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[rainytypology]

INTJ Ni - Fi Loop

Explanation on an MBTI loop. Not an expert. May change later.

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Loops in MBTI occurs when a type begins to cycle between their dominant and tertiary function, completely ignoring the auxiliary and inferior. This is mainly caused from stress and can be continous until finally broken.

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INTJ function stack: Ni - Te - Fi - Se

In a Ni - Fi loop, INTJ becomes out of touch with their external functions (Te and Se). They become so internalized and warped in their emotions (Fi) that they forget to take the time to think things through. They make emotionally negative assumptions and are convinced their guesses are right. Very irrational and insecure, self centered behaviour.

E.g INTJ in a loop may think their friend dislikes them as their friend is not talking to them much. INTJ may think "oh they hate me now, they don't want to be friends anymore, they think I'm annoying" etc. However, a normally functioning INTJ would use their external functions to realize that their friend has been busy and therefore very tired. And when people are tired, of course they are not going to be the most energetic and talkative. Especially if it's a face to face interaction, INTJ would have to use Se to spot the visible signs of stress on their friend (dark circles, eyebags, overall looking dejected, etc). Ni - Fi loop will disregard this easy step and just make it all about INTJ's hurt feelings.

To get out of this loop, an INTJ should try to use their external functions little by little. Start working on things they need to do and finish a task or two to make their aux Te function normally again. For Se, take a walk, stretch, engage in something physical so they can get out of their mind.

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MBTI Notes

[lieutenant-amuel]

Hmm one day I’ll have to figure out my characters’ MBTI types.

[faeiapalette]

Someone sent asks about Laito RIGHT WHEN i was thinking about how the ENFJ consensus makes more sense than INFJ, overall…

But first i’ll have to deal with the previous asks first, the requests are stocking up 🛐

[findmeinthefallair]

What are MBTI cognitive functions, if you do feel like talking about it?

(If not, disregard!)

Omg thank you for giving me the chance to infodump, even though lol the MBTI fandom on here has been as good as dead for years :3 <3

They're basically mental processes related to your MBTI personality type, and there are eight in total: introverted sensing (short form is Si), extroverted sensing (Se), introverted intuition (Ni), extroverted intuition (Ne), introverted thinking (Ti), extroverted thinking (Te), introverted feeling (Fi) and extroverted feeling (Fe).

Each person has a dominant function, auxiliary function, tertiary function and inferior function. These four will form what's called a "function stack".

A popular analogy for this is the car model: where the dominant function is the car driver, the auxiliary is like a co-pilot, tertiary is a 10-year-old child in the back seat, and the inferior is a toddler in the back seat.

The history behind these functions is Carl Jung, back in 1921, came up with the theory of each person having four functions: one for sensing (related to sensory info), one for intuition, one for thinking, and the last for feeling. Decades later, Isabel Briggs-Myers expanded on said theory so that each of the four just stated above would be split into introverted and extroverted modes: making the number of functions a total of 8.

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Now each of the 16 MBTI types has its own unique function stack:

INTJ: Dominant Ni, auxiliary Te, tertiary Fi, inferior Se. ENTJ: Dominant Te, auxiliary Ni, tertiary Se, inferior Fi. ISFP: Dominant Fi, auxiliary Se, tertiary Ni, inferior Te. ESFP: Dominant Se, auxiliary Fi, tertiary Te, inferior Ni.

ISTJ: Dominant Si, auxiliary Te, tertiary Fi, inferior Ne. ESTJ: Dominant Ni, auxiliary Te, tertiary Ne, inferior Fi. INFP: Dominant Fi, auxiliary Ne, tertiary Si, inferior Te. ENFP: Dominant Ne, auxiliary Fi, tertiary Te, inferior Si.

INTP: Dominant Ti, auxiliary Ne, tertiary Si, inferior Fe. ENTP: Dominant Ne, auxiliary Ne, tertiary Fe, inferior Si. ISFJ: Dominant Si, auxiliary Fe, tertiary Ti, inferior Ne. ESFJ: Dominant Fe, auxiliary Si, tertiary Ne, inferior Ti.

ISTP: Dominant Ti, auxiliary Se, tertiary Ni, inferior Fe. ESTP: Dominant Se, auxiliary Ti, tertiary Fe, inferior Ni. INFJ: Dominant Ni, auxiliary Fe, tertiary Ti, inferior Se. ENFJ: Dominant Fe, auxiliary Ni, tertiary Se, inferior Ti.

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While it isn't at all a fixed formula, there appear to be tendencies for each of the eight functions to correspond to specific strengths and weaknesses.

E.g. because Se is the most objective function, people with dominant or auxiliary Se seem more likely to see things as they are and better respond in the moment, making them excellent e.g. athletes, paramedics or first responders, or kitchen staff.

Si is often associated with having an excellent memory and easily being able to tell when something has deviated from the norm.

Te is associated with effectiveness and efficiency, streamlining processes of getting tasks done in a system, and empirical measures.

Ti is about refining frameworks of thinking as one goes (people with a strong Ti-Ne combo are apparently excellent at chess).

If you have high Ne, it makes you great at brainstorming and similar processes.

Ni is to do with vision and finding meanings and patterns in things.

Having high Fe means you are likely good at persuasion and ensuring harmony in a group.

Fi is related to very strong personal beliefs and conviction, and being authentic.

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Where it gets very interesting for me personally is what happens to these when a person's mental health is affected. Over the years, MBTI forums on the net have come up with "function loops" and "function grips".

A loop is if you lose touch with your auxiliary function, and your first (dominant) and third (tertiary) functions are caught up in a tangle with one another without the auxiliary co-pilot to break them up and get them to exist in harmony. (Here's an ancient Tumblr post listing each loop that each of the 16 types can get caught up in)

For this reason, many people underestimate just how important their auxiliary function is; in fact, some people recommend that you develop it to be just about as mature as your dominant function.

For me, an INTJ, a loop means I enter a Ni-Fi loop and it usually shows up as depression or suicidal ideation.

A grip is if your inferior function flares up because of extreme stress. It usually shows up as a particularly out-of-character mental breakdown, more so than a loop.

I've seen examples of the above, both IRL and in fiction too.

One fictional example is Emily Thorne in "Revenge", who people seem to agree on as being an ISTJ,

experiencing a betrayal trauma so great that it led her to tap into her tertiary and inferior functions, making her unusually ENFP-like as she used creativity and deception to try getting justice for her father being framed for a major crime.

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There's an ongoing debate about whether people actually do use all 8 functions, not just 4. This has been tied to other writings by Carl Jung about our "shadow" and how he even created archetypes for parts of said shadow, e.g. "Trickster", "Demon".

So people have discussed stuff like how our inferior function might be the gateway to our repressed shadow side, and how our shadow side could help with personal growth if we understand it better.

Shadow:

5th function, also called the Vulnerable Function or Opposing Role Function

6th, also called the Mobility Function (I think?) or Critical Parent function

7th, also called the Point of Least Resistance/blindspot, or Trickster function

8th, also called the Role/Mask or Demon function

If you take my function stack as an example, my inferior Se is what might lead to my shadow which consists of Ne as the 5th function, Ti as the 6th, Fe as the 7th, and Si at the bottom as the 8th.

From my own personal experiences I think there could be some truth in this. Where it gets handy based on stuff I've read and discussed with enthusiast groups and folks on Reddit is if we follow this theory, my 5th function works best when I am working with someone who uses it more naturally, and my 6th works best and flares up as a burst of willpower under stress (especially when no one else in the room uses that naturally). My 7th is my weakest, and it really reveals what I prioritize because its friction with my 3rd function can in fact strengthen the 3rd function, and my 8th shows up as a mask and was most likely the one that people pressured me the develop the most in my childhood leading up to my 20s.

When I've run the above by some people IRL, asking them whether the same info also applied to their own lives and circumstances, we sort of picked up on a pattern which was really cool honestly. But MBTI is probably always gonna be too "pop psychology" to be taken seriously in the world of journal articles and empirical research.

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Hahaha, here's a TOH segment!

I'm gonna talk about Luz and Hunter a little:

I think Luz is an ENFP, while in Hunter's case it's hella difficult to guess under all those layers of complex trauma but...if I do the math by process of elimination, he gives off Ne-blindspot vibes and might be the introverted counterpart of Eda (who gives off massive ESTP vibes), so I'd guess ISTP.

The most interesting thing which may explain how different they are as characters is how their blindspots are the opposite of one another. Which makes their interactions pretty engaging and organic.

Luz's dominant function would be Ne, and her blindspot is Ti. Hunter uses dominant Ti, with an Ne blindspot.

