#personality and social psychology bulletin

[empyreumata]

36 Questions for Increasing Closeness

Instructions – Take turns asking one another the questions; each person should answer each question, but in an alternating order, so that a different person goes first each time.

Set I

Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

Would you like to be famous? In what way?

Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

Set II

If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know?

Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

What do you value most in a friendship?

What is your most treasured memory?

What is your most terrible memory?

If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

What does friendship mean to you?

What roles do love and affection play in your life?

Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

Set III

Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling…”

Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share…”

If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for them to know.

Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

Tell your partner something that you like about them [already].

What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how they might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

Final task / suggestion – Stare into each other’s eyes for four minutes.

 — — — Aron, A., Melinat, E., Aron, E. N., Vallone, R. D., & Bator, R. J. (1997). The experimental generation of interpersonal closeness: A procedure and some preliminary findings. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 23(4), 363-377. 

[pastanest]

Spencer Reid x gender neutral!reader

A/N: inspired by this tiktok - I heard y’all wanted some more shrimp reid content?

gif from an unnamed source on google so if it’s yours please let me know and I’ll credit!! ♡

Turn It Right Around

To suggest Spencer was dreading the arrival of the newest member of the team, would be an understatement. He forced himself to wori earlier than the rest of the team, with the sole intention of sitting at his desk, anxiously bouncing his knees beneath the table and staring at the glass doors that would grant him no more than a few seconds to adjust to the sight of the new member of the team before he would be expected to introduce himself. The young genius had determined that getting to work early was far better than risking arriving at a point where the new team member was already there, had already introduced themselves to the rest of the team, and in doing so, made a spectacle of his own introduction. That was a fate worse than death.

With each member of the team that arrived for the day, Spencer’s heart jumped. He was anxious about having to meet someone new, having someone else to explain his weirdness to, someone else to misunderstand how his mind works and someone else to cut his rambles off short when they inevitably got sick of whatever statistic or piece of trivia he had elected to verbalize; those were his biggest concerns, all culminating under the umbrella term of one fear in particular: what if the new member of the team simply didn’t like him?

The rest of the team had settled at their desks and begun to relax, gossiping about who the new arrival could be, what they might be like. Spencer was too anxious to partake in their theorizing, but when he fixed his gaze back on those glass doors, his heart that had previously been jumping periodically, skipped a beat entirely.

You. With a bright smile and kind eyes, immediately greeting everyone with excited introductions, and Spencer scrambled from his desk, his heart having migrated to his throat. Your smile traveled from person to person, encouraging their smiles in return, until your kind eyes landed on Spencer, and he felt his heartbeat in his suddenly clammy palms.

“Hello! It’s lovely to meet you, I’m (Y/N)!” You introduced yourself to him, and he nodded, concluding in a microsecond that your name was the most beautiful he’d ever heard, regardless of the number of other people he’d encountered who may have shared your name. It was yours, then.

“H-Hello, it’s, it’s uh, lovely to meet you, too, I’m Doctor Spencer Reid.” He introduced himself in return, stammering and blushing and wiping his sweating palms on his trousers before he held a hand out for you to shake, much to the shock of the rest of the team, who shared equally wide-eyed glances.

“Spencer. Good name.” You complimented, shaking his hand gently, and Spencer was stunned to detect no malice or sarcasm in your voice at all. Did you like his name, too? He wondered if you could feel his erratic heartbeat as you shook his hand.

“Thanks. Yours is nice, too.” Spencer managed to say back to you, giving you a shy smile.

The rest of the team had given the two of you some space, almost afraid to burst whatever bubble had formed around you and made the resident genius float in such a way.

“Thank you, Spencer.” You answered, blessing him with a soft smile of your own.

Momentary silence was too much for Spencer, and he quickly blurted out the first thing that came to his head. “D-Did you know a Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin study found that by talking with people and processing their social cues, you wake up those parts of your brain which allow for better cognitive function? I-In fact, the study found that with as little as ten minutes of contact and conversation with a new person, brain stimulation led to improved mental cognition. You are basically giving your brain a workout and expanding the ability to learn to accept new ideas and change preconceived notions.” Spencer was speaking quickly, perhaps too quickly, and his face flushed. Despite feeling more confident in his ability to talk to you when he was reciting information he had memorized, that confidence shattered under the - ironically - preconceived notion that you would, like everyone else he encountered, be bored, or worse, disturbed by his sudden outburst of knowledge.

