#extrovert vs introvert

[individualist-infp]

Hi i'm stuck between infp and enfp and I wanted ur op on what u think I am? I'm actually kind of shy/quiet/awkward in social situations, but I think it's because I have some social anxiety? Either way, I always have a natural urge/tendency to be around people and try exciting things. I have a lot to say and feel like I only hold back because of my anxiety/fear. In truth, I'm actually quite spontaneous but also deep/internally focused at times. Do u think I might be an infp or enfp??

From that information I can't tell if you are an enfp, infp or other type. First of all you need to know if you are an introvert or an extrovert. There are extroverts who can have social anxiety or be shy and introverts who can be social. There's the stereotype that extroverts equal party animals or people with 100 friends that always have to be socializing, or that being an introvert equals shyness. Those are just confusing stereotypes.

The first letter of a physchological type is I or E , which stands for our primary attitude: Extraversion or Introversion.

Extroverts: emphasize the influence of outward circumstances. They interact with most situations in terms of the satisfactions possible to them—even if those satisfactions have no immediate relationship to their Introverted reflections.

Extraverts are stimulated by the claims, pleasures, and obligations of the outer world. The people, things, and events that constitute the external world.

Do you seek and collect energy from the world outside?

Are you energized by the outside world of people, objects, experiences, etc?

Do you act before reflecting?

Are you influenced by and gauge your worth by the expectations and attention of others?

Are you outgoing and highly expressive, and do you fail to recognize your own needs?

Are you straighforward, understandable, accesible?

Introverts: emphasize the inner viewpoint. They are most comfortable in situations that allow for sustained reflection and a certain amount of privacy. If the satisfactions possible in a situation aren’t well enough related to their needs, they may carve out a space for themselves that allows them to participate on their own terms.

Do you consider your own viewpoint the arbiter of reality and make decisions based on it?

Do you focus on and draw sustenance from a vivid and rich inner world of thoughts, ideas, feelings, impressions, facts?

Do you reflect before you act?

Do you defend yourself against the expectations of others?

Are you self-aware, sometimes passionately intense, but may not realize the effect you have on others?

The key here is to reflect on yourself and think were do you draw sustenance, the inside world or the external world? Extroverts can be reflective at times when they use their introvert functions but they still have the preference for extraversion.

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Also, you need to take into account your cognitive functions to figure out your type accurately. There are 4 functions in each stack of each type, their order vary depending of the type.

It's not the same to have Fi in your dominant function or as the auxiliary function, the dynamic changes. When an INFP is presented with a new situation for example, he or she first needs to reflect on personal feelings or how she feels about the situation. If it aligns with her personal values she then goes for it. On the contrary an ENFP may easily jump to the new experience and seeks to exploit it's potential, and then reflects and internalizes feelings.

INFP: Internalizes feelings, then is open to new experiences.

ENFP: Experiences, then internalizes feelings.

INFP:

(Fi) Introverted Feeling

(Ne) Extraverted Intuition

(Si) Introverted Sensing

(Te) Extraverted Thinking

ENFP:

(Ne) Extraverted Intuition

(Fi) Introverted Feeling

(Te) Extraverted Thinking

(Si) Introverted Sensing

First of all, there are the perceiving functions, which can be iNtuitive (N) or Sensation (S). We use those functions to perceive.

Types who prefer Sensation generally focus on direct sensory experience. They’re aware of appearances, facts, and details, and their surroundings have a direct impact on them.

Types who prefer Intuition generally ignore the material surface of things and consider the larger picture. They’re interested in meaning and future possibility, not facts and details. Intuitives may be so focused on a situation’s potential that they overlook present obstacles. They have great interest in symbols and the unseen, it's natural for them to read between the lines, they see what's behind the physical. Ex: When watching a movie an intutive interprets an old and decrepit manor where a tragic character lives like his underworld, a place of suffering and entrapment. A sensor just sees it as a manor, nothing more.

Then, there are the judging functions: Thinking (T) and Feeling (F). Judging functions prompt us to note how things usually happen and to organize our behaviors accordingly. This is why Thinking and Feeling are considered rational functions. Rational behavior is always based on predictability—things we know to be true because they happen regularly in the same way.

