#te loop

[mbti-notes]

Anon wrote: Hello! I’ve typed myself as an ENFP but there’s this thing that I keep doing that I feel like from what I’ve read doesn’t really work with the core value of this type, which is authenticity, so I’m doubting whether I’ve typed myself correctly. Would you mind helping me get some outside perspective on the matter please?

Thing is I’ve noticed that in conversations I always try to accommodate people, despite my best judgment, I know that I have this habit but catch myself only when the deed is done and I’m already in the process of navigating the situation. Whenever someone is objectively wrong and makes the most illogical conclusions or incorrect claims, claims that sometimes could be refuted by just looking some information up and putting two and two together, I, instead of saying outright “here’s why you’re wrong”, either:

a) try to dumb myself down, by asking questions as if I’m not well versed in the subject at all, to lead the person to the right answer. I do this so when they inevitably realise that they were wrong, they’d feel less awkward, uncomfortable and maybe even inadequate.

b) try to mitigate the “blow” as much as possible by making metaphorical statements, by joking, by using examples of similar cases that would shine some light on the issue and help them reach the correct conclusion themselves, etc. Basically seeking out ways to not directly state that they were wrong.

I’ve not noticed that I always employ the above mentioned tactics out of fear to hurt people’s feelings, even though I realise that correcting someone shouldn’t objectively be that offensive or offensive at all, that it’s normal and would save me some time and nerves. Everyone does it, some even gloat when they do it. So why can’t I be the same and state bluntly whenever someone is wrong about something?

But I just keep doing this and I hate this about myself, especially when I try to seem stupid, it makes me feel terrible afterwards, because now this person (and whoever was present) thinks that I’m an idiot. This type of behaviour has backfired on me more than once with people then trying to take advantage of me, by which I mean they allow themselves to be less tactful/ respectful with me, probably thinking that if I appear to be this meek they don’t have to respect me, which I take note of and deal with accordingly.

So, question, does the above relate to mbti in any way? Any functions that I should look into that would help me deal with this? Is this something that an ENFP type would do? Or should I look outside of mbti here? Thank you!

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I don't comment on type confusion unless people submit a proper assessment according to the instructions on the contact page.

While people "shouldn't" be so easily offended by correction/criticism, the fact of the matter is many are. You can't ignore the reality of human nature. This habit of yours didn't come out of nowhere. A lot of people suffer from a fragile ego and cannot handle losing face. But this point aside, it's not a bad thing to consider people's feelings, is it? It shows that you're a caring and empathetic person, which you ought to be proud of.

However, when empathetic behavior is actually just conflict avoidance underneath, it signals that there's an ego development issue on your end. Generally speaking, all Fs prefer their social interactions to feel positive, so they are likely to struggle with the negativity of confrontation/conflict to varying degrees, for varying reasons.

ENFPs with ego development issues are likely to have Fi problems. Underdeveloped auxiliary Fi often manifests as lack of genuine self-confidence, wariness of authentic self-expression, and/or inability to speak up and advocate for oneself (and one's beliefs/values). Lack of trust in oneself produces a neediness for validation. Taken too far, they might become doormats or attention-seekers.

Taking your problem as an example, instead of using Ne maturely to work hard and come up with the best possible way of communicating with people, immature ENFPs are more likely to use Ne+Te haphazardly to find "shortcuts" or "workarounds" that ultimately end up producing bad outcomes.

When bad outcomes hurt oneself, it is a clear warning sign that the method being used is faulty and needs to be changed. The longer self-harm goes on, the more you can't live with yourself. Healthy Fi should encourage you to conduct yourself in a way that you can be proud of and feel good about, which means that Fi should never allow you to hurt yourself.

In short, this problem primarily stems from lack of Ne+Fi development that produces ineffective and harmful behavior. Thus, the remedy is to develop Ne+Fi and learn better communication methods that are more likely to benefit all parties involved. These topics come up regularly, so I suggest you read past posts.

Is there really nothing in between the extremes poles of "meekness" and "bluntness"? If you believe so, it shows a lack of imagination...

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[mbti-notes]

Hello I’m 29 years old ENFP, I’m feel my Te just Burst out like I can handle task with efficiency, but also i have problem with looping, when looping I feels like I was judge everything and my thoughts to be wild like shows “ah he’s trying gonna to hurt me so i need keep guard” even sometimes locked myself to not being hurt (Ne I think?), also I impulsive to get things done according my thoughts cause often jump to conclusion without think twice about it and take Decisions so excessive. How to get handle this looping and sorry my English is broken because I’m not native English speaker, thank you

Generally speaking, struggling with tertiary loop and/or inferior grip indicates that the dominant function is unhealthy and the auxiliary function is underdeveloped. The remedy to this is to develop the functions properly, in the correct order of the functional stack. For example...

