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shadowo-soot · 1 year

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This might be a very strange post since I neither post often and I've only been on booklr once,

Does anyone have any non romance fantasy book?

I've seen a lot of romance fantasy books and personally I'm aroace so romance isn't exactly my type of thing. However I still want to see badass people fighting a dragon while in cool ass clothes.

As a payment have a book series I adore that while does have romance, it's not the main focus until the end of book 2.

Seraphina and Shadow Scale, By Rachel Hartman.

ADDING BEFORE I GO AND SLEEP

The books are extremely good, focusing more on family and conflict then any type of romance. Dragons are everywhere, humans and dragons fighting, and dragon on dragon fighting. It is slow at the beginning however, it goes extremely quick very suddenly and grabs your attention like it's choke holding you.

Seraphina also has very much gay people and gay rights in this. Shadow Scale explores more of that with a few charecters since we'll, it's on the less romance side of little to no romance. It is extremely sweet too. So Eee

Seraphina is an amazing book which I havent seen a lot for but is an amazing book.

I do hope the sacrifice works for the non romance fantasy books

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designernishiki · 1 year

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as much as a i understand and respect ace kiryu truthers, i really feel like kiryu is the type to really take the idea to heart that sex is something vulnerable and meaningful and thus reserved for someone completely trusted and special to him– someone who feels right. after years and years he’s still never legitimately voluntarily slept with someone, always tries to turn women away or is at least apathetic when they try to get physical with him, never feels that deep and specific bond with a woman– nothing compared to some of his bonds with other men throughout his life. and maybe, hopefully, one day it’ll hit him that there’s a pretty big, glaring reason why no women have ever felt “right” to him.

#I’ve become a pretty devout gay kiryu trigger at this point #it just. makes the most narrative sense / is the most narratively interesting / explains So Much #kiryu #yakuza #kazuma kiryu #honest to god though it’s. the most realistic way of explaining why he jumps to the assumption that he must date or kiss a woman or whatever #as soon as possible with little to no room to actually fall for one #with yumi he’s literally in the classic comp het situation of ‘well someone told me I’m in love with her so I guess I’m in love with her’#no deeper thought no proof of falling for her etc #sayama’s more convincing and they start out actually building a dynamic that could end up being romantic maybe- but then they fucking jump #the gun and have kiryu randomly kiss her like something he saw in a movie instead of. you know. talking about things first. or anything.#partly because they’re in a life or death situation and are essentially pushed together via traumabonding #and that’s Extreme when it comes to the end of kiwami 2. honestly that makeout scene was just. really weird and uncomfortable. for multiple #reasons. I mean for one he says something like ‘I’m sure she (haruka)’ll understand’ in between the making out in reference to him not #even trying to get further from the bomb or anything #and just lowkey choosing to kill himself (disturbingly similarly to nishiki mind you) like uh kiryu did you forget that haruka. literally #lost her mother in an extremely similar situation. in front of her. and nearly lost you at the same time. kiryu’s personality is Not one to #just shrug off something like that- either he was purposefully choosing to kill himself because he felt like a failure and that haruka would #genuinely be better off without him Or the writing there was INSANELY out of character as to make him seem more focused on the supposed #Romeo and Juliet tragic romance situation than saving his daughter the grief of losing EVERYONE CLOSE TO HER and reliving the worst night of #her fucking Life #god if anything the ending of yk2 just screams ‘this relationship would not work out under normal circumstances and both of them are just #clinging onto whatever’s closest out of desperation and need for any kind of emotional catharsis available’#if you can compare a pairing to romeo and juliet . it’s probably not #a pairing that’s meant to be #sorry im going off on a huge tangent about how weird the ending of yk2 was to me uhhh anyway I could write a video essay on why kiryu being #gay is the most realistic and interesting interpretation of him possible . send tweet

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dollopheadsandclotpoles · 2 years

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You know, given the time period it came from, I always saw Baby it’s Cold Outside as her genuinely wanting to stay but putting up an act that she doesn’t want to because it would be scandalous to society for her to stay late. They’re both making these pretend excuses knowing they both want to be together but that society would frown upon it. The what’s in this drink part I thought was a tongue in cheek “what’s in this drink it’s making me wanna stay with you” sort of deal