Luz may have slipped into an ENFP Ne-Te loop of anger when Eda is taken away from her towards the end of Season 1, and she may have slipped into an Si grip when she gradually slipped into depression after Hollow Mind.

Hunter being so distressed that he dug his own grave in Eclipse Lake may have been an ISTP Ti-Ni loop, and his Fe grip tendencies seem to show when he's very sensitive that his friends might find out he's a grimwalker, terrified about what they might think and say.

See why I love MBTI? :') When I used to practise as a therapist, I definitely chose it as my main career counselling theory to use with clients, since every student who's training to be a licensed counsellor or psychotherapist here is required to have at least two theories on hand to draw from in their work.

Knowing these functions helps me to read people and the room better, especially as an autistic person.

[personality-corner]

Shameless MBTI

I would add the full typings, but this hellsite won’t let me add links to the typings.

Frank Gallagher - ENFP

Frank is always coming up with bizarre ideas, such as opening a homeless shelter, or calling DCFS on his children, that he never intends to see through. There is rarely any set of logic associated towards it, and more often than not, he uses his emotions to inspire his ideas- and get what he wants.

Fiona Gallagher - ISFP

While she does care about her siblings, her personal values and the fact that she does love her siblings is why she takes care of them. She rarely does something because the group as a whole feels it’s necessary, but because she feels it’s necessary. She is also quite impulsive in the decisions she makes, which causes her and others to be hurt in the end.

Lip Gallagher - ESTP

Lip is very impulsive in many of decisions and tends to follow his own rules, for the most part. He constantly gets into arguments with Fiona over the logic she presents to him, and how it makes no sense. A lot of the times, he just refuses to follow her rules. He makes decisions that he feels is logical, which puts him at odds with several members of the family.

Ian Gallagher - ISTP

Ian, when he’s healthy, often acts as the voice of reason in a lot of situations, especially towards Fiona, Lip, Mickey etc. He is often the one who is able to see the world around him and yet, come to his own conclusions about how things logically make sense.

Debbie Gallagher - ESFJ

One thing that has remained consistent in Debbie’s character, throughout all eleven seasons, is her need for emotional connection with others. We see this with her relationship with Frank, in earlier seasons. Her relationship with her fears, and even her relationship with her own daughter. This, and her unhealthy connection with the past causes most of her issues in the final season.

Carl Gallagher - ESFP

For the first half of the series, Carl is stuck in an Se-Te loop, where he just does things for the sake of it. Does “experiments” with his environment, not really caring who or what he hurts in the process. However, as he grows as a character, we see his Fi a lot more, when he stops ignoring it. His moral compass, which was non existent the first few seasons, is now a huge part of his character.

Liam Gallagher - INTP

Liam is very intelligent, and interested in knowledge for the sake of better understanding the world around him. He is constantly questioning the logic of the world around him, and has the idealist need to see the good in everyone, including Frank. He constantly sees multiple ideas in a situation and is able to come to his own conclusions about things.

Mickey Milkovich - ENTJ

Mickey has a very clear view of what he wants and how to get it most of it, and relies on information he has gotten from his family to get it. That being said, he struggles with emotions and showing them to other people, the only person who has ever really seen his emotional side being Ian, and he is definitely one of the few people he defends willingly no matter what.

Veronica “V” Fisher - ESTJ

Veronica, as a Te user surrounded mainly by strong Fi users (Fiona and Kev), V is always the one who has to be the voice of reason and lay down the law. She has a strong sense of right and wrong, coming mainly from her inferior Fi, and often uses past experiences to point out the flaws in certain arguments.

Kevin “Kev” Ball - ESFP

Kev is very impulsive at times, not really thinking through decisions before he makes them, and his decisions tend to be spur of the moment, and based on his own decisions. He struggles to think through things he does, and usually doesn’t realize the flaws in some of his decisions until after he talks to V.

[blueopinions49]

Healthy/Unhealthy ESFP

1 Percy Jackson

- Throughout the series he learns to balance his Fi-Te and with Annabeth’s help his Ni gets incredibly good. He knowns how to use his functions selectively and intelligently. 

2. Gon 

- His attachment of the sensory environment makes him a formidable fighter and hunter. He is very skilled in the use of hi Se-fi however his low Ni is often quiet noticeable and he makes some mistakes due to this. 

3. Amy March (LW 2019)

-She struggled in her adult life to balance her Fi-Te and often indulge in her Te. However by the end of the narrative we see an incredibly intelligent and mature ESFP who uses all of her functions in balanced ways. 

4. Johnny Storm

-His character developments its all about the push and pull of his Se-Te and immature Fi. His need to prove himself to others and fear of hurting his loved ones with his powers causes him to either overindulge on Se-Fi or just be a pure immature Se-Te ESFP (Depending on the comic book run).

5. Tomie Kawakami 

-Forceful use of SeFi over others and uses her Fi as a way of self promotion to make others fall for her to fall. Stuck in this sad Se-Te loop looking to please the sensory desire with no emotion at all. Forever stuck in a cycle she can't ever break. 

[radiokathryn-if]

oooh what mbti are the RO's? (nate gives me ENTP vibes and ISFP for eva tbh)

at the risk of sounding out of the loop, I'm really not well versed in the mbti types at all lmao. from a very quick google search and not nearly enough research here we go! if anyone else has a better grasp on mbti types and has a different insight please let me know!! I'd love to hear your thoughts!

Nate──ESFP, The Entertainer

Eva──ISFP, The Adventurer

Mica──INFP, The Mediator

Detective Han──ENTJ, The Commander or ISTJ, The Logistician.

José──ENFP, The Campaigner or ESFJ, The Consul

Ji Han──ISFJ, The Defender or ESTP, The Entrepreneur

Fauve──INTJ, The Architect

Jackson──ENTP, The Debater

???──INFJ, The Advocate

[mbti-sorted]

Hi, I realize you're not here to play mbti-counselor (or are you?) but I'm kind of stuck; I could swear that I'm a Fi user and Ti user, but that isn't possible. Could you offer any advice on how to figure it out? How do you understand Fi and Fe, and Ti and Te? Is there a type that presents, due to function order or a loop like they have both? Thanks for any help, and your time, and this amazing tumblr - I've learned so much ... ironically I can type other people quite well now.

These are Dario Nardi's definitions:

- EXTRAVERTED FEELING (Fe) - “Evaluate and communicate values to enhance social relationships.”

Attend keenly to how others judge them. Quickly adjust behaviour for social harmony. Like to use adjectives to convey values. The true degree of their emotional response about morals/ethics is often held back and given only in words or ideas. May be easily coerced or embarrassed.

MAINLY ESFJ, ENFJ. ALSO ISFJ, INFJ.

- INTROVERTED FEELING (Fi) - “Listen with your whole self to locate and support what’s important.”

Evaluate personal importance along a spectrum from love/like to dislike/hate. Use their whole brain to listen to others. Attentive and curious for what is not said. Focus on word choice and voice tone. Hard to embarrass. Can respond strongly to specific, high-value words. May not utilise feedback.

MAINLY ISFP, INFP. ALSO ESFP, ENFP.

- EXTRAVERTED THINKING (Te) - “Manage resources efficiently to quickly decide based on the evidence.”

Highly efficient use of brain resources. Focus on word content, recall facts and figures, see and manipulate images, and then decide. Adept at giving decisive explanations. Tend to utilise other brain regions only when those regions are truly needed. May display confidence even when wrong.

MAINLY ESTJ, ENTJ. ALSO ISTJ, INTJ.

- INTROVERTED THINKING (Ti) - “Reason multiple ways to objectively and accurately analyse problems.”

Rely on interior regions of neocortex. Adept at deductive reasoning, defining and categorising, weighing odds and risks, and/or navigating spaces. Can shut out senses to think. Tend to back-track to clarify thoughts. Separate body from mind when arguing or analysing. May quickly stop listening.

MAINLY ISTP, INTP. ALSO ESTP, ENTP.

I don't particularly type by functions, just how it shows up in physical behaviour - I find that people with Ti (not me!) are better at picking theirs out. You can try the suggestions in this post.

