#and i'm funny and honest and i'm validating. i'm hitting everything.

[elytrafemme]

everyone please manifest that i wake up a normal person tomorrow because i am treacherously close to going on a fucking warpath

[kingdeku-queentoga]

I'll be honest, I wasn't that crazy for Asmodeus first appearance in the show because to me he was someone I wouldn't mind not seeing again, but this new ep had really shown off his character.

Bro is just a gentleman that is reasonable, nice, and simply head over heels for his man.

I am honestly going to break down this whole scene just because it is that good and interesting.

I love how the first thing he does is ask stolas how is his love life with blitz going, not even holding a grudge about them crashing his club.

Then if you look close at what ozz was doing to the chair, he was literally pulling out stolas seat for him.

Now Asmodeus view on love potions is valid, there is no love, no thrill, no LUST behind such a lazy, forceful, boring thing. It should be a journey, there should be passion, it has to be earned... then enjoyed heh.

This was where it got funny because he really hit stolas with "honey I would help you if I could be unfortunately... my bf HATES your bf, so I'm sorry but I can't help you with this" BRUH LMAO, that is why he is a real one for that because he doesn't have a problem with blitz himself BUT his bf do, so that means he can't exactly help his bf enemy, even if him and stolas are cool with each other.

And another point is giving to him because even when stolas asked why do fizzarolli hate blitz, he told him "sorry but that isn't my business to tell" instead of telling fizzarolli and blitz whole backstory together, or what he do know about them. Which is awesome because sometimes people will tell somebody everything when it is not their business.

[michelleelizabethtanner]

how do you think the song whole life applies to brio?

Aaa, Anon, ty for the ask. How romantic was this song, amirite?? Like, poor Rio. He very reasonably was so upset with Beth for her attempted murder – so much so that he killed an innocent young woman to show Beth who’s boss – but then was just like, “I can’t. I’m too mentally unstable to fight this so let’s just get married.” How funny is this whole premise of him forgiving her, seemingly without anything on her part to earn it. Not really. She brought him Boomer. Ooooo. She bought him a spa shop to wash his money. Why was Rio so excited about that? She gave him crumbs and he kept coming back.

This show gave Beth a lot of outs and it made Rio so deliciously out of control about her. And don’t get me wrong, I love it all. But sometimes the humor of the implausibility of it all hits me and I can’t help but laugh. Like, sure, this aloof and calculating gang leader is such a fool for this woman that he’s screwing up everything, including risking his life and family. And yet, here we are with these fools. Rio is just damaged enough, and Beth validates him in just the right ways for him to actually risk his entire kingdom for her.

The song choice is just 🤌. This music department wanted to make SURE we all knew that Rio forgives Beth and is back to pining.

The mark where [s]he left me

A clip on my wing

Oh, let it soften

I forgive everything

I once hummed the seasons

Now, I'm whistling

Half of my whole life is done

Let it drift and wash away

Shadows soften toward some tender light

In slow motion I leave them behind

Essentially, translated to, “I’m too old for this bullshit. Let’s start fresh and be friends.”

I keep looking for ways in which this song can be mutually applicable for them, and I’m just not finding it. Beth was nowhere near forgiving him and letting it all “drift and wash away.” She was still in the process of her incremental softening to him. She was still guarded and nowhere near the place where Rio was here. Not even in the final scene. It’s maybe one of the many ways Beth and Rio have a disproportionate relationship and power dynamic. It’s the one consistent thing about them. She never sees it, and to him nothing is more obvious. Her audacity to shoot him and cry victim. Her privilege to move in society in ways he never can. Her demand to matter in his world while never offering him the same privilege. And he’s the one always having to bend. Always having to forgive. So I view this song and their whole relationship as pretty one-sided in that way.

Yes, she chooses him in her own ways. Yes, she has great feeling when it comes to him. Powerful feeling. Frightening feeling. But she uses her own lack if emotional intelligence as an excuse to never be the one to give. We saw her try, in the final moments of the show. We saw her offer him protection. But it cost her nothing. (Well, nothing except her marriage. Nothing except her old self.) She basically won. She self-actualized at his expense. She propped herself up on his strength. She made a joke about it even. And Rio, in true tropey-love-interest fashion, was happy to do it for her and loved her all the more for it. “You got it, boss.”

As you can see, I have conflicting feelings about it. About this song. If pushed, I’d say that season 4 gave Beth forgiveness too quickly. She could have earned it. I wish she would have ended the season and series as a better person. As someone more empathetic and self aware. Which is why I love 4.08. I like to see her cry for him. Watch her watch him suffer. Beth being honest with herself is rare and redeeming. But my feelings about this fluctuate with my mood, so maybe tomorrow I’ll be more forgiving of her frustrating selfishness when it comes to Rio. Don’t come for me. I still love Beth. I’m like Rio – I forgive her everything. If he loves her, then so can I.

[manikrege]

Why I love my body but hate being fat

I feel like we all publicly support body positivity but secretly hate being on the chubbier side. And I want to talk about it today.

First off, I'm not ashamed or afraid of the idea of being a heavy person because I've been chubby almost all my life.

That said, I am neither normalizing nor validating nor glorifying being overweight because it has only brought me pain, both emotional & physical - so I don't actually support it.

After facing real medical consequences for my poor fitness, I made a definitive lifestyle change last to last year, shedding a record 20 kilos in just ten months. I reached the lowest weight I've been since my college days. My friends & family were thrilled to see this. So was I. They said I was looking so much better & happier ... and yes, frankly, I was!!

But what many people quickly shunned or discounted was the fact that I had a complete career break/sabbatical to make it work. I had dropped my work, fired my part-time clients, and solely focused on taming the scale.

People said they'd never be able to get such results alongside all the responsibilities & hustles that they had to do to survive. And it made my entire struggle look like a privileged kid's rectification of a mistake he should've never made in the first place.

What nobody acknowledged was that putting your entire life on pause while others around you race ahead, takes balls of steel. It takes guts. It takes deep thinking, prioritisation, and commitment.

But I get it. When it was time to go back to work last summer, the stress made me gain back some of that "cheddar," and I'm now in a bit of a struggle to cut back again. However, I'm confident that if I stick to my old strict regime, I'll be back in tip-top shape before the rains hit.

More to the point, one unhealthy emotion I caught myself having was that I've not been putting in all that effort for myself.

A lot of my motivation to literally run stems from anxiety. The anxiety of people pointing out the re-emerging dad bod, the belly, the tires, and the double chin. The anxiety of my dear ones asking if everything is okay.

I am quite literally running away from the idea of a fat person. Because ... I realise that I'm not actually ashamed of being fat. I'm just really damn tired of the assumptions it brings.

I'm tired of the assumptions it brings with itself, and frankly, all of them aren't even negative, they're just plain annoying.

First, fat people are supposed to not feel good about themselves. Because anytime someone complains about being fat, they're assured that "they still look beautiful," whereas that is seldom something we want to imply.

Second, when I was over 100 kgs, not a lot of people took me very seriously or made me feel like they do. Because fat people are rarely taken seriously. I was the stereotypical "funny brother" for girls. This isn't some toxic masculine Andrew Tate talk, it's the reality. As a fat boy, I was really never really respected.

When I lost the excess weight, I noticed a shift in people's tone & how they treated me. They listened and touched me more.

It was as if they'd just realised I was capable of walking on two feet like them. Like I was somehow worthy of attention. Whether you agree with me or not, I know for a fact that it did make both serious job interviews & flirting with my crushes a lot easier.

When I brought this up in a dinner conversation, someone insisted that I had gotten it all wrong. They said that it was more about me being confident and happier in my new body, which is what many people were noticing and reciprocating. They said my real & honest best friends & family had always loved me (and always will), no matter how I look or how much I weigh.

To put it simply, it was me who had recently joined my own fan club.

I didn't want to admit it but my friend was right.

Being healthy is good for us, mentally.

I did feel lighter. I did feel happier.

'Cuz no more sweat marks! No more being cautious about sitting on theme park rides and getting asked to leave because you can't fit in properly.

No more issues taking or appearing in selfies. No more sucking in my belly & struggling to wear my belt at job interviews.

NO MORE AVOIDING TREKS OR OUTDOORSY STUFF because I can now finally sprint & twist my body without chaffing my thighs red or puffing hard like I'm being choked.

Trust me, losing weight is the most satisfying & nearly ORGASMIC experience you can give yourself. It is worth all the hunger, restraint, discipline & physical turmoil you'll have to go through at the gym. It is worth every bit of it.

I treated myself better after coming out of the personal war. And like my pal said, maybe that just spilt over into how others approached me too.

This is beautiful but also instructional because it teaches us that a large part of our struggles with body confidence stems from shame.

Subtle SHAME that we think it'll invite from other people. Like the subtle shaming at parties and weddings and beach activities.

For example, many of us feel ashamed to take off our shirts at swimming pools because we know people will stare.

On that note, I also hate how people assume that girls have it worse. It's not a competition but nobody talks about how big of a nightmare it is for men. Chubby men who often get turned away on dating apps. Chubby men who often have to stand at the end behind someone else in group photos. Chubby men who must pretend to be comfortable in their bodies & look all chill about it but can never talk about how they really feel.

It's time to say the truth - Being fat (or too skinny) SUCKS ASS. To put it in Wolf of the Wall street style, I've been a fat man & a fit man, and if I was given a choice, I'd choose fit every time.

It has taken me so much time & practice to fall in love with myself. More so it has taken me 22 years to finally fucking respect myself.

