#i just he/him'd him

[bluejaybytes]

show us your oc lore!!

I'm so sorry but it's exclusively my Splatoon OCs

I'm not at ALL confident in how legible this is, but this is my Web Of Lesbianism(tm), AKA how (almost) all of my lesbian sploon OCs connect to each other, excluding a few who only connect in small places and/or I don't feel like making icons for. Sorry to Scarlet, who absolutely warrants a place here, but I simply Do Not Want to make an icon for </3

Lore under the readmore because I get extremely rambly. whoops and apologies and this is probably the only time i'll ever let myself get THIS infodump-y in a Tumblr post. I'm writing this after I wrote it all out and I'm so fucking sorry it's literally over 2k words because I have no ability to stop once I've started and I've been outright POSSESSED by these losers for the past month. Here's basically everything about my Splatoon OCs

FOR NAMES. Top right is Basil (Blue tentacles), middle right is Penny (Her name is just written because I haven't drawn her yet), bottom right is June (Pink tentacles), bottom middle is Jake (Blue tentacles), bottom left is Parker (Purple tentacles, also the sanitized icon), middle left is Ruby (Orange tentacles), and top left is May (Pink tentacles)

Everything starts when May, Jake, and Ruby are all around ~16-17, while June, May's little sister, is around ~9. May is VERY into Jake, and Jake's just generally a big flirt and a huge romantic, though it's unsure if he really realizes May's extremely obvious crush on him (He doesn't), or he reciprocates, which is unfortunate, because Ruby, who's May's childhood best friend, is also very into her, but May doesn't realize this. When [UNDECIDED EVENT] happens and May and Jake both come to the realization they need to head to the surface to escape the oppressive Octarian domes, Ruby being with them is very clearly an afterthought, and she knows it. So, her jealousy over Jake being someone May has known for less time yet clearly loves more than her, and the fact that trying to escape being very, very illegal, she turns them both in.

Jake manages to call May before he's caught to warn her that Ruby turned them in and the cops will already be heading to her parents house, which gives May enough time to run home, grab June, and make a run for it. Both May and Jake manage to outrun the cops, with May and June ending up far into the outskirts of the domes, while Jake only gets further and deeper within them.

Around a month or two after their initial escape, May's spotted by a patrol of soldiers stationed right around the way to the surface, with the soldier who spots her specifically being Scarlet, the oldest sister to Ruby (Who's not featured here because I don't want to make her icon), who remembers May from when she was a kid and, alongside that, has been feeling disillusioned with life as a soldier, despite her high ranking, and decides not only to let May go, but to even share rations with her. This only increases as Scarlet realizes May is the runaway who's known to have a young child with her, and it goes from Scarlet sparing her own rations to stealing rations from the squad she leads to make sure both May and June are able to eat properly.

Of course, this doesn't last long, as Crimson, the middle sister to Scarlet and Ruby, and fellow soldier stationed with Scarlet's squad, gets suspicious of the missing rations, Scarlet's dismissal of the issue, and her wandering off frequently, and ends up following her and finds her giving the stolen rations to May. A fight breaks out between the two, with Crimson managing to nearly take Scarlet's eye out in the process, as Scarlet's the only person ever to bring a gun to a knife fight and lose. May booked it the MOMENT Crimson jumped out, so she's long gone by the time the scuffle ends, but Scarlet, having just been caught stealing rations, aiding a runaway, and now attacking a fellow soldier (Even if in self defense), bolts to try and make it to the surface as well, albeit she doesn't know where May ran off to.

May ends up making it to the surface around a month after that incident, after wandering lost for the time between, and, while struggling to try and buy some clothes thanks to the language barrier between her and the commonly spoken languages of the surface, one of the employees working there, Penny, is able to help figure out what May's looking for, and helps her with the whole process, since it's a lot different from how it was in the domes. They don't end up seeing each other after that for around a year, but it's important when they do, as Penny's was the first person on the surface May really had a good experience with, so when they randomly run into each other, May's very happy to be able to tell her how meaningful that was to her, and that she's much more adjusted to the culture and language now.