[funkymbtifiction]

Ben-Hur: Judah Ben-Hur [ESFP 2w1]

MBTI Type: ESFP ESFPs are confident in taking direct action, but not always aware of the consequences of their momentary decisions. When they loop out of their emotions, they can become callous and driven to accomplish a goal—which is what Judah feels throughout the second half of this film, as he intends to make his “brother” pay for what he has done to the Hur family. Opportunistic and good at…

[piscsworld]

Se or Ne?

okay, i know this sounds stupid as hell but hear me out. i literally have no idea what my mbti is. it's hard for me to tell the difference of the Fi users, or more like i don't REALLY understand the meaning of the functions (or i'm just overthinking lmfao!) , and the difference between Se & Ne. can anyone tell me the most important differences between them and how their inferior functions affect them (such Si/Ni "grip" or "loop"), and even a comparison of the little things the function would prefer over other things (such as, "cause of Se the ESFP would prefer blah blah blah over blah blah blah")

thanks ! :heart-hands:

[skylarsblue]

(This is long because it's a character bio)

Basic Information Name: Lixue Zhihao  Pronunciation: L-eh-sh-oo, Zh-ee-h-ow Name Meaning:  ‘Beautiful Snow’, Wisdom/Intellect & Brave/Heroic Nicknames: Jiayi - A female name that means “lucky one” Age: 29 (physically), 167 roughly (soul) Gender: Trans(?) Male Pronouns: He/She Sexuality: Bisexual Birthday: December 8th Zodiac Sign: Sagittarius Religious Beliefs: Morax-believer Race: Liyuen (Asian-Chinese) Nationality: Liyue Ethnicity: Asian Myers Briggs Type: ISFP-ESFP (ambivert) Enneagram: 4w3 Alignment: True Neutral

Dwellings Place of Birth: Minlin, Liyue Childhood Dwelling: Minlin, Liyue-Liyue Harbor, Liyue Current Living State: Travels but has a home just beside The Chasm Nation: Liyue Archon Affiliation: Morax

Appearance Height: 6’2” Skin Tone: Limestone (skin tone names are weird) Eye Color: Royal blue fading into periwinkle purple Hair Color: Mint green with a currant red streak Hair Type & Style: Thick & wavy, asymmetrical(swooped to the side) Body Type: Lean/Athletic ….hourglass?(but like, the male ver) Aesthetic(if in our world): Dazecore, Dethereal, Mosscore Clothing: An asymmetrical top (style roughly inspired by Beijing’s Cheongsam & a tang suit top), the right side is red with details along the side - this side also has a full sleeve down to the wrist and the accents are gold. The other side is a pale Turkish Blue and has no sleeve(it cuts at the shoulder). This tucks into dark teal pants that are rather loose, they tuck into some black & red boots(gold accents). There are cutouts on each side that expose the hip/upper thigh. His left arm is covered up to the bicep by a fingerless glove that opens at the palm. Some teal eyeliner rests under his eyes. His vision rests on his left side and holds a self-sewn “scarf” and a string of gem beads. A jade ring wraps around his belt loop which holds more crystal beads and a talisman he made. A piece of black and gold shoulder armor is situated on his right shoulder and held by black straps that go across his chest. Some rings and other crystal bead strands complete his design. Tattoos & Markings: An open “eye” tattoo on left palm, a closed “eye” on the right palm, talisman symbols down his ribs on the right side. Blemishes: A few random scars from everyday life, many small cuts along his inner forearms, a small scar on the side of his neck.

Powers And Abilities Rarity: Five Star Vision: Cryo Constellation: Renatus Moth (Reborn Moth) Weapon(s): Sword

-Special Moves- Elemental Burst: When the burst is activated, for a period of time, everything freezes. Nothing moves. Allowing for Lixue’s soul to leave her body and attack enemies until the countdown hits zero. In which her soul will return back to his body, and things will begin moving again. The damage inflicted when Lixue is out of his body stays. This countdown can be increased slightly by leveling up the talent. Starting at three seconds and reaching its max at twelve seconds. Elemental Skill: A quick slash with the sword Lixue is assigned that quickly circles his body, applying some physical damage and cryo damage. Charged Attack: A quick series of “two swords”, which is basically just Lixue & his soul hitting an enemy quickly at the same time.

-Talents- Normal Attack; Xianshen Swordsman E-Skill; Pollux Slash E-Burst; Fangshih Interval Xukong Adept; When Lixue falls(or “dies”) there’s a 30% chance he’ll revive on his own to 40% health. (He will come back with 60% health if you have his second constellation) Hun Shi: When using his Elemental Skill or Burst, he’ll sometimes double the amount of elemental energy gained from elemental attacks. The energy that is given as a result of this is given to his team members. (For example; using his burst might result in his team’s bursts being filled) Shuimu; Higher hydro resistance. (15% higher def against hydro damage, 30% if you have his fourth constellation)

When/How Vision Was Gained: After inhabiting the body of a man, Shi-Chen Zhihao, and declaring she would never take life for granted, Lixue went to enjoy the feeling of life again. Taking in a deep breath as she overlooked Liyue, what it was now that she had been dead for over three decades. As Lixue looked to the sky, noting the flying lanterns mixing with the stars, he notes something falling towards him. He reached out and caught it. He held a vision, a cryo vision. It was cold and reminded the soul of the icy chill of being deceased, as well as the cold of how she died to begin with. It made him laugh quietly. Wondering if maybe this was Celestia’s way of apologizing, or maybe, it was taunting him. How They Feel About Their Vision: Though he’s not entirely sure what he did to deserve Celestia’s attention, he values his vision with great pride. He also finds humor in the irony of its element. He finds it makes his life, filled with vague goals of learning, easier. Which he appreciates.

Recommended Weapons: Skyward Blade(Fivestar), Haran Geppaku(Fivestar), The Flute(Fourstar), Sacrificial Sword(Fourstar), Prized Isshen Blade(Fourstar) Recommended Artifacts: Blizzard Strayer, Noblesse Oblige, & Emblem of Severed Fate Talent Level Up: Teachings of Diligence, Bloodjade Branch, Whopperflower Nectar Ascension: Shivada Jade, Runic Fang, Glaze Lily, Whopperflower Nectar Bonus Talent: When making a revival dish(not an HP recovery dish, only those that revive a fallen character), you have a 15% chance of not spending one of the ingredients. For example, if mint is an ingredient, there’s a chance you will lose no mint when cooking the dish. Special Dish: Lotus Moon; a special way of making Fullmoon Egg. A revival dish that restores 2,900 HP rather than 1,200. Stats Strength: 7/10 Agility: 4/10 Speed: 6/10 Book Intelligence: 7/10 Social Intelligence: 9/10 Street Intelligence: 8/10 Cooperation: 5/10 Technique: 8/10

Health Overall Physical Health: 8/10 Overall Mental Health: 6/10 Physical Illness: Corrosion Mental Illness: PTSD, Depersonalization Disorder, BDD(body dysmorphic disorder)/Body Dysphoria Risks: Rigor Mortis Blood Type: B- Weight: 162 lbs (73 kg) Posture: 7/10 Addictions: N/A Neurotypical/Divergent: Neurotypical

Character Good Traits: Appreciative, clever, conscientious, disciplined, ebullient, humorous, insouciant, observant, persuasive, & venturesome. Neutral Traits: Ambitious, casual, dreamy, effeminate, enigmatic, frugal, irreverent, noncommittal, subjective, undemanding, & whimsical. Bad Traits: Aloof, calculating, careless, deceitful, fraudulent, hedonistic, impulsive, manipulative, opportunistic, & vague.

Likes: Sunsets/Sunrises, food with shrimp, Huangjiu(a Chinese alcohol), stargazing, the sound of running water, warm weather, colorful plants, butterflies, clean handwriting, and jokes. Dislikes: Frozen over lakes, wasting time, pure silence, the sound of chewing, being restrained(or feeling stiff), cold food, societal standards, overpriced stones, workaholism, & overly sweet tastes.

Special Interest: Necromancy & Adepti-magic Hobbies: Making talismans, exploring, & stone collecting Skills: Manipulation(he uses it for good I swear), prediction, sword fighting Weakness: Dissociation, stiff joints/muscles, phantom pain Motivations: Experiencing more of life, enjoyment, & learning Habits: Staring off into space & humming Guilty Pleasure: None, there’s no guilt to enjoying things anymore Phobias: Kenophobia; the fear of voids and vast empty spaces, Amensiphobia; the fear of amnesia.

