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Lark

Too cool for my usual corny commentary

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Hot take but the aggressive hardline separation of asexual and aromantic is actually EXTREMELY harmful to a lot of ace/aro people.

Angry rant under the cut

It's one to thing to go: "okay yes sometimes they go together but it's important to remember that for some people they can be different things and you can be one and not the other"

And go: "These are TOTALLY DIFFERENT 100 always separate there is no intersection EVER and if you DARE to be both then you have to piecemeal your identity to not uwu invalidate others(we do not care that we are invalidating you though lol) Don't you DARE ever experience them together you are CONFLATING"

It's like yall just want asexual to = alloromantic only and aromantic to = allosexual only.

You don't give a shit about aroaces, aces who aren't alloromantic but don't ID as aromantic or aros who aren't allosexual but don't ID as asexual.

The aspec community despises us. We get talked down to demanded to split our identities apart for your comfort. We can't exist in certain spaces because our presence there is a personal affront to allo-aspecs. Shout out to the alloaros that bitch about those disgusting aroaces just clogging up the aromantic tag ☺. Shout out to the alloaces who can still love and aren't totally heartless monsters 🥺.

Don't talk about ace shit in the aro tags, Don't talk about aro shit in the ace tags...what's that you're both? And can't neatly separate them and it brings you comfort to be able to discuss your whole orientation? SHUT THE FVCK UP YOU CONFLATING IGNORANT SHIT HEAD.

If you want to be in the aromantic community you have to leave your ace-ness at the door same for asexual community and disregarding your aromantism.

A personal example was an Aspec discord server I was in that had two media recs channels one for sex repulsed people and the other for romance repulsed. Now the issue came is that they didn't acknowledge someone could be both i.e both sex & romance repulsed/just looking for media that had neither sexual nor romantic content, what this lead too is that the romance free media channel was filled with graphic hookup erotica or sexually explicit songs and the sex free channel was just fade to black romance books 🙃...wonderful.

Or when polls/forms will ask you to pick your orientation but only things listed are het,gay,bi/pan yes even the ones made by aspecs, and what they actually mean is use the one that correlates to your romantic/sexual attraction...so fvck aroaces and non sam aces & aros?

And don't get me started on how you treat non sam aces & aros. You at least tolerate the self IDing aroaces, because they have the "curtesy" of separating themselves from the real proper aces & aros.(let's not question how many aroaces would prefer to just ID as just asexual or just aromantic but are forced into aroace identity because that would be "conflating" and they don't want to deal with the harassment).

"UwU don't say asexual when you actually mean aromantic" Some bitches don't use to SAM fvck off with allo-splaining my own sexuality to me.

It would be so much easier and save a lot of pain if yall just went : "asexual for some means little to no sexual attraction and it says nothing of your romantic attraction AND some people use it to mean no attraction generally". And "aromantic for some means little to no romantic attraction and it says nothing of your sexual attraction AND some people use it to mean no attraction generally" and "for some they are separated but others not so much as there isn't always a strict separation. Just be chill about it don't accuse people of being ignorant or conflating they know their identities better than you". But no ya chose violent aphobia instead.

But ultimately nobody cares because this shit is only harming the undesirable aces/aros the ones who are harmful stereotypes the ones that make you "look bad".

I know deep in my heart there are a lot of alloaces & alloaros that who would be happy if aroaces & non sam aces/aros didn't exist, there I said it. How can I not come to that conclusion when at every turn they shit on us. They talk about how the worst thing in the world is to be mistaken for one of us. That our representation is actively harmful.

A last parting spicy take it's either "asexulity and aromantism are full identities on their own and aren't modifiers" OR "actually neither asexual nor aromantic can stand on their own they need to be paired with another orientation and they actually are just modifiers" you can't have it both ways. 🤭

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Fortuna, Lady of Long Odds

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No audio fiction podcast has it all;

Produced by and starring POC

Has Aroace/non sam Ace/non sam aro MCs

Has trans MCs(trans man trans woman, nonbinary/gendeequeer idc)

Has little to no romance and focus on platonic or hostile non-romantic relationships

It's sci-fi or fantasy, with horror elements(especially body & cosmic horror)

Not too long (like i can't deal with 100+ 2hr+ episodes lol)

This post is brought to you by my love for the The Silt Verses. Which is damn near perfect for me, such a shame the lack of POC(there's to my knowledge only one MC voiced by a POC yet the fandom overwhelming interprets his character as white while HC a character voiced by a white woman as black :/)

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I'm reading Ten Low by Stark Holborn and recently started listening to Midst, and am I the only one who gets similar vibes. People who've read & listened to both do you get it? It can't just be me?