And so I'm teaching myself to overcome the negativity. I refuse to let go of that self-respect just because part of me is still afraid of what other people think.

The toxic mindset that I'm trying to remove is thinking that other people's opinions define our real worth.

Remember this. You're worthy even when you're struggling. You're worthy even when you don't fully & honestly love yourself.

You can be fat or underweight, or be working on improving your health, and still love yourself all at the same time. They're not mutually exclusive states.

If anything, coming to terms with the realisation that taking care of your body will always be an ongoing conversation - like an eternal wave that dips & flows high - is probably the healthiest mindset shift you can make.

Your body is not glassware. You cannot mould it into one shape & then expect it to stay that way throughout your lifespan.

Your body is pottery. Your body is thick rain-smelling, semi-fluid mud being spun on a wheel every day. It will change constantly with every decision you take. It is a sum of your past choices but not a completely unfixable product until the very end.

On some days, it will bloat & make you feel miserable. On some days, it will shrink into place when you successfully skip those pizza slices & desserts a few times, and it'll make you feel good about yourself.

Realise that you are worthy on both types of days. And realize that it's human/normal to occasionally feel like you're not because maybe that's just your survival instinct pushing you to be the best possible version you know you can be.

I am learning to take care of myself because I have finally found the courage to admit that I like it. I like maintaining myself and I will no longer pretend that I don't care.

Yes, I liked the results it previously gave me. I got addicted to the gym lifestyle, the high of natural dopamine & serotonin release it offers me after sweating hard on the floor for an hour. And there's no going back. I will pull myself back into form every time I stray off the path (which I now know will happen often).

Self-care is not a one-time journey. You will constantly break out & make mistakes, have bad meals, or just become too forgetful & busy to care the same way. Where most of us go wrong is that once we realise we've lost the flow, we completely let go & let it become an entire streak.

We go back to feeling SO SORRY FOR OURSELVES, and this self-pity is what leads to the entire mess.

But people who understand how habits work know that consistency is an over-glorified myth. Humans don't work that way. We fall out of our habits from time to time. And we constantly need to check back in, which is OK.

Fat. Skinny. Bald. Hairy. Brown. White. Pimples. No pimples. Specs. No specs ... Wait, I'm not going to say we're all beautiful (ew) because that wasn't the point of this whole article. The point was to say that building your self-image is an uneven & never-ending process and you need to let the journey take its own course.

Know that even at your worst, lowest and I dare say, ugliest points in life, YOU ARE STILL WORTHY of love & respect.

Those are four words I wish someone told me when I was down.

So now I speak them out loud myself every morning. And for times when you don't have the strength, I'll say them for you, too.

[pilvimarja]

I watched the first three episodes of Cobra Kai today and I have this to say:

Chozen is AMAZING. So badass and ride or die. I love him more than I ever thought I would. He takes zero shit from anyone and I'm so glad that Daniel has a guy like him in his corner.

Then there's Mexico. Oh boy. The sheer second-hand embarrassment of those sequences. The set design was so cringe and I just kept facepalming at Miguel and Johnny, like those two should not be let out of the house without adult supervision. Thank god Robby was there.

I did enjoy the Johnny and Robby bonding moments a lot and I know the whole Mexico plot was probably written to give those two a chance to mend their relationship, but oh man, bringing Miguel's father into the story is so lame, like what is the point? His writing was absolutely terrible, but it was actually so bad that I found it entertaining. I'm just relieved that the Mexico plot was only 2 episodes long.

I love that Daniel and Chozen tried to give Terry a taste of his own medicine with the undercover "I'm on your side" thing. And it almost worked! Haha Terry is so needy for other men's validation. It's funny because he can be really scary in his "no mercy, victory at all cost" mentality, but even when he's being ruthless and walking around in expensive suits there's something utterly pathetic about him.

And then episode 3 happened and the show pretty much hit the lowest of low points for me. I honestly don't even feel like watching more until tomorrow.

I'm sure most of you can guess what my main issues is and yes, it's the whole Carmen and Johnny having a baby plot. I don't think I even have to elaborate? It's the worst writing I've seen in any media in a long time. A band-aid baby that makes Johnny fix all of his issues in a three-minute self-improvement montage where he learns to swaddle his case of beer and baby proofs his cockroach infested apartment. Yeah, that'll do it. He's ready to be a dad now, who cares if he's an alcoholic in his 50s, has no stable job (how could he afford to turn his apartment into an Ikea model home??) and has barely mended his relationship with his existing son who he mostly ignored until two weeks ago. And how fucking stupid is he to use condoms that look like they were bought in the 80s from some shady back alley???

If I'm being 100% honest, I'm not liking Johnny in these first three episodes. I can't even say why, but something about him just really annoys and frustrates me. I hope the writing for him improves as the season continues and I hope most of his plot doesn't revolve around him panicking about becoming a dad again and doing Three Men And A Baby brand of comedy.

Mike Barnes the suburban dad and furniture (co) king who will probably join Daniel's harem was a hilarious subversion of expectations, though! I really don't like the actor, but maybe Mike Barnes won't actually be as bad as I thought he would be.

I also really dig everything that's going on with Sam this season. And I can't wait to see more of Tory!

[cooki3face]

Rules for Navigating Men That Aren't The One:

These are very simple. I have twelve of these rules, feel free to write them down or add to them when you repost or whenever you feel like it. Also, Disclaimer: you don't have to follow any of these rules, it's all up to you. I love you and I hope you're doing well. 🤍

Rule #1: "Do not give these men sh*t they don't deserve, did not earn, or cannot afford."

This goes for everything. Material things, your time, your body, your energy, special treatment. He must earn it. He must deserve it. No excuses.

Rule #2: "We do not argue with men nor do we agree with them in any circumstance."

This was obviously partially a joke. What I really meant here was don't give them the luxury of getting under your skin with ignorance or over something irrelevant. We don't gain anything from a heated interaction with a man that isn't offering anything and the only thing they win is the ability to make you sweat.

Rule #3: "Do not let them hit. Settle for a strap and a lesbian"

I'm ONLY kidding delete your paragraph. What I really meant for this was to be the woman who knows what she likes and can give herself pleasure without the need of a male companion. If you're sexually active and you want a partner for casual sex too that's always valid and always okay.

Rule #4: "Don't date men that you don't really like aren't worth it."

Originally, this said: "Stay single. You ain't never need a b*tch, you what a b*tch need." But I changed it to fit the tone of my post. This rule is important, not everyone you find attractive needs to be pursued and some men aren't cut out to be good boyfriends/partners. Don't bless people with your energy who never deserved it in the first place.

Rule #5: "Do not laugh at their jokes. Boys aren't funny. Tough crowd tonight."

Satire. This rule is about understanding it's okay to not entertain men or people even when you don't enjoy their sense of humor or something they've said didn't sound as good as it did in their head. Sometimes we hear people make jokes about things like S/A that really aren't funny. Be real.

Rule #6: "Men ain't sh*t, don't know sh*t, and will never be sh*t"

Alright, okay, I'll settle down.

Rule #7: "If you don't believe him that's okay"

Sometimes people lie, even for absolutely no reason it's completely alright to feel like maybe someone isn't being completely honest with you about something. Oftentimes, men lie in relationships even when it's not about anything important. Trust your gut and your intuition if you feel like something isn't right, speak up.

Rule #8: "If he wanted to, he would."

Simply put. Men are going to do what they want to do regardless of the situation. If he wanted to come to see you he would. If he wanted to speak to you or have something serious for you he would. If he wanted to do something nice for you and treat you to something special he would. Don't settle. Never take bullsh*t excuses.

Rule #9: "Never trust a boy/man who only texts you or calls you at night."

These types are no good. Red Flag! Avoid this at all costs. Some men are busy, okay he'll make time for you. But someone who only texts/calls you at night and makes excuses as to why he can't talk to you during the day or simply doesn't answer is someone who doesn't have the purest of intentions. You know exactly what he wants. Don't ignore this. Don't be naive.

Rule #10: "Stay away from boys/men with mommy issues."

They need therapy, meditation, and a journal not a super hot girlfriend who is a lovely person and would do anything for him. Granted, we all sympathize, growing up without a parent is never fun but you have to understand that growing up without a mommy takes a huge toll on most men and they tend to come with a lot of issues that cannot be fixed with just your presence alone. It's okay to love, respect, and sympathize with someone from a distance.

Rule #11: "Never let a boy/man tell you he doesn't need or want you more than once."

This one is important, it's disrespecting yourself to stick around when someone has already made it abundantly clear you are not what they truly want. Your love and respect for yourself has to be bigger than the love and respect you have for others. What's meant for you will be yours. Period.

Rule #12: "Men will put you through what you allow them to."

This is one of my favorite ones. Set your boundaries and do not break them down or move them for anybody. Especially not a man who will certainly continue to put you through unnecessary drama and pain just because he can.

Stay Pretty, -𝓑

[himitsu-luna]

Headcanon

⸰ֺ⭑Nct 127 - Ideal types⭑ֺ⸰

❥︎𑁍 Taeil

Someone like the moon. Serene, a comforting presence, humble, but that still possesses various interesting facets and is able to light the darkest room. Someone with a magnetic aura, whose presence is subtle, but when they are not around, they are definetely missed. Someone soft who inspire romantic thoughts and actions. Someone cute but that doesn't realize it. Someone silly who makes him smile and laugh at the smallest things, that vibes with him in a deeper level. Someone simple, as chill as him, as free spirited as him, who will be up to do anything with him. Someone who has the ability to make the most complicated thing look easy, that can vanish any bad feelings with a reassuring smile or touch. Someone that appreciates his entire being and all of his perfect imperfections.

