#Elaine Aron

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A tweet by @Finnattentive: "The clinical research psychologist who created the concept of HSP and first wrote about it, Elaine Aron, based the HSP criteria on family members who have since been diagnosed with autism" How is HSP even a thing after that? Why I’ve rejected the HSP label big time for years now. Sometimes people have tried to apply it to me on my posts about high empathy, sense of justice, or sensory overload and I’ve had to gently correct with, “I mean, I’m autistic. I think it’s okay to just say that.”

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From The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron

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Any fellow HSP in the house? 🙋🏿‍♀️

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How to Deal with Life as HSPs

How to Deal with Life as HSPs

Life is tough right now. My journey has taken me down a very rough road, ridden with potholes. I yearn for some smooth asphalt. You do, too, I’m sure. Most of us, sensitive people, are having a rough time of it. That’s normal. But what about those of us who are a higher level than just sensitive, as in Highly Sensitive People? Even if we don’t consider ourselves in this category, we could all…

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Book Review: The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine N. Aron

Hello from a friendly (but introverted, detached, and isolation-prone) neighborhood HSP!

I've always had an inkling that most people weren't as hyperreactive to stimuli as I am - that not everyone despised crowds, felt things keenly, empathically; needed to be alone for extended periods to recharge, lived in their imaginations, or had bodies that went berserk every time they were exposed to new allergens, pathogens, or medications - so this book was reaffirming in a lot of ways. It took a trait I already suspected I had and framed in a familiar yet fresh and expansive context. Gave it a name. It offered advice, suggestions, on how to navigate its more taxing effects. I was able see myself more clearly because of that. Wrap my head around the science. Understand my personality, my relationships with others better. Most of all, I was able to feel less like some freak or strange outlier because, hey, there are a lot of us out there who have this innate trait and that's a beautiful, challenging thing!

So although this book could be preachy, not to mention a little too inner child derivative, I appreciated all the insight and psychology behind "high sensitivity." It was illuminating. Validating, too. Besides, it's always nice to grow to have more love, acceptance, and consideration for what makes me--well, ME.

3/5 stars

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Unveiling the Layers: Exploring the Untold Story of Sensitivity in the Captivating Film 'Sensitive - The Untold Story

Jonathan Cohen, who contributed to my book let me know about this amazing documentary and accompanying book which delves into the world of the highly sensitive. Embark on a cinematic journey with ‘Sensitive – The Untold Story,’ a groundbreaking documentary that delves into the intrinsic trait of high sensitivity, prevalent in 1 in 5 individuals and observed across 100 diverse species. This…

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“Quando você parte para o mundo buscando inconscientemente essa segurança tão desejada sem uma grande experiência com o que busca, com frequência você repete os mesmos velhos erros, voltando a escolher muitas e muitas vezes o mesmo tipo familiar de pessoa que faz você se sentir inseguro.”

Elaine N. Aron, Pessoas Altamente Sensíveis

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36 Questions for Increasing Closeness

Instructions – Take turns asking one another the questions; each person should answer each question, but in an alternating order, so that a different person goes first each time.

Set I

Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

Would you like to be famous? In what way?

Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

Set II

If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know?

Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

What do you value most in a friendship?

What is your most treasured memory?

What is your most terrible memory?

If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

What does friendship mean to you?

What roles do love and affection play in your life?

Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

Set III

Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling…”

Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share…”

If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for them to know.

Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

Tell your partner something that you like about them [already].

What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how they might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

Final task / suggestion – Stare into each other’s eyes for four minutes.

 — — — Aron, A., Melinat, E., Aron, E. N., Vallone, R. D., & Bator, R. J. (1997). The experimental generation of interpersonal closeness: A procedure and some preliminary findings. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 23(4), 363-377. 

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All we can do is constantly try to get back in balance.

Elaine N. Aron

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some of my dgs faves reading the self-help workbook i'm currently working with ("The Highly Sensitive Person" by Dr Elaine N. Aron)

kazuma: pitches the book into the Thames when asked to do the reframing exercise at the end of chapter 1

barok: cries effusively and cathartically. places many markers for important passages. makes cramped annotations in the margins. he's considering writing a thank-you letter to the author that he may or may not send

herlock: reads the preface, says he could write a better book, forgets about it, and loses it in his sitting room for years

ryunosuke: reads it slowly. makes kazuma mad by asking questions about its subject material. makes barok weep by even mentioning the title. is approached by herlock demanding to know why ryuu has not asked his opinion (he gets mad when ryuu points out he never read past the preface and therefore doesn't have a valid opinion)

gina: reads it on work breaks and talks with barok about the subject matter obliquely. gives olive green a copy on the downlow

hosonaga: sleeps with it under his pillow

enoch: bursts into flames walking near it

harebrayne: tries to read it but gets too overwhelmed by Being Seen. gets a summary from barok

stronghart: "Yes, I Am A Highly Sensitive Person. I Am The Most Sensitive."

klint: probably bought the copy that barok is reading but never read it himself

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𝚕𝚊𝚜𝚝 𝚜𝚘𝚗𝚐: hear me out - exo.

