Example of an ESFJ-ENFP romantic relationship: Kataang
ENFPs (Aang) and ESFJs (Katara) are very outgoing and bonds over their compassion and empathy for others.
ESFJ is more traditional than ENFP and tends to keep a tight schedule. However, these qualities may inspire ENFP to become more focused on their own goals in life. At the same time, ENFP’s openness to new experiences and flexibility may inspire ESFJ to let go of the reins from time to time and try something new.
Both ENFPs and ENFJs love adventure and enjoy plenty of travel and memories that strengthen their bond.
They are both tuned to their emotional side and have no problem opening up to each other. They also possess a sense of altruism and compassion. And both are social and outgoing, although ESFJ takes action more out of a feeling of obligation, while ENFP helps others because of their high levels of empathy.
Lol yes it’s back! A lot of people seemed to really like those posts, so I thought I'd do an update since I found a couple more examples recently. However this time I'm gonna compile them all into this one post instead doing individual all over again lol. I compiled a pretty good list so I hope you guys like it! Also Happy 69th post! Woohoo! 🥳 (Yes I’m childish like that lmao)
Carlos de Vil (INFP) and Jane (ISFJ) - Descendants
Ashlynn Ella (INFP) and Hunter Huntsman (ISFP) - Ever After High
Sybil Crawley (INFP) and Tom Branson (ENTP) - Downtown Abbey
Furukawa Nagisa (INFP) and Okazaki Tomoya (ISFP) - Clannad
Allison Cameron (INFP) and Gregory House (INTJ) - House M.D
(I was hesitant to put this one bc they technically weren't really ever a thing but they did have feelings for each other)
Allison Cameron (INFP) and Robert Chase (ISTP) - House M.D
Allen Ginsberg (INFP) and Lucien Carr (ENFP) - Kill Your Darlings
I was hesitant to include them as well because they have a complex relationship, but I don't wanna spoil lol. So for those of you who do know what I mean, I'd honestly just say it depends on your pov (like with house and cameron).
Agustin (INFP) and Julieta (ISFJ) Madrigal - Encanto
Cameron James (INFP) and Bianca Stratford (ESFJ) - 10 Things I Hate About You
Izumi Miyamura (INFP) and Kyouko Hori (ESFJ) - Horimiya
Kou Sakuragi (INFP) and Naoya Nifuji (ENFJ) - Wotaki
**Note, I think most of their screen time together as a couple is in the OVA
Dorthy Boyd (INFP) and Jerry Maguire (ESFJ/ENFJ)
It's been a while since I've seen the movie but ik he's def Fe dom.
Mia Thermopolis (INFP) and Michael Moscovitz (ISFP) - Princess Diaries
Mia Thermopolis (INFP) and Nicholas Devereaux (ESTP) - Princess Diaries 2
Alrighty that's it for now lol
Let me know what you think! :) Feel free to share any thoughts or recommendations!
In this post I want to talk about my personal thoughts based on what I observe about MBTI romantic compatibility or romantic compatibility in general.
Because remember, MBTI isn't enough when looking for a partner; there can be:
Very different people of the same type
Similar people of very different types
It also depends on what similitarities and differences mean for you.
MBTI: COMPATIBLE, SIMILIAR, DIFFERENT
Think at colors: there are colours which matches armonically to you but maybe you still preferer a "very similar" colour that accompany you or "very different" one that make you natural color stands up
1) COMPATIBLE if you look for an armonical balance between your differences (dichotomies) and similarities (same primary function but inverted and same process thoughts of the other two functions)
E/I + P/J difference or also F/T or N/S depending on what is the primary function (change the other). F/T or N/S lead to apparently more differences but deeply same way to process some thoughts (exactly same middle cognitive functions)
Example: INTJ x ENFP or ENTP
Example: ISFP x ESFJ or ENFJ
2) SIMILIAR: same type or similiar in many things (but not having the same primary function and thinking process can still lead to a not so small difference): you prefer having more similitarities with your partner (e.g. both introverted)
Change just a letter (be conscious that usually the S/N difference alone could still lead to a strong difference)
Example: INTJ x INTJ or ENTJ or INFJ or INTP (or also ISTJ)
ABOUT changing only the last 2 dichotomies: it will lead to a more complex mix between similarities and differences, usually it can be great at times but can also lead to many misunderstandings, for this reason I see more friendships than romantic partners on these.
Example: INTJ x INFP
Example: ESTP x ESFJ
3) DIFFERENT: very different type or opposite type: you feel safe with a companion that can do the things you can't do.
Example: INTJ x ESFP, ESTP, ESTJ, ISFJ,...