#anyone else agree I feel like the reading of it has become v black and white like this is SA #but the impression I got from it was always playful #and in that time period it was frowned upon for a woman and a man to stay late alone in each others homes #idk #maybe it’s because a lot of Indian irl romances are this way where they are in love but have to pretend ‘oh I must go’#’no stay see it’s… raining outside’#‘oh gosh I’ll just tell my mom it’s raining too much so that’s why I’m late wink wink’#about me

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puppyeared · 2 years

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weird that the shape of love is two beating hearts glued together and not two hands holding each other

#well technically it comes from the shape of two hearts sewn together but i dont know how that translates to romance.. literally its kinda #disturbing but symbolically i guess it is kind of sweet #my friend and i were talking and she said something about someone saying a lover cant just be a friend you can kiss but i think i disagree #i kind of think the point of a lover IS a friend you can kiss because like it must get exhausting having to convince yourself you can only #feel romantic things towards your lover right? i mean i dont know if my feelings are shaped like anyone else's so maybe its more of a case #by case basis. for me id like someone whose hand i can hold and i can make pancakes for them and maybe kiss but like not strictly romantic #and not strictly platonic. and my feelings are all over the place because one day ill be really into someone i like and another day ill be #really chill about it. so its hard to say what i feel for someone if its always changing #maybe thats why i think lovers should be friends you can kiss because its coming from my way of feeling? hmmm #like i want to be able to say i love you and mean it romantically one day and then say love you in a platonic way the next day and itd be #ok?? does that make sense??? like i know its the same phrase but its like the feeling i put with it is different each time. idk #its why i find dating someone hard because its constantly going up and down and its never balanced. itd probably really confusing unless i #were to date someone whose feelings works the same way. just some food for thought i guess but then again every relationship needs work #im not sure if that fits into the category of work though.. i cant tell myself what im going to feel #it just happens and theres not much i can really do about it except tell that person what im feeling. hnnnnnhhgh #maybe its better if i just stick to watching fictional couples work it out lmao #yapping #txt

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amatres · 1 year

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actually im going to shout into the void that the solavelan romance is the height of my hatred

#none of this is actual critic i'm just channeling my spiral into ranting about smthing i dont care about much #'does she remove her vasillin or not' fills me with rage and i dont know why #i know why its bc the writers used the complete demonetization of an indigenous coded religion and used a rose tinted gaze of #it being a romance scene and made it a snap decision for lavellen who no matter what she chooses gets dumped on the spot #and ppl focus on Solas. that bald fucker who i want to maim instead of the woman who just had her whole identity #stripped from her #i am in an emotional state right now and i must funnel it into anger of smthing not important so ignore me #dragon age inquisition critical #anti solas #anti solvellan #just using those tags to be safe #also i just have lingering annoyance from when i was 16/17 when the game first came out and it was Everywhere #to the point if there was a lavellan she was romancing solas no matter what #i couldn't read anything! bc it was this stupid 'wise man sweeping the ingénue into his arms and telling her shes an idiot #but he still loves her despite her being uncivilized and wrong ❤'

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single-left-sack · 5 months

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Im.going fucking insane

Im.goign fucking insane i wish I'd never been made aware people weren't joking about having crushes on fictional characters it cursed me to like anime men

#this is FUCKED UPPPP augghhh #why must i like other men shit would be so much simpler if i was straight #i wpuld hate it but it would be much simpler #GOD IM SOOOOOOO BI #AAAAUUUUUUU #“suprisingly domestic” i will wine and dine romance seduce and marry this man #i need him in a way that i cant even put into words #i #oh my god #please #smash #stone cold fucking sober istfg #id rather kms then tag his tag and put myslef on blast like that so this is simply going into the recessed on my tumblr with the #kakashi my beloved #tag

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gregmarriage · 9 months

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truly my last relationship taught me so much. it also instilled in me some things i’m still unlearning. like, how most people won’t get mad if you accidentally fall asleep without saying goodnight (and not replying to messages, because i’m literally asleep), or freak out if you stop replying for like five minutes. like, i couldn’t do anything i enjoyed bc she’d be like ‘um, what fuck are you doing? why aren’t you answering me?!!!’ like relax, i’m literally just showering. it was truly a case of sitting still unless i wanted to upset her. and then i STILL somehow upset her and i never really knew why. but, hey, that relationship ended a long time ago, i should be fine now, right? 😐