❥︎𑁍 Johnny

Someone like the sun. Spontaneous, warm, bright, inviting, that makes him feel that life would be impossible without them. Someone that smiles a lot and laughs easily, that is kind of random. Someone visionary, free, that just catches his hand and says "let's go!". Someone who is genuine in everything they do and say, that sees no problem in saying "I'm sorry" or "I was wrong". Someone hardworking, that works more for others than for themselves. Someone with whom he can have cheesy pick up lines battles and that can make him flustered at the end. Someone that has firm steps and knows where they are going, that has a broad vision of life. Someone balanced, 50% emotional and 50% rational.

❥︎𑁍 Taeyong

Someone like a lighthouse. Always there to guide him, to show him that he is not alone, to show him the way when he feels lost, someone he knows that will be there for him, waiting for him at that same spot, with unchanged feelings. Someone dependable and reliable, with a motherly instinct, but that still has their inner child jumping and playing at times. Someone wise, from whom he can always learn a new thing. Someone that can make him slow down sometimes to enjoy a peaceful afternoon. Someone that can read, match and change his moods, that knows exactly what to do in every situation, that makes him feel safe and understood. Someone that goes to him with open arms and always listen to him before listening to anyone else.

❥︎𑁍 Yuta

Someone like a painting. Expressive, colorful, admirable, interesting, full of layers, that show themselves completely, but there's always some detail yet to be discovered if you look at them from a different angle. Someone fair, just, loyal, that kind of person that you can trust completely. Someone that actually doesn't fall for his pranks, because they are always one step ahead. Someone playful, sincere, open minded, free of judgements, that just want people to be happy and prays everyday for this world to get peace. Someone who matches his intensity, but is far from being competitive. Someone strong, maybe tough, but that has soft spots for a lot of cute little things. Someone kind and generous, that is always ready to help others.

❥︎𑁍 Doyoung

Someone like a precious crystal. Beautiful, transparent, formed with a lot of patience, that takes the hardships in life to become a better person, that seems delicate but is actually very strong, extremely precious and valuable in every way. Someone with an extremely good heart and a charming great mind. Someone who forgives easily, even though they shouldn't. Someone who is good with words, that expresses themselves well, that is honest with their feelings and share them with him. Someone who has the sense of commitment and give their all in the relationship. Someone who gets along with his family and friends. Someone who has eyes just for him, that is his supporting system, his number one fan, that recognizes all of his efforts. Someone who truly listen to others and keep in their hearts everyone's story.

❥︎𑁍 Jaehyun

Someone like an old love song. Filled with tender emotions, ageless, classic, someone who evoque sweet memories everytime he looks at them, someone who validates his thoughts and feelings. Someone who makes him miss them, that makes him smile with just one text message. Someone that doesn't push or rush him, that is in the same wavelenght as him, that walk in the same pace as him, that makes him feel comfortable and relaxed, that brings harmony to his life. Someone encouraging, that makes him gladly go out of his comfort zone sometimes. Someone entertaining, creative, that comes up with the most brilliant and funny thoughts from time to time. Someone fascinating, charming, passionate, that speaks with their whole body when they get excited.

❥︎𑁍 Winwin

Someone like the ocean. Deep, pacific, that makes him feel free and calm, that has the strong power to pull him to them, that gives him that feeling that the world is huge and there's so many things he doesn't know yet . Someone who gets his walls down, that makes him wanting to be the chaser. Someone who accepts him, who understands him, who doesn't suffocate or pressure him on acting in a certain way. Someone considerate, respectful, a gentle and ethereal soul. Someone that people may label as traditional, but that has a truly rich inner world, that they share only with him. Someone that quietly takes care of him just for the sake of caring, without any greed or second intentions.

❥︎𑁍 Jungwoo

Someone like a flower. Sweet, unique, fresh, that attracts people to them, fill everyone with happiness and with the feeling that at the end things will be alright and that life is indeed beautiful and worth living. Someone supportive, that will stay by his side and will make him their priotity. Someone who shows unconditional trust on him, on his feelings, on his thoughts, that makes him feel confident about himself. Someone with a hint of a genius mind, that can follow his thoughts, and that has thousands of hobbies, because they like to keep their mind running. Someone who won't deny his affection and will give him all the hugs he needs.

❥︎𑁍 Mark

Someone like the sky. Pure, sincere, soft, clear, that shelters everybody under their veil with no prejudice, that makes him want to fly high. Someone easy to deal with, that doesn't like conflicts, but that also knows how to protect themselves and the ones that need to be protected. Someone who gets involved in his daily life, that shows interest in the things he does. Someone empathetic, positive, cute, kind, soft spoken, that sees the bright side of the world. Someone who feels like a best friend, that greet him with a high five followed by a sweet little peck. Someone overall calm and chill, but that also has lots of chaotic moments that makes him burst into giggles.

❥︎𑁍 Haechan

Someone like the stars. Cute, special, lovely, that shines on their own and helps others find their own light, that is there even if you don't see them, that makes his eyes sparkle. Someone as wild as him, as intelligent as him, that thinks quick and acts quicker. Someone sweet and friendly, that makes sure everyone feels included. Someone who recognizes him and takes him seriously, that talks to him about any subject: politics, food, tv shows, science, business, everything. Someone affectionate, that hugs him, kisses him, that says him at the end of the day "You did great!". Someone that gently point him his hits and misses, that is always leading him to improvement. Someone mature yet carefree, funny and bubbly at their core.

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[treasure-hwa]

finding seashells

pairing: hongjoong x female reader

genre: fluff

synopsis: can a pretty blue-haired surfer change moods?

word count: 911 (help kkkkk)

author's note: for @mileyjassie, because I like her, but she likes Hongjoong. I'm sorry this one is kind of bad and the end looks rushed, I just really wanted to post it. I hope you enjoy it!

Why did the girl agree on going to the beach with her friends?

First, she and the sea weren't the bestest of the friends. Second, it was hot, the sun was burning her back and her brain, the only thought alive was "I should have stayed under the parasol".

Initially, the car trip had been fun and the house they were staying in was nice, but the girl guessed she just woke up in a low mood. Nothing really appealed to her on that moment, to be honest.

While her friends were enjoying the coolness of the sea, she had decided to read a book she had packed and to look around the not too crowded place from under the parasol, but grew bored quickly, because even though she wasn't feeling her best that day, she still was a rather excited person, so the lack of activity made her bored. Then, the girl decided that it would be nice to walk along the bay, observe more people and more than that part of the sea in front of her.

One of the friends got out of the sea and asked how she was, so she enjoyed the opportunity to warn her she would walk around. No problem, the other said.

So there was she, seeing families having fun, little kids building their weird sand castles and running from the sea, it was kind of funny and it took a chuckle out of her, even if once she was on the same place. Anyway, the shore was long and it felt peaceful to walk kicking the smallest waves that came to her feet.

After walking for some minutes, she could see shining spots on the sand. It could be the sun hitting the water and fooling her eyes, but she crouched down anyway and caved on the sand just to find a white seashell. Her eyes sparkled just as much as the seashell and her mouth formed an "o", since it had been so long since she last time she saw one.

— It's such a cute seashell — she cooed over the white shining thing, searching for more in the wet sand.

While she was sitting there, smiling for the first time that day, she didn't see another person approaching her.

— Oh, you found seashells!

The sudden presence of other voice made her jump, dropping some of the seashells.

— Oh, yeah, I did. — The girl gave a small smile before looking up.

When she saw him for the first time, her chin almost drop as he was probably the most handsome boy she had ever met. No, not probably, he was. And the boy was a surfer, what could be seen by his tight swimsuit and the colored surfboard under his arm.

— Can I join you?

— Sorry, what?

— Seashells. I like them a lot.

The girl stared at his neck, seeing a seashell necklace there, and chuckled.

Although her cheeks were hot — because she was not used to talk to pretty boys —, she spoke up:

— Oh, really? — He chuckled too, noticing she was looking at his necklace, and messed his blue hair, spilling droplets of water around.

— We can find more if we keep walking. Wanna go?

— How do I know you're not some kind of kidnapper or bad person in general?

He nodded and thought for a second:

— That's valid, but look around, there are a lot of people here. I won't try anything, I just want to pick up seashells. Your company is a bonus.

Now her cheeks were getting hot. He had met her a minute ago and was already saying those things, but she shrugged her shoulders and smiled while getting up, seashells in hand.

— Okay, it will be fun, let's do this.

He gave her a grin and raised his eyebrows for a second.

— Okay, just let me put my surfboard there. — He pointed to where a lonely towel and backpack were. The boy jogged to his belongings, putting the surfboard down and taking his backpack.

When he came back, he had a cap in hands, which he put on the girl's head, startling her.

— The sun is really hot today, you should wear one.

She just thanked him and started walking with him on her side.

— Oh! By the way, I'm Hongjoong!

— Nice to meet you, Hongjoong.

The waves would reach the two every now and then, giving them a cooling sensation and helping with cleaning the seashells they eventually found. The sun made everything around them shine, especially the boy's eyes and smile when he talked about how he liked the beach and how he himself, a surfer, was afraid of the sea when he was little.

By the time the sun started setting, her hands were full of pretty seashells, many of them ones that Hongjoong found and gave to her, because they were as pretty as the girl — his words!

