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nando161mando · 4 months

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This is why you owe them nothing, they would not do it for you.

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yurigirldick · 10 days

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A concerning amount of people on this site think trans people owe you disclosure about their genitalia before you date them. IDC if you have a preference you will never know what's in somebody's pants and if that's going to be your deciding factor before you date somebody that's called transphobia

#i used to be worried about dating an amab person I'll be so serious. i get the concern I've had it #but i was also 14 . and i finally dated an amab person and went wait why did i give a fuck #literally it means nothing if you like the person #ive never dated somebody and been disappointed in what's in their pants because ? i like the person?#doesn't matter if you're lesbian trans women who dont want bottom surgery + trans men who do both fall under the lesbian category sometimes #and you're going to have to deal with the fact that they exist and don't owe everybody who likes them a detailed desc of their transition #is that not crazy to think? that's fucking insane to think #purr purr purr #trans #lgbtq #lgbt

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mountainashes · 8 months

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I love Until Dawn (evidently) but omg everytime I play the game or think abt the game I end up feeling so gd sad. Like damn its bleak. Josh Washington genuinely has made me cry more times than I can count.

#until dawn #josh washington #joshua washington #its just the saddest thing ever #Id have it no other way of course #but like ow #its just tragedy after tragedy #theres no real comfort in any of the endings #josh always dies or becomes a monster #and he was doomed to that fate the second they made the choice to play that prank on hannah #theres literally nothing that could be done and it makes you feel so helpless #even in the best case scenario where the other 7 live they have to live with all that trauma and knowledge they cant share with anyone ever #their friends are dead. The Washington kids are dead and its all because of a stupid prank most of them played.#and with Sam she literally loses all her actual close friends #all of them just have to live with the guilt #UD has no happy ending for anyone and its so painfully depressing and thats why the story is good. It makes an impact.#god I love this stupid game sm

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wormchaser · 5 days

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you are complaining about complaining too much while complaining about the fact that maybe people dont like you because you complain too much while complaining about being alone. just stop complaining and do something about it. talk to people. reach out. dont just wait for someone to come to you first.

i have tried reaching out to different people in the past year or so but it never works. i understand its my own fault for letting relationships decay because of my own insecurities and issues but that doesn't mean i can just will myself to think or believe different things about myself. it's a self fulfilling prophecy ; i think people don't like me so i don't reach out so people don't like me etc . i am sure you do not want to hear me list all the things i want to say in response so i will put them in the tags.

#every time i try to reach out or talk to someone it goes nowhere. i dont have any social skills anymore and have no clue how to keep a #conversation going. half the time even when i do people stop replying to me. which is fine theydont owe me a reply but still feels likeshit #when i tried to make one new irl friend it just didn't work because they have better options for friends. we spoke occasionally but never #messaged online like ever and would only talk when we happened to be in the same place. i tried multiple times to organize a time to hangou #none of which came to pass. i dont understand why this one didn't work because i thought this person was interested in being my friend but #i guess i was wrong or thought they were more interested than they really were.#i have a problem with reaching out anyway which has been a problem i have had since i was like 11. reaching out to people first doesnt come #easily to me - in the beginning when i was a lot younger i didn't want to bother people with my presence & thought if i were to come to #someone first they would feel pressured into talking to me when they didn't want to. this is stupid of course. but has still not left me as #something i feel is very core to the way i act today. waiting for someone to come to me first feels like my only option because i do not #know how to reach out effectively (my evidence being i have failed every time i have tried) & i am convinced people dont like me in the #first place and do not want me to approach them.#i dont really even know who to reach out to in the first place. my world is extremely narrow. the number of people i know has shrunk #significantly and my standing in their eyes collectively has also shrunk significantly in the past few years. i feel like every person i #was once friends with wants nothing to do with me. i feel as if i have burned every bridge possible.#when it comes to the fact i complain all the time . which i know of course is annoying. its because i cant find any kind of joy in anything #i do or see or whatever. nothing makes me happy - i only see things to complain about. all stimulus seems grating and the world seems #specifically catered to make me miserable. all i can really do is complain. i treat this blog like a stream of consciousness and when most #of that consciousness is occupied with how much i hate being alive the blog will mostly be complaining. its a vicious cycle lol .#anyway . i guess the key theme is low self esteem begets low self esteem in many ways. mental illness begets mental illness.#i am not really saying this to anyone least of all to you anon. i just felt compelled to recount i guess for myself the reasons that came #to mind for why i am like this. i am talking to myself here

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trentcrimminallybeautiful · 5 months

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you know if we do accept the last epilogue-esque sequence as a sort of dream/wish of ted's and therefore not necessarily canon, very funny if we then simply go "yeah, trent's book is called 'the lasso way' actually. he didn't change that. nope."