Much to Spencer’s absolute awe, though, the soft smile on your face only widened, and you looked up at him with stars in your eyes.

“That’s so cool, Spencer!” You began to say, and you parted your lips to continue speaking, just as Aaron Hotchner called for everyone to join him at the round table. You glanceed back up at Spencer with that same smile, sending his heart soaring. “If you’ve got any more facts like that, I’d love to hear them, but for now, we’d better get going.”

Spencer nodded. “Yeah, I’ll, uh, I’ll be right there. You go on ahead.” He urged, and you nodded back at him, disappearing up the stairs.

Taking a deep breath in an effort to compose himself, Spencer headed for the coffee machine in the staff kitchen, but on surpassing two steps in that direction, he abruptly turned back on himself and speed walked over his desk. There sat the cup of coffee he had already made, 10 minutes prior. Picking it up, he quickly made his way to the round table to join the rest of the team, mentally scolding himself, until he saw your smile again, waiting for him.

After all, who can blame his eidetic memory for misplacing the information of having already made himself a coffee, in the midst of his heart leaping out of his chest and running towards you?

[oldguardleatherdog]

I posted the following to Facebook today:

(Long post)

Sadly, this account has become both a callout blog and a bulletin board where others can post nasty things about me.

I have to maintain this account in order to monitor these activities for legal reasons, and it's unfortunate that you, my longtime friends and loved ones, have had to see this garbage in your feeds and notifications.

For that reason, I'm gradually unfriending almost everyone on my list here and on Instagram, and will do what I can to shed my followers (if Meta will allow it).

Many of you have rallied to my defense in recent weeks, and my family and I are grateful for your help and support.

For the past two and a half years, since I was injured by a popular local personality who has more than 10,000 followers across social media and chose to pursue legal action against him for his deliberate act, I have been painted as a hatemonger and a vicious, vindictive liar who is attacking this man for his money, that I have some sort of psychological disorder, and that my actions are equivalent to those of a child molester.

I have been called a false Christian, too elderly to care for myself or to be desirable sexually and socially, and my husband has been accused of sinister activities while oblivious to what his "ward" (me) is doing - and he has been subjected twice to these people using him and taking advantage of his good nature in order to inflict further damage on me.

Our building has been broken into and we have been terrorized in our home. Our personally identifiable information has been spread to untold numbers of people via an open Google Drive share that the person who injured me established shortly after he injured me in May of 2021 and is still open to anyone who has the link.

We have been threatened online and in person with violence and calls for me to be "purged from the online and offline communities" - and not once has anyone in these online groups or in person spoken up in my defense.

I have been systematically banned from LGBTQ+ communities and gathering spaces both online and in the real world. I have been hunted and stalked across multiple social media platforms by the person who injured me and his proxies, who have succeeded in forcing me off those platforms, and have caused me to be fired from my employment by threatening my employer, taking work and future opportunities away from me and taking food off my family's table in the process.

My 37-year reputation in the leather community and work as a founder of pup play has been ruined beyond repair, and thousands of people have been fed a steady diet of misinformation and false narratives about me and my family, while I have been unable to speak in my defense and pour truth on these lies.

All of this has forced me to conclude that my ability to continue participating in my longtime communities in the way I have always done is no longer possible.

This isn't the way that I had hoped to end my life in leather and pup, but we don't always get to choose our exit - just ask Dan Rather.

Due to the circumstances, I am removing my name and record of work from all sources, repositories, and reference works relating to anything I have participated in or been given credit for in these groups from the time I came out in 1986 to the present day.

I am also withdrawing the developmental work and research that I had intended to provide to pup play historians and will deaccess any reference to me in leather or journalism archives or collections, except for my queer and AIDS activist performance art and composition works stored in university LGBTQ+ libraries and museums around the world.

That is all that I wanted to say to you.

-Animal

[galaxysharks]

Maddox finding Val to be a lot to handle, yes for gay reasons, but also because Maddie has low-key been a psychological fascination for Val for years. Not in a mean way, cause this is Val, but just in a 'you are a textbook case for so many things, Im gonna study you, just a lil bit' kind of way.

Like vaguely invasive questioning, but Maddox isn't good enough at understanding social cues to get just how weird they are.

Ex.

Maddox: sorry, I was arguing with my mom...

Val: do you argue a lot?

Maddox: I guess?

Val: are they loud fights, or quiet fights?

