#LABELED WEEDS

[contac]

[weedstop]

pix of smexy scene gurl? <3 xD u can haz

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[z00r0p4]

As of late the term pick-me girl has been over-applied to the extent that it inhibits any and all critique or analysis of hegemonic femininity. And I think that is generally not good or helpful.

A girl isn't automatically a pick-me for recognizing that her experience with music does not reflect those of her peers.

An autistic girl isn't automatically a pick-me for having the lived experience of finding it easier to socialize with boys than girls.

If your use of the term (and I'd argue that it's often used primarily as a thought-terminating cliche) pick-me transcends the bounds of a girl fabricating traits and throwing other girls under the bus for the sake of male attention, you are using it wrong and may in fact be doing more harm than good to girls' self-perceptions.

You're potentially creating a new double standard for women in the process, too, because it's a not-so-indirect contradiction to our beliefs about authenticity and what it means to be different. It just becomes another invisible social barrier for women.

[craycraybluejay]

ik people like to act like sex and imbalanced sexual dynamics are uniquely traumatizing (moreso than any other kind of power imbalance, abuse of power, or just flat out abuse period) but from personal experience not really. there's nothing inherent to sex and sexuality that makes it traumatizing. there's nothing inherent to sexual trauma that makes it more traumatic than any other trauma.

and chiefly trauma is never really about the intentions of any party who made or let it happen. someone who wants, intends, and tries to hurt you might bounce off you just like that; because they simply failed to psychologically damage you, because what they did didn't bother you a lot whether it be mental physical or sexual. conversely someone who does not want, intend, or try to hurt you may scar you for life with something either they don't understand is harmful or isn't even inherently harmful and is uniquely that way to you.

i just. i'm annoyed at the narrative of trauma being taken away from the survivor themself. if i say this was traumatizing and you think it's not a big deal, too fucking bad, listen to me. if i say that wasn't traumatizing at all and you think it's the worst thing in the world upon hearing what it is, too fucking bad, you don't get to tell me what my trauma is. i'm sick of seeing people put words in each others mouths and tell someone's story for them without that person's consent. idk like? it makes me so angry that whenever i used to talk about things people would blatantly disregard the most horrific times of my life and instead focus on stuff i was neutral or even positive toward as a big terrible thing that ruined me.

nowadays i'm very grateful to have people who are chill and don't jump to conclusions no one asked them to. people who listen when i tell them "i know this sounds bad but it wasn't actually" or "i know this sounds stupid but this was world shattering." people who i get to laugh with. the RIGHT people who extend me the same kindness of knowing their strange "good bad things" and "bad fine things."

life just isn't as simple as "this is always terrible for people" and "this is always fine for people." PEOPLE aren't a monolith. yes, even that thing that you think must be the worst thing possible. yes, even that thing that you think no one could possibly be hurt by. it's hard to involve myself in serious discussions about abuse because there is a very clear Narrative people want to follow and if you as a "victim" don't follow it then either it didn't happen or you're wrong about your own experience.

hopefully I can consult my therapist about this phenomenon in discussions of abuse and trauma. and also about the specific thing that made me think of this. it irritates me quite a lot when others pity me for something that i knowingly chose-- and in retrospect never hurt me either. like what are you fishing for. why are you looking at me like that. i'm fine, maybe you're the one that needs counseling if my talking about this creates such a visceral reaction in you.

[hellenhighwater]

I saw you mentioned cricut machines in your last post. I've been considering getting one, but there seem to be a whole lot of models and I don’t know anything about them — do you have any tips?

I have the Explore Air 2, and it's just fine.

I did what I usually do when it comes to buying nonessential tech--figure out what I need it to do (in this case, cut vinyl and paper in formats up to 12 in wide) and then read a few articles about the best [whatever tech item] of the year is for several years running, avoiding sponsored articles. If I'm looking at a specific brand, like Cricut, I look up "versus" style articles, which compare the pros and cons of different models by that brand. For Cricut, the "Maker" line is their highest-end machine, intended for people who do serious production. If you're not doing a small business level of cricut work, it's probably overkill. The "Explore" is the midrange machine, for casual crafters.

I look for anything along the lines of "The new model fixes a major problem that the previous model had, which was..." If the current model is just a faster, shinier version of the old one, I'm getting the prior model--it'll be less expensive and for a tool I'm only using intermittently, speed isn't a high priority. The current Explore 3 model is running $300-$400; the Explore 2 can be found for about $200.

I think it does the job well. I actually already have a larger-format vinyl cutter--my brother and I went halfsies on a commercial scale machine we've affectionately named Arty Boi--but the cricut is faster to set up, more portable, and I like the grippy-mat material system. It does a good job for my needs, which are really pretty simple.

[thekushcoast]

www.kushcoast.com

[mephoj]

anyone know any cool inclusive object show servers ? i need some more to join lol

[soymikki]

Oh god I fucked up with how much of the edible I ate last night and now I'm still residual high at fucking work

[transexualbutchfagdyke]

transformation art is so interesting to me to look at but I genuinely cannot understand how it's erotic to some. usually even if im not into a kink, I can see how it's attractive. but I Not understand the sexual appeal of transforming into a plushie or wtvr. the art is usually awesome I just don't understand the kink yknow

[yung-white-boy]

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[secondlifep]

Fuck Labels aka these are not "weeds"

[stonerzelda]

God damn it i slept in until just now WHY!!! But i did have a kiefer centric dream even if it was incredibly stressful. Fine

[sofarsogoodsowhat]

crying and screaming and shitting etc

[saintkountry]

@saintkountry on IG

[fefairys]

cats can have little a weed. as a treat. (he/him)

[hawkelf]

also next time I work on this I'm going to have to start doing more active reading and sorting so uh thoughts and prayers and well wishes for my mental health on that one I guess yikes