They found their way back to where she was staying with her friends, who were not there, fortunately. Hongjoong said bye, asking shyly how much longer she would be staying at the beach. She, just as shy, answered, then they marked another day to meet.

The big smile and rosy cheeks were plastered on her face for the rest of the day and her friends were wondering what could have happened.

Is it necessary to say her bad mood had long gone away?

[bloodstained-ballgowns]

‘The Morning Show’ rewatch thoughts: Part 2

Oh, boy. Things really pick up in the second half of the season. Spoilers for eps 6-10. 

It really struck me, specifically during the wildfires episode, how certain Alex is that Bradley will jump at any chance too judge her and tear her down if she shows the slightest bit of vulnerability. Especially if we're considering whether that’s something she’s come to expect, AKA is that something Mitch would do? I wouldn’t be surprised if picking at each others’ flaws, like pressing on bruises, was a large part of how their relationship functioned. We see in the flashback episode that Mitch makes a comment about the clothes they pick for her on-air and how she should wear something sexier, and though they laugh together, it never seemed to me like they ever truly liked or trusted each other. Did she build up that defence system unconsciously? I can totally see Alex having to play into all these angles in order to fit in with the ‘Boy’s Club’. It's something a lot of women do to gain male validation as the result of internalised misogyny, so I’m inclined to believe that yes, Mitch is absolutely the type of person to hold her hair back as she throws up, and then make a disarming joke about it later, which she obviously expects Bradley to do (or something along those lines).

Following on from that, as much as I do believe Alex is Not A Good Person, that feeling of waking up and looking at yourself and realising just how much you’ve been programmed to hate other women, hate yourself, in order to succeed (or even survive) in a patriarchal society can be like being hit by a truck. I think most women can sympathise with that, and it's a really positive step for Alex in the last episode when she is the one to start condemning the network on air, and completely confronts and admits to how many people she hurt with her complicity. She realises that self-preservation has to come second to truth, and starts to redeem herself. I’m so proud. 

Charlie fucking Black. This guy... He has none of the redemption Alex does when it comes to self-preservation. The way he just assumes everyone has selfish intentions just because he does is so funny to me. He’s really like ‘yeah I'm only in this so I can get my job back but oh bradley don’t you only care about bringing down fred because it will write you into history? ha!’ and she's just like ‘??? nO?!? bro wtf’. And the way Bradley starts getting really overwhelmed like a pan about to boil over about how shit everything is and Chip honest to god thinks the right thing to do is try to forcibly hug her?? Huh?? Bastard. (I did appreciate it when he punched Mitch though, even if it was for his own manpain).

The weirdest revelation I had this time around was ‘wait…is Chip in love with Alex???’. I looked it up, and yeah, apparently they were trying to convey that the reason Chip will do anything for her, the reason he leaked the story and always fights in her corner, isn't actually due to a long friendship and loyalty to a fault (like I figured), but because he’s in love with her and still holding a torch after fifteen years. Maybe I’m just dumb but damn. They did that. Weird.

Hannah is the catalyst, the lynchpin, the Wake-Up Call for so many people and I love that they woke up but GODDAMMIT she shouldn’t have had to kill herself for them to do it. What happened to her is devastating, particularly because her part in the series isn’t properly clear until episode 8, so until then she’s just as insignificant to the audience as she was to Mitch. “When Mitch Kessler decides he's having sex with you you feel pretty fucking powerless”. “To see people lose their jobs and things fall apart because I didn’t have the strength to say no”. Those lines broke me. Through Hannah, Mitch is finally shown to be the monster he truly is. (Gugu Mbatha-Raw is one of my favourite actresses right now because this performance coupled with Loki? Lady has got some acting chops). 

Mia’s mistake in the first half of the season when they’re at the bar and she says she “feels sorry” for Mitch, is that she assumes that those women had the same experience with him as her. Mia and Mitch had a consensual affair, so in her mind it was just a bit of fucking around with an unethical power dynamic. But the man she cheated with raped Hannah. Of course, she doesn’t know that, but her assumption irritates me.

“You know this wasn’t you’re fault, right? You know that?” Bradley I love you but what the fuck girl. Hannah just had a whole monologue about how she blames herself and Mitch assaulting her ruined her life and your response is just ‘don’t blame yourself’ like pls in what world does that help.

“The world isn’t ready to hold women accountable for their complicity” Mitch you need to sit the fuck down, because when he says this, he doesn’t mean ‘accountable’ as in ‘the word isn’t ready to realise that living in a patriarchal society has meant that women who want to succeed have had to twist their oppression to their own advantage/ignore the oppression of others and initiate change in the system so that that doesn’t have to happen if women want to break the glass ceiling’, he means ‘the world needs to hold complicit women to the same level of responsibility and contempt as they hold me because even though they were equally suffering from the system and I was the one who assaulted these women, the bystander is as bad as the bully, right?’. Because he’s burning, Mitch wants Alex to burn with him.

Honestly it was a moment when Cory unlocks Bradley’s entire character with the line “you can’t keep yourself pure just by moving on every time someone disappoints you”. What an asshole I love him and I love how they understand each other. 

I love that when Yanko gets drunk he rants about obscure weather phenomena to anyone near him.

The entire last five minutes of episode 10 is some of the most suspenseful, hair-raising, explosive, satisfying TV I've ever seen. Cory cheerfully waving at Fred as he’s locked out and the blind goes down - I love one☝️man. Rena’s face when she realises where Fred’s going and then sprints to lock the doors is iconic.

‘The Morning Show’ rewatch thoughts: Part 1

season 2 trailer thoughts ⬇️

There better be a good reason for Bradley suddenly having blonde hair because I liked the brown, it fit her character. I guess it could be symbolic, as blonde hair (particularly in the entertainment-y famous-people-y scene) has been treated as an ideal, more feminine, more attractive, more pure, whereas brown hair has been commonly associated with being grounded, mousy, or mature, so it could show that Bradley’s moving further away from her old hometown-news-anchor charm and now integrating more into this world that she was so outside of in season 1. She’s definitely wearing fancier clothing (I want that blue coat). Is that a reach? Maybe.

I’m looking forward to this storyline about racism in the workplace with Daniel and Mia, I’m glad he’s getting something substantial to do. Alex promised him that promotion and then blew up the network her own way, and he turned down YDA after all that. He deserves a network that appreciates him.

Maggie’s exposé is going to cause a tsunami.

Who’s the new EP and what the fuck is Chip doing these days.

“This is a battle for the soul of the universe!” Cory in a leadership position at UBA, having toppled Fred, will be interesting. The chaotic king is vibrating at the head of the table but is he better off as vice-president, where he can slyly manipulate from below without all the power right in front of him? He’s begging Alex to come back so obviously things aren’t going exceptionally, but we already know that’s where he thrives, on the knife edge. I hope his relationship with Bradley doesn’t deteriorate too badly, their dynamic is so great. They should go for that carriage ride!

Ummm they’re covering COVID. If you must, I guess.

I see a Yanko but I don’t see a Claire and that doesn’t sit right with me.

[halorocks1214]

i saw that ask game, so: 2, 12, 17, 25, 26, 30? no need to answer any i'm casting a wide net <3

dont worry homie long asks are something i specialize in (which has nothing to do with my tendency to procrastinate. definitely)

thanks for the ask!

2.) Talk about your process for developing story ideas.

It's funny people think I have one in the first place /hj

But for the most part, I'll see or hear something (scene from a movie/show, a quote, a song, etc.), think along the lines of "Hmm, that would be fun to write/put these characters through" and then sit down to write it. Outlines are sometimes included in this

The other kind of thought I have is "Wait why didn't this scene happen in canon it would have made perfect sense if it did >:[" and then create it for myself and anyone else who felt the same way

12.) Do you struggle with wanting to please your readers more than yourself when it comes to writing?

It's ironic to be honest. I'm super about writing whatever I want to write and whatever is fun for me- so everything I make is always for myself originally- but I also crave validation like a dehydrated lion craves water on the savannah. I'll create something super self-indulgent and enjoyable and yet still be shocked if/when it doesn't resonate with the audience, absolute Surprised Pikachu vibes.

Essentially:

17.) Least favorite trope to write?

I can't really think of anything I hate to write. I'll avoid some things because they're not my favorite- MCD, No Comfort, certain kinds of torture, which yes I know pretty much answers the question- but if I think of a story that tickles my fancy I'll gladly write it. It just depends on what I'm aiming for in a fic at the end of the day

25.) What do you feel you’re best at when it comes to writing?

I love writing emotions and feelings. Joy, relief, pain, sadness, anger, everything in between; I think I've done a good job of getting the right amount of description without it being too over the top. At least, no one has told me off for it yet so I assume so lmao

(I like describing things in general: landscapes, rooms, the weather, anything that fits with making the tone even more poetic)

26.) What do you feel you could use work on when it comes to your writing?

Hooboy, probably something like fight scenes. I do okay but my strategy is to write like three or four hits and then become very general and non-desciptive as to let the readers fill in the blanks. Frankly I do that for a lot of things, but fight scenes are fun, I should write them more

Also I need to work on my endings. I usually figure it out but a lot of the time I just sit and stare at my screen. Unable to think of anything that would work. I'll have everything else done except that and it's just like 🙏 blease, I'm so close to being able to post this

30.) Is there anyone that you would love to collaborate on a story with?

