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when people who don't partake in fandom culture say "i hate x fans" they are usually talking about autistic children sharing their interests

when people who do partake in fandom culture say "i hate x fans" they are usually talking about genuinely dangerous people to hang around.

obviously both are generalizations but i'd rather trust someone with fandom experience than someone who just seems like they wanna harass kids

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"i'm afraid of men due to trauma" it's ok, i understand

"i'm afraid of women due to trauma" it's ok, i understand

"i treat all women as evil and deceptive due to trauma" Go fuck yourself.

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why are some fandom jokes about showing nsfw/fetish art to literal children that is not funny that is concerning at the very least

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radtwt timeline be like

here's why bioessentialism is necessary, a 🧵

if you like dildos and strap you're not a real lesbian because anything phallic is inherently male

*misogynistic soyjak-esque comic explaining why i only listen to women who agree with me*

I HATE MEN OF COLOR I HATE MEN OF COLOR I HATE MEN OF COLOR I HATE MEN OF COLOR

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idgaf if it's "horrorcore" songs about raping corpses are weird. in a bad way. the bad kind of weird.

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i hope that one person i am currently thinking about gets trapped in a small dry area where they slowly die of thirst

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no matter how low i get never at even at my lowest point will you ever catch me advocating for trump 💀💀

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anyone else feel like transmedicalism kind of devolved from "you need dysphoria to be trans" to "if you don't experience dysphoria in the exact same way i do, then you're cis and faking it"??? i mean, i kinda hold some transmedicalist beliefs, like why the fuck would anyone want to be trans if they don't have any form of dysphoria? but even then as someone who passes as ftm (but again…i'm not exactly ftm) i still think that it's super petty for calling a trans man who doesn't conform to every single gender role ever a girl. when a cis guy is gnc you guys cheer him on but when a trans guy does it, it's suddenly a problem?

is this just a problem on tiktok??

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puritanism is too normalized in today's society yes but you guys are abusing the word "puritan" that it's getting annoying

no people who find you a weirdo for liking dog parts are not "puritans", jimmy. this is why nobody takes us seriously anymore

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Double Standard Dictionary: A Guide to Things That Are Only "Problems" When Women Do Them

Let's have an honest conversation about something that drives me absolutely crazy. You know those little comments and judgments that somehow only seem to apply to women? Yeah, we need to talk about that.

The Professional Edition

When men vs. when women do the exact same thing:

He's assertive → She's aggressive

He's focused → She's cold

He's passionate → She's emotional

He's dedicated → She's obsessed

He's confident → She's arrogant

He's strategic → She's manipulative

He's busy → She's neglecting her life

The Dating Double Standards

The classics that never seem to die:

He's dated around → She has "a past"

He's a bachelor → She's "left on the shelf"

He's selective → She's picky

He's career-focused → She's married to her job

He's a social butterfly → She's attention-seeking

He's "finding himself" → She needs to settle down

He's direct → She's desperate

The Appearance Police

The endless contradictions:

Look professional, but not too try-hard

Be attractive, but not attention-seeking

Wear makeup, but keep it "natural"

Be fit, but not too muscular

Dress well, but not too sexy

Look youthful, but not immature

Age gracefully, but never look old

The Emotion Edition

How it's perceived:

His anger is justified → Her anger is hysteria

His sadness is deep → Her sadness is dramatic

His stress is from hard work → Her stress is from "not coping"

His excitement is enthusiasm → Her excitement is over-the-top

His concerns are valid → Her concerns are paranoid

His anxiety is pressure → Her anxiety is weakness

The Family Chronicles

The never-ending judgment:

He's babysitting → She's just parenting

He's helping around the house → She's doing her job

He's focused on work → She's neglecting family

He needs time to himself → She's selfish

He's weighing his options → She's wasting time

He's figuring out what he wants → Her clock is ticking

The Office Politics

Things I'm tired of seeing:

Men get mentored → Women get hit on

Men network → Women "sleep their way up"

Men are busy → Women "can't handle it"

Men are thorough → Women are perfectionists

Men delegate → Women are lazy

Men need work-life balance → Women are uncommitted

The Social Scene

The ridiculous expectations:

Be fun but not too wild

Be social but not too friendly

Be smart but not intimidating

Be successful but not threatening

Be independent but not difficult

Be strong but still need help

Be confident but still humble

The Success Paradox

What we're dealing with:

Be ambitious but not threatening

Lead but don't be bossy

Achieve but don't outshine

Negotiate but don't be demanding

Succeed but stay likeable

Excel but remain modest

Win but make it look effortless

The Reality Check

What this actually means for us:

Constant second-guessing

Walking on eggshells

Energy drain from overthinking

Imposter syndrome

Reduced authenticity

Limited self-expression

Unnecessary stress

The Way Forward

What we can do about it:

Call it out

Name the double standard

Question the logic

Point out the inconsistency

Support other women

2. Break the patterns

Reject unfair labels

Define success personally

Set our own standards

Celebrate authenticity

3. Change the narrative

Share success stories

Highlight achievements

Create new networks

Mentor others

To Every Woman Dealing With This

Remember:

You're not "too much"

Your achievements are earned

Your feelings are valid

Your ambitions are worthy

Your standards are important

Your voice matters

Your path is yours

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It's 2024 and those of us who were actually diagnosed in childhood are still having to remind those who often dominate the online autistic community that diagnosis is not a privilege.

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THIS, I would also like to me personally it's ALSO bad if you affirm my delusions. I don't want someone saying "so true queen" after I tell them the most disgusting thing I've ever said and briefly genuinely believe to be true at the time. HEY THIS ALSO MAKES THINGS WORSE DON'T DO THAT EITHER!!!!!

There are ways to comfort a psychotic person without feeding into shit or denying everything.

Btw I just wanted to say if you see someone acting delusional (like. Legitimate delusions. Not being misinformed or wrong. Legitimate delusions.) then please mind your own business. It's not your job to reality check them and by doing so you can harm them even further. Unless the person has asked you to reality check them and you're doing what they ASKED you to do, butt out.

When I'm having a delusion about bugs under my skin or something stalking me or literally any other delusion, I don't need someone to tell me "it's not real". I don't care if it's real or not. It's still terrifying to me. Being told "it's not real" doesn't help me, and once the delusion has passed, it makes me feel bad- like I'm just crazy, like my fears and experiences don't matter because they could just be delusions and hallucinations.

This goes for any delusion by the way. You see someone who believes they're God? Cool. Mind your own fucking business. You see someone who believes they have super powers or are an important figure? Cool! Mind your own fucking business.

Now. You may be asking. "Alfie, what if it's my friend and the delusion is stressing them out?"

Comfort them. Treat it like any other problem- if the person prefers advice, give them advice that matches with the delusion. If they just need comfort, do exactly that- tell them you're there for them, etc etc. You're not feeding the delusion- you're comforting your friend when they're stressed and afraid over something.

Don't reality check a delusional person unless you have been asked to by the delusional person.

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Obviously so (if they aren't doing so, they should). I have a question for you too. Are you asking this in good faith?

once you learn that every form of bigotry is deeply connected and intertwined with misogyny your soul will be free and you'll start to understand everything better

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once you learn that every form of bigotry is deeply connected and intertwined with misogyny your soul will be free and you'll start to understand everything better

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average afab autistic experience in high school

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this is vaguely about calling cheaters "whores" btw don't do that

if your activism doesn't include people you don't personally like then i don't think that's activism babe

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if your activism doesn't include people you don't personally like then i don't think that's activism babe