Meanwhile, Jake! Jake ends up wandering deep within the domes, far away from where the actual settlements and cities are, for over a year, just barely surviving through scavenging and avoiding patrolling soldiers. Still, he's not great at it, and eventually he ends up being held at gunpoint by Parker, who insists he tell her his rank and what he's doing out here. He has no idea, as he was never in the military and lies through his teeth. Luckily for him, Parker is a military deserter, and would've had a much worse reaction had she believed him, instead realizing that he's not a soldier and has no idea what he's talking about. Parker's been hiding out in the area, an abandoned sewer system that's frequented as a supply route for soldiers, for several months at this point, and while she actually enjoys her life of living down there, it's a lot of work to survive on her own, and realizing Jake's a fugitive also means he's a potential survival partner.

The two end up meeting up once every day for around a week before Parker feels confident enough that Jake isn't going to screw her over or try and turn her in or anything, and invites him to live with her at her "apartment", an old maintenance closet that's very secluded and not marked on any military maps, under the agreement that the two of them actually work together. Jake instantly agrees because he's been miserable and awful for the past year, while Parker's doing surprisingly well for herself, she even has multiple sets of clothes that she's stolen from nearby outposts (As well as an entire mattress she stole, and her most prized possession, a full deck of playing cards, and an Octo Shot she definitely killed a man for), as opposed to Jake, who's been going off of only what he had on him when everything went down, which is... practically nothing.

The plot basically slows down and chills out here for a while, May and June end up moving in with Penny after a few months of May and Penny hanging out instead of having to live in the shitty motel they'd been living in before (Albeit, the motel was better than the wilds they'd been living in before that), and Parker and Jake get adjusted to their lives in hiding surprisingly well. May and Scarlet even find each other on the surface again, they run into each other while May's out grocery shopping, and it's a very important moment for the both of them, as they've spent this entire time carrying around the guilt of feeling responsible for what happened, so them seeing the other and seeing how much better they're doing on the surface helps ease those guilts.

And then the events of Octo Expansion happen in the background. Parker and Jake know the routines of the soldiers in the area after years of living together, but the supply lines end up being used by sanitized Octoling soldiers after Kamabo starts massively ramping up production, leading to patrols of sanitized soldiers at seemingly random intervals, and outside of the predictable patterns that Parker and Jake were used to. Parker's out doing the laundry when a patrol finds her, and, greatly outnumbering her, end up nearly killing her, and dragging her back to be sanitized. She's in too bad of condition to be saved and reused as a test subject, so she's just sanitized instead.

Jake, naturally, notices when Parker never comes back from doing the laundry, and proceeds to be missing for upwards of two weeks. Jake does his best to look for her, but he also doesn't want to stray too far from their "apartment", as he's scared she might return home when he's gone, and with the unpredictable patrols, he doesn't feel like it's safe to stay out for as long as he wants to to look for her, so he ends up sticking close to home and just hoping he'll be able to find some clue of her. Of course, when he finally does, finally spotting her hanging around the entrance to the hallways that lead to their apartment, it's Not a good thing. He runs up to her to ask where she's been, and the moment he calls for her she turns and attacks him. It's not even a fair fight, even if he went in expecting a fight, he wouldn't have won, but this was a complete surprise. She quickly attacks him and takes him back to be put into the metro as a test subject, and, since he was brought back in much better shape than she was, he actually can be salvaged as a test subject!

And then he isn't. He's in the process of being readied as a test subject, namely, having his memories messed with, that the entire plot of Octo Expansion actually happens, and he's freed when the entire facility shuts down, and the metro is just a normal transport system again. He ends up wandering around for another month or so, except doing so very poorly, as the effects that being prepped to be a test subject had on his memory is bad, and basically erased all of his knowledge on how to survive on his own. Eventually, and luckily for him, he's found by one of the rescue teams that have been sent out in the aftermath of Octo Expansion to rescue lost and sanitized Octolings, and FINALLY gets brought to the surface, as well as being hospitalized for a whole myriad of problems, mainly being severely dehydrated from not remembering safe ways to find and gather water reliably.