Lots of people: writers and artists alike. But to avoid being called a simp I'll just leave it here by saying 👉👈 my dearest mutuals and close online friends of whomst I talk with all the time, feel free to hmu bcuz I'm too much of a coward to do it myself and also I don't want to annoy you 💜

Ask Game is pinned on my blog <3

[neochatarra]

8 Untold Signs Of Narcissist People

Sometimes the signs of narcissism aren't so obvious and narcissists fly under our radar. Not every narcissist may be a puffed-up addict or a Mean Girl like Regina George. If they were, we could see the signs from a mile away and steer clear. No, many narcissists are sensitive, thoughtful, and generous – until the charade wears off, of course.

That's why it's so important to know the subtle signs of narcissism that you simply won't notice until it's too late and they've sucked you into their region.

What's the Difference Between an Overt and Covert Narcissist?

Many people tend to consider narcissists as having extroverted personalities. They're flamboyant and demand to be the middle of attention – how are you able to miss them?

The truth is, introverts also can be narcissists. These are those who fool us into their web of manipulation.

"They're not self-absorbed – they're just sensitive!"

"They're not a nasty friend – they're just misunderstood!"

After forming a relationship with a covert narcissist, you realize that this sensitivity and isolation were, in fact, signs of narcissism. Since the signs weren't so obvious, however, you completely misjudged things.

8 Signs of Narcissism You Can't-Miss

Since the covert narcissist is best at hiding their abusive behavior, it's important to know the subtle cues that give them away.

1. They'll Never Utter the Phrase "I Don't Know"

I once knew a narcissist who was so averse to the present phrase that he would rather give someone dangerously incorrect answers than admit to not knowing something. He was confident in his woefully wrong answers, too.

Why do this?

Answering an issue with "I don't know" deprives the narcissist of important attention. The person seeking a solution will simply advance to somebody else who might help them. That's an enormous ego hit.

That's why you'll often find narcissists rambling on about topics they need no business speaking on.

2. They Are A Nasty Friend

The narcissist is usually a nasty friend but you'll typically find them playing the victim. confirm to urge all sides of the story if you're unsure.

What are some red flag signs of narcissism that indicate the suspect may be a narcissist?

• They get irritated when their friends invite help or advice.

• They don't bother to call or text their friends on birthdays or holidays.

• They don't return borrowed items. (A sign of entitlement.)

• They owe their friends money. they'll downplay this as "not an enormous deal."

• They embarrass their friends ahead of others.

• They hunt down or entertain their friends' partners or love interests.

They also treat waitstaff or service workers poorly. This is a dead giveaway. run the hills. Anyone who disrespects waitstaff or service workers views people as "beneath" them. Soon, you'll be a part of the inferiors also.

3. They Need To Insert Themselves Into Every Story

A covert narcissist might not demand everyone's attention. They will, however, still find how to form everything about them. an outsized part of this strategy involves inserting themselves into every story.

Is a coworker talking about their experience with homelessness? The narcissist, too, features a story about being poor.

Is a lover talking about his amazing trip to Vietnam? The narcissist also had a friend who visited Vietnam. And guess what? She heard it wasn't so great.

No matter the subject, the narcissist features a remarkable skill for turning the eye their way – regardless of how innocuous it'd seem.

4. They're Sensitive

At first, you'll appreciate their ability to freely express emotions. this is often an excellent tactic narcissists use to lure empathetic people into their trap.

Maybe a fast-food worker got their order wrong and therefore the narcissist hasn't shut up about it all day. Maybe their boss asked them to prevent playing on their phone such a lot and now the narcissist is crying about it over dinner.

As time goes on, you'll realize that the narcissist isn't vulnerable and sensitive: their fragile ego can't handle honest mistakes and valid criticism. To the narcissist, these are personal attacks.

5. They Form Relationships Based On What Someone Can "Do for Them"

If you're at a celebration and therefore the suspected narcissist suggests you ask someone because they will help together with your career or financial situation, don't ignore it. They aren't trying to assist you: they're letting you in on their game.

Narcissists tend to make shallow friendships that supported what people can do for them. You'll often find narcissists make friends with horribly toxic people simply because these folks have money, own bars, or offers career opportunities.

6. Their Stories Don't Match Reality

Both the overt and covert narcissist has an inflated sense of self. The thing is, they believe their lies. As a result, you'll often find they recall stories much differently than the situations played out.

If you notice that the suspect constantly reframes stories to form themselves the hero or victim, retreat fast – this is often one among the various signs of narcissism. By changing the story to suit their narrative, the narcissist is gaslighting everyone else involved.

It's not cute or funny to constantly need to correct them. Sooner or later, they'll start gaslighting you, too.

7. They Observe and Judge

"There's no way she will be a narcissist. When we're out with friends, she barely says ten words!"

I hear it all the time. By sitting back and observing everyone, however, the covert narcissist is silently taking notes and judging. I'm sure you heard all about her observations on the car ride home.

The narcissist must feel superior to everyone around them. this is often easy to try to do once you don't open your mouth to interact in conversation and instead sit back to require notes about everyone's shortcomings.

8. They Only Hear Bits and Pieces of Your Stories

Does it desire the suspected narcissist just isn't. listening? They're probably not. And if they're, they don't care.

Maybe you spent ten minutes venting to your mother about how you didn't get that promotion at work because you showed up late one solitary time with a legitimate reason. How did she respond? "Well, maybe you'll remember to point out up on time from now on."

You can't be the victim. Only the narcissist is often the victim.

You see this ton with narcissist parents or partners who listen only enough to toss stuff back in your face later.

How to Turn the Tables on a Narcissist?

Perhaps you've gone on a couple of dates with someone or a replacement coworker joined your team. you think they'll be a narcissist but you aren't entirely sure.

After all, the covert narcissist is especially cunning at hiding the more obvious signs of narcissism. Here's the way to turn the tables on a narcissist and obtain them to show themselves.

• Play along. Don't give the suspected narcissist room to regulate their manipulation tactics – play stupid and pretend you completely believe them. Use this chance to document their behavior.

• Remain indifferent. If you want to continue handling an overt or covert narcissist for reasons out of your control, act indifferent to their behavior. The narcissist wants to use your emotions against you. If you don't give them anything to figure with, they'll seek their fix elsewhere.

• Find Support: this might only include one or two people you trust. open up to someone who will validate and believe you.

At the top of the day, the sole thanks to truly turn the tables on a narcissist are to chop them off completely. If that they had any real intentions of adjusting, they might have done so already.

The narcissist won't suddenly see things your way. If they ever do, it's – a) for a fleeting moment and b) to use against you later. Don't believe the conflicting information you would possibly see from other websites or therapists – the narcissist will never change.

With a mental disease, a chemical imbalance within the brain may cause different disturbances that manifest as depression, anxiety, and lots of others. Although complex, mental illnesses tend to reply well to medication because it targets the physical root of the problem: like a chemical imbalance. Though it's been determined that a lot of mental illnesses like depression and anxiety are frequently caused by unresolved emotional trauma, often dating as far back as childhood.

Personality disorders occur due to a repetitive stimuli-reward environment. At some point in their life, the narcissist realized they might elicit specific reactions and emotions from people – and it felt good and helped them achieve their self-fulfilling agendas.

Anything but cutting them out of your life will offer you a mental and emotional breakdown.

No Contact is that the Only Way to Packing Up A Narcissist

Many narcissists have always been this manner – whilst far back as their teenage or childhood years. If you're handling a narcissist, you can't and will not expect them to vary their behavior now or ever.

Treatment for personality disorders often involves things like cognitive behavioral therapy. In many cases, a narcissist can also suffer from other mental illnesses like depression or substance use disorder. (You've probably heard extensively about these problems, too, when the narcissist needs your sympathy or someone responsible .)

ىDespite this, there's little evidence to suggest therapy works for narcissists as personality disorders are notoriously difficult to treat. the primary step to getting assistance is to admit a drag exists – the narcissist will never believe they need or are a drag.

No Contact is that the only option.

Trust in yourself and your network. Because once you get to the opposite side and stick with No Contact, you'll be amazed by all the amazing belongings you can accomplish.

[shadowfae]

There's gotta be people who lie in the middle ground between otherkin and copinglinkers, right?

This just reminds me of the "can people choose to be trans" discourse and personally I've never found the value in trying to find a clean dividing line between people who "choose" to be trans and people who "are" trans, like obviously some people feel dysphoria much more than others and it's important to recognize that, but that doesn't mean theres some "how miserable would you be if you were forced to be cis" test that can decide who is a Valid Trans Person or not. It feels to me like it might be the same with the broader otherkin spectrum, but admittedly I don't know much about the community?

That said, the otherkin community has been really cool and like, when I go digging in early internet history I often find beautifully preserved histories and narratives from otherkin blogs about communities and sites that people frequented. And that's something I'm forever grateful for. I'm glad that there are still folks out there who pass on that history and find value in those communities.

Okay so I waited until I’d officially gotten out of bed (yes, everything I’ve done today was on my phone in bed) to answer this properly.

The thing that I’ve never much mentioned in my place of this argument - and I feel that if I’m going to, I should have a few personal essays to publish first in order to make my point clearly - is that at least for me, my kintypes and my linktypes feel so different there is absolutely no way I could mistake them for each other.

That’s why I’m not calling whatever’s going on with the Xweetok stuff a linktype, because there’s no choice there, it’s just me getting hit in the face with Xweetok animality and trying to figure out what it all means.