Family & Relationships Parent One Name: Shanyuan Xueke Age: 68 Gender: Male Pronouns: He/Him Appearance: Black hair, sun tanned skin, blue eyes. 5’5”, stalky(like, chubby but with muscle), soft features. Personality: Charming and confident, but out of touch and stubborn. Relationship With Lixue: She can’t remember him much anymore, he was usually off and working anyway, he wasn’t very present. Current Status: Deceased (he’s been dead for a long time-) Parent Two Name: Jing-Lei Xueke Age: 57 Gender: Female Pronouns: She/Her Appearance: Red hair, fair skin, dark brown eyes. 5’8”, lean but overall average body type, pretty androgynous features. Personality: Intelligent and perceptive, the teasing type, but that’s mostly kept to her husband. Relationship With Lixue: Jing-Lei taught Lixue a lot of what she knows, she was kind and patient, but a workaholic. Lixue can’t remember much of her mother either Current Status: Deceased (been dead a long time as well)

Favorites Favorite Food(s): Golden Shrimp Balls & Stir-fried Shrimp Favorite Drink(s): Huangjiu Favorite Color(s): Hibiscus Red Favorite Season(s): Spring Favorite Holiday(s): Lantern Rite Favorite Flower(s): Glaze Lily & Lotus Favorite Aesthetic(s): Dazecore & Fairycore Favorite Animal(s): Snow Finch

Voice Lines/Animations Idle Line(1): “Things seem so peaceful, how nice.” Idle Line(2): “The breeze feels lovely.” Joining Team(1): “Now what do you have in store this time?” Joining Team(2): “Something new up your sleeve?” Joining Team (3): “Exciting.” Feelings About Ascension; Intro: “I feel more like myself, interesting.” Feelings About Ascension; Building Up: “The more powerful I get, the more I wonder where I have left to go.” Feelings About Ascension; Climax: “This should make things interesting, no?” Feelings About Ascension; Conclusion: “I haven’t felt this strong since…well, for a long time. It makes me feel like myself again. Thank you.” Birthday: “You know, birthdays are rather interesting. With each passing year, it’s likely you are so very different from what you were the year prior. On this day, you might say you’ve been reborn, if slightly. Fascinating to think about. Ah, forgive me, I lost myself for a moment. Here, I got you a gift, I hope you find it to your tastes.” --- Elemental Skill (1): “Watch it.” Elemental Skill (2): “Careful now.” Elemental Burst (1): “I don’t think so.” Light Hit Taken: “That was nothing.” Heavy Hit Taken (1): “It’ll take more than that to take me down.” Heavy Hit Taken (2): “Ugh, well now…” Low HP (1): “A bit to familiar.” Low HP (2): “(huff) I refuse to do this again.” Fallen (1): “I don’t want to…go..back..” Fallen (2): “Not again…” Fallen (3): “Please…don’t…” Opening Chest (1): “Interesting, what else is here?” Opening Chest (2): “I always enjoy rewards for my efforts.” Receiving A Gift(1): “Oo, what culinary skill. You truly are a jack of all trades, aren’t you? Oh come now, don’t get humble, you did so well.” Receiving A Gift(2): “It’s warm and delicious, I’m sure the more you cook the better you’ll get. I would love nothing more than to be your taste tester.” Receiving A Gift(3): “Absolutely not. I really appreciate the thought but, no. I’d rather chew on old leather…” ----

Chat; Rigor Mortis: “Ugh, I feel stiff again. Hm? Oh, no, it has nothing to do with how I sleep, move. None of that. It’s…well, nevermind. You won’t have to worry about it.” Chat; Irony: “Funnily enough, I don’t like the cold. Sometimes I wonder if Celestia gave me my vision as an apology or as a taunt. I’ve grown used to frigid temperatures, but I most certainly don’t prefer it. I enjoy the warmth of the sun, of fresh tea, of a campfire. Ironic, isn’t it?” Chat; Symbolism: “I’ve always found it interesting how cultures choose their symbols and what said symbols represent. Some are obvious. A new moon relating to new life, the color black being associated with death. Some however puzzle me, and I ponder how we come to those conclusions. Oh well, I suppose that’s just how things are.” Chat; Work: “I used to work nonstop. Constantly on my feet, doing something, my mind only on success, dependability, and mora. My mother & father were much the same way. Now, I can’t imagine living like that again. There’s no joy in a life like that. So many experiences get missed when you’re only focused on business. Enjoyment should be a priority, at least to some degree.” --- Good Morning: “Good morning. Ah, yes, I know it’s early but I promise I have good reason. The view here is beautiful. The sunrise paints the sky beautiful colors, and I’d like to share that with you. Come, before we miss it!” Good Afternoon: “It’s time for a meal, I think. Would you like to accompany me to a restaurant or perhaps help me make a meal? Whatever you choose, I’ll enjoy it.” Good Evening: “The sun is setting. The sky is colored lilac and pale yellow. Before you go to rest, please, take a moment to appreciate it with me.” Good Night: “Good night, I hope your bed is at its most comfortable tonight. Perhaps, if we wake early enough, we’ll have time to find a spot to view Liyue as morning breaks.” When It Rains: “Well, that’s not ideal.” When Lightning Strikes: “Careful now, lightning has an impressive kill streak.” When It Snows: “You’d think I’d feel comfortable in this weather…I don’t.” When It’s Windy: “Sometimes I wonder how Morax and Barbatos interacted. I wonder what this would mean between them.” Favorite Food: “I mostly just enjoy anything that’s warm, feeling it shake off the cold of the day is relaxing. Oh! And shrimp, I like shrimp.” Least Favorite Food: “Flavor and texture are things I’m not picky about, but temperature is. While a cool glass of alcohol or water is good after a long day’s work, I cannot stand cold food. It feels so…depressing. I’m not one to judge preferences, but I’d much rather eat something steaming off the plate. I’ve experienced enough cold in my lifetimes.” --- Lixue’s Hobbies: “I have many things I do to ensure I never waste a minute of my day. But, I think what takes up most of my time is stone collecting. It requires a lot of searching, mining, and then a whole different process to make the stones look beautiful. Time consuming and enjoyable.” Lixue’s Troubles: “I’ve grown to like this body. I am more than grateful for the things it can do for me, for the chance I was given to try at life again. But…sometimes, I remember it isn’t mine. It feels more like a shell than myself in those moments…”

About Lixue; Past Life: “When I was in my original body, I worked in various different jobs. A waitress, a secretary, a saleswoman. One that I found paid the best however? Well…It’s not a tasteful job by any means. Paid well, but the method of work was rather, ruthless.” About Lixue; Duality: “Funnily enough, I nearly died once before. To fire. It left me badly scarred, I got used to people staring at me as a result. Still, I felt powerful after surviving. Proof that not even fire could kill me! Aha…little did I know how escaping death ensures it will take another swing at you right when you feel most invincible.” ---

Vision: “My vision is interesting to be sure. Sometimes, I loathe it. It feels taunting, like Celestia is poking at me, giving me the element of ice. Other times, I feel it’s a lesson. I’ve gained the ability to control what killed me. Now that? That feels good.” Something To Share: “Every once and awhile, this body will gain a random pain. There’s no cause for it, but it’s familiar, a pain I’ve felt before in my old body. Occasionally, the feeling of fire hitting skin. Other times, the sensation of frigid water filling my lungs. It’s…unpleasant, to say the least.” Interesting Things: “I get quite a few looks from passersby when I indulge myself in something I used to like. Such as makeup, jewels, perfume. I often forget that I…don’t look how I used to. No matter! I still enjoy these things and I will continue to do so.”

More About Lixue: “Hm? You’d like to know more about me? I’m flattered, really, but you’ll have to be more specific. Oh? A life motto I follow? Now that is a good question! Let me see…Ah, I have one. Living authentically is one of the purest paths to happiness, even if sometimes troublesome. You are you, regardless of others opinions or insecurities you may have.” More About Lixue: “I still struggle to fathom just how much has changed since my passing. However, so much has stayed the same. It’s fun to compare my memories to the present. Oh, but I advise you never to dwell too much on the past. Living in the moment is key to never wasting a minute of life.” More About Lixue: “Sometimes, I pass people who look just…vaguely familiar. It hits me that they’re probably descendants of those I used to know. Then I realize that I’ll never see those people again. I know where they’ve gone, but I have no intention of going back there myself. I can only hope they handled it better than I did…” More About Lixue: “Have you ever met someone who just seems so melancholic? Those who are so enraptured in sadness, past regrets, pain. It hurts to see them. I know why they might be there, but I do my best to not be that way. Things can end so fast. The last thing you want to do is leave your life and realize you didn’t let yourself enjoy a single moment. It’s more agony to leave unlived.”More About Lixue: “Traveler, if I may, I’d like to give a small piece of advice. Please, no matter what others may say, remain yourself. I know that seems a bit vague, but I mean it. So many pieces of society will try and define you before you can define yourself. Don’t let it.” ----