#it’s literally been like five years and i still wake up sometimes like ‘oh god i didn’t say goodnight! oh god i didn’t reply back to that #person’s message!’ when said person doesn’t care one bit #it’s just cause that relationship was so crazy that it made ME crazy and i’m beginning to realise that yeah i still carry some shit from it #literally that relationship is the entire reason i’ve been single all this time and why i’m trying to be emotionally mature etc #bc that relationship ending gave me a smack around the head that said something needs to change’#bc the way i was before is the reason i was in that relationship and in that situation in the first place #and that relationship ending and trauma and shit separate from that made me get really romance repulsed for a while #still am sometimes tbh #pretty much permanently in a state of ‘yeah i need look after myself’ for the last five years #and idk when that would open up to me being in a new relationship #idk i really just need to not rush anything with anyone and just take things slow and see where they go #have fun in the meantime #bc my past few relationships have been really intense #especially the last one as i said #and i fully don’t have the time or energy for anything hardcore currently #so if there’s anyone at some point they must be prepared to wait for em and court me like we’re victorian lovers #you must wait three years untill we kiss for the first time bc i truly don’t know the timeframe for when i’d wanna do anything i’ll be #honest imaooooo #but yeah romance is a complicated subject for me #i’m literally a hopeless romantic but the thought of romance lately truly just makes me feel gross #like in theory yeah i wanna kiss someone but in actual practice i’m like get away from me!#idk i’m on the road to bulilding healthy relationships #romantic especially bc i really can’t go back to how i used to be #sorry to disappoint anyone imaoooo #but nah anyways people who want to get close to me and be my friend has to be cool with my boundaries i set up #and sometimes forget about even tho they’re my own boundaries bc i’m silly like that #could do casual stuff but i really don’t think i’m the type for that imao #and even that sets off the same alarms in my head so idk 🤷🏻‍♀️#gwen rambles #gwenposting

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designernishiki · 1 year

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sue me but i just really don’t wanna see someone try to rectify that terrible cliche out of character love triangle again like. if they chose to cut that out all together (not cutting YUMI out all together, obviously, just the romantic implications) then they’d probably have my attention. but let’s be real that’s probably not gonna happen

#legit you can cut out all romantic implications in that story and it’d literally not effect the plot at all #all the driving forces of the plot are already there. and they set that in stone when they made yakuza 0- nishiki and kiryu’s story #is between them and them alone and that’s how their story should end as well. yumi is important to the plot of y1/kiwami but not as a #an object in between kiryu and nishiki- she’s important for her own individual reasons and throughout the entirety of 1 she functions by her #own volition. she’s got her own shit going on and though it intersects with kiryu and nishiki in the end (and before that via haruka)#it literally has nothing to do with romance– it has to do with the 10 billion yen and haruka and how she ties into all of that #the fact that they’re all childhood friends COULD have been a very interesting piece of the ending to play with narratively speaking but #they don’t explore that instead they just say unga bunga straight men must fight over woman unga bunga #like come on are you fucking kidding me #she had her own whole ass life for 10 years. so did the other two for better or for worse. nishiki is a murderer and kiryu got ten years of #his life taken away by prison. but no it’s all secretly actually connected by a love triangle that’s been #just sorta hibernating for ten years or something #god #sorry I just. I hate it man i hate it so much there’s so much potential and good parts of the plot to explore but they DONT #becuase of heteronormative cliche bullshit that doesn’t make sense both narratively and in terms of the characters’ personalities #and backgrounds and morals and aggsgdhshshsxjhdhfjfjfjxjfhdhshss #rambling #call me a misogynist or whatever if you want but if you read these tags you see why I think the LESS misogynistic option would be to cut #out the love triangle/romantic shit completely and focus more on HER as HER OWN gigantic piece of the puzzle #with her own fucking Life #yk1

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radmista · 1 year

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read the tags on ur reblog AND U ARE SO RIGHT ABT THE 2018 TMNT FANDOM- It’s honestly like the tumblrifcation of the franchise which i dont rlly mind cuz its still SUPER fun it just attracts those kinds of people- (literally traumatized by the yaoification of leo)

