#'how to HURT a narcissist'

[crabussy]

I LOVE AND APPRECIATE MY FRIENDS WITH NPD 👊👊👊👊👊👊💥💥💥 OKAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[possessed-pack]

You know what's stupid? Looking up any variation of "npd day" or "narcissistic personality disorder day" only comes up with "narcissistic abuse awareness day" which is absolutely ridiculous. And doing "-abuse" to remove those from the search ALSO comes up with nothing.

How hard is it to not speak ill of those with a disorder that you've literally taken up the entire front page of google with how much you hate us? Just use the phrase "emotional abuse", it's really not that hard. Some of you claim that you "don't mean the disorder, [we] mean the *word* narcissist! It's not about the disorder!", but even if that IS true, it still makes shit like this happen. You're not better just because you twist your words.

[grinchwrapsupreme]

OUGH thinking about Phillip Morgan's hands as a defining feature of his character.... Phillip tightening the rope that kills Kenneth with his hands... Brandon gently pulling the gloves off of Phillip's hands... Phillip playing the piano with his hands... Phillip opening the champagne bottle for Brandon with his hands... Phillip breaking the glass with his hands... Phillip cutting getting cut on the stem and spreading blood on his hands... Phillip getting his fortune read by his hands... Phillip grabbing and aiming the gun with his hands... "these hands will bring you great fame"

[its-just-me5]

I could almost say that ignoring is the highest form of abuse

[weareuniqueandimportant]

EMPATHY GLAMORIZATION IS NOT ABOUT EMPATHY BUT SUPERIORITY TORWARDS APATHETIC PEOPLE BIGOTRY TORWARDS THEM TYPICAL BIGOT EVIL. SIMPLE AS THAT. IF YOU SEE THEM AS LEFTIST YOU'RE NO LEFTIST YOURSELF. HORRIBLE. THAT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO HAVE ONLY EMPATHY AND BAD TO THINK EVERYTHING YOU DO IS SUCH ESPECIALLY WHEN THEY'RE CLEARLY BEING APATHETIC IF ANYTHING WHEN THEY DO THIS...

COMES TO SHOW BIGOTRY TORWARDS CRAZY AND DISABLED PEOPLE ASWELL AS PARAPHILIA PEOPLE ISN'T TAKEN AT ALL THE SAME AS SEXISM RACISM AND QUEERPHOBIA... OR PERHAPS... LIKELY... THEY ARE ALL THE BIGOTED THINGS EVIL AND TAKE NONE THAT SERIOUSLY... BELITTLING DOWN THEIR PAIN AND DAMAGE...

[pageofheartdj]

Some ableist: *uses npd terms to spread stigma and hate about the disorder*

PwNPD: Hey this harms the community that is already constantly attacked.

Some ableist: OMG SHUT THE FUCK UP NOT EVERYTHING IS ABOUT YOUR SELFISH ASS YOUR EYES LITERALLY TURN BLACK BECAUSE YOU LOVE HURTING PEOPLE!!!

[makkie-is-screaming]

fighting with my brother because he’s using retard as an insult n I just can’t stand that

[lottieurl]

one of my controversial opinions is i won't stop using the word narcissist in a way its been used my whole life because of a psychiatric label/diagnosis that shouldn't be called that in the first place

[whumpshaped]

cant stop thinking abt that reply to bram's post abt the abusive cluster b parents so just know if u were abused like that, first of all, samesies and it gave me cluster b pds as a result, second of all, i promise no one whos calling for understanding of cluster b ppl is invalidating ur experiences. if u feel like they ARE, i sincerely hope u realise u dont have to have a medical explanation for why others suck. if ur parents sucked, u can just say that, and its freeing, and focusing on behavioural patterns instead of diagnoses (which u most likely dont have access to when it comes to strangers) will allow u to weed out actual bad ppl and keep urself safe(er)

[transmogrified-in-the-void]

Also huuuuge shout out to my friend who stopped my emotionally abusive and manipulative ex from showing up to my house with three friends (two I hadn't explained the situation to) months ago and, apparently, did it in such a way that it completely withered that pathetic man. Ily dude

[twilightarcade]

Oh Man now I'm a narcissist. Who is abuse. Watch out world.

[clownaura]

i know that narcissistic behavior is bad and that narcissistic people can be bad people, and i know that people can have narcissistic tendencies and not have narcissistic personality disorder, but wow there’s been a lot of people calling narcissists straight up evil? and it feels weird to me

like my mom has narcissistic tendencies, but she is in no way evil..even if she’s aware of what she’s doing. i feel this way even after she’s manipulated me and hijacked my plans in the past (and processed it all)

maybe it’s a misunderstanding of mental illness? either way it just rubs me the wrong way how so many people are so quick to label people evil without understanding…

[daz4i]

repeating the mantra of "it's okay to be selfish as long as you don't hurt anyone it's okay that you're having selfish thoughts as long as you don't start fights or take away from other people it's okay thought crime isn't real and you try so hard to not hurt anyone and keeping it as thoughts only you're doing okay it's okay to be selfish as long as you don't behave selfishly" to keep going these days fr

[angorwhosebabyisthis]

[cw: anti-NPD ableism, fictional child death, gore.]

you know. i can't believe it didn't quite click for me until now, but i knew there was a piece of the ableism puzzle missing with ivan, and i just realized that along with the audhd/dyslexia stuff he is a really violently hateful depiction of NPD.

pwNPD are all evil, stupid abusers who will only ever accomplish anything by riding others' coattails; anyone who believes they have worth or deserve love only thinks that because they're fooling themselves and denying reality, at the expense of the reasonable people who actually deserve the love and approval they're hogging; it's funny, satisfying, and their just deserts to take them down a peg by intentionally insulting and humiliating them; and you should cheer for their gruesome, frankly dehumanizing deaths. very awesome and cool

[homeworkreminder]

If you're a licensed therapist and make tiktok or reels or shorts or whatever talking about trauma recovery and specifically painting all abusers as narcissists and tagging your posts as npd, I believe your license should be revoked and you should be not allowed the chance to practice in any type of medical field, or any field that requires professionalism.

[vizthedatum]

Hey I figured out a very long time ago why you didn't block your abusive ex

... and why you wanted me to block or cut off XYZ friends/lovers. You know that I knew, right? And that I loved you anyway? I stayed because I loved you, to the detriment of myself. I stayed because I wasn't physically and emotionally strong enough to leave. Also, I am gonna love myself and a lot of other people waaayyyyyyyyyy harder than I loved you. ;) --

I know that I have codependent tendencies. I am aware of it. And I know I fall for toxic patterns and narcissistic people.

But I always try to tell them (and anyone I end up falling for): I'll give you everything willingly, you don't have to take it from me.

That's the test. Because after that level of commitment (and I commit hella hard), if they still take and cross boundaries... then they're an abuser.

-- I guess I have a really delicious big heart.