Is it immature?
If all you look for is just a personality type yes, but if you consider many things among which a specifically personality type... no. People choose their partner based on physical appearance, interests, sympathy, familiarity, style of life... and choosing based on the way a person perceive and process reality that affect every part of their daily life is nothing but deep.
"BUT if you both are willing to make it work..."
I will be honest here on my opinion. We are not talking about getting along with colleagues or in family or something forced, but with romantic relationships. It's so natural to look for a "compatible" friendship, why not with romance? Friends can be many while a romantic partner is hopefully just one and for every day of our life; and every relationship is already difficult by itself without us making it more complicated. We will live and share everything with our partner, make decisions with them, see and talk to them everyday: for this reason I personally don't see why we can't be selective.
So... is MBTI compatibility important? Depends
My personal opinion is that compatibility in general is very important, but not each couple needs MBTI compatibility to work well.
Your perfect match depends on who you are and what you look for in a partner.
-> Some thoughts to consider for wishing to have MBTI compatibility or not:
If your MBTI type is a huge part of who you are and your mental process - choose YES
Passions, interests, character and other things have a huge impact of who or your partner are more than MBTI - choose NO
You are selective and look for deep understanding of who you are to feel completely gotten - choose YES
You get along easily with others and feeling get is not your primary need (or not by a partner), you enjoy and look for other things - choose NO
Your process thoughts deeply, analyse others and observe a lot - choose YES
You are in tune with the ambience more than focusing too deeply on the others, you are more practical and a doer - choose NO
IMPORTANT CONSIDERATIONS
Your answer can be different of the one of your partner. For example an INFJ chooses her ENFP for MBTI compatibility because she wants to have long conversations and feel mentally connected with him while ENFP chooses her for the way she treats him and prefers spending time doing some hobbies together. So their relationship's will won't match.
If you wish for MBTI compatibility:
I will repeat it another time: MBTI isn't enough! There are always other things that defines us as values, humour, interests, style of life, mentality. So your life partner will be one of the personalities you get along with: not all will work perfectly with you!
MBTI isn't a guarantee! There is no perfect balance and every couple needs work.
If you wish for other kind of compatibilities:
Still be conscious about your personalities! Sometimes feelings cover our differences and you are ok with how are some things now but maybe in the future you or your partner will look for other things.
Be aware! Not thinking about it doesn't remove their type and your similarities/differences, the best is knowing your MBTI types and still be sure it's the best for you! MBTI knowledge in any case could always help in your journey.
Some example of couples I know:
MBTI compatible couples:
ISFP x ENFJ: natural match and they also share the same way to see life - worked
ESFP x ISFJ: compatible but the mental disorders of one destroyed their relationships and also their interests didn't match - didn't work
Not MBTI compatible couples:
INFP x ISTJ: they have the same values of family and both looked for a companion that can do what they couldn't, and feel safe in the differences of the other - worked
INFP x ESTJ: they loved the differences because they made them feel safe, during life they realized they needed to feel understood by the other and suffered for the lack of similitarities - didn't work
FINAL THOUGHTS
Be careful and choose what is best for YOU depending on what you and your partner look for in a relationship. Because at the end knowing what you want in your love life and waiting until you find it is the most important thing! If you want read this last part by thinking at different characteristics other than MBTI.
Different partner: more work to to but they can help you with doing the things you can't do. Always looking for an opposite partner can be sometimes linked to low self esteem, or positively to a strong adaptation ability.
Similiar partner: less work to do but you will have the same limits and face the same problems. Always looking for a very similar partner can be sometimes a sign of immaturity, or positively of a sensitive trait.
I'll say it again:
I talked about MBTI compatibility but remember that MBTI doesn't describe us totally so choose wisely considering that person completely!
And work with your defects and mental disorders, with them every relationship is destined to fail or be unhealthy or toxic.
Maybe you are thinking "love is blind"... to our mind maybe yes, but unconsciously is linked to how we see ourselves deeply.
Feelings may last some time but having a partner hopefully will last a life.
Ne being the bouncing-off-the-walls function is a misconception, Ne by itself doesn't do that, considering its definition as the holistic perception of external reality. Ne is a single point overseeing the context of what's collectively happening...
Ne users vibe! They pick up the wave and flow with it, keeping a pulse on the big picture. That's the opposite of someone chasing flying unicorns and vomiting rainbows. Many Ne users are very laidback, and are *very* much in touch with reality...
It's reality at the abstract level where all of the moving parts happening around them are blended into a singular idea. Like a coach leading the team, a conductor guiding the orchestra, a nurse navigating thru the healthcare system, a journalist covering the state of economy...
