#i fucking adore them

[adharastarlight]

James: I love you

Reg: are you going to leave?

James: no

Reg: everyone always leaves

James: I won't

[starrspice]

Maybe it's time I tell you guys about DJ Music Man in this AU

[tomdelongeschlong]

I'm not crying there's just two old latent homosexuals in my eye.

[gaytoru]

my favourite doomed yuri

[castielafflicted]

STICKERS ACQUIRED

@sjonni33 @castielsprostate

[bisexualboysbroadcast]

puppy needing immediate comfort forgets he’s sulking and hugs his owner only to remember five seconds later that he’s still mad

cuteness rating scale 10000/10 more at seven

[charliethinks]

i love my best friend

[leemokitkat]

“Thank you from the bottom of my heart for having saved me. I was drowning and you threw yourself into the water without hesitation, without a backward look.”

<Jean Cocteau to Jean Marais, 1939>

Regulus Black to James Potter, 1977

[emo-milk]

HEARTBREAK FEELS SO GOOD MIGHT BE MY NEW FAVE FOB MUSIC VIDEO HOLY SHIT

[callistrophe]

i just think that they definitely play with each others hair a lot <3

anyways shout out to hualian for being the best comfort ship ever, I’ve been obsessed with these lil dudes for so long now

[morglien]

i love my friends so much wtf.

[buckttommy]

the world is a dumpster fire, but my friend (literally the only friend I talk about on here) is officially a doctor and I am SO proud of them, I started crying

[enpassants]

hot bitches dont want a cat hot bitches want an argentine tegu

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

[bisexualboysbroadcast]

screaming at tinn accidentally falling in love watching gun singing

[fandomestuff]