#listen on one hand #i think that like #i don't think ted actually changed trent's mind about the title #i think trent changed it because ted asked him to #and like that's especially interesting bc he even made a point of being like #'tell me if you disagree with anything and i'll tell you why you're wrong'#but he respects ted; more than that he likes him and he wants him to like the book--like him #anyone else and trent would have told them to fuck off but ted? ted asking him to change the title? yeah #i think he didn't agree with 'it not being about him'--and not bc of any feelings he may have for ted--but if we accept that him changing #the title is canon then like. he did it because ted asked. nothing more nothing less #maybe he felt he owed it to ted as the subject of the book; maybe he just respected him too much not to #maybe it's partially bc of his feelings; maybe it's because he just couldn't say no to ted #but it's ultimately just. because ted asked him.#and trent respects him; trusts him; cares about him #and that's pretty heartwrenching #but like on the other hand if we say 'no that was ted's wishufl thinking trent definitely went 'sorry ted it's called the lasso way''#also like.... him being like. like quietly not changing it and if ted said something him just. being like #ted. i respect you. i care about you. i trust you. but with all due respect absolutely not #yes it isn't ONLY about you but YOU made this happen. YOU are special and YOU have a place here whether you can stay forever or not #yes it's about the team and the coaches yes you aren't a one man band but ted. TED. you touched lives. you changed lives. and that was YOU.#that was you and your philosophy and your attitude.#you made richmond what it is today. yes the team deserve credit too for the kind of bond they have now but YOU facilitated that #none of the coaches currently here woudl be coaches if not for you. the diamond dogs wouldn't exist. literally every single one #of our friends--OUR friends--wouldn't be where they are and probably wouldn't be as happy #you got through to people over and over again who were hurting and lashing out. to rebecca. to roy. to jamie. to nate. to me.#and you can be humble but there's being humble and there's acting like you don't matter to any of us like you didn't have an impact #like you can just leave without a trace. we don't blame you for leaving--i especially don't--but acting like we won't miss you and like #your time with all of us--our time--meant nothing is more insulting than it is humble because we /love you/#and yes. it was the goddamn lasso way that built this place #this community.

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mila-carat · 3 months

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I was watching this Chinese variety show just to see Ricky and Zhang Hao but then I saw one of the hosts was Zhang Zhenyuan and now I want to cry… 😭💔

#He... Teens In Times deserve better you know?#I keep trying to accept that this is how China is and C-Pop doesn't need to do anything that K-Pop and J-Pop do but #The more I think about it the more unfair it seems... 😢#These Chinese idols train so much and when they debut they just don't get promoted #They don't releaze anything on YT and they just go to variety shows alone and this is it?#That's unfair! This is not why they trained for!#No wonder there are so many Chinese idols in K-Pop it's like “if you want to debut you have to learn Korean and live in SK”#Which is fine if they like SK but what if they don't want to leave China/Taiwan/Hong Kong?? 😭#Guys there's Chinese idols even in J-Pop nowadays!! They really said “I'd rather debut anywhere but China”!!#Again... not saying these idols don't like Japan. Just that they CAN'T CHOOSE whether they want to debut abroad or in their own country!#Even if C-Pop tries to do a little bit like K or J-Pop (ex.: BOY STORY BOYHOOD WayV and the now dead EXO-M)#Their companies DON'T PROMOTE THEM!!! They literally don't invest any money to promote their groups!!!#I'm still not over Asia Super Young and Loong9 in case you didn't notice... 🥺#But... Yeah... I just wish Teens In Times got more rep and that I could just turn my TV on and watch them TOGETHER #And that they had MVs and on YT and etc. (Basically everything I've seen J/K-Pop idols do)#But maybe that's just the K/J-Popper in me and I have to accept that China is China and they owe us nothing #Just because we're interested in East Asian culture doesn't mean they have to all do one thing like the others just to please us!#I will still (try to) stan TNT as much as I can (and as much as they allow me since I speak no Chinese)#Specially ChengXin 🥺 my darling #not kpop or jpop