𝚏𝚊𝚟𝚎 𝚌𝚘𝚕𝚘𝚛: blue, rose gold, light pink.

𝚌𝚞𝚛𝚛𝚎𝚗𝚝𝚕𝚢 𝚠𝚊𝚝𝚌𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚐: i've been watching dougdoug's youtube videos lately, and i always watch tingting asmr before bed. i'm also planning to check out the bg3 cast playing dnd but it's such a long session i haven't found time yet.

𝚕𝚊𝚜𝚝 𝚖𝚘𝚟𝚒𝚎: red white and royal blue.

𝚌𝚞𝚛𝚛𝚎𝚗𝚝𝚕𝚢 𝚛𝚎𝚊𝚍𝚒𝚗𝚐: the highly sensitive person by elaine aron. my sister gifted me this book because she thought i might be an hsp. it's a bit hard for me to get through so i've been reading it on and off for about a year or two.. don't look at me.

𝚜𝚠𝚎𝚎𝚝/𝚜𝚊𝚟𝚘𝚛𝚢/𝚜𝚙𝚒𝚌𝚢: i love them all but savory if i have to choose.

𝚛𝚎𝚕𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗𝚜𝚑𝚒𝚙 𝚜𝚝𝚊𝚝𝚞𝚜: none.

𝚌𝚞𝚛𝚛𝚎𝚗𝚝 𝚘𝚋𝚜𝚎𝚜𝚜𝚒𝚘𝚗: it was bg3 until a while ago. after that maybe "our life: now & forever".

𝚕𝚊𝚜𝚝 𝚐𝚘𝚘𝚐𝚕𝚎: spider and the fly cp2077.

𝚌𝚞𝚛𝚛𝚎𝚗𝚝𝚕𝚢 𝚠𝚘𝚛𝚔𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚘𝚗: i have 9 wips for several different fandoms and i'm slowly working through them. i also have some schoolwork i need to start..

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Thanks Anitra @allwaswell16 for tagging me 😘

Last picture I took: Rufus being weird in the window after I told him to stop barking at the neighbors 🐶

Last song: “Yoshimi Battles the Pink Robots” by The Flaming Lips

Currently reading: The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine N Aron (recced by my spawn’s therapist), and Codependent No More by Melody Beattie (recced by my therapist)

Next reading: probably Mouth to Mouth by Antoine Wilson because I keep meaning to read it and @crinkle-eyed-boo Kim’s ballet fic when it’s posted 👀

Currently watching: What We Do in the Shadows

Next watching: probably the next season of The Wheel of Time when it starts but idk because I’m having a hard time focusing on television recently

Current obsessions: uhhh my new-to-me car, imaginary house hunting in places that actually have seasons, imaginary job hunting, the exes fic that’s currently living in my head…

7 things, tagging 7 people: @louandhazaf @crinkle-eyed-boo @larrydoinglaundry @evilovesyou @phdmama @jlf23tumble @wernerherzogs

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READING LIST FOR 2024

• [🎀] - priority • [✔] - finished • [👁] - now reading • [💭] - next up •

💌 Human Kind (Rutger Bregman) [👁]

🍒 Utopia for Realists (Rutger Bregman) [🎀]

💌 Joyful (Ingrid Fettel Lee) [🎀💭]

🍒 A Paradise Built in Hell (Rebecca Solnit)

💌 Tribe (Sebastian Junger)

🍒 The Art Of Frugal Hedonism (Annie Raser-Rowland, Adam Grubb) [🎀]

💌 Sapiens (Yuval Noah Harari)

🍒 Weird (Olga Khazan) [🎀]

💌 The Art of Thinking Clearly (Rolf Dobelli) [🎀]

🍒 Civilized To Death (Christopher Ryan) [🎀]

💌 The Courage To Be Disliked (Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga) [🎀]

🍒 The Courage To Be Happy (Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga) [🎀]

💌 The Practice of Not Thinking (Ryonosuke Koike)

🍒 This Is How You Heal (Brianna Wiest) [🎀]

💌 Authetic Happiness (Martin. E. P. Seligman)

🍒 Flourish (Martin. E. P. Seligman)

💌 How To Stop Feeling Like Shit (Andrea Owen) [🎀]

🍒 How To Be a Good Creature (Montgomery Sy)

💌 The Hope Circuit (Martin. E. P. Seligman)

🍒 Homo Deus (Yuval Noah Harari)

💌 Healing Is The New High (Vex King) [🎀]

🍒 Wintering (Katherine May)

💌 The Strength In Our Scars (Bianca Sparacino) [🎀]

🍒 Ego Is The Enemy (Ryan Holiday)

