#also i feel like we need to talk abt their imperfections at this point

[greenorangevioletgrass]

bradley would say mid-coitus that he wants to fuck you all night long and then falls asleep two minutes after he cums 💀

[simpforcatsystem]

Autistic High Empathy Masking Theory

Ok OK ok So I just saw a tiktok a few hours ago about the tendency of high-empathy autistic individuals having problems with others trauma-dumping on them, inappropriately given the social context, as in strangers or new acquaintances, or coworkers who are not on the level of being friends with. I have experienced this myself and tbh it has fucked up my gage for what's normal human interaction and how to build friendships.

I think I have an idea for why it happens, though.

Ok So short version: High empathy folks mask in a way that gears them towards social acceptance, due to a number of things, but the mask is imperfect and signals a deeper level of social connection due to the empathy.

Main points this theory relies on: 1. The idea that high empathy folks tend to have a specific, consistent, different masking style than low empathy folks. 2. The commonly accepted theory that masking is used for social acceptance and safety. 3. The commonly accepted theory that the mirror neuron system contains abnormalities in autistic individuals(its been seen in certain studies, but I always have doubts on their sampling) AND the idea that that said abnormalities differ between autistic people and empathy levels (not spoken about to my knowledge, hence my doubt abt previous studies).

So the video previously referenced talked about the discussion in the community about low empathy autistics and their resulting difficulties in making and keeping relationships, especially friendships.

My theory, if correct, would simply explain this as the mirror neuron system not influencing the body language and behavior of the person, and possibly not even their cognition. This would result in less socially-endearing behavior as part of the social mask, subconsciously expressing a social cue of "I have no obligation to be safe for you" (social cues are a whole thing and I've studied them a lot to try to figure them out but I think I'm pretty close; the basics of it boil down to situational pack bonds, camaraderie, and signals for safety on moving to a more intimate level of relationships, such as friends, good friends, and people you can be vulnerable with. The social cues I'll be talking about are safety and pack-bond signaling ones, because they're most relevant in the discussion for acquaintances)

The result of this social cue is that the person spoken to is less willing to be vulnerable and create less of a foundation for a friendship or otherwise to be built on. (Neurotypicals, like autistics, need a foundation of safety, but unlike autistics, they don't necessarily build it by qualities, they build it by consistency and safety previously shown in the relationship) 

Disclaimer: There are obviously many factors that could go into this, namely the early trauma surrounding human interaction creating an avoidant attachment style and activating danger signals in low-empathy folks to subconsciously prioritize their emotions over others. This could lead to further disuse of the mirror neuron complex, I really haven't studied this enough and I'm not sure I will be able to. 

Anywho:

If this is true, then the opposite could be said for high-empathy autistics, in that our empathy is due to an overactive mirror neuron network, and that that same network influences our masking style because of the perceived rejection we received when our behavior caused others to feel rejected, early in the masking process. That rejection shapes our social cues to give out accepting ones no matter what is aimed at us, so the relationship level(acceptable amount of vulnerability) in the other person's mind deepens rather quickly, because every subconscious feeler they put out to see where the social line is is met with an inviting "You're good! Come on in! You're safe here." social cue, which is quite often latched onto by other traumatized individuals, but also a good portion of the general population. (hence, the trauma dumping)

People crave connection, and our nervous systems are telling them they can find it here. 

I might post separately how this can create a specific type of attachment style and dissociative aspect to the autistic trauma in individuals, but for now I'll leave it at the fact that this reward circuit, which would also be developed in early childhood, tells our brains that this version of ourselves is accepted and other versions aren't. So therefore, we need to spend far more time working on this to gain social acceptance, because in the past, evolutionarily, social acceptance was the literal biggest factor that made or broke whether we survived. 

That could easily play into the gifted kid syndrome as well as many of the other common high-masking autistic experiences. 

As you can tell, I'm totally normal and cool about this. But uh if you wanna ask me questions I'd be happy to answer them :)

[heebiekeewiejeebies]

Are you so introverted that you don’t rlly have any skills with making friends ??? But you do have a irl friend group, but you feel like you’re annoying + uninteresting so you become distant??? Then one day you meet someone online with similar interests, someone who you find surprisingly easy to talk to, who you talk to (and/or voice chat with) almost every day??

I have, sometimes if he’d notice I was quiet or something he would check up on me, usually I just keep to myself and don’t go looking for any reassurance, but I appreciated him a lot. I wouldn’t constantly vent to him, my issues are mainly anxiety(I don’t suffer from depression), I do have some trauma that I never shared with anyone, so I usually just told him stuff like “I feel like I’m being annoying” and other similar stuff, I mean, when he reassured me I would usually trust his words. i do have my imperfections, everyone does, but I try not to make my insecurities anyone’s problems.

Anyways I would look forward with talking to him everyday, he told me that too. We would share our art with eachother without fearing judgement, we would say shit like “ONG I M EATING UR ART”, we have almost the same sense of humour, similar interests and allat,, I remember feeling like I wasn’t alone and I was grateful for him, he also showed that he had interest in me as a friend. I mean, I wasn’t totally alone like we had others in the same group.

I forgot to mention that we all met on the same day, I had a twt acc with 2000+ followers(triguntwt) and I was like HEY GUYS I MADE A MINECRAVT SERVER and ppl joined, but myself and several other ppl clicked and we ended up making a discord server, it still exists yea, but 2 ppl (including him) aren’t in the friend group and some others are busy, those who are still here I’m still in contact with.

But anyways,,, he grew distant 2 months after we became friends, I asked him what’s going on and it was just personal irl stuff, I asked if he needed space and i did as such. I would have small interactions like once a week, but I was like so afraid we would drift apart, but I guess we were the moment he started distancing. In July, a month after that happened, I kind of just avoided interaction bc of something else and he cut off all contact with the group bc he lost the connection plus he was just overwhelmed, honestly i understand that.

Honestly, I was shaken up, I guess I should’ve knew it would happen but I wasn’t like, sobbing. I didn’t immediately start crying. I did once it settled in, but I knew I had to move on. I kind of just kept to myself a little and was just recovering, he was kind of the only person who I felt almost fully comfortable with, and I still blame myself, usually I find myself wishing I never met him, because I just didn’t want to experience this, and I have a feeling he felt a lot of guilt. I never once felt any anger or resentment towards him for this, because I don’t blame him, i just kind of learned the harsh truth that not all friendships last.

So like, I’m not alone right now, the original ppl in the group kind of moved on like, with life and allat, but we’re still in contact and there is some new ppl too. I’m sort of realizing that I might not rlly miss him, since I don’t rlly want to talk to him again, I just miss those memories and the sense of having a ‘close’ friendship. Deep down I know that I can move on, I will meet someone else, I will heal. It’s now 2024 and my goal is to try to heal as much as possible, but it will take time i know. Also I should note that I’m not interested in seeing how he’s doing nowadays, there’s no point in that plus I don’t want to hurt myself anymore

I know I said I’m not actually alone, but I feel alone. This post is already long enough so that’s abt it for now LMAO

[torchiiko]

so so afraid of sending asks Off anon always and forever now. i had like a base level fear of being known and interacting directly but it was made infinitely worse by the one time i sent an ask to. i guess a somewhat popular creator in A Certain Community abt a grammar mistake that had thrown me off but that i ultimately thought was silly, and was curious to know how it wasnt caught since they often talked abt their extensive editing process

i guess my phrasing wasnt good and it came off ruder than i intended despite doing my best to communicate that i really really wasnt trying to be rude, but regardless they responded quite tersely, saying in the tags they were considering taking the story down until they could fix all the grammar mistakes

and like!!! thats My name attached to that post!! if that story Did get taken down, everyone wouldve known it was my fault, that i was the one who ruined it for everyone. all the comments were calling me some variation of rude, ungrateful, or entitled. i was 17 at the time and it was my first time having so many ppl be so so critical of me, and it sucked!! an ask i thought was lighthearted was met with so much?? anger???

and back then i cried and apologized but now im like. Actually im Not sorry for having better reading comprehension than all the ppl who couldnt notice the quite obvious additional word and incorrect tense(? dont remember anymore lol). it legitimately interrupted the flow of the sentence for me and i didnt understand it at first, its not like i was being picky over the wrong use of their or a missing apostrophe

its frustrating now that so many ppl jumped to be so rude to me bc of smth i pointed out, with the excuse of "oh well theyre writing this for free so you cant criticize it and youre ungrateful and entitled if you do". that just doesnt feel right?? why cant we appreciate a fic and the work that goes into it while also acknowledging its imperfections? why get so defensive right off the bat?? i would not want a community who acts the way theirs did. personally

anyway unless its important 4 someone to Know who i am in regards to what im asking or they need the option to answer privately i dont like asking off anon. at least then if theyre mean 2 me nobody will know who sent it !!