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seithr · 6 months

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having a horrid nightmare that fits all my current stressors/ongoing negative events in it along with my singular greatest fear in the world... waking up emotional and with no one in my family home/in that dream to talk to for confort

i open my phone's notes app because the imagery was really good though

#sitting here still wiping my eyes and thinking yeah a figure crying with (their first drawing's) crayon scribbles for a head #asking for their family to look at them because if not then this terrible image of them (where you try not to remember their face)#(where its just charred smoke and illegible)#is all they can be and they want their family too and you can hear them crying in their kid self's voice and adult body #shit brain yr right that imagery for someone struggling to move past loss of family/stuck in the past/scared of the remains being only imag #DOES hurt really bad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lemme take notes when im done wiping my eyes here and im tryin not to call my brother #armour clanking #my eyes hurt man. this is why i dont sleep as long as normal sleep is supposed to be i get punished with long stress dreams.#if nothing else i'm getting the fucking art and ideas out of it I'm owed THAT if i had to see all that . christ. its only monday

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arcadequeerz · 1 year

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I just do not give a single shit about lg-bt-q disc-ourse anymore.

#Cade.Txts #sorry i jsut do not care.#i dont give a fuck about what flag someone does or doesn't use #i dont care about what people call themselves. stop trying to decide shit for othrr people #shut up and fuck off n leave people alone. u dont havr to 'understand' to be respectful #Idc if people use the blue 'gay' flag who cares. use whatever flag u want.#shut the fuck up about mspec gay people we're doing nothing wrong n if i have someone try n start #some shit w me about how i personally identify i will maul them through the god damn internet. shut up.#eat shit. i dont owe a explanation to u about why i'm abro ply gay n if u demand me to explain #im going to tell you to fuck off.#who the fuck cares what people call themselves. u might not like being called queer or whatever n thats cool #but some people do and thats nit a fucking slight aganst u.#and i say 'you' as just in general i guess. this isn't pointed at a specific person.#i dread pride month every year because people r going to throw some shitfit about something snd i jsut #i dont care. can we care about shit that fucking matters instead.#if u legimately call urself a exclusionist in 2023 your a shitstain and do nothing for the community.#grow the fuck up or get the fuck off the internet.#sorry i saw shit n i got mad lol. i'm so tired of peoples bullshit. worry about shit tht matters n not #how someone else identifies or what someone calls themselves- or what flag someone uses.#i'm just going to be unabashedly full of rage now.#i'm queer n trans n im pissed the end.

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pageofheartdj · 1 year

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I wish people would not hold so rigidly for terms ofin a community that still explores itself.

#i thought you wanted to break binarity and gender stereotypes #why did you circle back into binarity and gender stereotyping #no it being 'progressive' doesn't change anything #pronouns is its own separate thing #like a name #gender is its own separate thing #gender presentation is its own separate thing #different attractions are their own separate things #your body is your own separate thing #you fiction taste is its own separate thing #NONE of it has to be connected #person's identity can be SUCH a complex mess #and its THEIR right to feel how they want without anyone saying what they are feeling is fake #this has nothing to do with them at all #kill the cop in your head #and stop policing what people think and feel #they dont owe you anything

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femmeroi · 11 months

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kill yourself faggot

Our relationship is rough right now, but in a few episodes we will be married.

#Pretty sure I know who sent this considering... everything #If you manage to see this even after I blocked you heres a list of reasons why I blocked you- since you want to know so bad #1.) Your views on sex work are regressive- I don't like how you demeaned that line of work simply because a of model was mean to you #2.) I am not comfortable with the way you talk about trans people- you are casually mysgonistic and transphobic when talking about them #You being trans does not give you a pass for this imho #3.) For all the posturing you do about the ZeXal skirts you and your friends are weird about under age characters + the post about #Edo being “apparently legal” was just gross to me. Your friend being weird about Yuri is how I originally found and blocked you.#4.) I don't like how you called someone a bitch just because they blocked you- you said you gave their art “nothing but support”#Before they blocked you. People do not owe you kindness or time or patience just because you liked their art.#You are not entitled to friendship or courtesy or anything at all just because you rebloged someones art.#5.) You hate Yu/ bel so much you call them a “child predator” I REALLY don't think you'd like following me considering they're my angel #When I have time again I want to dedicate more of my posts to Judai/Yu/ bel/Jun content and you'd fucking hate your life seeing that #So I blocked you before that became an issue.#I had you blocked for a while but when the VRAINS discourse happened I unblocked you so I could easily see what was up #Unfortunately I forgot to reblock you and I only remembered about your whole existence after you interacted with me #Usually I say shit like “Not everyone is going to like you and you just have to accept that as okay”#But in your case- there's a reason so many people have you blocked.#It's not because you have a “problematic fave” like you claim- it's because you have rancid fucking vibes #I'd rather people not interact with or acknowledge this post btw- I'm going to ignore anything further because idgaf about it all #I just wanted to annoy mr deranged by yu/beling all over their ask lol