When we use Thinking, we organize our behaviors in terms of general, impersonal predictability: rules, laws, principles, logical or numerical sequence, definition, hierarchy, and so forth.

 When we use Feeling, we organize our behaviors in terms of specific, personal criteria: the signs and rituals that convey our shared beliefs, values, moral sensibilities, identification with others, and social relationships.

Lastly, there are the Perceivers (P) or Judgers (J). These do not represent cognitive functions, but preferences.

As the title suggests, those with a J preference pair like to “judge” life’s outcomes. They’re careful calibrators and enjoy setting schedules and making plans. They prefer to know what comes next and like to have a sense of control over their surroundings. Overall, they like things the way they are and aren’t always open to change.

Perceivers see life as a spontaneous opportunity.Those with a P on their personality results are most likely seen as creative, curious, and open-minded. They can easily adapt to almost any situation and prefer flexible schedules. All in all, they come across as procrastinators with an outgoing approach on life.

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I hope I haven't confused you with all of this information. This is the basics of the different type of functions and the difference between introversion and extraversion. There's a lot more to know with the functions, but I didn't wanted to overwhelm you. If you have more questions feel free to send me more messages. 😊 On my taglist I have many post on cognitive functions and typing tips, you can check them out.

I recommend you this test to figure out your type with precision:

https://www.shambhala.com/media/wysiwyg/Personality%20Type_Psychological%20Test.pdf

[harunrabbani]

Debunking the Top 5 Confidence Myths: Empowering Students to Shine

Sixth former, Jayne, was in her final year of A-Levels and headed towards pure A’s. Her teachers expected her to get into a top tier university effortlessly.

But, there was a hitch. 

Mr Taylor, the Head of Sixth Form expressed his concerns to me. Jayne was extremely shy. Overcoming self-doubt was a nightmare for her. If anybody tried conversing with her, she would shut down. Her teachers were deeply disturbed she could sabotage access to the best English universities because of her refusal to communicate.

Despite the efforts of her parents and teachers, they couldn't make her budge. The traditional approach to confidence-building simply did not work.

Besides jeopardising her academic potential, this extreme shyness had other consequences. Jayne rarely participated in extracurricular activities and leadership opportunities at school. It was certainly going to hurt her future career and financial status.

Furthermore, this low level of confidence contributes to stress, anxiety, and self-doubt. Thus, harming her mental and emotional wellbeing.

Let's explore five common confidence myths, debunk the myths and share confidence tips that may help with students like like Jayne. Yes, you'll find out what happened to Jayne.

Myth 1: Extrovert Equals Confidence

The stereotypical extrovert is loud, sociable, and often the life of the party. In truth, confidence and extroversion are not related. Both introverts and extraverts can be highly confident people, but how it manifests usually differs.

The appearance of confidence in an extrovert can easily mask the hidden pain and suffering that individual is going through. At the age of 12, my family relocated from a multicultural community to a monocultural one. I was the only non-white at my school. 

The daily verbal abuse I was subjected to turned me into an introvert. So I put on a mask. I refuse to smile, stood tall and tried my best to look tough.

It worked. The rest of the kids at school thought I was confident. Little did they know how much fear and anxiety I was feeling every school day. I had just two friends at school. Otherwise, I was socially awkward.

Confidence transcends personality types. It is something that can be developed with a step-step-approach. It need not take as long as people imagine. 

Myth 2: Confident People are Always Confident

One would be forgiven to believe that confident people never have self-doubts, limiting beliefs, or “bad hair days”. In fact, a student may demonstrate supreme confidence in one or two subjects. Yet, may have self-doubt about other subjects.

When they're confident in a topic, they'll be inspired, energised and passionate about it. When confidence is low, they'll have lack of motivation, little energy and have low self-esteem about the topic.

Supreme confidence has the gift of spilling into other topics. In a way, the student is averaging up their confidence across subjects. Hence, my mantra:

"How do you do one thing with excellence is how you do everything with excellence”. 

A confident student is encouraged to strive for excellence in one subject first. Why? Because the strategies that got them there can be replicated in their other subjects. 

Fighting low confidence is a waste of energy. Embrace it instead. This has a healing effect on the mental and emotional wellbeing of the student. It’s also a good starting point from which to build confidence. 

Let’s not forget that confidence must be nurtured and practiced regardless of one’s abilities. 