[camileeon]

hiii!! congrats on the growing follower count! a talented writer such as yourself deserves it <333

i saw you opened matchups and i wanted to give it a shot hehe

my name is iya, i am a minor, 15 yrs old! i go by any pronouns and i am bisexual. as of now, im still trying to figure out my gender, this whole thing is really confusing to me lol

as for my personality...

- im an entp

- i like to tease people, a lot, especially family and friends (not to a point where they get mad tho, i just do it so we can all be happy lmao)

- i like to jokingly flirt with my friends ( i make sure they're comfortable with it ofc )

- my friends tell me that im either really cold or really loud, no in between

- idk if this helps, but i kin isabela (cuz y'know, eldest sibling struggles)

- i absolutely love being around a lot of people and making new friends, but my communication skills are 👎👎👎👎 ( a shy extrovert, as ppl call it)

- im passionate abt music! i love singing and playing instruments! it's always been my goal in life to be able to play as many instruments as i can 😋

- i don't want to dive too deep into my problems so all I'll say is that i have mommy issues lmao

for my appearance, my hair and its color is really similar to Mariano's. same goes for my eye color, and im 5'3. (IDK HOW TO DESCRIBE MY OWN APPEARANCE😭)

id like this to be a romantic matchup, if that's okay with you :)))

and i think that's all!

YOUR MATCHUP IS..

ISABELLA MADRIGAL!

° just like your kin, i paired you up with our "imperfect" prima donna <3

° Like you, i think she would also be trying to figure out and continue to learn about herself because she was stuck being perfect and was stuck being someone who she's not. That's why i think you both would do it together while also discovering about eachother at the same time.

° you both would DEFINITELY talk about all the struggles of being the eldest sibling, responsibilities and how difficult it can be from time to time (yes i also know how it feels </3)

° There would be a time where you two would perform in the town's center!! Instruments on your part and she'd dance and entertain people with flowers <3

° she'd also put a flower behind your ear and give you a kiss on the cheek as you end your performance. She'd whisper in your ear “you did amazing!”

° both of you are shy extroverts together, stuck to eachother and just need one another. I CAN JUST FEEL IT TRUST ME-

° Whenever dealing with problems, she'll always insist on talking about it so it wouldn't bother you

“hey, talk to me. I wouldn't want my pretty flower have alot on their mind.”

° whenever you flirt with eachother playfully, she'd always be the first one to lose. She'd get really red and flustered then flowers would just pop up in the vicinity she was in. She enjoys it a lot and tickles her heart <33

@eeyahhh

(a/n) AAAAAAA THANK YOU SM!!! 💗

[qu1nby]

how do u feel abt the character's relationships in vnc? im still watching through my first time and i haven't read the manga and some development makes me kinda annoyed; so wanted to get your opinion !

oh boy oh boy. I have a terrible memory so I’m sorry if I forget anything! + this is all my opinion and it will likely change as the series progresses

Let's start off with the big two, shall we? VaniJeanne time!

I think I mentioned this before but, while I don't like VaniJeanne that much as a ship, I understand that their relationship is important to their individual developments.

To be honest, I have no deep insight on why Vanitas kissed Jeanne that first time (because, come on, there were other ways to end that) or why he insisted she drink his blood, but he did. Considering how intimate all of their sucky sucky (sorry--) scenes are, it's no surprise they both end up with some complicated feelings about the other.

I'm not sure how far in you are so I'll try not to spoil too much! Having said that, their relationship seems very centered around the idea of self-discovery and letting go of the past. Neither of them have ever experienced anything like this before, so of course it is going to be messy and imperfect.

Jeanne, being a bourreau and all, didn't think she would have a chance at romance. Vanitas believes that nobody could ever fall in love with him. There are some genuinely nice moments between the two, and I'm sure there will be more once the current arc has wrapped up.

In short: Vanitas and Jeanne have a really flawed relationship, but what do you expect? They both feel trapped -- Vanitas by his past and current responsibilities, and Jeanne by her station (and other things that might be spoilers).

It's time for VaNoé!

What can I say? I'm a sucker for partners that always argue and the "I hate you but you're also one of the few I trust" vibes. and what about the "are you so interested in kisses" CD comic, hmm?

anyway. This segment will be a little shorter because a lot of what I want to talk about hasn't been animated yet (soon!)

Vanitas finds Noé interesting and, as Noé continues to get lost and make friends with dangerous people, naive. Noé wants to save people. He sees Vanitas and the book as a way to do something he couldn't. Noé can't bring Louis back but, with Vanitas, he can help other curse-bearers. He isn't scared of the book or the blue mood (he called it BEAUTIFUL), and so he isn't scared of Vanitas.

What I find interesting is how their personalities seem to swap as the story progresses. Vanitas is slowly learning to open up while Noé seems to retreat more and more into his own mind.

There is so much focus on identity in this series and I didn't even notice until now. Domi and Noé, for example. again, trying to avoid spoilers, but Domi heavily blames herself for Louis' death -- even going so far as to mold herself into what she thinks people want.

In my opinion, Domi and Noé's relationship is more about her learning that she does not need him as much as she thinks she does. Which brings me to my next point: the side relationships in vnc are great!

Like the dhams! Dante, Johann, and Riche (although we don’t see Riche often) have some of my favorite interactions. Or the Chasseurs! Roland and Olivier are divorced husbands and Astofolo is their son, 100%

So, what are my final thoughts?

I think there is a lot of room to grow! We’re only, what, 55 chapters in? I don’t know how long the series will go on but I’m confident in the author’s ability to give each character the justice they deserve.