(This is a real question a real life person once asked me. Don't ask people this, it's a weird question, especially from a civil engineering major)

EJ at some point got roped into this, so Maddox ended up with two older camp siblings that treat her very gently, but every so often just poke at her for a bit. Every year they start a little bulletin for newly acquired MaddieFacts! Where they add things that range from favorite cereal to names of pets. Technically anyone can add to it, so long as Maddox doesn't find it. Madison previously held the record for most collected in a summer, with 3. And one of those was 'current partner'

They put the board in the counseling office for kids who continue going to therapy at camp. Maddox has never found it.

Val feels like she hit the MaddieFacts! Jackpot this year.

Kourtney found it and was equal parts amused and creeped out. She has been bribed to secrecy via phone time for 20min after dinner.

[danemac]

Messy environment causes messy mindset?

The theory that a messy environment leads to a messy mindset suggests a profound connection between the external order of our surroundings and the internal workings of our minds. This concept aligns with the idea that our environment can significantly influence our mental states and cognitive processes.

A cluttered and disorganized space often reflects a lack of structure and control, mirroring a chaotic mindset. The visual stimuli of disorder can contribute to a sense of overwhelm and stress, impacting one's ability to focus and think clearly. When our physical surroundings are cluttered, it can be challenging to establish a mental equilibrium.

Psychologically, there is evidence supporting the idea that external disorder may lead to cognitive disarray. A study published in the journal Psychological Science found that participants in a disorganized environment were more likely to make unhealthy food choices and show a preference for quick, rather than thoughtful, decision-making.

Furthermore, renowned organizational psychologist Marie Kondo emphasizes the impact of tidying up on mental well-being. Her "KonMari" method goes beyond decluttering; it encourages individuals to keep only those items that "spark joy." This process, she argues, not only transforms the living space but also brings about a mental shift, fostering a more positive and intentional mindset.

Conversely, maintaining an organized and tidy environment may contribute to a clearer and more focused mindset. A study from the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin suggests that working in a clean and orderly space may promote healthy choices and ethical behavior.

In practical terms, the act of organizing and decluttering can be therapeutic. It requires decision-making, sorting, and categorizing—activities that engage the mind and create a sense of accomplishment. As physical order is established, mental clarity often follows suit.

However, it's important to note that the relationship between environment and mindset is nuanced and varies from person to person. While some thrive in orderly spaces, others may find inspiration in a more relaxed setting. The key lies in understanding one's personal preferences and finding a balance that fosters productivity and well-being.

In conclusion, the theory that a messy environment leads to a messy mindset suggests a compelling interplay between our external surroundings and internal cognitive processes. While research and anecdotal evidence support the idea that an organized space can contribute to mental clarity, it's essential to recognize individual differences and preferences. Striking a balance that resonates with personal needs and promotes a positive mental state is paramount in navigating the intricate relationship between our surroundings and our minds.

Today I cleaned and organized my bedroom and I feel good. To be able to accomplish a task when you have anxiety, depression, ADHD, and or Borderline Personality Disorder is monumental in feeling better about yourself.

Start with one room and don’t forget to tell yourself way to go you did it!

[violentdevotion]

When they would ask men and women what they looked for in their long-term partners, both genders would say they wanted someone “with a good sense of humor.” It was only when researchers pressed their subjects on what they meant, specifically, by “sense of humor,” that the sex difference became clear. Women want men who will tell jokes; men want women who will laugh at theirs. [...] In another dating-style study in 1998, about 100 college students were shown photos of people of the opposite sex along with transcripts of interviews supposedly conducted with those individuals. In the interviews, the photo subjects came off as either funny or bland. For the women, a man’s use of humor in the interview increased his desirability. The women’s use of humor, meanwhile, didn’t make the men want to date them more—it actually made them slightly less alluring. That’s right: The men found the pretty, unfunny women more desirable than equally pretty ones who also happened to be funny. It’s possible that men are indifferent to their partners’ funniness precisely because funny women are smarter. There’s some evidence that men are less attracted to women who are smarter than they are. In a study out this month in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, when men were introduced to women they were told had outperformed them on an intelligence test, they rated the woman as less attractive and were less likely to say they wanted to date her. [...] A 2001 study that analyzed casual conversations among young people found that while men told more jokes and more successful jokes in mixed company, women told many more jokes when they were in all-female groups. “Evidently,” the researchers concluded, “women only joke when men are not around.”

