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Please, spread this for those who might need it right now

U.S. suicide hotline: call or text 988 (available 24 hours)

U.S. trans lifeline: (877) 565-8860 (when you call, you’ll speak to a trans/nonbinary peer operator. full anonymity and confidentiality)

Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357) – provides 24/7 confidential support and referrals for individuals and families facing mental health and substance use disorders, including panic attacks and anxiety.

LGBT National Help Center: (888) 843-4564

Trevor Project: Call (866) 488-7386, text START to 678-678, or chat online.

Take care of yourself and each other. Please stay safe ♡

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I found a gender label on the Gender wiki on Fandom that describes me very well: chartric. It uses a model called the Split Gender System created by CelesteIsInvisible to describe gender as a combination of a gender identity and a preferred gender expression.

Chartric (for chartreuse?) is where a neutral or neutral-aligned identity meets with a preferred masculine expression.

The flag is very busy, tho (the split gender ones all are), so I took a few of the colors and made 5 simple stripes. It’s an idea. The meaning would be from what I’m guessing is how the creator made the flag: masculine blue on the outside and neutral yellow on the inside, but with the combination color in the middle instead of on top of it.

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Wouldn't be doing ace week right if I didn't mention at least once how much we can't win

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Seconded.

Source | Day 66

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Okay so I just watched a video of a boy who once identified as trans still got bottom surgery after he realized he was cis and people were so fucking rude? Like just because this cis dude has a vagina people were calling him transphobic and wishing death upon him.

So this is a reminder that when we as a community advocate for bodily autonomy and gender surgeries that means everyone regardless of gender can do whatever they want with their bodies.

If someone who is cisgender wants top/bottom surgery THEY CAN GET IT. If someone wants facial plastic surgeries that we usually find creepy like buccal fat removal or eye lifts THEY CAN GET IT. And here’s the really controversial one but if someone wants to do things that harm their body like hard drugs or diy mods THEY CAN DO IT!

Because body autonomy isn’t just “I can get bottom surgery to pass” or “I can get an abortion” it’s also all the wild stuff that makes us uncomfortable and that’s okay.

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Agreed.

I was both lol (and in the Internet age, I'd say obsessively browsing Wikipedia counts as reading the encyclopedia for fun.)

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Villain monologue? Excuse me I am infodumping to you about my special interest and my special interest is death traps, machinations, and machiavellian plans.

You'll find that if you've paid enough attention to my interests, you'll be able to escape your inevitable death at my nefarious hands, and we can start building a relationship out of this.

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Autism Doesn’t Have a Look

Lil Penguin Studios/Autism Happy Place

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This is fact.

I’m lucky enough to have a parent who also doesn’t understand that secret language, so it doesn’t feel as alone. However, it still sometimes feels like us vs the rest of the world - a pair of researchers studying the world around us and reacting to it.

Sometimes it feels like everyone around me is speaking in a secret language and I'm the only one who doesn't know it.

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Um…Reading through complaints here and on Reddit, I’ve seen aroallos and aroaces complain about being discriminated against by other aromantics. I’m danged sure it happens both ways (and probably against alloaces, too) because of what people have said that people say.

As someone autistic and introverted, I haven’t really been hassled about being much of anything but the standard K-12 teasing material (thick, wavy, coarse hair that had a lot of volume; whatever made some guy in health class start a rumor that I was dating one of his friends; my knee jerk reactions to being teased having no bite), which is very lucky but means I don’t know what all the conflicts are.

Just writing this as a sort of, “What is going on?” post with an explanation of why I’m asking.

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Yes.

Have any other aro people gone through this idea that you were pan at first because you felt the same about all genders?

Bc i did 💀

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I’m with you. It feels lonely as far as politics go.

My county is pretty darned red, feeling kind of like the capitol of redness in the state! The school board is messed up because people voted in MAGA people who won’t listen to students, teachers, or parents. There aren’t many Democrats or other leftists in this neighborhood, too, which is not quite as red as the town whose post office we use, and the two precincts here have our caucuses in the local volunteer firehouse.

drives me up a wall living in a very very red district, like “no democrat is ever going to win any local election, let alone a real leftist” district, like “our school board members ran on who was the most anti-mask” red, like “I pass white supremacist signs on the way to buy weed” red

and being in the local leftist community and the guy who runs the anarchist book club and the lady who helps keep the warming shelters open and the people who marched on city hall when a local business was getting death threats for having a drag show are all members of a discord and we get on this discord and have frank discussions about how best to vote

the people who do the protests and the mutual aid and all the real work

going “okay, they’re both fascists, but this one lacks ambition and seems happy to just glide in the position” or “they both suck, but this one can be reasoned with if you frame it patriotically enough” like we don’t even have a democrat to vote for. we know what a vote is. we know what we hope accomplish with it. we know what it can do, and we know what it can’t.

and going from those discussions to here where people think that your vote is some kind of fucking??? enabling maneuver??? as if someone isn’t going to end up in that seat regardless of what you do???

we didn’t build this system, we just live in it. we’re just trying to survive. a vote isn’t a statement of your values, it’s not an endorsement, it’s not a marriage contract, it’s a strategic play you make to keep alive.

the biggest mistake I see leftists making is overestimating their own popularity. “well but everyone would be leftist if they just-“ no, stop, 1) you can’t possibly know that 2) everyone will not just

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Exactly!

Mine are A-sexual, A-romantic, A-gender, A-utistic, A-nxiety (or A-mess), and A-theist.

AAAAAA

It all makes sense now

A-romantic

A-sexual

A-nxiety

A-dhd

A-utism

AAAAAAAAA

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This feels so good. In cis-het-allo-amatonormative cultures, not being cis or het or allo are weird, and I think that’s something to rejoice in. As someone autistic who doesn’t fit any of those norms, being weird or queer or a freak gives you a perspective that “normal” people completely miss out on. It’s awesome!

"DNI: freaks" do you realize how conservative you look

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Reblog to open a rail line from your blog to the person you reblogged this from

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I got into watching Oz Media last year, and I absolutely love the way he read out this and some of the notes on it. I’m glad I found this.

My Stephen is odd about being pet, but not quite in the same way. It depends on where we are.

In my room:

Me on the bed: Come on up!

Stephen (gets up): Hello!

Me: *starts petting him*

Stephen: Oh yeah, that’s the spot. Oh, that feels good. *starts licking my face* iloveyouiloveyouiloveyou

Me: I love you, too. *keeps on petting until he’s done*

Outside:

Me: *coming up the driveway*

Stephen: Hey! I missed you! Come here! *meets me at the gate* I love you! Where have you been?

Me: Hi Steef! (if also there) Hi Gandalf! *pets cats before going back in house*

In the main part of the house, total change:

Me: *goes to pet Stephen*

Stephen: No, don’t pet me! I’m out of here!

Gandalf: *comes over and gets pet instead*

Me: *Removes my cat from my lap to do something else.*

My cat: Father is...evil? Father is unyielding? Father is incapable of love? I am running away. I am packing my little rucksack and going out to explore the world as a lone vagabond. I can no longer thrive in this household.