[hwrdak]

ok so u guys know season 5 ep 2 right. yea that episode fucking sucks ass. it’s the worst ep in the show. here’s why as written by a woc autistic bisexual

I want to talk a bit about the thought process behind entrapta. she is autistic and bisexual as confirmed by noelle, who has also said that she was based off of an autistic crew member. very funny how noelle doesn’t go into the specifics of the crew member considering the fact that they’re not even a crew member technically. they’re a story boarder that left during season 2 or 3 I believe. they had like,,, no impact on the actual writing, as none of the writers are autistic. no idea why noelle had to bring it up. or why they didn’t just confirm her autism beforehand. brownie points probably.

here’s the very big problem with the aftermath of this episode. entrapta has done awful things for the horde, and the princesses are right to be mad at that. the way they talk to her is degrading but they feel justified for doing it. however, how come it’s ONLY entrapta that this happens to? scorpia is great but other than being a prisoner, we never see her get scolded for her time in the horde. not even CATRA gets scolded for her war crimes. the princesses act as if entrapta just doesn’t care and throughout the episode, there’s a clear fact that they don’t want to bother actually talking to her or putting themselves in her pov. they pretty much left her to die, it’s not surprising that she got into the horde. but it’s very obvious that she wants to further their communication by helping them via tech and her special interest. however, mermista and the others do not use their brains and just go “yea she’ll probably go join prime lol” purely bc of her hyperfixation bc homophobia doesn’t exist but ableism sure as hell does. if ur neurotypical, let me be clear: we do not choose hyperfixations. our brain is wired to constantly think about them. the others do not consider this which is why it’s ableism. in all, there is a clear miscommunication issue with entrapta and the other princesses and it’s not entraptas fault. but the show sure as fuck tries to make it seem like it is indeed her fault and maybe she should’ve been more in touch with social cues and “””normal””” talk.

let’s focus more on entrapta for a second. it’s easy for US THE VIEWERS to say that she’s actually not the villain the princesses are making it out to be bc we’ve seen her journeys and her interactions. she grew up building robots to befriend. shes there for scorpia when she wants to talk and never turns her down. shes there for hordak when he’s questioning the dilemma of worth being wrongly tied to how perfect your actions are. entrapta doesn’t HAVE to do any of those things. but she really wants friends and wants to be a good one. I think what’s really special about the “imperfection is beautiful” scene is that she’s saying it’s okay to not be perfect and it’s okay to not exactly love or apply any kind of passed down ideology of what qualifies as perfect as a moral and ethical equivalent to the varying labels of life and what and what doesn’t make life itself worth living if no impact is being made that doesn’t satisfy the imaginary line of worthiness built on the digression of self love. hordak wants to hear that he’s perfect and that’s not what he gets. entrapta doesn’t tell him what he wants to hear, she tells him what he NEEDS to hear. bc entrapta deserves to know what it’s like to experience romance and the essence of chance meetings determined by the concept of fate. she knows what she needs and she never lets go. she doesn’t give up on anything, even after she thought she trusted catra. she forgave her and she never stopped believing in hordak. scorpia defected from the horde to be a good friend, as did hordak. she didn’t tell scorpia to go after her. she didn’t tell hordak to ditch prime. entraptas impact doesn’t need to be heavily interpreted with some kind of moral and ethics book. it’s good that people understand where she’s coming from in terms of her moral compass but maybe we don’t have to. it’s great that the crystal she gave hordak says luvd bc thats everything abt entrapta. the only thing that ever needed to be understood about entrapta is that she loves the things she holds to her so much and wants them to love her back. love varies upon all our meanings but I think entrapta does represent a very pure and meaningful direction of love, and that depends on how long your imaginary line of worth is. entrapta threw it away with love. different circumstances make u stay and hold on to things.

anyways episode 2 took whatever I just said and fuckin axe body sprayed it. the overlaying message of that dumpster fire is that entrapta just learned that her actions are bad and she should feel bad bc she was just incapable of not understanding the importance of friendship and doing what’s right until she got put on a leash and got her hair pulled like a billion times. she doesn’t even get an apology. bc apparently everything wrong that’s happened in that ep is all her fault and we’re all supposed to relate to the neurotypical abeist thought process of the princesses.

let me be very clear. ENTRAPTA NEVER NEEDED TO LEARN HOW TO DO GOOD AND BE BETTER. the very fact that the show insinuates that she actually needed to learn a lesson in actually helping people, which is something she’s been doing throughout the ENTIRE show, is bullshit. she’s a grown ass fucking woman. she knew what she was doing. and with the rebellion she wants to do better bc she’s aware she’s been wrong. she’s ALWAYS known that she’s different and can’t properly help with others outside of her expertise but apparently some of u will self combust at the thought of an autistic woman not being a child and not having to learn lessons through literal ableism. this isn’t the only time this has happened. autistic characters in shows often get surrounded by a negative stigma of ableism in order for their character to progress in any way. if u honestly think that it was good that entrapta had to risk her life to save glimmer to prove a point that she does care, ok. but don’t tell me it’s well written bc it’s all riddled with ableism. she’s been handling friendship well throughout the show and the s5 narrative completely ignores it. hell the episode is so triggering I can barely watch it without feeling nauseous.

tl;dr entrapta is the best character in the show who is very aware of friendship/doing the right thing and the episode didn’t know how to properly handle an autistic character without pandering to neurotypicals and this is the result.

[gayregis]

tbh i feel like the way ppl approach dandelions sexuality is kinda sus ngl. like oh hes promiscuous and flighty and a serial cheater Obviously hes bi! hed fuck anything lol!! as if thats not grossly biphobic lmao. like im not saying its bad to think hes bi thats perfectly fine but the way people talk abt it and how they get so attached to his womanizing and all when in the books its mostly just kinda gross and unnecessary is like. can you please focus on anything else about him lol

(this is kind of a follow up idk) i also feel like. idk if you remove the Miss Ogeny of the author dandelions whole womanizer schtick is less abt just attraction as is and more abt him being a libertine and treating romance like a game. like it doesnt matter if he actually wants the person hes flirting with it matters that They want Him. idk what im trying to say other than dandelions a horrible narcissist and it doesnt matter if he likes women like hcs are hcs just dont make him het

i agree with this take. a lot of the time, it seems as though fans try to overlook his cheating and rewrite it as him just being polyamorous with open relationships. i think this subject especially is different for everyone on how they feel about cheating - for some, it might be a trigger, and so i feel like everyone should just engage with this subject how they feel is best for them.

for me, i think dandelion’s cheating is representative of his largest character flaws - arrogance and flightiness/noncommitiality. speaking from a canon standpoint, he thinks he’s better than others he engages in relationships with or flirts with (you can see it in how he engages with them thoughout the series), and seems to be never actually emotionally vulnerable with any of the women he dates, and jumps around from partner to partner making promises but never fulfilling them. as you said, “[he treats] romance like a game. it doesnt matter if he actually wants the person hes flirting with, it matters that They want Him.”

to me, it seems like an extension of his stage persona, he flirts using poetic flattery that’s really completely devoid of any true substance. of course, this relates to how sapkowski seems to equate committment in a relationship to true love (again, canonically speaking, yennefer and geralt for instance are not a “good relationship” in the beginning, solely because they can’t commit, and this is where their various behavioral issues stem from). 

it also is of course part of his comic relief, the concept of a poet in poetic love being actually primarily driven by lust and not by love is humorous, on albeit a basic or primal level. additionally, “man gets his comeuppance from his partner for offending her love” is also a comedic trope. this can have a variety of executions and it depends on context to me whether it’s offensive or not - to me, scenes like the beginning of eternal flame are funny because of how the dialogue is comically melodramatic (with insults flying), dandelion is obviously in no position of power over vespula and is not violent at all, and the whole thing is treated comically in a “no one got hurt, this is petty drama with comic supporting characters” sense. i’m able to find humor in this because no one is the butt of the joke, except dandelion, who has wronged his lady and now must face the consequences, which defangs the idea of cheating in my perspective. of course, others might disagree, this is just my personal response to scenes like this. i try not to read too much into dandelion’s canonical love life scenes other than treating them as comic relief, because i feel that is their intended purpose (for example, i have seen takes that anna henrietta sentencing dandelion to execution was abuse on her part... to me this feels extreme and i’d rather just see it as the humor it was intended to be, for reference i just explained why i am able to find it funny and accept that others may not be able to).

but back to the subject - yes, i think that dandelion’s cheating and wronging his partners is more representative of his character flaws, and this is why i think they need to be acknowledged when addressing his character. if you remove the context of cheating and say, “see, he is only ever flirty and sweet,” i think it removes a lot of the imperfections from his character. and these imperfections are significant, because he later demonstrates commitment and humility in other ways -- mainly to geralt, who he follows into brokilon in time of contempt. 

