#i love my mother

[thehmn]

My whole adult life I’ve had to listen to my dear mother defend bosses who deprioritize employees who doesn’t have children or partners because “It’s more important that they get to have holidays/vacations/free time together so childless singles will just have to move over and be grateful for the scraps” but oh ho ho how the turns have tabled now that she’s a senior with no husband and no stay-at-home children and suddenly she’s the one who has to put up with shitty hours. Like she told her boss “I might not have any family at home but I still have a family! And friends! I have a life outside of work even if it isn’t in my house! I want to be able to see them too!”

Don’t we all. Don’t we all, oh dear mother.

But for real, if you have that attitude now, remember some day you’ll be the childless single again. It has to be a give and take where sometimes you get your way but other times you have to make sacrifices. Heck, once I got into a fight with a coworker who had a child because I couldn’t take her shift because I had to look after a family member’s children. Apparently she couldn’t wrap her head around the fact that just because I didn’t have children of my own that didn’t mean I was free to do whatever. I don’t know anyone my age who have zero responsibilities outside of work so while I fully understand that people have to be able to pick up their children after school or kindergarten it’s naive to assume childless or partnerless people just party after work as if they were still in their early 20’s.

(Also, I’m going to judge the hell out of you and especially your partner if I find out your partner could have picked your kids up but made it your job. I once found out a coworker could never take the morning shift because she made her perfectly capable partner’s lunch every morning and you better believe I stopped being nice about it)

[otagoshi]

I feel like we are not appreciating the bailador enough! el bailador my beloved 💛

oh man...DON'T MAKE THIS DIFFICULT

[ozzmatr0n]

trolls christmas haul guys

[writtenbyevie]

my mother’s thoughts on the ned scandal

[water-your-plance]

Istg I can’t keep watching these movies lol it’s to real

[onlylovefordandelions]

Every time my mother says

"I was blessed. I had such easy children."

I die a little inside

Were we easy?

These kids

That hid hurricanes in their chests

That cry when an adult sounds upset

Even now

These kids

That watered themselves down

In as many ways as they could

These kids

That our older sister raised for so long

That cower when our father starts cleaning

His rage all too familiar

And when I confide in her now

And she says

"I wish you had told me you felt that way then. I would have done something."

I tear inside

Because I did

I did

I did

I did

I did

I did

aas

[im-einst]

My mother Buy me a trans flag pin!! I love she so much!!! Im so HAPPY!!

[ninja-grace]

i love how conversations with my mom can range from anywhere to

her and my dad staging an intervention at starbucks cuz they think i’m in love w my best friend after i had a sleepover w them:

mom: well… intercourse is a part of human existence-

me: nope

mom: …huh?

me: why do u think i always close my eyes during those scenes in movies???

mom: …so you wanna be a nun????

me: LOL WHAT NO

to my mom walking in on me holding a pill bottle a quarter full of white powder and eyeliner in my hand and smarties wrappers everywhere:

mom: are you the one making the noise that sounds like a dog is chewing on something?

me: ye i’m crushing up smarties *shows her pill bottle of powder*

mom: …ok go to bed

to her being concerned that my sister made me feel left out and her saying the deepest shit ever:

me: mom it’s literally fine idc she didn’t mean anything by it

mom: just because she didn’t mean it doesn’t mean it didn’t hurt

me in my brain: damn ok

to other less nice things i don’t wanna mention (i love my mother she is super awesome and she does her very best)

to the fam playing overcooked 2 together:

mom: *cursing out the tv*

me a few min later at my character: you bitch!

mom: *death glare*

me: *oh shit*

[wordsspilllikeink]

November 4, 2023

sometimes, the only remnant of love is the scars left behind

[misscrazyfangirl321]

Sometimes I try to explain fandom things to my mother.

Most recently, I tried to explain the idea of "I want to put him in a microwave" and "I'm rotating him in my mind like a rotisserie chicken."

She was mildly alarmed, and proposed a "less violent" way of saying it:

I want to put him on a lazy susan.

Anyway, it made me smile, so I had to share with the class.

[honeycombhank]

4/16/24

I had a doctors appointment today, I guess it’s been over a year somehow since my last visit, my mom came along with me, even though she is suffering from her cancer and experiencing a great deal of pain, I told her I would try to go in alone if I needed to but she insisted it was fine.