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angeltism · 1 year

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rot.ary di.al the aqua bpder song ever

#➳ the fool speaks #like me listening 2 that on repeat years ago while splitting on my fp back then .#putting aside all the story and stuff . those lyrics are basically just what it feels like splitting on someone . to me .#as well as some of my less normal/healthy ways of showing my devotion to those i care about #''call me call me baby - check me on the cheek and all night i'll wait for your reply''#and then ofc the ''i can't wait for you to die'' for the splitting obv .#''all the ones that i love have hung up the telephone time after time after time after time after-'' abandonment issues ++ bpd tend to go #hand in hand #''time and time again again i'll only speak to uu'' prioritizing uur fp above all others because they're OBVIOUSLY the most important perso #in uur life (and if uu don't talk to them right this instant they'll leave uu forever and hate uu and uu can't have that now can uu)#''and maybe uu should give me back the love i gave to uu'' feeling unloved and as though uur fp doesn't care about uu the way uu care abt #them (and if they don't have bpd or uu just . aren't their fp too . then yeah they most likely don't . ahahahah . ow .)#''i've given up on any kind of hope that's left for me'' the self awareness uu get at some point abt the fact uu are . well . Like This tm #and then the ''time is just a-ticking away now hey now for uu for uu'' more ''i hope uu fucking die'' splitting type stuff #''and after i've called uu for the 43rd time'' flashbacks to me desperately trying to talk to my fps over the years to no success .#and then more ''call me call me baby'' w affectionate words and the want/need for attention #''where are uu going my darling?'' fear of abandonment #''why do uu never talk to me'' as mentioned above being more prone to feeling neglected by uur fp if they aren't around as much as uu'd lik #''nevermore forevermore - love is nothing but a waste'' feeling like trying to connect w and maintain a relationship is . well .#a waste because of whatever reasons uu find applicable since there's like 100 uu could think of . purrobably .#and then the rest of the song is kinda just repeats of all these lyrics #ok nawt all of them but uu get the idea #like #damn #idk maybe it's just me but bpd song of all time . sort of . idk .#hap.py days too but that one iirc was Actually Written as a bpd song . this one is kinda just fitting even if on accident ??

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knife-at-a-knife-fight · 1 year

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you owe it to the people you love to take care of them, even if you aren't at your best

#mine #like i am not a capitalist and that's fundamental to understanding most any of my mentalities #so personally my thought tends to be 'what if we actually owe everyone everything we can provide all the time?'#but i get that that isn't attainable to most people #but what is more attainable is that we owe it to the people we love to help them #you can't watch someone suffer with the ability to alleviate that and do nothing yet still claim you love them #you cannot actively hurt someone #- through action or inaction -#with zero justification other than that the alternative isn't perfectly comfortable for you #and claim that you love them #if your solution to others suffering is to look away to make yourself feel more comfortable #to avoid considering if or confronting how you're complicit #then you don't love them #and you certainly don't care for them #think of all the people that have been there for you #whether you asked them to be or not #especially if you did not #why wouldn't you want to be that for someone else?#and if you haven't really had people there for you when you deathly needed them #whether you asked or not #especially if you did #why would you ever want to create a world where more of that exists?#and you'll never do it all perfeclty #you'll always find something more or else you could have done #but taking care of the people you love doesn't mean doing it perfectly #it means trying #it means showing up #it means being there and listening #and that's not something you can prolong #do it now

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malewifehenrycooldown · 2 years

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it would be nice if actually NMH4 was smart and pulled a whole 'actually the real villain was inter-generational trauma all along!' and that it re-contextualised the overarching narrative of NMH to be about the about the Touchdown Family's struggle to end the toxic cycle of violence that their family has been stuck in.