Plight of the Funny Female - Olga Khazan

[vague-humanoid]

People who are insecure about their attachments to others tend to exhibit greater negative attribution bias, according to new research published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin.

Negative attribution bias refers to the tendency to attribute blame and hostile motives to others’ behaviors. This can manifest itself as attributing someone’s behavior to their personal characteristics rather than the situation they are in. For example, if a person doesn’t return our call, we might assume they’re rude or uncaring. However, the reality could be that they’re busy or preoccupied with something else.

“Humans are amazing, we interpret others’ behaviours and the causes of events in our own way,” explained study author Danyang Li of the University of Bristol. “Individual differences in attributions in social situations exist widely, with some people being more negative and even hostile, some people being more positive and benign. Interestingly, the people close to us (parents/romantic partners) can have a significant influence on the way we make attributions.”

[ainews]

A new study has found that people who believe in Santa Claus are happier and more likely to enjoy giving gifts.

The study, conducted by the University of Texas, found that people who believed in Santa Claus were more likely to report feeling happy and satisfied with their lives. They were also more likely to say they enjoyed giving gifts to others.

Researchers say the findings suggest that believing in Santa Claus can lead to real-life benefits. They say the belief may help people focus on the positive aspects of their lives and on the joy of giving to others.

The study was published in the journal Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin.

[shreygoyal]

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“As plant-based foods (like the Impossible Burger and Beyond Burger) become more mainstream and propel cultural shifts toward more vegetarian lifestyles, it’s important to consider how racially inclusive these lifestyles seem.”

(Source)

[drbrownphdblog]

Cross-Cultural Psychology

The best advice for the interested and beginning graduate student seems to be this:

First find a strong program in psychology that has a solid reputation for specializing in a traditional substantive area that matches your career interests. Such areas include clinical, social, developmental, experimental, etc.

Second, look at the interests of all the department faculty members and determine to what extent each is interested in, familiar with, or at least hospitable to the cross-cultural approach in psychology. If you find a program with substantial interest in the area, then you may have found a place with which you would be satisfied. However, if you find that the faculty has little or no interest in the area then you should consider avoiding it because you would likely be frustrated.

In addition to checking out the interests and background of each member of the department, carefully examine the curriculum and carefully read how each course is described. In assessing programs, look for any courses, or course descriptions, which strongly suggest that issues of culture and diversity will be addressed, or that a broad international scope is an important part of the course.

your best bet may be to find a department of psychology which has at least one faculty member -- preferably in your interest area -- who has demonstrated an active interest in either cross-cultural or cultural psychology. Then you should consider getting in touch with that person, by phone, e-mail, or regular mail. A personal interview may be arranged.

If you have not already done so, you may consider joining the International Association for Cross-Cultural Psychology (IACCP). It has attractively low rates for students and individuals with relatively low income. Membership in IACCP includes subscriptions to the bimonthly Journal of Cross-Cultural Psychology and the Cross-Cultural Psychology Bulletin. Members also receive a very helpful membership directory which contains helpful information about members throughout the world.

[theinterior01]

Best Interior Design for your office

Certainly! Crafting the perfect office interior design involves a blend of functionality, aesthetics, and employee well-being. Here's a comprehensive guide to the best ideas for office interior design:

Flexible Layouts: Embrace adaptable spaces that can be easily reconfigured to accommodate different work styles and team sizes. Incorporate modular furniture, movable partitions, and flexible seating arrangements to promote collaboration and versatility.

Natural Light: Maximize natural light by strategically placing workstations and communal areas near windows. Natural light not only enhances mood and productivity but also reduces the reliance on artificial lighting, saving energy costs.

Biophilic Elements: Integrate biophilic design elements such as indoor plants, living walls, and natural materials like wood and stone. Connecting employees with nature indoors has been shown to boost creativity, reduce stress, and improve overall well-being.

Comfortable Workstations: Prioritize ergonomic furniture and accessories to support employee health and productivity. Adjustable desks, ergonomic chairs, and monitor arms can minimize physical strain and discomfort, fostering a more comfortable and efficient work environment.

Color Psychology: Utilize colors strategically to evoke specific moods and enhance productivity. Incorporate calming tones like blues and greens in areas where focus is crucial, while adding pops of energizing colors like orange or yellow in collaborative spaces to stimulate creativity and communication.

Zoning: Divide the office into distinct zones based on function and activity. Designate areas for focused work, collaboration, relaxation, and socialization to cater to different needs throughout the day. Each zone should be equipped with appropriate furniture and amenities to support its intended purpose.