About The Geo Archon: “I remember how it was back then, how intense the influence of the Geo Archon, Morax, was. We looked to him for everything. Now, everyone seems just fine without him. I’m glad I got to see both. Though, sometimes, I still find myself looking to the old statues we have in his image as if they’ll speak to me. Give me guidance. It’s strange knowing I won’t get it.” About Ningguang: “Ah! Liyue’s most admired business woman. Rather impressive isn’t she? I often wonder what one would do with so much mora. Still, I think she and her associates could use a break, a vacation even. Surely they could afford a week to relax. It can’t be healthy to work that often.” About Qiqi: “(chuckles) The “zombie” girl? Yes, I’ve met her. She’s adorable. I see Celestia shared their humor with her as well, granting her a cryo vision. I see she’s rather forgetful…it worries me sometimes. Not only that she might forget something important to her, but also what it may mean for me. Still, it’s nice to have someone to relate to.” About Beidou: “Goodness, what I would give to have her hair. It’s glorious! A very beautiful and powerful woman. I sometimes wonder if I should ask her how she remains so attractive…then I remember I no longer look like a woman, and I stop myself for fear it comes across wrong.” About Yanfei: “The legal advisor! She’s very vivacious. Her energy is admirable, she’s quite good at diffusing situations too, a very good skill to have. I hope she can get more free time though. I’ve heard her complain once or twice about wanting to change careers…a rapper, if I remember right?” About Baizhu: “He’s…interesting? Whenever I stop by the pharmacy, usually to see Qiqi, he asks me a plethora of questions. How my physical state is, how my body heals wounds, if I still remember my past. I get the feeling he sees me as some project almost. Makes me worry for Qiqi sometimes…” About Xinyan: “Her music often gives me a headache because of the volume, but I enjoy it still! I just have to listen from a distance.” About Zhongli: “Who?” About Hu Tao: “Please, whatever you do, do NOT tell her about my state of existence. I fear she’ll customize me a casket and send me back to the spirit realm. As far as I’m concerned, we don’t know each other, and I intend to keep it that way.” About Xiao: “I met him once. Long ago, I mean, in my original body. The conversation we had slips my mind but he seems like a depressive type. It’s sad, really. I know he’s done so much for this nation and yet he can’t seem to enjoy himself. I hope you’ll find a way to ensure he smiles at least once and awhile. He deserves to.” About Ganyu: “I met her briefly once or twice, she seems exhausted most of the time. A result of overworking I’m sure. Poor girl deserves a long nap if you ask me.” About Yelan: “She’s quite the intimidating woman, I like her style. Get things done, the confidence. Her taste in jewelry is lovely too. She reminds me a bit of myself back in the day. Oh, gosh, I sound so old when I say things like that.” ---- Backstory (Trigger Warning; vaguely covers the idea of death and depression) Lixue Xueke was a young and intelligent girl born in a small village in Minlin, Liyue. As a child, she found herself feeling different from other children. Watching them play, be carefree. She considered it childish. Always feeling she was more mature than her peers and that her attitude would ensure she’d be more success as a result. After all, both her parents were heavily career oriented. She watched them work and work all their time away. Naturally, she assumed this was the attitude she needed to adopt in order to make it in life. She wanted success and notoriety. When she was ten, her aspirations nearly slipped away from her when she was caught in a fire that left her scarred mentally and physically. However, Lixue didn’t let it deter her. She wore it like a badge of honor, showing how she survived something so scary and she could still earn success.

By the time Lixue was in her late teens, she’d worked in dozens of jobs, and she was adept in all of them. Saving her mora intensely. Every once and awhile, those her age would insist she take a break, enjoy some time off, have fun. She declined each time. She always had something that needed done. Lixue wanted enough money to be more than comfortable. The only way to achieve that was to work nonstop and take opportunities. She became known for her nonstop work ethic.

Most of these jobs were simple and typical. Waitressing, working in paperwork, even in things like selling fabric. The young woman was respected and generally well liked, despite many not truly knowing her beyond her name and business ventures. Though, in her twenties, she became aware of something that paid very well. Morally questionable, but profitable. There were a select few scorned individuals willing to empty their mora stashes just to ensure someone else didn’t see the light of day again.

Lixue only accepted a few of these offers. Only when she felt the target deserved it. Rationalizing it to herself that she was helping the general public but removing these specific people, and why shouldn’t she be paid for such a service? It was at the age of twenty-three that it caught up with her. It was cold, Winter had hit particularly hard that year. She stalked after a man who was allegedly responsible for the death of three people and two children, because of negligence in his building tactics. It should’ve been an easy job. That’s how Lixue felt anyway. However, the man put up far more of a fight than she anticipated, resulting in her being tossed onto an ice-covered lake. Though a bit bruised, she stood up and intended to finish her job, but the sound of breaking frost was her only warning before she plunged into frigid water. Cold shock set in almost immediately, making it difficult to move as her limbs felt numb. An icy burn across her skin. And when she couldn’t even get close to the top, she felt it enter her lungs, fading away into the void-like water. Lixue was disoriented when she “awoke” in this water. Everything was cold, yet in a strange way, she could feel nothing. It was only when she noticed that she wasn’t required to breathe that it settled over her. She looked around, unable to see anything. The water was pitch black. As if she was dropped into nothingness. Silent and lonely. It stayed that way until Spring arrived. When the ice over the pond finally melted away and streams of sunlight gave her some direction, allowing her to fly to the top. Lixue found herself unable to feel the warmth of the sun, but she felt grateful that she could at least see it. She stayed around that area. Aimless and regretful, watching time pass slowly, things change, with her unable to experience it. She missed everything and loathed herself for never letting herself enjoy what time she had. Though Lixue lost time, it had been thirty years since her death. And on the night of Lantern Rite, she found a man walking dejectedly near the pond she died in. He looked sorrowful. She watched him sit on the ground and gaze at the inside of his forearm. The man cried though she didn’t know why. He muttered to himself, begging the sky to take him, for he didn’t have the strength himself to leave. Periwinkle eyes filled with lonesome sorrow. “Why would you wish for death?” Her ghostly voice spoke, not expecting for him to react. Needless to say, he was startled by the apparition. Not everyone could see ghosts, nor did everyone believe in them. Still, he seemed to accept it with an odd amount of relief. “You…you’re a ghost, yes?” He asked. Lixue nodded. “So, there is another side?” She nodded again. “You seem like a young and capable man, so I’m not sure why you’d want to lose that.” The spirit questioned. She watched his face fall, gaze dropping to the water in front of him. “I have nothing to live for anymore. My wife and my daughter are both gone, killed by the cruel actions of another. I wasn’t there to save them and now they are not here with me. I cannot find anything else in life that leads me to want to live. My only want is to be with them again. Yet, I am too cowardly to end my body.” The man relayed. Though her heart was no longer with her, instead decayed at the bottom of the pond, she felt it ache for him. Though most would encourage someone to live, she could see why he wouldn’t want to. Losing something so important in that way. And it was blatantly obvious he wasn't open to changing his mind. It struck her suddenly. Perhaps, just maybe, she could work out something for the both of them. She told him the idea, elated by his agreement.

It took magic, talismans. With each brushstroke filled with intention and desire. Neither were sure it would work, but both prayed to Celestia it would. After two weeks of preparations, they had to try, under a full moon, with there plan in motion. “Are you truly sure you want to do this?” Lixue asked him. Shi-Chen nodded vigorously. “If this gives me the chance to see my family again, while ensuring I am not so selfish to end a body healthy and capable, I cannot see a better option.” He insisted. Lixue nodded and gave a gentle smile, hoping it was consoling. "You are not selfish in the slightest, regardless." With the materials gathered and the moon high, they followed the steps as they studied them.

It was sudden and jarring. Lixue looked around in a daze before looking down at her hands…no, not her hands. Yet, by the law of what they had just done, they were her hands now. She looked up and saw the spirit of Shi-Chen. Both clearly processing what they’d just done. He smiled at her. “It worked!” He said proudly. Lixue touched her face. She could feel everything. The breeze, the fabric she wore, the green bangs that fell over her face, the slow pulse of a heart. She grinned back at him. “Thank you, truly!” He said. Lixue shook her head.“No, thank you. You’ve given me a new chance. I can live again, but a life truly worth living. I promise you, I will never forget this, and I will not take a single moment for granted ever again.” Speaking in a body with a new voice was jarring, but she meant every word. Shi-Chen slowly began to fade. “I’ll tell my daughter about you in fondness.” He promised before he disappeared in the breeze. Lixue exhaled. She savored each breath, each thump of her heart, every overwhelming sensation. She began walking. It was odd to do so now, after not needing to for so long. She even had to remind herself to blink. Lixue walked up a hill, reveling in being able to experience it all again. She came to stop near a cliff. Lanterns poured up into the sky from Liyue Harbor, a sight Lixue missed dearly. She looked up at the sky with new eyes and a grin she couldn’t shake. Her eyes caught something falling from the stars overhead. Quickly, she reached out her hands and caught the object. A blue and cold stone sent from Celestia, its light grew brighter as it hit her hand. She exhaled and looked at the sky again, holding the stone close to her chest. Taking a moment to comprehend it all. Everything she’d get to do, how she’d never miss a moment.

