#Idealized

[howifeltabouthim]

But romance novels have to end while everyone is happy enough with only the prospect of more happiness and only minor disappointments ahead. Poor Lavender Glass! Every time Maryanne Gorch sat down to write another chapter, another book, it meant more trouble for her heroine. More kidnappings, more misunderstandings, more sea voyages, more wickedness, bad luck, and suffering. Is a handsome man with an impressive dick and a good heart really worth all the attendant misery?

Kelly Link, from The Book of Love

[perrymaple]

Hitchhiker

[davidaugust]

Comparison is the thief of joy.

[ultrareality22]

And another couple of designs in a similar vein: - Influenced by the wonderfully romanticized imagery of Alphonse Mucha in a semi-Art Nouveau style:) Latest designs for T-Shirts, Apparel, Mugs, Pillows and other items can be found on my TeePublic Shop and soon to be on other Print on Demand Stores such as Tostadora and Spreadshirt.

[phantomdoofer]

Me? Kinda-sorta?

[blissybuu]

Idealized me

[kaizenin21stcentury]

"..... if we seem to be idealists and are overestimating or overrating man and looking at him that high here above, you know what happens, we promote him to what he really can be so we have to be idealists in a way because then we'll wind up as the true the real realist....... if we take man as he is, we make him worse but if we take man as he should be, we make him capable of becoming what he can be....."

https://youtu.be/loay2imHq5E?si=NIVedhXxFNB6Ofx3

[mysticphilosopherbasement]

*sends friend request*

Me: Remember me? Accepted.

Me: Do you care?

Them: I don't care.

Me: Thanks!

[howifeltabouthim]

I suppose, like anyone, I've never lost the hope for perfect love to come out of nowhere.

Lisa Taddeo, from Animal

[kristachu]

Men only see what they want to see. Some version of you that they created that couldn’t be further from the truth. Sometimes they idealize you, sometimes they devalue you and it always keeps them from actually getting to know you.

[zamorayadira]

Social Media's influence on my daily life

Social media does influence my daily life. It affects how I dress, the places I should visit, and my body image. While shopping for clothing, I will gravitate towards specific clothing that I typically wouldn't wear. My brain recalls seeing it on social media but does not have a direct pinpoint as to where. I often purchase this type of clothing only to wear it once for a photo and forget about it the next day. Body image has also been coming up lately. Social media negatively affects my body image. I am over-exposed to the "idealized" body types. To overcome this, I started to unfollow negative accounts that revolve around saying that women’s (or men’s) bodies should have set standards.  

Though there are negatives to social media, there are also benefits. Social media is a great way to start interacting with new people. If we can find something trending online that both parties are aware of, it could be the start of a great network. Social media also influences the way I communicate with others. It lowers the chances that I would have to meet with someone, because why would I do that when I can easily facetime or text them? Having the internet constantly affects my life because there aren't any limits on when I can go online. The cause of some of my insomnia issues correlates with this factor. It could be 2:00 am and I am on my phone texting a friend while watching a movie because I can’t fall asleep. This will cause me to stay up longer because the friend I am texting is still up.

 Another issue is that I bring my job home with me, which creates a barrier between spending time with my family and working on a project on my computer. The internet affects my life because it allows me to keep in touch with my family. It could be if I have family in another state or when there is an emergency and I cannot be there, but I want to be updated. Before the internet, we had to make calls and others wouldn’t answer the phone due to being low on minutes or not being in the proper environment to accept the call. This would leave individuals stressed and anxious about what was going on. There have been times when I haven’t had access to the internet for an extended period. During the first few hours, I kept starting to do tasks that I kept putting off. I began cleaning out my closet and decluttering. After the first few hours, I became extremely bored and started annoying whoever I could that was home. Then, I did some outdoor reading and some lawn work. I could live without the internet for a while, but for a greatly extended time, I wouldn't be able to survive. I say this because, since I'm getting older, I've started to realize that people have their own lives to live. My friend's and family's schedule restricts us from being able to do activities together, so I need to be connected with them online. One way I would like to be more intentional about my use of technology is to ensure that I am checking my screen time. By doing so, I can see where I am spending most of my time. With this in mind, I want to reduce my time spent on categories. According to my screen time, my most used categories are information and reading. I rely on my phone to read books from my kindle app. By doing so, I save money compared to going into a bookstore and purchasing a physical copy. Overall, my main goal is to set a screen time limit on categories and be off my phone after a certain time at night so I can reduce my insomnia issues. 

