#How to keep house while drowning

[tam--lin]

A compassionate, inclusive, short and sweet self-help book on how to care for yourself, your family, and your space when things are difficult. It’s optimized for neurodivergent readers but also includes content specific to parents, non-parents, people going through situational hard times like grieving periods, people with chronic illnesses, and people with trauma surrounding household tasks.

The hold lines at the library may be long right now, but if you can get your hands on this book, it’s so worth it.

[darkness-holds-eternal-light]

You guys and gals, I don't even completely remember how that found me today but I want to really share it:

This exists as a physical and digital book and as an audiobook, which I personally recommend. It's about 3 hours long, so manageable.

For everyone who struggles with simple tasks, even everyday household tasks and stuff, I think you might like this. It is written in such a way that it kindly and compassionately addresses trauma and mental health to help you find a kinder and more compassionate way to deal with this. I'm only listening through the first part of it at the moment and I'm so deeply grateful! 💖🙏🏼🍀 I hope this can help someone out there too!

[palabasa]

finally found an mp3 for one of the cleaning books i've been putting off, kc davis' how to keep house while drowning. three chapters in and it's already disparaging both konmari AND bullet journaling and the eye-rolling rage that induced in me woke me up from where i was nodding off while listening to davis

this is my like number 1 pet peeve, when cleaning/self-help/mental health or whatever books put down a different system to tout their own as better. it's the exact reason i've been putting off reading this book

it doubly pisses me off because davis not only boils konmari down to, "marie kondo says to tri-fold your underwear," as if the literal thesis of her method isn't already spelled out for you in her books' titles, but also adds bujo to the mix while tacking on shit about "self-help gurus undermining the physical, mental and economic privileges they hold" as if ryder carroll hasn't talked extensively about inventing thw bullet journal in order to manage his ADHD

like. hello??? what in the actual fuck are you talking about. can you maybe do a second of research instead of talking out of your ass

[the-final-sentence]

Care tasks exist for one reason only... to make your body and space functional enough for you to easily experience the joy this world has to offer.

K.C. Davis, from How to Keep House While Drowning

[dippyface]

- How to Keep House While Drowning, KC Davis

[norahsinfinitecommonplace]

You do not have to earn the right to rest, connect, or recreate. Unlearn the idea that care tasks must be totally complete before you can sit down. - How to Keep House While Drowning by K.C. Davis

[wreckitremy]

An Ode to Baskets

Big baskets, little baskets, clear baskets, wicker baskets, baskets

from the Dollar Tree, baskets that I got for free.

Baskets of shoes, baskets of books, baskets in all my crannies and

nooks.

And here’s the key, here’s the trick:

the baskets go where the stuff already went.

Laundry that ends up on the dining room floor,

put a basket there and there’s mess no more.

The stress of a cluttered counter easily ends

when you put it all in a box or a bin.

If you’re feeling fancy you could purchase a basket’s cousin

such as a tray or a lazy Susan.

My organizational system is, on its face,

just putting a basket in the right place

-KC Davis, How To Keep House While Drowning

[nataliewaitegf]

this book is like . actually compassionate about neurodivergent ppl who struggle with hygiene tasks like showering / hair care / brushing teeth etc & is giving ideas for how to make these things easier for yourself i want to cry this is so good what the fuck

[roguemonsterfucker]

I listened to an audiobook meant for ADHD people to help them figure out ways of managing household chores and self care and uh...

I’m already doing pretty much every single thing it suggested 😭

I guess there’s really no more room for improvement =/

[eleven-fiftynine]

Although men may struggle with completing care tasks, they are less likely to receive the message from society that they are not worthy of love or not valid as a human if they are not good at these tasks.

How to Keep House While Drowning by KC Davis

[bookwyrmshoard]

How to Keep House While Drowning, by KC Davis

KC Davis's approach to housekeeping is one of gentle, compassionate, nonjudgmental kindness and understanding — an attitude she both displays to her readers and recommends they take towards themselves. This is housekeeping as self-care, with a deep appreciation of the physical, mental, emotional, and circumstantial barriers that can stand in the way.* Rather than prescribe rigid routines or impose strict standards that many of us find it impossible to meet, Davis offers both encouragement and permission to design a home, organizational systems, and rhythms/routines that fit your needs and abilities.

I came away from the book with several insights into why I struggle with what some of what Davis calls "care tasks." I also identified several practical and attitudinal steps I can take to make things easier, and to be kinder to myself in the process (rather than shaming and berating myself for not being "perfect.")

*Disabilities, chronic illness, ADHD, depression, anxiety, trauma, grief, and challenging life circumstances are just a few examples of things that can make it difficult to maintain a functional home. Davis’s approach is very focused on making your home, and your housekeeping, function for you, where you are.

NOTE:  The author speaks from personal experience as well as her expertise as a therapist. She has ADHD and has suffered from severe postpartum depression. She is on TikTock (@domesticblisters) and Instagram and Facebook (@strugglecare), and started the Struggle Care podcast in 2022.

[cynosurus]

*singing while washing a few plates*

this is care work, I do this for future me, because I love myself as if I were my own son

[jadensdream]

“No one ever shamed themselves into better mental health.”

― K.C. Davis, How to Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing

5/5 ☀

[potterandpromises]

There’s something remarkably depressing about being 200th in line on the library hold list for a book called How to Keep House While Drowning.

[jerichopalms]

Thank you for your concern, but I'm not taking any feedback on this issue right now.

shutting down negative talk from How to Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing by KC Davis, LPC

[dippyface]

this shook me as someone chronically overwhelmed and convinced that I'm incapable of managing things