#gender schmender

[soldier-poet-king]

The full irony of the only time I'm 100% ok with The Gender and don't feel like screaming is when I'm thinking abt wlw and soft dumb shit like hand holding (🤡 <-me)

[timkonbartweek]

Prompts 2023!!

Day 1 - May 21st

Soulmates I Scars and Marks I Idiots to Lovers

Day 2 - May 22nd

Identity Reveal I Power Shenanigans I Fake Dating

Day 3 - May 23rd

Time Travel I Dimensional Travel I 90's

Day 4 - May 24th

Mid Battle Flirts I Secret Relationships I Meet the Fam

Day 5 - May 25th

Villain AU l Apocalypse AU I No Capes AU

Day 6 - May 26th

Drunk Confessions I Morning After I Languages + Learning Each Other's Culture

Day 7 - May 27th

Gender Schmender I Hurt/Comfort I First Time (kiss, cuddles, sex, etc)

@dc-fandom-events @dcfandomevents

[saltminerising]

gender schmender. i want real npc drama. glass and gloss undercut baldwin on the auction house and then blocked him so he couldnt see their listings

[official-dr-two-brains]

Gender schmender. Who cares about all of that when you can commit crimes? Anyway, he/they works for me. It doesnt matter. I'm stealing your cheese anyway.

[w0rped-moss]

.....would it be weird to think about shapeshifter Dream who doesn't give a fuck about gender ("Gender schmender"- Dream) so he just makes himself look more feminine (afab, boobies, ect) after prison do stay hidden and his enemies are just like- "now who's this hot babe who just joined the server?" ?

it explains mamacita better than most things so. no I guess? you can do whatever you want.

[bastardraccooon]

why dont we talk about this?

[61below]

Fuck ‘gender’ what’s your voice part

[transport-phenomena]

got my gender affirmed at a college bar last night fellas

[captaincrusher]

Are the straights ok???

[myriad--starlings]

they/he but only use he for me if you're one of a dozen people no idk who those people are so I can't tell you if you're one, good luck

[soldier-poet-king]

Tonight's plans are cold meds and tristamp so like. It COULD be worse

[merelygifted]

All around the world young trans people are under attack. Leave them alone! | Transgender | The Guardian

Gender, schmender.

[lionheartslowstart]

Eevee

This past year I’ve been discovering a lot about my gender identity. I came out as gender-fluid, and I’ve been expressing that fluidity a lot more openly in public spaces and on the internet. I’ve also been encouraging others to use non-binary pronouns (they, them, their) as well as masculine pronouns (he, him, his) when appropriate. It’s been a lot of fun and quite self-affirming to be able to essentially play around with my own gender and gender expression.

As time is passing, I see my gender slowly evolving and deepening. I’ve been referring to myself as non-binary and genderqueer in addition to gender-fluid. More and more often, I feel as if I have no gender at all (agender), or that maybe I’m all genders at once (pangender). It’s confusing to be sure, but also liberating, because for the first time I feel free to express myself and experiment openly, and I have support from the people in my life.

I know labels are just that: labels. Some people say labels are for soup cans. I think it’s much more complicated than that. It’s certainly true that some people take labels too far, narrowing it down further and further and further, almost to the point of making it seem like we shouldn’t have labels at all since we’re all so unique. But labels are important too. They give people a sense of identity, as well as a sense of community. Putting a label on oneself can make a person feel secure, and I’m not going to lie, I’d really like that security.

No matter what, I am me. That will always be true. Still, I hope I can find the label that fits my identity best. I know I’m not transgender, and I know I’m not cisgender. I exist somewhere in-between, swirling around in that nebulous galaxy of genders without a box. Is it possible that I am all of these things at different times? Maybe sometimes I am agender, sometimes I am pangender, sometimes I am fluid, etc.? If you’re not a cookie cutter member of society (ie. the norm), it’s definitely harder to pin yourself down than you’d think.

I feel like right now, my gender is untapped potential, like the Pokémon Eevee. My gender could be anything, depending on how it’s nurtured and what I place on it. There are so many possibilities, so many outcomes, and they’re all amazing, so I don’t have to sweat it. I have no idea if my gender will turn out to be Vaporeon, Flareon, Jolteon, Espeon, Umbreon, Leafeon, Glacion, or even Sylveon. No matter what, I’m excited to continue this journey, and dig deeper into myself. For the time being, my label is a big fat question mark, and I am totally okay with that.

[bonos-grindcore-sideproject]

Just went through my “thou hast ravished my heart” tag. Enjoy.

[helloundefined]

Challenging cisgenderism in the ageing trans and/or non-binary population (Ansara, Y. Gavriel, 2015)

[apokine]

Anna told me to do the whole thing so here we are I guess

How did you choose your name? IDK I just wanted to still have a name that wasn’t like ~weird~ but still unique 

What gives you the most dysphoria? (Acknowledging that not all trans people experience dysphoria) even tho I got my tiddies removed i still feel kinda weird abt my chest if i’m not wearing a top lol…also a weird one but lipstick

Do you have more physical dysphoria or more social dysphoria? social maybe? it’s just sort of there all the time so

What do you do to perform self-care when you’re feeling dysphoric? what i always do when im feelin down - EAT LOTS OF FOOD