Technology Integration: Integrate technology seamlessly into the design to facilitate communication, collaboration, and efficiency. Incorporate amenities such as wireless charging stations, smart boards, and video conferencing facilities to enhance connectivity and streamline workflows.

Wellness Amenities: Prioritize employee well-being by offering wellness amenities such as dedicated meditation rooms, fitness centers, and quiet zones for relaxation and rejuvenation. These amenities can help reduce stress, boost morale, and promote work-life balance.

Branding Elements: Infuse elements of your company's brand identity into the office design to reinforce corporate culture and values. Incorporate brand colors, logos, and graphics in strategic locations to create a cohesive and inspiring work environment that reflects your organization's identity.

Personalization: Allow employees to personalize their workspaces to foster a sense of ownership and belonging. Provide opportunities for customization through adjustable desks, bulletin boards, and storage solutions, empowering individuals to create spaces that suit their preferences and needs.

By incorporating these best practices into your office interior design, you can create a dynamic, functional, and inspiring workspace that enhances productivity, creativity, and employee satisfaction.

[cloudappreciationclub]

Newman, Matthew L., et al. "Lying words: Predicting deception from linguistic styles." Personality and social psychology bulletin 29.5 (2003): 665-675.

[bodyimstuckin]

DNI + BYF/BYI + About Me!

dni if ur anti-self diagnosers, some people cant afford it, etc.

I'm ok with 18-19 y/o but no older plz!! (unless i follow you first ofc and plz don't be weird!)

Super chill about people into cutegore just as long as itz fake gore!

Fine with ppl into true crime just don't idolize, glorify, etc. killers. 

I don't support weird ass ships, especially comshippers, proshippers, im alright with ships that are between two ADULT fictional characters that ISNT heavily problematic.

following up on the last part, for eg; sangwoo x yoonbum is heavily problematic for various of reasons. but im okay if you just ship to adults that have a regular relationship in the show or something, oh yeah and only if theyre fictional characters. following up on the last part, for eg; sangwoo x yoonbum is heavily problematic for various of reasons. but im okay if you just ship to adults that have a regular relationship in the show or something, oh yeah and only if theyre fictional characters.

Before you friend/interact + who i want to interact

Im a-okay with neo pronounz I dont quite understand 'em but I fully accept them!

a bit sensitive toward the mha fandom (as a fan of the show) as long as you dont support Horikoshi ur prob ok :)

dreamsmp fandom is okay as long as ur not the toxic side of it.

I'm all for furries/therians, i may not understand it but i accept :)

if I EVER do anything wrong please tell me or dm me and be nice i never mean to hurt anyone.

fictionkins are fine as long as you arent taking it too far (as someone with fictionkins)

I accept ALL religions i genuinely dont care as long as ur a good person

I'm quite triggered by the topic of sh

I vent at times so if ur uncomfy with that yk !I PUT WARNINGS DW!

More About Me!

I have around 17 animals at my home. My favorite animals, are mice, rats, ferrets, cats, but I also really like marine life like great white sharks, basking sharks, megamouth sharks, tiger sharks, and megalodons. My special interests are, the characters tomura shigaraki and dabi, their lore is fantastic, i also love fyodor, dazai, nikolai, and sigma, i could ramble about these characters all day.

I'm extremely childish and still like childish things and will forever probably look at baby sensory toys in stores. I'm planning to go to college for criminology and criminal psychology, the psychology behind criminals really interests me, again this is something i could forever ramble about, but fuck tcc honestly. I'm homeschooled but i'm going to public school for high school, so i'm basically online all the time.

Despite me being online all the time, I don't make many bulletins, I apologize in advance but I will try my best to interact with my moots! I'm quite triggered by the topic of sh. 

I vent at times so if ur uncomfy with that yk be safe i always give warnings when I do.

I use tone indicators! super chill if you don't, just please don't be rude about it. I have a huge fear of confrontation just be aware of that, I will not argue with people on here unless it is absolutely necessary.

I have an ed and talk about it sometimes.

i slightly age regress (baby talk, acting childish, expressing my love for baby/little kids toys and clothes, etc.) i use a lot of my interests (mostly styles and subcultures) as coping mechanisms, especially yamikawaii, menhera, or gurokawaii. 

