#asd problems

[talesofanautisticwoman]

Chronically tired

I hate how autism somehow makes me tired all day everyday 24/7. It's often after finishing small tasks my tiredness hits me like a brick.

1. Going for a walk?= tired 2. wanna go the mall?= tired upon arrival 3. wanna go grocery shopping?= tired 4. Oh you wanna go for a car ride=tired 5. Oh you wanna bake a cake?= tired I also somehow manage to only feel like a fully functioning human being for like 2-4 hours a day or less. These days i'm also so burnt out i don't have the energy to do stuff i actually love and are passionate about.. and not having something to hyperfixiate on makes my feel empty inside.

A thing that also makes me feel burnt out is when i accidentally say yes to something i don't want to because i panic. Then i have to gather the courage to call back and say i'm not able to come.

[imkrisyoung]

Someone in a group that I’m in: You’re quiet.

Me: Yeah, I was more expressive when I was younger, but then people told me I was too loud or talked too much.

[adhd-dog-guy]

**weighted blanket**

[tobytalksaac]

Another alter helped make this for Toby!

[chronicsymptomsyndrome]

You don’t have meltdowns you can’t be autistic

*has a meltdown*

You’re grown ew stop throwing a tantrum like a baby

[martian-mellow1]

Job application: do you have a reliable mode of transportation?

Me: *flashbacks to when I walked through a blizzard to the bus stop to get to my college class* yes :)

Tbh i don’t really understand what that question means? Like if you’re asking if I have a car the answer is no because I can’t drive (and even if I could drive owning a car is too expensive). And honestly I’ve walked through horrible weather to my current job (a mile from my house) and ended up being the only one who’s shown up because “the weather is too bad to drive in”. This question should be eliminated from job applications because it makes no sense.(plus I’m sick of having to hide from potential employers that I don’t have a car because the bus is “not a reliable source of transportation”). 😑

[noballoonsinspace]

@staff @support much appreciation for all you do but listen

do yall not understand that a vast majority of your user base is either autistic af or otherwise hella neurotic for any number of reasons, and we have a profoundly hard time (neurologically emotionally or otherwise) processing change that is frivolous, unsolicited, and ineffectual.

I don't mean "we don't like it" or "we reserve the right to whine about it" I legitimately mean that significant changes in interface make it extremely difficult to take in and process any or all of the visual information and this renders the website effectively unusable.

Annoyed and overstimulated in unfamiliar surroundings is the exact opposite of the experience I'm looking for on this website.

Please be inclusive of all disabilities all neurotypes by changing it back or giving us the option to do so. Thanks so so much

[coralineconnor]

Am i the only one who can feel so exstemely overwhelmed because of my hyperfixations? Like life is so freaking boring without a hyperfixation because they’re really fun and gives you an interest, but sometimes they can be really emotionally overwhelming and draining. I can be so extremely excited and happy about something to do with said hyperfixation - so much so that I’ll be stimming for hours, shaking uncontrolbly, ticking, feel light headed and feel like i’m about to throw up - but when i’ve calmed down and the adrenalin has worn off, i get so exhausted and drained and i can’t even bring myself do anything. I’ll be completely consumed in something and so devoured by emotions that when i’ve finally calmed down I’m too emotionally, physically and mentally drained to do anything but lie down. All because my body expresses emotions by physical symptoms and the strong waves of adrenalin and feelings can feel like drowning In intensity.

Yes? Okay.

[fake-destiel-news]

On a website with a PREDOMINANTLY autistic user base, the fact that you're not just making these fake news memes but flat out do NOT care and have said you intend to continue and likely find it funny is bordering bullying/predatory in some ways.

I’m doing literally everything I can think of to make it clear they’re fake. Because while I do find it funny (to come up with stuff and make the memes) I care a lot that no one gets hurt.

Correct me if I’m wrong, but I was under the impression that even autistic people would be smart enough to see one of like a bunch of warn signals. (All of this is not meant to bash autistic people I’m just trying to point out the weird logic here. Because I’m assuming they’re smarter than to believe something that’s clearly fake.) Let me spell it out for you:

First of all, my name should give you A LITTLE BIT OF AN INDICATION. idk if maybe an autistic person wouldnt know the meaning of the word fake.

Also as far as I’m aware all the memes I make now have something going on that makes it different from the normal destiel meme. Like putting Dean on top and cas on the image below or just putting a completely different person there. Which would at least give you (or the autistic people) a moment of “huh. That’s different than usual.”

Also it might not be so bad to look at the tags for like two seconds. Maybe autistic people can’t click the read more I mean that’s very difficult.

Even if you don’t read the tags, if you have a problem with just believing things whenever you read them on a random meme, you should maybe, and that’s just a suggestion, block #unreality. Or if it’s about this blog in particular then just block ME or the tag #fake-destiel-news. That’s why the option is there in the settings you know.

(Autistic people, if you don’t know how to block tags, let a trusted allistic adult help you!)

And if you see any kind of news from a meme, you would propably visit the blog of the OP right? Just to see if they’re not idk, a bot? Or nazi? Or someone who is known for spreading misinformation? Who might have ulterior motives with something like this? Maybe you’d want to follow them but first look at their other posts at least? I mean this one’s not required but if you did it you would immediately see this:

Oh wow now that seems like a blog that would say something that’s not real.

And even if you don’t see any of that, you would at least try to fact check something you read in one(1) meme on the internet? And the easiest way to do that is if the source to it is right there and you just have to click it.

Damn that’s weird the link must be broken or something, I just get sent to a gif of the pen pineapple apple pen guy with the tags “the meme that lead you here is not real and purely made up”. Must be a typical tumblr error!