They all stand in a position of perceiving a synergistic image produced by all the moving parts around them. That's what Ne sees!
So where does this whole bouncing-off-the-walls thing comes from? To change the collective idea, we need to create momentum shifts... One impact or two isn't enough. We need to approach this relentlessly at the right angles!
If you're asking "isn't making impact Se? So we need a lot of Se?" You'd be right! Ne users dip into their Se. An idea can be concretely realized in so many ways...
Many things have to happen to get an idea off the ground. Seeing possibilities is byproduct of this. They're multi-tasking, paying attention in all of the things, dipping into Se making impact wherever they can. They're trying to be in many places doing many things at once!
And with their respective codec function, ESxJs build and rely on structures to tune the moving parts to shape their ideas at large scale. ENxPs who'd rather bask in the flow wear many hats building up a swiss-army knife variety of skills.
HOW I THINK _ bonedo 'n their love languages ! (pt.2)
pairing; ot6!bonedo x fem!reader
synopsis; how would your adorable boyfriend(s) express their love for you?
word count; 614
author's note; pt.2 is here!! wooo what are yall's thoughts on a taesan fic involving love potions? i got the idea a while back but idk if the commitment is there lmfaoo
read pt.1 here !
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KIM DONG HYUN - physical touch/gift giving & receiving !
ESFJs are.. interesting. when they're in love, every little thing their partners do, affect the way they judge their relationship. here, leehan would definitely be the one who's into physical affection a lot. for him, a day without your hugs and kisses, or cuddles right after waking up, is enough for him to jump into conclusions that maybe your day was bad, or that you had a nightmare. he'd do everything, in his favors to make your day better. leaving you in bed, with a forehead kiss, and going out of his way to bring you breakfast in bed is something i definitely think he'll do a lot! the type to be totally into pda because he desperately needs people to know that he has the most prettiest, cutest, sexiest, smartest and loving girlfriend on this entire planet!
think of gifts such as flowers, hand-made cards, CDs or cassettes, rings, things he made in art classes such as little pots, drawings, tickets to concerts or amusement parks, because he loves to spoil his babe a lot and would swim across oceans just to get you the things you like. and this would totally go both ways, too. you would exchange gifts whenever there's a special day you both would like to cherish together.
he'll probably get you hot water bags, chocolates, snacks and warm blankets when you're on your period and would check up on you frequently to make sure you're doing fine. he would give back rubs whenever you're having cramps, while you sleep helplessly on your bed.
"i made you this during pottery classes.. see the flowers here? they're real! i glazed them afterwards.", he'll say proudly, with his adorable eye smile.
you'd kiss him immediately right there and then, which he would return in a heartbeat.
KIM WOONHAK - quality time/physical affection !
another ENFP, who has an unhealthy obsession of being with and around you 24/7 because he just loves you a lot, he can't help it okay? for him, one second without you feels like eternity. you two spend every second together, being literally attached at the hip. the type to send you messages like, "i wish you lived next to me, so that whenever i wake up, i could just stick some notes in my window, wishing you good morning, hoping you'd see them.", knowing that you'd have to literally run out of your house to reach school on time if that happened. he's the one who yaps a lot in the relationship, while all you can do is either listen with full interest, or feed into his interests by asking him more. and if you do both, he'll probably be planning a future with you, far away from the main lands, because he wants you to himself.
the type to give you surprise hugs whenever you're fully focused on something, like reading a book, to see you flinch. he'll probably be into the concept of cheek touching, as a form of greeting you. be prepared for random kisses on your cheek, nose, forehead, lips, hands and knuckles through out the day, because poor baby just cannot get enough! think of teddy bear hugs, and him resting his chin on your shoulder.
he's totally the type to fall asleep in the bus/train ride home after school, leaning to your body or shoulder, while one of your earbuds is still playing faint music, to help him sleep.
"can you come over, baby? pretty please? i promise this is the last time i'm asking you this! i miss you.", even though it probably will continue to happen every single day.
Gonna throwback to the 2010's (shudders) (skip to bottom of post if you just want the stats and the ending/ultimate betrayal lmao)
There are eight teams of two, all of which were chosen randomly by spinning the ✨Wheel of Fate✨ Before we see how this game goes, let's take a look at the teams determined by nothing other than DESTINY and place your bets.
District 1: ISTP x ENFJ
Opposites attract, maybe? Could compliment each other well, but there could be some infighting. I'd bet on it.
District 2: INFP x ESFP
...Not a very goal driven bunch, are they? If they win... it'll be dumb luck. With style, of course! They'll be interesting to watch, nonetheless. Bet against.
