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stay safe during pride!

if anyone plans on going to pride events this month, remember these important things!

. water

. snacks

. sunscreen

. sunglasses

. a hat

. your meds if you need them

stay safe everyone! have a good pride!

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I'm almost convinced that I'm in aspec, not that there aren't days when I'm confused, of course, but whatever, at least consider myself not to be a complete alloallo. And yet, in some way, I think I belong to mspec as well...I write "in some way" bc I'm not sure if it's romantic attraction.

I used to use the labels pan-lithromantic and lithosexual, but I don't. Right now, I'm even fuzzy on whether I'm bi or pan...Even whether the attraction is a romantic attraction or some other kind of attraction.

btw, I also consider myself not cis. My first realization was "whatever gender a person was assigned at birth, I feel my gender is not the same as theirs". Although seemingly unrelated, this and other factors are one of the reasons why the label panromantic was preferred.

I feel like pan in that I feel some kind of attraction to people of all genders. However, I sometimes feel that my attraction to people of different genders is somewhat bi, and I wonder if this is because I "can't think of all people as being the same gender as me". I also wonder if I'm attracted to women and non-binary people in particular these days, but that doesn't mean I don't feel the same way about the male gender. And when I feel attracted to the male gender, which I sometimes do, I feel guilty for some reason.

How do I express this? For example, if someone says to me, "That means you're bi!", I would reply "I don't know, maybe it's pan?". But if someone says, "I don't think that means you're bi," I would reply, "I can't say for sure." That's how it is.

It's a mess, isn't it? If I start thinking about including my asexuality and aroness in addition to this, the days are numbered...

labels can be complicated, so I totally get it!

you could maybe look into being omniromantic? that might work for you! sorry i can’t help too much more, but i hope you’re able to figure it out!

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Hi! Feel free to ignore this if this is a repetitive question or if it comes across as offensive but I saw you reblog some stuff on mspec lesbians and I wanted to ask if that’s all to do with the split attraction model or something else? I tend to always rely on asking actual lgbt people rather than studies to find out stuff like this and with all of the hatred towards mspec lesbians going around on my feed recently I was just curious to see what it actually means since all the content about it I see is just complaining about it with no further elaboration. Have a nice day and thanks for answering if you do, no worries if not:)

Well i’m not personally an mspec lesbian so if anyone who uses that label wants to chime in feel free!

from my understanding, it can and often does use the split attraction model. So someone could be a biromantic lesbian and say they’re an mspec lesbian! there will definitely be people who use the term in a different way though!

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PRIDE BEES!!!!

available on stickers, buttons, t-shirts, and more on my Redbubble

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Y’know what? Shoutout to all the people in the LGBTQIA+ community that can’t be out of the closet because they would quite literally die if they were. Shoutout to them.

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Happy Pride Month! Could I interest you in a snail or two? 🐌🌈

(these are also all available on my Redbubble)

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Pride Month is upon us again and so it is time to repost my little guy, Hue! I’m wishing everyone a safe, supportive, positive, and enlightening Pride, whether you’re all the way “out” or not!

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Pansexual & Panromantic Awareness Day

May 24th!!

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Aspecs who are also mspec are freakin’ stellar and beautiful human beings, and you cannot convince me otherwise!!

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So um, hey! I’m currently identify as omni but tbh I’m confused. So basically Im afab and I have preference toward females. I think I still experience attraction to males but I don’t really ever imagine a romantic/sexual relationship with one. Idk what this means, i asked the greysexual blog (i don’t remember the rake rn) and they sent me your way. Idk 🤷‍♀️ do you have any advice?

you can definitely use omni if you feel that fits best! I find it more helpful to think about if the label fits for you, not if you're a perfect fit to the "definition" of the label! you might also experience a typr of attraction to men that isn't romantic or sexual, but could still be significant enough to you to warrent labelling the attraction!

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Umm hello. I think I may be maspec but tbh I don’t know enough about it to make a decision. Can you please explain it for me?

yeah sure! Being mspec just means you experience some sort of attraction to more than one gender. it can be romantic, sexual, platonic, or anything else!

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abro folk: you and your abro identity are brilliant and incredible and wonderful.

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I had a very positive mspec experience the other day.

I don't regard myself as closeted and I wear a lot of pride flag merch while I'm out in the world doing whatever. Right now, I'd say the physically largest and most visible is a button I bought at a local anime and gaming convention; a pokeball in the pan pride flag colors.

While I was at a store, one of the store employees, doing the "Are you finding things alright?" routine in a genuinely friendly way complimented some of the things I was wearing like my Marvel hoodie and my Superman, Batman, and Wonder Woman cloth face mask, and finishes by asking, "Is that button a pan pride pokeball?" When I answered affirmatively, I got some form of compliment like nice or cool or nifty.

That was fun.

Thats so cool! sounds like a very cool pin

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sick of seeing hate thrown towards “baby gays.” let them wear rainbows. let them wear their pride flags like capes. let them make jokes about their identity and talk about it all the time. let them wear tails and puppy ears. let them do what is constantly deemed as “cringe.” let them be excited about finally being able to express their true selves. they deserve it. we all deserve it.

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