💌 The Mountain Is You (Brianna Wiest) [🎀]

🍒 Getting Through What You Can't Get Over (Anita Agers-Brooks)

💌 Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess (Dr. Caroline Leaf)

🍒 How To Be Your Own Therapist (Owen O'Kane) [🎀]

💌 Living Consciously (Yvette Ratshikhopha)

🍒 Adult Children Of Emotionally Immature Parents (Lindsay C. Gibson PsyD.) [🎀]

💌 Girl On Fire (Cara Alwill Leyba)

🍒 It's Not Fair (Melanie Dale)

💌 The Highly Sensitive Person (Elaine N. Aron PH.D.) [🎀]

🍒 Tiny Traumas (Dr. Meg Arroll)

💌 Be Not Afraid Of Love (Mimi Zhu)

🍒 The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (Philippa Perry) [🎀]

💌 The Art Of Noticing (Rob Walker)

🍒 The Child In You (Stefanie Stahl) [🎀]

💌 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think (Brianna Wiest)

🍒 The Pivot Year (Brianma Wiest) [🎀]

💌 How To Hug A Porcupine (Dr. Debbie Joffe Ellis) [🎀]

🍒 Why Simple Wins (Lisa Bodell)

💌 Don't Overthink It (Anne Bogel) [🎀]

🍒 Why Did Nobody Tell Me This Before (Dr. Julie Smith)

💌 Mother Hunger (Kelly McDaniel) [🎀]

🍒 The Art Of Self-Therapy (Nick Trenton) [🎀]

💌 A Witch's Guide To Crafting Your Practice (Lisa McSherry) [🎀]

🍒 A Gentle Reminder (Bianca Sparacino)

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Oggi lo dico con orgoglio, sono una Persona Altamente Sensibile.

Una delle cose più importanti avvenute durante il mio percorso di crescita e' stata la scoperta degli studi della Dottoressa Elaine Aron e del tratto della personalità da lei descritto, l'Alta Sensibilità. Venni a conoscenza degli studi della Dottoressa Aron durante una delle mie innumerevoli ricerche personali, svolte online tra semplice Instagram e Google talvolta o PubMed e Nature altre volte. Un periodo molto intenso quello tra Marzo e Maggio 2023, quando ho avuto esperienza di un profondo Insight o presa di coscienza, se detto in termini psicologici, o Awaken e risveglio se invece vogliamo parlare in termini spirituali; magari di questo argomento specifico ne parlerò in un futuro post.

Sulla prima pagina del libro ho annotato il giorno in cui cominciai a leggerlo, 9 Aprile 2023. Proprio con questo libro ho preso l'abitudine di scrivere sulla prima pagina un messaggio che la me del post libro possa leggere. Ora lo faccio con ogni libro di crescita personale che leggo.

Ecco cosa mi scrissi.

In questo giorno di Pasqua entro con un cuore consapevole di aver perso tante cose per poter andare avanti. In questo giorno scelgo di iniziare questa lettura perché so di essere diversa e scelgo di iniziare ad amare questa mia diversità. Scelgo di accudirla, di comprenderla e darle una nuova forma. Cerco di accettare che sia un "superpotere" nelle mani di chi la sa usare. Scelgo di smettere di scappare e rinnegare una parte di me. Scelgo di prendermi la responsabilità di chi sono e imparerò a mostrarmi agli altri. Buon viaggio piccola Gaia. Ci vediamo dall'altra parte. In questo blog ripercorrerò pezzi del mio viaggio con un duplice obiettivo. Il primo è quello di continuare la mia collezione di frammenti, infatti solo vedendomi per intero posso progredire. Secondo e non meno importante, spero che la mia testimonianza possa essere da aiuto per chiunque lì fuori stia cercando delle risposte e si stia chiedendo se sia possibile, se c'è posto per persone come noi, se si può sopravvivere ad un mondo che ci fa sentire costantemente overstimolati e disallineati. Come resto accesa/o? Come resto in vita?

La risposta è sì, c'è posto anche per noi. Anzi per fortuna ci siamo noi. Noi Persone Altamente Sensibili.

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The book Grace is reading while Tommy's on a date in 3x14 is The Highly Sensitive Child by Elaine N. Aron. This isn't a book specifically about autistic children, but it is definitely one with content that applies to nearly all autistic kids and only some allistic ones.

So new headcanon: The book is Tommy's, because her twins are autistic, and Grace grabbed it off the shelf instead of a different one because she suspects Charlie is, too. (And Charlie definitely is because now that I think about it, I really do headcanon that Judd and Grace both are, they just need very little support - which means since Grace is a black woman she's undiagnosed, and since Judd is a white man born in most likely the 80s he got an "Asperger's" diagnosis instead of an ASD1 diagnosis and he's been told all his life it's something he grew out of (aka learned how to mask better).)