I’d say you should rewatch the 2012 since thats the one i grew up with too and its good outside of the weird side romance narratives they keep pushing- ROTTMNT is good but its pretty short and wayy less serious in its theme so it all rlly depends on what you like specifically :3

I barely touch it, so much so that idek how or why yt algorithm constantly spits out the kinds of videos I mentioned in the tags at me. Like I report them each time YouTube, stop telling me to watch it! It can't be the same video it has to be multiples, which makes me even more concerned at just HOW pervasive the homophobia must be within the TMNT 2018 fandom. I really rather liked TMNT when it remained a relative 'fringe' media to be into. Like, it wasn't a huge thing for teen girls or tumblr chicks to be into and instead you just had weirdo deviantart chicks into it. Who while also incredibly fucking weird, at least weren't... tumblr about the show.

The yaoification of Leo and somewhat Donatello that I've seen has nearly completely put me off the new show lmao. I only still consider watching it bc my gf shows mild interest in TMNT and it seems ROTTMNT would be her choice of entry, but if shes fine watching the 2012 series I'm choosing that one XD. I'm fine with a more lighthearted fun show, but I enjoyed the 2012 series for being fun and also kinda dark at times (that rat episode man). That's what I like about TMNT at least lol, weird radioactive tutrtles fighting evil shredder guy. I may rewatch the 2012 series for old times sake and to actually finish watching it! I think my sister and I left off around the ep where they made a submarine propelled by pedaling.

#transdonatello #i really do love tmnt #it's such a funny concept in all honesty. like these tutrtles got mutated and then they learned how to be ninjas too. sure why not XD #its so stupid but i love it so much #man i must have stopped watching the 2k12 series before they really pushed weird romance stuff?#i remember donnie having a really weird crush on april and her being way too nice to his weird ass #& leo also having a weird crush on shredders daughter. but that one was at least more interesting bc they both were into each other #did they ever introduce casey at all? i remember having predictions for when and how theyd bring casey into it but never got that far

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shumistar · 1 year

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And what if i came to tearms with the fact that i am on aro spectrum ON THE ARO DAY!?!?!???

ITS NOT A BIG DEAL! (it is)

#shu talks #Do you want to know how it happened? Do you?#I related to my kin TOO MUCH (bbh)#Then i was like HMMMMM why all my favourite characters are in qprs? And why all MY characters are in qprs??? PROJECTING MUCH!?#So ye #Oh my god every relationship ever makes so much more sense now #I was suspecting that this might be the case but then i would feel a strong bond with someone and say Wow That Must Be What Romance #But guess what? It wasn't! Never was!!#Also you know what else made me like fully realise? The way a canon qpr were acting more romantic towards each other than the - >#The most romantic things ive ever felt comfortable with doing #SCREAMING HITTING THINGS EXPLODING

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gatun-gatunesco · 1 year

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#that post about meeting people in the wild reminds me what my therapist said #“you should meet another person. after some healing of course” and at that time i did not thought so much about it #i was crying and sobbing so bad for me to process that information #but now that i remembered. how the hell will i do that without using a dating app?#imagining that i am already healed without trauma and willing to open my heart again for someone else #how would i: an asexual neurodivergent introvert. would find a compatible person in the wild? that is kind of impossible!#using a dating app? ugh. that is very wack. i do not know a single person who had a good experience using one of those #and truly. would i ever be fine to have romance again? the remaining romantic love i have is dying #the trauma changed me from greysexual to fully asexual. after years of self hate i was comfortable with my naked body #now that i am sex repulsed. i can not tolerate see my body. even in this hellish heat of summer i must have clothes. showering is a torture #would not be better to be Aroace and that is it? being free of all that partner stuff? just having more friends would not do the trick?#i can try to find a way to change and not want to have physical affection nor physical love. It always brought me trouble #but i doubt my therapist agrees. she was kind of serious about having another person with me #why i am not strong enough to do everything alone? why do i have to be prone to sickness? why the hell do i need physical love?!#is so gross and awful. i hate my body so much. why do you need that fucker? we can hug ourselfs! settle for that

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theissuewithred · 2 years

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frank iero in destroya at mcralbany. oh my god I'm going to die this is worse than the cheer dress