I tend to do better when a safe person accompanies me, I sometimes can’t remember dates and symptoms and important info that the doctors might ask, it’s frustrating and the more lost I feel the more traumatic an experience can become, I know that sounds over exaggerated but my everyday life is that way right now and that’s just how it is.

Anyway, the appointment went well and I had the chance to talk with my doctor about several things I’ve been dealing with over the past year, she was very helpful and came up with a plan and information to help me make some choices on the changes I am going to make with medication.

Before going in to the office I felt more worried about my weight gain then I ever have before, I knew I had gained enough to feel uncomfortable in my body and wasn’t sure I wanted to face it I guess..

Yup, sure enough I had gained quite a bit..

I know I shouldn’t let it hurt me, I know that it’s doable to change this and that focusing on my goals is what I need to do to get back to a comfortable place in my body, but gosh did it make me sad, and overwhelmed and disappointed.

If anyone has any kind words or advice on feeling good in your body or experiencing something similar that you’d like to share, please feel free to, and please be kind to yourself, even when life feels yucky and overwhelming and sometimes forces you to look at things you’ve been avoiding.

Thank you for reading if you made it this far and again I’m here to listen if you have any kind words or weight related experiences you want to share.

[shaunashipman]

ok I need to share this insanity that happened yesterday morning. so my mom is, unfortunately, a tiktok bitch (watching not making thank god for that at least) and she was mentioning some conspiracy theories, one about a great mud flood and also how giants were around like 100 years ago (no I did not miss a zero there). I, mostly jokingly, asked her if she thought the world was flat, and she said no--but it isn't round! (apparently it's more like a bowl because when one side of the ocean gets high tide the other side gets low tide, like water sloshing in a bowl). when I mentioned the, you know, numerous pictures from satellites and the space station of the nicely round earth, she said that NASA admitted they don't actually have any pictures of earth and all the ones they release are mockups (I heard this one years ago, when it was also fucking debunked).

Now we get to the really crazy part. I asked her how we could have no satellite pictures of earth when the CIA uses them all the time to spy on ppl, and you know what she said? You know what this climate change denying, big government controlling everyone, scamdemic bitch said?

"How do we know the CIA is spying on people?"

[that-fruitier-emo]

Funny thing is, yesterday my mom gave my big sister the advice to get my niece tested for ADHD. Because my teachers always asked if I had ADHD because of specific learning restrictions I had, and it's better to know that ahead of time.

I have had all those learning restrictions my entire life, and have been ABSOLUTELY STRUGGLING in school. And I couldn't apply for assisted learning because I wasn't officially diagnosed with ADHD.

But then I do get diagnosed with ADHD and anxiety, because my DENTIST suggested we get it checked out. But I'm already in my senior year after countless panic attacks from being hounded for having a hard time focusing and getting stuff done.

Thank you soo much for that mother.

[frasermints]

"what does Br stand for? like in roads?"

"bridge. like [redacted] bridge"

"oh okay"

"you know we have this discussion every single time we drive to [redacted] right"

"we've definitely never had this conversation before"

"i can list five separate instances right now"

[journalofayoungpoet]

it is one of life’s greatest cruelties that a mother and a daughter cannot grow old side by side.

how can I grow old without my mommy?

how can I face life’s biggest unknown without the warmth of her hand in mine?

when the deep lines materialize on my face and the blonde of my hair disappears into a cloudy wisp, who will tell me it’s okay?

who will listens to my fears and let me crawl underneath the covers because I’m scared of what comes next?

how am I possibly to die without her comforting me as my consciousness fades?

she tightly embraces me through the first steps, watching as I grow into a person of my own, and the moment she begins to let go, she herself is gone.

and yet, though she will be gone, I must continue to grow. I must embrace the future as she embraced me and one day, I too will let go.

still, even as I picture myself through the flipping of the calendar, I follow only in the path she has set through example. I live because she has taught me to. if I am good, if I am true, it is because she taught me to be so.

to die without her is a pain, but to live alone without her, forever having all too short a date, that is the fear she sees in my eyes. that is what I cannot possibly fathom.

I fear my life ends with hers.

[averwonders]

something about being a daughter of a mother is always going to be tragic