I talk about topics that r very mature at times, I grew up at a young age so I'm quite mature, but at the same time, I'm desperately trying to relive my childhood. I have my IMs off because I can't talk to people without having a panic attack, I'm trying my best to socialize. Despite me being mature, I still am a teenager, I'm still gonna be somewhat immature.

I may not respond to comments or I fail to interact, I am HORRIBLE at socialization, and I don't exactly know what to say. But i will always look at peoples post :3

[feedchat]

6 Reasons Why Cleaning Your House Is a Top Priority

Home – a haven of comfort, a sanctuary of solace. Amid our bustling lives, our living spaces provide us with respite and relaxation. But what if the very spaces meant to nurture our well-being become cluttered and unkempt? The act of cleaning might seem mundane, but its impact goes far beyond aesthetics. Delving into the heart of why cleaning your house should be a top priority reveals a tapestry of reasons that intertwine physical, emotional, and mental well-being.

1. Health and Hygiene

The correlation between a clean home and good health is undeniable. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, surfaces touched by multiple people, like doorknobs and light switches, can spread germs and infections. Regular cleaning and disinfection mitigate these risks, ensuring a healthier living environment for you and your loved ones.

2. Enhanced Mental Clarity

Clutter and chaos in your surroundings can lead to mental clutter as well. A study published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin found that participants in an organized environment were more likely to make healthy choices. A clean and organized space promotes mental clarity, reduces stress, and enhances focus – contributing to a more balanced state of mind.

3. Uplifted Mood

Walking into a tidy home is an instant mood booster. The Journal of Neuroscience published a study revealing that a cluttered environment can lead to increased cortisol levels, the stress hormone. In contrast, an orderly environment elevates your mood and fosters a sense of tranquility.

4. Positive Impression

Your home is an extension of yourself, and it makes a lasting impression on guests and visitors. A survey by the Real Simple Home Study found that 77% of people believe a dirty home reflects poorly on its owner. A clean and well-maintained space not only creates a positive impression but also makes you feel proud of your living space.

5. Increased Productivity

An organized home promotes an organized mind. The National Association of Productivity and Organizing Professionals states that disorganization leads to the loss of up to an hour a day. A clean environment reduces distractions and boosts productivity, enabling you to accomplish tasks efficiently.

6. Sense of Accomplishment

The act of cleaning isn't just about removing dirt; it's about taking charge of your environment. Accomplishing cleaning tasks fosters a sense of achievement and control. A survey by Psychology Today reveals that completing small tasks, like cleaning, triggers a release of dopamine, the "feel-good" neurotransmitter.

If you're in search of a cleaning service provider, reach out to Spot It Cleaning.

[nuchinh]

Cách nhắn tin hỏi thăm người yêu cũ: văn minh, lịch sự và chân thành

Nếu bạn muốn liên lạc lại với người yêu cũ mà chưa biết nên bắt đầu như thế nào, hãy để NuChinh mách nước giúp bạn cách nhắn tin hỏi thăm người yêu cũ trong nội dung bài viết nhé.

Có nên hỏi thăm người yêu cũ không?

Vậy có nên nhắn tin cho người yêu cũ sau khi chia tay không? Thật ra sẽ không có một câu trả lời tuyệt đối cho câu hỏi này mà cần phải xem xét từng trường hợp cụ thể. Tuy nhiên, bạn nên lưu ý việc giữ liên lạc với người yêu cũ có thể có ảnh hưởng tích cực hoặc tiêu cực đến sức khỏe tinh thần và tình cảm của cả 2 bạn.

Một nghiên cứu được công bố trên tạp chí Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin vào năm 2013 cho thấy giữ liên lạc với người yêu cũ có thể gây cảm giác đau khổ và khó chịu cho đối tượng, đặc biệt là khi họ không còn tình cảm với bạn.

Theo một người nghiên cứu khác của Tashiro và Frazier (2013), việc làm bạn với người yêu cũ cũng phụ thuộc vào nhiều yếu tố bao gồm tình cảm với người cũ, tâm trạng và mức độ tin tưởng của 2 bên.

Như vậy việc nối lại mối quan hệ với người yêu cũ phụ thuộc vào nhiều yếu tố bao gồm tình cảm, tâm trạng và lòng tin của 2 người. Kết bạn sau khi khi chấm dứt mối quan hệ tình cảm không phải lúc nào cũng tiêu cực. Đồng thời, đây cũng là cơ hội để bạn thể hiện sự quan tâm, tôn trọng và giữ gìn mối quan hệ sau khi đã kết thúc.

