#be safe happy and not anxious.

[and-stir-the-stars]

Hc that the first person Virgil says "i love you" to is Thomas, not any of the other sides

Still thinking through how it would happen. Maybe Thomas and Virge are talking, Thomas frustrated with how bad his anxiety has been lately and trying to work WITH Virge to figure it out. And Thomas says something like "i wish I knew why you were doing this" and Virgil snaps out "because i love you, okay?!" without really thinking, bc it's been a long time since Virge has had to really filter himself around Thomas

[bevioletskies]

tinn & gun + favorite moments (in no particular order)

“Do you think there’s another universe where I’m braver than this? The universe where I’m brave enough to say how I feel. How will he and I be in that universe?”

[persy-r-bozo]

[luvsavos]

hello rain world tumblr i would like you to meet my friend Big Ol Eyes (i named them that for their big ol fuckin Lookers and tiny ass . . pupils)

they followed me back to my shelter and proceeded to adopt me as their emotional support animal for the next cycle

[turrondeluxe]

Hello! Your art blog says to not repost you art, which is 100% fair. I have two subsequent questions: 1- can i use your art as profile picture on discord? if so, i credit you in my bio? 2- are there any steps to take if i see people reposting art without credit? (this is more of a general question, i guess, like is there a guideline to follow against reposters?)

Anyway thank you :3 your art always make me smile it's great, and so colorful, especially mikey

hi hi!!! :D

Yes of course! It makes me happy whenever people use my silly art for their icons :] <3 and while i don't really mind if it's not credited, it always makes me happy if it is!!!

aaa this was difficult to answer because reposters fr scare me and most of my experience with them it's that they get really confrontational over my OWN ART :[ so my first response it's to let them be because i don't want anyone to get into any trouble for my sake. If you do REALLY wish to somehow credit my art to a reposter that doesn't give a shit, i reccomend commenting the post like "this art is by @turrondeluxe btw" or smt along those lines :] Unfortunately the internet is very wide and there's also, unfortunately, many reposters that don't really care

[borathae]

I genuinely miss Jungkook so much like it physically pains me

[arriathedragon]

Wooly!!!!nI hedcanon he's not actually a sheep but abducted kid both Amanda and her monter took a liking too and so they dehuminised him completely until he forgot he was ever an actually person to begin with and his only motive is to keep Amanda/Rebecca calm.

Hence the desgin choices. lol More later Enjoy!

[aurorashard]

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[anonymocha]

my meds kicked in (neg) and it brought back my irrational fear of my art reaching twitter and people making a double-digit pages callout document of me

[northern-passage]

Genuine thought as a fellow trans dude, I’ve seen a lot of (obviously non-serious) questions on other blogs about characters’ genitals such as “how does it look like?” and similar, and I think we all know & understand that such questions are extremely inappropriate to ask and (I hope) no one would actually go around asking these questions irl. Idk, I think we should treat trans characters just like cis ones, without any special “precautions”, so to normalise them and not make cis people treat them like fragile boxes, a thing which happens to a lot of us irl. Hope this doesn’t come off as an attack or anything lol.

no worries, i didn't take this as an attack at all. i actually agree with you, that's why i mentioned feeling conflicted about it and also mentioned that i've changed my stance on how i felt about handling Noel and Clementine in game and in explicit intimate scenes.

however, for me the problem comes from the fact that people... don't ask these kinds of questions about cis characters? i suppose people do get cheeky "who is the biggest 🤪" asks but i would hardly compare the two. to be a bit crude, no one is going to be asking if a cis character has a dick or not, or "what does it look like". of course it's natural for people to be curious, and i honestly encourage the open discussion and am happy to see trans bodies being talked about more in a positive way, but not everyone is going to be comfortable with it due to the inescapable transphobia online and in the community. sending me that kind of ask is like sending out an invitation for a debate or a discussion that i don't necessarily want to have. i also just don't think people should default to asking a random IF author on tumblr dot com to describe what bottom growth looks like.

and with most of these asks typically coming from someone who is anonymous, i have no way of truly knowing what the tone is, what their intentions are or why this is being asked - is it another trans person? or maybe someone who is just genuinely curious? or, more likely in my experience, is it someone who is going to immediately follow up this message with something transphobic after i answer? do i want to roll the dice and find out?

so while i agree with what you're saying, it's important to consider the context and the reality we live in. the IF community is not kind to trans people or trans characters. and as a trans person, my first priority is protecting myself and my mental health. so what i mean when i say "precautions," is that those precautions are for me, because i've had to deal with transphobic harassment here for years now, and i try to mitigate it as much as i can. it's also for my personal comfort - again, to be blunt, i'm simply just not comfortable discussing a trans character's genitals with anonymous strangers on the internet. it makes me feel vulnerable.

also i do want to say i didn't mean for any of that to come across as a dig at other authors - if you're comfortable answering those kinds of questions, that's really only something you can decide for yourself. like i said, this is just coming from my own experiences in IF and for my own personal comfort - i have previously talked a lot about trans stuff and gender and sexuality here, when i'm feeling up to it, but it is something that is very draining for me and can also be very upsetting.

basically: i do agree that it's important not to other trans characters or treat them any differently than cis characters, but i also think there are ways to do it that don't require me answering invasive questions or questions that i don't feel comfortable with as a real life trans person, you know what i mean?

