idk man i dont feel the need to always message my friends and always go out with friends like if it happens it happens i like the spontaneity of it all. i don't think i'm a bad friend for not being up someone's ass all the time. i can spend months not talking to someone but if i see them on the street i'll go up to hug and talk to them bc for me it's never that deep to spend a long period not contacting someone. plus now all friends i made irl are at completely different point in their lives and i'm still at the same place i was in like 2019 so i do feel like i'm not "supposed" to be bothering them (wrong of me to assume im bothering i know but all i do is wait for most of them to do the first move). and nowadays all everyone posts about is you're not a real friend if you dont answer my msgs 1 second later you're not a real friend if you don't go to parties 8 days a week with someone you met in the public bathroom a thousand years ago you're not a real friend if you don't go to therapy and stop bothering your friends about your illness like omg. i'll talk to people i like i'll hang out whenever it works and i'll message you back and i won't mention my depression and i'll act normal in public but i honestly can't wait to go back home and be alone. i love you so much and me not talking to you doesn't mean i like you less or that i don't want to be your friend it just means i want some time out to be on my own lol
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Maybe this doesn’t need to be said, but Im feeling awful about it, so -- to any mutuals that might notice Im not following them anymore, I'm sorry about that. I've just seen too many posts on my dash that I have no way of blocking because they're not tagged in any way and they're distressing enough it's turning one of the only places I considered a safe space not safe for me anymore. So for my own mental health, I had to unfollow. I Will refollow in the future and I still love y'all, but I just-- I can’t. Ive been noticing some very worrying stuff about my mental and emotional state and it's just too much currently. I hope it's at least an understandable decision, and I wish y'all are having a good day out there 💗
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Good news! Almost all better and feeling like a living being again so I might actually tackle some stuff tonight! I'm contemplating cleaning out that inbox and drafts though; the mood has passed for some stuff and I'm trying to get out of this little slump I seem to have fallen in, but overall things are looking up now I'm back to my part-time schedule and not dealing with 50+ working hours a week. :')
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I've stopped my anti-anxiety medication, which I only sort of needed (I still think that having something to take as-needed would have been sufficient) and I want to try that for a month or two and see if it's fine.
I've also stopped eating sugar as much as possible (I've had a couple steeped teas from tims and a few hard candies) and I've forsaken caffeine.
I had a bit of a menty b this weekend and I think it's just been a cumulative result of stopping everything after going really hard in December (just ate whatever) but I think I'm finally pushing through.
I have a few girls at work I'm going to the gym with so that makes it so much easier to actually get there, so that's good. And I have goals now, I'm going to work on my arms and upper body strength, which I've always been weak on (all my power is in my legs cause they've ahd to carry my fat ass around for 30 years)
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"I'm never going to be free of that man I've never spoken to or even seen on my dash, am I?" I'm not even involved in this but idk why you don't just say what a stupid shit he is like youd do with any moid you came across. you respond to peoples opinions on dumb posts all the time but for some reason you seem to want to defend this idiot.
...because I come across them. Because there they are, in front of my face doing man things and I comment. For some reason you and whoever else* specifically want my attention on this particular one. Which, someone said a little while ago they like the way I explain things and that's insanely flattering, sincerely, but I *try* to speak from knowledge and experience to avoid talking out of my ass.
I don't want to put the energy into gaining enough knowledge and experience to speak about this man. He is not a thought in my head until I get yet another ask mentioning him. In the nine years I have been on this hellsite, I don't think I've gotten this many asks about literally anything else. First from people demanding I defend him and then from people encouraging and later demanding that I condemn him.
My cat posts didn't get me this many asks. The story I wrote didn't get me this many asks. Poorly worded earlier posts I've made didn't get me this many asks. Original posts that made their way to the rapist fandom didn't get this many asks. TRAs haven't sent me this many asks.
I don't want to put energy into this male! Tumblr to me is my dashboard and nothing else. I follow 201 people, nearly all of them women to the best of my knowledge, and no tags at all. If someone I don't follow doesn't come up on the posts I see when I'm active, either directly on the posts of people I follow or on the "based on your likes!" I don't see them. They don't exist to me. This male should not exist to me. He doesn't exist to me apart from when you people keep bringing him up. Why you want an extra man to exist in my life is beyond me, especially here. Like I'm sorry that you etcetera are unable to let go of him, but I promise your lives will be better when you do. Pinky promise.
*I don't even know how many people are involved here. Maybe you're all the same damn person. Hell, maybe you're all him! I wouldn't put it past a scrote to do something like this--men do all kinds of shit to get female attention--but fucked if I know. Now, go on! Bring on an anon telling me I'm joining in a smear campaign against him because of those last two sentences. Let's at least vary this up a bit.
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i have so much work to do and i am so exhausted
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