#mcr #like sir #that was so much #why must you do this to me #thank you so fucking much #but oh #my #FUCKING #god #that was a lot #ive seen the video seven or eight times on my dash #and ive watched it every time #im gay #gay #very gay #grey ace? grey ace #my chemical romance #frank iero #my chem

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cool-as-steel · 10 months

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yet another instance of when I sensed that the book was Leading Up To Something, and in the end it was Romance again rather than the sort of proper spooky tragedy that I'd come prepared for :|

#ramblings #the captain's library #sherwood ring is a perfectly fine book but would be better if 'twere twice as long I think :/#elizabeth marie pope writes this sort of crossed-timelines magical realism situation (and the woods and adventure of it!) so very well #but her romances tend to feel like being slapped in the face with a fish for their suddenness!#perilous gard also has this issue in my opinion but at least there christopher and kate get much more time to talk and just Be together #so I can believe in them (and richard and eleanor) much better than I can in barbara and peaceable or pat and peggy. but so it goes!#and also. ms pope must you really pair off every last character. is that really so necessary. sigh!#really I was having such fun watching richard and peaceable chase each other round the forest like gentlemanly little squirrels #and then the ending rather came out of nowhere without ever quite making sense of Why they're like that at all!#part of a haunting is that you carry your death with you! where's the death! what Happened here!!#really this is the very first time I've been tempted to write something I can only call Worsen-It Fic. what HAPPENED!

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agothorn · 2 years

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I think I'm bisexual, but in the way my attraction to others is the same as little to zero attraction

Like romance and sex sound appealing in theory, but like I'm not going to seek them out. Or like, if I do accept romance and sex it has to be from someone I know deeply on an emotional level and have a lot of trust in. Even then, I most likely won't initiate sex bc I don't have much of a craving for it, only in rare circumstances

#yeah im bi bc i feel the same for everyone #agothorn speaks #txt #ive hit the for years and its not until now i realized its bc its zero for everyone #like i most likely am on the aroace spectrum actually idk where on it but im on it #and i think the reason why i thought i wasnt on the aroace spectrum for so long is bc i like romance stuff #but in like the hopelessly romantic way if that makes sense #like the idea of going on dates/showing pda/enjoying romantic stories #then i asked myself if i liked romance so much why dont i seek out a romantic relationship?#and came to the conclusion I like these things in theory not in action #so that must be on the aroace spectrum somewhere right??

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a-passing-storm · 2 years

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So about my fic that I posted (very scary). It’s a Matrix fic, and it’s got an aro character, and I am like... so very surprised that it is the first Matrix fic to have the “Aromantic” tag on AO3. Like, I was expecting 10. Or so. I know 10 still isn’t a lot, but I was expecting more than 0. I’m actually very surprised.

#bc i am shameless i shall add that it's called A Simulacra of Sound if anyone is interested #but like truly i... i know there isnt a lot of aro fic but i 1) overestimated the size of the matrix fandom--tbh im glad its not that big--#2) simply overestimated the frequency of aro fics being written #and yeah ikik if you want to see it you should write it. but i dont like reading my writing at all.#its not that i dont like it--i really like my writing--its just that i read it so many times that its meaningless #i dont get to be like 'omg cool wordplay' or 'ooh neat rhythm' or 'what a neat way to characterize that' im just like reading Sounds #its like listening to things backwards #matrix #aromantic #yeah #idk its weird bc i dont really want to write fic w/ an audience in mind bc its something i do for fun and i dont want to #fall back into the habit of writing for other people or what i think other people want to read #but man someone's gotta make more aro fanfic lol #also like ik a lot of aros hate the 'a robot it must be aro' thing but also like #if youre gonna think abt the sexuality of a program designed to like destroy humans #is it really more plausible that it wants some sweet sweet romance with the person it's trying to kill #like thats a part of why it is very surprising to me that no other aro matrix fics have been posted to ao3 #anyway im not that like... bummed abt it rn so much as just like 'wow thats wild'#ugh i should go write my very existential common app essay #dante dicit

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loverofallthingssmart · 1 year

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why must i create the things i want to see...can i simply not expect my exact brand of whatever i want to magically appear in front of me

#writing a cute little romance is so fucking HARD this is just meant to get my writing feels out why must i have exposition #and character building and THEN build up the tension perfectly eesha lower ur standards fr its making this so much harder

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