When he's ready to be discharged, he realizes he has really nowhere to go, but since he still remembers May's phone number from when they were kids (As it's been years at this point, May and Jake are both in their mid 20s now, and June's around ~17), and calls her to ask if she can come pick him up and also if he can crash at her place for a bit. May is more than a bit surprised that her childhood friend she was fairly convinced had died years ago, and that she feels guilty for abandoning, is not only still alive, but super casual and chill just. Calling her cell and asking if he can sleep on her couch. At this point, June's already moved out, having been encouraged by both May and Penny to get out on her own and try getting out of her comfort zone, and is living in Splatsville with her roommate Basil, and not really having any major plot moments of her own. She's having fun and coming out of her shell and having silly lesbian shenanigans with her roommate in the background while Jake and May are experiencing the horrors.

Ultimately, this is about where thing stop being decided and I still need to figure out what happens next. Jake is living on May and Penny's couch (The universe will never let them have their house to themselves. Not even 3 months after June moves out, Jake's crashing on their couch), and has no memory of his time with Parker, Parker's MIA and potentially dead, and May's struggling with the idea that Jake's either in denial of some major trauma he must've faced through the years, or that she's somehow uniquely fucked up from what happened to them. To make matters worse, Jake's memory issues become more and more apparent, as he continues to struggle to remember Penny's name, instead repeatedly calling her "Parker", yet getting confused when he's corrected. I'm ultimately unsure what I'm going to do to resolve this plot thread, but May and Penny do realize that whoever Parker was, she was someone Jake knew in the time he was missing, and are trying to figure out just exactly who she was, if not where she actually is

Whether or not Parker is dead... it's up in the air. I initially planned for her to die and stay dead, but I'm the worlds biggest sap and I feel bad about killing her off permanently, as well as the fact I have plenty of silly ideas for what I could do with Parker once she's on the surface, so I'm still debating if it's more narratively satisfying for her to die or not. There's, if you believe it, actually a ton I'm glossing over (The intricacies of Jake and Parker's dynamic, the reasons why Parker left, basically everything about Basil and June, literally Basil has an entire friend group that has their own mini-plot that's not at all connected to this and doesn't get mentioned, Crimson is going to be more relevant once I figure out what I want to do with her, ect), but uh. That's the very long gist of it.

If anyone actually, genuinely reads through all of this. Thank you, apologies, and I love you

[aggressively-crying]

Fossil fighters turned me bi and was probably instrumental to realizing my whole nonbinary situation

[odysseys-blood]

rewarding myself for getting he/him'd and young man'd and sir'd today with a herbal tea bath and enjoying the flower petals floating in the water

[spittingoutthebloodandscreaming]

The thing about having an unlabeled or ambiguous identity is you will be labeled whatever is most convenient for others purposes

[aeroring]

oh yeah btw i added like 3 more pronouns to my blog description because lol i felt like it

[nothorses]

An actual conversation I had at my local lgbt center

Me: no one uses the correct pronouns for me anyway so just take your pick and I'll live with it

Staff: its really important to us that we use the correct pronouns for everyone

Me: I've been coming here for years, I know that the right pronouns will not be used and by not saying what pronouns I use incan at least pretend that I'm being misgendered because no one knows what pronouns to use rather than because no one sees me as my actual gender. Please just let me have that.

Staff: I know in the past it's been that way in the past, but I can assure you that we're improving, and everyone here will do the best we can to ensure we use the correct pronouns

Me: fine, I use he/him pronouns

Staff: thank you *proceeds to use they/them for me all day, not once was I actually gendered correctly*

It's like that everywhere. I went to pride with 4 separate pronoun pins on my chest and was she/her or they/them all day. Not one person used the correct pronouns. Including the person I was buying the fourth pin from.

Oh yeah, it's absolutely a common experience.

What frustrates me the most, I think, is when I initially pass, get he/him'd effortlessly and always, and later come out on my own- meaning they literally wouldn't have known if I hadn't told them- and suddenly I never hear he/him again.

And not just from conservatives; from people who actively and frequently talk about trans allyship of their own accord.

I got she/her'd all the time back when I was trying to get they/them'd; I could pass that off as like, "forgetting" and defaulting to appearance-based assumptions. Still shitty, probably more of a choice than I was assuming (for my own sake), but also like, it felt much more passive to me. I could kinda handwave it and go, "as long as you're trying, it's fine!"

