#...am. I?

[ardienothesieno]

actually I'm gonna rant about this more because I'm legitimately pissed at this friend. no one on here by the way the only reason I'm talking about this is because she wouldn't touch tumblr with a ten foot pole.

so me and her were trying to play a video game last night. and I was very overbooked last night, for some reason last night of all nights all my friends showed up and wanted to play video games and I said yes to everybody but came in with the boundary if "I can only play for an hour and then I have to go"

the game we were trying to play was causing us a ton of tech issues. it was taking absolutely FOREVER to install for me and once we got everything set up we could not figure out how to set up a lobby so we could play together. and it was just going on and on and nothing was working and I had told her that I'd have to leave by 10 and time was ticking on and I was getting frustrated and annoyed because I didn't want to bail on my other friends and it was taking forever and I also knew nothing about this game so I had no motivation to actually want to play it other then my friend

and then she just goes "ardie do you even want to be here right now." very exasperated.

and I was silent for a second and then said that the tech issues were frustrating me

and she just says that it's fine that she'd figure it out that I should go have fun with my *other* friends. and leaves the call before I can say anything.

i, reasonably I think, am like wtf. and text her and say. wtf dude. I'm allowed to be frustrated at tech issues. I'm allowed to have other friends and other obligations. why are you being weird about it???

and she responds "I don't want to talk about it. go have fun."

so I say okay and think it'll get left at that

and she texts me again saying "stop assuming I'm a jerk. you dont even know why I'm mad."

i try to explain that to me, it sounded like she was mad about me going and playing games with other people. and that pissed me off so I responded with a response that assumed she was mad about me doing so. yet again I try and close the conversation.

she comes back with I AM mad at you it's your fault for assuming the reason why I'm mad at you and thinking that IM in the wrong here

now I'm really confused. and I tell her that.

so she says I'm pissed with you but I don't want to talk about why and I don't want to ruin your night by arguing with you so shut up and leave me alone

and so I stop trying to subtly shut down the conversation and am just like "okay great goodnight"

i text our mutual friend, who is roommates with first friend, and tell her that friend 1 is pissed at me and isn't telling me why, and fill her in some more on the situation. friend 2 advises me to just let 1 cool down and text her tomorrow and propose we play games to try and show I'm not blowing her off

about an hour later friend 2 texts me again basically saying abort abort do NOT text friend 1 tomorrow the situation is BAD

i ask what happened how bad is it what did I do

friend 2 tells me I activated two of friend 1's major pet peeves. doesn't explain any more, goes to bed.

she hasn't texted me back yet today.

so here i am!! knowing that I somehow pissed off one of my best friends but not knowing how or why and no one telling me anything!!!!

why is it MY responsibility to have friend 1s pet peeves memorized. if she's upset about something, it's her job to TELL ME.

and I know how this situation is gonna go. eventually we'll talk and I'll figure out what I did and she'll tell me not to do those things again and I'll ask her to communicate her boundaries better and she'll either say "I can try" and then do nothing or just continue to deny all fault if hers and just insist I need to get better at reading her and shit.

and yeah I should probably leave her alone for a while to "cool off." BUT ITS NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY TO MANAGE HER EMOTIONS. I DONT WANT EVERY CONVERSATION I HAVE WITH HER FEEL LIKE IM WALKING A TIGHTROPE WHILE BLINDFOLDED.

did I do something wrong that pissed her off? probably. buts she needs to communicate with me and stop blaming everything on me.

[noodles-07]

"it's all in your head" correct! unfortunately I am also in there

[sleepdeprivedsurgeon]

the purpose of friends is to have people who unconditionally hate your shitty exes & relatives. like maybe YOU have a complex relationship with your father but i sure don't. i'm outside his house with a gun. he's not the unforgivable asshole who raised me he's just an unforgivable asshole

[yuttikkele]

hey gamers I’ve started watching star trek does anyone else see the romantic tension between captain kirk and mr. spock

[visenyaism]

i don’t know about you guys but the main reason i am still on tumblr in 2024 is BECAUSE it is the most cloutless least influential social media app out there and that is the experience i am after. absolutely none of this will ever translate into significant attention or real success in my life and that is so beautiful.

[karvviie]

he’s got rejection sensitivity

[bumblebeebats]

Sometimes little pleasures in life are loadbearing. Whenever someone is like "If you'd just give up tea and coffee and sugar and--" im like I'll stop you right there. Because if you finish that sentence i am going to kill everyone in this building and then myself. If i have to face the horrors of the world without my little jar of caramel flavoured instant coffee i am going to go full American Psycho. Believe it or not, my main priority in life is not to have perfect teeth or be an Olympic athlete or look like a supermodel, but to actually enjoy living, because I spent far too long not doing that and it royally sucked. And boy, some people don't like hearing that. Particularly dentists

[gophersdomain]

something something despite the all horrors and tragedies of the world, love was there and that's all that matters

[astriiformes]

I know that realistically you can only fit so many movies into a list of approximately 100, but I cannot take that "How many of tumblr's favorite movies have you seen?" list that's been going around seriously because there are some truly egregious omissions.

Some of it is very clearly recency bias, which makes me wonder if the op truly wasn't on here in 2013 or so, but you're telling me you made a list of "tumblr's favorite movies" that doesn't include Pacific Rim or Mad Max: Fury Road? Because, like, I was there, Gandalf.

[cornyonmains]

Something I find very interesting about this CEO assassination is that the guy who did it has basically become an American hero.

They're probably quite worried about what will happen when they catch this guy, especially with the level of public support he has. If they catch him alive and he gets to air his grievances, he could unite the entire country against the private healthcare system. It could go to trial and result in jury nullification, which would basically send a message to the American public that catching a rich body comes without consquences.

If they kill him to keep his mouth shut, I'd say people will burn cities to the ground, and it could potentially provoke even more anger against private health insurance. In a powder keg, it only takes one person lighting the match.

I know it sounds over the top, but a figurehead is a powerful thing, and that's what this shooter is. The rich understand it. That's why Blue Cross just magically decided they were going to pay for anesthesia again. Those dead-eyed psychopaths were going to take everything they could until someone shot that guy and that's the gospel truth.

Keep the hate fire burning. Watching their fear is the closest I've come to knowing joy since the Bush administration.

[time-to-leave-machine]

people will say "why cant the eldritch gods just be nice to humans :((" and then kill a bug for existing near them

[astronnova]

yeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

[jakeperalta]

saw this very [ben affleck depressed smoking image] comment and thought why does blue job / pink job sound like an established concept so I looked it up.....

what's next?? having a bank account is a blue job 💙🏦☺️ not being legally recognised as a person in your own right is a pink job 🩷🥰💅

[is-that-sand-in-my-waffles]

"the ides of march". "neil banging out the tunes". "superputinelection"

[500-moths-in-a-trenchcoat]

oh yes it's that time of year again