#ace stuff

[beaft]

oh brother we are never getting out of here

[a-rabbit-obsessed-queer]

Aspec men deserve much more respect and recognition in the aspec community than they receive. They often face a different form of aphobia specific to them ("men are naturally sexual they can't be ace" "all men are unromantic that's not unique") this rhetoric is spouted by many, even members of our own community and I hope for a day where that is no longer the case. As an ace and demiro woman (demigirl but that's beside the point) I want to encourage folks to take the time to give the aspec men in their lives support and to the aspec men reading, you are who you say you are no matter what people say and you deserve the world. I'm sorry for the ways in which toxic masculinity has harmed you. You are a valued member of the aspec community and the queer community as a whole. No ace or aro person is broken and neither are you. I'm sorry if anyone has ever told you otherwise.

[bizarreaizen]

i will always dislike the stereotype that cisgender men are just beings who only think / care about sex, so my cis men out there who are asexual or just genuinely don't think sex is that important, you are seen and will always be valid :D /gen

[cacodaemonia]

I have several recommendations for addressing the specter of compulsory sexuality—and the marginalization of asexual people—within sex positive frameworks. ... Third, sex positive frameworks should avoid a narrow focus on guilt and shame that solely emphasizes guilt and shame associated with the presence of sexual desire/activity. Sex positive frameworks should also emphasize that guilt and shame can be associated with the absence of sexual desire/activity.

[scribefindegil]

tbh I'm pretty sure I'd be more on the sex-neutral end of things if it weren't for the fact that every. single. discussion. of asexuality gets derailed with "well ACTUALLY did you know that aces (the cool ones) (the only ones I've decided are worthy of respect) can conform perfectly to the demands of compulsory sexuality :) so I don't have to make any effort to re-examine my worldview :)"

so instead it's like no fuck off actually I am going to be a Problem.

[breaking-news-the-aroace-has]

After a brief sexuality crisis, the aroace has remained firm in their identity while renewing their aesthetic appreciation of titties.

Broadcaster's note: There was supposed to be a pun with identity and iden-TITTY, but the aroace has butchered it, much to their disappointment :(

[dollopheadsandclotpoles]

Sometimes it makes me so sad when I’m on the aspec Reddit pages. So many people say they hate being ace because they ‘want to be loved’ and it breaks my fucking heart because it implies the only ‘real’ way to be loved is in a romantic and/or sexual way. Does it not count when it comes from your parents? Your friends? Your siblings and your cousins? Your neighbours? Your teachers? Your pets? Does my love for someone not count because it’s not romantic?!? I get wanting a romantic and/or sexual relationship but stop conflating it with being loved in general I’m begging

[tacoma-narrows]

Flying Aces!

Happy Ace Day fellow Ace Gang members!! I was able to make something quick today despite my homework assignments hehe. It's simple but I like how it came out! It's an idea I've had in mind for awhile and decided to come back to it for today :3

Happy International Asexuality Day to all my fellow aces, aros and so forth, we've always got each other 🖤🤍🩶💜

More talkies about my ace label and what it means to me below the cut :3

It's been a long time since I made something ace pride centered, which surprised me because it's my main label I use for myself and it really means a lot to me. It's mainly a reassurance that just because I don't feel sexual attraction towards others, that doesn't mean how I do express affection or the relationships I have are any less valid or real. It does feel tough sometimes, with how much emphasis society in general places on sexual stuff that I just don't understand. I'm not as sex repulsed as I used to be, but the thought of it just really doesn't do anything for me and never really has. Additionally, it means that I don't really need a relationship to be my full self yknow? Yeah I would like a partner, quite a bit actually, but with a partner or not, I'm still all me and all I need to be <3 That's why my ace label is the one I feel is the most central to me and who I am <33

Happy Ace Day everyone 🖤🤍🩶💜

Additional bonus thought: I am considering, come June, cleaning this idea up a bit and offering it as a potential ych hehe. I'm making no promises at the moment, especially since I haven't taken comms in like, years, but like I said, I'm considering it. Let me know if you guys would be interested in that hehe :3c

[hello-im-queer]

I was today's years old when I realized that people actually think that other people are attractive.

Like

PEOPLE JUST LOOK AT A BODY AND BE LIKE : 'whoa I wanna date, hot, sexy, kiss kiss' ?!?!?

[irenekohstudio]

cats and cats and cats

Biromantic Asexual Kitties!

[storybookprincess]

my mom mentioned how romantic partnerships haven’t seemed like a huge priority in my life & i was like “yeah not especially. could take it or leave it i suppose”

and then i started thinking about what has been a priority in my life & realized i’ve become this guy

[rose-of-pollux]

When you are aroace but your pets are not--

[bizarreaizen]

aromantic and asexual cis men seriously need more recognition, they've been told that being a virgin above the age of 18 is weird and that all cis men are p0rn brained and they've seen that romance and sex is very important to a man and you need to have it or you're confirmed "lame" "boring" and a "virgin loser" /gen

[cacodaemonia]

Another short article from Canton Winer, but it also links to a longer paper he published recently called Splitting Attraction: Differentiating Romantic and Sexual Orientations Among Asexual Individuals

[averinna]

Not understanding sexual attraction which is constantly described as making people adults make me feel like I am still a child or a robot