#feels weird to me

[didderd]

I don't want this to come off as meanspirited or anything, and you're under no obligation to answer this—but I'm so curious. Why exactly do you connect selfcest to incest? Is it the terminology? Is it the propensity for people who ship that sort of thing to also be more lenient towards other taboo ships?

I've just never seen anyone say "I don't like selfcest because of incest". Theyre not connected in my mind? So I'm just?? Interested. Forgive me if this comes off as rude.

dw, you'r good!

(tw: mentions of in***t under read more)

it's mostly the biological aspect of it. if they're the same person, they are even more closely related than siblings. dna being exactly the same, if not, extremely close. (the ship children are especially weird for me bc of this) but there are other things too.

they look like the same person (bc they are the same person), they (likely) had the same childhood, they had the same parents, and if they have a sibling, they have the same sibling. wouldn't that feel like a sibling? not a potential love interest??

a character being with their sibling from another universe is ofc considered in***t, but the sibling of that sibling (aka themself) is completely fine??

there are a lot of aspects that make it very similar to in***t, and that stuff makes it uncomfy for me.

but ofc, like i said in my pinned, i won't judge ppl for liking selfcest. (just wish ppl would tag their sanscest posts, so my filter would catch it lmao /lh)

[cithaerons]

idk i think it’s usually fair to assume that someone goes by the pronouns they present as unless they tell you otherwise? and if we declare that’s not the case then i feel like we’re back in the boat of pressuring people to tell the world their pronouns and thus out themselves when they aren’t comfortable doing do. and i kind of feel like the people who primarily harmed by NOT doing that are trans people? obviously it’s good to ask if it’s a safe and appropriate context for doing so but it often won’t be in the real world. idk, maybe others have different views.

[fuckyourdumbassusername]

I’m cat sitting for my mom’s church priest…and reading a book that’s far smuttier than I thought it was. Enjoying every second of it but I thought this was going to be more your average “and then they had sex” book and not your more advanced “here’s how they had sex for 3 whole chapters” book.

[booskwan]

i've (purposefully) been relatively quiet about comeback but i will probably upload the new songs on mixontrack for the people<3

[rollercoasterwords]

are u guys all writing in google docs.....wtf....

[imperaptorfuriosa]

my question is, are the people who made the original posts that tumblr is now making merch out of getting any credit? or money? for their intellectual property? is the originator of horse plinketo going to be lost to time as the meme lives on as shitty merchandise?

[aparticularbandit]

the fact that uma thurman and the munsters theme song are both on my spotify wrapped but agatha all along is not when they are all on the same playlist says something about the frequency of the songs played on that playlist when spotify shuffles stuff.

[gibbearish]

love when ppl defend the aggressive monetization of the internet with "what, do you just expect it to be free and them not make a profit???" like. yeah that would be really nice actually i would love that:)! thanks for asking

[sardonicdoll]

wanted to do my photo project this semester on the notion of mobility aids being extensions of our bodies, the yarn was done by a friend

edit: the shibari comments are one thing but if you put these non-sexual photos of me in my wheelchair on your porn blog i'm blocking you 👍🏻

[sporesgalaxy]

i shouldnt be at the club i should be at a monastery. illuminating texts and shit

[greykolla-art]

“I’m a SHARK-” said Alastor the deer demon, “because it’s a good metaphor!’

(NO I will not do a part 2!💕)

[virtualplushy]

i have started asking myself “how can i make this more fun?” in regards to the things i have to do and it is such a small difference but it brings me so much delight

[inkskinned]

the thing about some men is that they want you to remember, at all times, that you are underneath them. that with one word or look or "joke", you will stay beneath them. that even "exceptions" to the rule are not true exceptions - the commonly cited statistic that one in eight men believe they could win against serena williams.

women's gymnastics is often not seen as real gymnastics. whatever the fuck non-euclidian horrors rhythmic gymnasts are capable of, it's often tamped down as being not a sport. some of the most dominant athletes in the world are women. nobody watches women's soccer. despite years of dancing and being built like a fucking brick, men always assume they're faster and stronger than i am. you wouldn't like what happens when they are incorrect. once while drunk at a guy's house i won a held-plank challenge by a solid minute. the party was over after that - he became exceedingly violent.