How nice it was to be alive.

[mbti-notes]

Hi, I'm an ISTJ (female) currently in a relationship with an ESFP (male) for 2 months. Recently, I found out that he's experiencing an Se-Te loop out of stress in his new schooling environment and on top of his part-time job. As an effect of that, he started withdrawing from me one month into the relationship and is recently exhibiting lashing out and micro-managing tendencies towards my life. I'm just wondering what I can do in order to help him or to make him feel safe enough to open up to me?

Conflict that arises from negative tertiary loop and inferior grip behavior is common in close relationships. It's easy to get sucked into the other person's problems and subsequently form unhealthy relationship patterns over time. Dealing with the worst of it requires you to be the adult when the other person can't.

1) Do not view loop/grip behavior as pathological. I have yet to meet a person who hasn't experienced loop/grip, so it's counterproductive to treat it as "abnormal". When one experiences intense inner conflict, loop/grip arises to protect the most vulnerable parts of oneself. In other words, when viewed from within the context of one's inner world, loop/grip is a reasonable response. When viewed from the outside, it seems disturbing, but remind yourself that it is usually a sign of limited knowledge, skills, and resources. When one hasn't had the opportunity to learn healthy coping methods and/or doesn't have the mental resources required to cope with life's stressors, all one can do is rely on unhealthy defense mechanisms to get by.

For instance, when ESFPs descend into loop or grip, what they are usually trying to do is manage a deluge of negativity, particularly dangerous threats to their self-esteem and self-worth. Perhaps they've lost sight of their better self, so they use Te loop as a misguided way to prove their worth. Or perhaps they have not recognized the true extent of their unhappiness and they use Ni grip to withdraw and reflect on it, as opposed to continually engaging with the world in ways that exacerbate unhappiness.

Loop/grip does not produce growth-positive results, but that doesn't mean it's not serving an important psychological purpose. Thus, if you want to help someone in loop/grip, you have to understand why it's happening and offer a different, more productive way to fulfill that psychological purpose. However, you're not a therapist and it shouldn't be your job to therapize, so there's only so much you can do to help someone with deeper psychological issues. In some cases, perhaps the most you can do is help them manage their stress better in the short term.

Looping ESFPs have difficulty getting in touch with their feelings because setting Fi free might stop them from experiencing/getting something they've talked themselves into wanting. Fi development is necessary to get back in touch with what they really need for being a person of integrity and living a fulfilling life. They resist Fi as long as they believe it will compel them to make a daunting change that they aren't prepared to make. However, ESFPs are very practical people. If you're able to offer a compromise or solution that seems feasible and manageable to them, there's a good chance they'll hear it.

2) Do not take loop/grip behavior personally. When someone lashes out at you, there is a natural tendency to take it as an attack that warrants a defense. Unfortunately, raising your defenses will come off as aggressive, which easily leads to warfare mentality. At that point, the chance for resolution grows ever smaller. Even when words/actions are intended to be hurtful, it is important to remember that the person isn't seeing and directing them at the real you. In their compromised state of mind, you are but an object onto which they project whatever conflict is happening within. Tip: During conflicts, try to keep in mind what he's like at his best and you won't be so easily derailed by his worst.

3) Do not escalate problems by getting baited into unleashing your darker self into the mix. A person suffering from loop/grip oftentimes wants you to bite them back, to amplify their inner critic, to justify their victimhood, to punish perceived sins, etc, because they're unconsciously playing out old patterns of pain, but that's not what they need.

What they need is someone to be calm, moderate, and objective, as exhibited through good communication skills. Communication is an art, meaning there's no perfect way to do it, and there's no way to speak such that you never offend anyone. You can't control how others react to you, but respectful, empathetic, and tactful communication really helps to de-escalate tense conflicts.

Some general principles of healthy communication:

- Communicate respectfully: Grant everyone the freedom to express themselves authentically. If you find yourself getting too heavily involved or agitated in the process, express your feelings matter-of-factly as needed, without any hint of blame or judgmentalness. Express yourself responsibly by using "I…" statements that speak only for you and your experience, and encourage others to follow.

- Communicate empathetically: Put yourself in their shoes by gathering information about their perspective, including: how they view things, why they feel as they do, and/or how their past experiences might've led them to react badly (info about their emotional triggers will also help you navigate future conflicts). Don't assume anything; make sure you actually understand the intended meaning. Ask questions gently to clarify things you don't understand and figure out what you can contribute to help their situation.

Keep in mind that some people's experience might be very different from what you've known (especially when you have opposing functions), so make a point to validate people by acknowledging that they have a right to their own personal boundaries, preferences, experiences, feelings, opinions, beliefs, and values. When you give validation, you offer a chance for emotional release, in hopes of dialing down the intensity. People are far less likely to act out once they feel seen and heard, which is why active listening is such a key communication skill.

- Communicate tactfully: The word "tact" is rooted in touch. It means handling something with the amount of care that is necessary to keep it in good condition. Being tactful in relationships means interacting with the amount of care that is necessary to preserve goodwill between people. Conflicts can get very heated. You're not a saint, so you can't always avoid getting influenced by strong negative emotions. You are entitled to feel what you feel, but it's how you decide to respond to your feelings that matters most. You need strategies for keeping a cool head during conflict, such as mindfulness training. It may help to keep your eye on the end goal or bigger picture. Before you say/do something, ask yourself: Is this going to produce the effect I hope for?

When things get heated, calmly set and enforce appropriate boundaries with a reminder of what is acceptable vs unacceptable behavior in a loving relationship. Generally speaking, you shouldn't fight people's battles for them because that prevents them from learning how to do it themselves. Thus, avoid giving them unsolicited advice, trying to force change, or arguing against and invalidating their feelings - these all constitute a violation of personal boundaries. If you want to give advice, obtain consent, and remember that the problem is theirs to resolve, not yours (this goes both ways). Maintaining good personal boundaries for everyone during conflict is essential because a relationship cannot survive long without respect and kindness. All couples fight. Healthy couples fight responsibly, negotiate and resolve issues, and come out wiser and closer. Unhealthy couples take their gloves off, repeat and rehash issues, and come out deeply hurt or damaged.

A romantic relationship should be between equals. This means your feelings are just as important as his feelings. One mistake helpful people often make is being submissive or placating during conflict, usually because they fear triggering very negative emotions. This pattern easily turns you into a doormat or punching bag. Yes, show people you're willing to help and give some leeway for loss of control, but, in return, they must eventually show you a willingness to cooperate and collaborate on a resolution. Otherwise, it's a no-go, and you should step away until they are adult enough to be reasoned with. Someone who isn't capable of handling conflict reasonably even when calm isn't ready for a serious romantic relationship, and you should reflect on whether it's good for you to continue on with them.

