#I think it's adhd anyway...

[one-country-of-gay-amphibians]

You know what LAWN FLAMINGO BRAIN ALLEGORY! LONG TEXT POST-

Imagine you're going to the store, (this is your attention span) and you have so much money (time). And you want food (this is your studying and work etc) you decide, hey wait this lawn flamingo (hobby / interest) is nice! I want it.

Then you get to checkout and suddenly everything in your cart is Lawn flamingos. You go on, one week without new food is fine, I mean you get free lunches at work, soon though... the food from work isn't enough, or you some how start bringing lawn flamingos to work / school.

You are now hungry (falling behind) and so now, you HAVE to buy food, but due to the amount of food you have to eat, it's cheap and kinda crappy, it gets you by though.

Now, when other people see your house, they see an empty fridge, and therefore someone who is lazy and not buying things but they don't see your lawn flamingos, the things your passionate about. And even if they do, they may call you weird for liking them

But when someone needs a tacky lawn decoration (your hyperfocus) they finally accept you for a moment, but the moment you can't give food, they go back to calling you lazy

Eventually you may say screw it. I'm putting these lawn flamingos in the garage (masking) and you know what it may work for a bit but every time you see your house or reflect on it... it doesn't spark joy, if you keep them in the garage for long enough, it may be difficult to get them out, it may feel weird or they could be dusty, or covered.

But when you find someone else with lawn flamingos they can be your best friend, because of the shared interest in lawn flamingos

[maxgicalgirl]

Being a “Fun Fact !” kind of autistic is all fun and games until you get halfway through sharing an interesting tidbit and realize that it probably wasn’t appropriate to share in polite company and now you have to deal with the consequences :(

[magentasnail]

spoon theory

[edorazzi]

Page 42 of my Miraculous Mentor AU comic A Matter of Trust! In which Felix might have lost his magic, but everything he learned from balancing Misfortune could just pay off... ☯️✨

Also, I'm aware there's a slight layering issue with the text in the first panel - unfortunately my tablet broke this week so short of delaying the page there's nothing I can do right now! I hope it's not too distracting and I'll replace the image when I have it sorted! 💕

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[matcha-goblin]

Neurodivergent people are never undiagnosed. We are misdiagnosed. Our symptoms don't go unnoticed, and people will always attribute them to some sort of cause. They'll just attribute them to personality and blame the individual for their symptoms.

For example. My autism is not undiagnosed, it's been misdiagnosed as "too sensitive," "awkward," "rude," "obsessive," and "too intense." My brother's adhd wasn't undiagnosed, it was misdiagnosed as "lazy," "impulsive," "annoying," and "can't seem to get any work done."

Growing up without a diagnosis is growing up believing that you are to blame for your differentness. Your symptoms are a personality flaw. You are diagnosed by everyone around you as "weird."

Edit: Some people have pointed out that I'm using the word misdiagnosis here rather loosely. I'm aware that it isn't quite correct definitionally, and I don't mean to say that medical misdiagnosis and the type of social misattribution I'm talking about are identical--just that they are related phenomena, and neurodivergent people are often victims of one or both. There isn't an exact term for what I'm talking about here, so I used the closest one I knew of. Terminology is important and some words need to be used with precision to retain their influence. At the same time, sometimes meanings change, and bending words to fit new circumstances is a natural way that language evolves. I'm not sure which situation this falls under, so while I don't want to change my post (not even sure what to change it to), I thought I'd edit and add clarification. Additional feedback on this is welcome.

[800db-cloud]

i’ve been wanting to do this since day one

[phoenixyfriend]

An exchange from the groupchat:

Me: Neurobland people do not understand how ambiguous their responses are to be and then they get annoyed when I ask for clarification

Me, two minutes later: TYPICAL

THE WORD IS NEUROTYPICAL

Friend 1: no neurobland is better

Me: I couldn't brain the right word so I just went "well some people say neurospicy so let's go off of that"

Friend 2: Losing it I thought you were just being derogatory. Friend 3: neuromild Friend 2 again: Neurobland for when you're insulting and neuromild to be neutral…

[bixels]

Taking the current topic as an excuse to ask you to tell me all the reasons you love Rarijack. Your art for the ship is so sweet and intimate I'd love to hear any in depth thoughts you have.