District 3: ENFP x INTP
Lmao, okay, do they even want to win? That's a lot of Ne for one team. They might have better luck actually breaking out of the arena itself, instead! Bet against.
District 4: ISFP x ENTP
Interesting take... it's not what I think of when I think "winner", but honestly? I think they could pull it together in their own way. Sure, why not! Bet on.
District 5: ESTP x INFJ
This one feels like a practical joke lmao. I'm gonna say most likely to split up and do their own things. Bet against.
District 6: ISTJ x ESTJ
I'd say they're probably the scariest team on the list, I would watch out for that. It almost feels kind of unfair that they got paired up? Kinda wanna see them meet their maker. Bet against.
District 7: INTJ x ESFJ
Now these guys seem like unlikely friends, actually. I think they'll discover that they unexpectly work well together, keeping a balanced team! Bet on.
District 8: ISFJ x ENTJ
So close to the other team, but for me, no cigar. I think there's going to be power struggles and opposing priorities. Second team to split up. Bet against.
With all of that said, let's see what happens when the game starts!
Bloodbath
ENFJ convinces ISFP to not kill him only to kill her instead.
ENTJ attacks ESFP but ESTP protects her killing ENTJ.
ESFJ stays at the cornucopia for resources.
ENTP takes a handful of throwing knives from the ground and retreats.
INTJ finds a bow and some arrows.
ENFP finds a bag full of food.
INFJ takes a handful of throwing knives from the ground and retreats.
ESTJ takes a couple explosives from near the cornucopia.
ISTJ takes a handful of throwing knives from the ground and retreats.
INFP dashes to the forest to avoid the bloodbath.
INTP grabs a sword.
ISFJ runs away with a sword and some rope.
ISTP scores a bar mace from inside the cornucopia.
Total Kills
ENFJ: 1
ESTP: 1
Deceased Tally
ISFP (bloodbath)
ENTJ (bloodbath)
Day 1
ESFP in a cruel fate, asks ISFJ to kill INFJ or ESTP. She decides to kill INFJ.
INTP fishes in the water for some food.
INTJ discovers a water source.
INFP, ENTP, and ESFJ hunt for other tributes.
ISTP begs for ENFP to kill him. She refuses, keeping ISTP alive.
GROUP NAME: BOYNEXTDOOR (often abbreviated BND or Bonedo)
DEBUT DATE: May 30th, 2023
DEBUT SONG: One and Only
MEMBER COUNT: 6
FANDOM NAME: Onedoor
SLOGAN: Who's there? BOYNEXTDOOR!
COMPANY: KOZ Entertainment
Spotify playlist with all BOYNEXTDOOR songs
Youtube playlist with all MVs in order
OTHER GROUP INFO:
They are the first group to debut under KOZ; a subsidiary label of HYBE formed by Zico (leader of the 2nd gen group Block B). They have a close relationship with Zico, even though he is the CEO of their agency. He is also involved in the writing and production of all of BOYNEXTDOOR's albums thus-far.
Their first 3 albums: Who! Why.. and How? are part of a trilogy and include BOYNEXTDOOR's simple storyline. (in chronological order: Who!, How?, Why.., although How? was released after Why..) The albums encapsulate the story of falling in love, being in love, and breaking up. Even the album designs and colours coordinate, with Who! being a bright blue, Why.. being a deep magenta, and How? being a gradient of the two colours along with orange.
They got their first win on September 12th, 2023 with But Sometimes on THE SHOW. They've since bagged 5 music show wins total, 2 with But sometimes, and 3 with Earth Wind & Fire.
JAEHYUN/MYUNG JAEHYUN
BIRTHDAY: December 4th, 2003
HEIGHT: 177cm (5'10)
MBTI: ENFP
NATIONALITY: Korean
REPRESENTATIVE EMOJI: 🐶
FUN FACTS:
He has an older brother.
He was a former trainee at YG.
He likes playing soccer.
He was the last member to join the group.
He participates in writing lyrics and composing BOYNEXTDOOR songs. He writes his own raps, and has written some for remixes of songs, such as Le Sserafim's Smart and X Japan's Endless Rain.
He is the MC on M Countdown with Sung Hanbin from ZEROBASEONE and Sohee from RIIZE.
Jaehyun can be very shy, but he's also extremely extroverted and loud. He has amazing charisma on stage and can always capture the audience's attention.
SUNGHO/PARK SUNGHO
BIRTHDAY: September 4th, 2003
HEIGHT: 173cm (5'8)
MBTI: ENTJ
NATIONALITY: Korean
REPRESENTATIVE EMOJI: 🐈 (formerly 🦊)
FUN FACTS:
He has an older brother.