Useful examples:

"You seem very stressed lately, is that the case?" (fact-find)

"I'm willing to listen, do you want to talk about it?" (offer)

"It sounds like a very frustrating situation. I understand why you would feel angry about it." (validate)

"If you want to handle it yourself, I will respect your space. I care about you and your well-being. I hope you know that I am your partner and partners help carry burdens when they get too heavy. I'm available whenever you're ready to talk." (reassure)

"It's not fair to take your frustration out on me. I want to be a source of help or comfort to you, so why not try to work the problem out together?" (tactful reminder)

"I should be the one to manage my own life. If you want to help me, I request that you do so respectfully by {explain what you want them to do}." (set boundaries)

"This issue is bigger and more complicated than I thought. Why don't we take a brief time-out, grab some water, and return to the issue with clearer heads?" (monitor emotional intensity)

See also the articles in the site index about Caring for Emotional Needs and Communicating Through Conflict

[liim-bo]

BB

BASICS

STAGE NAME \\ bb ( 비비 )

MEANING \\ bright, shining

BIRTH NAME \\ phoebe jones

KOREAN NAME \\ chu hee jin ( 추희진 )

NICKNAMES \\ feebs, bee, bumble bee, pj

BIRTHDAY \\ september 16, 2000

ZODIAC \\ virgo

CHINESE ZODIAC \\ dragon

BIRTHPLACE \\ perth, australia

HOMETOWN \\ adelaide, australia

HEIGHT \\ 159.2cm ( 5'3" )

WEIGHT \\ 48kg ( 105lbs )

BLOOD TYPE \\ o

ETHNICITY \\ korean - australian

NATIONALITY \\ korean - australian

LANGUAGES \\ english ( fluent ), korean ( fluent )

CAREER

GROUP \\ limbo ( 2012 - present )

POSITION \\ lead vocalist, sub rapper, maknae

REPRESENTATIVE SIN \\ wrath

REPRESENTATIVE VIRTUE \\ patience

COMPANY \\ pledis entertainment ( 2010 - present )

TRAINEE PERIOD \\ 2 years

DEBUT \\ september 18, 2012

DEBUT AGE \\ 12 years old

STATS

VOCALS \\ 8/10

DANCE \\ 6/10

RAP \\ 7/10

VARIETY \\ 10/10

ACTING \\ 5/10

PRODUCING \\ 4/10

PHYSICAL

TATTOOS \\ her members names in hangul on the inside of upper right arm, virgo symbol on left wrist, virgo constellation on inner right arm

PIERCINGS \\ four on left ear ( 4 x lobe ), four on right ear ( 4 x lobe ), one on left side of nose ( small hoop )

FACE CLAIM \\ bae su min ( stayc )

VOICE CLAIM \\ sumin ( stayc )

RAP CLAIM \\cocona ( xg )

PERSONAL

SEXUALITY \\heterosexual

EDUCATION \\ seoul broadcasting high school

MBTI \\esfp-t, entertainer

STRENGTHS \\bold, observant, adaptable

WEAKNESSES \\sensitive, poor long-term planner, conflict-averse

STYLE \\

LIKES \\ season 3 steve harrington, flavoured coffee, doing her members hair, making string bracelets, soundtracks written by phil collins, going to ikea, astrology, black & white outfits, performance art, getting gifts for her family, the singer aurora

DISLIKES \\ hospitals, people who think they're entitled, people watching her eat, being out of the loop, her stage name, strong smelling perfumes, people who use their popularity and status for their own benefit, egotists, gnomes, the taste of lavender, people who use her

HABITS \\ has a tendency to zone out, anytime and anywhere

TALENT \\ very flexible, can put her legs behind her head

HOBBIES \\ making string bracelets, building ikea furniture, going out for food

FEARS \\ nosocomephobia ( fear of hospitals )

FAMILY

MOTHER \\ helen jones ( 1975 )

FATHER \\ simon jones ( 1977 )

BROTHER \\ barnaby jones ( 1998 )

BROTHER \\ william jones ( 2002 )

TRIVIAL

ONE \\ was added to the group in the september of 2012

TWO \\ phoebe had a lot of doubts about joining the group a year after they'd debuted and really thought she wouldn't have any fans, however 'voids' were extremely lovely and welcomed her into the group with open arms

THREE \\ has rhinitis, mainly triggered by dust and pollen, but the occasional animal fur can set her off too

FOUR \\ cannot stand he stage name; has said she would much rather be known as heejin than bb

FIVE \\ phoebe hates people watching her eat, so she tends to turn away or cover her face with her hands whilst eating

SIX \\ was diagnosed with endometriosis at the age of 14

SEVEN \\ her representative sin is wrath

EIGHT \\ her representative virtue is patience 

NINE \\ her representative symbol is a bear

TEN \\ her representative colour is red

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BASIC INFORMATION

 FULL NAME: Dantanian Daeva NICKNAME: Grand Duke, Danti, Dan, DD, Master, Sir AGE: 3.4 billion BIRTH DATE: 9th February GENDER: Male ( predominantly ) SPECIES: Demon ROMANTIC ORIENTATION: Panromantic SEXUAL ORIENTATION: Pansexual RELIGION: N/A SPOKEN LANGUAGE: Multilingual CURRENT LIVING CONDITIONS: Hell & an apartment in Los Angeles OCCUPATION: Demon of Lust, Owner of The Den of the Depraved

RELATIONSHIPS

 PARENTS:         • Lucifer ( creator ) SIBLINGS:       • Aeshma Daeva ( Twin ) SIGNIFICANT OTHER:       •  Azure Mortis / Verse Dependent CHILDREN:       • Lyall Mortis ( with Azure )       • Simiel Mortis ( with Azure )       • Ibby Mortis ( with Azure )       • Meir Mortis ( with Azure )       • Verse Dependent FRIENDS:       • Mazikeen       • Sima Morningstar       • Lucien Morningstar OTHER CONNECTIONS:      • Paimon      • Phenex      • Valentin Demiurgos      • Alexei Strix      • Adrian Strix

PHYSICAL TRAITS

 EYE COLOUR: Brown HAIR COLOUR: Brunette HEIGHT: 6’3” BODY BUILD: Muscular TATTOOS + PIERCINGS: Body covered in various tattoos NOTABLE PHYSICAL TRAITS: Several small scars scatter his body as a result of Solomon and clients who have gotten too rough, along with his sister

POWERS & ABILITIES

POWERS:      • Knows human thoughts and can change them at will, can make people fall in love       • Shows visions of people anywhere to others     • Teacher of all arts and sciences     • Can make lust fill the air, in turn, making others feel the desire of lust and have the need to engage in sexual acts.       • Can calm those who choose to submit as well as teach those who wish to dominate.       • Dark Blast     • Fiends of Darkness     • Genesis Dark Rain     • Demonis Psionics     • Demonic Telekenisis     • Biology Magic     • Living State     • Bio-negation     • Selective Illness     • Dark Light Ball of Love ABILITIES:      • Has the ability to change into one or all of his other faces       • Possesses the ability to render another submissive or dominant with his lustful energy.       • Can sing and play several instruments     • skilled in Hand-to-Hand combat WEAKNESSES:      • Celestial Weaponry      • King Solomon

 PHOBIAS & DISORDERS

 PHOBIAS:      • Enclosed/Small Spaces      • Losing those he loves MENTAL DISORDERS: ~ WHEN WAS THIS DIAGNOSED?: ~

PERSONALITY

 PERSONALITY TYPE: ESFP-A ( Assertive Entertainer ) MORAL ALIGNMENT: True Neutral INTELLIGENCE: Above-Genius Intellect LIKES:     • Challenges     • Reading     • Sex DISLIKES:      • Arrogance      • Liars      • Brats DISPOSITION: Driven and Hardworking, he is often determined to get things done. He holds a lustful demeanour but that is not all to him. He is a very caring being and will protect those he loves dearly. EXTRAS: It is best to know that Dantanian will stop at nothing to protect those he holds dear. Do not get on his bad side.

BIOGRAPHY:

Dantanian was created alongside his sister Aeshma, by Lucifer. Not only was Lucifer wanting to create demons to help him with Hell, but he also wanted his eldest daughter to have someone other than himself and her mother. There was only so much that either of them could do or teach her, and so, Lucifer saw to creating others that she could befriend as well as help run the Hell loops as more and more souls were made to come to Hell with their guilt. 

As the aeons slowly passed, Dantanian played witness to the birth of more children between the King and Queen, along with more and more demons. But he also played witness to how Lilith began to grow bitter; how she began to turn on Lucifer and claim a layer of Hell as her own, creating Lilim ~ originally for Lucifer but now for her own gain too. In her vendetta against his King, Dantanian saw how the princess was also being treated and made it one of his duties to serve her in a way that he knew she needed whenever a lover of hers was driven away or killed at Lilith’s hand. 

Dantanian took on the role of Sima’s Dominant whilst Lucifer gave her the task of commanding the Hellhounds that he’d created to guard over Hell. Dantanian happily took on the role; providing the release from the control that she needed whenever her mother struck again. Slowly, he transitioned his role, teaching her how to become a Dominant, herself and always agreeing to be her submissive, should she need that of him rather than a Dominant.

Aeons continued to pass and Dantanian remained loyal to both Lucifer and Sima, however, one night, he was summoned by an unfamiliar voice and ultimately became entrapped by King Solomon. He was not alone, however. He saw as 71 others were trapped by the King too, and all of them exploited by the man for their powers and abilities. Being trapped in tiny vessels and thrown into the ocean once there was no use for them any longer, did not bother Dantanian like it did some of the others and upon Lucifer finding them all and rescuing them, Dantanian was among the few that helped to calm some of the others and see to it that they recovered well from the ordeal. 