as an aside, i find their dynamic interesting on dandelion’s side partially because of dandelion’s behavior elsewhere - he never gets emotionally attached to the women he engages with, but for geralt, he’d risk his life constantly just to be by his side, and also bare his “true self,” not putting on poetic airs and acting truthfully to who he is? it’s partially due to just the misogyny in the writing and dandelion’s character (like how yennefer never really spends time with geralt so their relationship by the end seems like we skipped 10 years of relationship development), but the dynamics still stand.

for this subject specifically, i think it just needs to be treated with a lot more carefulness than “we can erase this, he’s just very flirty and promiscuous, hey, he’s bisexual now,” because as you said, this is pretty biphobic. i think it’s fine to headcanon dandelion as bisexual, i headcanon him as bisexual, but i think there needs to be more process involved in coming to the headcanons, or the headcanon needs to be entirely divorced from his behavior.

i headcanon him as bisexual for different reasons, not because he’s promiscuous, that factor is besides the point. i’m willing to accept his canon relationships with women and i also read subtext between him and geralt, so, logic has it that i see him in canon holding intimate relationships with both women and men, that’s bisexuality. i think he also represents in the series a great love for people overall, he seems to find beauty in the world where others would rather overlook it. 

tldr dandelion’s love life in canon demonstrates his character flaws and needs to be analyzed with more depth than the biphobic “he’s lecherous, thus bisexual”. as you said, he treats romance like a game, and this is unrelated to his sexuality. derive your sexuality headcanons for dandelion elsewhere than his promiscuity.

[that-thing-that-feeling]

Do you have any excerpts from the reviews of sp2 that require payment in the US to read? If so, can you share any comments on Charlie’s part? (BFI, The Telegraph, etc)

Hey sure! I linked to the times uk one bc someone asked for it but it wasn’t good and didn’t mention Charlie. Which BFI one—sight and sound or something else? I’ll put the whole telegraph one behind the cut—it’s a fun, descriptive review that loves the film, but it only has one line on Charlie in it (“animalistic one night stand”), altho it does talk abt Patrick’s film. Anyway here it is behind the cut (does have spoilers from part one):

How much can art ever help us heal? There’s no straightforward answer to that question, which is why The Souvenir: Part II never stops posing it, readjusting the viewfinder, and switching angles. A British heavy-hitter in Cannes, this sequel to Joanna Hogg’s cinematic memoir of two years ago has a dizzyingly playful and prismatic quality. For a film overshadowed by terrible loss, it’s remarkably elating and light on its feet – at once a comedy of filmmaking egos, a multi-layered exercise in creative therapy, and a grippingly honest confessional.

Perhaps the most impressive aspect of Part II is its sheer buoyancy as a companion piece, springing off the earlier film’s strengths and finding ways to circle back, to reconsider and even critique them. Where Part I had a shimmering poignancy as a tragic love story, this is busy and dazzling: Hogg has never made a funnier piece of work or come to us with such fresh provocations.

As we neared the end of the 1980s in Part I, film student Julie (Honor Swinton Byrne) was confronted with the shock of her young life, as her boyfriend Anthony (Tom Burke) was found dead from a heroin overdose in the Wallace Collection’s toilet, having concealed the extent of his addiction from her over several years. Part II picks straight up from there, with a bedridden Julie wasting away in the Norfolk stronghold of her parents, played by Byrne's real-life mother Tilda Swinton and a brilliantly cast unknown, one James Spencer Ashworth, whose droll incomprehension typifies Hogg's deft touch with both seasoned actors and brand new ones.

While those two struggle to find the right things to say, Julie herself becomes preoccupied with what, artistically speaking, is worth saying. The main thrust becomes her determination to make a graduation film, which she decides to craft as a kind of memorial to Anthony. This project is so tentative, elusive and personal that it’s regarded with hostile bafflement by the supervisors on her course, who can’t find any through-line with her previous aesthetic and brutally retract their support.

Hogg’s satirical eye on film-school foibles is beadier than ever in such scenes, but there’s a touching esprit de corps among the student body, who may not always understand each other’s work but rally to help as far as they can. Julie, fumbling towards her vision, lacks experience, and the patience of everyone else on a film set is by no means inexhaustible. Her actors (Ariane Labed and Harris Dickinson) get stuck and vent about Julie’s work ethic while she eavesdrops; her huffy cinematographer (real-life d.p. Ben Hecking) throws a strop when she can’t make up her mind about shot choices.

Alongside Julie’s work in progress, there’s another film in production by one Patrick Le Mage (Richard Ayoade, expanding on his brief appearance last time) – an all-singing, all-dancing proletarian musical called The History of Our Youth, which looks absurd, and has just enough in common with the bang-on-period Absolute Beginners (1986) to make Ayoade’s scene-stealing pomposity feel like an insider joke. Tucked away here are some of the most exasperated film-set insights this side of François Truffaut’s Day for Night. The hard graft and impossible logistics of the medium get a thorough going-over. But there’s also a profound sense of the pleasure, and satisfaction, of making something, however imperfect, and however long it takes. For Julie, it’s this film. But Hogg adds in a tiny morality play about getting too wrapped up in your own passion projects to respect other people’s. It comes in the shape of a lumpy sugar bowl – the first fruit of a pottery class Swinton’s Rosalind has been trying.

Byrne deepens her whole take on Julie so movingly, especially in making her need for new intimacy a raw, embarrassing thing. She has one animalistic one-night stand (with Charlie Heaton) but otherwise succumbs to painful romantic drift, crushing on all the wrong people. Joe Alwyn’s emotionally supportive editor has to sweetly let her down by mentioning he has a boyfriend, at which point the camera catches her stricken, and the audience thinks, “oh, babe”. Swinton continues to know precisely who Rosalind is, of course, and flawlessly transmits her essence, with three springer spaniels as her scuffling entourage. The family scenes are perfect.

The Souvenir: Part II is already doing everything you could ask of it, and then it springs a wondrous feat of pastiche-within-pastiche, serving up a kind of dream ballet finale that’s close to indescribable. Suffice to say, the première where all the characters eventually congregate is our ticket not for a literal screening, but a leaping-off into Hogg’s (and Julie’s) wildest hopes and reveries. The sequence is a through-the-looking-glass spectacle which dresses Julie up like a 1940s glamour queen, and takes her through a series of portals – adventuring, as her own film has aimed to do, into the very mysteries of her soul. 

Even beyond this part, there’s a coup de cinéma waiting on the other side, which offers pointedly the opposite closing shot to Part I. It speaks not of any pat redemption through filmmaking, or an escape back into living once again, but of anxiety, and artifice, and selves that have merged to the point where real life and cinematic portraiture are hopelessly intertwined. From a healing point of view, this may not be quite what the doctor ordered. While entertaining us deliriously, Hogg pulls the rug out. Somewhere behind Julie’s camera, shooting into this gilded mirror, is a lost soul.

[inthestars011]

the moon signs when they’re being a bitch or a dick

Love and appreciation for all moon signs but we all slip into moments when we are not our best selves, and certain moon signs that are not nice people have a certain vibe abt them that makes them alike. This is a toxic type thing and I’m not saying u have to be like this if this is ur moon signs. some moon signs are predisposed to certain types of bitchiness than others so let’s look at that shall we

To be clear this is toxic versions of moon signs when I say bitchy and being a dick. If you have a good heart and don’t relate and have this moon sign don’t take it to heart I’m not talking about every single person.

Aries- needs to talk and needs attention for hours but never really gives a shit when u got something to say. So fucking impulsive doesn’t care if they hurt people In the process. Type to make fun of u for something u like if they don’t like it because whatever they like is automatically correct right? Yeah fuck that and u

Taurus moon- hahahaha type to make u feel stupid because it’s funny to them. Their opinion is always right, so not open minded to new views it hurts. Never lets go of shit brings shit up u did in arguments that has nothing to do with the issue at hand and they just wanna fucking guilt trip u for it to get their way. Little brats. Will not forgive or forget as if ur fucking god get a grip shit happens we make mistakes we’re human.

