help ! the friends-to-lovers-to-divorced-to-enemies-to-secret-fifth-thing relationship between the she/he/they/the time travelling aliens has bewitched me body and soul !
I think it's only natural to feel anger when somebody isn't "taking your advice" or listening to you about their mental health or what will help them. People want to help people, and the anger comes when you are perceiving somebody as not being receptive but...
It can be a selfish impulse to say that your opinion about their illness is the only thing they need. It isn't about you, even though the advice you give is given by you.
Nobody deserves to suffer, this is true. But, also, nobody deserves to be forced to do things that either won't help or won't be genuine. If somebody isn't taking your advice, there's a reason for it (maybe it's not a good enough reason for you, but this isn't the point). It's okay to be disappointed or angry, but it's not going to help to lash out at them. That is only pouring water onto a grease fire.
listen, i absolutely get ramon not wanting to talk to sunny & feeling hurt/betrayed by her helping tubbo
like, i'd hazard he might even feel more betrayed by them than tubbo himself—bc sunny & ramon probably talked about what family meant to him (during their sleepovers or something) and ramon has no insight into why they'd do that whereas tubbo, for all his actions have hurt ramon, very clearly has the emotional capacity of a wet paper plate and issues running deeper than marianas trench
but that makes it all the more heart wrenching that he won't hear her out (and you can see in the backgrounds of vods her multiple attempts over several days to get his attention just to be rebuffed) bc i bet if she could explain herself even a little things could be so different
it reminds of the situation from the other week where sunny wasn't talking with em and tubbo tried to explain that, even if you're mad at them, suddenly stopping talking to someone you love could make them feel awful and worse than you intended
and that is what's happening to sunny. it's miserable to see bc she was already so isolated and ramon, as her big brother, is someone she put a lot of trust in to be there for her and listen to her and it must feel to her like that was an empty promise to have him not even hearing her out.
and it's particularly tragic bc sunny didn't even want to mess with fit and pac. yes, she was "tempted" to aid tubbo in his quest, but I really don't think it was bc she was actually worried about being left behind when she agreed. i think she could tell tubbo was scared and hurting and not ready to accept the change and didn't want him to be alone. she didn't really have another option and every adult can see that but ramon is young and blinded by his hurt
and now sunny is left feeling abandoned and forgotten and replaced and it's exactly what their pa said would happen; self fulfilling prophecy :(
kieran seems to unfortunately be joining my collection of faves that get treated real fuckin weird by parts of their fandoms for being ppl who exhibit their struggles with mental illness in less than appealing ways.
If anyone tells you that the soundtrack is just for 80s nostalgia, just show them the scene where Jason talks about his plans to hunt down Eddie for the first time. The song Psycho Killer plays and the lines
“ I can't seem to face up to the facts
I'm tense and nervous and I can't relax
I can't sleep 'cause my bed's on fire “
Over Lucas who is nervous over the events. then the lines:
“Don't touch me, I'm a real live wire
Psycho Killer”
This plays over Jason. This is all meant to show we shouldn’t trust Jason and Lucas already doesn’t trust him but has to be cautious because Jason could snap. If you look on it just on the surface, it could be what the group thinks of Eddie at that moment.
So, songs are more thought out then one might think
getting a lot of Autism Content on insta these days and its rlly starting to piss me off when low support needs autistics talk about how we dont need to stratify autism like im sry but u were diagnosed at 22 and had no one flag u for anything ur whole life can complete most if not all of your daily tasks independently and can do complex tasks like maintain a job or drive on top of it. im not even gna say we r not the same bc i dont have that high support needs and its hard to untangle where the support needs originate (autism v adhd v mental illness v chronic illness) but like most autistics dont work etc etc you are not the standard for autistic ppl stop acting like u r!!!!