As the centuries passed after that, Dantanian watched as Sima and her sister took themselves off, up to Earth before some of his fellow demons and the King himself, did the same. Dantanian wondered what the attraction with Earth was after his brush with King Solomon, so he took himself up there too and saw how much things had changed. It was the 20th century when he first went back up and saw Los Angeles, Dantanian quickly found himself rather taken by the atmosphere; he also saw how the humans were around one another and saw the perfect chance to open a business. The Den of the Depraved ( an exclusive members only, BDSM club ) was born and it immediately began to thrive; including the room he’d made especially for the likes of his sister, so that she had a safe place to feed, away from being seen. 

Dantanian split his time between Earth and Hell, often using the office in his club as his means of getting between worlds. Now, he happily resides between both, having a home both on Earth, along with living in the palace in Hell.

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Hello, late night ramble about my Fallout OCs. I haven't touched them in years and because of the drought of BG3 content that I am experiencing I turned to one of my oldest fandoms

I'm not sure if ya'll remember them, but here's Percy/Persephone Zhou (Fallout 3), Maria/Ranger Raven/Maria Elisa Ortega y Romero (Fallout NV), and Kitty/Katerina Robinson nee Volkov (Fallout 4)

MBTI/cognitive functions is one of my hyperfixations at the moment so I got them all tested and goddammit, they're all Ni doms too. Am I really that uncreative with my characters or is it just a case of writing/roleplaying what you know? Lmfao

Anyway, some points of interest, patterns and overlaps among the three. The info about canon characters here are based off of PDB's typing of the characters:

They all have high sneak, but that might just be a reflection of my preferred playstyle. Justified due to Percy using stealth to compensate for her physical weakness, Maria being an ex-Ranger, and Kitty relying on guile to navigate the new world she woke up to.

Their starting SPECIAL tend to have high INT, high CHA, low END, and low STR.

Percy and Maria both have medical training, due to Percy being trained as a doctor by her dad, and Maria being an ex-ranger needs to look after herself in the field.

Maria and Kitty are both well-versed with their respective constitutions' law, due to Maria's time as a Ranger, and due to Kitty being a lawyer.

All have creative hobbies that they're average at, but has helped them in some way: Percy knits and sews (helps with keeping her hands steady during operations), Maria sings (after quitting the Rangers, she found work as a singer in The Tops, where she first met Benny), and Kitty dances (really helped with her agility).

Percy and Kitty are both looking for family members thanks to 3 and 4's respective plots. Maria is running away from hers.

All have family issues. Percy loves her dad but she feels some pressure to walk in his footsteps, unsure of what she wants for herself. Maria is estranged from her family due to her decision to quit the Rangers and denounce the NCR after realizing their tribe's assimilation is a reflection of the NCR's unfettered expansionism. Kitty had a tumultuous relationship with her husband Nate, which they managed to stabilize by the time she got pregnant with Shaun, only for everything to go downhill due to the Great War of 2077.

All are traumatized by religion, one way or another. Percy develops a savior complex thanks to James raising her on the Bible and his own tendencies. (Overworked NiFe) Maria's religion is a syncretization of Catholicism and her tribe's (descendants of Filipino and Mexican agricultural workers in California) indigenous practices, and she ended up embracing the devil inside her instead of bowing her head to the conservative values of her community. (Child Fi being stubborn) Kitty used to be in the Russian Orthodox Church before the Great War, and, well, the bombs dropping gave her a crisis of faith, and she questions why God would allow such destruction to occur is he was truly omnipotent. (NiFi loop)

All have experienced intense Se grips in their moments of weakness and stress. This made them turn to vices. Percy's vice is she drank, and like her dad, she has a taste for scotch. Maria's vice is sex/pleasure/sensation-seeking, and she slept around with people like goddamn Vulpes and Benny too (wtf girl). Kitty's vice is drugs, thanks to Hancock and Cait's influence.

Some relationship dynamics:

Percy shares the same type with her dad, James (INFJ)

Maria shares the same type as Mr. House (which she briefly considered working for, but she ended up taking over The Strip herself) (INTJ)

Kitty shares the same type as her son, Shaun (INTJ).

Percy's frequent companions are all sensors; Charon (ISTP), Butch is (ESTP), and Dogmeat (ESFP). Which is amusing in a way- they're all on the NiSe axis. Percy can see the ways how things might play out thanks to her lead Ni, but she's reliant on the other three to save her ass in a physical fight thanks to her inferior Se. She's the glue of the group with her high Fe too.

Maria's frequent companions are ISTPs and INxPs; Boone (ISTP), Raul (ISTP), Arcade (INTP), and ED-E (INFP). Boone and Raul are like the James Bond to Maria's MI-6, she comes up with the strategy, and those two execute. Arcade is someone she can discuss intellectual pursuits with. ED-E has a soft spot in her heart.

Kitty's frequent companions are ENTPs (Hancock and Deacon). Just... imagine the banter. And the chaos. And the energy.

Percy's main love interests are xSTPs (Charon, ISTP, and Butch, ESTP)

Maria's love interests are an ISTP (Boone), an ENFP (Veronica) and an ENTP (Benny). Her brief/one-sided love interests are two ISTJs (Vulpes Inculta and Joshua Graham), an ISFP (Follows-Chalk), and an ENTJ (Dean Domino).

Kitty's main love interests are ENTPs (Nate, Hancock).

Percy and Maria both have ISTP love interests (Charon for Percy, Boone for Maria)

Maria and Kitty both have ENTP love interests (Benny for Maria, and Hancock and Nate for Kitty)

I really gotta draw all of them soon after I'm done with comms, I missed my girls.

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How to Avoid Mistyping

I’ve actually wanted to make a post like this for a while, I just hadn’t really gotten to it yet. Here’s how to know if you’re mistyping a character.

Mistyping vs. A Differing Opinion

When it comes to fictional characters, a lot of it comes down to interpretation, which means there will always be a level of differing opinions when typing a character. However, I do think it’s undoubtable that some types don’t fit characters at all.

At the end of the day, it comes down to argument. Does your argument make sense? Is it understandable to those who aren’t inside your mind? Is it obviously biased.

And here’s the thing- everyone has bad arguments. I’ve had bad arguments, even on this page. However, I am making this post, to maybe help people to think more critically about their arguments.

Are you grasping at straws trying to defend your opinion?

Honestly, this is a good sign that you are mistyping a character. Does it feel like you are trying way too hard to defend your typing of a character, like you can’t come up with any good arguments for it?

This could mean one of two things; you need to rewatch or reread the material you’re typing from or you need to consider a different type for them. Now, I would definitely rewatch or reread said thing first, because there have definitely been times I thought I was mistyping a character when in reality, I just didn’t remember enough about a character to type them appropriately.

But you should at least consider the fact that you’re mistyping a character if you’re struggling to construct an argument.

“This type would not do that!”

I do think there are times when this is appropriate, for example, when discussing a character’s actions, saying “this character’s interest in their environment really gives more Se than Ne.” However whenever I hear XXXX would never do that! It grinds my gears.

Usually, when people say this, it’s highly stereotypical, because technically speaking, each type is capable of anything… it’s why they’re doing it, what’s going on in their head that matters. Now is it unlikely for, say, an Si dom to make impulsive decisions? Perhaps, but it’s not that they can’t. In fact, some of the ISTJs I’ve typed have made very impulsive decisions when their Te or Fi kicked in.

Using your personal relatability to a character to determine their type.

Now this one, out of everything on here kind of annoys me the most. Now, there is nothing wrong with relating to a character and considering the type for them. However your relatability to them also cannot be your only argument to why they fit that type, because you don’t have to be the same type as that character to relate to them.

I’m an INTP, and there are plenty of ISTJ, INFP, ISTP, hell even ESFP characters I relate to. I also don’t think I’ve ever, at least not since starting this blog, have typed a character INTP solely because I find them relatable… in fact, it’s the second to last most typed on this blog.

Have you considered other possibilities for this character?

Typically, unless I’m really sure about a character’s type, I’ll consider at least a few types before deciding on one. I’ll keep these types in mind when watching something, and sometimes will decide on something completely different.

Obviously, you don’t have to do this, everyone’s system of typing is different, but the important thing is, don’t be so fixated on a particular type for a character that you refuse to see or listen to any other argument regarding them.

Don’t automatically assume a character is in a loop or a grip when you type them.

Now, saying a character is in a loop or a grip is not inherently wrong per se- but I will say, that I often see people use this to avoid typing characters certain types.

I have a post I’m working about on loops and grips, but I will say that if you can’t legitimize why a character wouldn’t be that type, even at their healthiest, it’s probably not a good type for them.