My kintypes are intrinsic to my personality. If you leave me alone for a bit, or put me somewhere where I feel totally, completely safe, I go so feral it’s not even funny. I growl. I hiss. My ears, tail(s), and wings do all my body language for me. I walk as digitigrade as a human is capable of. I settle into the mentality of an animal, except for when I slide into dignity and divinity, or when you hand me a piece of technology and then I’m as gruff as a pirate and humming to lyrics nobody else can hear.

My linktypes? Something happens. Panic, anger, fear, terror. I am [insert linktype here], here is what it is correct for me to do, here is what I will do, I navigate my way out of it with grace, I handle it as my linktypes would. Things hurt and I settle into their skin, if only for a little while. When their skin is hard to settle it, I simply change it. Being Kiyoteru was a way for me to understand my own sexual awakening when I’d never been safe enough to recognize my own animality, until I fused it with Luteia kinfeels into the world’s worst coping mechanism (don’t do that, kids) and did some things I’m very much not proud of.

Being Yukari was an answer to dysphoria and social ostracization that served me for quite a long time, and that I no longer need, because I am slightly more comfortable in my own skin. It was a matter of personality and aeslinking: she was a moon-girl who liked warm tea on snowy days and pretty poetry and rabbits. I never had her connection to rabbits, they’re just pets to me, but when I needed it I could pretend to be near a bunny the way she probably was bunnyhearted, and I could be a moon-girl until the sun came up for me.

My kintypes are deeper than that. Ranisson and Pale do seem a matter of personality, being as they are the closest to human, except for all the places where their experiences built them from the ground up. As Pale I was a Devil without his powers that didn’t quite know it enough to stop reaching for more power. As Ranisson, I was a girl in a war that was going to end with everyone I cared about dead, and I almost didn’t care, because we’d all be in the hivemind and I’d never be alone again.

Kiyoteru and Yukari were not that way. They were blank canvases that I could change as I needed to, for the purposes of saving me from myself. Even if they’d had actual stories, even if they were more than pretty faces and aesthetics, I would have made them do as I pleased to get me through.

From the inside, linktypes and kintypes seem so fundamentally different to me that I honestly find it hard to see a middle ground there. I’m not everyone, for some there absolutely is a middle. For some, they really can just ignore their own nonhumanity and walk away unscathed. There will always be a gray area, a fringe case or seven, a middle ground where nobody can define where it stops. And I’m not going to be the one to lay down what that middle ground is, because it is antithetical to my entire existence and experience, and it’s something I will never understand for my own.

I insist that everyone be clear about the terms that fit them to the best of their ability because I don’t like being lied to, especially after I’ve placed my trust in people to tell the truth. I don’t trust a salesman, but I’ll try any answer on StackOverflow once. You give me an answer on SO to a complex problem that fucks up my computer, I’m going to be pissed. You lie to me knowingly about your nonhuman/fictional identity in our tags, I’m going to be pissed.

If people say “this is an identity and I don’t know how voluntary it is” I go “yeah okay fair enough.” If they say they’re one or the other, I say the same. If they say they’re one and their experiences match the other, I’ll point that out. If they proceed to insult me and tell me I’m a gatekeeper, I am going to be pissed.

And then if they proceed to throw death threats in my face, I will be furious. I think I have every right to be in that case, and I have no use for those who would side with that sort of person. That’s all anyone’s been asking. Be where you are but be honest about your experiences, and we’ll find a place for you. Even if you say “I’m a linker, but I feel better in this space for otherkin, are we cool with me being here?” the answer will be yes, and then we’ll probably bring you our questions about your experiences. That’s what we do. We ask about others’ experiences and we nitpick how they work because they’re fascinating.

We preserve our history because we have to know where we come from. We have to know we’re not alone. I don’t understand why anyone wouldn’t want to read the history of the community they’re from. Now maybe it’s that I have no ties to my own heritage by blood, and those who do aren’t so interested, but if anything happened to our history I don’t know what I’d do. We need it to say no, if we’re crazy it’s not for this, that this is truly what we are, that we are not the first to have walked this path, and that those who came before us survived to tell the tale.

I am what I am. Everyone else is what they are. So long as people say that, then I have no issues with anyone about it.

[fictional-worlds-are-exquisite]

i am very much enjoying my vague void! it's currently blasting hozier at full volume and that's almost louder than my internal screaming (don't worry, everything is fine, i just saw a spider)

i've never once in my life have followed a recipe correctly. all of my measurements are completely random and whatever happens happens. it is no longer in my hands. whatever eldritch entities exist take the wheel. and i absolutely refuse to spell anything in english without autocorrect because y'all have way too many double letters and random vowel placement

thank you! sadly, i won't have a break right now, because we just had christmas vacations, but the start of the new semester is always pretty chill. and you're absolutely right, i should take up necromancy! the snow and the cold will add to my mysterious vibes. i just need to get a big black cape with a hood to complete the aesthetic

i definitely picture everything above 5'6 feet as the same height. 5'7 and 6'2? the exact same thing. no difference here

how is morepork a real bird name. it's just... more pork? but the bird is magnificent. i completely approve of your first order as bird queen, not that you need approval from mere peasants like me, but it's a great order. ohhh salps look really cool, and it does look a lot like it! when you said boob implant i thought of mermaids and them using salps as boob implants but then i realised wait wouldn't jellyfish be better for that? because of their shape? ignoring their little leggies they're quite boob shaped, no? and then i realised that i was thinking about mermaids and alive boob implants... if i had to think it, you have to read it. i'm sorry

i was sold before but now i'm even more sure that i want to hire you. and I'll make sure to have lactose free cheese for the backflips (unless you want the lactose version? i'm not judging). will the biting of ankles cost extra?

that sounds like a brilliant set-up for a horror movie where they kill off all the children one by one. it's absolutely horrifying. if something like that would've happened to me i would've most likely just passed out. whatever happens afterwards is not my problem. and now i really don't want to know what the hell your leg was caught on because that seems like knowledge that would get me killed

ah so you're a fellow dirt eater? according to my mom my favourite thing to do outside when i was a little kid used to be eating sand. just shovelling handfuls of it into my mouth and crying when my mom made me spit it out. which i refuse to believe. if there are no photos it didn't happen

you warm climate people are starting to make me think that i'm better adjusted to the cold than i thought i am! it's either that or our buildings are better heated. i definitely don't know if anyone else calls hot water bottled hotties but i like it so from now on i'm using it

that's so cute! i was clearly a way more selfish child because when i found any amount of money i just kept it and bought candy as soon as i could. i clearly couldn't save money then and i can't now. we have stores like that (or i'm assuming that they're like that solely based on how they sell lollies) and they used to be my favourite thing because you could get so many lollies for such a small price!! and my mom even used to let me order for myself sometimes so i always felt like a very big girl jsjshsbsjk

also the fact that i can't send pictures on anon is a crime (yes i know why and it's good that that's not possible because can you imagine anons being able to send pictures? oh no is all i have to say about it) but anyways. because i have this one super cursed photo that reminded me of you and now i can't share it :((

duuuuude, sick void bro. sounds like a vibing void. I feel like I haven’t seen a spider in awhile. Other than daddy long legs. But they’re chill. They mind their own business. 

I nearly always follow recipes exactly. My mum is like oh cook this for about 7 minutes? Yeah sure. I’ll take a wild guess. I’m like they say exactly 7 minutes so I’ll set a timer for 7 minutes and start a stopwatch so if it does seem to need more than 7 I can keep an eye on the extra time and be aware of exactly how long it takes me for next time. Other people are like oh let's see I have [lists 5-10 things in their fridge], hmm...oh I know what I could make with that! I’m like I have beans in my freezer because one recipe required them and no other recipes I know how to make do so what am I supposed to do with these now,,, this is stressful,,, basically I barely know how to cook and recipes are the only things saving me in that area. That is entirely fair. Except for the fuck duck, and murder is not the word you want surely, situations, it’s pretty helpful.

Ohhh I see. At least the start is chill! For a little! Before your entire situation spirals out of hand and you’re behind in every class and it’s taken you a whole day to read 10 pages and you’re exhausted and it’s only week 2. Just me? ok. fair. anyway. I want a cloak so bad. One of my uni friends tempted me to class because she said she was wearing a cloak so my depressed ass honest to god dragged myself out of bed and to said class just to see it. It was worth it. They’re incredible. Everyone should own a big cloak for the aesthetic.

I’m glad it isn’t just me hahaha. I can visualise my own height in feet but everything else is just the same size that is a vague amount taller than me, mentally.

It’s also known as the ruru. But the name morepork amuses me. It’s named after the call it makes haha. It does sound like it’s asking for more pork if you know to listen for that. thank u for ur approval, it means a lot, turns out becoming bird queen didn’t ACTUALLY get rid of my anxiety disorder weirdly enough so validation is great! lmaooo. What if the jellyfish stung them tho? At least salps wouldn’t do you dirty like that. The mermaids would just look like there are hundreds of bugs crawling around in their boobs, flesh shifting as they float around. Which is a vibe. If you’re into that. Jellyfish WOULD make a more solid, single, implant, some of them are definitely boob shaped. But that’s kinda boring no one’s gonna be traumatised by that. Salps on the other hand...yeah, that sight will DEFINITELY traumatise someone.

To be PERFECTLY honest I haven’t done a backflip in years but for lactose-free cheese? Dude. I’ll be going back to training. Gonna be the best backflip you’ve ever seen. As long as it’s not Tasty cheese I am content, but lactose free IS better. The biting of ankles will not cost extra, it is a pleasure to be allowed to do that.