This feels almost malicious. And I know it isn't, but I also know it's not just forgetting- in that moment that they think about what pronouns to use for me, there is hesitation. They ask themselves questions that they never asked when they thought I was cis. Ultimately, they decide they just can't bring themselves to use pronouns for me that they found effortless before they knew.

Because I'm trans, and that has fundamentally changed the way they see me, and these are people who will never even acknowledge that. They'll just go on thinking they're doing a great job as trans allies, likely even if I have the presence of mind to catch and correct it when it does happen around me.

[transtalesofdoom]

I'm a bit conflicted about getting he/him'd online. Online pronouns in general are a weird thing.

Back when I was a woman, I was pretty insistent on people using she/her, because people would use he/him by default. When strangers immediately used she/her, half of the time they were about to be sexist. (Genuinely had a guy request to talk to a different moderator because I clearly was on my period. Don't miss my moderation days.)

Now I'm fine with any pronouns in theory, and he/him is my favorite of the bunch. But when people use he/him for me now (not counting online friends), it's almost definitely because that's their default. They just assume I'm a guy because everyone's a guy. And what am I gonna do? Correct them? "Hi yes my pronouns are indeed he/him, but not like that"?

There isn't really a pronoun that tells me people have perceived me in all my complexities. Before, she/her would at least be an indicator that I was more than the default Mii to them.

I know there's neopronouns, but they don't feel like something I want for myself. No pronouns is an option, but I know that gets annoying to implement.

So really, I'm fine with any, but you must also submit a 500-word essay on what my gender means to you emotionally, spiritually, and carnally.

[lianecartmanstimtoy]

Sm South Park Headcanons for the characters that hold my brain hostage. (Also this is them as older teens/adults)

Kyle

-Biromantic/Asexual who just lives happily in comphet for years. He just kinda appreciates and sees the value in everyone but obviously guys just date girls. They just appreciate other men equally you know?

-King has OCD up to his god damn teeth but refuses to see a therapist because there's nothing wrong with him he's just being "proactively cautious".

-Sick kid to neurotic adult pipeline

-Very much takes comfort in the rituals and structure of Judaism

-Often ends up defaulting to mom friend despite how much his friends make fun of him for it

-He's kind of a normie. Like yeah he reads philosophy and psychology but if you try to talk to him about anything remotely indie or punk he kind of just stares at you blankly

-Basketball Guy

-Also hes the one who has a car and is exploited for it

-Does not like Stan hanging out with the Goth kids

Stan

-Closet homosexual trying so hard to be straight

-Bipolar and easily falls into deep depressive lows that he self medicates for

-Randy put him in therapy just so he could rant at the therapist about how toxic Stan is

-He believes deeply he's just a fuck up and has kind of given up on trying. Why play the rat race if your destined to lose? Might as well just party

-Gets tired of Kyle nagging him constantly

-Hangs out with the Goth Kids more and I think he and Michael become close

-He gets crushes easily but the big ones are Kyle and Michael. But Kyle's straight so that's just another reason to self destruct

-He wants to like Wendy so fucking bad. He wants to be good. He wants to be her boyfriend. He just..doesn't know how to pretend good enough to make it real

-inevitably they break up for real in highschool and it sends him into one of the deepest lows of his life

-After this he gets insanely drunk and kisses Kyle but Kyle just assumes he's out of it and never brings it up again because he doesn't want to embarrass Stan. This drives Stan mental

-His parents seriously discuss military school and Stan is considering just joining out of highschool anyways

-He's just a body why not put it to work

Eric

-HOMOHOMOHOMOHOMO ANY PRONOUNS GENDER FLUID HOMO

-So very insanely closeted out of fear of being rejected

-Kenny knows

-On anti psychotics that he regularly forgets to take

-Writes explicit fanfiction about him and his friends and posts them on A03 under different names

-Has a Twitch stream drag hustle like Finnster (initially he was using butters for this but then she came out at Margarine and said she didn't want to be a online whore because she was a respectable lady and Eric took up the mantle himself)