Starting with Ne: If you had more faith in your own creative powers, then you wouldn't take problems so seriously, because you'd be confident of being able to adapt and work around them. Life doesn't seem as hard and the past doesn't weigh you down as much when you can always maintain an optimistic and hopeful outlook.

Similarly with Fi: If you could be genuinely accepting, especially of the reality of yourself, then you wouldn't be so preoccupied with having to protect/prove anything, would you? Without the strong urge to protect/prove, would your decisions still be so "excessive"?

These concepts have already been covered in the study guides and previous ENFP related posts, I suggest you read through them to get more detail about function development.

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Save him from the time loop Kiri! :D

I've got a little scene in my head now where Kiri meets herself (!?!) on the time loop/dream plane before Spider meets her there during that time loop

The other Kiri tries to explain to herself that Spider is stuck in the time loop, with no one else aware of it but him. As she's running out of time she says to herself "Tell Spider, a part of me remembers!"

And when he hears those words from a Kiri who doesn't completely understand what they mean, he is relieved and feels less alone!

If Kiri knows, maybe there is a way out!!

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“Mm-what,” he mumbles, muffled into his roughed shoulder pads, words smushed together.

Keith sighs instead of answering. For half a second Lance tenses. But Keith only shifts again, not pushing Lance off but moving so Lance is pressed closer to him, and then the heat of his breath tickles the shell of Lance’s ear, and he tenses for a whole different reason.

And then there is, inexplicably, the feeling of what must be Keith’s lips, pressed to the side of Lance’s skull, gentle and lingering, and Lance thinks clearly to himself: what the fresh actual and genuine fuck.

“‘M sorry,” says Keith, so quiet it would be impossible to hear were his mouth not one single inch away from Lance’s ear. He kisses again, and he almost sags into the motion, into Lance. “I shouldn’t have been so dismissive of you earlier. I was stressed. I missed you, too.”

Lance opens his mouth. He muffles a choking sound with all of his strength.

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Lance struggles to correct him.

[mbti-notes]

Anon wrote: Hello! Early 20s female ESFP here with a question about ego development. I’ve spent the entirety of my teenage/adult life vacillating between level 1 and 2 and I’ve never managed to make it to level 3. My question is whether it’s possible to reach level 4 without ever going through level 3, or whether I need to go through level 3 first - and if I do need to go through level 3, how does that work exactly? What characteristics or abilities will I develop in level 3 which are necessary to progress to level 4? Is it harmful for me to attempt to reach level 4 now? Or should I just forget about stages of ego development and instead focus on developing my dominant and auxiliary functions?

If it’s relevant, the reason for my delayed ego development is trauma and mental illness, but I’ve had a lot of therapy and been prescribed medication so I think I’m stable enough for self-improvement.

Thanks so much for your blog btw, it helped me realise the root of my problems (Fi resistance, Te loop and Ni grip) and start taking steps to improve myself!

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I appreciate your enthusiasm, but I don't think you're asking the right questions. I dislike questions that start with "is it possible..." because they often end up being too theoretical to be useful. So what if it is theoretically possible? This does nothing to answer the question of whether it is possible for YOU, given the particulars of your case.

You haven't provided enough concrete details of your case for me to draw any firm conclusions. You haven't described what these "levels" actually look like in your mind or how exactly your loop/grip behaviors manifest. Without this information, all I can do is speculate wildly about what's really going on with you.

I won't speculate but explain what needs to be done in a nutshell:

I wouldn't say forget about ego development and just focus on functions, because, ideally, the two ought to go hand-in-hand. Any kind of weirdness in one or the other is a flashing sign to you that something is not right, and you have to take those signs and use them to spur improvement.

For example, an inexplicable desire to "skip" an ego level is often an unconscious extension of unhealthy tertiary loop behavior. It means your underlying intentions aren't coming from the right place, which could lead your type development astray.

Applying this to your type, if you truly want to understand what level 3 ego development is about, you MUST develop healthy use of Fi. Without healthy Fi, aiming for level 4 is very, very likely to reactivate and even worsen Te loop. Correspondingly, wanting to skip over level 3 is likely to be an unconscious manifestation of Fi resistance.

It is very important to develop healthy use of your functions in the correct order of your functional stack. And if you happen to be on the wrong track, there will be signs that are reflected through ego development problems. At that point, you know you need to change your way of thinking or your method of approach.

As nice as it would be, personal growth isn't a straight line. There will be plenty of confusion, conflict, setbacks, obstacles, and failures along the way. The key point is whether you can be honest about what you're really doing and why (cultivate self-awareness), and then correct course as necessary.

If you can be honest with yourself, Se+Fi will ultimately lead you to a good place. Discover the things you love and devote yourself to them. Make sure your time is well spent producing tangible good for yourself and others. The rest will then fall into place naturally.

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