If you look at the blog where the gif is from you would again see my blog name (with the word fake in it) and again that there are not real memes.

And like, even if you don’t see all of these things and don’t have unreality blocked and don’t visit the source. Then you would, before you’d idk tell other people about it, at least do one(1) google search to see if it’s true. I mean just knowing “the nestle CEO got poisoned cause he drank water in flint” doesn’t tell you what kind of poisoning, will he be ok, how did that happen… if you’re interested enough in any of these questions you propably would search for more info.

And like, if you don’t? What will happen? You believe that the Nestle CEO got poisoned until you see some proof that it hasn’t happened, or you’d just forget after a while when you don’t see more on it. So if it doesn’t matter to you enough to research it, you propably won’t think about it again much because it’s not interesting to you. So like what’s the big deal there.

Even if a meme gets reblogged it would still have my name and the source there, and you could get to my blog easily. Also if the op is tagged unreality it would still get blocked.

Idk if I’m just vastly overestimating the autistic people on this website but idk how you can miss all of these things.

This got long but If you have any suggestions how I could improve (for all the autistic people here) then please give em to me because I’m at a loss.jpg.

[mxshr0mz]

"babe its two am go to sleep" "and here we have a limited edition springtime 1998 model furby but it was released in spring time of 2000, isn't that crazy!??"

[talesofanautisticwoman]

Struggling with communication

Anyone else who tends to leave out important pieces of information when communicating with other people? I tend to leave huge important chunks of information. Apparently I expect them to know the information.. because if I know it, then they must know it too... Not. Then they have to dig out the information,, lets just say it's a work in progress. I don't want people to misunderstand when i'm saying.

[maevesweirdart]

i made this meme instead of showering 🙃

[emptyspaxes]

I actually used my AAC in public today for the first time. I know this might not sound like much to some people, but when I have speaking issues and end up nonverbal or having a verbal communication issue (I don’t know what to call it without people getting mad at me) I normally just stop talking all together and isolate myself. This AAC really helped me so much today and I don’t feel so drained physically and mentally from work. I’m really happy so now I don’t have to go home and sleep the rest of my afternoon away, I can play a game or read!!

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Also, I don’t know what you’d call it that I have. I was nonverbal for well over 7 years and have on and off verbal issues where I can talk some days but most days I’m completely silent. Recently I’m having an episode that’s seeming to last about 4 days.

[echo-s-land]

Me: yeah changes in schedule don't really affect me

Also me when there's an unplanned change in the schedule: *irritated, angry and ready to lash out on literally anyone*

[chronicsymptomsyndrome]

Can a person be exponentially autistic?? bc sometimes I’ll have some wacky shit to say and I’ll think “wow that’s soo autistic of me I’m gonna share this with the internet autistics they’ll appreciate the sentiment” but then the internet autistics will be like

“…what are you on about”

Anyway shoutout to autistics that constantly feel like they don’t belong or fit in EVEN in safe spaces and autistic communities. You’re doing amazing

[martian-mellow1]

Things that confuse me that’s considered “rude” by neurotypicals:

- saying you don’t like a gift. I remember one year for Christmas as a kid we were really poor, so my mom asked everyone to get me clothes for Christmas, when I opened the clothes I was very disappointed because there were no toys, so I told my mom that I don’t like getting clothes as gifts and probably won’t wear any of them cuz I like the clothes I had now (I was pretty young and didn’t understand I was outgrowing my current clothes). And my mom yelled at me and told me to apologize to the gift giver. While I now know “it’s the thought that counts”, it still confuses me as to why I have to be happy for receiving a gift I don’t want, which leads me to my second rude thing…

- only asking for things you WANT for gifts rather than something you NEED. This might just be my family cuz when I told my friend about it they looked at me weird, but for context I once asked my mom to get me some cool decor for my birthday or something but my mom told me she didn’t think it was appropriate to ask for “junk” and I should ask for something I need instead. I find this weird because, if I need something I’d probably just buy it myself anyways whereas a thing I want, I’d be more restrained in purchasing, which makes it a good gift in my opinion, but I don’t know, maybe my mom’s just weird?

- buying your own food at a get together rather eating the food that is provided. This is a very specific situation, I’m not saying like bringing Taco Bell to a birthday party where the host made the food, but rather asking for your own personal pizza (even offering to pay for it yourself) because you don’t like the pizza the host and guest decided on, since it’s apparently “rude” to eat something different in front of guest.

- eating food in front of guest when someone else invited them over. I really don’t understand this one, I’m hungry and you invited someone over without telling me ahead of time or me agreeing to it, how’s it rude for me to eat in front of some one who isn’t my guest? So confusing!

- saying “no” when someone asks/says “do you want to do x chore for me?”. You asked and I answered truthfully, I don’t want to do that but for some reason I’m the rude one and not the person getting offended that I’m not gonna do something for them.

- telling someone you’ll do something for them later. I was called a “rude bitch”, by my step-dad (I was 12 btw) cuz I wouldn’t take out the trash while it was 1. Raining and 2. 10 pm. I told him, “I’ll do it tomorrow, but if you want it done now do it yourself”, and apparently that’s “rude”, I’ve been called rude other times by other people too (not just “parental figures”) so I don’t get what the deal is, honestly I think it’s more rude to expect someone to just drop everything you’re doing to do something for them. Maybe it’s just the people I surround myself with though, who knows :/

There’s probably more that I can’t think of at the moment but I don’t want to make this post too long. Let me know if my confusion is reasonable or I’m just being a brat, also let me know you’re own experiences with neurotypical “rudeness”!