Oh it absolutely would be. It’d be very funny if it reached the wider world bc people would probably be like ok but who would send kids into the bush like that,, it’s an odd concept. meanwhile everyone who grew up in nz is gonna be like y’all, you’re not gonna fuckin BELIEVE what i experienced growing up, it’s real dude. On one hand, I feel like murdering kids in a movie is questionable, on the other hand, It exists, so maybe people would be down for it. I feel like it’d be a good concept even if it wasn’t murdery tho. Like psychological horror? I’m not sure if I’m using that category correctly I don’t watch much horror. A kid following the rope but then being shifted into a different horror dimension but they never take the blindfold off because their teachers said not to and they’d probably have to let go of the rope to do it...I feel like this could work super well as a short film. The viewers see everything. The child just knows something is off and no one is coming when they call for help. I am so down for this. I also do not want to know what my leg was caught on. Some things I am better off not knowing.

yes! I am a fellow dirt eater! We had a sandpit at home (that’s a little bold. It was a large plastic shell that my parents filled with sand. technically a sandpit. but not fancy sdflsdkfsdf) but I don’t think I ever tried to eat it. Then again, I possibly did and just don’t remember because there’s no photo evidence of that one. I’d have to ask my parents sdfhsjdfs, I would however fully believe them if they said yes. it’s very characteristic of me. I don’t doubt it for a second. muuuum that’s my emotional support sand don’t make me spit it out smh the disrespect these days.

Oh I’m absolutely terrible even by most people’s standards around here when it comes to cold and hot temperatures. I remember sitting in the sun in my school shirt and school jersey in summer on a blazing day like it’s a bit chilly, isn’t it? Meanwhile my friends were in the shade absolutely dying from the heat. Likewise in winter I’d be shivering, teeth chattering, dying with my long sleeve thermal, my school shirt, my school jersey, my school jacket, my longs, warm socks and sneakers and gloves and school scarf while ppl would be walking around in a shirt and shorts like it’s a bit warm this winter huh? my body didn’t learn how to thermoregulate and it shows. But yeah NZ does also have a reputation for shittily insulated buildings and such. It shows. skhdfsfs if it’s not common use maybe don’t say can i have a hotty to someone without context but otherwise go ahead lmao. it’s a fun shortened version.

I was typically a very good saver, to the point where my extended family started gifting me gift cards and vouchers for Christmas and my birthday because if they just gave me money I’d put it in my bank account to save towards uni once I hit like, 12 years old. Which I think was a smart move. But apparently, I’m supposed to buy myself ‘something nice’ with it. I think I’m still an okay saver but I’m not as strict anymore. I’m aware of how much I can spare and I’m not just like you can never get anything for yourself ever, so I do get lil things for myself sometimes. oooo yay! At least you know what I mean. But yes. They were the gold mine for lollies. Absolutely terrific stores. My mum would be like hey lindsey how about you order? And I’d be like mother, I am 7 years old and I have an undiagnosed anxiety disorder everyone assumes is child shyness why would you think I would want to do that. Instead I will whisper my choices to you. After therapy tho I felt pretty rad for picking my own lollies by myself. I was like 13 at that point but sdfkjhsdf listen I got there in the end.

sdfkjsdfkjhsdf I like that a cursed photo reminded you of me. That’s all I need to hear. Tumblr said no anon dick pics but they also said no anon cursed photos either,,, very sad. for the latter part. the first part thank god. If I could turn on photos on anon I absolutely would just to see this but I don’t think I can :(

[nightwingshero]

😊😱🤗💕 I'm throwing this right back at you for Blair, Amikel, Veronica, and Gabriel!! Love you!!

Thank you, love!!!! Love you too! 💓😘 Sorry it took me so long!!! Gabriel and Veronica really made me think...(actually a few of them did.)

😊 - something that makes your character smile?

Blair: Honestly, it’s rather easy to make her smile. Bringing her a fresh cup of coffee is a good way to go. She’s always up for one and those who know her, know her coffee order like the back of their hand. And it’s usually H.R. Wells, Cisco, or Caitlin that’s grabbing her some. Iris will when she’s around (or needs help on something she’s working on--bribes are sometimes legal, okay?), or Barry will be thoughtful and grab one if he knows he’s going to see her. Being around Leonard and Mick makes her smile too, she’s grown fond of those guys.

Amikel: Can you guess? Alcohol! That’s right, that girl smiles when yo bring her a good bottle or glass, because that means you’re trying to be in her good graces, and she can never say no to a free bottle of booze. Grogu doing shenanigans is also a thing that makes her smile, because it’s so damn amusing to her. She’s a bad influence. I’m not sure who makes Din sigh more.

Veronica: Music and stealing. There are a few things, but hanging out with friends is a go-to. She enjoys her time with Dick and Jason at the manor when she’s younger (and older, let’s be honest here). Alice also amuses the hell out of her, because she’s not at all like Harley, and it’s just...V can’t help but be mildly amused. Something that really did make her smile was helping Jason work on his bike in the Cave. Dick trying to make her smile with his light teasing will do it too, no matter how hard she fights it. 

Gabriel: Playing on his guitar or going for drives(either in his Mustang or on his bike.) He smiles slightly to himself when he does that, especially if he’s alone or thinks no one is looking. He does little light chuckle and small smirk thing, and then looks down at his feet when someone makes a joke or says something he just finds funny. But seeing other people smile usually does it, especially if he really cares about that person. 

😱 - something that makes your character afraid?

Blair: It terrifies the hell out of her when the people close to her are in immediate and serious danger, where their lives are very much in the balance. Her losing control of her powers scares her too, because she can become the very thing that hurts, or even kills, her friends. Both of those things have kept her up at night, mostly because she’s witnessed them firsthand. And let me just tell you, Blair doesn’t handle either of those things very well.

Amikel: At first, despite finding it a bit amusing, it’s Grogu’s gift or powers. It’s easy to assume Amikel is nothing but a washed up bounty hunter/assassin who drinks constantly...but she’s a smart person, calculating, and she doesn’t know what it is; she just knows that it’s got to be something bigger. And that terrifies her. Bigger means more trouble, and the last thing she wants is more trouble for herself, Din, or Grogu. Later of course, that fear only grows as they learn more.

Veronica: She will obviously say she’s not afraid of anything. But honestly, she’s scared that she won’t work past her anger or be any better than where she came from. She loves Selina dearly, and is thankful for everything she’s ever done. But she doesn’t want the Catwoman mantle when that time comes, she doesn’t want to be known as a Rogue, or to be a criminal. Is she an antihero? For most of her teen years and some of her young adult years, yes. But she almost kills Scarecrow...it shook her enough to realize that if she didn’t leave...she was doomed to be nothing but a criminal eventually. Veronica is terrified she won’t overcome that.

Gabriel: So...he’s afraid that all he’ll ever be good at is being a criminal, and once he gets his powers, he’s afraid that he’s also only meant to hurt people. There’s a lowkey belief that if he uses it, that it means that he’s meant for bad things because fire is so destructive...he’s seen that first hand. It’s all he’s good at. And add that to the fear of his sister never accepting him again: whether it’s because of the life of crime he had chosen or the meta powers he had gained. That bridge is burned severely (pun somewhat intended--its late, please don’t judge.) Gabriel worries that there’s no redemption for him (but we all know that Wally won’t let that happen, don’t we?)

🤗 - something that makes your character feel warm and fuzzy?

Blair: Literal fuzzy socks and warm sweaters...I’m not even kidding. You will find her (well, she surely hopes you won’t) in her underwear (pajama bottoms--shorts or pants alike) with a warm sweater and thick fuzzy socks. Most of the time with a cup of coffee or hot cocoa in her hands. But honestly, it’s when Leonard does things to show affection. He has a habit of uh...tapping her nose quickly with the tip of his finger. And that actually started out as something taunting, sarcastic, and somewhat patronizing, because Leonard is Leonard. But it grew to something he’ll do when she’s troubled or too focused on something and frustrated. It’s also words of affirmation. Especially from Leonard, Wells, Martin, Oliver, and Barry. Even Mick, if I’m being honest. It’s a nice reminder that she’s cared for and it always makes her feel good.

Amikel: The moments where Din is being a soft dad with Grogu or when Grogu is being absolutely adorable (when isn’t he, though?) She won’t admit it at all, and she might shoot you (or throw a bottle at your head) if you dare say a word about it. But Amikel hasn’t had family in a long time, that’s the closest thing she’s had and having her childhood friend back? They make her feel like she’s part of a family and is cared for. 

Veronica: There are moments that she gets with Dick when they’re younger where they would just hang out on the rooftops of buildings in Gotham. It was like they were in their own little world back then, it made her feel like she had a friend that understood at least some of what she went through. They would often sit on the edge and eat from one of their favorite pizza spots in Gotham, and every time she passes it, it makes her remember it fondly. So, usually going out for pizza is a go-to with her other friends when she’s older, and she will actually take some pizza and sit on a rooftop on her own, too, on a good night on patrol. 

Gabriel: His mother’s homemade meals and positive reinforcement. He’s definitely rough on the outside, but he’s soft on the inside and appreciates affection from the people close to him. Blair rustling his hair (which he moans about--but secretly likes it) or pulling him into a hug, Mick giving him a rare slap on the shoulder, or anything of that nature will make him feel a bit warm because that’s validation he wants. But celebrating his culture (with or without his family) is something that always makes him feel like a kid again, and if he’s not with his family, it makes it feel like he’s with them anyway. 

💞 - something that makes your character feel loved?

