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3 tips for dating wealthy/high value man

Hey girlies,

I’ve been in a relationship for the last three years and I’m proud to say that he’s very succesful with what he’s doing and that I am living a very comfortable life right now. Cheers!

I always hear that I am so lucky and – yes I am lucky – but there’s always two sides to a coin.

As always, remember that every man is different and that my advice might not work for you and your relationshi

Date for potential!

I know there is a saying that you should never date for potential but honestly, I disagree.

Imagine you start dating a man and he has some really great business ideas, does his best to make his visions come to life and starts being succesful. Yes, of course he‘ll not be making six figures right from scratch but after a few years? Same goes for doctors, lawyers and engineers that are still in school.

And remember: hypergamy is not about marrying a billionaire, it’s soley about marrying up. You don’t need a billionaire to live comfortable and many man are able to provide a cute house in the suburbs, trips to europe, a nice car and generally a stable life.

However, don’t get trapped by a man that’s good at talking and nothing else.

For example, my ex boyfriend was hot. Like really hot. Some people said that he looks like Ian Somerhalder and he wanted to become an actor too.

Well, he honestly had the looks, the voice and the brain for it. BUT he never did anything for it! He never went to any castings, he never networked to meet people, he never even tried acting in a school play to see if he really liked it. He just said he wanted to be an actor and that was it. Last thing I heard from him is that he still lives with his parents, he gained weight and looks horrible and that he has no job and lives off of his mums retirement money.

Never throw away your own life!

Okay, you bagged a wealthy man and he wants you to be his stay at home girlfriend. Sounds to good to be true? Well, maybe it is.

Don’t. Do. It.

Especially if you’re not married. He can throw you under the bus anytime he wants and you’ll be left with nothing.

Keep working in your job, maybe only part time but never be completley dependent on a man you’re not married to.

Have hobbies!

This is so important. Chances are high that if he has good money to spend he also works a good amount of time for this money and you don’t want to sit at home, bored and waiting for him.

Honestly, this was so hard for me in the beginning. I was used to men that spend their whole freetime with me. Boom. Then suddenly I was in a relationship with a man that has almost no freetime? And when he’s free he’s tired from work and mostly wants to stay at home, watch a movie and maybe eat something nice.

Start entertaining yourself so you don’t get bored when he’s not around. Start reading, start a new sport, try out creative writing…the options are literally endless.

Lots of love!

Selene

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The Art of Elegance: Behavior

Elegance extends beyond appearance and encompasses our actions and interactions with others. Here are some ways we can cultivate elegance in our behavior:

Poise and composure: Practice good posture, move gracefully, and maintain a calm and collected demeanor throughout your day.

Polished communication: Develop effective communication skills, speak eloquently, and listen attentively. Use tact and kindness in your interactions.

Thoughtfulness and empathy: Show genuine care for others, practice empathy, and extend acts of kindness. These qualities elevate your character and add depth to your elegance.

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An ideal husband, 1999

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[swabian-princess]

5 life lections with me

Hey girlies,

I’ve come across many delusional posts in the last few weeks and I‘ve wanted to put my two cents.

Please, take all of this with a grain of salt because I am only twentythree and not some old oracle.

Lection 1: You probably won’t marry a billionaire, no matter what you do  

I know, many feminity and levelling up influencers tell you that eveything is possible if you do this and that.

Some swear that manifestation works and some tell that Jesus Christ himself blessed them after they joined certain church groups.

Okay, but let’s speak facts: the chances that you’re marrying a billionaire are very low.

The chances that you’re marrying a young, good looking, wants you to be at stay at home girlfriend billionaire are even lower. Those men have their established social circles and tend to marry women within those circles. If you don’t have the right background, social network and education it’s nearly impossible for you to get in those circles.

However, your chances on marrying a handsome looking, appropriate aged man with a good paying job are very high if you put the work into it. I‘m talking surgeons, dentists, lawyers or engineers.

Lection 2: You have to do the work

My dear @memoirsofmimimango recently wrote a post about modern trends (highly recommend checking out her blog, she’s speaking straight facts.) and she touched the subject manifestation.

YES, manifestation can alter your thoughts and put you in a better headspace to stay motivated and reach your goals but that’s it.

You won’t get abs because you wrote it 36 times on a piece of paper, no. You’ll have to eat right and work out.

You won’t magically find your soulmate because you wrote down a character description of them and put it under your pillow, no. You’ll have to go out, meet people and actually talk to them in order to build a relationship, wether it’s platonic or not.

Lection 3: Learn from your mistakes and forgive yourself

Everybody makes mistakes. Everybody. Yes, maybe those mistakes hurt like hell and drag you back down to rock bottom but you have to move on.

You have to move on and forgive yourself, even if it hurts a lot and even if you loose people on your way.

Let’s say you fail 9 times but have succes at your 10th try – you would never know if you didn’t try it one more time.

Lection 4: Value friendships

I go out and make an effort to make friends and keep them. It is so important that you have a couple friends you can trust. Yet, like every relationship friendships are not build over night.

We live in a time with unlimited messenger options, please, for the love of god – text your friends. Call them. Ask them how they are. Make them feel important and valued.

Lection 5: Health is wealth

It is so important to be healthy. Physically and psychically.

I live in Germany and I am very privileged to have 40 paid vacation days. I schedule those days so that I can have at least a few days off every few months and time for a bigger vacation every six months so that I don’t burn out.

I also go out of my way to eat healthy, cook and prepare fresh food and try to stay away from drugs, alcohol and cigarettes.

I get bloodwork done regularly and supplement accordingly. I’ll have to work on my workout routine but I try to get my 10k steps in every day.

Don’t take your health for granted, you’re still young and many people only think about how they’ll look and feel when they’re 80+.

Well, but between your twenties and eighties there are also a few years and you still want to look and feel good when you’re 40 or 60, so work on your health.

Selene  

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from PR to NY.

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Sourcing water on the street on the affluent Rue Royale street in Paris during the 1910 Great Floods

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Any blogs/websites/ideas on how to live luxuriously on a budget?

Just because you aren't rich (yet) doesn't mean you don't deserve some of the finer things now. Broke doesn't have to look broke. 💅

If not maybe I should start posting some tips.

(And even if you are rich it is stoll good practice to be a bit frugal when you can).