[mieiri]

does laichi like to play wrestle? 🥺

short answer: yes! but i always lose! :c

not even the devil could shake you the way saichi’s smile does— “come on, try to land a hit on me.” he pats his chest, then his arms, as if to warm up his body for what could be a very deadly hit.

“i could never even land a finger on you— have you seen yourself?” you shake your head viciously, tone sounding incredulous.

“i’ll go easyyy, that’s how much of a weakness you are to me. i promise . .” he mumbles the last bit a little too suspiciously that it makes you look at him funny.

“really, i do!” then as if to prove it, saichi’s defensive stance softens a bit— around the edges of his rigid back and around his thick shoulders, you can sense he’s released that energy of brute force as he shakes his head and wiggles his fingers.

so, you raise an arm, point two fingers— sniping it at his chest. and of course, saichi does not let you land a hit.

“god, i thought-” your other hand forms a gentle fist, swinging your arm at his body as the other hand molds the same way, “you said—”

and with the struggle showing on your face, saichi can only laugh— he can only smile so deeply that those secret dimples adorn the middle of his cheeks. “i said?”

he continues to swiftly move away from your weakly charged motions, admiring the silly habit you have of sticking out the tip of your tongue when you’re entirely engrossed in something. sort of like . . a frog.

“you said you’d go easy!” naturally, you pounce after him in an attempt to shave some distance— hoping it would be enough, to stand a little closer, (it’s not.)

because saichi has already met your wrist with his palm while the other, curves around your back.

he has you pressed against his chest, smiling down a very cheeky grin after— essentially— pinning you down, limiting your actions once again. “i was going easy.”

“this just means i still have lots to teach you.” still, because every time you visit the dojo on campus to steal a peek, he finds you, teases you and it ends like this:

“my girl,” he says, leaning down to place an annoyingly wet and loooud kiss, right in between your brows, “is not going to be held down by anyone.”

then saichi’s hands meet at the crown of your head, curving into the roundness of your jaw, “not even me.” before pecking the tip of your nose— sweetly.

“so let’s try again next time, alright?”

[evilmom]

🌱

[wayoftheghost]

…………..still thinking about how my partner said if we were dune characters i would be shishakli, warning chani of the off-worlder, knowingly suspicious and the Voice of reason in her ear, saying she does not trust paul or gurney after his arrival, and for chani to keep her heart safe, to trust her instincts. 😩 i think of this a lot.

[impostorsshow]

Happy New year everyone! I'm aware my post is late since I am 1 making this post 10 minutes after the New Year started, and also I live in one of the later timezones. However, I wanted to share that as a part of this new year, I've made a resolution; [obligatory read more since editing me has decided this is kinda long]

My resolution is to defeat [not 100%] every Zelda game that I have a copy of or aqquire this year. I think it's a task I can actually do and isn't too far off into impossible land, and to kick it off I spent the entirety of today completing [the first quest] of the original NES Zelda, in one sitting [like its meant to be] and abusing savestates every frame because I don't have very good control over mobility in games god help me if I play a precision platformer like ever. Anyway, completing this game is a very big deal to me, since I normally have a Very Big Issue with actually seeing the end of the game, and on top of that, it's a very hard game that i have held on a pedastal for years, and will continue to do so. I had to use my damn Zelda encyclodia and a guide to skip 70% of the final dungeon, too, though im nowhere near ashamed of that.

Here's proof for my own sake, as well as a few doodles, zelda related things in the encyclopedia that i may or may not do a redraw of later, and just general things that make me happy in my camera roll to start the new years off with some positivity. Remember kids, you don't gotta celebrate shit if it makes you feel bad, but make sure to take as much positivity as you can, however and whenever its avaliable, feeling happy is the difference behind surviving and living. If you don't have a new years resolution or are scared/dislike having one, that's okay and don't let anyone pressure you into that stuff! Just make sure your safe,stable and as happy as you can manage in your current situation.

You can tell this recording is mine because I never upgraded my bombs /j

[politemagic]

i'm in that stage of anxiety right now where i can't focus on anything except for my anxiety.

i want to just take a nap, but i'm too anxious to sleep. i can't write because my brain will destroy every sentence it sees, i can't watch tv because my brain won't stop running long enough to listen, i can't call anyone because my support system are all busy or frustrated with me and even if i could, i have no idea what to say. everyone's just gonna do the "it's okay, don't worry" maneuver on me and i'm just not fucking here for it. i know that. i know that. it does not help. it just makes me feel like a bigger burden for bothering you about it.

[florelia12]

So I’ve been thinking a lot about avoidant attachment styles since I’ve discovered I fall under that category like our beloved Helia hence an essay on his avoidant attachment style:

Its no secret that i love the comics and the Helia arc in The Trial comics. I think what I love about that comic is how florelia’s relationship is developed and depicted.