-Clyde is one of his regular watchers and donators but has 0 idea it's Eric

-Eric eventually blocks him because Clyde keeps sending him dick pics

-Kylekylekylekylekylekylekylekyle

-He wants his attention so bad it's insane

-His best friend is his mom

-They have weekly spa nights and watch romcoms and dating reality tv together

-He taught her a skin routine

-He has sent in online auditions for Kidzbop multiple times

-Kenny was his first kiss and first time

Kenny

-Any Pronouns genderfluid bi king

-Mostly gets He/Him'd by his friends but brushes it off

-Has done his rounds in the school but no relationship has ever lasted long

-He has a tendency to let himself be used as he sees his service and time as the only thing he can offer other people (this extends to his friends as well)

-Sweet goofy persona that quickly turns dark if someone really fucks up (this happens rarely but they're terrifying)

-She works as a mechanic apprentice outside of school and has a cobbled together motor bike she built herself

-Flirts with everyone and craves touch and affection

-Kind of one of the only people who genuinely likes Eric and sees past his bullshit

-The friend who knows how to get things

-Was Elated when Margarine came out and wants to be her boygirl wife so bad

-Microdoses some back alley E as a treat

-Only ever really hangs out with Stan when Stan wants to party

-Despite being friends with everyone Kenny often feels incredibly isolated and lonely

-Everyone calls him when they need something but who does she call when she needs something.

Michael (Goth Kid)

-he/it, stealth trans, just IDs as Queer

-Jewish but insanely quiet about it

-Used being goth initially as a way to distract kids from making fun of him for his heritage. Now he's in deep

-Very vocally loathes Eric Cartman and will beat him

-Cane is passed off for aesthetics but is a needed mobility aid for joint issues

-The older goth kids are an acting Polycule but will date outside of each other

-He starts to get close to Stan and enjoys how real he feels.

-Has a contentious relationship with Kyle and how he kind of morally lord's himself over Stan and others

-Doesnt have much of a relationship with his parents. His mom and dad are separated and although he lives with his dad his father regularly travels for business so he often gets the house alone to himself.

-Secretly takes a lot of comfort from his dad's old records

-He also has a secret hiding place in some abandoned sewer pipping where he goes to get away from everyone including his friends. Stan is the only one who knows about it

-On a first name basis with a lot of the unhoused people in South Park and will hang out with them as well

-He has a black kippah for holidays or temple (though his father rarely goes to temple anymore

(I will write more for others later this has already taken me an hour

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as a transmasc whos had a complicated relationship (haha ship boat ship) w hearing people talk about objects w the same pronouns as they talk abt me, and also more primarily as a transmasc who likes to think HUGE, why dont (or moreso, why cant we now) refer to boats (at least/relevant thing for rn) as he? i mean the huge brained thing would be designing neos for your boat (id love to hear the discourse between marine workers abt what pronouns the boat would have. can you imagine) but idk, whatd happen if you he/him'd a boat? would your peers take the change in stride after thinking about it? would there be some sort of strange peer group split about people deciding he/him should be valid vs staying she/her?

anyway sorry if this is insane im autistic but instead of only failing social situations i also think of novel insane social situations. i think we should just have more fun w weird pronouns in situations like that. the "being out at sea for too long" generated pronouns would go really hard i think.

Hi there! This is a more elaborate version of a question a lot of people have been asking. The reason boats are she is steeped in a lot of (most likely sexist) history. These days people in the marine industry are not thinking of the pronouns in that way, really, or in any particular way, except as a way to vaguely personify the boat, because that is just how we see them. It's not explicitly granting her feminine characteristics, it's just respecting her totality, as an individual (very few boats or ships are identical to another, they tend to be unique) and as more than the sum of her parts, and from my point of view as a designer, sort of arguing for the need to respect her as an integrated whole where every system affects every other system, not just an assortment of independent systems.

Could you call a boat "he"? You could. I remarked in a couple of other places that if you wanted to make it stick, you'd have to actually make it part of the name, like "Empress Sophia (he/him)". Actually register him like that and paint it on the hull. It would be hilarious. Whether people would respect it or not I don't know, no doubt some would, others might try but forget because the she habit is so ingrained, others would just ignore it altogether. You might run a risk of people just reverting to "it" in confusion.

