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I often wonder how many people have ADHD or ASD and are undiagnosed.

Especially as adults when insurance won’t cover the testing and most people can’t pay several thousand out of pocket.

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Did a quick overview on empathy level, including why high empaths get emotional in arguments. I’m also working on a series that focuses more on the high empath part overall.

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My ADHD go-to phrases (feel free to add your own):

- “Repeat your name again. It always takes me two or three times to remember it.”

- “Sorry, I’m a little out of it today.”

- “I’m a little behind. Haven’t had my caffeine yet this morning. 😁 You know how that goes.”

- “Sorry, what did you say?” x3

- “Yes, continue I’m listening” (contributed by @elianasleeping!)

- “Can I have subtitles please” (contributed by @elianasleeping!)

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Would love your insights on this...

Does it feel like symptoms of ADHD and ASD present more strongly in work and school environments that are highly structured and social? (This was changed from “diagnosed more” after a discussion with @ifihadmypickofwishes.)

-- It feels like most of us can get more done in 2 hours than our peers can in 8 if we don’t have to manage people’s egos (for lack of a better term) throughout the day... --

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Just a quick look at what confidence means, where it comes from, and what is considered “confidence-adjusted”.

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It’s a massive disservice to both introverts and extroverts to define it by social ability alone. It’s the type of social interaction and what we get to do that energizes us. And that’s where our confidence comes from.

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Anything that’s unexpectedly wet, like tasting soppy food or if something damp brushes my hand/foot.

My husband’s is crumbs. It makes his eye twitch.

Between messy kids and wet-nosed pups, we encounter those things daily.

Autistic peeps, reblog and add what texture you hate the most

Mine is canvas

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Quick question for the US...

If the government has to bail out hospitals because nearly 10% of Americans are uninsured and may not have the means to pay for their coronavirus treatment, did we just back ourselves into socialized medicine after years of fighting back-and-forth?

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“Stay home during the coronavirus” to extroverts must feel like “go out and be social” to introverts. Now do you see what it’s like to be out of your element?

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For the love of people, stop treating an autistic diagnosis as bad.

(This is based on a discussion I had recently.)

Autism is wildly misunderstood and the stigma is making it harder for children and adults with autism.

(One study found a potential oxytocin-serotonin disturbance, which means that human interaction may not boost serotonin uptake for people with autism. For those that struggle with their symptoms, this means that treatment can help. The key here is whether or not the person struggles with it, not if others think they’re “broken” just because they’re autistic. 😒)

When you make a person with autism feel like they’re not good enough, you’re making the problem exponentially worse. What people with autism need is confidence in their abilities. It helps them know that autism is just one part of a very complex human body and that we can all work within what we have to do great things. (This is also true for people with ADHD, dyslexia, depression, and anxiety disorders.)

TL;DR: if you treat someone with autism — or ADHD, dyslexia, depression, and anxiety — as if they’re not good enough, you are the problem.

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Don’t confuse being an empath with being an extrovert. They don’t always go hand-in-hand.

I thought for years that I was an extrovert based on personality tests. But managing others’ emotions and expectations wore me out. I’m just an introvert who’s also an empath.

When I stopped taking on others’ baggage, my anxiety improved and I felt more confident in my choices.

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Sharing one of my TikTok posts on executive dysfunction

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Trying to change a bad habit or implement a new one? Try the 30% - 1/3 approach. 

Tell yourself that you’re going to do the habit you want to change 30% less (or more) which doesn’t feel like a lot of extra effort. 

If you talk to people about it, tell them you cut out 1/3 (or added 1/3) of it in your routine. Technically, it’s a 3% difference which is margin of error level.

After doing that consciously for a bit (usually a few weeks), it becomes naturally more ingrained in your day-to-day life.

(Here’s an example for reference: Diets don’t work for me. I’m either all in or I forget to follow through -- likely because of my ADHD. After having kids, I wanted to lose some of my extra baby weight. So I cut down my portion sizes by 30% since I had been eating more the past few years. I didn’t count calories and I avoided the scale. Overall, it was a better pace for me and made me more likely to stick to it. (I also don’t talk about the weight I lost as a bad thing since shame doesn’t motivate me and I wouldn’t change my pregnancy experience for the world.) When I told people about what I did, I rounded it up to 1/3. Made me feel more accomplished without putting too much pressure on myself.)

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ADHD, ASD, dyslexia, OCD, anxiety disorders, and depression are each facets of the same stone. Many of us have similar traits, but some of us may look different based on what we’ve been through or what we’re made of.

Never forget that you’re a brilliant jewel, regardless if you’re struggling with one of the many facets that make up who you are. Always shine bright.

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It’s a disservice for anyone to believe that autism only started happening 90 years ago. Because it ignores the fact that our current culture rewards highly structured and heavy social environments, two things that people with autism — as well as those with ADHD — have trouble with.

There’s more than one route to life. So why is society surprised that forcing everyone into the same route can cause brain differences and obstacles to be exacerbated? 🤔

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Sometimes the most frustrating thing about a diagnosis is that your feelings are discounted as “It’s just because you’re _____.”

Yes, I have ADHD. But it’s also normal to feel completely burned out when you’ve worked 60-80 hour weeks for the last few years — with no end in sight.

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Just a reminder that it’s healthy to take a break from social media every once in a while.

(Ironic, since I’m posting this on social media…)