#feeling the love today

[cuteasducks9]

happy birthday!!! hope you have a very special day!! 🥳🎉🥂

Thank you so much 🧡🩷💖

[amalthea-felsblood]

Get attacked!! ✨🌈SEND THIS TO OTHER BLOGGERS YOU THINK ARE WONDERFUL. KEEP THE GAME GOING🌈✨

(｡・//ε//・｡) @damian-elero ♡♡♡

[morallyinept]

dropping in to smooch you on the forehead

Lotsa smooches right back at 'cha, lovely! 😘🖤

[pose4photoml]

Received these today - guess I have a new job title ~ Chaos Coordinator ~😉

[braygun-pew-pew]

Gasp! I've never felt so flattered in my entire life! Now that my DMs are open again mayhaps you should sneak into them

[ab4eva]

Expect some things in the mail for your bday! 😌💋

I don’t know who this lovely little anon is, but gosh that’s just too precious of you 🥰🥹 Thanks a million, you sweetheart!

[clarisse-doodles]

inspired by this post, in which Damian does not know what Vine is

[hinamie]

some quick jjk eye paintings

[giantkillerjack]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

[munchboxart]

So I've been doing this thing for months where I just start grabbing one of my plushies to have as tummy support to prevent me from leaning too far forward towards my screen (the plush pushes me back as it's against the desk).

Maybe not good advice but for now it's better than me leaning all the way forward like a dog

[panstarry]

my final from last semester that i made into a zine. cooked this one up in a couple hours before the critique (the ink was still wet!), so it's very raw and kind of sloppy but the sentiment is there. i love you trans people of color. we are the backbone of this community 🌟

[ineffableteeth]

Crowley still dreams about Aziraphale

[horsemeatluvr23]

watching xb's hermit Q&A and he asks everyone "what inspired you to start making videos" and NEARLY EVERY SINGLE PERSON SAYS ETHO. and they all just unanimously agree that hermitcraft probably wouldn't exist without etho

[suntails]

toot toot!

[spookylovesart]

Something you can't come back from, yet can't go back to

[katnficer]

day 15: dagger