Gemini moon- type to gas light u and make u think u didn’t say something just because they knew they seemed bad or wrong and want to win. So fucking bitchy but in a crazy way. They will victimize themselves to win. The manipulation is so fucked. Pent up daddy issues probably they need to take care of before trying to form connections and be a loving person

Cancer moon- so family driven they’d probably fucking kill someone if they looked at their mom or dad or brother in the “wrong way” and that’s insane. Literally wants to take care of people but also complains because they want to be the baby but also doesn’t wanna be babied. Holy shit decide ur role I can’t handle ur moods. Having a sad day? They’ll be sure that you know it even if it’s not ur fault whatsoever. resentful fucks.

Leo moon- their way is the fucking high way isn’t it? They are always correct. Shut up about your own feelings and maybe validate mine for once. They want to be princessed and hate when people disagree with them well deal with it it’s called the real world. either doesn’t say shit and fucking gets mad behind ur back or fucking explodes on u like learn how to deal with ur feelings properly.

Libra- Vicious and they cover that with pretty niceness. Which makes them more mean. They are fucking vengeful. And they will make sure to ruin your entire day with there moodiness and rants about what’s right and why they’re always mad at you. No ones ever enough for them are they?also never defends anyone.

Virgo- so fucking critical like they just laugh at u when they are so imperfect themselves it’s insane. never stops talking about negative shit and brings ur energy levels so down and meanwhile u can never be open about ur own shit, nope u gotta just be their person to lean on always. Fucking exhausting emotionally. They are anxious? They are going to be super bitchy to you maybe even cuss you out because something is bugging them and they are nervous about it. How fun.

Saggitarius- ur a snake. U fucking lie about shit and ur such a bad liar too. That, or ur brutally honest and not in a cool funny way. and thanks for reminding me I look like shit today and giving me anxiety rlly needed that. You the type to put people against each other. I don’t fuck w that.

Scorpio moon- so intense and depressing but you don’t seem like you care about anyone but yourself and ur own moods. No ones here for your bittersweet tragedy replay every god damn day. You can actually be fucking emotionally volatile vengeful and overall nasty and you are silent about that side of u at first because u don’t want ppl to know. That’s truly scary stuff.

Capricorn- cold hearted as fuck. Thanks for literally bringing up common sense into every conversation and never acknowledging my feelings. You constantly know how to make me people question if u care about them. You don’t appreciate love and you laugh at people that are different than u just like Aries moon. So stuck in ur ways it’s annoying. “ur doing it wrong”, ok pls fucking do it then.

Aquarius moon- just seems like you don’t care at all honestly. Like what is the diff between friends and strangers? Is there no meaning to ur connections. That’s how u make ppl feel, just like random people along the way. Ur centre stage tho aren’t u? Who gives a fuck about anyone unless they’re helping u get something? also u rlly care abt ur rep to the point where u don’t care you’ll do anything so sad.

Pisces moon- passive aggressive as fuck pls communicate and don’t be a baby. You act like a literal child and you need to grow up. Promises don’t mean anything to you it’s your own morals overal other peoples feelings. I’ll leave that at that. I don’t fucking trust u, u the type to always go behind my back.

[najilas]

did  you  just  see  NAJILA TAMIMI  pull  up  on  campus  for  the  new  semester  ?  they're  the  TWENTY-ONE  year  old  in DELTA ZETA ALPHA  right  ?  i  heard  they're  a  PRESIDENT  .  it  makes  perfect  sense  because  they’re  DECEITFUL  ,  but  at  the  same  time  DEBONAIR .  i  wonder  when  the  black  sheep  is  going  to  drop  the  big  secret  that  they  RECENTLY HAD AN ABORTION AND DIDN’T TELL THE FATHER  .  anyway  ,  i  constantly  hear  them  blasting  GLORY AND GORE  -  LORDE ,  tell  them  to  keep  it  down  ,  it's  quiet  hours  .

hi babes!! my name is mari, i’m 21 & my timezone is brt !! najila is a new character of mine so i’m still figuring her out a bit but ?? i am so excited to play her here akndjaskdn here’s a bit abt her !!

tall, blonde, and beautiful. born with a silver spoon doesn’t even begin to describe najila tamimi, daughter of sillicon valley billionaire hassan tamimi and former super model saskia van hall. life for najila was easier than most, but the combination of brains and beauty left by her parents meant the pressure to be perfect was high.

mostly, she succeeded. she managed being volleyball team captain, science olympiad champion, and student body president all while maintaining a 4.0 gpa and a fairly stable social life. the overachieving was something she got from her father. from her mother, however, she got the impeccable looks, perfect hair, and beautiful smile which made everyone either hate her or be her best friend. and really, those are generally the extremes you get with someone like najila.

on the outside, she is a selfless, extremely loyal, ride or die friend who will hold your hair while you puke and not even mention it the next day. she will make sure everybody loves you, get you in on the biggest parties, introduce you to anyone who’s anyone in the area you wanna work with, buy you ultra expensive gifts just because they reminded her of you. but she does have a hint of backstabbing bitch which means she will likely tell others about the things you did in a semi judgemental tone if you do anything that steps outside her lines of “perfect, elegant, and classy”. and if she hates you, be prepared to suffer, because she knows just how to play the victim whilst spreading vicious rumours about you.

so, is najila tamimi a good person? it’s hard to tell. but if you try to claim the contrary you will first have to scroll through her instagram page which is just as filled with her doing volunteer work and attending the mosque on fridays as it is of her at fancy parties with beautiful people. 

the truth is she’s a mess of contradictions and it’s as easy to love her as it is to hate her. she appears to be the most humble person in the world despite all her beauty and wealth, but deep down is incredibly proud of all she’s accomplished and incredibly afraid that one day she’ll be dethroned.

despite having been offered modeling jobs a thousand times over, najila mostly declines them because she is too busy and has no need for the money. she’s also too ambitious and has big plans to make her mark. she’s majoring in physiological science, with a literature minor. her plan is to go to medical school and then work with an organization such as doctors without boarders, and work in research later in life. the literature minor is more of a hobby, really, as she loves it but not enough to pursue it and knows she won’t have enough time to study it later in life.

being as focused as she is on achieving her goals and exuding an image of perfection, seeing the two lines on a home pregnancy test turned her world entirely upside down. once it was confirmed, she knew she didn’t have long to make a decision. in discussions about abortion, najila had always had a clear stance, “it should be the woman’s choice, but i don’t think i could ever do it” and yet it seemed like the only thing that would not jeopardize the perfect future she had planned for herself.

she felt incredibly guilty during the entire process and those who are close to her may notice –– as much as she will deny it –– that something has changed. she barely eats or sleeps lately and is throwing herself into her studies and president duties more than ever. but the beautiful smile is still ever present on her face as she attempts to move on as if nothing had happened. what’s important is that no one ever finds out what she did, and this stays behind as the only imperfect stain in her otherwise perfect life.

wanted connections !!

best friend (f/nb): honestly i feel like this would be a very blair/serena type thing where they can be bitchy and fight a lot but at the end of the day they’re ALWAYS there for one another and it’s that sort of thing where ‘no one talks shit about my best friend except for me!!!’ i’d imagine najila told them about the abortion but nowadays tries to pretend like she’s fine and nothing ever happened.

would-be baby daddy (m/nb): could be a fwb, one night stand, ex boyfriend, wHATEVER the point is najila didn’t say anything about the pregnancy and feels incredibly guilty just looking at them and there’s bound to be lotsa drama when it gets out.