If I personally just started using "he" for boats in a professional setting, people would find it very weird, but also funny, and would eventually put it down to a personal eccentricity, of which there is no shortage in this line of work. They would be unlikely to follow suit.

As an aside, the fact that calling a boat she doesn't confer feminine characteristics also means that you can say amusingly gender-bent phrases like "she's a big lad" if it makes you happy.

[bestedoesmeow]

『top gun men: meeting your parents

I enjoyed imagining each of them! hope you enjoy while reading it toooo

ROOSTER

'' I said I needed a week to get prepared and you are telling me they are going to be here tomorrow damn hun.'' kind of freaked out.

He'd so be tense and nervous but whenever you mention it he'll be just laughing ''why would I be nervous I am EXCITED.''

Does my 'stache look 'kay?''

He would greet them with such a stupid nervous smile that your father would have to ask if he was having a stroke or anything.

''No I am not the best at all, sir.' 'Kind of humble behavior he'd show while talking about his flying career.

He would grab a beer for himself and your father later in the night to have some father -in-law-son talk on your porch

Plays the piano right after the dinner to warm up the air.

'' I wish you could stay sir.''

After they leave,he would just throw himself on the couch, letting out a sigh.

'' It wasn't bad at all huh?''

HANGMAN

'' Do I need to tell you how gorgeous you look?'' kisses the back of your mother's hand, making her blush.

'' Which kind of wine should I buy sweetheart?'' kind of relaxed.

He would bake his signature dinner.(probably Fettucine Alfredo lol)

'' You look good pops.''

'' I mean sir, sir.''

'' I am so glad that I've lived enough to know your daughter, sir.”

He'd talk about his most exciting flight to impress your dad.

“ You want me to get you another glass of wine, sir?''

Later in the night your father and he would start to watch some fishing documentary and surprisingly he'd seem to love it a lot.

'' Now i know who y/n got her talents from.''

Would want to learn about your embrassing childhood memories.

When he feels comfortable enough he would just start to talk about his homeland in a very emotional way.

'' I am gonna miss you pops.''

'' I mean sir,sir.''

BOB

'' Oh what if they don't like me?'' kind of anxious.

'' Should we take them to some fancy restaurant you know to not to risk it -

'' What kind of things your dad likes to do I need to do some research.''

He'd be so anxious that he'd even forget to buy most of the things on the shopping list.

'' Okay we need to prepare the dinner so carefully and meticulously.''then breaks a glass right away.

'' Sir,nice to meet you sir.'’

'' Oh i am not really good at those stuff yo-.''

He would hold your hand from under the table to show he feels relaxed.

'' You are flattering me sir.''

'' Should I tell your mom that she looks beautiful?.''

Would choke on his drink too much that your father would have to tap him on the shoulder to comfort him.

'' - Y/n and I have a really great chemistry sir.''Then nervously drinks his water.

You'd end up playing some family board game.

'' I'd like to see you again sir, have a nice night.''

COYOTE

'' I'll be there in a few.'' He'd just show up at the door still in his uniform heavily panting since he didn't quite understand the drill.

'' Hmmm, what's chief's special gonna be tonight?'' 'd still manage to flirt with you even during that hurry.

'' Do you think I can impress your father with my almost death G force experience?''

'' Well your father sounded like a whiskey guy so I didn't buy extra wine.''

'' You look hot maybe we shouldn't open the door you-''

''Welcome feel yourself at home sir,''kind of awkward.

Your father and him'd have what people call ''Bromance'' between.

Your mother would take you somewhere silent to tell you how hOt he was.

I love you pops.''

I love you -sir.''

FANBOY

He'd come home early to help you out.

He'd be quite serious and wouldn't want any distraction while working on his salad.

''No I am not taking it too seriously,i just want them to enjoy the dinner darling.''

PUNCTUAL

He'd be the one to calm you down.

He'd put on your favorite cartoon while waiting for your family to come.

'' Oh it's too good to see you here.''