So, one of the characteristic of an avoidant is deciding to end a relationship without really communicating why. Helia did that to Flora after deciding that she deserved better than how he treated her, and that he wasn’t good enough for her or for red fountain. He decided for the both of them that this wasn’t going to work out because he’s not good enough. Flora didn’t get to have a say or to even confirm whether that was true because he just waltzed right out of there and cut contact.

So, he leaves and like decides to not contact anyone. After a few days of crying, Flora managed to contact him…He starts by saying that he doesn’t want to talk but she cuts him off and says I get it if you don’t want to be around me right now. “I accept that even if i don’t understand.”

When she offers her help to find him a place to stay, it was her offering the help without any strings. Which was why he took it (he was also kinda desperate). After he says yes, she even says okay thats it you can hang up if you want without forcing him to talk about whats wrong.

Then its Helia who speaks up and says hey this is kind of why im behaving this way. She senses an opening and tries asking if they can fix things. He’s not ready yet and so he says no, which she respects and hangs up the phone.

Flora then finds him once he’s settled down. Now, this could have been a manipulative move. Her taking advantage of the fact that he had no choice but to take up the rental room that she found for him so that she can force him out of his self-imposed exile and force a conversation.

However, when Helia tries to apologise because its the decent thing to do, Flora stops him and says he doesn’t have to talk about it if he doesn’t want to. She recognises his need for space right but also knows that he needs a friend right now. So, she offers exactly that and Helia accepts it.

This may seem contradictory since why is he accepting help when he’s an avoidant who’s hyper independent and wants to be able to meet his own needs. But, the reason people become avoidant is because at some crucial point in their life, their emotional needs weren’t met and the only way they could receive that was by seeking it out themselves, something that requires a lot of energy that unfortunately ends up with them not having any energy left to help meet someone else’s needs.

But, what Flora did was meet his needs while letting him know she didn’t expect anything in return. This takes a weight off his shoulders, and he feels secure enough with her promises to accept her help. Because right now, there is no expectation on him that he needs to meet which is the exact thing he ‘ran’ away (expectations he’s worried he can’t fulfil).

Then they’re okay for a while, and they can go on dealing with the matters at hand which is fixing up his apartment.

After a while, when things are going okay and he feels safe and secure. Helia opens up to her. They communicate. She understands.

Then comes the moment that didn’t really sit well with me at first but now I kind of understand.

At first I felt like why is she asking him about their relationship when he’s clearly going through hell about something else, isn’t that a little selfish when she said she’s okay if they don’t talk about it?

But, then I realised that Helia’s needs were met when Flora gave him the space he needed and accepted and understood him.

Right now…She’s asking for reassurance. She feels secure enough with him to ask for reassurance because she needs it right now.

This expectation, its a normal reaction. Its not her asking for something unreasonable. Even the way she phrases it is, do you want to end things? Is this what you need?

Not, oh lets get back together or why did you do that to me. Not blaming him for his actions. ( She even said she forgave him ). Not victimising herself.

Since Helia’s needs were met and he feels secure enough right now, he was able to meet her needs and so he offers her the reassurance she needed.

Which was this iconic moment…

I almost forgot the important part but when conflict strikes again…

Helia receives sus information about Flora and is struggling to figure out whether to believe it or not. Because he’s been tricked once, and now its happening again? Is he gullible? Is he the problem? He’s not good enough is he? A good specialist won’t fall for tricks so easily, right?

Flora senses the struggles and approaches, she’s panicky so she kind of starts seeking reassurance like what’s wrong? What’s going on? Talk to me!

This time he doesn’t walk away, he doesn’t avoid. He feels safe. He knows he can trust her because she’s proven that he is safe with her. He can trust his own instincts. Even if he was gullible, he made a mistake and trusted the wrong thing again, he knows he can communicate it with Flora because he feels safe enough to do it.

He reassures her that he trusts her. Then, they solve the problem. Together.

I just absolutely love this entire arc because its a realistic and somewhat healthy way of being in a relationship with someone who has an avoidant attachment style.

I’ve been seeing alot about this avoidant/attachment style and majority of it just straight up villainises the avoidant. I even saw someone say that “anxious people are expected to accommodate avoidants but avoidants aren’t really expected to accommodate for the anxious partner.” Which will always be true in some cases but is not what the general avoidant or anxious attachment style actually needs.

Its not exactly space that the avoidant needs (thats the coping mechanism), its safety and security. Just like someone with an anxious attachment style. Seeking reassurance is their coping mechanism, the solution is the safety and security that is offered. Accommodating someone’s coping mechanism is never a long-term solution, only healing can give you the peace you need.

Now, i did use to think that Flora had an anxious attachment style but I think she’s more secure. Like she needs reassurance, she struggles with her insecurities. But, you don’t really see her actively seeking it out very often. She understands most of the time when people want to be left alone. While she might struggle to give herself the reassurance she needs, she understands when someone else can’t give it to her at that moment.

Is she avoidant, on the other hand…i might have to sit on that a little but I’d love to know if anyone has any thoughts on that:)

This whole thing is so hard to navigate but people can sure learn a thing or two from fictional characters.