frenemies (m/f/nb): because with this combination of nice and bitchy there’s bound to be a lot of those!!!

party friends (m/f/nb): najila is a great party buddy cause she’ll stay up until 6 am, pay for ur drinks, and knows just the right amount of drugs you can take in order to get fucked up but not die!

sibling like relationship (f/nb): tbh i’d love this to be a younger delta zeta girl who najila just full on adopted and is probably grooming to become sorority president in the future. acts like their mother and would ruin anyone who tried to hurt them. 

rival (f/m/nb): please i NEED a spicy rivalry !! probably someone who sees right through najila’s bullshit and thinks she’s a two faced bitch who doesn’t deserve all the credit she gets. she will definitely throw a lot of shade and spread nasty rumours so beware !!!!!

exes (f/m/nb): there’s so much we can explore here !!! naj is bisexual but is closeted af (type of girl who says kissing other girls at parties doesn’t count!!!!) so tbh i’d love a girl who she truly loved but wouldn’t assume her so it was a dramatic breakup through and through. but tbh she’s the type of girl who seems to always be dating so ??? exes who are still friends, exes who still hookup, exes who can’t even look at each other, i want them all

and honestly anything else we can come up with bc some of the best connections come from brainstorming anyway !! that is all !!! ily pls plot with me goodbye 

[unproduciblesmackdown]

kinda a funny shtick of mine that i’m aro and have such strong takes about Romance(tm) but also like, it’s also kind of a funny shtick that the stuff that i’m always most inherently opposed to tends to be like, the most truly (tm) of ~romantic~ concepts aka the Magical-y stuff and whatnot so it’s like i’m coldhearted for being like “uhh i hate that” and yet imo like, the way i prefer to think of things strikes me as the warmer perspective on it

for example whenever it’s the ol “romance is isolating!” which like, usually goes along with “romance means caring less about other ppl who aren’t your partner b/c you don’t need them anymore!” like. well usually it feels like the bass-boosted DIE FOR EACH OTHER vine lmao but also like. yeah where it’s like “okay now that we have each other we don’t need anything else from Life, let’s shut ourselves away and be happy about that, if it’s in a mausoleum that’s fine b/c why would i care about anything besides Being Together” or how like, wow being with you is so great that i don’t need to think about my dumbass friends anymore like.........here i come in with my “zero / fun!” knuckle tats to be like “what if loving someone didn’t need to be defined by if you love everyone else Less” and “what if loving someone wasn’t measured by how fine you’d be with isolating yourself and still being happy b/c they’re with you? that’s very convenient for capitalism btw and its Nuclear Family Unit Is All You Need agenda” b/c [that post abt the guy throwing down the capitalismo card]

and in general i just don’t think there’s any “good” isolating forces in any kind of relationship. and that means me stomping on the magical glowing embers of a lot of magical romance concepts but, like i said, i don’t find those kinds of ideas Warm and Idealistic and Romantic in the first place

that “romance = not isolating maybe? let’s consider that??” actually covers a lot of grievances i have lol but furthermore maybe it’s shocking to hear that i don’t go for much of anything that leans too far into the It’s Magical direction like that love transcends the Everyday and us being human like. actually i strongly take the perspective that love is a super ordinary and deeply human experience and like, isn’t that a Nicer idea than that Feeling Love is us glitching out of how we usually are.........like love doesn’t Have to upend your wholeass existence Constantly And Forever and that’s not lesser than if it does for someone else ig.......it doesn’t have to transform every aspect of life into wonderment.........quality time with a significant figure doesn’t need to be like, the most spectacular unspeakably beautiful stuff only and always......not that getting Swept Up In E-Mo-Tion or doing activities with your partner which are Not everyday and which are fairly special / spectacular or finding a relationship to be somewhat dramatic / transformative etc etc whatever is bad just that like. it doesn’t have to be Constant and it’s not going to be and that doesn’t mean that real life is just failing to live up to the Ideal or something......more that sharing the Ordinary Stuff isn’t at all inferior or whatevs

anyways i went off and started talking and lost track of whatever i’m saying here so first of all I Hate The Idea Of Romance Being Isolating and I Prefer To Think Of Romance As Ordinary Rather Than Transcendent and are these not the more “romantic” perspectives honestly and it’s all in line with my would-be “i hate fun” qualities like when i don’t like when something’s trying too hard to be funny-cute all the time or something. hard to describe but i know it when i see it. Anyways it is my demand for things that are Genuine which leads me to respond to stuff with bitterness and opinionated-rant-time and the like. though also i’m like that basically all the time, so plenty of other things lead me to that response too. oh wait no yeah and when things like, are trying to Evoke being Genuine but it’s obviously this non-genuine performance of it and trying too hard and i Know It When I See It and it annoys me sm like don’t insult me. get away with that stuff. pandering to the cute & quirky angle like you know what. i hate this. weirdly enough i don’t find stuff that makes its brand to be like, never being “negative” or “bitter” to Seem Genuine in the first place, so, obviously.........i will Not stop being opinionated as hell about everything, it is just part of my charm at this point. or at least a characteristic of mine that i don’t feel the need to sand down because it’s like, not every difficult trait is a flaw!!! i’m already restricted enough by Being Accommodating And Convenient As Possible for everyone and over-self-critiquing any ~difficult~ or uh-oh Imperfect traits. it’s fine.........anyways and tldr what is romantic about someone’s presence in your life like, diminishing everything else that isn’t Them?? why shouldn’t it be expansive and open someone’s life and their capacity to love rather than narrow the focus of it??? catch my rants about “i hate this trope in fiction or attitude in real life towards Romance” airing basically every day in my head, b/c honestly tf is this

[jcraft]

Answery Answery!!

For the In-Depth Ask Game post!!

Thank y’all so so so much for sending these in! It really helped me think more about his character and our relationship and he we act differently and oof ouch my heart

Anyways!!!!

1 2 3 5 and 8!

1) Your FO is watching you, love in their eyes and filled with adoration. What does that look like, and how does it feel?

He just looks so mesmerized, and I can see this warm, quiet, content happiness just radiating from him. It feels like the sun shining off the surface of the ocean just before sunset, and the water is warm swirling around your feet but the air is just a cool breeze. It is euphoria. When our eyes meet, it’s fireworks in our hearts.

2) How long did it take your FO to trust you enough to let their guard down around you? Was it an instant thing, or did they have to work towards it? And if they had to work, do you remember the moment that things changed? Describe that moment.

I would say that Lumi took a while to come out of his shell, but I was the one that had walls built up so heavily that he really had to work to help me let them down. He was kind of shy at first, but it was also a “love at first sight” situation, even though he couldn’t initially place what that attraction was. Both of us weren’t sure we could trust each other entirely at first, but we both figured out that we kind of had trust issues and we talked about why and that was a serious turning point for us. As we spent more time together, we withheld less and less personal info abt ourselves, like our past experiences (positive or negative) and what our dreams were and we can openly talk about stuff that might be kind of hard, like the direction in which we wanted our relationship to go or boundaries and what we expect out of each other. It’s really refreshing to have someone that I can trust and who I feel like is listening to me as well as I listen to him.

3) None of us are perfect, what are your favourite imperfections your FO has, and what would they say yours are? Do they compliment one another, or work against one another? Do you ever discuss this between you?