Vì vậy để quyết định có nên giữ liên lạc với người yêu cũ hay không phụ thuộc vào nhiều yếu tố và tùy vào mỗi trường hợp cụ thể.

Cách nhắn tin hỏi thăm người yêu cũ

Sau khi xác định được mục đích nhắn tin và tình trạng mối quan hệ giữa bạn và người yêu cũ. Dưới đây sẽ là cách nhắn tin sau khi chia tay giúp bạn có thể hỏi thăm nhẹ nhàng đến người yêu cũ mà không làm người ấy khó xử.

Chọn thời điểm thích hợp

Lựa chọn thời điểm để nhắn tin là vô cùng quan trọng. Hãy tinh tế để chọn một thời điểm mà cả hai đều cảm thấy thoải mái và không có bất kỳ áp lực nào.

Nếu bạn và họ mới chia tay và trong lòng vẫn còn nhiều tổn thương, ấm ức về đối phương, thì không nên nóng vội vì khả năng cao người ấy vẫn chưa sẵn sàng để tiếp tục nói chuyện với bạn.

Bạn cũng nên lưu ý nên tránh nhắn tin vào những ngày đặc biệt như sinh nhật, ngày kỷ niệm yêu nhau, hoặc những dịp lễ đặc biệt khác. Điều này sẽ gây khó xử cho họ và có thể bạn sẽ chẳng nhận được hồi âm của họ đâu nhé.

Bắt đầu tin nhắn với những câu hỏi lịch sự

Bạn có thể gửi cho họ những tin nhắn hỏi thăm sức khỏe lịch sự hoặc cập nhật về tình hình công việc, cuộc sống hay cảm xúc của người yêu cũ sau khi kết thúc mối quan hệ.

Tuy nhiên đừng cố để hỏi thăm những vấn đề quá riêng tư của họ hoặc có ý xúc phạm, gợi nhắc chuyện quá khứ trong tin nhắn của mình. Không ai muốn đào lại chuyện quá khứ và một lần nữa cảm thấy tổn thương vì những gì đã qua đâu nhé.

Cho người yêu cũ biết suy nghĩ của bạn

Đừng kể lể rằng bạn đã khổ sở như thế nào, người đó đã làm xáo trộn cuộc sống của bạn ra sao mà hãy truyền tải suy nghĩ một cách chân thành nhất. Bạn đừng cố đổ lỗi cho người yêu cũ vì mối quan hệ này đã đi đến kết thúc và ghi nhớ mục đích chính của bạn là để hỏi thăm tình hình của người đó, chứ không phải để trách móc, buộc tội.

Hãy diễn tả một cách nhẹ nhàng về suy nghĩ của bạn ở hiện tại, bạn đã tốt lên như thế nào, bạn thay đổi tư duy ra sao, bạn có kế hoạch mới nào không, hay đơn giản là bạn nghĩ cả 2 bạn có thể tốt hơn lên bằng cách nào… Ai cũng muốn hướng đến điều tốt đẹp, nên nếu bạn chưa cảm thấy mình sẵn sàng để đối mặt thì khoan đã nhắn tin cho người yêu cũ nhé.

Đặt câu hỏi về tình hình hiện tại

Bạn có thể tham khảo những câu nói hỏi thăm người yêu cũ đơn giản như:

Chào [tên người yêu cũ], em hy vọng anh vẫn đang khỏe và mọi thứ đều tốt đẹp với anh. Em nhắn chỉ để hỏi thăm tình hình của anh như thế nào thôi.

Xin chào [tên người yêu cũ], em chỉ muốn hỏi thăm bạn và biết tin tức của anh thôi. Anh có khỏe không?

Chào [tên người yêu cũ], em mong rằng anh đang có một ngày tốt lành. Em chỉ muốn gửi lời chào và hỏi thăm anh thôi.

Xin chào [tên người yêu cũ], em hy vọng anh đang khỏe mạnh và đang có nhiều niềm vui trong cuộc sống. Dạo này anh như thế nào rồi?

Chào anh, em chỉ muốn gửi lời chúc tốt đẹp và hỏi thăm thôi. Em mong rằng mọi thứ đều tốt đẹp với anh.

Chào [tên người yêu cũ], em hy vọng anh đang khỏe mạnh và hạnh phúc. Em chỉ muốn hỏi thăm anh và biết tin tức của anh thôi.