Myth 3: Confidence is Arrogance

Arrogance is a double-edged sword. According to the Cambridge Dictionary, "arrogance is the quality of being unpleasantly proud and behaving as if you’re more important than others". 

A confident person, on the other hand, can be an individual positively expressing their abilities boasting. Arrogance, however, is often highly subjective because it can be swayed by perceptions.

For example, you can confidently give a presentation on a familiar topic. One member of the audience might praise your knowledge, wit and wisdom. In the same audience, another person may think you're arrogant, pretentious and a know it all.

Who is correct?

Myth 4: Confidence Requires BIG Wins

When observing others move forward with their studies and extracurricular activities, it’s easy to say “she was an overnight success”. Having such a belief raises the bar for oneself. We often fail to meet such high standards. As a result, self-worth about success in that topic falters.

"Comparing yourself to another is the fast-track to mediocrity and failure. The only person worthy of comparison is the present version of you to yesterday's version."

Think of an individual signing up for weight training for the first time. After a week of training, they will not walk out of the gym having a body that looks like Arnold Schwarzenegger in his prime.

It’s the continuous daily practice, rest, and appropriate nutrition that leads to such a body for Arnie.  

Aiming for top grades and GCSEs are nowhere near as daunting as aiming for My Olympia. Students have a finite time (two years) to achieve their grades. It’s the daily consistent practice – the micro wins – that lead to results. NOT the big wins. 

Myth 5: Confidence Comes Before Action. 

We need to debunk this confidence myth quickly and as frequently as we can. It is one of the causes of hesitation, deliberation, and procrastination.

The neural networks associated with confidence do not materialise from thin air. The neural (nerves) pathway have to be built incrementally and deliberately over time. This means

Having clarity the goal (e.g. four A's)

Daily, consistent practice

Feedback and appraisal

Adjusting and adapting when necessary.

Confidence arises as an outcome of these steps. For example, an A-Level student’s goal may be to get the best grades in order to get into the university of choice. This means appropriate exam grades.

So how about practising with past exam papers two or more times a week? Week in, week out? Confidence to sit exams is inevitable.

From Extremely Shyness to Supreme Confidence

Jayne knew how to play shy. In social interactions, she blushes, gets sweat palms, upset stomach, and worries about how others view her. Hence, she withdraws even more. She feels out of control.

Jayne also knows how to achieve top results in all her subjects…with excellence. Then, we let her take control of those things that are in her control.

She was trained in controlling her anxiety through breathing exercise taken from yoga. Jayne was taught how to adopt a different body language from the one she was accustomed to.  

She repeated affirmations to undermine her limiting beliefs and replace them with empowering ones. We also taught her a simple meditation to calm her nervousness and worries. 

Finally, she was trained in how to socially interact using a 5-step process on communicating that helped train Jayne to become a conversationalist. 

Closing Remarks

No amount of training will change Jayne into an extrovert. She is not wired that way. But with training and coaching, she has developed into a more confident young adult. with a brighter future.

Confidence is not an accident at birth. It has to be nurtured. A student attaining confidence does not guarantee it permeating into all areas of life. Each area has to be addressed separately.

It’s also acceptable to “lose” confidence sometimes. When you're on the path to excellence, failing or losing confidence is a critical feedback mechanism to adjust. It requires humility, open-mindedness and a little courage to get started.

Please note: Names have been changed to protect privacy.

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Visit www.harunrabbani.com and let's embark on this journey together."

[cadillacjohnf1]

[mayoiayasep]

i really hope the people saying tsugeura will be involved w suo’s arc are right especially considering the “fighting as a form of conversation” thing…mr “loud and pushy + a brawler who literally lets people have the first hit before whaling on them” vs mr ““mature” and reserved + controls people’s movements by dodging and redirection” to be so honest we need to just lock the two of them in a room for 24 hrs i think suo would lose his mind

[bethanydelleman]

To be frank, I find the introvert/extrovert discourse online insane and completely ridiculous. People will fight to the death about if a character, Elizabeth Bennet, is an introvert or an extrovert, and people: they are opposites. If I/E aren't easy to tell apart for a main character of a novel, the categories are meaningless. But then oddly, considering that no one can tell I/E apart, extroverts are also some weird totally different species from introverts.