As much as he is perfect for me and I rarely pay attention to this, he can get a little extra clingy sometimes, but I (although less) can be exactly the same way. Whether it’s texting too much, wanting to be around each other 24/7, one of us being sad when the other chooses to have a “friends only” night, whatever, it never gets overwhelming. Honestly, I find it so charming, because while it might seem a tad annoying, I know it comes from a place of deep love, and it’s so wonderful to know that he cares about me so much. For me specifically, I have this problem where I feel the need to “prove” my love to him whether I get him little gifts or try to surprise him with a date night or do little services for him (rub his shoulders and neck, cook dinner, do some chores he was gonna do, run errands and etc.) because that is a major component of my love language. I try not to be too smothering and I hope it never comes across that way, but because we communicate so openly about our boundaries, it’s never become that kind of pent-up stress problem. We try to keep the relationship healthy despite our little imperfections :)

5) Whether or not your relationship was accepted in the beginning, you are together now and people just have to deal with that. What do you think your friends think about your partnership, and how would that contrast with what your enemies would think?

Ok so the tea is like,.,, I’m kind of embarrassed saying it but ANYWAYS when we met he actually got dragged along to the place I work (it’s like a club and they hire people like me to blend in with the crowd to keep up the fun vibe and also encourage ppl to buy booze) by a friend because he was somewhat depressed after getting broken up with by his previous partner (I didn’t know about this for a WHILE actually) who was in his friend group but still wanted to be friendly even though they didn’t want to date him anymore. He was respectful of it but his other friend whom he was closer with was like “nah man you gotta get out of th house” and stuff. They’re a really good friend and just wanted to see him happy so when we first got together they were the most supportive, but the rest of his friend group kind of saw me as just “the rebound girl” and thought that we wouldn’t last for long. They weren’t mean but they were like, not exactly trying to hide that they were a little bit nervous about me joining them esp. because his previous partner was still part of that group. Now, THEY were real nice to me, and tried their best to not be awkward and the two of us actually got along really well, even though there was a little bit of lingering tension. Time fixes a lot of thing though, because the longer I stayed with him and made friends with them, the more we all came to like each other. They’re some really wonderful friends 💞

8) The above was long so this will be deliberately short: Your FO means the world to you, how do you ensure they know that? And how do they prove that to you?

Oh boy here we go. So, earlier I said I have this weird need to prove myself to him or whatever that I’m a good gf but like. Sometimes I just gotta TELL him how much he means to me, and how perfect a time it was that we came across each other and how lucky I feel every day that I have him. I will straight up come over and just cuddle the heck out of him and he is not getting up for at least a half an hour. I know he knows how much I love him because he not only tells me so, but he shows it through how much trust there is between us regarding pretty much anything. He also reciprocates with lots of little kisses and compliments and tells our friends about how sweet and great I am and I’m like ???💛💕!???💖?! and just. I just know he knows I love him. I feel the vibe.

[kae-karo]

things i’m grateful for

okay preface: i hate the reason thanksgiving was invented ofc but i do love the concept of taking a day to sit back and remind myself of the things in my life that i’m grateful for so here we go (and pls i encourage y’all to take some time and do the same) anyway feel free to read below the cut if y’all want way too much insight into my personal life lmao

my friends

without question, my experience both in the phandom and like in life in general has so massively improved thanks to these lovely people and i can’t say i’d be as happy a person as i am without them

of course my incredible gcs (jolly best friends and dickmates, “moderate sex references”, we have goldfish memories, katashen, and the gc that always changes names lmao) and the lovelies in them @thereisnobearonthisisland @philsroots @uselessphillie @daliensgrandads @severaltortillascollector @dnptrqsh @dip-and-pip-trash @transhowell @dreamdilddy @hey-itskxt @dreamdilddy @freckliephil @philsdrill @phloridas @lovestillaround @legdabs @amczingphil @phantasieslide @maanjha @manialester @sleeplessnightwithphan @phandumb @imnotinclinedtomaturity @auroraphilealis @ineverywordisay @glitterydanandphil @kerasines @workinprogress91 @merridewhoo @natigail @swissfuckingcheesegdi @phastelpink​ @stick-it-to-the-phan @phanarchy

my dearest friends irl with whom i never spend enough time and often bail on bc i’m tired of existing around people, but who never fail to be lovely and kind and wonderful friends anyway. i’ve known them for eight years now and i am so lucky to have found them and to still be friends with them

a very good friend of mine who taught me everything i know about customer service and just being a diligent person (she’s also literally the reason i link everything so uhh thank her lmao) who i consider my lesbian big sister and who i’ve been so so lucky to get to reconnect with and will get the opportunity to work with starting in december and who even remembered one of my fave bands like after literally two years when i only mentioned them one time i love her

my family

whomst thank fuck are not on this hellsite but i love them all dearly

my sister who’s like still figuring her life out and doing a way better job of deciding what she enjoys doing than i ever did and like she’s younger than me but it’s a constant lesson that hey look it’s good to be true to yourself and do what you want. and i’m so grateful that we don’t fight the way we used to, that we’re like partners in crime and that she actually likes spending time with me and thank god she’s not gonna see this bc she thinks i get too sappy sometimes but i gotta make up for hiding her glasses when we were younger and literally forgetting about them for two weeks okay <3

my parents who have always been steadfast supporters even when they don’t love my choices. without them, i wouldn’t be where i am today, i wouldn’t have the level of independence i do today, and honestly i wouldn’t have learned to find the strength to follow my own path. i also can’t thank them enough for supporting even when they don’t understand, like they literally do not understand dnp but my dad found out they were doing ii and asked if i would want tickets for christmas and my mom always asks about my writing

my grandma who, bless her soul, has been completely alone without my grandpa for two years now, after having been with him since she was sixteen, who reminded me (unintentionally) that people who are suffering from mental health issues (she’s had depression for years now) can so greatly benefit from having someone reach out. i’m grateful for our weekly calls where we just catch up, because sometimes i go for a year without seeing her in person (usually just for the holidays) and it’s good to know how things are going with her. i’m also eternally grateful to her for reminding me that people are just people. my parents often talk about her as if she’s some one-dimensional character who only has a handful of (negative) personality traits, and it’s nice to get to know her on my own

the rest of my extended family, who, although i’m not nearly as close to, are still always fun to see during the holidays, and i’m immensely grateful that i don’t have the kind of family that i dread seeing. there’s always entertainment, overflowing alcohol (not that i partake, but everyone else has a fuckin blast with it), and laughter and although i occasionally feel a bit outside the circle (lots of cousins getting married/in relationships/etc and uhhh can’t relate lmao) i never fail to look forward to seeing everyone

y’all

yeah ik it’s cheesy but i do really appreciate y’all so much? like. i just read this note i made to myself abt something unrelated a year ago but i’d offhand mentioned that i was so so thrilled to have almost a hundred people following me. like it just blew my mind that so many people were interested in what i had to say, in my writing at the time, etc. and now,,,,,i mean. jfc i can’t even begin to fathom what i must’ve done to deserve all of y’all, and to deserve you all being so kind. like since the minute i joined tumblr i saw/heard horror stories of mean anons, of people being rude for the sake of it, etc etc. and like. of the literal thousands of asks i’ve gotten, i can count on one hand the number of even vaguely unkind ones. it just makes me so immensely happy to know that such lovely, kind people want to participate in this blog. so please know that i appreciate the existence of every single one of you not just uwu bc u follow me and that’s what i’m supposed to say or w.e but bc you’re out here making a positive impact on the world and on me, and you’re the kind of lovely person that i’m so glad i have the pleasure of existing alongside

dnp

¯\_(ツ)_/¯ u knew it was coming, but honestly i am grateful to them as people

they set such fantastic examples for how to be good humans, constantly donating their time to good causes, reminding us to take care of ourselves, and doing their best to figure themselves out which yes is so incredibly important bc it’s this amazing example of how people aren’t any perfect shiny version of themselves, they’re real and raw and imperfect and that’s why we love them???? and by extension, that teaches us self love and love for others

that’s another thing i really didn’t realize at first - how much self-hatred i was harboring, how much internalized homophobia (toward myself! never others) and how much i just accepted about the world (heteronormativity, misogyny, the lack of diversity in media, the list goes on) and a lot of things said by both dnp and by the phandom have helped open my eyes to things like that. and dnp helped me realize that being ace isn’t a bad thing??? which was such a horrible thing i’d held onto for years and years

so i’m so grateful to dnp for existing, for being who they are and how they are and for encouraging the wonderful kindness and acceptance that they want to see in the world

my therapist

and to daniel and depression for convincing me to see one. i’ve let go of a lot of the baggage i was holding onto over the time i’ve been seeing my therapist and i’m grateful to her for, well, doing her job. and for doing it well, and for asking the questions that i didn’t think to ask, to get at things i didn’t think about before. and for reminding me (not directly, but by virtue of her existence) that honesty is one of the most important things to me

my job

or just generally the jobs i’ve had over the years that force me to interact with people, because it’s taught me that nobody’s ever angry or upset for no reason, and that people who are angry or upset and mean are not mean because they’re actually trying to be vicious but because they’re suffering in some way. so it’s a daily reminder to treat everyone with kindness and not take things personally, because ultimately most people are not intentionally vicious people. and i’m grateful to my job for reminding me how meaningful it is to me to help others