Xin chào [tên người yêu cũ], em hy vọng anh đang có nhiều niềm vui trong cuộc sống. Dạo này anh như thế nào rồi?

Nếu quả thực bạn và họ vẫn còn tình cảm với nhau và họ gửi đi một số tín hiệu dành cho bạn, hãy khéo léo áp dụng thêm những cách nhắn tin khiến chàng nhớ bạn hơn nhé. Biết đâu đây lại là khởi đầu mới của 2 người.

Các lưu ý khi nhắn tin hỏi thăm người yêu cũ

Để cuộc nói chuyện đơn thuần là hỏi han sức khỏe, cập nhật tình hình của nhau thì bạn nên tránh phạm phải một số sai lầm sau đây:

Không đưa ra những yêu cầu quá khó khăn hoặc không phù hợp.

Đừng yêu cầu đối phương phải gặp mặt bạn hay kể cho bạn nghe tất cả về đời sống cá nhân hoặc chuyện tình cảm của họ. Bây giờ 2 bạn không là gì của nhau, nên những yêu cầu như trên đều sẽ khiến đối phương khó chịu và khó xử.

Không đưa ra những lời chỉ trích hoặc khiêu khích.

Bạn sẽ khơi gợi lại vết thương cũ nếu bản thân vẫn chưa vượt qua quá khứ hoàn toàn. Nếu không cẩn trọng bạn sẽ dễ dàng buông những lời trách móc, chỉ trích hoặc khiêu khích khiến cả 2 một lần nữa phải tổn thương.

Không thể hiện quá nhiều cảm xúc và những lời quá ngọt ngào.

Có thể bạn còn rất nhiều tình cảm với đối phương nhưng thực tế là hai bạn đã chấm dứt hoàn toàn mối quan hệ này. Đừng cố để níu kéo bằng cách gửi đi những tin nhắn dài chất chứa tình cảm bị đè nén bấy lâu của bạn. Thật đáng tiếc nhưng đối phương không có cùng cảm nhận với bạn đâu.

Trên đây là những gợi ý để bạn có thể gửi tin nhắn hỏi thăm người yêu cũ một cách văn minh lịch sự và được đối phương tôn trọng. Đừng quên đánh giá bài viết 5 sao nếu thấy hữu ích để ủng hộ NuChinh nhé.

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Millennials, those who were born between 1977 and 2000, have grown up in an age of technology, social media and accessibility. While these advancements have created great opportunity and connections, it has also left many millennials at a loss, often feeling disconnected, overwhelmed and inadequate.

The clinicians at Olive Branch understand that some of those in Generation Y have their own set of mental health issues and need to be understood with their lifestyle and experiences in mind. That’s why we offer therapy that is specifically tailored to those who have grown along such things as college debt, political and natural instability, and online bullying.

Common Concerns We See with Millennials

While we recognize that each person has their own set of issues, some of the most common concerns we see when counseling millennials include:

Anxiety

Depression

ADHD

Suicidal Ideation

Eating disorders

Substance Abuse

Social Isolation

According to the Psychological Bulletin, millennials are experiencing higher levels of anxiety and depression compared to previous generations. It’s our job as licensed counselors to help you, the millennial, navigate these issues and take charge of your mental health.

Our Approach to Millennial Therapy at Olive Branch Therapy Group

As an individual, your history, personality and concerns will be different from the next person. That’s why at Olive Branch, we work together to find a method of psychotherapy, counseling and coaching that best fits you. We use such modalities as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT,) and Positive Psychology, among others. We act as your sounding board — we’ll help you better understand what you are going through and what actions you can take to better understand yourself and find peace in your future.

Millennial Therapy: What to Expect

A typical therapy session for millenials involves:

Introductions between our therapist and you

A discussion on how we approach different issues, conditions or scenarios and our methods of therapy

A look at your family and medical history

Time for you to discuss what issues you are facing at school, at work, in your relationships, at home, etc. and/or what mental health

concerns you may have

Learning coping skills and relaxation techniques, discussing solutions to problems, and other management tools for mental health

As mentioned before, each individual is different, therefore each person’s therapy session may include different strategies, discussions or timelines.

How to Get Started with Millennial Therapy

You’ve taken the first step in taking better care of yourself. You recognize the importance of mental health and now you’re ready to reach out to someone. We couldn’t be happier to help! Please don’t hesitate to contact our team at Olive Branch Therapy Group to schedule an appointment or if you have any questions. We look forward to helping you find the peace you deserve.

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