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I wish everyone who tags posts talking about how cool awesome and great having sex and watching pornograph as sex repulsed ace a very die horribly..

I'm not fvcking joking get that shit out of our tag shithead. Sex Repulsed people aren't in the tags to see ANOTHER reminder of how great sex is and how we're just frigid prudish bitches actually.

There's a sex favourable ace tag for a reason you piss stains.

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epic aro sculpture i did for class

the heart is made out of plastic bags wrapped with tape, so it's squishy ^_^ and the knife is qtips hot glued together. the knife is also removable!

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I hope every ace here knows who Yasmin Benoit is. I hope every ace here is aware of the incredible work she is doing to push asexual rights into the spotlight. I hope you all know there is someone out there, choosing to be a figurehead for our community, and fighting tooth and nail every day for us.

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Oh so when repulsed ppl or non-partnering ppl bring up their experiences it's suddenly "not all aros/aces! Don't generalize the community!" But a choir of assholes crying out "Aros and aces can still date!" In response to ppl pointing out the erasure of those who don't is not generalizing and totally fine? Yeah, uh huh ok.

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All this aroace character shipcourse has proven to me that a majority of people that interact in fandom cannot actually interact with characters and media outside of shipping and genuinely I believe you need to learn how to interact with media outside of shipping.

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Respect, accept, and support non-sam aros and aces or I will bust your knee caps. Seriously I'm so sick and tired of people shitting on non-sam aspecs. Y'all are sounding like complete gatekeeping assholes lately because half of y'all know nothing about aspec history and are so tied up in "Correct terms" and "correct definitions" and it's exhausting.

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POV Your boss is winding up to either start infodumping about crabs or interrogating a new visitor about the smell of their piss and you can't decide which you would rather have engraved in your memory for the rest of your life.

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this is indeed a love story, down to the blade-dented bone

please read The Spear Cuts Through Water by Simon Jimenez it is so so good

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Before I watch the new episode everyone promise to be normal

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So you know how sapphics have this psudeo subgenre in adult SFF called "Lesbian Space Atrocities". I want there to be an equivalent but for asexuals. I want it to be a thing so I'm gonna make it a thing; Malfeasant Ace Wizards aka Morally questionable asexual men & NBs In SFF. My Criteria for this is:

Must be Adult Science fiction, fantasy or horror

The main character(s) must be asexual men or asexual nonbinary person(s).

The main character is Morally grey. Doesn't have to be a full on villain.

The overall tone and themes of the books must be dark or at the very least not particularly sweet/light (dark doesn't have to be grimdark nihilistic murderrape fest level dark) but It won't be put on any "cozy" fantasy lists anytime soon.

Some books I've found that meet my criteria(♠️ for A-spec authors)

Ymir by Rich Larson

The Graven trilogy by Essa Hansen♠️

Vicious and Vengeful by V. E. Schwab

The Smokesmiths by João F. Silva

The Wolf Among the Wild Hunt by Merc Fenn Wolfmoor♠️

The Fae Feast by Eka Waterfield

Edit: F it I'm adding Imperial Radch too, yes I know I know AI/Robots aren't great ace rep BUT I Kin Breq soooo and all the others on the list are human so let me have the Agender aroace warcriminal robot uwu.

TL;DR I love it when ace dudes & NBs are POS

More recommendations welcome

[Psst check my pinned post too 🥺]

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sometimes siblings fight over their diametrically opposed theories of change

FINALLY finished one of my dozen drafts for The Jasmine Throne and yes it was while rewatching legend of korra on a bus

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"you just want to go on an adventure, old man" 🏴‍☠️🦜🥰 the Adventures of Amina Al Sarafi by Shannon Chakraborty

Doodling pirates, our flag means death next