[hualianisms]

verified ways to donate to gaza directly

Help a Palestinian family directly:

gazafunds.com - Donate directly to a Palestinian family in urgent need of evacuation, medical attention, rebuilding homes/businesses or more. Site run by Palestinians, all GFMs verified (full list here). Spotlights 1 stagnant GFM at a time. (*If you can't decide who/where to donate, just go to gazafunds.com & donate to the 1 GFM they show you!)

masterlist of 200+ verified Palestinian families' GFMs: Operation Olive Branch

Help provide tents: (*emergency as Rafah is being bombarded as we speak)

The Sameer Project: Currently providing tents & transport for families in Rafah who urgently need to evacuate to Deir Al Balah. Has a team on the ground in Gaza who have supplied tents to 1% of the displaced population in Rafah. Run by Palestinians. (paypal) (gfm)

@helpgazachildren: Currently helping Palestinians in a refugee camp in Rafah flee the Rafah invasion to Khan Younis. Funds go directly to Hussam, a Palestinian in Rafah who hosts a refugee camp. Funds will cover the cost of tents & transport fuel. Managed by a Palestinian @.fairuzfan. (gfm)

Food, cash & essentials:

Care for Gaza: Palestinian charity on the ground in Gaza distributing food, cash, medicine & other essentials to displaced families. Proof of their work found on their Twitter. (paypal) (gfm)

We Feed Gaza: Team of Palestinian volunteers in the heart of Gaza distributing food & water to 344+ families. More details & proof in their gfm. Vetted & promoted by LetsTalkPalestine. (gfm)

Direct Aid for Gaza: A Palestinian activist on the ground in Gaza distributing food, cash & other essential supplies to displaced families. Proof of their work found on their twitter. (paypal) (gfm)

Water (*only 2 weeks left to donate!):

Gaza Municipality's water campaign: The official Municipality of Gaza needs help rebuilding the water infrastructure in Gaza City to restore access to clean water & waste management services for the people of Gaza.

eSIMs:

guide to buy & send esims to gaza (highly needed, esim supply very low)

Crips for eSims for Gaza: If you don't know how to buy esims, don't have enough $ for an esim plan, or don't have the capacity to manage them (e.g. topping up regularly), you can donate any amt to this team of volunteers who pool funds to buy & maintain gaza esims regularly (see their financial accountability document).

Medical Aid:

Gaza Wound Care (urgent): Palestinian doctors in central Gaza treating injured/sick children & mothers in neglected displacement camps far from hospitals. Facing a severe shortage of medicines, medical equipment, and supplies. They need funds for their current campaign to battle infectious diseases in refugee camps. (paypal) (gogetfunding) (gfm)

international charities: Palestine Red Crescent Society, Palestine Children's Relief Fund, Medical Aid for Palestinians

[jakeperalta]

I'm curious. what job would you do if money was no object (you just automatically had an income you could live comfortably on)? including work like volunteering, studying etc. please share in the tags :)

[midnightmaelstrom]

I asked my girlfriend what she considers a Round pokemon to be and she sent me this.

[a-smart-ape]

Oh yeah well i already have a romanticized version of you in my head so how about that

[mangedog]

tumblr blackout proposal

tumblr mobile has steadily become near unusable these past few updates. not just from a user experience perspective (which is important enough in itself) but also from an accessibility perspective.

examples include the new way the image viewer works (if you can call it "working"), the tumblr live button replacing the profile button, and that newly created blogs will be forced to have their main dashboard tab be the 'for you' page.

the demands of the protest would be along the lines of:

reverse the recent image viewer update

scrap the new users 'for you' page default setting

let us turn off tumblr live indefinitely

increase efforts against spam / porn bots

make reporting abuse and hate speech as easy as reporting as reporting spam

let us go nuts show nuts again... for real this time

remove flashing ads, including not accepting blaze campaigns for posts with flashing in them

commit to improving usability and accessibility, and listening to users!

(suggestions welcome!)

to protest against these usability issues, and inspired by the recent reddit blackout, i propose a 48 hour blackout (where you don't use tumblr at all). preferably of both mobile and web (since web has problems too) but mobile is the focus here.

[edit: a 'blackout' is when you don't log in, or interact with the site at all, for [x] amount of time.]

I suggest from the 30th of June.

this marks the end of pride month (for the "queerest place on the internet") and the start of disability month (since accessibility is a massive issue here).

tumblr office is in San Francisco, USA, so the times and dates will be calculated using their time zone (PDT).

you can find out the times and dates for your timezone here.

i can't afford to blaze this post so please spread it around as much as possible! protests only work if significant numbers show up!

edit: tumblr rejected the blaze campaigns for this post because they know it would hurt them. let's make this an indefinite blackout - it's the best way to get results.

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