what i mean is that you can be perfect, and they still think you're ... lacking, somehow. i hope you understand i'm trying to express a neutral statement when i say: taylor swift was the possibly the most patriarchy-palatable, straight-down-the-line woman we could churn out. she is white, conventionally attractive, usually pretty mild in personality. say what you will about her (and you should, she's a billionaire, she can handle it), but a few things seem to be true about her: 1. she can write a damn catchy song, and 2. the eras tour truly was a massive commercial success and was also genuinely an impressive feat of human athleticism and performance.

i don't know if she deserves the title of "woman of the year," i'm not debating that in this post. what i am saying is that she was named Woman of The Year, and then an untalented man got onstage at the golden globes and made fun of her for attending her boyfriend's football games. what i am saying is that this woman altered local economies - and her dating life is still being made into a "harmless" punchline. the camera panned, greedy, over to her downing a full glass of champagne. congratulations taylor! you are woman of the year! but you are a woman. even her.

fuck, man. write better material.

a guy gets onstage at a college graduation and despite the fact like half the crowd is made up of women, he spends a significant proportion of it warning these people - who spent possibly hundreds of thousands of dollars on their education - that they were lied to. that the "real" meaning of femininity is motherhood. that they shouldn't rest on the laurels of that education-they-paid-for but instead throw it away to kneel at a man's heel. imagine that. sweating in your godawful polyester gown (that you also had to pay for!), fresh out of 4 years of pushing yourself ever-harder: and some guy you've never met - who knows nothing about you - he reminds you this "win" is a pyrrhic one at best. you really shouldn't consider yourself that extraordinary. you're still a woman, even after years of study.

god forbid you are not a pretty woman, but if you are pretty, you must be dumb. god forbid you are not ablebodied or white or cis or straight or good at swallowing. you must be beneath a man, or else they are not a man. the equation for masculinity seems to just be: that which is not a woman or womanly (god forbid). anything "feminine" is thereby anathema. to engage in "feminine" things such as therapy, getting a hug from a friend, or crying - it is giving up ones manhood. therefore women need to be put in their place to ensure that masculinity is protected.

this is something i have struggled to explain to terfs - they are not doing the work of feminism, but rather the patriarchy. by asserting that women and men must be (on some secret level) oppositional and in conflict, they also assume that being a woman is akin to being another species. but bigotry does not stem from observational truths or clarity - that is what makes it bigotry. there was nothing in my childhood that made me fundamentally different from my brother. we are treated differently nonetheless. to assert there is some biological drive that enforces my gender role is to assert that women have a gendered role. men do not see women as equal to them not because of biological reality - but instead because the core tenant of the patriarchy is that women aren't full, realized people.

we are told from a very young age to excuse misbehavior as a single man's choice - not all men. it is not all men, just that one guy. all women are gold-digging bitches who belong in the kitchen - but if a man is mean, bigoted, or violent to you, it's just that particular guy, and that means nothing about men-as-a-whole. it is only one guy who got mad when you gently rejected him. it is only one guy who warns her this trophy is heavy, are you sure you can hold it? it is only one guy who smashes her face into the cake. it is only one guy talking into a mic about hating our bodily autonomy.

i have just found that they often wait until the moment we actually seem to be upstaging them. you sit in a meeting where you're presenting your own findings and he says get me a coffee? or you run to the end of the marathon and are about to finish first and he pushes your kids out in front of you. you win the chess game and they make some comment akin to well, you're ugly away. we can be the billionaire and get the dream life and finally fucking do it and yet! still! they have this strange, visceral urge to say well actually, if you think you're so great -

it's not one just one guy. it's one in eight.

[anna-scribbles]

adrien in my outfit from a few days ago✨ feat. my claws out converse

bonus:

[rwsdarw]

this was fun

[teaboot]

Sometimes I wish I was Out at my main job but you know part of me really, really enjoys just being seen as "the young straight cis employee who's knowledgeable about queer topics" because I find myself often approached by older folks who admit things like "I know transsexuals are more popular these days but injecting things into children doesn't seem right" and I can tell them "Actually your niece/nephew/nibling isn't getting surgery and junk right now, they're twelve, what they're getting are 'blockers' which delay puberty- and since puberty itself is an involuntary change to the body caused by hormones, isn't it nice that they're getting a bit of time to decide that they're sure about what they want before they start? And also we've been using and observing HRT for longer than Advil, ibuprofen, digital cameras, and laser eye surgery, so IDK, it's good that you're asking questions though, I'm glad you're looking out for them but it's not really all that scary" and I like knowing that I can help steer them in the right direction (seeking out scientifically proven facts and stats, asking questions) instead of encouraging the path they're already on (leaning into instinctive feelings about the unfamiliar and strange)