Actually I made the salad it's quite an unusual recipe Mrs...

PAYBACK

'' YOU NEED SOME HELP THERE HONEYYY?'' He'd yell from your porch while firing up the bbq.

''I don't know who told you to LOOK THIS GORGEOUS, girlie.''

LOUD

Would run around the house trying to find the bbq fan.

Would sing and whistle a lot.

'' You sure your dad loves beef?''

I LOVE YOU BABYYYY, AND IF IT'S QUITE ALRIGHT I NEED YOU BABYYYY.

''You look incredible welcome to our humble mansion sir.'' He'd say before shaking your parents' hands.

'' Your old man doesn't seem to enjoy the beef.''

[mamawasatesttube]

cass cain and/or cassie

cassie here! cass time.

Sexuality Headcanon: lesbian lesbian lesbian

Gender Headcanon: nonbinary. in a sense, her gender is lesbian? it's confusing because she prefers she/her pronouns but only for simplicity because they're what she's used to. if someone had he/him'd her from the start, she'd prefer he/him. gender vexes and bewilders her on a daily basis.

A ship I have with said character: stephcass ofc. but also brendacass... hand on the glass... brenda i miss you...

A BROTP I have with said character: koncass my beloveds. i think they should be besties who kiss sometimes but like fully platonically. honorable mention also to dick & cass bc im not over him doing a one man play of cinderella for her. and of course tim&cass <3

A NOTP I have with said character: cass/whatever batfam fanon does to her? does this count. its not a romantic dynamic i hate its just. "teehee she's bruce's favorite" or "haha she gets along fine with jason" and all of that. get out of my house

A random headcanon: one time tim gave her a bunch of different scented lip balms (long story. kon-related, not that tim would admit to that). cass wasn't sure what to do with them but they smelled nice, kind of like candy, so she took a big ol bite of one. and then promptly discovered that said lip balms are all in fact made of beeswax. she was mad at tim for them not being candy for the entire next day

General Opinion over said character: she is such a mess of sharp edges and confusion and contradiction and i love her. we need more girls who hurl themselves out of ambulances going at high speeds and who nerve-strike their friends to dig up corpses.

[brightgnosis]

The Husband helped me take a bath tonight. It was so much easier getting in and out of the tub this time, and he barely had to support me at all- though he did still have to actively pull me out at the end. Even tried a new soap my Grandmother in Law kindly bought me when she was down for Thanksgiving finally (Lavender Vanilla; smelled amazing. Unfortunately burnt my skin like frick. So I can't continue using it. Thanks Fibro).

My new TENS / EMS Unit (because we already broke the first one from overuse 🤣) also came in earlier in the day. So I got to test it out right after my bath, which was great. She spicy and has opinions, though; I was using between a 5 to 8 on the original depending on how bad the pain was. But I can only use a 3 on the new one, and it still feels like I'm damned near using the old one's 8! Incredible.

I'm making my Husband actually sit down and take time for himself tonight and tomorrow, though. He's been running himself raged for two months now trying to take care of me; since all the way back at Hannukah, when I originally caught Norovirus- and it's just been a steady downhill trickle of bullshit health issues ever since then. He needs some time to himself. Especially with the most recent ER traumatization (like he needed that). But he's never going to take it unless I make him, because he's a stubborn ole Polar Bear.

He's none too happy about it at all, and it took a lot some convincing. But I think showing him how much easier I can sit up on my own now, and walk the tiny bathroom-kitchen-office route with the Rollator (some of which I can even kind of do on my own now, if I do that stupid Fancy Trot Horse Walk thing)- plus how much easier it was to get me in and out of the bathtub tonight- really helped things. Especially once I told him I'd found a show to watch finally to keep myself occupied better now; he'll settle down about it eventually.

Honestly couldn't've ever found a better lover for myself; I could count the stars all day and the reasons for loving him'd still outnumber them by millions.

[abstractlesbian]

Idk gender has been On My Mind a lot lately

Being out at work has gone better than expected but being perceived and gendered constantly is kind of overwhelming?