But Elizabeth Bennet is an extrovert and checks every single extrovert box and the reasons real internet people keep giving that she isn't are bonkers:

She takes solitary walks. I have some crazy news for you, extroverts can walk. I, a certified extrovert, take solitary walks nearly every day because I have a dog, whom I adopted knowing I would take her on these walks. It's shocking I know; I don't even die of loneliness at all! Consider for a moment that Elizabeth Bennet spends all day surrounded by four sisters and a very talkative mom, not surprising she takes walks alone occasionally. You'll also notice that she does invite her sisters along most of the time.

She reads. More shocking news: extroverts can read. Some of them read a lot. You know enjoying being around other people doesn't exclude reading. In fact, in the Regency you could even read aloud as a group activity! That is something we see in the novel. And Elizabeth also puts down her book when she finds a conversation more interesting.

She processes issues internally. That is not her preference, she likes to talk it out with Jane. When she's leaving Hunsford, Elizabeth is desperate to finally talk with Jane about all the crazy stuff that has happened to her, but she is forced to conceal a good deal of it because it's about Jane. She can't discuss Darcy with the Gardiners because his proposal is a secret, but she is eager to talk about the Lydia thing and learn her uncle's opinion. Also, extroverts are fully capable of processing internally, because again, not a different species.

She has trouble talking/feels awkward after the second proposal. Who wouldn't be awkward? Do people honestly think extroverts never feel awkward??? Not even when they love a guy that they verbally destroyed a few months ago? Not even during a confession of love? We uh... do. We get awkward too. In fact, sometimes when an extrovert talks rapidly, they are trying to talk their way out of an awkward situation. I have to work myself up to making phone calls.

Anyway, it drives me totally up the wall. Elizabeth Bennet is an extrovert, she thrives around people. Both end couples, Jane & Charles and Elizabeth & Darcy, are introvert/extrovert pairings, which is fun. If you want an introverted heroine, Jane Austen wrote five of them and they are all excellent: Elinor Dashwood, Marianne Dashwood, Fanny Price, Jane Bennet, and Anne Elliot. Catherine Morland, Emma Woodhouse, and Lady Susan round out the extroverts. It's awesome that Austen had such range in heroines.

[luna-loveboop]

Twilight and Warriors arguing/bantering

They crack me up. Literally almost every scene where they interact is like this.

(Also in general Warriors has his mouth open more)

That is all

[goblinparty]

there's two kinds of people in this world- people who routinely use headphones while in their own house, and those who use speakers instead & i think that is so much more telling about someone's character than a star chart or the mbti

[prettypinkdork]

Picard when he has no friends: fucks off to France and makes wine

Janeway when she has no friends: destroys timelines, commits so many many crimes

[crimeronan]

woke up today like "i am dogshit and should die immediately." then rafi and i went out on a little walk around the neighborhood to watch the sunset even tho it was hot bc i've been inside for weeks due to outdoors being an oven. & within five minutes, rafi was like "you already seem more cheerful" and i was like "well, yeah. i mean, the neighborhood kids are out playing, it's nice to remember life goes on" and rafi was like "yeah, kitkat. you're a fucking extrovert???"

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[popiellart]

shrike and his sham "sire", matilda, an npc from @elegiacescapist's sabbat campaign i'm a player in

[welcome-home-art-dump]

I saw the meme and figured this would fit well, since I adore the “Extrovert adopts introvert” dynamic.

Palette was sulking to herself someplace after work and Wally wasn't having any of it.

It didn’t seem right to have Wally alone in the car, so I added an equally cute oc I saw, Millie. [sorry for the sudden drawing-]

Millie belongs to @artsybug0

Diva Wally belongs to @frillsand

[huntingrays]

i have a personal hc that leo is actually an introvert but everyone thinks he’s an extrovert due to how he tends to act. i like to think he tends to just act that way either due to reflex when he put on an act around others or when he’s comfortable around people and can act as loud and crazy as he likes. however, he prefers spending time either alone inventing or with his closest friends, piper and jason.

[saeraas]

[philipforscale]

today i was sat on my bed drawing catboys on my ipad & watching dc ep345 on my laptop & i went like "ohmygod Life Is Sooooo Beautiful" n like. it really is. i love that i Know what my interests are n i can just Do Said Interest whenever im bored