#but i also love my best friend dearly

[solidwater05]

I'm greyplatonic. I've been greyromantic, too. And I realized that being a grey aspec is lonely

I don't fit in with allos, so I go to aspec spaces, but I don't fit in with aspecs either. When the aro community in general talked about not having crushes, I felt left out as a greyro who had crushes. When the apl community in general talks about not loving their friends, I feel left out as a greyro who, very rarely, loves some of their friends.

So, I'm making this post for all aspecs who feel too aspec for the allos, and too allo for the aspecs. For aspecs who love too much for aspec communities, but not enough for allos.

For all aspecs who feel attraction. For aspecs whose attraction is abundant but weak, rare but very strong, and everything in between.

For all acespecs who have sex and arospecs who date and all other aspecs who engage in activities without attraction.

For all aspecs who worry that their attraction and existence inherently support oppressive social structures.

For all aspecs who have never seen someone else like them. For aspecs who feel invisible.

For aspecs who feel like they don't belong.

I'm making this post for all shades of grey aspecs, no matter how light or dark, to let them know that we belong.

[maebird-melody]

I am making my friend watch the new Superman show with me and we just watched the most recent episode with Doctor Ivo. At the end, Jimmy is sad because his two best friends walk off all romantically into the sunset. I think nothing describes difference between the aroace and allo experience better than our very different responses to that scene.

My response was that Jimmy’s needs as a friend were clearly being disregarded in favor of the “more important” romantic feelings developing between Clark and Lois. And despite him shipping the two of them, it doesn’t change that it always hurts when you get third wheeled or left out by your closest friends. But I was confident that once the romantic tension settled and the three of them had a chance to talk, Lois and Clark would start making space for their friend again.

Meanwhile, my allosexual friend’s response was that “they need to give Jimmy somebody.” That the way to cure his sadness was to give him a romantic partner. Which was a response that shocked me, considering that my friend is very on board with my desire to maintain our close friendship after their marriage while not pursuing a romantic relationship myself.

And I cannot stress enough that finding a romantic partner cannot be the only solution to feeling sad when your best friends get together. What kind of message does that send to asexual or aromantic people? That you will lose all your friends to romance and you won’t have any fulfilling relationships yourself unless you also get with the program?

I am curious to see which direction the show takes this, but Jimmy seems like a prime candidate for either ace or aro representation. I hope that this can be a moment to help people untrain the knee-jerk response that romance isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution to relationship ills.

[lgbtiwtv]

moodboard for when you’re armand

[cubedmango]

sibling secrets

[fountainpenguin]

"Why do you enjoy predator-prey species dynamics and/or cannibalism content so much?"

Well see, when I was a wee child, Mario & Luigi: Partners In Time gave us a canon lifeforce for Toads and made us watch it get sucked out of them so they turn into item mushrooms, and I spiraled into building an entire lore system about Koopas eating Toads for extra lives and Bowser getting abused by his mom for trying to end that custom (and befriend Princess Peach) until he finally snaps and tumbles through the path of growing increasingly bitter as both the Mushroom and Koopa Kingdoms lose faith in him and his horrific decisions, and I've been chasing that high ever since <3

[squuote]

listen I absolutely loved this book but it’s kinda scary how much it’s actually effecting me. it’s all positive emotions but like. this is a lot. very scary

[horatio-fig]

help I said I enjoyed the deep caring friendship between two fictional men and now strangers are calling me homophobic on the internet 😭😭😭

[tennisarchives]

i loooooove unfollowing people when they say one (1) sentence that annoys me. peace and love on planet me 🕊️

[raspberryjellybrains]

it's so funny to me that most of what dream consumes over the course of the entire series is alcohol. like of course he'd be the world's first male wine mom.

[supergraphicultramoderngirl]

u ever hear a friend say something that they think is like this highly political and progressive thing and ur just kind of sitting there like. oh you haven’t gotten the new update yet

[nervocat]

GUYS I'M FREAKING OUT OMG THE LIVESTREAM THE LIVESTREAM THE LIVESTREAM THE LIVESTR

[moe-broey]

SHAERANANNAAAAAAAA

Sharena I love you you are so famous

PLUS ONE OF HER AND ANNA...,......... mirco-organism.........

[sonofshu]

ㅤ

[skrunksthatwunk]

found out that rascal's owner took him again while i was out, and he's probably not gonna be back since the semester's almost over. i don't even know if his owner's coming back next semester, if i'll ever see him again. if he'll ever see me again. why do they wait until im not around to do this? why do they never let me say goodbye to him?

[arachnidiots-a]

my non rp mutual @iloveuspiderman is constantly fighting the urge to like threads

[astral-catastrophe]

I can’t place name to this feeling