#I DOUBT NMH4 will be that smart. (assuming it will ever happen) but it would be neat if they did lean into that #the reason why the ending of the cycle is so important is that it kinda adds a nice book end / call back to alice twilight #the whole ‘free us from the red crimson sea of madness!’ as a cry for help by assassins asking Travis to help them leave the life #of being an assassin still kinda gets to me #I mean the whole reason why NMH2 happens is that many of the characters are there BECAUSE of Travis. many envy him because he was the one #that became number one. AND WALKED AWAY.#plus in NMH2 travis says ‘we may be fucked up but assassins are human too’ and GAH HES SO RIGHT ABOUT THAT #like really one thing that does bother me about flesh and blood episode is that Travis is VERY NONCHALANT about killing henry. like hey.#that’s your brother who literally just told you not long ago that he saved you and (their) sister jeane from their father!!!#like?? wouldn’t you have a mental breakdown about that revelation?! like I get human emotions are complex #but like at least SOME FORM OF REMORSE WOULDVE MADE THE SCENE BETTER. even him perhaps scolding Sylvia for being nonchalant about the death #of Henry would have made the situation go from ‘oh god the horror’ to ‘don’t you dare say that about my brother #’he did everything to keep me and my sister safe and you have the audacity to think I was okay with killing him?!’#like seriously where did that small bit of familial bonding/friendship development with Henry and Travis go after NMH2?????#like Henry didn’t just save Travis in the Nick of time with the jasper batt jr fight for NOTHING.#Travis failed to save jeane! so make him at least try to help Henry!! he’s his only real blood relative and knowing the person who’s done #their best to keep you out of very specific life threatening danger - I think you owe your sibling to try and save them from whatever #is happening to them that’s making them take irrational decisions of world domination #SUDA HIRE ME TO BE YOUR WRITER TRUST ME I CAN FIX YOUR SILLY LITTLE UNIVERSE I SWEAR #nomoreposting #suda51posting #nmh3 spoilers #shallow rambles #sorry I’m have deep thoughts about this series and it’s implications sorry #yeah I’m kinda in denial of the whole Henry’s domination of the world thing (not that I hate it!! good for him!!)#but also I wish there was much more build up and development before hand you know? the last time we got development was in NMH2 #<- NMH2 was released… 13 years ago and even then henry still doesn’t have that much screentime either so is that even character development #if you’re reading tags. dear goodness thank you for putting up with my ramblings. /GEN

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imeminemp3 · 2 years

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realising how much more self aware i became about not stanning celebrities too hard + not feeling personally wounded by them after j** said that bullshit earlier this year

#i used to cry cry cry about day6 breaking up and i was in saur much emotional turmoil over j** but.#well after that i fully realised that #this makes me sound sooooo immature but anyway the point is that was my turning point #now i stan mike nesmith but i also hate him. those 2 can coexist. celebrities are not your friends and owe you nothing #you can choose to drive yourself crazy over their actions. or you can just call them a flop and move on #realising that that's why i kind of found mike's book refreshing..... like it's way more fun to understand that someone's a piece of shit #and still enjoy them and their work #but to not get too overly invested #im seriously so crazy over the monkees rat nao but im not acting like they're perfect humans who will never dissapoint #i think the other thing is obv the over produced kpop idol image #when you've been into kpop since you were 16 it does feel kind of hard to break free from viewing it all thru this manufactured lens #which makes this whole monkees thing even more interesting. they're manufactured but as much as im crazy abt them im still 10x more #normal abt them than i ever was any kpop idol #i think getting into kpop set me back so much tbh like. just the overproduced manufactured side. you have to realise they're all pretending #this is all fake #it's just less noticeable than say the monkees #anyway. that is all. goodnight.#diary

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nikialexx · 2 years

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the 'i dont owe anyone anything' mentality is going to be the reason a lot of people die alone and unloved

#yes you do owe people basic respect and kindness and patience and empathy #especially when they've done nothing to deserve otherwise #you do owe people an explanation as to why you cancelled plans you made with them like 3 weeks ago #you do owe people gratitude and love and care. these are basic human qualities.#being so Independent and Cool™️ that it deprives you of any humanity isn't actually a good thing #it just makes you an asshole #and this applies to strangers as well as friends/families #just. be kind. it doesn't take much

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voluptuarian · 3 months

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my "for you" page via explore:

there is no escape from ep*c the m*sical 😰🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮

my "for you" page via dashboard:

care for another texas chainsaw massacre gifset in this trying time?

#I knew it was only a matter of time before the tiktok theater kids poisoning leaked into the tags too badly to avoid #but 🤢🤢#why can't they at least make an original musical once in awhile and stop doing them about shit I actually care about #Six already made anything related to the Tudors a pain in the ass to look thru and now This #despite that this is better than last week when dash 'for you' was literally Nothing but gay ship art for the goofy movie #whichever of you is responsible for That owes me compensation

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