What was the first time you suspected you were transgender? uhhh i think the first time i suspected it as a like TANGIBLE THOUGHT was this one time when i was out w/ friends and had to go to the bathroom and i absolutely had an epiphany in the bathroom that i wasn’t a girl hahahahaha

When did you realize you were transgender? idk how this is different from the last one and i dont rly remember when it was that i like officially stopped thinking of myself as a girl

What is your favorite part of being transgender? other trans ppl probably. stay awesome, trans peeps

How would you explain your gender identity to others? mostly genderless, but i fluctuate around

How did you come out? If you didn’t come out, why do you stay in the closet? Or what happened when you were outed? im out w/ family/friends, who all found out in diff ways i guess? some ppl i just told, i also wrote stuff on tumblr & fb about it

What have your experiences with packing or wearing breast forms been? no experience with either lol 

What are your experiences with binding or tucking? binding sucked haha i defo wore my binder way more than i should have and got that Big Back Pain so i eventually mostly stopped and then got my bops chopped off

Do you pass? nahhh (is it even possible to pass as nonbinary??? question for another day)

What (if any) steps do you want to take to medically transition? got top surgery, idk abt hormones cuz i dont see myself as transmasc and am not interested in looking Very Masculine but i would like to look Less Feminine

How long have you been out? uhhhhhhh year a half maybe???????

What labels have you used before you’ve settled on your current set? none, tho i wouldnt say i’m particularly ‘settled’ haha

Have you ever experienced transphobia? sure have

What do you do when you have to go to the bathroom in public? usually the women’s restroom, sometimes mens if it is more convenient

How does your family feel about your trans identity? mixed reviews lol, some of my family is super supportive, some of them are like “why are you doing this” etc

Would you ever go stealth, and if you are stealth, why do you choose to be stealth? i mean i guess i’m stealth at work bc i worry abt my job

What do you wish you could have shared with your younger self about being trans? i wish that younger me just knew there were options i suppose

Why do you use the pronouns you use? I use they/them bc she/he felt too gendered for me and neopronouns just sound too strange to me personally. I respect and admire anybody that uses neopronouns bc those ppl are paving the way for future generations to have more options that are normalized tho. I just can’t do it myself cuz I have a big fear of standing out which is totally at odds with like everything I wanna be lol

Do your neurodivergencies affect your gender? i dont think so but who fuckin knows

What’s your biggest trans-related fear? NOBODY’S EVER GONNA LOVE ME

What medical, social, or personal steps have you already taken to start your transition? i feel like this has already been covered by previous questions

What do you wish cis people understood? that my gender isnt anybody’s business!! who cares!! 

What impact has being trans affected your life? idk honestly. dont know where to even begin trying to measure that

What do you do to validate yourself? well sometimes i like to argue with strangers on the internet 

How do you feel about trans representation in media? i love the increasing representation in the media and it makes me very happy to see being trans normalized and validated, but obviously there still just isnt enough good representation

Who is your favorite trans celebrity? angel haze maybe

Who is the transgender person who has influenced you the most? hmmm well i think that trans people i know irl are the ones who have given me the most courage. when i see other people come out or change their name or use they/them pronouns or WHATEVER i’m like “wow if they can do it i can too”.

How are you involved with the trans community, IRL or online? i wouldnt say im really involved w the community in any way aside from just being present here on tungle dot com

How do you see yourself identifying and presenting in 5 years? pretty much the same

What trans issue are you most passionate about? affordable & accessible healthcare!!! 

What advice would you give to other trans people, or what message would you like to share with them? hey buddy i did it (am doing it?) and so can you

How do you feel your gender interacts with your race, disability, class, weight, etc. from the perspective of intersectionality? i feel like skinny white androgynous ppl are the ‘default’ nonbinary ppl which sucks. i esp feel the weight thing bc i feel like it really prevents me from being seen the way i want to be seen. on the class front, i feel fortunate that can afford surgery and whatever else i need

What, if any, is the difference between your gender identity and your gender expression? i feel like my gender expression is super feminine to other people. but to me i feel like my expression is pretty much aligned w/ my identity  

Do you feel more masculine, feminine, or neither? neither

What is your sexual and romantic orientation, and what are your thoughts on it? sexual - idk i think i need somebody to figure it out and tell me. don’t really feel like labeling it right now, but sex is just not big for me. romantic - panromantic cuz i just like everybody. somehow much easier to figure out than my sexual orientation

Is your ideal partner also trans, or do you not have a preference? no preference tho if theyre cis they better not be a douchebag about it

How did/do you manage waiting to transition? honestly i’m a huge procrastinator LOLLL. as long as i keep telling myself ‘haha yeah it’ll happen eventually’ i’m just like ‘cool so i dont have to do it NOW…’ as long as i have the knowledge that it WILL happen im like..i can wait. If I think abt the possibility that it might not happen I freak the fuck out…for a bit I thought it might not be possible for me to get top surgery (due to medical issues) and I was in panic mode.

What is the place (blog, website, forum, IRL space) you get most of your info on being trans or on trans related things? idk i guess i learned a lot on tumbles

Do you interact with other trans people IRL? not super often, i mostly know trans ppl that are just like acquaintances or casual friends. our interaction is limited to liking each others instagram or facebook posts lol

Are you involved in any trans-related activism? nah tho i think it’d be cool

Free space! Answer any question you want, or make up your own question to answer. i refuse to make up my own question