#hurt so good

[fantasiees]

Did this today 🙇🏼‍♀️💕

[snackugaki]

soft apocalypse 2

now with hastily applied color because i love color, i do, but how the fuck do people speed fill shapes without having to lasso the entire outline??? idgi, procreate has that feature apparently yet a bitch does not have procreate money ssso. hm. literally the only thing stopping me from full color comics, like I JUST learned about layer lock coloring only 3 years ago. i know brush tool, eraser tool and CTRL + Z and thassall rly

[twilight-alchemist]

just finished reading trimax help

[rayslittlekitten]

Me: Let's make Jax savage. 😈

Also me: But also let's make him soft. 🥺

[lonely-night]

What If; Safetysuit

[chipthekeeper]

can't wait to be done with all these legos so that i can actually focus on writing instead of daydreaming about what i want to write while cursing over not being able to find the right pieces

[jbjonesxdomme]

Hurt So Good | JB and Betty | 04.13

JB was happy to see Betty on time, though she wasn’t surprised by it in the slightest. She allowed the girl inside and made quick time to the play room where JB had different impact tools set up near the padded bench. She ordered Betty to strip for her and laid her over the bench on her stomach, with her legs spread. “Alright, sweetheart,” she said softly, rubbing Betty’s ass with the palm of her hand. “You’re gonna count these out for me, and if you miss one I’m going to start over,” she explained, before cracking her hand twice at first, one on each cheek to give Betty an Idea of how it was starting. 

@highpony-betty

[foolish-sparrow]

Has anyone else been watching The Last of Us series because I have and I'm loving hating all of the emotions coming back from when I first played the game

[fexiprompts]

angsty af slow burn idea: fez is released from prison after many years and moves in with his estranged brother and his wife, lexi (obvs aged up ashtray, up to the author whether fez and lexi have ever met before)

Actually really love this idea, the angst potential is off the charts 📈

[midnight-coffee94]

No single line has ever wrecked me as hard as this one from the Good Place and I think about it constantly

[9misoundsystem]

Susan Cadogan - Hurt So Good

[ensanguinate]

God damn my neck just cracked

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Happy Thistle Debut Day!

[rayslittlekitten]

WIP Update 4/23/23

So here is a little sneak peak of that Jax thing I started writing. It's going to be another installation of "Hurt so Good". Jax has been getting under my skin lately so... yeah.

Rating: E (18+ ONLY)

WARNINGS: allusions to assault, D/s, cigarette burns, praise

He reaches behind his head and pulls up his crisp white tee, pulling it through over his slicked blonde tresses, taking his time as you watch him slowly undress. After he tosses it aside, he plucks each ring off his fingers and places them on a nearby table. He then reaches into his jeans pockets. Your breath hitches seeing him produce black leather gloves. Gloves and topless? You sure hope he plans on making a pretty mess out of you. He makes his way towards you with the cigarette dangling from his lips and while pulling the gloves on. His gait adds to the entire image of his bad biker boy vibe.

With a gloved hand, he grips your chin, tilting your face up and leans in closer to you. He takes a final drag from his cigarette, sucking the remaining tobacco from the nub before taking the filter between his fingers of his other hand. His blue eyes pierces into yours, breaking contact for a quick moment to examine the discoloration around your eye.

“Does it hurt?” He asks sincerely.

“Nothing I can’t handle,” you reply.

“That’s not what I asked,” he shakes his head.

“Yes, it does,” you answer after staring him down, wondering where he’s going with this. “So what?” You shrug.

“I’m gonna make you forget what that feels like and give you pain you appreciate.”

He brings up the cigarette butt to your eye level. You then follow it as he brings it to your shoulder, hovering close to your skin. He pauses and makes eye contact with you, waiting for you to say something.

“I know you like this shit but I’m asking anyways. Do you want this?” He asks.

He remembered. You nod.

“I need to hear you say it, sweetheart.”

“Yes,” you nod.

“Yes what?”

“Yes, master,” you smirk.

“Good girl,” he returns the smirk before grazing the heated end across your skin.

You hiss and instantaneously you feel the adrenaline kickstarting, pulling a loan groan out of you. Jax pulls away, watching your reaction.

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.