Blair: When people pay attention to the little things. Most people don’t really catch most of the things she rambles about when it comes to her work, sometimes it can be hard to understand, but when people remember little details (even if they don’t understand), it makes her feel they care about her and her passions. Like how Leonard throws in how he’s paying attention or when her parents were always supportive of her scientific endeavors. Even having her science nerd friends get on board and show interest in her work means a lot to her. Actions are a big thing too, because that girl is oblivious at times, but actions speak louder than words (so Leonard can be as smooth and sarcastic as he wants, what she notices is him saving her ass on missions.)

Amikel: It’s really hard to explain, so I hope this comes out making sense, but it’s a bit complicated with her, so bear with me. Obviously you have the moments with Grogu where his attachment to her is apparent--that’s the easy answer. With Din, it’s different, and I know this might sound weird, but its his trust in her and treats her like a partner. Amikel doesn’t have the best reputation, and honestly, she’s not a very trustworthy person with the line of work she usually does. She’s not one to be fully without honor, but she’s also...well, she’s had a bounty on her head once or twice herself. So his trust in her as a partner and to trust her with the kid? Yeah, that hits a certain way.

Veronica: It’s when someone makes her feel seen. Veronica is perceived as a lot of things, some true, some not so much. There’s more to her than that, though, and it’s overseen, or she hides it more often than not. So when someone sees her despite all of that? It makes her heart race. And let me tell you, Dick Grayson sees right through her and always has (listen, he’s a damn good detective, alright? Give the boy some credit.) It makes her feel vulnerable, but in a good way when it’s with someone she trusts and loves in return, bot from friends and significant others. Alice and others making it a thing where they

Gabriel: He’s a pretty affectionate person past the hard exterior, so kisses on his cheek or forehead, and hugs (any of these could be platonic or romantic) are something that really hits him in the feels. But it’s when you make him feel...like something more, and you show that you’re not ashamed of him. It makes him feel truly loved when people can look past the criminal piece (because boy is trying to turn a new leaf--to show he’s more than the self destructive nature he’s seen as) and see him as someone worth something. Someone that cares for him for who he is and doesn’t try to make him be something he’s not, and just being there for him and believing in him. As for the affectionate piece, he loves it when you show it openly, unafraid of expressing that you care about him, despite what others feel (he’s got a bit of a rep for you know...being a criminal: thief, arsonist, hired muscle, and he dabbles in illegal street racing...he has a resume apparently...)

[datingadviceonreddit]

Hey everyone. I'm looking for some opinions on how to go about my life and dating. Men, women, or whatever you identify as. All of your opinions are welcome. Don't hold back. Be blunt and honest. I'm a big boy and can take some criticism.I'm 27. I am about to lose everything. My girlfriend of 4+ years who I moved to Denver for just broke up with me a week ago and is moving out and taking the dog. Shit is brutal. I've cried. I've been insanely depressed. I have felt hopeless. Then after a very positive conversation with a very positive friend, a switch flipped. I realized how much I have to offer and what a catch I am. Oddly enough, I've never been more confident. I completely understand that I'm riding an emotional roller coaster right now, so I'm just looking for some validation that I'm on the right path.I took time off work to get away and hopped on a flight and came home to see friends and family. I'm not going to lie. I have been doing a good amount of drinking with the boys and bullshitting, but I've felt like a man again. I've looked back at my ex and seen things I don't like, and have seen how much I was not valued as an individual. I certainly took her for granted as well and can fully admit I didn't give as much effort to date her and make her feel special and be as empathetic as I should be. She claimed to want a real man, but wasn't very good at accepting criticism or being disagreed with. I found myself putting up with way too much shit, just to avoid arguments. I think she wanted a doormat and I think I lost my balls for a while.Anyway, that is a little bit of background on the situation. Back to how I'm feeling now. I've been going up to girls at bars and starting all sorts of conversations. Just quick-thinking wit and charm is the only way I can describe it. I have not been looking to get laid. My girlfriend is going to be my ex after our conversation tomorrow when I get back in town. However, I've never cheated on anyone in my life and I'm not even trying to pull that shit. We are going to end, but I have enough respect for her and myself to not be that guy. Plus, I still had a lot of thinking to do and I'm not sure some strange would have been the wisest thing.I've shown an insane amount of confidence. I'm not trying to make myself sound really cool or anything. I don't think I'm cocky. I'm keeping things light and just straight up putting smiles on girls faces and making them laugh. I am not trying to get laid. I'm trying to go out and have fun experiences and meet new people.A buddy the other night pulled the "Have you met Andrew?" move (I'm Andrew) on some really pretty blonde. It sparked a really funny conversation and her and I ended up chatting even after she flashed her ring at us. She had a smile on her face the entire time and was loving the group’s energy. I wasn't trying to lay out all of my problems to her, but I did fill her in on my situation and asked her some advice on a topic my friends and I were discussing. We were talking about how taken guys tend to be attractive to women when going out. I feel like I always got more attention from women when I wasn't trying and just going out and having fun, because I had a significant other. I believe laughter, positivity, and a good time tends to attract women. When I used to be single (we met at the end of college), I just remember putting so much pressure on myself to get laid and I struck out constantly. I'm a good-looking guy and very fit, but I was just super nervous and wasn’t even close to being as comfortable with myself as I am now.Anyway, the question was wondering how women prefer to be approached. In my mind, hot women get approached constantly and hear the same bullshit. There are pick-up lines. There is the boring "What do you do?". I want to know what you do for a living but I want to know what makes you you and have a good time with YOU. I wondered if this was the right approach. I said these things to her and she confirmed that I was handsome and confident, and if she was single she'd definitely want to talk to me and would be interested.I had another experience last night of talking to a really attractive girl. I think I was trying to flirt with her at first. I don’t even remember how it started but her boyfriend eventually showed up and I ended up making friends with the both of them and having a good conversation. My positivity was inviting to both of them and we had a great time. I asked this girl the question about how to approach women as well. She confirmed I was handsome and would totally be into me if she was single and would have loved how I went about approaching her. She was very handsy with me and might have actually been attracted to me, but she seemed happy in her relationship. I’m not trying to be that guy and respected her relationship, but it did feel good to know a girl that fun and gorgeous liked who I was. She seemed like a great girl. We were all talking for so long that I think my buddy saw from a distance, knowing what I was going through, and came up assuming I was bothering them. I think he tried to apologize for me or something like that. The girl shot me a look of “who the hell is this guy?” and confirmed I’m cool. No problem here. She even later said don’t be like him, LOL. Basically I feel like I am acting completely different from how most people do, and I’m loving it.I just watched the movie Everybody Wants Some and took a whole lot of life lessons from it. I found a lot of the characters to be very admirable, particularly Finn. I see a lot of him in myself. An alpha, but not in the way that many people think. An intellectual jock who isn’t afraid to live in the moment, show his strength and vulnerability, isn’t afraid to be sarcastic and funny and say outrageous things, but never be an asshole to people. A character in the movie says a quote that really stuck with me. As someone who embraces the weird, this rang true. He said, “We’re fucking weird man. We’re different. The trick is you can’t fight it. You gotta accept it. You gotta embrace your inner strange, just be fucking weird, and when you do that, you bring who you are, never who they want, and that my friend, is when it gets fun”.I'm well spoken. I know exactly who I am and what I believe in and I don't sweat the small stuff. I have a good job. I'm a great athlete. I love having a good time and usually have a smile on my face. I can admit my flaws and take responsibility for my mistakes. I can have a conversation with someone and disagree with them respectfully, while also considering their opinion. For all I know, maybe you will change my mind. If not, you are entitled to your own opinion on ANYTHING and I respect that. I choose my battles. I’m more than willing to say I’m sorry in an argument, even if I feel like I didn’t do anything wrong. That’s not because I’m a pussy. That’s because I realize maybe I raised my voice or didn’t communicate effectively. That’s because I can put emotions aside and take a look at things and realize I would rather end this and enjoy the rest of the night, because is this tension really worth it over DISHES(insert anything silly couples fight about)!?!? I feel like those are all very admirable qualities and I’m proud to have them.So Redditors, I’m about to embark on a journey that’s going to have its ups and downs, but I feel confident about who I am and feel like I have a lot to offer, and if you don’t like it, that’s cool too. The bar scene is not my thing. I loved staying in on Friday nights and making drinks and watching movies with my favorite person, BUT now I’m rolling with the punches and making what is best of the cards I’ve been dealt. I know this post is very long, and as I typed it it just became more of a venting session. I appreciate you reading through it and hope maybe you got something out of it as well. Below is a summary of what I want answered.Am I going about all of this the right way?At a bar, as a girl being hit on all of the time, would talking to someone genuine and different like me be refreshing? Would you rather have someone serious?What is the etiquette for asking for numbers or dates in a normal everyday setting? If I see a pretty girl walking down the street and I walk up and ask a really silly and out of the blue question with a smile on my face and some charm and confidence, would you be offput? Is it too much if I start like that and then say, “But really I just thought you were really pretty and wondered if you wanted to grab a beer sometime”. I understand getting hit on can get annoying, so that’s why I try and keep a positive vibe and smile on my face and make you laugh. I want you to know I’m not a creep and I’m a fun time. If you don’t like me that’s cool. I’ll leave you alone. IMO having a stranger walk up and make you feel good about yourself or give you a conversation NOBODY else would is something that makes you memorable and unique. It’s not the worst thing to try and put a smile on someone’s face. If you can’t see that, I can’t see myself with you.Thank you all for reading. I look forward to the responses. via /r/dating_advice