Only one coworker uses they pronouns for me everyone else has defaulted to he (which is preferred!! The /they is in my email signature just to signal that I'm nonbinary and BC I don't feel like explaining ze/hir pronouns to cis strangers constantly)

And clients tend to either he/him or she/her me which is fine. Got called Mr. [Last name] once which made me a lot happier than I expected.

It is always funny to me when I get he/him'd by someone standing behind me and they switch to she/her when I turn around to face them. Gender mullet.

[joycrispy]

The 'ole gender seems to be doing something funny.

I've been getting he-him'd almost daily for the last two months. Now, I haven't changed a thing about the way I dress or act, but I DID have a conversation with the partner in late August that went along the lines of, "I'm feeling unusually masc lately." And then, mysteriously, the world started addressing me as masculine.

It's happened a few times where someone will address me that way, and I don't correct them, and then they happen to see the she/her pin I wear at work (which I've worn for years, so no changes there either) and either get very apologetic or very confused. One guy got angry. One lady just straight-up asked if I was a boy or a girl.

This has never happened to me before. Not so consistently. And like I say, I haven't made any changes. My enby-ness is usually a matter of private feeling --I signal it in ways that matter to me, and that are recognizable to those who know me, but it'd be a stretch to call my presentation conventionally androgynous. Never-you-mind masculine.

I wonder how much of this is an unconscious vibe I'm giving off, and how much is the result of a growing public awareness of gender-fuckery. And, perhaps (although this explanation makes me very sad) a risen standard, born of paranoia, for what counts as 'feminine' presentation.

Like. I haven't worn makeup in many years, and I have a shaved head. It would suck if that was all it took for my theoretical female-ness to fall under scrutiny. I don't happen to be a binary woman, but any binary woman (cis or trans) could easily look exactly like me. And the he/him-ing would probably be very unwelcome, for her.

tl;dr -it would be fun to preen and claim that my Gender is so Powerful A Vibe that I don't even NEED to aim for androgyny to achieve androgyny, but the current political climate dampens my enthusiasm for that somewhat.

Idk. It's a thing that's happening. Not sure why yet.

[olivia0823yxa]

Last night I spent a lot of time getting misgendered by some friends who I don't see very often and it kind of fucked me up. It's weird I don't normally care that much but this time it really got to me.

I think mostly I'm just not used to it anymore. There are so few people left in my life who regularly misgender me, and the few there are all either correct themselves immediately or are very receptive to correction. Only exception is my grandma who is vaguely supportive and clearly tries but her age has really shot her memory so I don't mind much from her. But these two people yesterday did not correct themselves, and ignored my corrections, until I had to finally tell them off more harshly about it which I hate doing. One of them later texted me to apologize but I don't know how to respond.

Even when I meet new people lately they've been more likely to assume she/her, which I'm more okay with, than he/him. A few weeks ago in the men's bathroom I was even told I was in the wrong bathroom, while wearing the exact same outfit as last night. So I guess I thought I was mostly done with being misgendered like that, and now that it's not something I'm used to it hit extra hard?

But now I don't know how I'm perceived by the people around me. I thought I was reaching a very feminine presentation. One of these people I knew pre-transition so he could just be bad at adapting, but it's been like 2 years since I came out so that's not really acceptable. The other one I only met about a year ago, and granted I did look a lot more masculine back then but I was already out and certainly did not present like a man. How do I go from being assumed to be a woman so the time and being kicked out of the men's bathroom to being he/him'd all night, in the same exact outfit? Is it because my skin is a bit fucked up recently? Are these two just assholes? Are most of the people I've been meeting in the past few months just uniformly trans-friendly, recognize that I'm a trans woman and gender me correctly? I don't know how the fuck I'm supposed to interpret any of that and I hate it.

[everythingieverdreamedof]

i like to interpret Godzilla as a he/him butch or genderweird femme just because I always saw Godzilla as a v like...womanly story like he comes out of the waste of man and asks that he pays for it via violent upheaval, one could theoretically interpret Godzilla as a mother earth type feminine destruction force. But the fact that humanity can't separate power + anger from Being A Man Godzilla has always been he/him'd out of respect for Godzillas ability + mystery, which only adds to the power of destruction Godzilla has.

also because im gay and i think its nice.