#privilegecheck

i think it’s important at this point that i stop and remind myself that i was born with a lot of privilege that makes my life immensely easy compared to others. i’m grateful for my upbringing and the ways that i’ve benefited from my privilege, but i need to acknowledge that i have benefited. not everyone is as lucky, and i need to be mindful of that in the things i do and say, and in the actions i choose to take, and - when i can - i should be using my privilege to help others

and finally, my greatest of thanks goes out to the fic writers, the gif makers, the edit makers, the phan artists, and all the other lovely people who make this community so wonderful

[rahmaelsayad]

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If you make a boy laugh, He likes you. But if you make a boy cry, He loves you.

Bahut gurur tha sbko apni daulat pe.. zara sa zameen kya hili sb aukat me aa gye..

I told my parents I had my eye on a bike for my birthday. They told me to keep my eye on it because my arse won’t be on it.

Finding friends that have the same mental disorder as you.

It can take me anywhere between 0.02 seconds and 3 days to reply to a text.

Sometimes it is painful to see that the people most appreciate is false.

Girls with open messy hair, chubby cheeks, a dimple, and spectacles.. Aww, you look so cute.!

Opportunity tends to knock once, then it’s gone…temptation, however, likes to stand there and lean on the damn doorbell!

Make your nature simple, the time will not be wasted.

Hope is the power that gives a person the confidence to step out and try…..

Alone doesn’t mean lonely, lonely doesn’t have to be alone.

Beauty is power, a smile is its sword..

We all need mirrors to remind ourselves who we are.

Things r beautiful if u love them.

If I could be anything, l would be ur tear, so l could be born in ur eye, live down ur cheek and die on ur lips…

You say it best when you say nothing at all!!

Sometimes, i want to meet myself from someone else’s point of view!

Shit happens. Everyday. To everyone. The difference is in how people deal with it.

Maturity is not when we start speaking big things. It is when we start understanding small things.

Sometimes I’ts better To be Alone.. Nobody Can Hurt You!

God is really creative, I mean.. just look at me! 🙂

Last seen 1980! 😀

Thinking holds what you feel, feeling drives what we think.

A friendship that can end never really began !

I dont have a lot of friends, I just know a lot of people.

A friend is someone who knows all abt u and accept u as u are.

Right or Wrong doesn’t ‎exist! When u have a ‎CONFIDENCE.

Life is Just a Journey.

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Be bold to own your mistakes in Life, accept your faults and improve your personality.

I speak for what i see, I stand for what I Beileve. I strive for what i want.

When u love someone, even though they hurt u nd break your heart, you still love them with all the little pieces!!

World is small and life is short.. Spread smiles and share peace.

People who tolerate me on the daily basis! are real heroes in my eye.

Life goes on with or without you!

I hate fake people. You know what I’m talking about. Mannequins. 😀

I am the circle, and the circle is me.

24 Hours Online!

Classic book is a book which people praise, but do not read.

Cheer up, tomorrow will be a better day, just believe!

It might take awhile, but eventually you’re going to find the good in goodbye.

When the past calls, let it go to voicemail.. it’s got nothing new to say.

Play the moments. Pause the memories. Stop the pain. Rewind the happiness.

Romantic are people that had never seen the other side of the things.

The Ones Who Are Crazy Enough To Think That They Can Change The World Are The Ones Who Do.

Love is not possible without sacrifice, and sacrifice is not possible without love.

Love is when u have seen the best and the worst of sam1,yet u still love them for what they have..

True love doesan’t have a happy ending. It has NO ending.

Call me crazy, but I’m madly in love with you and this won’t go away for a while, so get use to it..

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Sometimes you have to act like you don’t care, even when you do.

You have no idea how much l like you. How much you make me smile, how much l love talking to you, or how much l wish you were here.

Every problem comes with solution, but my GF don’t have.

Life is too short. Don’t waste it reading my status.

Give thanks for a little and you will find a lot.

What is known in the heart doesn’t always need to be uttered by Mouth.

Don’t feel special. Some people keep your number in phone list just not to answer your call.

After all we all are stories in the end.

Sometimes the person you trust most is the one who trust you the least.

Go for someone who is not only proud to have you but will also take every risk just to be with you.

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Some People Change Your Life, Then Leave Without Explanation !!

The most eloquent silence, that of two mouths meeting in a kiss.

Play the moments. Pause the memories. Stop the pain. Rewind the happiness.

I Miss you dearly my heart aches, My head is lost, I really miss you.

The Ones Who Are Crazy Enough To Think That They Can Change The World Are The Ones Who Do.

Romantice are people that had never seen the other side of the things.

I think I might be falling for you. I love who you are and every little thing you do.

Life doesn’t get easier u get stronger.

Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.

Stop saying I wish start saying I will.

Love yourself love your day love your life.

Don’t let a bad day make u feel u have a bad life.

I’ve got nothing to bo today but smile.

Life is to short to remove USB slowly.

Nobody can teach me who I am.

It doesn’t have to be perfect to be beautiful.

Sometimes it’s not about missing someone. its wondering if they’re missing you

You know how you don’t want to miss them, but you want them to miss you

Absence makes the heart grow fonder

Love is missing someone whenever you’re apart, but somehow feeling warm inside because you’re close in heart.

If we evolved from monkeys, why are there still monkeys?

Dont talk if you dont have any good thing to say

A female can be your best friend and worst enemy. It all depends on how you treat her.

Remember, You are unique, but then again so is everyone else in this world.

Sometimes the right one for you is the one who was there the whole time.

If they can’t swallow facts, let them eat fiction.

I think of you in colours that don’t exist.

Guys who run girl’s account on Facebook are the ones who secretly buy barbie and comb its hair.

Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and its better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.

Mujhe teri mohabbat ko sahara mil gaya hota.. agar tufan nahi aata kinara mil gaya hota…

Pluviophile: a lover of rain, someone who finds joy and peace of mind during rainy days.

Aarju honi chahiye dill me kise ko yad karne ki.. Lamhe toh apne ap he miljate he dost

Baharo phool barshao mera mehboob aya hain..

Saw a Chinese kid and a black kid wave to each other today. It gave me hope…for another Rush Hour movie…

They say what goes around comes around, passed a packet of chips and never came back.

Duniya main sirf 2 Chize Mashoor Hai, tere bhai ka Style, aur teri bhabhi ki smile.

Thanks to the words ‘dude’ ‘bro’ and ‘man’ I haven’t said my best friends name in 10 years.

Tu hi ye mujhko bata de.. chahu main ya na..

Ye zami ruk jaye, Ye aasma tam jaye, Jab tere chara samn aaye.

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