.”

This is especially good if you’re doing this to a guy. Throw in some “weaker male” comments and you’re basically a lolthite.

Anyways, PRAISE THE SPIDER GODESS!