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lover by nature

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Supportive Suns

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you know what’s more freeing than killing yourself? running away to a small town and getting a job as a waitress. buying a cheap car and sticking a bed in the back and driving southwest. adopting a cat. learning a new instrument. moving apartments. visiting a friend in another city. chopping all your hair off.

you can kill your current life without dying. you can kill this version of you and make a new one.

maybe I’m just a bipolar sucker for rebirth but sometimes that thought is all that keeps me alive

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i wish people would stop romanticizing not eating breakfast and not getting enough sleep and being dependent on coffee to function and always being in a bad mood and treating yourself poorly because that behavior is very unhealthy for you

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Intrusive thoughts, slowly creeping towards me: Hey-

Me:

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going thru phone pics and found this thing that was tacked up next to the toaster at my old job, if anyone needs some light toast eating reading material

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credit to evanneillustrations on instagram.

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In case you forgot.

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Table Top Pose (5 min aprox)

Gentle exercise to help you relax before sleep.

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How to have a private life while still having social media

- yes, that’s possible

I really don’t know if anybody at all is interested in this, maybe it’s just me who’s scared of too much exposure. Oh well. Here it goes:

1. Delete followers on Instagram

I mean it, I really don’t know if anybody cares that much about their privacy to do this, but I do, so here’s to, like, maybe 1 person who’s like me.

It’s a lot easier to delete followers than one might think. Just go to your followers section, click the little person icon next to that follower’s name and click “remove follower”. Simple as that. Do that to everybody you don’t know/you aren’t sure why they’re following you/their account looks suspicious. That way you can be sure of who’s seeing your posts. Also, this is kind of a given, but keep your account on private mode.

2. If you wanna post your location, post it after you leave the place

Say you were staying at the Copacabana Palace in Rio de Janeiro. You only wanna post that after you’re no longer in Copacabana Palace in Rio de Janeiro. That seems counterintuitive, but really, it’s really basic. If you want to stay private, why would you want people to know where you are at that EXACT moment? It’s dangerous and unecessary.

3. Avoid posting pictures of children (for the sake of their own privacy and safety)

According to the Bureau’s National Crime Information Center (NCIC), the kidnapping of children by an acquaintance of the victim or "acquaintance kidnapping" corresponds to 27% of child abductions in the US. You don’t want your child/child relative to be a statistic. Most of your followers are your acquaintances and exposing the daily activities of your child, where they go to school or just what they’re up to can be very dangerous.

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How to - realistically - deal with anxiety/depression

(if you don’t struggle with these illnesses yourself but know somebody does, try and help by sharing this)

I know there are probably a hundred posts on this topic on this platform. I still want to give my two cents on the matter. I’ve suffered from anxiety and depression since I was 16, with depersonalization and derealization (dissociation, in psychiatry), so this advice isn’t out of thin air. I hope it helps at least 1 person.

1. How to feel less guilty you can’t get things done

for instance, if you can’t get out of your bed/out of your room/you name it because of anxiety/depression that doesn’t make you a loser. You need to respect yourself. Tell yourself: “okay, I can’t do this now, but I am going to breathe in and out slowly, I am going to stay here until panic goes away or until it’s that little bit better, then I’m going to get up, wash my face and make a comback.” If it takes you a whole day to do that, it’s fine. Just try, while respecting yourself.

2. Try not to ruminate

If you’re feeling very bad about yourself, in panic, your heart’s beating very fast, you can barely breathe and absolutely do not feel like doing anything, that’s fine, but while you do nothing, try to do something. I’ll explain: if you can’t be productive/socialize or anything of the sort, please, distract yourself. With what? Anything! Watch a dumb tv show, listen to some music, watch the night sky, those are some easy things that you’re more of an observer of, so it won’t pain you as much as getting up and getting work done. The point of this is, when you’re doing nothing, your brain will take you to awful places. You might feel worthless and very, very shitty about yourself. Distracting yourself doesn’t solve the problem, but doesn’t let your brain worsen it any more.

3. How to have yourself eat/drink

I struggled with this one for forever, but some things helped me. Whenever I didn’t feel like eating at all, I started asking myself: “well, what CAN I do?”. And that led me to: okay, you can’t have lunch. But can you eat at least one grape? Can you have 1/4 of a slice of bread? Can you drink half a cup of water? You can’t do much, but what CAN you do? And whatever answer it is that you come up with, go ahead and do that. Sometimes that answer will be “nothing. I can’t eat/drink anything.” but quite often it’ll be: “okay, maybe I could have at least a glass of milk.” That’s about doing something. About doing your best at that very moment, and that’s important.

4. How not to isolate yourself

Out of all of these, this one is probably the hardest. When you’re mentally ill, you get away from as many people as possible. Friends, family - I didn’t even want my dog with me sometimes. It’s important for you to know that human interaction, however brief, is important. So even if it’s hard, try these small things: try say good morning to a family member/“real life” friend/internet friend every day. That’s small and doable, but it might make some easy, light conversation happen, and that’s something. Try to text somebody “sup”, really, it could be nothing, it could mean nothing to you, but that’s you getting out of your bell jar even if for 10s.

5. How to acknowledge small victories

When you’re feeling dumb and stupid and worthless it’s hard to realize how many things you get done in a day. For mentally health people, brushing your teeth, your hair or taking a shower. For mentally ill people those can become a nightmare, so here’s what I do that really helps me: I make a very sshory, simple list of “basic” tasks, like, “get up”, “wash your hands”, “brush your teeth” (...), that way, when I do do those things I’ll have the pleasure of checking them off the list, that’ll make me feel more capable, and help check even more items of the list. Start with the simplest things possible, that will already bring you some, even if just a little bit, of satisfaction.