Many people tend to think of Asexual romance as being... something that just doesn't exist
(ie. People assuming a couple in a movie aren't a couple until they make it official with a big kiss!)
But really, Asexual Romance can look something like this-
This is from my autobio GN 'How to be Ace'
I've also got an explicitly Ace Romance going on between the two main characters in Paupers Prince too:
Presently, we only know that Alfred is Ace- John has trauma and is in denial about it lol
But I look forward to sharing a full on romance where the Ace experience is at the center, rather than non existent or interpretational 💜🖤💜🖤
There may not be many Asexual Romances in TV or film, but there's quite a lot in books! Here's a few of my reccs below (cos I posted this on IG first lol) Do you have any favourites? 😄
It's ACE week, I'm still Demi, and Gwen is still Aro/Ace
ICYMI, it's Ace week! ICYMI, I am demisexual and therefore part of the ace spectrum. ICYMI, I made a comic with
@bailierosenlund.bsky.social @wastedwings.bsky.social &
@alannawrites.bsky.social
about Gwenpool coming out as ace and aro and you can read it!
https://www.marvel.com/articles/comics/love-unlimited-gwenpool-interview-creative-team-marvel-unlimited
i made a list like this one for both 2021 and 2022 during ace week and people seemed to like those posts, so I’m back with a 2023 version! some of these books already have covers and synopses, while some only have a short deal announcement, but I’ve listed the specific rep for the books i could find it for. if you have any additions, feel free to add onto the post. i will update it when i find new releases. i acknowledge that most of the representation listed here is ace spectrum only, but there are a handful of aro-spec characters as well. happy last day of ace week!
a song of salvation by alechia dow (ya scifi, demi mc)
being ace edited by madeline dyer (ya anthology, ace-spec mcs)
bleeding heart by brittany m. willows (ya fantasy, grey-ace mc, demi-aro/demi-ace mc, aro bi mc, sequel to bloody spade)
daughter of wind and twilight by helen corcoran (ya fantasy, wlw demi mc, sequel to queen of coin and whispers)
ethera grave by essa hansen (adult scifi, ace-spec mc, book 3 in a trilogy)
he who drowned the world by shelley parker-chan (adult historical fantasy, sapphic genderqueer ace-spec mc, sequel to she who became the sun)
here goes nothing by emma k. ohland (ya contemporary, wlw ace mc)
how to sell your blood and fall in love by d.n. bryn (mlm grey-ace mc, adult paranormal romance)
just lizzie by karen wilfrid (mg contemporary, ace mc)
love letters for joy by melissa see (ya contemporary, pan ace mc)
planning perfect by haley neil (ya contemporary, ace mc)
reel love by nilah magruder (mg contemporary, ace mc)
spark of magic by hailey gonzales (ya fantasy, aro bi mc)
the midnight kingdom by tara sim (adult fantasy, ace mc, sequel to the city of dusk)
this dark descent by kalyn josephson (ya fantasy, aroace mc)
two can play at that game by leanne yong (ya contemporary, demi mc)
wren martin ruins it all by amanda dewitt (ya contemporary, mlm ace mc)
you don’t have a shot by racquel marie (ya contemporary, wlw ace mc)
This is currently my favorite piece of Demon that I have done, so I will be using it for ace week! A little event put together by @martiwikiwi , be sure to check it out!
That being said, Demon is the main character of the story I have been working on since I was 13, and he is also on the ace spectrum! To be more specific, he is demisexual. He does not feel sexual attraction to anyone unless he is in a loving long term relationship with them.
Personally, I’m not sure if I myself am on the ace spectrum, and I didn’t make this character ace just to advocate for it. Instead, I was simply trying to develop my character and based on what I knew of him, I couldn’t imagine him having a regular sex drive, it just didn’t suit his character. So after looking into it, I’ve decided that demisexual would best represent his experiences.
I am a bit nervous to properly represent this character’s experiences with his asexuality as I do not share most of them, but I am glad to have a character be part of this spectrum since it is a learning opportunity for me.
Again, he is the main character of my soon-to-be comic and if you want more content of him or have any questions about him, please visit my blog and ask! I adore any interactions with my OCs, so do please pop by and tell me what you think.
Gonna indulge in a spot of shameless self-promo for Ace Week. I'm Claire, an illustrator working in the realms of historical fantasy and the macabre. Also currently working on a BL vampire visual novel called Sanguinaria! 🖤🦇💀💜
We are told many things
We are told we can’t be human
We are told we don’t belong
We are told there is no place for us
We are told there is no love for us
We even tell these things to ourselves
(We especially tell these things to ourselves)
We are told we are dangerous
We are told that us breathing is toxic to the world
We are told our stories have no worth
We are told we have no value
We are told to get over it
We are told we deserve this abuse
We are told we do not exist
We are told to stay quiet
We are told to stop fighting
We are told to pick a side
(We’ve always had a side, though they refuse to see it)
We are told we don’t deserve boundaries
We are told we love wrong
We are told we don’t love at all
We are told that we’re cracked and broken
We are told we aren’t normal
We are told we are an abomination
We are told we don’t feel
We are told we are death
(We sometimes would rather be those things than what we are)
But none of those words
None
Are ours
We are Asexual
We are Aromantic
We are a rainbow across a spectrum
We are love and life and so much more
We do exist
We are valuable
We are human
We are whole
We will fight back
We will be ourselves
We will make you uncomfortable
We will not give into society
We will not be “normal“
We will love
And be loved
And find home
And find safety
And you
Cannot
Stop
Us
Had a bit of a nasty run-in with someone being a jerk about aspec identities a couple days ago, and what better revenge is there than art? I actually forgot I had written this poem earlier this year until I saw it was ace week on my feed wHOOPS It’s not my best work, I feel like it’s easy to see I wrote it as a week poet, but I would like to give my middle finger to the world and society to the world and its shittiness toward us, and this is me doing that :3 I hope you enjoyed if you read it!