Breathes in.

I think what makes their dynamic really strong is that they have opposing personalities but aligned values. It's deeper than just "opposites attract." Rarity's fancy, prissy, and femme while Applejack's modest, rough, and "masculine." But both value hard work (to the point of being workaholics), their families (both have guardianship over their little sisters), running successful businesses, and eventually each other. Their relationship can be boiled down to, "Despite our differences/disagreements, I still like you because we value the same things."

We see their relationship develop so much. In the first season, they can't stop bickering about surface-level differences. By season four, they still bicker, but will mend their relationship because they can't help but do nice things for each other. In Trade Ya, they start off arguing over personality differences (Applejack likes old junk and Rarity likes useless crap). Then they pivot and start arguing that they value their relationship more than the other. In the end, they mend things by sacrificing their needs and buying each other a gift. Even if they don't understand it, they know it'd make the other happy. And that's all that really matters. It's a genuinely sweet moment that shows how arguing can be healthy and necessary for relationships to strengthen.

We even see them dropping their hang-ups about each others' personalities. In Made in Manehattan, when Rarity runs off in dramatics about someone's fashion, AJ doesn't roll her eyes or scoff, she smiles. Oftentimes, their conflicts are very common domestic conflicts romantic couples face. Applejack's Day Off is about a woman's inability to balance work and life and find time to properly spend with her partner, causing her partner to feel neglected.

By season seven, they're actively participating in each others' interests. Any problems or conflicts that arise are dealt with, and they come out the other end stronger and closer. In Honest Apple, AJ pretty much spells out why their relationship works so well: even though she doesn't understand fashion, she can recognize and appreciate how much work it takes and wants to respect that. When she realizes her mistake in the episode, AJ goes above and beyond to fix things and apologize to Rarity. They care about each other so much.

The two go out of their way, sacrificing their personal desires and beliefs and doing things they normally wouldn't, to make the other happy. That's just love.

There's Simple Ways, where AJ gets stuck in an unwanted love triangle between Rarity and her hipster crush. And her frustration and anger can be so easily interpreted as AJ finding herself in a terrible position; the girl she loves wants another man, and that man wants her.

I dunno. I've always had a preference for opposites attract ships, but Rarijack's stuck with me like a brain worm because they have the perfect chemistry. The way they show they care, or do things for each other, I've always read it as the truest representation of romance in the show.

[deoidesign]

Happy pride from Adam and Steve, my t4t gay vampire and werewolf!!!

They're from my webcomic. It's good. I'm not biased. It's funny and gentle and they time travel to a new location every full moon, where there's a new little mystery to solve!

[cozylittleartblog]

9th annual nick valentines day (ft. soup again) + doodle i made last year that i forgot about, from when bethesda gave us that free update

[artuurle]

ends of the earth

[shroomerr]

**minor spoilers for @mantequillamcwhoremick's fic, Chaos Plan, chapter 16!!

“And tell me if somehow Some of it remained How long would you wait for me?”

Wanted to draw my favorite scene from this fic <3333

[bonefall]

Forced to work, born to daydream about cats farming caddisflies.

[autisticaradiamegido]

day 91

im sooooo so late to the party but trust me i have been thinking about THEM!!!

if you haven't watched it yet because you are also late to the party dont worry i got u go forth

[chawliekin]

and if I said that dennis’ insistence on being the breadwinner/provider despite literally being a pampered princess who dgaf about traditional roles of masculinity in every other regard (aside from ego) is because his mom only stayed with/chose frank for his wealth and dennis is highly aware that he’s difficult to love and unable to show his emotions openly so he has to be contributing something to the relationship materially in order to feel like he’s worth staying for… and mac grew up with parents who were extremely ambivalent to him and eachother so he has to overcompensate by proving his worth at every given moment and seeking praise/validation from people (and religious icons) who will never demonstrate the same amount of dedication to him but he has no idea how else to desperately keep himself close to those he loves other than by eroding himself into something they’ll approve of… dear god they’re both exactly what the other needs — someone who can’t and won’t leave them even if they try — and they don’t even see it…

[tostmin]

starburst