He has a pet cat named Simba.
His nicknames are "shoulders" because he has very broad shoulders, "top gun" (given by the members), and "yeppi" because he is very pretty.
He likes to try out different cafes.
He is the best vocalist in BOYNEXTDOOR.
He has bad eyesight so he wears contacts.
He was in a band in middle school.
RIWOO/LEE SANGHYEOK
BIRTHDAY: October 22nd, 2003
HEIGHT: 170cm (5'7)
MBTI: ISFP
NATIONALITY: Korean
REPRESENTATIVE EMOJI: 🦦
FUN FACTS:
He has an older brother and a younger brother.
The members nicknamed him 우리 리우 (Our Riwoo).
He has a pomeranian named Daebak-i.
He loves desserts, especially donuts.
He is the best dancer in BOYNEXTDOOR.
He seems cold at first, but he is actually really sweet and easy to become friends with.
He took part in multiple dance talent shows before debut and has taken dance classes at different schools.
TAESAN/HAN DONGMIN
BIRTHDAY: August 10th, 2004
HEIGHT: 182cm (6'0)
MBTI: INTJ
NATIONALITY: Korean
REPRESENTATIVE EMOJI: 🐈⬛
FUN FACTS:
He has a younger brother and a younger sister.
Taesan participates in the writing and composing of BOYNEXTDOOR's songs. He has also written some of his own songs, but hasn't released them yet. He started writing music when he was in 10th grade
His music taste was influences by his father, who was a big fan of old bands and musicians. Taesan likes NIRVANA, The Carpenters, Oasis and Richard Sanderson.
He likes to read and play the piano. He prefers reading to watching movies or Youtube.
He trained under Source music, and was a trainee for 7 years; the longest amongst the members.
His nickname is "Giant Mountain" because that is what Taesan stands for.
He came up with BOYNEXTDOOR's official greeting.
LEEHAN/KIM DONGHYUN
BIRTHDAY: October 20th, 2004
HEIGHT: 180cm (5'11)
MBTI: ESFJ
NATIONALITY: Korean
REPRESENTATIVE EMOJI: 🦁 (formerly 🍤, 🦐 or 🐠)
FUN FACTS:
He has an older sister.
He loves fishes and plants. His favourite fish are corydoras and he has several in the dorm. He often zones out while watching his fish tank, and he can talk for hours about them. He assigned each member with different fishes as well.
He's a very positive person and a very good listener. The members usually seek him out for advice, and his nickname is "the therapist of KOZ".
He loves gummies and would rather eat them than a real meal.
He did taekwondo since he was 5, and even won medals in city competitions. He quit when he was in 8th grade.
He's often described as the weirdest member because his habits and hobbies are quite unique from the rest.
WOONHAK/KIM WOONHAK
BIRTHDAY: November 29th, 2006
HEIGHT: 182cm (6'0)
MBTI: ENFP
NATIONALITY: Korean
REPRESENTATIVE EMOJI: 🧸
FUN FACTS:
He has a younger sister. He says his sister is his favourite person in the world and he misses her a lot since he is so busy.
He's close with Daniel from I-LAND.
He loves basketball and he's a big fan of Michael Jordon.
He participates in writing and composing BOYNEXTDOOR songs.
He loves people and is very affectionate towards the members. He takes good care of them despite being the maknae, and he says his strength is making people feel good.
When KOZ came to Woonhak's school for auditions, he had slept in and missed them. But the company contacted him and told him that they wanted him to audition, so he went to the company and ended up signing under them.
He was the Inkigao MC with Yeonjun from TXT and Park Jihu.
E (Extraversion): Indicates a preference for focusing on the outer world, gaining energy from social interactions, and being more outgoing.
I (Introversion): Represents a preference for focusing on the inner world, gaining energy from solitude, and being more reserved.
S - Sensing X N - Intuition
S (Sensing): Reflects a preference for gathering information through the five senses, focusing on concrete details, and being practical and realistic.
N (Intuition): Reflects a preference for gathering information through patterns, possibilities, and abstract concepts, focusing on the big picture and future possibilities.
T - Thinking X F - Feeling
T (Thinking): Indicates a preference for making decisions based on logic, objective analysis, and rational criteria.
F (Feeling): Indicates a preference for making decisions based on personal values, emotions, and consideration of the impact on relationships.
J - Judging X P - Perceiving
J (Judging): Suggests a preference for a structured, organized lifestyle, making decisions and planning ahead.
P (Perceiving): Suggests a preference for a flexible, spontaneous lifestyle, adapting to situations as they arise.